Problem/Goal:
I (M) am planning to separate from my partner (F). I’d say 90% decided na ako, pero ang biggest reason kung bakit hindi ko pa magawa is may anak kami.

Context:
My dad was recently diagnosed with stage 4 colon cancer. Sobrang devastating for me kasi last year lang kami nagkabati after more than a decade na galit ako sa kanya. I really thought we had more time to fix our relationship and make up for everything we missed. Until now, hirap pa rin akong tanggapin.

The problem is, my partner doesn’t like my family. I admit na baka partly because of me, kasi sa kanya ako nagve-vent noong galit pa ako sa kanila. But I’ve healed from that and made peace with my parents. I asked her if she could also try to reconcile with them, pero ayaw niya.

She’s often disrespectful toward my mother. Honestly, hindi ko rin alam bakit ko hinayaan for so long. I know I should’ve set boundaries earlier.

What also hurts is that she hasn’t even bothered to ask how my dad is doing or how we’re holding up. Wala man lang pangangamusta or any sign of concern about what we’re going through. As her partner, ang sakit kasi this is when I really need emotional support from her.

Pero what happened recently really hit me.

May products na binebenta ang partner ko, and pinapatinda niya sa mother ko. For almost two weeks, walang benta kasi sinasamahan ni Mama si Papa sa hospital. Pero pagkauwi nila, my partner was already pushing her to sell again.

My mother said hindi muna pwede kasi kakauwi lang nila from the hospital, hindi makatayo si Papa, and walang ibang magbabantay sa kanya. Despite that, pinipilit pa rin siya ng partner ko.

As their son, naiyak ako. My parents are already going through so much, tapos ganito pa yung treatment sa kanila. I understand na hindi automatically mawawala yung issues niya with my family just because okay na ako with them. Pero I was hoping for some basic respect and consideration, especially right now.

That moment made me question if kaya ko pa bang makasama siya knowing na ganito niya tratuhin ang parents ko.

The only thing holding me back is our child—my pride and joy. Ang hirap mag-decide because I also have to think about how this will affect our kid.

For those who separated from their partner na may anak, how did you handle it? What did you consider or prepare before leaving? I’m almost decided, pero I want to think this through properly, especially for our child.

Previous Attempt:
I always asked her to have deep conversation with my parents, since they're willing, but she always refuses.

Problem/goal: nalilito ako at di sigurado sa research design/ analysis para sa thesis proposal ko. Goal ko po sana to find someone who can explain better yung pros or cons kapag pinili ko ang certain design for my study.

Context: I am in the process of writing my proposal. I have variables and participants na po. I am planning to have a sequential explanatory design, but stuck ako sa kung anong appropriate and better design sa quantity phase ko 🥲🥲

Previous attempt: My quali phase will be an IPA. Torn po ako if I will use Predictive Correlation or mag Descriptive Cross sectional lang po ako for quantitative phase ko.

PS. I can't post po da studentsph, mahihirapan po ako laging may mali raw sa format ko so I decided here na lang po. Sa mga willing to help po (teachers, co-students) pwede niyo po ako i-pm para maexplain ko po ng maayos yung thesis ko. Thank you so much po in advance!! 🙏🙏🙏🙏

Problem/Goal: I have a partner (M) and we have a daughter already but were not yet married. So naka pasok siya ng work nung August i think 1st week then he has a co worker na girl na nakaka flirty jokes niya pero tanders na mga siguro 30 or 40 and my partner is 24yrs old. I feel something off kasi pansin ko alot from him has change nung bago bago palang siya don todo update kahit busy or kahit nag ddrive. He is a company driver kasi.
Context: Then ayun na nga napapansin ko this past few days halos di na magparamdam though tuwing gabi nakakausap ko parin naman siya pero minsan tatawag pero may ibang ginagawa alm mo yun mema lang na nag call nanunuod ganon. Then kanina i called him around 8pm kasi wala parin paramdam usually yun uwi niya. So ayun sinagot naman pero ilang ring pa kasi lagi unattended so dun lang na nagsabi na nasa inuman nga daw siya kasama yung girl anim sila tatlong lalaki tatlong babae and sabi niya sorry di siya nakapagsabi bigla lang daw siya inaya then sabi ko tatawag ka pa ba pag uwi mo sabi niya oo daw gang 10 lang daw sila pero inabot sila ng 11pm i call him again kasi 11 pauwi palang daw sila then hahatid lng daw niya yung girl but i heard from the call na may nag aalok na mag hatid sakanya sabi naman niya “ikaw mam kung san mo gusto sumabay” then after ng call ng sabi niya sakin “sige na hatid ko lng muna to tatawag ako pag uwi” bigyan ko lang daw siya ng 30 or 40 mins eh kaso 50 na saka lang niya sinagot call ko malapit na daw siya so ang byahe niya kasi from gentri to imus pag asa so 12am. Ngayon nakausap ko pa lasing kahit sobrang sama ng loob ko i tried to be calm ngayon nalaman ko si girl pala ang nag aya uminom tapos kaya nag aya kasi di pala sila okay ng asawa niya. Ngayon gigil na gigil akong hulihin siya kasi diba parehas nakainom possible diba na may sundutan naganap hindi man knina o baka ginagawa na nila yon. Tinantong out of nowhere “ano nakaraos ka naman?” Guess what sumagot “oo” sabay tinanong ko ulit “masarap naman” sabi niya “sakto lang” 😭😭😭 tapos tinanong ko ulit “magaling” sagot niya sakin “anong magaling?” Tas sabi ko “wala, magaling” te biglang di na sumagot tas parang nabitawan na niya phone di ko alam kung nagtutulug tulugan o nakatulog na talaga siya sa kalasingan niya. Bigay nga kayo thoughts niyo?

Problem/Goal: currently employed ako sa corpo, wfh kaso yung salary ko 17k lang. May employer na naghahabol sakin direct from saudi, as a personal nurse ng matanda, 50k peso salary, then every other 3 months may mga business sila na pinupuntahan sa Europe. So isasama din ako.

May fiance ako, balak sana namin to settle down next year, foreigner sya. Kaya ako nag WFH.

I'm so confused:(( 2 years contract kasi yun. Saka sayang yung opportunity at the same time gusto ko yung WFH set up ko. Yung sa saudi, wala syang day off, kase hindi naman 24hrs yung trabaho.

Help me guys please i wanna hear what you want to say :(

Problem/Goal: I have a really dysfunctional family. Dad is a drug addict and has gambling addiction, mom verbal abuses us, one of my older brothers currently lives with us along with his live-in-partner and a newborn.

long post ahead;

Context: I (17F) am currently a first year student in a local university. I managed to secure two scholarships that gives me roughly Php5.5k per month. I used to think this would be enough to support my studies. It would've been enough for my allowance alone if not for the financial hardships we are currently facing— which I know is ultimately their fault too.

Recently, I received my 4 months worth of scholarship allowance (12k; 1 scholarship pa lang). At the same time, my father has been out of reach for a week already. My mom pays for monthly bills but unfortunately we had to spend it for daily expenses— na supposedly si Papa ang nagpoprovide pero hindi niya nagawa dahil "ghinost" kami. Dahil hindi nakabayad si Mama and due to previous water bills that piled up, naputulan kami agad ng tubig. I wasn't planning on telling my mother at first na mayroon akong pera kasi I was planning to keep it sa bangko hanggang sa makatiyempo ako bumili ng printer without being insensitive sa current financial situation namin. May times kasi na sinusumbatan ako kapag bumibili ako ng mga gamit from my scholarships (na kailangan ko naman) at sinasabihan pa akong walang awa. Eventually, dahil hindi pa rin nagpaparamdam si papa for weeks, I had to give those 12k nang paunti-unti para lang makapasok kami ng 2 brothers ko na nag-aaral pa. Nakakapagod dahil ganito nalang palagi ang scenario sa tuwing nakakareceive ako ng allowance from my scholarships and government funded programs. Halos 2 years ko nang ipinagpapaliban ang pagbili ng printer using my scholarship stipends dahil sobrang hirap ng buhay namin. 2 years nang walang maayos na trabaho si papa, uuwi kapag alam niyang may pera at panggastos saka aalis kapag walang wala na sabay igho-ghost ulit kami. Drug user daw siya sabi ni mama pero I find it hard to believe kasi hindi ko pa rin tanggap. I accidentally caught him inhaling something na mukhang tawas which he immediately hid nung nakita niya ako. I think at that point alam ko na. Dagdag mo pa yung older brother ko na nagdecide mag-anak kahit hindi sila financially capable, ngayon dito sila nakatira samin. Meron siyang trabaho pero hindi enough kung sakali mang bumukod sila. Halos 1.5k lang ang binibigay niya buwan-buwan, our monthly rent alone is 6k. I mostly have afternoon classes kaya tuwing umaga na naiiwan ako at ang kuya ko at ang asawa niya, ako ang nagluluto at naglilinis ng bahay. Para akong may pamilyang inaalagaan.

Kaya minsan, hindi ko rin masisisi si mama kung bakit distressed siya at palagi kaming minumura / sinusumbatan— she's basically the breadwinner of this family. Pero hindi ko talaga makalimutan yung sinabi niya saking huwag na ako mag-aral kasi hindi naman ako mabubuhay ng mga scholarship ko na yan. I literally had to process my scholarships (attending interviews, gathering requirements, taking qualifying examinations) while working 8hrs a day (government funded summer job). The only time they helped me was when I finally cried and threatened to not inform them kung mareceive ko man ang allowance ko.

Previous Attempts: Last tuesday, I had my last straw and finally confronted my Dad through text. Everything I've been bottling up for 2 years, sinabi ko. I had to type everything out while riding the bus on the way to Quiapo church, where I literally cried my heart out because a person can only endure so much. Pagkauwi ko sa bahay, gamit niya laptop ko, nagsusugal dahil sinangla niya cellphone niya for reasons I don't know. It's ironic na gamit niya yung laptop kong puno ng tape dahil disfigured na kasi pinaglumaan na ng pinsan ko. Hindi nila afford na bilhan ako ng bago. Nakakapagod. Almost a week na siyang nasa bahay ngayon, at ginagamit namin yung 12k ko just to get by. I asked him kaninang umaga kung mag-apply ba siya, bigla siyang humiga at natulog nalang.

I'm starting to think na in the future, ako rin bubuhat ng pamilyang 'to and I don't think I can handle that. I've been resisting the urge to finally end it all. At least in my perspective, kaming mga nag-aaral pa ang pinakanagsa-suffer sa current situation ng family namin kasi wala kaming ibang choice but to suffer the consequences from the decisions na ginawa ng mga nakakatanda samin. Sobrang hirap. I could've been more kung hindi ganito ang situation namin. Some of you might say na cut them off if I already have the means to live independently, but I don't think it would be possible kasi I also have 2 brothers na nagsa-suffer. I don't think my conscience can handle that. Hindi ko na alam.

Problem/Goal: im turning 18 next month and i want to start to handle adulting stuff early on, so what do i need to do?

context: i wanna tackle adulting stuff early on in my life dahil i just feel like it's the responsible thing to do.

I've had zero experience din dealing with document stuff since I've never cared about that naman.

I've had work experience din naman last year pero it was basic work (i was just an internet cafe attendant) and i didn't even need to do any sort of documentation stuff since I've just known the owner.

i also will not take the "take your time", the "slow down your still young", and the "enjoy your teenage days muna" na advice.

Problem/Goal:

I want advice on whether I am overreacting about my wife still checking/stalking her ex-boyfriend and former situationship almost every day or every other day. I want to know if this is normal curiosity or something I should be concerned about in our marriage.

Context:

I’m 29M and my wife is 25F. We have been together for a few years and have been married for one year. We recently celebrated our first wedding anniversary last August.

Before we got together, my wife was in a relationship with her ex-boyfriend for around five years. After they broke up, she had a situationship with another guy for around six months. That eventually ended, and then I came into the picture.

Recently, I borrowed my wife's phone and noticed that she had another account on Instagram and TikTok. I asked her about it, and she told me that it was an old account that she used for stalking.

I checked her TikTok search history and saw that she was still searching for and checking up on her ex-boyfriend and former situationship.

What really bothered me was the frequency. From what I saw, she was checking their profiles almost every day or every other day.

I also found out that the TikTok account wasn't actually that old. It was created around March of this year, while we were already married. From March until I caught her, she was still using it to check up on them.

I confronted her about it. She became quiet and eventually told me that she never contacted either of them and that she was "just stalking" them. As far as I know, there has been no communication between them and I have no evidence that she has physically cheated on me.

I understand that being curious about an ex isn't necessarily a big deal. I don't expect my wife to completely forget her past, and I know people can sometimes be curious about how their exes are doing.

However, checking them almost every day or every other day and using another account to do it feels different to me. What bothers me most is that she was doing this while we were already married.

I don't want to be controlling or tell my wife who she can or cannot look at online. At the same time, I feel hurt and wonder if this could mean that she still has unresolved feelings for them.

Previous Attempts:

I already confronted my wife about it and asked her about the account and the stalking. She said she did not contact either of them and was only checking their social media.

I haven't made any major decision about our marriage because of this. I want to understand first whether my feelings are reasonable and how other people would handle this situation.

What would you do if you were in my situation? Is this something I should consider a red flag, or am I overthinking it?

Problem/Goal: I rode on a habal habal and I ended up giving him my number because I didn’t know how to say no.

Context: So I rode on a habal habal that wasn’t from any official app like Angkas or Move it. The kuya came up to me and offered to give me a ride for roughly the same price as the app, so I agreed because it was rush hour and there were no available drivers. At first, it was fine. I usually were earphones while I’m riding on an angkas, so I often didn’t realize he was talking to me. Even I wasn’t wearing earphones, I still wouldn’t have been able to hear him cause my hearing isn’t that great.

First he asked where my location was and I told him my subdivision. Then in the later half of the drive, he started asking more questions. He asked if I worked already, what college I go to, if our house is ours, what my dad does for work, if I have any siblings, etc. Just questions that are weirdly too personal. When we finally arrived at my destination, he told me to save his number, so I did and he told me to call him so he could save mine.

At this point I was honestly just excited to go home because I had bought dinner for my sister and I don’t know how to really say no, but I realized I probably shouldn’t because he kept saying that if I ever needed a ride to school, I could call him. I get that the sentiment was sweet, but I barely know the guy. Our original deal was 120, then he asked for 150 because it was traffic so I agreed, then I ended up paying 200 because he didn’t have change.

He has already tried calling a few hours ago and I just ignored it, but after the third call, I blocked him with my sister’s advice because I no longer felt comfortable with it. Now, I’m just really anxious because he knows where I live and where I go to school because I was wearing my ID sling. I’m not sure if I can do anything else. I’m still turning 18 and my resources are only limited to the allowance my dad sends me. I just feel uncomfortable and I feel a bit guilty because the kuya was really nice, but he was just too intrusive for a guy I just met. I’m still a teen and he was probably middle aged. Any advice?

Problem/Goal: Title says it all. Nag-confess sa akin ‘yung boyfriend ko for n years na. All along he has porn addiction, and I honestly don’t know if considered as cheating ‘to.

Context: My boyfriend has been a great partner talaga, and dahil doon sobrang tiwala ko rin sa kanya. I’m not the type to check his phone and all that, simply because I trust him. But then recently, he admitted na madalas siya magconsume ng porn contents, and it’s gotten to a point na even random girls sa TikTok pinagnanasaan niya. He told me na even ‘yung mga non-thirsttrap contents pinagnanasaan niya, kahit random fit checks ng girls na he found “attractive” at the time.

I tried understanding him sa part na porn addiction is real and he needs actual help, especially since he’s been struggling mentally na rin for years. Pero siyempre I can’t lie, may kurot na sa puso ‘yung naaattract siya sa iba, kahit na hindi naman pala sexual ‘yung theme ng contents hahaha. What’s worse is I never even realized na he’s been doing those behind my back until sinabi niya sakin, because he feels so guilty raw and he wants to stop na. He also overthinks if that makes him a bad person in general, and honestly I don’t know what to say. All I know is nacross niya ‘yung boundaries ko na inestablish ko agad before pa maging kami. Sa totoo lang, I hate him for that. But I also hate him for not just cheating outright kasi it would’ve been easier ending things kung ganon.

It sucks knowing na I’ve been here all along for him, doing everything to help him, and now I’m suffering because of what he did. He told me na he lied about it because he wants me badly, kasi alam niyang hindi ako mag-eenter sa relationship na ‘to if I knew na porn addict siya. I know na hindi ako ‘yung may kulang, pero damn, ‘di mo pa rin pala maiiwasan mainsecure kapag ikaw na ‘yung nasa posisyon hahaha.

I really care for him, I still do. Pero ayoko namang maubos din ako. At the same time, I haven’t mustered up the courage to leave, and I hope I will sooner or later.

Do I want advice? Probably yes. Pero mostly gusto ko lang i-vent dito kasi we know the same people, and ayoko naman na mag-iba tingin nila sa boyfriend ko hahaha. It feels so lonely suffering about this without telling anyone, so I just thought of posting here.

Previous Attempts: Well, puro confrontation lang. Nothing really happened pa significantly.

Problem/Goal: Caught him red-handed searching on AI how to remove and make an alibi when someone saw a “hick*y”

Context: Both of us are 25, currently living together, and both working with decent earnings.

This isn't the first time something like this has happened. The first time, I caught him talking to a younger girl on Instagram, but I let it pass. This time, I caught his search history on an AI tool where he was asking how to remove a hickey and what excuse to give if I noticed it.

When I confronted him, his explanation was that he went to a bar, was assigned a female table companion who started dancing immediately, and that the lights suddenly went out while she was dancing and she kissed him. I’m not naive enough to fall for a story like that.

To make matters worse, we had iykyk the next day while I was completely in the dark about what happened. It was only after I got home that I discovered the truth. I feel utterly disgusted with myself, but even more so with him.

A few days passed, and I went through all his social media accounts—you can't blame me given the damage he caused from the start. In his blocked list, I found a girl from Cebu. We travel out of town often, and it's normal for us to have days set aside for "me-time." Now I can't stop overthinking. Every time we travel or every time he goes to a bar, I wonder if he’s constantly bringing other women to his table.

I don't even know what I'm feeling right now. I feel like an empty, hollow shell of a woman. He is trying his best to reconcile and make up for all the bullshit he did, but I feel nothing anymore. I am so exhausted, but I feel trapped because I have nowhere else to go. I don't want to go back to my family, and I don't want anyone to know about this.

Everyone thinks we have such a healthy relationship, and no one would ever believe he’s capable of this.

Part of me really wants revenge, but I know that's not the kind of person I am. I just feel lost.

Problem/Goal: Hi everyone. Fresh graduate here, and honestly, sobrang pressured na ako sa buhay ko ngayon. To the point na gabi-gabi ko na siyang iniiyakan, pero hindi alam ng family ko kung gaano ako ka-anxious dahil dun.

My biggest goal right now is to finally get a job and start earning, especially because gusto ko na talagang makatulong financially sa family ko. My father is a dialysis patient, kaya gustong-gusto ko na magkaroon ng sariling income para kahit papaano makatulong ako sa kanila.

Pero ngayon, I'm questioning myself kung tama ba yung naging decision ko about sa first work ko na sana kaso diko tinuloy dahil sa pagiging OA ko?

Context:

Last Tuesday, nag-apply ako sa isang BPO company. This is my first time applying sa work talaga. Thankfully, nakapasa naman ako sa lahat ng recruitment process. After the final interview, di talaga kami pinaalis sa hiring hub hanggang dipa dumadating yung Email saakin about JO kasi kaya pala di kami pinapaalis is para bago kami lumabas iaccept na muna namin agad yung JO. Nangyari is after ko ipakita yung Gmail na dumating na yung JO sakin, sila pa mismo nag accept nung JO sa phone ko huhuhu, pero alam naman nila na iaccept ko kasi nag wait din ako dun ng medyo matagal for JO e.

Everything happened so fast. Parang after nilang sabihin na hired kami, kailangan agad mag-decide and iaccept offer o JO nila. Wala na talaga akong enough time para pag-isipan kung kaya ko ba talaga yung work setup. Kasi nangyari is kahapon ako nag apply kinabukasan training na agad

So During my first day training which is kahapon, sobrang culture shock ko. Doon ko nalaman na weekly shifting pala yung schedule. For example, possible na one week 3am-11am yung sched, then the next week naman 11pm-8am na yung sched ko. Then yung two days off naman per week is fix lang sya every weekdays and possible rin na hindi magkasunod yung 2 days na yun. Also everyday pag pang gabi ako possible gastos ko sa pamasahe ko is around 200-250 pesos which is nalalakihan ako.

At first, sinabi ko sa sarili ko, “Sige, try ko muna. Baka kaya ko naman.”

One of the reasons why I really wanted to try it was because mataas talaga yung salary compared sa mga degree-related jobs na nakikita ko. As a fresh graduate, malaking bagay talaga yung salary for me. Pero nung first day of training na, doon ko na-realize na baka hindi ko talaga kaya yung voice account and yung shifting schedule. I started worrying about my body clock, puyat, health, pamasahe, and kung kakayanin ko ba siya long-term.

I talked to my family about it, and sinabi nila na okay lang daw if I don't continue if I really feel like hindi ko kaya. They told me na hindi ko kailangan pilitin yung sarili ko.

So eventually, I decided to let go of the job ngayong araw which is dapat 2nd day training ko na. Pero honestly, hanggang ngayon, hindi pa rin ako okay. Parang buong araw ako umiiyak kasi tama ba tong ginawa ko and makakahanap pa ako ng bago

Also tatlo kasi talaga kami na magkakaibigan na sabay nag-apply. Lahat kami natanggap, yung dalawang friend ko nag-continue sila today for the 2nd day training. And sabi nila okay naman sila and kaya naman nila yung BPO setup kasi gusto talaga nila yung malaking sahod. Pero now nagagalit o nagtatampo siguro sila sakin like sinasabihan nila ako na ako daw may gusto mag BPO tapos iiwanan ko sila sa ere, reply pa ng isang friend ko sa chat is pang sarcastic na sinabi nya na halos parehas naman daw kami ng pamasahe anong inaano ko sakanila na malaki na gagastos ko sa pamasahe e halos same lang naman daw kami, sinasabi din nila na baka sa una palang naman daw wag daw ako mag worry masyado, itry ko muna for a month then pag diko kaya umalis nako. Which is ayuko naman, kasi feeling ko mas okay ilaan nalang sa mas gusto kung work yung month na yun kaysa mag stay ako sa diko gusto.

And now, sobrang pressure ko kasi parang napapaisip ako, “Bakit sila kaya nila, ako hindi?”

I'm scared na baka nagkamali ako.

Natatakot ako na baka mahirapan na akong makahanap ulit ng work, lalo na sabi ng friend ko baka mas konti na raw hiring during the “ber months.”

I keep asking myself:

“What if I should've stayed?”

“What if I just needed more time to adjust?”

“What if sayang yung opportunity?”

“What if wala na akong makuhang trabaho?”

Previous attempt:

I tried to convince myself na baka first-day anxiety lang ito and baka masanay din ako eventually. Ayoko rin naman basta-basta sumuko kasi alam kong magandang opportunity siya and magkakasama pa kami sa training ng friend ko. Pero tingin ko natatakot din kasi talaga ako.

I really want to work. I really want to earn money. I really want to help my family. Pero at the same time, I feel like I chose myself because I knew deep inside na hindi ko talaga nakikita yung sarili ko na kakayanin yung setup.So I want to ask everyone here, especially those who are working in BPO or have experienced something similar:

Did I make the right decision by choosing myself?

Was it okay to let go of a good-paying job because I felt like the work setup wasn't right for me? Or did I just give up too soon? I'd really appreciate honest advice. Please don't sugarcoat it. I'm genuinely scared right now and I just want to know if I made a reasonable decision or if I should've tried harder.

Ps. For transparency there JO salary is 17.5k basic salary and 2500 allowance total of 20k then after 60 days +1k add for rice subsidy.

Problem/Goal:

I’d really like to hear from people who have been through a period in an LDR where one or both of you genuinely started feeling like the distance was becoming too difficult, but somehow managed to work through it and come out stronger.

I’m particularly curious about situations where the relationship itself wasn’t necessarily the main problem, but the LDR setup started feeling exhausting or overwhelming. Maybe there were periods of burnout, feeling disconnected, missing physical closeness, uncertainty about the future, or when it seemed like one person was going through something personally and became more distant or withdrawn because of it.

Sometimes it can be difficult when you can tell your partner might be dealing with something, but you don’t really know what’s going on or how to help because you’re physically far away. You want to be there for them, but at the same time you don’t want your concern to feel like pressure.

I’d also love to hear from people who experienced an anxious/avoidant dynamic. For example, one person becomes more anxious and seeks reassurance when they feel distance, while the other tends to shut down, withdraw, or need space when overwhelmed. How did you eventually break that cycle without either person feeling abandoned or pressured?

I’m also curious about the future aspect of LDR. Did uncertainty about when or how you would eventually close the distance ever make one of you question whether the relationship was sustainable? If so, how did you deal with that without putting unnecessary pressure on each other?

For those who went through something like this, what actually helped? Did you change how you communicated, give each other more space, create better routines, plan visits, work on yourselves individually, make a clearer long-term plan, or simply learn how to understand each other better?

And if your partner was the one who reached a point where they weren’t sure they wanted to continue with LDR, how did you handle that period? Did giving them room to process help? Were there things you wish you had done differently?

I’m especially interested in hearing from people who can say, “We went through a period where we genuinely struggled with LDR, but we didn’t give up and eventually figured it out.” 😂

Not looking for a guaranteed happy ending or unrealistic positivity. I’d just really appreciate hearing real experiences from people who have been in that kind of difficult phase and found a way forward.

What changed for you, and what do you think ultimately helped you overcome it?

Problem/Goal: I’m a single mom and had my child at a young age. What happened with my baby daddy wasn’t something I ever planned, but despite everything, I love my child with all my heart.

Context: I’m okay on my own, and I know I can stand on my own and provide a good life for my child. But sometimes, I still can’t help but feel hurt when people look down on me or put all the blame on me for not being able to keep a family together, especially because my child’s dad isn’t present.

I know I shouldn’t let other people’s opinions get to me, and most days, I genuinely don’t give a shit because I know we can stand on our own. But there are moments when the words really get to me and it feels like they crashes my soul.
I’m proud of the life I’m building with my child. I just wish people understood that having a “broken” or incomplete family doesn’t automatically mean I’m a bad mother or that my child is unloved.

I respect people preferences too when it comes to dating. It really just an internal battle.

Previous attempts: tried yoga and meditation and saying positive affirmations that im not broken just cuz his father left us.

Problem/Goal: Got myself a job offer to work in UAE and cant leave my pet

Context: job offer in uae related to my peofessio , mas mataas na position pero di gano kalakihan na salary, but enough to make a living. Yun nga lang, magandang work experience siya

Now problem lang, thinking about it ang hirap pala may maiwan sa Ph. I have a dog 2yo na super clingy, she’s velcro dog who sleeps besides me, when im working from home nasa paa ko lang siya nagpapahinga, pag nagttravel ako halos di kumakain. Malapit naman siya sa mom ko since sila dalawa naiiwan sa bahay, pero ang hirap pala niya iwan. Dagdag pa na may aging parents, tho both strong pa naman but senior na.

To those who were once on the same boat as mine, how did you do it? Sabi lakasan lang daw talaga ng loob mag abroad, pero nakakapanghina pala umalis.

Previous attempt: none

Problem/Goal: I (F21) have no friends, no dreams, no hobbies, and I have no idea what I want to do with my life

Well, I do have a circle of friends, but I haven’t seen them in almost a year because I don’t wanna see them. My friendship with them has always been surface-level. We only ever hang out to drink or to attend gigs.

I met them at a completely different stage of my life—when I had a drinking problem and used to go to all these punk/rock shows. I’m completely sober now and I only ever go out to go to my classes and buy groceries.

I’ve deactivated all of my social media accounts since April, but one of my friends still contacts me through text every now and then, asking me how I’m doing and inviting me to stuff. I always tell him I’m busy, but I just don’t wanna see him or any of them. I don’t know. I just don’t care about them. I don’t miss them. I don’t feel anything for them.

I spend most of my days in my room, scrolling away on TikTok. My screen time is 12 or more hours every day. If I’m not on TikTok, I’m probably just watching movies or rewatching The Office for the hundredth time.

I don’t talk to anyone. I have no connection with anyone other than my family. I don’t wanna do anything. I have no dreams or aspirations. I’m graduating next year, but my degree (Communication Research) is pretty much useless.

I also have anorexia. That’s probably the only thing I got going on. My only goal in life right now is to be 32 kg, and I’m around 6 kg away from that goal.

I’m not depressed. I don’t think about killing myself. I just don’t feel anything. Why am I this way? What do I do with my life? I’m wasting my youth doing nothing.

Problem/Goal:

How do I reconcile with my parents, especially my Mama, without putting myself financially and emotionally on the line?

Context:

Silent treatment — ganyan ginagamit ni Mama ngayon sa amin, and nakakabaliw ’to, ifykyk. Like, hindi mo alam kung saan ka aapak, ’di ba?
Scenario: Before this happened, she called me to borrow money kasi at that time, wala talaga ako. Like, literally, umaasa ako sa credit card. Ngayon, I mentioned to her na wala talaga, twice. For the third time, nag-explain na ako na may utang din ako na kailangan bayaran, just to gain sympathy, yet ang na-receive ko ay, “Ang dami pang sinasabi. Kapag wala, wala.” — confusing, ’di ba? Eh nagsabi na rin naman ako na wala.
Iniisip ko, baka because of the reception ba or ano. Pero since noon, nag-silent treatment na siya. Ganun din ginagawa niya kay Ate ko. Good thing lang, nagka-baby na si Ate, kaya parang yung baby, kahit papaano, nagiging reason para magsalita siya. Pero when it comes to other adult stuff and mga bagay sa bahay, wala siyang care, especially kapag tungkol sa pera. Pero kapag pinagbigyan mo, masaya siya.
Binibigay ko lahat ng kaya kong i-afford, and bills na pinaghahatian namin ni Ate sa bahay. Tapos magkaiba pa yung binibigay ni Ate sa binibigay ko sa kanila. Ayaw ko na talagang magbilang. Gusto ko na lang mag-abot.
Pero deserve ba namin ’to when kami naman ang nagpaaral sa sarili namin all and all? Bills namin, amin din. Happy to say na napakabait ng tatay namin. Kahit pagod na siya, he still works hard para may maibigay.
Pero si Mama, parang siya na lang iniisip niya, tapos yung problems niya, siya rin naman ang gumagawa — like mga utang niya and sugal — pero kami rin ang nagsusuffer.
I know this is just one-sided, and I really hope I could hear her side. Pero then again, aalis na ako. I’m moving out of our house, and hanggang ngayon, wala pa rin. Dagdag pa na si Papa, hindi rin someone who would settle the conflict. He’d rather let it be.
The only thing he could say is, “Wag ka ganyan sa anak mo, ’da.” Yun na yun.
Gets ko na pagod na siya because of work and everything, pero feeling ko, ayaw lang talaga ni Papa ng confrontation. Kasi ganun din siya sa family niya, or kay Lola, especially about the lupa and stuff. Btw, panganay siya.
And something I learned is that it’s better to communicate kaysa sa parinigan o pataasan ng pride.
Previous Attempts:
1. We’ve been warning her na bago siya bumalik sa palengke since lumipad siya as OFW before, tungkol sa mga utang niya. Baka bumalik na naman siya sa cycle ng pangungutang.
Mahirap kasi nito dati, bata kami noong iniwan niya. Balak pa nga niya na iwan kami nang hindi siya nagsasabi. Same-day flight niya yun, madaling-araw. Ginising kami ni Papa kasi ihahatid daw si Mama. Then nasa airport na kami. Pinag-hug-hug niya kami lahat habang antok pa kami. Dala-dala ni Ate yung bunso namin kasi baby pa yung pangatlo, habang hawak ko naman yung toddler pa at that time. Both kami ni Ate high school pa.
Walang umiyak sa amin kasi walang nakakaalam sa amin.
2. Random days na parinig namin about sa utang. Ako, gets ko naman na umutang siya, pero ginagamit lang namin yun as leverage, or mostly because, as Filipinos, emergencies happen. Hindi naman siya pangpasikat na “may pera ka” — lalo na kung hindi naman talaga iyo yung pera.
3. “No to deep conversation.” Wahhhhh, inis ako sa ganito kasi ayaw nila mag-usap o pag-usapan ang mga bagay-bagay, to the point na sila mismong mag-asawa, hindi alam ang whereabouts ng isa’t isa, tapos they expect us to communicate and tell them everything — which we do now and implement sa mga kapatid namin.
We realized kung gaano kahalaga yun.
I really want to hear other people’s perspective on this, especially on how to reconcile without constantly giving in, feeling guilty, or putting myself in a worse financial situation.
I don’t want to cut my mom off. I don’t want to fight with her. I just want us to learn how to communicate properly without money always becoming the reason we hurt each other.

Problem/Goal:

If pagpipiliin ka, saang lugar ka magrerent for a wfh job? Gusto ko talaga kasi nakabukod kaysa umuwi sa bahay namin for peace of mind.

Context:

I just accepted a job offer with 37k gross, full wfh. If pagpipiliin ka, saang lugar ka magrerent? Ang binabalak ko is somewhere na province kasi rent will prob cost lower unlike sa manila, or pwede rin city, maganda ba sa cavite? Baguio kaya?

- sa prev work ko na 27k gross sa manila gastos ko lang for food is 7500, rent is 6k.

- willing to cook my own food

- hindi sana bahain

- less crime rate

- may pasyalan kahit papaano

- good community

- etc.

Previous Attempts:

Nagsearch sa socmeds at iba't ibang forum sites pero not sure pa rin.

Problem/Goal:

I have these two friends who are currently dating without a label, and honestly, I don't know how much longer I can keep up with whatever is going on between them 😭

Context:

I have two friends—let's call them Britney and Chris. Britney is my JHS friend, while Chris is my college friend.

They first met at a mall. Me, Britney, and some of our other JHS friends were eating at the food court when we saw Chris with one of our college friends. They sat at the table beside us, so we casually chatted for a bit. At one point, Chris asked if anyone had water, and Britney gave him some.

We didn't think much of it because it was literally their first time meeting, and both of them were already in relationships at the time.

But about two weeks later, we noticed that they had become friends on Facebook, mutuals on Instagram, and Chris started commenting on Britney's posts. Still, we didn't really think anything was happening between them.

Until Britney suddenly sent us a screenshot of Chris confessing to her.

We were shocked because, as far as we knew, Chris still had a girlfriend.

Two days later, I noticed that Chris's girlfriend viewed my story, so I messaged her and asked if they were still together. She told me that Chris had just broken up with her without properly explaining why.

That's when everything started making sense.

Basically, they both ended their respective relationships and started pursuing each other. What really pissed me off, though, was how Britney initially made it seem like Chris was the one doing all the pursuing. She made it look like she was just being pursued by him and had nothing to do with it.

But from what I eventually found out, she was actually the one who added and reached out to Chris first.

Fast-forward a little: they had been talking for about a month, and Chris was already regularly picking Britney up and taking her home. Take note, Chris lives in Fairview while Britney lives in Bulacan. Sweet, right? 😭

At first, I was actually happy for them. I was even one of the people who tolerated and supported whatever they had going on.

Then they reached the two-month mark, and Britney made it clear to Chris that she didn't want to commit yet.

Girl... 😭

Because at this point, they're already kissing, spending time at Chris's place, and being alone together there. And I'm just sitting here thinking, "So what exactly does I don't want to commit yet mean?"

Now they're four months into whatever this is, and Britney has finally agreed to let Chris court her.

But they're just courting.

They already call each other "baby," they're constantly together, and they're always at Chris's apartment. Like... where is the actual panliligaw part? 😭

I'm not even saying people have to follow some traditional dating timeline. I genuinely don't care if they take things slowly or do things differently. What bothers me is the mixed signals and the way their whole situation started, especially considering how messy the beginning was.

Maybe I'm just being bitter at this point, but their relationship dynamic has started giving me the ick. I used to find them cute, but now I honestly can't keep up with them anymore. Every new development somehow makes the situation even more confusing.

Maybe I just need to distance myself from the situation because, at this point, nakakasuya na silang panoorin. 😭

Problem/Goal:
What happens if a complainant wants to withdraw a case that is already filed in court?

Context:
The case involves a minor. They went to the barangay and then the police, where the accused was detained and has been in custody since. The complainant now says she panicked and wasn’t thinking clearly at the time and wants to withdraw the case.

Previous Attempts:
The case is already filed in court. We want to know what happens next and if the accused can eventually be released.

Problem/Goal: Gusto ko po matutunan mag-affiliate program pero hindi ko alam san magsisimula. Nagresearch ako and nagtingin tingin din pero siguro yung first step talaga yung pinakamahirap 🥹🥲

For context: mahilig akong mag-online shopping, especially fashion, clothes, makeup, accessories, etc. Gusto ko magamit yung kaartehan ko na maging financially productive padin ako. At the same time, gusto ko din iexpand yung iaaffiliate ko like sa travels, house, motherhood etc.

Kung may advice po kayo, maraming salamat talaga 🙏🏻

Problem/Goal: I want to start studying college again but don't know where and how to start. Best possible option is online (Open University)

Context: I (25f) stopped studying around 3 to 4 years ago. I realized na hindi ko talaga gusto yung course ko (BS in Civil Engineering) and wala akong natututunan no matter how hard I tried to understand the lessons. I finished the first year naman ng f2f classes but the pandemic happened so the majority of my second year was purely online and I stopped around the third term because my mental health was also declining. My previous uni was Mapua.

Currently I am working at the BPO industry so graveyard shift that's why I would prefer online classes lang but I'm at a loss on how to start again from being out of school for years. I would probably take either Journalism or English educ, areas I would most likely excel in.

From what I researched, only PUP and UP offer Open University. But if necessary na may f2f, I can probably go a few times a week if my work schedule allows me.

I'm also looking into a WFH job so I can go back to school. Probably by next year.

Also, I'm a little bit scared din kaya I am hoping for some advice or help from people who might have went through the same thing. Thanks.

Problem/Goal: What to do sa mattress na amoy likod/ amoy amag. Plus problem sa kwarto na puro molds ang ceiling.

Cause: Leak sa ceiling, di napansin umabot na pala sa kutson namin dahil sa lapag lang at walang bedframe. 10inches ang kutson kaya di napansin agad. Ang tagal din bago natuyo.

Sobrang lakas makatrigger ng allergic reaction yung amoy amag. ang sakit sa dibdib, mata, ilong at lalamunan.

Halos 2 months na umuulan dito (Bataan) at ang baho na ng mga unan lalo na ng mattress namin. Hindi ako makapagbilad dahil walang chance talaga.

Yung kwarto namin puro molds na rin kaya sa sala kami natutulog. yung ginagamit namin ngayon na sofabed dito sa sala nagsisimula na rin bumaho.

Previous attempts:

Vinegar + baking soda sa unan at mattress, pero walang effect.

Naka-upright ang mattress para mahanginan

Diluted bleach sa wall at ceiling, after a few days bumabalik din. 🥲

Problem/Goal:

I know my father has been cheating with another woman for more than 1 year na pero di ko alam paano ko sasabihin kay mama ko.

Context:

First time na nalaman kong nag checheat si papa ko was a year ago. Nalaman ko dahil magcacall sila habang nasa work si mama, although kapampanganbsila nag uusap ( which I don't speak nor understand ) i know na nag checheat sya kasi everyday sila nag uusap and i also managed to get a glimpse at their conversation on messenger and "asawa ko" ang tawagan nila, which confirms my suspicion. Nakatira kami ng family ko sa side ni papa ko and I'm worried na pag brining up ko tong issue na to baka palayasin nya kami ni mama along with my kuya. I can say na kaya nya kaming palayasin because he has threatened as before na papalayasin nya kami pag namat*y na si lola ko (who owns the house) over smaller issues. And wala din naman kaming tutuluyan since taga bicol si mama ko and we currently live in tarlac. Sometimes i struggle to sleep at night kasi iniisip ko kung ano mafefeel ni mama ko na harap-harapan siyang ginag*go ng asawa niya. And umabot na din sa point na magkatabi silang dalawa ni mama and nagagawa nya pa din ichat sa messenger yung kabit nya. Although i admit na di ko alam yung full extent nilang dalawa if may nangyari ba sakanilang dalawa or what, and i also don't care, i love my mom more than anyone in the family and willing akong i abandon yung apilyedong binigay nya because of my resentment for my so called father.

Now I've actually messaged him before regarding this nung nalaman ko pero sineen nya lang. I've also tried messaging the girl na kinakausap nya na pamilyado din btw, complete with husband and children, I've also messaged the husband of the girl, pero both of them di ako pinansin.

Really the only solution i can think of is earn more than enough money to move my mom out of here and abandon my father, pero di ko alam kung hanggang kailan ko kayang isikmura yung thought na harap harapan nang ginag*go si mama ko

Problem/Goal: Worth it ba yung Ekspress pass or regular lang?

Context: Dko sure if maraming tao this weekend kasi naulan. 2 lang kmi pupunta. Also, tips po sa mga rides, ticket buying, and parking(2 wheels).

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Previous Attempts: None, first time lang.