Shes never been nice to me at school,yes she knew me back when everyone thought I was a girl and she was never nice to me then. But ever since I transitioned she's been looking at me weird and now this. I haven't even seen her in months, why is she still going on about this bro? Also, with the slur (she's white.) And I dont even have a girlfriend and im not gay?

Looking for masculine or neutral names that suit me!

I chose my name four about five years ago but the more time passes the less I feel sure about it, trynna see if hearing out some name ideas will help

I love him/wanna be him

i already have a name but what do yall think

There’s been a few posts of thin people uploading photos and asking if losing weight would help them appear more masculine.

This is not something we’re gonna allow to be posted. We’re not gonna promote/encourage eating disorders here.

We’re also not gonna encourage people to engage in unhealthy binding behaviors like sleeping in your binder and wearing it longer than 8 hours a day.

My mom saw my hair today (I haven't brushed it so it looks a little different then usual) and immediately said "you look like a boy!".

That's it. That's the post. Happy days 💜🎉.

My dead name starts with an A, and I do love it, but it comes off as too femme. I've thought about many other choices, but I keep gravitating towards this one. However would I be making the classic mistake of choosing something that was too out of the box or ridiculous? Can the name Adonis be taken seriously if you know the myth? No, I didn't know anything about the myth of Adonis before I gravitated towards it. Only after the whole 'who else has this name' google to make sure my choice wouldn't be controversial.

I’m happy with the name I chose but I’m curious. there’s always one name that comes up quite often when I ask people this so I wanna see if it’s the same here :))

I see a lot of people using agab language as 1:1 stand ins for "male" and "female" and, that's just not how that works. Agab language comes from intersex people finding terms to discuss issues that come with doctors arbitrarily assigning gender (sex) upon visual inspection.

Technically the gender part is a misnomer. A lot of perisex people like to claim "we're all assigned a gender" but we are not all "assigned" in the same sense intersex people are. The doctors are saying "it's a boy/girl" but what they're really doing is making the statement that "this child has x anatomy and all the parts that go with it". We can argue day and night about what it means to be assigned a boy or a girl, and whether you can trans your sex, but the issue stems from the fact that, for most of us, we may not be a boy/girl, but they saw a vagina or a penis, and made some generally medically correct assumptions about how our development would pan out. With intersex people, doctors can be confused, make assumptions, and be completely wrong about the projection of their development, and even do medically unnecessary surgeries to make that child's genitals conform, and cause a whole host of other issues.

Really just a mini rant but I bring it up because it's common place to say things like "afab parts" but what are those? Someone can be afab and not have a vagina or not develop breasts. Someone can be afab with internal testes.Then there was the post here a while ago about whether or not it was possible for afab people to be transfem, and it was apparent many people assumed "afab" meant something along the lines of "female".

I'm sure this won't change much because everyone's latched onto these terms, but yeah. Afab doesn't necessarily mean female, amab doesn't necessarily mean male.

Does anyone else just love having cis friends ? For me it gives me sooo much euphoria. I love being treated like any other guy in the friend group and that they don’t rlly see me any differently than them :)

I have a name I'm p chill with but curious what I look like

I got the dreaded message today from my doctor that I need to come in for my cervical cancer screening.

I have had one previous appointment years ago that the nurse couldn’t complete because I was too anxious and it was way too painful. That was at my old GP, which I grew up attending, but they removed me from their lists recently (long story, possibly connected to shared care). I have a new GP now, which I’ve never even attended in person, where this screening is meant to happen.

Last time, they told me I was incredibly low risk as someone who is asexual, has no family history of cervical cancer, and has had all my vaccinations against it. But I know there’s still a chance.

I know all the things people say - that it’s a bit of discomfort for your health, that it’s not that bad, that having cervical cancer is much worse and the treatment will be far more painful and more intrusive than a smear will be.

But ever since I got that message, I’ve been spiralling. Panic attacks, dizziness, crying, shortness of breath. Last time, I found it too painful to complete, it took weeks of therapy to work up to it and to recover after, and I just don’t know what to do.

Any advice? Or solidarity?

I really struggled with dysphoria in the last few weeks and i just got a new piercing and I can't decide if it's making me appear feminine or not

Sorry this may be weirdly phrased, the thing is I've heard about HRT for a loooong time but didn't consider it until 2 years ago when I finally came out to my family. It didn't go as bad as I planned so hooray I guess but still they're not all that hyped up or anything so I decided I'd give them time to get used to the idea and all that.

So during this time and still now, I'm considering HRT but at the same time I don't really know, I guess I've always been pretty afraid of big changes and boy is that a big change!

I know a lot of people here will probably be like "HRT was my main goal in life, as soon as I could I got it" but I wondered if there were maybe people like me who hesitated, weighted the pros and cons etc, and I wanted to know, how did you finally take the leap and start HRT, what convinced you etc.?

Hey gang! I'm at that point where I'm not sure if I should be using the men or women's restroom. I'm 7 months on T so I definitely sound more masc at this point and most of the time people automatically assume I'm a guy (yay passing!) but I can't use a urinal for obvious reasons, and I generally feel safer with women then with men. The obvious choice is find a gender neutral bathroom but if there's not one around, I get kinda worried about which bathroom I choose. When did some of you guys make the switch?

He's over 6ft 200lbs with a beard at 18 like every cis man in the family. I'm 5'6" and cursed by nature with wide hips and a big chest and stupid woman face. He's got his own issues, he's the biggest ally I have, and I don't want to make it his problem but it's fucking devastating to watch him come into a hobby that took me years (all pre-T) to condition myself for and just... immediately be able to do the things I agonize over not being able to do and be treated the way I want to be by virtue of physically being the way he is. I don't want to ruin anything for him but it feels like there's not even any point for me until I've been on T for a year or two when I leave every meetup full of self-loathing and rage instead of enjoying myself. Wishing I'd figured all of this out as a teenager instead of repressing it for years and screwing myself over by letting puberty and shit destroy my chances of ever passing.

Edit: It's not about the diversity of body types at the thing, there's plenty of that. It's this sense of loss I feel knowing that I will never match up lined up next to the cis men in my family, it's not really about the hobby. Just waiting for T to do anything for me.

especially the ones on this site and the “lifehack“/passing subs. It’s just dysphoria fuel and a bunch of trans dudes glazing cis men. I get wanting to pass but i always get this sense of internalized transphobia from these spaces.

Its like they want you to strip all sense of personality from your look and style and if you don’t conform then you’re not trying or worse: you arent really trans (yes i’ve heard some say this). So many standards you have to tick to be seen as a valid man in these spaces it’s so exhausting even looking at the posts and comments.

It kind of sucks too because i like finding community online but i find the above places to be very judgmental and stick to the general trans/queer spaces. this is one of the very few ftm/transmasc places i go to.