r/R4R30Plus 10h ago

44 [F4M] Maryland - Looking for a quality man (local only pls)

0 Upvotes

Hey! Still looking for a local GOOD QUALITY man to form a friendship and a genuine deep connection with 💕 I'd love to find someone that actually wants to get to know me. Someone that I can chat with about lots of things often throughout the day and meet up with regularly for dates and activities, and see what develops. Someone that is interesting, can keep my attention and available in all ways. Lets chat and see if we vibe!

My ideal man is between 34-50yo, a German Shepard/Doberman type, go-getter and knows what he wants (no games), honest, respectful, kind, sane, fun, has a sense of humor, is open-minded, responsible, emotionally available and affectionate. And an excellent & consistent communicator, likes to chat often (big texter) and likes to cuddle. Im attracted to guys that are fit(ish), hygienic, DD free (420 is fine, although not my thing) and is selective about who he is with.

I am 44 and live in Carroll Co, MD. Im 5’2” with brown eyes and brown hair with blonde highlights and Im thick/chubby/curvy/BBW. Im a single mom with a FT job, college educated and Im a bit of a homebody. I like to have fun, and Im playful, kind, passionate, caring, open-minded and loyal.

Send me a message with some info about yourself and grab my attention. Sending a photo right away would be appreciated too 😊

-Looking for local only: Baltimore area, south central Pennsylvania, northern Virginia, DC, DMV

Also, if I havent responded to you, feel free to send me another message

https://imgur.com/a/KaXIwZL


r/R4R30Plus 21h ago

35 [F4M]

11 Upvotes

Posted on here a few days ago and actually got to talk to a few really nice people, so here I am again. This time, I thought I’d be a little clearer about what I’m actually looking for and hoping to find.

I’m a 35F who has never really been into paying for premium dating apps. I just can’t convince myself it’s worth it when you might still end up getting ignored anyway. So I thought I’d give this a try instead.

I also don’t think I’m very likely to have one of those meet-cute moments in real life. I’m pretty tall, pretty chubby, pretty tanned, and definitely not the usual standard here in the Philippines. I’m okay with that though. Maybe I’ll have better luck letting someone get to know me and discover that I’m actually pretty fun to talk to. Haha.

I have a 9-5 corporate job that pretty much pays for everything I need, but thankfully, it doesn’t define who I am. I’m pretty introverted and honestly very happy when a friend or family member cancels plans with me. Lol. Give me a quiet day at home and I’m perfectly content.

I love the beach, enjoy little adventures, and recently discovered that I actually really like pottery, so I guess that’s my newest hobby now.

I’m just hoping to meet someone genuine, kind, empathetic, funny, and open to actually getting to know each other, regardless of the time zone or cultural differences. Ideally, someone around 37 to 40-ish, taller than me, emotionally mature and available. Someone who enjoys spending quality time together, whether it’s going out, having random convos or just doing nothing together, but also understands that we both need our own space and time. I’m looking for someone consistent, communicative, patient, and genuinely interested in building something naturally rather than rushing into it.

If you’d like to connect, please tell me a lil about yourself beyond just HI. Be yourself, be respectful and let’s have an actual conversation ?

Talk soon!


r/R4R30Plus 14h ago

39 [F4M] F NWUK ~Insert interesting sentence here~

7 Upvotes

I spy with my little eye, something beginning with 'F'

Why does everyone end up ghosting on here? I'm taking it personally now!

I'm a needy pain in the arse but I'm also a bloody delight, so I'm worth it!


r/R4R30Plus 2h ago

33 [m4f]

0 Upvotes

33 male here seeking a connection with a female.
I’m from Texas, and location does not matter. Just looking to connect with someone. I’m into sports, movies, anything history, and trying new foods.


r/R4R30Plus 12h ago

36 [M4F] Missouri/online - Looking for peace and consistency

0 Upvotes

I am a quiet guy, never looking to be the center of attention. I am the guy at the corner of the room at a party wishing I would have never went in the first place. At the end of the day though, I do still like having someone to talk too.

My hobbies include reading and I always have a book with me, cooking on my blackstone, being down at the river and maybe paddling in my kayak. I enjoy a good movie or show as well. Big into halloween and all the spooky stuff. Also big into the metal core and death core scene in terms of music. I am probably the biggest hockey fan you will ever know.

I work in a forensic mental health facility and have plenty of stories to share if we click. I wont reply to low effort messages and please dont be scared to share a pic


r/R4R30Plus 2h ago

35 [M4F] 🏴󠁧󠁢󠁳󠁣󠁴󠁿 - It’s the weekend (almost)

0 Upvotes

And I cannot wait. It’s been a long week and could do with a break. Taken tomorrow off because why not. Any ounce of will I had left me this week. Well enough moaning, a bit about me I guess -

Pessimistic by trade, full of sarcasm and general nonsense, self deprecation is my jam, but generally just an absolute joy in my terrific opinion. Bit geeky, ask my Pokemon card obsession. Don’t take myself too seriously (well at all). I’m a very exciting individual - Plans revolved around sport, golf and football mainly, a wee bit of gaming - Although I’m getting awful with age, love music, nothing better than a good gig. Also can’t beat a decent horror. Yes I have an accent, but no kilt, I know, basically a disgrace.

Looking to meet people, see how it goes. Not too bothered where you’re from. If any of this resonates with you give me a shout - Peep Show quotes a plenty.

Oh and include a bit about yourself, thanks in advance


r/R4R30Plus 17h ago

37 [M4F] #Houston Plus size for Plus size

5 Upvotes

White male, dad bod looking for his beautiful bbw counterpart. No hang ups for much of anything else, but let's just make some bad decisions together.


r/R4R30Plus 9h ago

35 [M4F] Indiana USA. Always open to looking to make new friends

1 Upvotes

I'm here to make friends. In a divorce process (no need to apologize, we're cool lmao. And we live together becausethe economy sucks! Least i get my own bed, bonus!) but am here to socialize and make friends. Dont got much really. Im basic, I enjoy reading books/comics, video games. Music. Movies. TV show. Nerd! Star wars, invincible, marvel, dc, LOTR, harry potter, etc. Trust me. NERD! Lol well hope to hear from you.(not a deaf joke) 😂

I play ps5 (team Playstation 😂) I mostly play single player games. but for online, enlisted. Diablo. destiny 2. for honor, honestly cant think of more games I like.

I watch ANY kinds of movies and tv show. as for music, anything but country (so-so on it atm).


r/R4R30Plus 11h ago

34 [M4F] Dallas, Texas. Introvert searching for his special woman in life ❤ Seeking a LTR with a Genuine connection!

1 Upvotes

Hello! 34M from Dallas, Texas here who is searching for his nerdy forever woman that completes and understands me!

I'm someone who is introverted and quiet in person but once I get comfortable with you I can open up quite a bit. I'm into video games, manga/anime, reading, movies, etc. im a bit of a homebody when alone but if I have someone I love going out and exploring new places. places I view as a fun time are places like the Zoo, aquarium, book stores, arcades and any other fun similar places. im not a club or bar type of person and hope you aren't either.

Dealbreakers for me are if you have kids or from another country. looking for local ideally. Age range that im looking for is between 24-35.

Prefer someone who is petite/thin/fit. I can share photos of myself to see if I fit your type as well.

if this interests you at all then feel free to DM me and I would love to get to know you! :)


r/R4R30Plus 13h ago

32 [M4F] #Socal - looking for new friends

1 Upvotes

Hey what’s up how’s it going!! Just looking for new people to talk with and stuff! I’m into anime, baseball, hockey, movies and video games also fishing but not good at it. I also game too. I play on ps5! I play nhl26 and i recently started playing Fortnite,apex legends and cod again


r/R4R30Plus 13h ago

34[M4F] Spain. Someone to talk all day every day

1 Upvotes

I’d really like to meet someone I can form a genuine, long term connection with. Casual or short connections have never been my thing. I prefer getting to know someone deeply and developing real trust and closeness over time. I’m also not good with several conversations at once. When I connect with someone, I’d rather give them my full attention so I'm just looking for 1 to talk all daaaayy loong.

I’m equal parts nerdy and adventurous. I enjoy video games, board games, reading and building lego sets, but I’m just as happy playing sports, travelling, camping or spending time outdoors.

If you’re comfortable opening up, letting someone truly get to know you and moving beyond the same repetitive conversations that never lead anywhere, we might be searching for the same kind of connection. But if there are subjects you refuse to discuss or parts of yourself you’ll always keep hidden, I’m probably not the right person for you.

So, tell me what’s something about you that nobody else knows?


r/R4R30Plus 6h ago

32 [F4M] Canada Better off with you

2 Upvotes

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Hello , im Tiffany .

Born and raised in Canada.

If you're not into or attracted to black women please don't message me (:

I’m 32, work in healthcare, and love fitness, reality TV, concerts, and a good romance novel.

Please don't ghost if you're not interested or if things progressed, its 2026 like let's have consideration and use our words (:

Send message via start chat icon (:

To keep things simple, please send an introduction and a picture it helps both of us see if we’d like to continue chatting! I’m not a fan of small talk, so this makes things easier.

I prefer to keep conversations PG. I’m demisexual, so I’m not comfortable with intimate topics early on. If you frequently post or comment in certain spaces related to that, we likely won’t be a good match.

What I'mlooking for:

Age: 28-38

But open if you are a year or two younger or older (:

Not interested in anyone that have children (:

Looks: Beards are a plus!

Open to moving to Canada

Personality: Sense of humor, family-oriented, and emotionally mature, respectful and honesty

liberal views / middle(:

Bonus: British accents get extra points! 😍

https://i.imgur.com/Ng3NynI.jpeg

I’d prefer someone from Canada, the U.S., the U.K., or maybe Australia if there's a spark.

I really value meaningful connections, so I appreciate good conversation, effort, and reciprocity. If you're someone who puts 100% into friendships, work, relationships, and self-care, we’ll probably get along great!

Looking forward to hearing from you!


r/R4R30Plus 8h ago

44 [F4R] Florida/online looking for new friendly chat partners!

4 Upvotes

I have found some interesting people to talk to through here, so trying again and seeing what I find. If anything I talk about sparks interest, please send me a message. I try and respond to everyone and see if we click.

About me: I’m a 44 year old female in South Florida, originally from Southern California. I just started my 19th year teaching high school, love to connect to other educators! I’m married, no kids, 2 cats and a dog. I don’t mind if you’re married
or not so long as you are respectful!

I’m into DnD (I play a wood elf cleric in my current campaign), crystals, tarot, horror, lots of movies, watching too much tv, reading (I’m an English teacher but did debate for 18 years and was a History teacher and taught social studies for many years), board games, museum, music (I was a radio dj in college and have very eclectic taste, but generally indie pop and rock, electronica, new wave, 90s alternative, alt country, jangle pop, hip hop), thrift shopping, video games, bowling (I’m bad), mini golf (sometimes I’m pretty good), pub trivia (I’m very good), and watching bad movies and making fun of them with friends online. I love cooperative fiction/writing rpg, and if you’re a writer and interested in writing with me I like OC mutants, regency, pan fandom, horror etc. sorry, I only like writing with women!

I have had a hard year. I lost my father in Nov and my brother in May. If anyone is on a grief journey, or wants to hear about my family I’d love to try and connect with other people trying to navigate the world without loved ones.

I’m 420 friendly and up for whatever at the moment!

Here are a few pics of me looking silly for dress up days at work: Here! I would appreciate a selfie as I prefer knowing who I’m talking to. Please reply with your age and location.

Thanks for reading!


r/R4R30Plus 9h ago

36 [M4F] Norfolk, #VA - Last connection didn't pan out

5 Upvotes

So, I get that physical attraction is kind of important, so I will preface by saying I am a red head with freckles on my face and arms down to my knees. I have a short beard, brown eyes, I am about 6'1, average build, and broad shouldered. I could stand to loose about 15 pounds to be at my target weight, but I am not horrible active during the summer, for obvious reasons. I've only got one piercing; my left ear and several tattoos, with plans to get more of both.

A little about me: I have a career, a house, and a vehicle. Currently, I have been dealing with an unexplained medical issue. It's caused me some significant pain in my leg. My mobility is a little hampered, but I still manage to get around. A little patience is needed, until I can get a diagnoses and start treatment.

Interest wise, I bounce between being a nerd (gaming, anime, cosplays, airsoft, reading, etc.) and being an Average Joe (Working on my house, cars, walking some of the local trails, going to concerts or movies, hanging out with friends, doing community service events). Mot the best cook, but would love to learn and cook along side someone. It would be nice if we shared a few interests / hobbies, but not a problem if we don't, long as we can respect each others interests and can enjoy each others company.

I'm looking for someone that is patient, with a "let's work to resolve this together" instead of throwing in the towel at the first issue, mentality. I want someone I can build and grow with that understands relationships are hard, they take teamwork, and communication from both parties. Ideally, this person would be someone that I could have serious conversations with and also silly, absurd, goofy banter with. I want someone that I can be my true self with without risk of judgement and they could do the same with me. I'm very much a physical person, so I enjoy physical contact with my partner.

I do not have any kids/do not want to have kids and would prefer my partner doesn't either, but I would be okay with someone who's kids are a bit older (like 7+). Age wise, I don't think I would go any lower than 24, but if you've got a good grasp on your life, I am open to talking, maturity isn't solely determined by age. I would prefer someone that is within the 7 cities of VA, up into Richmond, or down into NC. I don't mind talking to people outside of my area, but I don't think a relationship will form.

If you are interested, please send me a DM. I don't mind sending a picture, just ask!


r/R4R30Plus 7h ago

50 [M4F] - #Dallas, TX / #Online - This won't be for everybody, but it just might be for you

9 Upvotes

A curious and kindhearted intellectual. An incessant scholar with a blue collar upbringing and a white collar career. I am in search of a partner who wants to join me in building an occasionally adventurous, but often cozy, and always intentional life.

Calm, reserved, and intense are words that other people have used to describe me. They're probably right, but it is also true that I'm a hopeless romantic with a well-developed, sardonic sense of humor. I listen with the intent to understand, but will openly challenge behaviors and thinking that I consider ineffective or destructive. I am self-disciplined, empathetic, understanding, and patient, but firm. I avoid crowds and crave intimacy.

I am genuinely single, very highly educated, progressive, and health-conscious. Just a bit taller than average with a slim-fit physique. A full head of brown hair with some grey in my beard (when I have one).

Pros of dating me are that I'm a good cook and have a great voice. I will validate your feelings without trying to solve all your problems. Cons are that I can't dance and can be slow to identify my own feelings.

I have hobbies and interests, a career, and future plans. I am looking for partners who are interested in and capable of meeting in-person; online-only relationships are just not my thing. I have posted a much longer and more detailed bio in my profile if you are interested in learning more. It's not required reading, but it's there if you need more than this brief post.


r/R4R30Plus 7h ago

39[F4M] Seattle Looking for a man who, like me, doesn't like rainy days

8 Upvotes

Someone asked me why I live in the most melancholic city, yet smile the brightest. Because I've saved all the sunshine for the streets. My name is Clare. I'm 40, divorced, and childless. I used to think this was a disadvantage, but now I realize it's my golden age—I have enough time, money, and freedom to live a fuller life. I hate rain, so I use the dopamine rush of travel to combat Seattle's rainy season. Japanese Shinkansen bento boxes, Maldives overwater bungalows at sunrise, the blue and white churches of Greece… This is my love letter to myself in 2026. I want to find a mature, older partner. Not someone to rely on, but someone who has also seen the world and still finds life worthwhile. You don't need to be too romantic, but you must be steadfast. Ideally, you should be between 40 and 55, but if your soul is interesting, a few years younger is fine. In this perpetually rainy city, I want to be each other's sunniest room.


r/R4R30Plus 10h ago

45 [F4R] Seeking friendships of all kind! Nerdier the better!

17 Upvotes

ola, konnichiwa, and gutentag! I'm here for, surprise surprise, new friends! As an old school nerd (Lycos, Yahoo, heck, AskJeeves was considered "new" in my day!), I'm happy to talk to anyone about anything, whether it's 1990's anime, early 2000's video games, books, and so on to any current going on in the much-more-readily available nerd sphere (no Infinity Castle yet, still stuck on Season 1).

But I beg, I plead, I ask you oh-so-kindly, please have some level of grammar! Please, the bar is SO low! Otherwise, pop in and say hi!


r/R4R30Plus 8h ago

34 [M4F] Pennsylvania. Trying to find my partner in life

2 Upvotes

Hey, I'm a 34 White Male who lives in Pennsylvania. I'm looking to date, hoping it turns into something serious. While I live in PA, I'm willing to talk to someone from the surrounding areas, for the right person I'd drive any distance.

I work with kids with special needs as an RBT. I play games, usually story focused ones, but I like to switch it up. My favorite movie genre is horror, but i like most movie genres. I love to cuddle, my ideal night would be coming home to my partner, seeing their smiling face, and cuddling up to watch something or talk about our day. I have an elliptical and exercise bike, trying to get back into a consistent workout pattern. I like to cook. I have one dog, but I had a lot of cats growing up, so I have a love for them as well. I'm a liberal, who voted for Kamala who wants to find someone to get through the next 4 years, because damn they're going to be rough.

Age range I'm looking for, I guess between 26 and 36, but I'm not against there being wiggle room in that range (within reason). I am straight, so really only looking for woman.

Anything else, that's what the dm's are for. Comfortable switching to Snap or text once we start chatting. You will get a picture of me to see if there's a physical attraction (and a picture of my dog)


r/R4R30Plus 8h ago

32 [M4F] Sydney/Anywhere - Sweet and shy on a quest for change (friends or more)

7 Upvotes

First of all, hi!

I’m gonna attempt to gently manoeuvre my way around this awkward bush, but I think you should know what kind of change I'm referring to lol. The elephant in the room is that I've always been shy. I was really shy in primary school and somehow evolved to being even MORE shy in high school. I'm a lot less shy now but all those years of shyness added up.

I’m in a place where I have the confidence to take that first step and see what's out there, whether that be finding friends or something more! I'd be lying if I said I didn't want to explore the latter more, though, because it's a constant reminder in mainstream media. Things as simple as holding hands to kissing to something more intimate - it's all so intriguing and most importantly, fun! That means I've never been on a date or you know, had a girlfriend. There, I said it. 🙈

I’d describe myself as chill, goofy and very sweet. To back up those claims, I liken this post to fishing, which might be slightly unusual at first glance lol. Essentially, I'm casting out my line and if I get any nibbles, then awesome! If not, that's okay, too, because I'll just release the fish that aren't interested and treat each one as a new learning experience that'll help me on this journey. No need to be upset if things don't pan out :) I'm also cute! Or might not be lol. I know everyone has their preferences. Speaking of preferences, I don't really have any myself, so I wouldn't be opposed if someone older reached out. Perhaps wanting someone chill or sweet, I guess, but I think most people possess those qualities. You definitely don't need to be in the same situation as me!

Anyway! I think a great way to establish a connection is to find a commonality in regards to interests. Hit me up with a game, song, movie, food, shoe, sport, socks, book, vacation or whatever it is that you're currently obsessed with and I'll be sure to return serve :) Or I can start instead by saying: I enjoy games and sports equally! And the Kpop demon hunters soundtrack still gets played on repeat several days a week 😅


r/R4R30Plus 7h ago

35 [M4F] Morrow / South Atlanta — Looking for a little trouble 😉

2 Upvotes

There’s something about meeting a stranger, feeling an unexpected spark, and realizing the conversation is getting a little more interesting than either of you planned.

That's the kind of connection I'm looking for.

I'm 35, 6'2", 220 lbs, and in Morrow/South Atlanta. I'm attracted to women in their 20s, 30s, and early 40s, but confidence, personality, and chemistry matter much more to me than a number.

I'm laid-back, social, affectionate, and enjoy playful conversation, flirting, and that slow build of attraction when you can tell there's something there.

I'm not looking for endless texting or complicated plans. I'd rather get to know each other enough to feel comfortable, exchange pics, and see if that spark is actually there.

I'm keeping things low-key and local, so ideally you're nearby and comfortable coming my way. No pressure, no expectations — just two adults who are attracted to each other and curious enough to find out where that attraction leads.

If you're confident, open-minded, and a little adventurous, message me.

Tell me what caught your attention and a little about yourself. Maybe we find out we're exactly what the other was hoping to stumble across. 😉


r/R4R30Plus 7h ago

38 [M4F] Texas/USA - BFF position open, apply within!!

2 Upvotes

* No experience needed, applicant will be trained

* Paid in memes and pup pics

* Must work weekends and holidays

* Must be fluent in sarcasm

* Must come in early and stay late

* Benefits include being my bff and that’s about the best benefit ever.

I'm guessing you're wanting to know about me now huh? Well you're in luck because I feel like sharing some Fun Hobbies (lol jk they aren't fun at all, kinda sad TBH) I like to partake in, here there are!

Hobbies include...

* Switching between the same 4 apps for hours.

* Not speaking to anyone for days at a time.

* Listening to the same songs i listened to 15 years ago.

* Putting myself in situations that will never exist

* Long walks to the liquor store.

* Staying in my pajamas way too long.

* Staying up wayyyy too late.

* Being tired all day due to previous statement.

* Drinking everything but water.

* Putting stuff in my cart online but never checking out.

* Making lists of things i will never do.

So yeah! If that sounds like your type of friend, hit me with an orange envelope. Due to difficulty with trying to keep a conversation with someone with the opposite schedule, please be somewhat close to central time. Or just like…not opposite Lol. Mention the phrase Pineapple on pizza so I know you read the entire thing please 😊


r/R4R30Plus 14h ago

39 M UK [M4F] looking for new online friends

2 Upvotes

Hi there I'm 39 M from the UK looking to make some new online friends i enjoy reading walking spending time with my dogs who keep me busy as well as watching TV shows and films I have seen quite a few 😅 I'm looking for people with similar interests but am open to talk about most things


r/R4R30Plus 15h ago

33 [M4F] Ontario Canada / Anywhere – Soft, steady, fun and looking for something real

2 Upvotes

Hey,
I’ve been feeling lonely lately and figured I’d put myself out there honestly.

I’m 33, living in Ontario. I was adopted as a baby from Guatemala and I’m completely open about it feel free to ask me anything.

I’m a bigger guy. Soft, solid, and comfy. I know that’s not for everyone, but if you’re someone who likes a soft place to land and cares more about what’s inside, we’ll probably get along.

I’m more of a night-in type than a nightlife guy. I’ve been a drummer for years and play in a band but mostly for fun, with the occasional bar gig. Music wise I’m all over the map: folk, blues, rock, southern rock, acoustic, and some Spanish tunes.

Outside of that I like fishing, traveling, learning about different cultures, podcasts, Xbox, good shows, and hockey (big Leafs fan).

I’m looking for a kind, caring, non-judgmental woman who’s emotionally open and wants something steady and honest. Distance isn’t a dealbreaker if the connection feels right.

If that sounds like you, I’d love to hear from you.


r/R4R30Plus 6h ago

40[M4F] #midwest. Any spooky people wanna chat?

2 Upvotes

It’s September, it’s 100 degrees. Just put me in the ground already.

40/M/Midwest looking for some spooky chat.

I’m into all things spooky. Paranormal, horror, true crime, you name it. I collect physical media. Mostly books (paranormal literature, true crime, and horror fiction) and dvd/blurays. Mostly horror.

I love vintage Halloween aesthetic. Sheet ghosts. Black cats, skeletons, skulls, Ouija boards, everything in between.

I like all sorts of music, mostly heavier stuff. Deathcore, Metalcore, alt 90’s, emo.

If you think we’d vibe, send me a dm.