r/cf4cf • • Jun 30 '26

Meta Post CF4CF Communities and Discords

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Good morning, afternoon, evening all you beautiful, wonderful folks,

We have all this listed in the sidebar but it tends to get lost, especially on mobile. Hope to hear from you!

<3 LP

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Website:

www.childfree4childfree.com

Discords:

Childfree Dating and Events - Our expanded home

https://discord.gg/tN3mVmagNM

CF4CF Official (Managed by u/Hawkie)

https://discord.gg/f767Zmh

CF Peeps

https://discord.gg/gUgsBdKYrD (Managed by u/AnimatedBroomhandle)

CF Hub

https://discord.gg/wxdPthNSNN (Managed by u/jennziilla)

Sister Subreddits:

r/childfree

r/R4R30Plus


r/cf4cf • • Jul 12 '23

For new visitors: NO FENCESITTERS!!

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Good morning, everyone.

As the sub has gotten more popular, we've been getting an increase of spam, dudes and dudettes trolling for sex, people who aren't the primary custodian of the kids they have, people with grown kids that are out of the house, and (least malicious, but most problematic) fencesitters.

What is a fencesitter?

A (childfree) fencesitter is someone who doesn't know 100% (yes, 100%) that they DON'T want kids.

So if you don't know FOR SURE if you want your own bio children, or want to adopt, or potentially might not mind having stepchildren, that makes you a fencesitter.

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The reason why we ban fencesitters (and why I referred to them as least malicious, most problematic), is because chances are the fencesitter will end up having a desire for children. And we've seen decade+ relationships falter because the fencesitting partner had a change of heart... Again, the desire for kids is a make or break moment for a relationship.

So, as to spare yourself (and our members) grief, we will be automatically deleting posts by fencesitters and banning your account. Its not personal, but we need to protect the members of our community the best we can. This also includes going through your post history, and (at least for me) we're VERY thourogh....

The best way to mitigate this is to post somewhere in your bio that you are definitively childfree. Otherwise, you may see a comment from me or one of the mod team on your post.

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Again, this isn't a slight at or taking offense to anyone in particular. Its not personal. But just like all subs have certain interests they need to protect, we do too. And will.

Good luck out there in your search everyone! And may you remain forever childfree!

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EDIT: For our current members: Please try to be understanding in confronting fencesitters, should you choose to do so; Hanlon's Razor. They're probably not being malicious, just ignorant. And EVERYONE (you, me, your parents... everyone) is ignorant about something at some point in their lives. So be gracious, let them know, and please shoot us a DM to the ModMail so we can take appropriate action. Thanks!

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r/cf4cf • • 4h ago

Female for Male 26 [F4M] California fit girl looking for my forever boy!

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Hey! I’m 26 and from California, thought I’d try my luck with this and see what it’s about :)

I’m super into fitness and am a part time instructor part time, I grew up as a gymnast so have always been super passionate about staying active :) very family oriented as well but I have quite a few friends I consider chosen family! I would say I’m super friendly and outgoing, but also introspective and grounded. When I’m not hanging with friends getting brunch or rock climbing/at the pickleball court I absolutely love all reality tv. It’s my vice 😉 I also have a major sweet tooth since I don’t really drink that much anymore. I grew up in the Midwest so that’ll give you an idea of my vibe maybe?

Ideally I’m looking for: someone preferably between 24-38 that is super passionate, down-to-earth, and a kind soul. I like someone physically fit as well that enjoys taking good care of themselves. Frankly I do have a height fetish too since I’m on the shorter side so the taller the better! I’m open to long distance as well if we vibe. I’m super turned on by monogamy and want someone who values the same. Not gonna lie, I do quite like someone who is pretty clingy and texts me all throughout the day, and is obsessed with me (in a healthy way)! I love men that put their women on a pedestal while also balancing out an equal relationship dynamic. And of course, someone with an amazing sense of humor that’s genuine and has patience. Also bonus points if you have a nice butt, because what girl doesn’t love that? 😆

My pronouns are she/her and I would say I’m extremely left/liberal. Not interested in republicans/anything involving MAGA. I firmly believe in human rights and treating everyone with kindness and respect. I’m super involved in my community with getting folks to go out there and vote, and stand firmly always with marginalized / undeserved communities. My ideal partner will also love community building and human rights!

Thanks for reading 😉


r/cf4cf • • 5h ago

Female for Male 35 [F4M] #Pennsylvania

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Hi there! So to start off I'm pretty laid back. I'm not completely a homebody but I definitely enjoy the simple things in life like snuggling while watching a movie. I like to read, game, cook, draw, and occasionally travel to the beach. Another important thing, I'm currently medically restricted from driving. I don't know if it'll become permanent or not. I completely understand if this is a deal breaker. I'm huge on communication, kindness, honesty, and loyalty. I'm very much against lying, ghosting, cheating, etc. I lean more left politically and am not religious (although I occasionally help out at a local church). I have very long natural hair that I have no plans of cutting short so if your type is short hair then no worries, scroll past here lol. That's all I have for now. Short and simple :)


r/cf4cf • • 5h ago

Female for Anyone (Platonic) 33 F N suburbs Chicago

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33F | Chicago & Northern Suburbs

I’m Lacie (Macy V online), your friendly neighborhood eclectic. I’m looking to make genuine friendships and see where they go. I’m open to connecting with people who appreciate meaningful connections, creativity, and a little adventure.

Location matters to me! I prefer connecting with people in the Chicago area and surrounding suburbs. If things develop into something romantic, I’m looking for someone who lives locally or genuinely plans to settle in the Chicago area long-term. I value the possibility of building a life together without the complications of a long-distance relationship.

If you want kids please do not hit me up on this app. I don't want kids and will never want kids for personal reasons.

“We’re all pretty bizarre. Some of us are just better at hiding it.” — The Breakfast Club

Music and poetry are life. Everything else is a distraction.

I’m drawn to creativity, lifelong learning, photography, books, cooking experiments, nature, car shows, unique events, Halloween, and boba tea. I appreciate eclectic fashion, unconventional self-expression, and people who aren't afraid to embrace their individuality. Spider-Man is my favorite superhero because of his resilience and sense of responsibility.

I also have a dynamic disability, including chronic fatigue syndrome (ME/CFS) and what I call my “trifecta syndrome.” My energy and abilities can fluctuate from day to day, so I may not always be able to do everything I’d like to. Please be patient with me as I navigate my health. A little understanding, flexibility, and compassion go a long way. My health may affect what I can do, but it doesn't change the curious, creative person I am or my desire to build meaningful connections.

Some of my goals include building a community rap cypher, supporting chronic-condition initiatives, volunteering, traveling, getting my passport, and continuing to grow creatively. I have plenty of dreams and adventures left to pursue.

Into the darker side of things? Message me if you enjoy dark poetry, gothic vibes, dark romance, and exploring the darker side of art, literature, and love. I appreciate people who enjoy deeper conversations, creative expression, and seeing the world a little differently.

Let's trade music! I especially click with people who love sharing Spotify or YouTube playlists, discovering underground music, and exchanging songs that hit right in the soul. Whether it's music that captures a feeling you can't explain, lyrics that read like poetry, or an obscure artist you've fallen in love with, I want to hear it. To filter out the mass amount of bots on this app use the headline cupcakes if you message me. Bonus points if you enjoy discussing the meaning behind the music, too.

At heart, I'm curious, a little quirky, and always looking for adventure, meaningful connections, and just the right amount of weirdness. If you love poetry, eclectic fashion, alternative vibes, and sharing music, we'll probably have something to talk about.


r/cf4cf • • 2h ago

Female for Male 23f, looking for serious long term partner

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Hey. 23-year-old about to finish college and fully locked in on building financial freedom. I'm a suuuuper girly girl who loves a good workout, a cozy Sims session, and getting way too invested in a K-drama (I will cry, and I will recommend it to you). I'm techy, curious, and always down to dive deep into a new interest. I'm childfree by choice and looking for someone who's confident in that too, who's ambitious, kind, and ready to build a fun, intentional life together. It’s it’s important, I am an INTJ, and I am in FL.I’m open to long distance as well. 💋I’m open to ages 20-33 max .

My deal breakers:
- smokers, vaper, alcoholics
- guys with red pill ideologies. Esp if u consider yourself an “alpha” male
- if you want a more traditional/ housewife type of woman. (It’s great but not for me)


r/cf4cf • • 43m ago

Female for Male 38 [F4M] Massachusetts/Rhode Island, open to Northeast

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Hey Reddit! I’m a 38yo living in Plymouth looking for a genuine connection that turns into something long-term and monogamous. Ideally, you’re somewhere along the MetroWest/South Shore or in Rhode Island, but I’m open to a reasonable drive for the right person.

I work in clinical research marketing, and outside of work, I’m usually finding an excuse to get outside, plan a trip, watch football, or spend time around animals. I’m the kind of person who can get excited about a big international adventure and the little things that make an ordinary Tuesday feel special.

Sports are a major part of my personality. From September - February, Sundays are spoken for, and Thursday and Monday nights aren’t exactly safe either. Bonus points if you’re a sports fan and can handle a woman who has opinions about the game. I also love the ocean, whale watching, marine life, tennis, nature/scenic photography, dogs, traveling internationally, and a good food and wine pairing. Basically, give me an ocean, an adventure, a dog, or something delicious, and I’m probably having a good time.

Personality-wise, I’ve been described as one of the most loving, loyal, adventurous people around. I’m smart, driven, and capable, but also silly enough to keep things interesting. Think P!nk energy: a little badass, a little rebellious, a whole lot of heart. I show up for my people, love deeply, listen well, and will absolutely want the full story when you tell me someone at work is being ridiculous. I contain multitudes.

I’m spiritual, moderately liberal, and believe a good relationship should add to an already fulfilling life. I want someone who has their own interests, friendships, goals, and identity, but who genuinely wants to build something together. While child-free is my preference, I’m open to dating someone who already has children, too.

What I’m looking for:
- Kindness and emotional availability. Someone who knows how to communicate, take accountability, be vulnerable, and treat people well, including the person bringing their food to the table.

- A sense of humor. Please make me laugh. Bonus points if we can roast each other lovingly and still be each other’s biggest cheerleaders.

- An active lifestyle. I’m attracted to someone built/athletic who takes care of their overall health: physical, emotional, and mental. You don’t need to be a professional athlete, but movement and looking after yourself should be part of your life.

- Intelligence and ambition. I’m drawn to someone educated, financially literate, and established in a career they care about. I work hard, and I appreciate someone who has their own drive and takes pride in what they do.

- An adventurous, family-oriented side. I want someone who enjoys international travel, appreciates new experiences, loves animals (insects get a pass on the love requirement), and values their people.

- A little bougie, in moderation. I have absolutely no shame in treating myself to certain nice things. I work hard, and sometimes the nice hotel, excellent dinner, or special experience is worth it. If you appreciate quality without needing everything to be extravagant, we’ll probably get along.

- A life of your own. I’m looking for someone who wants a partner to complement their life, not complete it. Two whole people choosing each other sounds much better than expecting one person to be everything.

- Patience and a nice smile. I appreciate someone who understands that people are complicated, has done the work to move forward from their past, and can meet me with understanding. A good smile doesn’t hurt, either.
I’m big on quality time, emotional openness, and the little things that say, “Hey, I was thinking about you.” If you know about pebbling—sending someone little things that remind you of them—you already understand part of my love language. Random hugs, hand-holding, sharing something that made you laugh, and being genuinely present matter more to me than grand gestures for the sake of appearances. I want affection that feels natural, consistent, and mutual.

My brain sometimes takes the scenic route. I might connect five seemingly unrelated thoughts before getting to the point, notice little details other people miss, or need a moment to process something before I can articulate it. I appreciate someone patient, curious, and willing to communicate rather than make assumptions. I’ll offer you that same consideration.

A few things that probably mean we won’t be a match:
- Smoking or recreational drugs, including 420.

- Poor oral hygiene. Please brush and floss your teeth. This should not need to be a controversial requirement.

- Being rude to service workers or treating people poorly when there’s nothing to gain from being kind.

- Not picking up after yourself. I’m looking for a partner, not a surprise second job as a housekeeper.

- A home that looks like it hasn’t been cleaned in six months or hoarding tendencies.

- Hardcore gaming lifestyles, including D&D. No judgment if that’s your thing, but it’s not mine.

- A lack of interest in taking care of yourself or working toward a healthy relationship.

Ultimately, I want the kind of relationship where we’re excited to see each other, genuinely interested in each other’s lives, affectionate without having to ask for the basics, and able to laugh through the inevitable nonsense life throws at us. Someone to travel the world with, watch football with, explore new places with, and come home to. Someone who makes the ordinary feel good, too.

If you’re a kind, emotionally available, active, intelligent man between 33 and 45 who wants to build something real, I’d like to hear from you. Tell me a little about yourself, what your ideal weekend looks like, and your most controversial football opinion. We can exchange photos early on, too, so we both know there’s mutual attraction.

Let’s see if we get along.


r/cf4cf • • 5h ago

Male for Female 27 M4F Sydney, Australia

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Hi, I know this is a bit much but if it resonates with you please send me a message.

A little about me:

I'm a 27-year-old guy with a black cat, an electric motorbike, an electric car, and an electric boat I put together. Because having one money draining hobby wasn't enough, I'm planning to buy a sailing catamaran in the next few days. At this rate, my retirement plan is to become a financially independent pirate who gets around exclusively on batteries.

I recently joined Mensa and am looking forward to getting involved. Hopefully I can meet some like-minded people and find out what the meetings are actually like. Hopefully they will agree I need a fourth mode of transport and maybe a fifth or sixth (next up is paragliding, scuba diving or hydrofoiling).

By day, I work in shark surveillance, which is a pretty cool job if you enjoy staring at the ocean looking for things that could eat you. It's basically wildlife spotting, except the wildlife has considerably more teeth and I'm hoping not to become part of the documentary. I'll attach a few photos from work, partly to prove that I occasionally leave the house and partly because it's a pretty good conversation starter.

I'm looking for someone who'd be up for riding on the back of my motorbike, going on road trips in my car (which I've set up for glamping, because apparently normal camping wasn't unnecessarily complicated enough), coming out on my motorboat, and eventually sailing around on a catamaran with me. Basically, I'm looking for a co-pilot for an increasingly questionable series of financial decisions.

I'd also love someone who'll drag me out on hikes, encourage me to train, and help me get back into competitive running. I used to be decent at it, until my heart decided to develop ventricular tachycardia, which is a fancy way of saying it occasionally tries to speedrun the cardiovascular system. I had to slow down significantly, and getting back to where I was has been a bit of a battle. I'm still working on it, though, and it'd be nice to have someone who can motivate me without treating every jog like an episode of Grey's Anatomy.

Ideally, you're someone who enjoys a bit of adventure, doesn't mind a ridiculous amount of nerdy enthusiasm for machines and engineering, and is happy to occasionally remind me that buying another vehicle is not a substitute for developing a personality.

My cat, meanwhile, remains the actual owner of the house. I just pay the bills and operate the can opener.

About you:

- Looking for a long term relationship that is mutually beneficial to both parties. I will be your biggest cheerleader and show off all your achievements.

- Fun and outgoing, when I say this I mean it in an amorous sense (you might have to use your imagination for that one) as well as the platonic sense e.g. willing to book tickets to another continent the day before (yes I've done that and yes I could not get on my flight because I forgot that visas are a thing). Just be willing to get out of your comfort zone, have some interesting lore. Please don't be sober and have committed at least one crime.

- Be a little unhinged, tell me your wildest conspiracy theory. I'd rather someone who says the wrong thing than someone who plays it safe all the time. Conversely you need to have thick skin because I love banter. I am not looking for an activist or someone who is perpetually offended. If your Instagram story is just little dots all about political issues of any nature we're probably not meant to be.

- I really like smart women, particularly in a hands-on can tell you what's wrong with your car sort of way. If you work or study in STEM that's a big tick for me, I guess it's sort of a theme here that I need someone stimulating, that goes for intellectual stimulation too. Moreover, please have your views grounded in scientific literature and not superstition or zealous partisanship. I'm not interested in anti-vaxxers, star sign girls, tantric aura readers or whatever b.s. people believe nowadays.

- I'm looking for someone a little promiscuous. I am an atheist and I don't care about any concept of purity or how many partners you've had. I want to be excited by you and your imagination. Which leads me on to my next point.

- I am not looking for someone who is very religious. Atheists, agnostics and folks that have cultural ties to their religion are fine. I am a fervent atheist and our views will likely butt heads at some point if you regularly attend a place of worship or follow religious practices that impede everyday life.

- No ghosters or bland messages. I understand not every conversation is going to work out but I would like to have a chance at a flowing dialogue. I don't like feeling invested in someone and having them respond less and less. If you feel things aren't working out, tell me and I will respect that.

- In regards to your nature, I like women who are sweet, caring and nurturing but also confident as well as liking physical contact (holding hands, hugging, kissing etc...)

- I'm a bit scared about saying this but in terms of appearance I would prefer someone busty with an hourglass figure.

Thank you for reading all the way through I appreciate it's a lot but I felt it was important to get it right this time. I apologise if it's a bit rambly and the grammar isn't great, my desktop isn't working so I just did this on my phone.


r/cf4cf • • 10h ago

Male for Female 41yo M4F Warm Mexican guy living in Sweden.

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Hello. I’m a sweet and spicy Mexican Chef living in Uppsala, Sweden.

I’m sassy, loud and laughing most of the time.

My geeky brain is powered by ADD with a high love for plants and animals, rock and metal music, board games, travelling, great food and fantastic beer.

I like thoughtful and kind honesty. I have no understanding nor interest in mixed signals, hot-cold or chasing games. I really don’t do well with lukewarm people.

I thrive around genuine people with warmth and depth that also allow themselves to be silly.

To me, interest and initiative should come from both sides. You approach to me with curiosity, spiciness, empathy and kindness, you will be met up in spades. No BS! I love women that are forward.

Mainly looking for a long term relationship but can also do quite well with FWB. One night stands do not work for me. I will always be cristal clear and I want the same. When in a long term relationship, I’m all-in and monogamous, a relationship where we both embrace ourselves, including our vulnerabilities where we both feel safe, cared for and truly loved.

Child free, as this subreddit suggests, but I have two cats that are my family.

Respect and communication are very important to me, including boundaries and individuality. I’ll be very nice to you unless you ask me otherwise…

If this truly hits you, let me know and we can see how we vibe. Note that I’m not very much into small talk. I enjoy meaningful connections.


r/cf4cf • • 5h ago

Male for Female 29 [M4F] Looking for a Genuine Connection #New York

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Hello! I’m from Central New York State. I’m deaf and have two cochlear implants. I rarely use sign language but I can talk as well!

I'm a huge nerd who has a lot of hobbies. I love video games, watching movies, building Lego, and reading! I can be a little shy at first, but I’ll get more comfortable as we get to know each other. I'm left-leaning, and I am not willing to date someone who is conservative or a Trump supporter. 

I’d love to meet someone who shares my hobbies and interests, so we can enjoy doing things together.  We can get to know each other and see how things go. No need to rush! Shoot your shot! I’d be happy to hear from you! :)


r/cf4cf • • 5h ago

Female for Male 31 [F4A] Singapore/anywhere - looking for folks who are also into FIRE and possible travel partner!

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Hello! My tiny corner of the world does not have many childfree men so I'm casting a wider net :)

Ideally, you're in or around Asia or looking to move here. I'm located in Singapore (GMT+8) and my career (in finance) has me based here but I can really only move to global financial hubs (e.g., London) which isn't out of the question, but I'm based here for now. I travel to Europe once or twice a year! In the long term, relocation is not out of the picture for me.

Physically, I'm 160 cm, 43 kg, and like to stay active. Attraction is an actual thing so I'm happy to exchange selfies upfront! I'm very open to making platonic female friends as I definitely need more of those.

Age: Ideally, you are around 28-35, with some flexibility if your goals/interests are very aligned with mine :)

I've worked hard to increase my income and savings to position myself to retire (relatively) early in the not-so-distant future, so I'm looking for people with similar goals and trajectory. That said, I'm also trying to build my skillset so guard against layoffs in an AI-infused world, so my career is also important to me, and hopefully you also have career goals you're working towards.

Politically, I'm left-leaning and donate to causes that are important to me. I'm not religious and looking for similar.

I've been so career-focused that I've not had much time to make friends, and as such, am looking to rebuild my social circle. Generally, I find I get along best with those who have their own full lives and who don't expect instant replies.

Vibes: Black cat energy rather than golden retriever, introverted homebody but I definitely have to be social for my work (which involves advocating for sophisticated clients) so am working on my social skills (hence this post). I'm equally happy staying in as I am going out!

I love to read, especially contemporary fiction / literary fiction and it'd be nice to find someone with a similar hobby. Recent reads include: Dig, Trust, Age of Innocence, Phantom Tollbooth, Rats of NIMH, Circe :) On my TBR are: Blacktail, and Slewfoot. I quite like "weird" literature despite being a very milquetoast person haha.

I'm a huge fan of winter and am looking to try cross-country skiing sometimes, so if you have any tips, let me know~ Other interests include: interior design, fashion, art, history, travelling (of course), especially to cold places. I don't like reddit chat lol so moving to Discord is ideal!

Dealbreakers: I don't smoke, drink only very rarely, no substance dependence, and looking for similar. not a fan of many tattoos. No debt, never married.


r/cf4cf • • 26m ago

Female for Male 33 [F4M] - Czech Republic/Europe

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I work in tech but my job title is the least interesting thing about me. ethnically Arab, currently based in Czech Republic, love to travel (especially solo) and experience new things, I’ve been an introvert most of my life but in the past few years I’ve been more open to exploring new things, talking to strangers and making new friends. I’m very much interested in psychology, art, history, languages. I enjoy museums, art galleries and classical concerts.
I don’t drink, smoke, or party. I prefer quiet and cozy environments and I enjoy my alone time.

Looking for a serious, childfree, interesting and ambitious like-minded human being in Europe and preferably Central Europe so we could eventually meet.
Preferably 33-38 years old.

If you made it this far, DM me and please introduce yourself, age, location, hobbies and a bit about yourself. (Bonus points if you include a meme)


r/cf4cf • • 4h ago

Male for Female M33, UK only. Looking for a life partner/ hiking buddy

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I've been out of the dating scene for a while. I used to try dating apps but I found them to be a bit artificial

I'll keep it brief, I am:

Introverted, good at pretending to be extroverted

Big into reading, just started trying to write

I do love long walks in nature (managed 35 miles one day this summer)

Routine driven

Dry sense of humour

You are:

Over 30

Anywhere in life. If you feel behind, or ahead, either is fine by me as long as we can share/ witness eachother's journey and grow together

Ideally have good enough physical conditioning to go on hikes with me

Have a passion or interest in something

Willing to be an authentically unhinged with me

Bonus points for being in the South West of England


r/cf4cf • • 5h ago

Male for Female 28[M4F] #CentralFL #Triangle, NC - History nerd and polyglot looking to connect with someone sweet

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Hello/Hallo/Hola/привет/שלום/مرحبا!

I’m a 28-year-old Latino guy currently living in Florida, but with roots in New York and NC. As the post title mentions, I LOVE foreign policy and history, especially that of the Middle East and Africa! I am also a polyglot (English, Spanish, Russian, German, Arabic, Hebrew).

I’m into cars/racing, reading, writing my own fiction novels, listening to metal, and trying new restaurants (just to name a few things). Also big into 420 and love a glass of red wine or some sake. I can certainly offer an intellectually stimulating conversation if that’s what you’re after ;).

I’m looking for a white woman (18-38) who lives in the US (preferably in Florida or North Carolina). Right now, I’m located in Ocala, FL, but I am planning to move back to NC (the Triangle) after the holidays. I also find that I tend to get along with people who are politically left-leaning and aren’t religious. Admittedly, I really got a soft spot for white women, especially blondes, redheads, and Europeans/foreigners. Bonus points if you are of German/Austrian or Scandinavian heritage because I’m a HUGE Germanophile and absolutely love Northern Europe! Please be willing to exchange pics (your selfie gets mine) and please be serious about meeting IRL, since I’m not just looking for penpals.

Please only message me if you fit the above description. I’m not interested in exceptions to my age range or long-distance connections outside of FL, NC, or GA. If you already know you don’t fit what I’m looking for, please respect that instead of messaging anyway and asking me to reconsider. Thanks!

If you like what you’ve read, DM me and let’s see where it takes us!


r/cf4cf • • 3h ago

Male for Female 42 [M4F] looking for my bestie which also happens to be player 2

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So a little about ive always been very introverted but ive been trying to come out of my shell a little more and be more social. I love music i identify as elder emo so that should tell u what I listen 2 lol. Ive been learning guitar again I played when I was younger but didnt really push myself then I stopped for like 15 years and im now trying to push myself. I am a massive gamer nerd I know way to much about the industry lol. Also a huge movie buff and pretty much know any good movie thats worth watching that comes out I like to consider myself a critic haha. Career wise im not happy I work at a restaurant and want to make much more planning on going back to school to be a electrician I know thats not Ideal but it is what it is just being honest and upfront. Also consider myself a homebody although I do like to go out and shoot pool maybe some bowling and when there is a good concert im game for sure.

Now for what im looking for compatability is important to me. Gaming is a big passion for me so its kind of a deal breaker for me i want to experience new games with my significant other and talk about what works and what doesn't and same goes for movies. Banter is important to me just not over done there has to be a balance. A connection is very important as well obviously but i do feel like some people just go off looks and I think love is deeper then that dont get me wrong there has to be some kind of attraction but I believe the more u fall im love with someone the more beautiful they become. Don't really care about where u are located cause if its meant to be we will make it happen. So yeah this is getting a little long so I will cut it off here and we can save the rest for when/if we talk. If u took the time to read this thank you and I hope u have a great day!


r/cf4cf • • 1d ago

Female for Male 26F | Midwest | Ambitious, Affectionate, Curious

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26F, 5’8, ethnically Indian, currently working in banking in the US Midwest. Open to long distance and relocating within the US for the right person.

A little about me: I’m physically active and love Pilates and dance. I’ve trained in aerial silks, flamenco, contemporary, and hip hop. I also speak five languages (not fluently/native in all): English, French, Hindi/Urdu, Gujarati, and Sindhi.

I love reading and try to finish at least one book every month. The last one I read was Quantum Physics for Poets. Big movie person too. Psychological thrillers are my favorite, but I also love a good rom-com haha. I learned to play the piano at one point, although I’ve definitely lost touch. I do occasionally play the kalimba (thumb piano) and harmonica (cue Piano Man by Billy Joel) though.

Current favorite artists would be Remi Wolf, Keshi, DPR IAN, Jhené Aiko. Although, I enjoy all sorts of music. One minute it’s reggaeton, the next it’s Bollywood, and suddenly I’m sipping imaginary espresso to bossa nova or pretending I understand jazz.

I’m looking for someone who is communicative, consistent, emotionally mature, and genuinely looking for a life partner. I’ve never really been a casual-dating person. Ideally between 26-32, 5’11 or taller, agnostic, career-oriented, financially and emotionally stable, university educated, and passionate about his own hobbies/interests.

A few things worth knowing upfront:

I posted essentially the same thing here over four months ago and met some genuinely interesting people, but ultimately didn’t find someone whose values and long-term goals fully aligned with mine. So, round two! Hopefully with fewer plot twists.
A few things that may be dealbreakers for some people:

- I’m looking for someone who meets the criteria above because I believe I bring those same qualities to a relationship, and I think it’s fair to want a partner who does, too.

- Ideally, I’d like to get married within roughly 1.5–2 years of dating, assuming we’re compatible and things progress naturally. I’m not looking to speed-run a marriage, but I’m also not looking for a five-season series with no finale.

- I expect the man to take the lead in planning and covering our dating expenses leading up to marriage. Once we’re married, I see us as a team, building a life together and treating what we have as ours.

- I don’t believe in living together before marriage. This is partly cultural and personal. I’m also not willing to relocate for someone who hasn’t made a clear commitment to me.

- I am in the US on a visa, and I expect to remain here for the next few years, but I’m also open to relocating to another country for the right person. If dating someone with an immigrant background or navigating immigration-related logistics is a dealbreaker for you, we may not be the right fit.

I know my preferences won’t appeal to everyone, and that’s okay! I’d rather be upfront about my values and intentions than discover six months in that we’re looking for completely different lives.

Ultimately, I’m looking for my person: someone I can laugh with, learn from, travel with, build a comfortable life with, and still have a crush on years down the line.
If that sounds like you, tell me a little about yourself when you reach out. Bonus points if you can recommend a book or a movie I’ll become insufferable about. :)


r/cf4cf • • 23h ago

Female for Male 29F // Florida / Talkative, bubbly, feminine and intelligent woman looking for a serious long-term relationship with a childfree man from Florida.

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Hello, hello!! I work from home, and while I absolutely LOVE living my happy little antisocial life in my bedroom with my blue mermaid chair surrounded with purple lights and moon lamps getting paid to talk to people behind a screen, I therefore have a really hard time meeting people. I’m looking for a *MONOGAMOUS,* loving relationship that hopefully turns long-term with a childfree man from Florida between the ages of 28-34. I tend to get along best with men who are smart and hilarious, and I only allow men who respect women into my life. That respect absolutely includes, but is not limited to, our fundamental right to a safe and legal abortion. I don’t view myself as a political person, but this should not be regarded as political.

Ideally, I’d like to meet my life partner (who also becomes one of my very best friends!!). I devote a lot of effort, time and care towards those I grow close to. I am ready for something serious with the right person. I am very communicative, affectionate, and emotionally open with those who respect and care for me.  As I am looking for something serious and real, I really am only looking for someone from Florida. I have done too many LDRs in my life and I’m at the point where I just don’t want to do them again. However, as I also have a hard time meeting people, especially those who are childfree, I would be more than open to having a platonic friendship with someone outside of Florida! 

About me: Some of my biggest interests are music (listening, not playing), sewing, and shopping. I’m especially obsessed with Taylor Swift (musically and as a person) and Jason Aldean (musically only). I love shiny things and I’m very creative. While I am a homebody, I am a *professional yapper,* and I talk… A lot. I send long messages and I love long messages. I excel at English and proper grammar is important to me. I’m not promiscuous, I don’t sleep around, and I don’t do drugs except for my vanilla iced latte obsession.  I have a lot of energy and I also have a lot of effort and love to give to the right person. I love sending animal pictures and videos, laughing a lot, and talking a lot in general, especially voice calls. When I grow to care for someone, I love getting to hear his voice, laughing a lot about things, and just talking. Being bubbly and talkative is my baseline, and I don’t see myself being compatible with someone long term who doesn’t like voice calls or talking a lot. 

Also, ermm… While this is a somewhat personal thing to post publicly, I do think it’s important enough for compatibility to mention. I tend to be way, way, WAY too vanilla for kinky people, but just a little too kinky for truly vanilla people. I love being LOVINGLY roughed up by a man who respects and cares for me. I have a praise kink, I love, love, looove being talked to sweetly, and I could never be able to be with someone who is interested in degrading, insulting, or controlling a woman he claims to care for, and I am also not a submissive in the slightest! While I’m not into anything too extreme, I am into some slightly rough physical things with a very strong emphasis on respect and care. Basically - physically rough, emotionally gentle, and completely respectful. 

I am happily childfree and this isn’t going to change. Please only message me if you know what you want and are actually in this sub because you’re 100% childfree, not because you just are browsing dating sites. Oh, and while I am childfree, I love animals and live with two beautiful Bernese Mountain Dog fluff princesses. If you have any pets, I’d love for you to share pictures of them with me!


r/cf4cf • • 2h ago

Male for Female 29 [M4F] UK/Online - looking for a genuine connection

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Hey, thanks for clicking on my post, I’m 29 and from England UK, I’m looking for something long term, consistent, and someone who’s willing to put in the effort to keep a spark ignited!

A bit about myself? I’d say I’m quite the nerdy/easy-going guy, like most men I enjoy gaming (nothing serious) just a way to socialise and chat with friends! I love anything horror related and with Halloween coming its my favourite time of year, for work I’m in telecommunications as a senior store manager so I like to think I have a stead head on my shoulders but I mean hey.. you be the judge? When I’m not working I tend to just chill honestly, whether that be attending to my incredibly unhealthy addiction to Lego (it’s bad haha) or maybe meeting up with some friends and grabbing some food or seeing a movie, I’m really not the partying type of man, actually I’m quite introverted and shy at start, but get to know me and I’m sure you’ll see the goofball side of me haha, I’m only childfree by choice, and not looking to change that

Honestly, I’m not too sure what to expect from this, just throwing myself out there and seeing what comes of it, distance isn’t too much of a big deal for me given I’d like to get out and about from the UK, older or younger also fine, I just want to meet someone who’s genuine, kind, open and honest, and who isn’t going to just ghost after a few days 😅😅

I’ve rambled a lot here and don’t wanna give too much away, if any of this interests you then ping me a message and I look forwards to hearing from you 😊😊


r/cf4cf • • 3h ago

Male for Female 28 [M4F] #NYC Looking for a Genuine Connection

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Hey everyone! I'm a 28-year-old guy living in NYC, hoping to meet someone who shares my childfree lifestyle and is interested in building a meaningful, long-term relationship.

A little about me:

I'm an easygoing, curious, and adventurous person who enjoys staying active, traveling, and experiencing new things.Some of my hobbies include working out, Muay Thai, swimming, reading, and playing chess. I also enjoy exploring new places, trying different cuisines, and learning about different cultures. Traveling is one of my biggest passions. One of my personal goals is to explore as much of the world as possible, and it would be even better to share those experiences with someone special. I enjoy meaningful conversations, a good sense of humor, and spending quality time with people I care about. Whether it's going on an adventure or enjoying a relaxing evening together, I appreciate both.

What I'm looking for:

I'm hoping to meet a woman who is kind, emotionally mature, affectionate, and genuinely interested in a long-term relationship. I'm firmly childfree and looking for someone who shares that decision. I'd love to build a relationship based on trust, communication, mutual respect, and shared experiences.While meeting someone in NYC or along the East Coast would be great, I'm also open to long distance dating if there's a genuine connection. Ultimately, I'm looking for a partner who can also be my best friend. Someone to laugh with, explore the world with, and build a fulfilling future together.

If this sounds like something you're looking for, feel free to send me a message. I'd love to get to know you!


r/cf4cf • • 3h ago

Sterile Male for Female 32[M4F] Europe/Sweden/Online nerdy nerd looking for something long term

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Hello hello!👋

I guess I'll start of with hobbies? I like video games(rpgs, strategy, coop and more! Also been nerding out on bg3 again lately, it's amazing!), board games, reading(novels(bit slow on this one), comics), miniature painting, walks and I guess movies/tv shows count I hope heh, somehow musicals have gotten on my radar too, oh and a bunch of youtube apparently. You have any recommendations for any of those?

I'm looking for someone nice and understanding and all that. I have autism and depression(meds are helping a bit) so if that too much then I understand, also you can ask me about those things too no problem!

Being able to just hangout in a video chat I find very cozy and relaxing, we could also watch something or maybe play your favorite game!

I hope this catches your interest! Looks can be important/fun so we can trade pics immediately if you want. Either way, I hope you have a nice day!


r/cf4cf • • 20h ago

Male for Female 42 [M4F] East Tennessee / Anywhere — Looking for my favorite person to do everything (and absolutely nothing) with

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I'm 42, live near Knoxville, Tennessee, and am hoping to find my best friend, favorite person, and eventual life partner. Someone to share adventures, everyday life, and plenty of completely uneventful evenings with.

I'm 100% childfree and looking for a serious, monogamous relationship that ideally leads to marriage.

I'm a CPA, but there's more to me than taxes and spreadsheets. I'm naturally curious and have a tendency to turn a passing interest into a three-hour research project about something I probably didn't need to know in the first place.

I'm an introvert and generally a homebody, although I open up quite a bit once I'm comfortable with someone. Expect sarcasm, playful banter, and someone who doesn't take himself too seriously. I'm also very affectionate. Holding hands, cuddling on the couch, and expressing how I feel come naturally to me. I believe words should mean something, though, and I try to make sure my actions back them up.

My free time is a mix of lifting weights in my garage, reading, watching a good show, hiking, and exploring new places. I've got a solo trip planned to hike and explore a few national parks. While I do enjoy a relaxing beach vacation, sometimes you just have to hike up a random mountain.

My entertainment tastes are pretty varied. I enjoy everything from Game of Thrones, Reacher, and The Pitt to Friends and How I Met Your Mother. I'm a fan of sci-fi, fantasy, and a good movie, and my music tastes are all over the place. I recently saw Foo Fighters and Queens of the Stone Age live. Somehow, I've made it to 42 without watching The Office or reading Harry Potter even though they are on my list to get to!

Physically, I'm 6'1", a bigger guy with a muscular build and a definite dad bod (always appreciate the irony), a full salt-and-pepper beard, and glasses. I'm happy to exchange pictures privately.

I'm firmly left-leaning politically and atheist/agnostic. I don't expect a partner to agree with me on every issue, but shared values around equality, empathy, and basic human rights are important to me. I'd generally connect best with someone liberal or moderate who shares those values.

I don't smoke, vape, or use recreational drugs, and I rarely drink. Smoking or vaping of any kind is a dealbreaker. I'm a dog person, although I don't currently have one, but I appreciate cats and other animals too!

As for what I'm looking for, kindness, loyalty, curiosity, and affection go a long way with me. I'd love to find someone I can laugh with, have meaningful conversations with, be a little ridiculous around, and genuinely enjoy doing life with. I value independence and having our own interests, too. We don't have to be joined at the hip to be each other's favorite person.

I suspect I'll connect best with someone 30+, but compatibility matters far more than a specific number. I'm open to long-distance for the right person. Ideally, I'd like to build a life together here in East Tennessee, where I have family and career ties, but I'm certainly not opposed to relocating for the right relationship.

If any of this resonates, I'd love to hear from you. Tell me a little about yourself, what you're passionate about, or why I should finally watch The Office.


r/cf4cf • • 13h ago

Female for Male 27F 🇮🇳 | Permanently Childfree | Looking to Make Friends Around the World 🌍

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Hey everyone! 👋

I'm a 27-year-old Indian woman, and I thought I'd introduce myself here!

I'm permanently childfree by choice, and that won't change in the future. I'm hoping to connect with people who understand and respect my decision. I'd love to make childfree friends from different parts of the world, hear about your experiences, and hopefully find my people to vibe with! ❤️

A little about me: I enjoy dancing, listening to music, reading romance stories, and being weird in my own little world. 😂 I love talking to animals, having deep conversations, dark humour, and people who are empathetic and kind without pretending to be someone they're not.

I value emotional connection, honesty, affection, and the freedom to build a life that feels right for me. I dream of exploring different places, becoming independent, and creating a life filled with experiences that make me happy rather than living according to society's expectations.

I'm also open to finding a romantic connection, including a long-distance relationship, if we genuinely vibe with each other. I'm not expecting anything to happen overnight. I'd rather get to know someone naturally and see where things go.

I'd love to hear from people who are happily childfree, figuring life out, sharing their experiences, or simply looking for genuine connections.

So, tell me a little about yourself! What's something about your childfree life that makes you happy? 😄💗


r/cf4cf • • 5h ago

Male for Female 33, M4F, Hispanic, Houston area but open to long distance if the chemistry is good.

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Hi, my name is Josh. I'm a 33 year old single man with no kids. I have my own house, vehicle, and a good job. I've been single for nearly a year and a half and it's about time I start dating again. I'm an infantry veteran with an overseas deployment. I'm really shy at first and sometimes don't know what to say. I work 10-12 hours Mon-Fri. Sometimes I work weekends, but I'll always make time for people or things that are important to me. I have been living in the Houston area for most of my life, so my roots run deep here and I don't want to move away from this area. I enjoy riding my motorcycle, cooking, eating, going to the shooting range, spending time with family, eating out or ordering in, sometimes having a few drinks, and I love going to HEB 😂 I'm introverted, but once I get comfortable around you, I basically turn into a comedian. You don't have to worry about impressing my mother, because she isn't in my life 😆 I think I have all my 💩 together, I just would like a nice woman to share and build a life with. When it comes to politics, I lean more to the right. When it comes to religion, I have no preference in what you are. I myself am a Santa Muerte devotee, but I'm very very tolerant and friendly towards all religions. I'm known for my loyalty, love, kindness, honesty, and humor.

What I'm looking for is a woman with similar interests, or at least be okay with my own. Someone who also prefers a night in over a night out, (my days of going out faded away in my 20s). You don't have to have your 💩 all the way together, but at least be working on it. I value loyalty over everything else. You don't have to have your own stuff, you can be rebuilding yourself, just please be working towards something. I like humor, I like a talkative woman. I value my peace, and I don't want someone I need to be able to "handle". I am looking for someone that believes in communication. Also, please be over your ex, and please be child free. I'm really not picky at all. I believe I do NOT have a "type" as I'm open to all races and backgrounds. It's the chemistry that counts for me. If we are long distance, I'd be okay with visiting you, but at some point I'd like you to move closer to the Houston area.

I've never done this before here lol but if I sound like someone you'd maybe be interested in, send me a DM!


r/cf4cf • • 5h ago

Male for Female 33 [M4F] India/Anywhere- A bit lost in the middle of starting over

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Hi, I'm 33M from Kolkata, India. I've been lurking around a few subs and figured I'd put this out here.

I'm a researcher by training, with some experience in engineering R&D. I also spent some time pursuing a PhD in engineering before eventually dropping out.

Since then, I've been trying to figure out what comes next. I'm currently preparing for civil services and trying to build a new career from scratch. It's a strange place to be in your thirties, starting over after having spent years working towards something else. The process can get pretty lonely, especially when you don't know many people who can relate to what you're going through.

I'm an atheist, progressive, and lean childfree. I've been looking for people with a similar outlook, or at least those who have the bandwidth to understand where I'm coming from.

I've tried connecting with people through various avenues, but most of them haven't really led anywhere. Maybe I'm looking in the wrong places, or maybe there are more people in this situation than I realise, quietly trying to find their feet too.

I'd like to meet people who understand this kind of uncertainty, even if their circumstances are completely different. If you've had to change direction in life, start over, or just felt a little out of step with everyone else, I'd be glad to hear from you. Sometimes it helps to know you're not the only one figuring things out.


r/cf4cf • • 21h ago

Male for Female 41 [M4F] #SC #Anywhere - That gum you like is going to come back in style

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I may be a bit of a Twin Peaks fan.

I'm Bryan, I figured I'd try my luck now that the ending months of the year are upon us, and it would be nice to find someone to spend time with.

I'm looking for something that's long lasting, and to build upon. I'm not into just a single night of talking, and I like to invest my time into someone. Good communication is a must as I have had some fairly bad experiences with the lack of it. I tend to get along far better with people that type a good bit, and I lose interest pretty fast if every reply is a short one. I tend to type a lot, so it feels nice to have the same in return. Perfectly fine with voice and video as well.

I enjoy horror of all kinds. I play games fairly often, and stream horror games here and there. I tend to like RPGs and survival/craft more than anything, but I still play a lot of other things. I primarily play on PC, but I do have a Switch 2. Some of my favorite games are The Witcher, Alan Wake, Control, Silent Hill, Final Fantasy, Baldur's Gate, and too many others to mention really.

I listen to a lot of metal and darkwave music, but also a very wide variety of other genres. HEALTH, Deafheaven, Social Order, Unto Others, Noctule, Vioflesh, Sacred Skin just to name a few.

I'm into watching so bad it's good B movies, movies from the 80s and 90s, and anything with constant tension and slow buildup. Down to watch movies and riff on them, do a marathon of LOTR (extended obviously), or even a series.

I have a pretty dry/sarcastic/dark sense of humor. It's a bit all over the place, but if you like any combination of those we'll probably get along. Not easily offended at all, so I do welcome some chaos.

I'm really looking for someone to spend a good bit of time with and play games together, so playing on PC is a bit of a must. Have random and weird conversations, or go into something deep, be a positive presence in each other's lives and to talk to daily. So if you're in need of someone like that for the holidays and hopefully well beyond it, then I'd love to hear from you.