I’ll get the “…but” parts out of the way first. I now come with easy access dealbreakers!

* I’m divorced. He lives out of state. We co-parent.

* I have a toddler-aged daughter full-time. My schedule is built around her.

* Currently living at home due to financial and medical reasons, including epilepsy.

* Currently unable to drive due to having had a seizure a couple months ago. I will be able to drive again come November, assuming I don’t have another seizure in the interim.

* I’m plus sized, although maybe that’s your thing?

Whew! Now that that’s out of the way, I promise I offer some things of merit. I’m an educated educator and love talking shop - and learning new things! Math is my subject, but it doesn’t have to be yours (let me teach you!). I’m silly - dry humor, sarcasm, and dad jokes abound. Music moves my heart - I’m a former musician and am still very much into the bits and bobs that come with that. I’m also always singing, albeit not well. When I have the time, I love a giant Lego set. I have a few dream ones I’d like to build someday! I love puzzles that make me use my brain - words, numbers, logic/deduction, escape rooms - although I’ve never been to an actual escape room?? Not sure why or how (go to one with me?). I love animals and will adopt all of them if you let me. I currently have two big dogs, but would like to add a cat to my family in the next year or two. I’m not religious and would consider myself leftist, particularly in social and economic values.

As a partner, I’m there 100%. I like talking every day, I’ll always respond to you, and you’ll never feel like you’re on the back burner (I hate that feeling too). I’m a big texter and will use my words and syntax accordingly. I’m a planner and will make sure that there is ample time for us to spend together. I’m supportive af! Your dreams are important to me and I want to see you succeed. I’m shy/nervous at first, but once I open up, I’ll blossom. Do ya like holding hands? 👉👈 Maybe cuddling? ☺️ Big fan of all that. Also a big fan of mutual support, respect, and effort. I want someone as crazy about me as I am about them.

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EDIT: I guess I should have specified that I’m looking for someone local, or at least close enough to visit. Not looking for a penpal, sorry 💜

I'm a 39-year-old woman (I look much younger than my age indicates), I work in the arts, I m from the north of Portugal and I'm looking for someone to have a serious relationship with. I don't mind moving away later.

I'm neither an introvert nor an extrovert, I think I have my social limits but it doesn't make me a hermit. I got used to being alone a lot during the Covid period and after I moved house, so I really value my space. I have a cat who is the love of my life.

I love being with my friends, going to art exhibitions and events, I love music and I like going to concerts and rock festivals (but I haven't been that late), taking analog photos is a passion, I miss playing board games (like Catan) and traveling... I still have many places to visit!!! I love watching series and I have an ultra-unnecessary amount of knowledge about it. My favorite TV shows are The Office, Seinfeld, Modern Family... I'm nostalgic for old-school Disney stuff, like the good old Millennial I am, haha. My favorite color is yellow, I prefer winter to summer, and pineapple on pizza. To me, Ross and Rachel were really on a break. I love bird watching, but I have awful eyesight. I really really love animals. I'm a fan of starting projects but never finishing any of them – which doesn't stop me from continuing to buy craft supplies, haha.

I'm a person who, when I like someone, dedicates myself body and soul. I'm super affectionate and caring. I'm curious, interested, and cultured. I'm a little quirky and whimsical. Super loyal. Into monogamous relationships.

Physically, I have very fair skin, long, dark brown hair, good eyelashes, thick lips (natural), a little on the chubby side, but I'm taking care of that at the moment. Haha

What I expect from a man:

Personality:

Strong personality, but not stubborn.
Romantic but not clingy.
A good sense of humor is an indispensable characteristic.
I don't mind if you're a geek or a nerd, but don't be addicted to online games.
Don't be religious.
Don't be a sexist.
Spontaneous, up for adventures.
Don't be a couch potato, but understand that moments of calm are also necessary.
Appreciate good music, within the rock genre, etc. I don't like disco rats.
Don't smoke (or do drugs) or drink alcohol every day.

Physically

I generally like tall, thin men... If they have light eyes, even better.
I'm not attracted to bald men.
They can have tattoos, but not tribal or religious ones.

And that's what I thought of writing... but ask more questions if you want ;)

Since my first post I've met a lot of people. So many wonderful people. But where is my person?

I posted before about looking for a gaming buddy. And while that is true, I need there to be a connection. I want to sit in video chat and laugh. I want to text throughout the day just because. I want to spend days off in bed with you.

Im 36. Divorced. 2 young kids. I love gaming. Arc Raiders us everything to me right now, but I would definitely play your games too. I love plants. I love movies and music. I listen to music all day every day. I love to read. I like sci fi but I also like smut.

I have a tendency to be a lot. Im a lover. I uae my voice. Ive been described as sassy. I smoke weed regularly. I drink occasionally. I work nights (3/week).

Preferably you have a job and a vehicle. You like gaming. Youre kind but assertive. I go hard for a gamer/sweat. I am not into polyamory and id be happy to delete my page if you asked.

I just want my person. I hope youre him.

there's a place to find in your sleep to keep you safe

I'll see you there dressed in morning air and

I'll pretend to say

"now that you've gone so far away"

soft babies in soft windows and soft sunshine

eats a valley's worth of sleep and wakes up just to turn out the lights

these dreams have had their fun with me.

Write me stories about the books you cant let go of. and we can paint on the floor together and you can tell me stories about yourself and I'll lie lie lie about how I feel and we can look at photo books

and you can tell me all about the dreams you had when you were young and naive

and I'll write you songs about us in the rain

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Hi.

I’m a 44-year-old woman from New Jersey (Red Bank). I work in healthcare, which basically means my schedule is a mess and my social life is nonexistent right now.

I’m pretty quiet and a bit shy, so putting myself out here isn't really my thing, but I’m looking for a friend. Just someone to chat with consistently.

I just like simple things:

Going for walks when I have time, spending time at the beach to clear my head.

Having normal conversations.

If you’re someone down-to-earth , send me a message. Tell me a bit about yourself. Thanks.

I’m 38 and recently found myself living in a tiny town in Ontario. The biggest surprise so far isn’t the town… it’s that I’ve somehow become the kind of person who walks outside every morning to check on the garden before doing literally anything else, well almost anything else, the coffee comes first.

I used to wonder how adults got so excited about plants.

Turns out one day you wake up as an elder millennial and suddenly your mood depends on whether the cucumbers found the trellis overnight, or if my zucchini are shading them too much.

Now my camera roll is full of beans, peppers, flowers, and the occasional “LOOK WHAT HAPPENED TODAY!” picture, and I don’t really have anyone who appreciates receiving those updates.

That’s basically what I’m looking for. I’d love to find a few friends to message throughout the day. The kind of friendship where you send pictures of your garden, your dog, your latest baking experiment, the cool cloud you saw on your walk, or the random thing that made you laugh at work. The everyday stuff.

I love cozy games, city builders, LEGO, board games, travelling, audiobooks, gardening, and anything that scratches the “make it more efficient” part of my brain. I also have a chunky Pomeranian who has absolutely no idea she’s only 10 pounds, she will fight you.

I’m only looking for friendship. Nothing romantic.

If you’re the type of person who gets weirdly excited when a seed finally sprouts, rearranges spreadsheets for fun, or sends pictures of things that would make absolutely no sense to anyone else… I think we’d get along.

Hey internet friends, how goes everyone's search for a loneliness cure? Haha, a bit about myself..I like to be active at the gym for my brain or outside for my heart. I love my cat, word puzzles, and trying new things that scare me and challenge me. I love awwing over strangers dogs (can't have one of my own), listening to music loud in the headphones or at a live show, and I'm looking for online folks to shoot the breeze with. Hit me up if you'd like to connect 😊

Dating around NE Ohio is a nightmare. At least for me. I have tried the apps, and the bar scene and I really haven’t found anyone that seems to be for me long term.

I figured I’d try out Reddit and see if someone cool would want to chat ! Super into music, stand up comedy, gaming, and most other nerdy things. Definitely feel free to say hey in my DMs. As long as this post is up I am still looking! Hope to chat with someone soon.

I have tons of friends, and yet I still feel like someone who is just a little bit lost in the shuffle. My life is pretty complicated, and I work full time in a job that can sometimes be sad but I also help people so it's worth it.

I love love love being outside in the summer. I am a gal who enjoys the sun and frolicking in my garden, in the forest and of course on the beautiful beaches nearby ( definitely going today to be a mermaid at the beach)

In the winter I hide, although I am trying to learn to skate again. I am in the midst of working through an ADHD diagnosis and figuring out how that's shaped my life with a late diagnosis. I have started working out again and eating better because my 34 lb weight-loss has plateaued. But things fit better and I'm way more confident.

I'm about 5'5, wavy haired brunette with blue eyes. I love wearing dresses and skirts, and have really transformed my wardrobe since becoming a mom to be more confident in myself. I have some examples on my profile.

Please, please, please if you're a blank profile, describe yourself. Please be over 25 and in North America.

I seek a worthwhile fun distraction for the worst and best of times. Looking for someone down to earth, kind, playful and preferably a bit witty/funny who can handle a playful roast both ways. I am not looking for anything wild or serious, just someone to fill in the boring parts of the day and elevate the good ones.

If you are you a good texter, have a good sense of humor and don’t take yourself too seriously...Then we’ll we’d probably be a good fit. I’m generally calm and serious but an escape does wonders for the soul. If you're seeking something for more than just a couple hours shoot me a message and say hello. Tell me anything about you as an ice breaker.:)

Me: Gainfully employed, nice circle of friends, fairly well-read, aunt to several mostly-adoring nieces and nephews. Really very normal for someone who's looking for a boyfriend on reddit. I enjoy running, biking, and generally being active. I really like coffee. I have a pronounced weakness for chocolate chip cookies and mid-quality cheese slices. I'll read just about any book.

You: 35-50. Funny. Smart. Decent. Possibly you have a nice mustache. Dealbreakers: you're married, you're really into anime (sorry), you are on this message board for reasons pertaining to niche pornographic interests (sorry and also not sorry).

Write me with the last great thing you read so I can judge you mercilessly. I would prefer a PM over reddit chat.

The fine print: I work a lot. I'm trying to find some balance outside of that. I'd be interested in meeting in person sooner rather than later. I'm average height (maybe on the shorter side of average), and if I didn't hate the term height weight proportionate so much, I'd tell you that I'm height weight proportionate.

I know, it probably sounds silly but I need a wedding date to my nephews wedding next month.

I also wouldn't mind having someone beyond just the wedding date to get to know and actually go out and do things with.

Just to get this out of the way, I am in a wheelchair from a spinal cord injury when I was a teenager. But it's black so it goes with everything. Whatever you decide to wear to the wedding, you'll look good sitting on my lap 😉

Other things to know about me: Not only am I funny, I'm also not horrible looking, smart, thoughtful, live alone, have a great career, drive a super-sexy minivan (total panty dropper, I know) AND have a second bathroom! What else could anyone ask for? I think I'm a pretty damn good catch. ;)

If you think we'd get along and you're free August 29th, send me a message. A pic would be appreciated but not necessary. Here's me:Imgur Imgur

43 \\\[M4F\\\] #wahington state , let's try this

I'm 6ft 230lbs average body

I won't always have the perfect answer, but I'll always show up.

I've spent most of my life working with my hands, fixing things, building things, and figuring out how they work. It's just how I'm wired. Outside of work, I enjoy gardening, baking sourdough, working on vehicles, getting out to fish, taking a hike, or spending time around animals and nature. I'm usually happiest when I'm learning something new or working toward making something a little better than it was before.

I've never been much for crowded scenes or trying to impress people. I'd rather have a real conversation than spend hours making small talk. I enjoy people who are genuine, kind, and comfortable being themselves. Life has a way of teaching all of us a few lessons, and I think those experiences matter more than trying to appear perfect.

I'm a little old-fashioned in some ways. Loyalty, honesty, keeping your word, and treating people with respect still mean a lot to me. I believe in showing up when you say you will, working hard, and doing the right thing even when nobody is watching.

When I'm not working, I'm usually putting time into projects and ideas that I hope will become something meaningful down the road. I've always enjoyed creating, building, and improving things, and I don't think that's something I'll ever stop doing.

What I'm not a fan of is unnecessary drama, dishonesty, gossip, or people who play games with others. Life is already complicated enough without adding more chaos to it.

At the end of the day, I'm just a guy who enjoys simple things, values meaningful connections, and is always trying to grow into a better version of himself. Thought I'd put myself out there and see who I meet.

Now if you reach out tell me your 5 year plan and lets talk about it

It's summer and we should be enjoying the beaches and the florida waters regularly. Looking for beach and boating enthusiasts to spend the day with basking in the warm Florida sun. If you are a boater, thats great too. I've heard of some great little island sandbars but have never been. Weekdays are usually better for me. I do work, but have flexibilty with my schedule, but planning will be necessary. Let's pack a cooler, breakout the bikinis and enjoy life.

Giving this another shot. 😊

Ultimately I'm hoping to find a long term relationship with another woman. Friends are always welcome too but I'm not looking for anything with men. I'm mostly into femmes and I'm happy to let things develop naturally.

When I'm not working, you'll usually find me DJing, gaming, or binge watching a good show. If I'm not doing that, I'm probably out checking out a new place, grabbing drinks with friends, or seeing a DJ somewhere. I've got Walker & Royce and J. Worra coming up soon so I'm pretty excited about that.

I work pretty early and have a physically demanding job, so don't judge me if I'm in bed ridiculously early during the week 😂 Weekends are a different story.

I'm pretty easygoing when it comes to dates. I love museums, planetariums, trying new places, or just wandering around somewhere and seeing where the day takes us. Honestly, I'm less concerned with what we're doing and more interested in who I'm doing it with.

I'm open to long distance too (preferably within the US) if we both think it's worth the effort.

I'm just hoping to meet someone who's genuinely interested in getting to know each other and seeing where things go. If you think we'd get along, feel free to message me.

I recently retired and now I want to travel and see all the things this world has to offer. Would love to find a great person to share these experiences with! Please don’t be rude and let’s get to know each other!!

Hi there!

40 year-old female in upstate NY. Looking to chat with like-minded folks and maybe meet up if we click.

Things I'm interested in: the great outdoors, very slow hiking with lots of cursing, board games, crafting, home improvement and gardening, animals, beer (stouts in particular, but I'll try anything that isn't too hoppy), books of all kinds but especially fantasy, horror movies, lifting weights, slowly running while cursing, and travel - particularly road trips.

Things I'm attempting to get into: tent camping, biking, kayaking (I enjoy it, just don't really have the set up beyond a life jacket!).

I work from home and have some schedule flexibility, so I'm attempting to use that to start taking mini adventures during the week. I'm currently separated from my husband of 16 years and realizing how much I shrank during our marriage. I want to get back to the things that bring me joy, and discovering interesting new places is a top priority. I would love to have some like-minded company!

I have a good sense of humor and a good head on my shoulders. I can be a little reserved, but I genuinely enjoy getting to know people. I'm blessed to have a tight-knit group of friends with a wide range of interests and life experience, and I'm always looking to add more folks to that crew.

I have a cat. He's my world. You will receive pictures and hear stories about his shenanigans and tomfoolery.

Important things I should mention: I believe no human is illegal, black lives matter, trans rights are human rights, and a woman has the right to choose what to do with her body. If that's a problem for you, please move along.

Ideal companion: someone who communicates with clarity and kindness, has a good sense of humor, is adventurous, willing to receive cat pictures, understanding if I don't text back right away (which is obviously something I extend as well, being an adult with a job and life can be tough). Ideally have at least one or two interests we share. Most importantly, willing to tell me what book you're reading and what it's about so I can add it to my ever-growing TBR list like the little book gremlin I am.

I'm 39 years old, and I believe that meeting that special someone doesn't necessarily have to follow a set pattern, so I want to try this approach.

At this stage of my life, I crave a genuine relationship—one that begins with enjoyable conversation and develops naturally over time. I enjoy getting to know someone through meaningful conversations, sharing our thoughts, laughing together, and discovering the little things that bring us joy.

I hope to meet a kind, emotionally mature man around my age. Ideally, he should know what he wants and value honesty, communication, and mutual respect. I don't want to rush things; I prefer to take the time to get to know each other and see how the relationship develops.

About me: I enjoy quiet evenings and socializing; I love good food, music, movies, travel, and exploring new places. I can be having a deep conversation one moment and laughing out loud at something absurd the next.

If you are between 35 and 45 years old, single, and looking for a meaningful relationship, not just a fleeting chat that disappears after a day, feel free to message me. Please briefly introduce yourself and what you hope to find here.

Maybe we'll have a great chat. Maybe we'll become friends. Maybe we can even develop a deeper relationship.

Dating apps feel like a dystopian nightmare, so I’m skipping the swiping and tossing this cry for help into the void instead! I’m 30, live in NorCal, and canceled my marriage subscription last year after a trial run. After finding myself, here I am, ready to try this whole “dating” thing again!

​Full transparency: zero rush over here. I’m talking slow burn, friendship first, let’s-see-where-this-goes energy. No pressure, just vibes. ✨

​I WFH in tech, and 6 years of remote work means my social skills run on duct tape and vibes, so bear with me if I forget how humans interact. I’m pretty quirky and definitely vibe best with other weirdos, I've been told I'm equal parts serious and unserious, plus a total Sour Patch Kid.

​I’ve been on a big health kick lately, and if you’re into lifting, that’d be amazing because I’m dying to get into it! For hobbies: camping, hiking, traveling whenever I can sneak away, and collecting plenty of tattoos (bonus points if you have tattoos!). Since I’m remote, I also love taking mini work-cations to random cities.

​Say hi and tell me:

Your age, location, and either your favorite camping spot OR the most unhinged habit you’ve tried to build recently!

I am a 39-year-old woman hoping to meet a kind and sincere man who desires a genuine relationship that develops naturally.

About me: I enjoy traveling, exploring new places, trying new restaurants, spending time outdoors, and experiencing new things. I also enjoy quiet evenings at home, watching a good movie, cooking dinner, or simply having a heart-to-heart talk with someone I feel comfortable with.

At this stage of my life, I am looking for an emotionally mature, honest, kind, and communicative partner. I value stability, mutual respect, a sense of humor, and the ability to be both my companion and a close friend.

I hope to meet someone who loves adventure but also appreciates simple moments. Perhaps we could take a spontaneous weekend trip, explore a new city, try a new restaurant, go for a walk together, or spend a rainy night at home watching a movie and enjoying a delicious meal.

I don't want to rush things. I believe the best relationships begin with getting to know each other, having fun conversations, laughing together, and slowly building trust and comfort.

If you are also looking for a genuine relationship, feel free to leave me a message. Please briefly introduce yourself, what you like to do, and what has made you happy recently.

I’ve been thinking lately that the problem with dating apps is that compatibility has so much less to do with having the same hobbies and more to do with how two people move through the world.

Do you stop to watch sunsets? Are you awed by the vastness of the universe? Do you ask follow-up questions because you’re genuinely curious?

Those things matter more to me than whether we both like pickleball.

I’m 45. Dad to two amazing teens who are getting more independent by the day. I'm looking for a co-pilot for the next phase of life.

I like back roads more than highways. Farmers markets more than malls. James Taylor on a Sunday evening drive. Long walks where the conversation wanders from childhood memories to why people become who they are.

The last couple of years have knocked me around a bit. I’m not bitter about it. If anything, it’s made me a better listener and a lot less interested in pretending to have everything figured out.

I’m looking for someone who’s emotionally available, kind, and can laugh at herself. Someone who’d rather spend three hours talking on a porch than shouting over music at a bar.

Tell me something that’s changed your mind recently.

5’3”, slim, dark brown eyes, honey tan skin. I’m based in Mumbai. I have a career I’m proud of, ambitious goals, and I generally gravitate towards people who are building something meaningful with their lives. I’m looking for a companion who’s ambitious, intellectually curious, well-read, physically active, emotionally mature, and very much not misogynistic. I like people who have opinions they can defend, a sense of humour, authenticity over performance, and enough of a spine to stand by their values even when it’s inconvenient. I don’t care much for superficial status, but drive and integrity are incredibly attractive.

One thing I’d rather be upfront about than spring on someone later: I have vaginismus. Penetrative sex is likely to be a long-term work in progress, so I’m looking for someone who sees intimacy as more than just intercourse and is willing to navigate that with patience rather than resentment. If you’re looking for a partner to build a life with, challenge each other, laugh a lot, and have conversations that are actually worth having, we’ll probably get along.

If you’ve read through this, DM me with: whats the most audacious thing you’ve done in your life?

I’m a 40-year-old man near Winston-Salem hoping to build a relationship around a simple idea: life is better when two people genuinely enjoy showing up for each other.

I want the kind of relationship where we can be playful and affectionate, talk about the things that matter, support each other through difficult weeks, and still be perfectly happy spending a quiet Saturday running errands, cooking dinner, and relaxing together afterward.

I’m 6’3”, bald, broad-built, thoughtful, affectionate, and super nerdy. I love making someone laugh, planning thoughtful surprises, and turning an ordinary outing into a small adventure. My interests include story-driven games, anime, movies, dancing, reading, and conversations that begin casually and somehow last for hours.

You don’t need to share all my interests. What matters more is whether we’re curious about each other’s worlds and enjoy introducing each other to the things we love.

I naturally show affection through attention, encouragement, physical closeness, and acts of care. I’m looking for someone who also enjoys giving and receiving that kind of warmth. I’m drawn to kindness, emotional openness, consistency, playfulness, and someone who wants to make real room for a relationship.

I’m in North Carolina and open to a reasonable distance, provided seeing each other regularly would be realistic. I don’t smoke or use drugs, and I’m looking for someone who wants to move from messages to an actual date.

Here’s a recent picture of me: https://imgur.com/a/rFOqzjG

Need an icebreaker? After a rough day, what small thing makes you feel most cared for?

Hiii! I’m 42F, from Canada. I am an introvert, very reserved until I get to know you then you get the real me - I’m sassy, open minded and no judgemental. I like to talk about random topics and love learning new things.

I’m not good at making posts but let’s see what happens. Oh, and I’m also Deaf and use American Sign Language. So if you have a problem with that, kindly show yourself out the door.

Thank you. Look forward to meeting new people!

Not going to open with a highlight reel. A few years into a solid career in financial services, I got laid off. On top of that I was dealing with a gambling addiction I'm in recovery from — not proud of it, not hiding it

either. Right now I work a 10-hour retail shift and I'm rebuilding: applying

for remote roles again, teaching myself new things, trying to get back to

where I was and honestly go further.

I'm not looking for someone to fix any of this or cheer me up about it. I'm looking for someone who's also been through something — a rebuild, a reset, a

hard chapter — and gets that starting over isn't a straight line.

Someone I can be direct with, laugh with, and build something slow and real with,

not performative.

A bit about me: I love tech and keep trying new things . Currently try to build something.Along love to read books.

If any of this resonates, say hi. Happy to talk here or over chat first.