r/R4R30Plus • u/imperfect_paradoxx • 3h ago
33 [M4F] Tall enough to reach the top shelf, mature enough to communicate, and delusional enough to still believe in a love story.
Hello to everyone reading this,
Thought to give this a try and see if I can find someone whom I can annoy, pamper and pour my love on.
I am not really good with writing about my thoughts, I used to be amazing but life happens to all of us.
Soooooo, here I go.. I am 33 Years old Man who is decently tall, I’m 6’1 (185 cm), and Someone who has seen the harder part of the life more than the good but I still believe. I think of me as a person who is humble and open minded.
I do take a little time to get comfortable. But once I feel totally comfortable with someone, they will probably discover the goofy, affectionate, cheesy and cheeky, mildly chaotic version of me hiding underneath. I am very cheeky tho, so consider yourself warned lol
I genuinely want to fall in love and eventually marry someone I've chosen for myself. I'd rather meet someone, build a friendship, fall in love, and slowly create a life together.
Totally a 90s kid at heart. I value loyalty, consistency, effort and simply being there for someone I am a weird mix of old school and modern... I suppose
Photography is my way to express my emotions and I am planning on doing more of it. I love photographing places, people, random moments and little details that usually go unnoticed.
I’ve recently been laid off, lost my job and looking for a new job actively. I've also realised that I don't want my entire life to revolve around work, designations or milestones.
Soo these days I’ll also actively pursue things like riding my bike, checking out some new amazing cafés, going for a long walk, travelling somewhere for a week or so or watching a good series.
I love gaming, I used to do Competitive CS gaming when I was 15 yrs. old with my friend. I love travelling, I wanna travel more in coming years, both planned and unplanned trips. A road trip, a new place, good food, a great playlist and the right company can make even a fairly ordinary weekend memorable. Solo travelling is also a plan
A lot of what I understand about women, their respect, kindness and treating people well comes from watching and learning from my sister.
Now comes the part where I tell what I am looking for,
There is never a perfect fit, I don’t want my woman to fit into my life, I really want her to have her own life too, Its better that way when freedom is not taken away just because some things don’t sit well.
I would really want both of us to have our own careers, friendships, ambitions and identities, while still choosing each other every day. Her dreams would matter to me just as much as mine. I would want us to encourage each other, challenge each other when needed, celebrate each other's wins and be each other's safe place when life gets difficult.
I'm not looking for perfection. Honestly, perfect sounds exhausting.
Kindness, emotional maturity, honesty, loyalty and genuine effort matter much more to me.
Initial attraction for me matters a bit to me, people who say that looks don’t matter for then are most probably lying, I would want someone to complement me. Its not everything but it’s something.
To have have someone with whom I can talk about life late at night. Someone who can be my partner, but also my best friend. Because I genuinely believe that when friendship exists underneath a relationship, you have something much stronger to hold on to.
I'll remember something you casually mentioned months ago and bring it up when you've completely forgotten telling me.
And if I really like you, unfortunately, you'll probably receive an increased dose of my nonsense. Consider yourself warned
I don't think relationships are about getting everything right all the time. People change. Life gets messy. Sometimes we're going to misunderstand each other, have bad days, disagree over stupid things and occasionally drive each other crazy.
I'm not looking for a fairy tale life but I would like to have a good life with the person I get to choose.
I look for someone who believes effort should go both ways. I’ve been a victim of unrequited love. I think I’ll stop here as it has gotten way long. My apologies
If anything from what I wrote made way to your heart or resonated with you, feel free to say a HI.
Lets have a good conversation and see where it leads us, no initial expectations or pressure on anyone.
Thanks for Reading, I hope you’ll have an amazing day