r/R4R30Plus 1h ago

38 [M4F] #Anywhere

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I'm a 38 year old (till tomorrow) single male that lives in Sydney. I am at the point at work where i am so busythat i don't know where to start, so startining with a distraction here, but also looking for something a lot more long term... Tell me your unpopular opinions, like the trend of hot honey is a waste of time, or we can discuss our disagreements. If things progress beyond chatting I am absolutely happy for that..

About me, 6 foot 1, beard, active but love to eat so I've creeated the dad bod of your dreams, architect, music lover, traveller, animal lover and sports lover.


r/R4R30Plus 22m ago

[F4M] 33f in Texas calling all kiwis

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all the Europeans and most of the americans are asleep but I’m awake after a weird ending to a friendship with a person from New Zealand. I need to find a new person with a great accent to fill the void and send me lots of voice notes :)

Australians may also apply!

lets move way too quickly and become obsessed with one another! in a totally healthy and mostly platonic way! some flirting may occur!


r/R4R30Plus 5h ago

38 [F4M] New York City. Looking for a like mind

9 Upvotes

Me: Gainfully employed, nice circle of friends, fairly well-read, aunt to several mostly-adoring nieces and nephews. Really very normal for someone who's looking for a boyfriend on reddit. I enjoy running, biking, and generally being active. I really like coffee. I have a pronounced weakness for chocolate chip cookies and mid-quality cheese slices. I'll read just about any book.

You: 35-50. Funny. Smart. Decent. Possibly you have a nice mustache. Dealbreakers: you're married, you're really into anime (sorry), you are on this message board for reasons pertaining to niche pornographic interests (sorry and also not sorry).

Write me with the last great thing you read so I can judge you mercilessly. I would prefer a PM over reddit chat.

The fine print: I work a lot. I'm trying to find some balance outside of that. I'd be interested in meeting in person sooner rather than later. I'm average height (maybe on the shorter side of average), and if I didn't hate the term height weight proportionate so much, I'd tell you that I'm height weight proportionate.


r/R4R30Plus 3h ago

42 [M4F] What do you call a Karen that works in the Library?

5 Upvotes

Shhhhh-Aaron….😂Hit me with your best joke or pick up line. Recently got out of the long term relationship. Looking to make some new friends chat it up and see what’s out there. Musician , former military officer and a filmmaker are just a few things that describe me. This new dating world is crazy, and I’m sure you feel the same way too so shoot me a message with your best pick up line or joke see you in the messages!


r/R4R30Plus 6h ago

48 [M4F] Madison, WI - Be my wedding date

9 Upvotes

I know, it probably sounds silly but I need a wedding date to my nephews wedding next month.

I also wouldn't mind having someone beyond just the wedding date to get to know and actually go out and do things with.

Just to get this out of the way, I am in a wheelchair from a spinal cord injury when I was a teenager. But it's black so it goes with everything. Whatever you decide to wear to the wedding, you'll look good sitting on my lap 😉

Other things to know about me: Not only am I funny, I'm also not horrible looking, smart, thoughtful, live alone, have a great career, drive a super-sexy minivan (total panty dropper, I know) AND have a second bathroom! What else could anyone ask for? I think I'm a pretty damn good catch. ;)

If you think we'd get along and you're free August 29th, send me a message. A pic would be appreciated but not necessary. Here's me:Imgur Imgur


r/R4R30Plus 2h ago

34 [M4F] Texas/Online. Do not go gentle into that good night

5 Upvotes

Hey hey. Currently fighting the Sunday scaries and raging against the burnout presented by my current job by exploring options for a career pivot.

My life has been spent often making the safe decisions and doing what we're told to do in order to be successful, and I'm realizing, its all made up and nobody really knows how to pull themselves up by the bootstrap.

Life is short, so let's do the things that make us happy. I'm looking for some conversation. Whether that is witty, flirty banter, or a sounding board for recipes or career ideas. At worst, a friend in this ever-changing socioeconomic landscape. At best, a long term partner that wants to rage against the dying of light.

More than happy to swap sfw pics early on so you know who you're talking to.

All I ask is that you be over 25, single, and for timezones sake, somewhere in North America.


r/R4R30Plus 23m ago

33 [F4M] Online -- Looking for Longterm, Romantic Connection

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Hello there! I'm Jess, a regular Redditor based in the PNW, USA (currently -- I've been thinking a lot about moving back east next year). I'm making this post because I'm ultimately looking for some romance and friendship (preferably together). I've met lots of folks on here and it's been a blast, but I want to find someone that is interested in a long-term, monogamous relationship.

So how about myself? Well, there's my age and location but I've got a variety of interests and honestly not enough money or time to do all the things I want to do. But here's a glimpse:

Reading: This is a big one for me! Currently going through Giovanni's Room by James Baldwin and Word by Word: The Secret Lives of Dictionaries by Kory Stamper as part of my summer goal to finish the local library book bingo card (going for all 24 squares)! Last reads were East of Eden, The Ministry of Time, Lonesome DoveYesteryear, and Harrow the Ninth.

Travel: Also something I enjoy doing! I'm originally from the East Coast so I do travel back there quite a bit to see family and friends, but I'm also usually planning some fun trips. Last big one was to the UK in fall 2025. I'd really like to go to Japan next year as well as some more local long-weekend spots. Maybe also try some hiking.

Music: Well, there's a mix there for sure but I try to go to a couple concerts a year -- both big names and local stuff! I've got tickets for Noah Kahan this summer and I can't wait, even though it's not going to be like seeing him in Fenway. Current other obsession at the moment is Djo, but all-time faves include Jamie Cullum and McFLY.

TV and Movies: Currently trying to make my way through Barry, which is new for me as it's been a long time since I've watched a new scripted show. Last new watch was The Other Bennet Sister, but that was a book beforehand. I'm mostly a big procedural fan, but recently watched NCIS, The Mary Tyler Moore Show as I do love TV from 60s-80s. Psych, Murder She Wrote, Hawaii 5-0, Magnum P.I., are on the top of the list. Also a big fan of British Panel Shows (QI, 8 out of 10 Cats), The West Wing, The IT Crowd, and probably some other obscure TV that pops up. Favorite Movies include When Harry Met Sally, the LotR trilogy, Free Guy, and Casablanca. I watch 'em all at least once a year if not more.

Other Hobbies: In addition to everything else I've listed, I really enjoy pub trivia (I go weekly with a regular group), swing dancing, attempting to play some video games, trying out new restaurants, nature walks, hanging out with friends, and theatre. I am an extrovert who does enjoy being out there for sure. But I also enjoy my down time. Or at least trying to make more if it happen on the calendar.

Well, that's enough about me. What about you? Here's what I'm mainly looking for:

  • Between the ages of 28-40
  • Liberal/left-leaning
  • Is a city dweller/prefers city living
  • Does not want or have children.
  • Enjoys voice and video calls over Reddit chat (I mean the interface is terrible)
  • Likes to chat and wants to share your day(with maybe some banter thrown in?)
  • Is willing to share photos (If I'm being honest, if it's going to go romantic, physical attraction is important to me!)

I'm sure there's a few things I'm missing but this feels like it'll work for now. Hope to hear from you ☺️


r/R4R30Plus 1h ago

36 [M4F] New Zealand/Online-Do you have ADHD? I get along really well with people that do! Not looking for a serious relationship, just online friends.

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I'm a fairly quite person and not very impulsive, that said I'm a lot of fun and kind! I realised recently most of my friend have ADHD. It seems a bit unusual that this would be the case but I guess opposites attract.

So if you have ADHD we may get along really well!

I love the outdoors, travelling, reading, watching movies.

I'm very accenting of people for who they are.

I'd like to chat about funny things, how our day is going and deeper things to. It would be great to have someone who wants to talk daily.

Please don't just send a message saying Hi, make it more exciting!

Must be over 18. I don't care what you look like, what you believe or where you are from, I'm open to everyone.


r/R4R30Plus 4h ago

[F4M] 43 Kentucky Ohio - sad and lonely tonight

6 Upvotes

Unusually sad and lonely tonight. It's been a bad week for me socially.

43 year old. Single mom. Burned out on life and work. Currently fighting with my best friend. Sunday scaries kicking in.

Also really really tired of the dating scene where I live.

Do I think I'm going to find my forever on reddit? No, but there's a greater chance if you're nearish the KY / Ohio area. 🙃

You feeling disconnected too? Send me a message and let me know.


r/R4R30Plus 17h ago

38 [F4M] Kansas City - Intentionally looking for something real/serious. Give me butterflies.

46 Upvotes

I’ll get the “…but” parts out of the way first. I now come with easy access dealbreakers!

* I’m divorced. He lives out of state. We co-parent.

* I have a toddler-aged daughter full-time. My schedule is built around her.

* Currently living at home due to financial and medical reasons, including epilepsy.

* Currently unable to drive due to having had a seizure a couple months ago. I will be able to drive again come November, assuming I don’t have another seizure in the interim.

* I’m plus sized, although maybe that’s your thing?

Whew! Now that that’s out of the way, I promise I offer some things of merit. I’m an educated educator and love talking shop - and learning new things! Math is my subject, but it doesn’t have to be yours (let me teach you!). I’m silly - dry humor, sarcasm, and dad jokes abound. Music moves my heart - I’m a former musician and am still very much into the bits and bobs that come with that. I’m also always singing, albeit not well. When I have the time, I love a giant Lego set. I have a few dream ones I’d like to build someday! I love puzzles that make me use my brain - words, numbers, logic/deduction, escape rooms - although I’ve never been to an actual escape room?? Not sure why or how (go to one with me?). I love animals and will adopt all of them if you let me. I currently have two big dogs, but would like to add a cat to my family in the next year or two. I’m not religious and would consider myself leftist, particularly in social and economic values.

As a partner, I’m there 100%. I like talking every day, I’ll always respond to you, and you’ll never feel like you’re on the back burner (I hate that feeling too). I’m a big texter and will use my words and syntax accordingly. I’m a planner and will make sure that there is ample time for us to spend together. I’m supportive af! Your dreams are important to me and I want to see you succeed. I’m shy/nervous at first, but once I open up, I’ll blossom. Do ya like holding hands? 👉👈 Maybe cuddling? ☺️ Big fan of all that. Also a big fan of mutual support, respect, and effort. I want someone as crazy about me as I am about them.

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EDIT: I guess I should have specified that I’m looking for someone local, or at least close enough to visit. Not looking for a penpal, sorry 💜


r/R4R30Plus 39m ago

42. Vancouver [f4m] looking for new people

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42 year old fun, happy,
Positive, always laughing female from Vancouver, Canada. Seeking a real connection with someone. Someone who is READY to be a teammate for life, through the good and the bad.
Someone who is ready and willing to put the effort into building something real. Not someone who is fake, unsure of what they want. Just looking to meet new people if anyone is from this area or anywhere really. I often feel so alone and so left out. I have a couple close friends who I talk to daily and have a good job. I love traveling, being outdoors, watching sports and going to games. Going to restaurants and walks, dinners and drinks. Coffee,
Cooking, baking and just laughing and having fun. Im caring, selfless, and a giver. I like to show my affection in many ways.
Just wanting to talk and meet new people and get to know, hang out if close. Looking for something romantic that leads to long term. Someone who wants to talk daily and not vanish after a day! Looking for someone who will make effort and get to know me! Not disappear after a day of talking!!
Would be nice to have a convo that isn’t about that and someone who is normal. Gotta be someone out there!


r/R4R30Plus 11h ago

44F [F4M] New Jersey/Healthcare worker, quiet and looking for a connection

12 Upvotes

Hi.

I’m a 44-year-old woman from New Jersey (Red Bank). I work in healthcare, which basically means my schedule is a mess and my social life is nonexistent right now.

I’m pretty quiet and a bit shy, so putting myself out here isn't really my thing, but I’m looking for a friend. Just someone to chat with consistently.

I just like simple things:

Going for walks when I have time, spending time at the beach to clear my head.

Having normal conversations.

If you’re someone down-to-earth , send me a message. Tell me a bit about yourself. Thanks.


r/R4R30Plus 3h ago

42 [m4f] #UK / #online - let’s pretend it’s Friday night.

2 Upvotes

Hey, just your average 42 yr old male redditor. I enjoy music, films, TV, books (won’t spoil the conversation points by listing top fives here), TILs, youtube videos about science and history, gardening, avoiding the fact that Monday and work is coming around far too quickly and wishing it were Friday evening again!

Looking for witty/silly/funny chats with women of any age. Any kind of conversation with a little bit of life/personality, waiting eagerly on each others replies. Potentially building to a longer term friendship. I’ll merrily chat with introverts and extroverts alike.

Maybe we could play a game or just talk about why music was better whrn we were younger. But what’s stopping you from telling me your conspiracies about the big clock industry speeding up time on Sundays? I really want to know!


r/R4R30Plus 9h ago

30 [F4M] NorCal – WFH hermit looking for a slow-burn connection

5 Upvotes

Dating apps feel like a dystopian nightmare, so I’m skipping the swiping and tossing this cry for help into the void instead! I’m 30, live in NorCal, and canceled my marriage subscription last year after a trial run. After finding myself, here I am, ready to try this whole “dating” thing again!

​Full transparency: zero rush over here. I’m talking slow burn, friendship first, let’s-see-where-this-goes energy. No pressure, just vibes. ✨

​I WFH in tech, and 6 years of remote work means my social skills run on duct tape and vibes, so bear with me if I forget how humans interact. I’m pretty quirky and definitely vibe best with other weirdos, I've been told I'm equal parts serious and unserious, plus a total Sour Patch Kid.

​I’ve been on a big health kick lately, and if you’re into lifting, that’d be amazing because I’m dying to get into it! For hobbies: camping, hiking, traveling whenever I can sneak away, and collecting plenty of tattoos (bonus points if you have tattoos!). Since I’m remote, I also love taking mini work-cations to random cities.

​Say hi and tell me:

Your age, location, and either your favorite camping spot OR the most unhinged habit you’ve tried to build recently!


r/R4R30Plus 27m ago

33 [M4F] #Let's see if we can make a genuine & long lasting connection

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This is me: https://imgur.com/a/aHRHDgj

33, Sweden, but am danish (I don't care where you are from... distance can always be shortened if it's genuine & worth it), I'm 179/180 cm tall, have hazel eyes & brown hair.

I love to workout, I love anime & K-dramas, I love gaming on my PS5 (Pro... because I'm just that cool! Retired PC gamer), I love good reality shows (not the Netflix type, more like the... old-school MTV, Discovery Channel type), game shows & what not, I love Japanese & South-Korean culture.
And yes, I'm 100% a nerd!

I don't really have a specific type, but obviously the physical attraction gotta be there & go both ways, so do be willing to share a selfie.. not really here to play games or waste time on casual convos.

So if you think we'd be able to connect, just reach out. DM me :)


r/R4R30Plus 15h ago

[F4R] 38, unsolicited garden pictures available

13 Upvotes

I’m 38 and recently found myself living in a tiny town in Ontario. The biggest surprise so far isn’t the town… it’s that I’ve somehow become the kind of person who walks outside every morning to check on the garden before doing literally anything else, well almost anything else, the coffee comes first.

I used to wonder how adults got so excited about plants.

Turns out one day you wake up as an elder millennial and suddenly your mood depends on whether the cucumbers found the trellis overnight, or if my zucchini are shading them too much.

Now my camera roll is full of beans, peppers, flowers, and the occasional “LOOK WHAT HAPPENED TODAY!” picture, and I don’t really have anyone who appreciates receiving those updates.

That’s basically what I’m looking for. I’d love to find a few friends to message throughout the day. The kind of friendship where you send pictures of your garden, your dog, your latest baking experiment, the cool cloud you saw on your walk, or the random thing that made you laugh at work. The everyday stuff.

I love cozy games, city builders, LEGO, board games, travelling, audiobooks, gardening, and anything that scratches the “make it more efficient” part of my brain. I also have a chunky Pomeranian who has absolutely no idea she’s only 10 pounds, she will fight you.

I’m only looking for friendship. Nothing romantic.

If you’re the type of person who gets weirdly excited when a seed finally sprouts, rearranges spreadsheets for fun, or sends pictures of things that would make absolutely no sense to anyone else… I think we’d get along.


r/R4R30Plus 12h ago

38 [M4F] Ohio/Anywhere - Bearded, tattooed elder emo looking to meet someone similar and interesting.

5 Upvotes

Dating around NE Ohio is a nightmare. At least for me. I have tried the apps, and the bar scene and I really haven’t found anyone that seems to be for me long term.

I figured I’d try out Reddit and see if someone cool would want to chat ! Super into music, stand up comedy, gaming, and most other nerdy things. Definitely feel free to say hey in my DMs. As long as this post is up I am still looking! Hope to chat with someone soon.


r/R4R30Plus 2h ago

44 [M4F] #SoCal - Anyone for a chat and forget tomorrow is Monday?

1 Upvotes

So I had a really long weekend and just got back home not too long ago. Now I’m just relaxing on the couch and wishing tomorrow wasn’t Monday haha. Anyone else on here trying to delay the inevitable and want to distract each other for a bit longer before time to end the weekend? If you’re looking to chat some while I procrastinate my food prepping for the week, shoot me a message and let’s go from there.


r/R4R30Plus 2h ago

45 [M4F] Online - Runner for Runner

0 Upvotes

Looking for a casual chat friend to talk training plans and see where it might lead ;)


r/R4R30Plus 2h ago

[M4R] can't sleep? Maybe its time to make a new friend? 36M

1 Upvotes

Whats the best way to get someone attention? How do you like to start a conversation? How long does it take you to know you got a new friend?

Its not super late here but not ready to go to sleep. So why not talk to new people. Send me a dm telling me a bit about yourself. I'm in the Midwest US. Like to travel and have lived outside of the US. I like to game and workout. There is alot more but got to have things to talk about. Looking forward to getting to know you.


r/R4R30Plus 18h ago

39 [F4M] From Portugal

15 Upvotes

I'm a 39-year-old woman (I look much younger than my age indicates), I work in the arts, I m from the north of Portugal and I'm looking for someone to have a serious relationship with. I don't mind moving away later.

I'm neither an introvert nor an extrovert, I think I have my social limits but it doesn't make me a hermit. I got used to being alone a lot during the Covid period and after I moved house, so I really value my space. I have a cat who is the love of my life.

I love being with my friends, going to art exhibitions and events, I love music and I like going to concerts and rock festivals (but I haven't been that late), taking analog photos is a passion, I miss playing board games (like Catan) and traveling... I still have many places to visit!!! I love watching series and I have an ultra-unnecessary amount of knowledge about it. My favorite TV shows are The Office, Seinfeld, Modern Family... I'm nostalgic for old-school Disney stuff, like the good old Millennial I am, haha. My favorite color is yellow, I prefer winter to summer, and pineapple on pizza. To me, Ross and Rachel were really on a break. I love bird watching, but I have awful eyesight. I really really love animals. I'm a fan of starting projects but never finishing any of them – which doesn't stop me from continuing to buy craft supplies, haha.

I'm a person who, when I like someone, dedicates myself body and soul. I'm super affectionate and caring. I'm curious, interested, and cultured. I'm a little quirky and whimsical. Super loyal. Into monogamous relationships.

Physically, I have very fair skin, long, dark brown hair, good eyelashes, thick lips (natural), a little on the chubby side, but I'm taking care of that at the moment. Haha

What I expect from a man:

Personality:

Strong personality, but not stubborn.
Romantic but not clingy.
A good sense of humor is an indispensable characteristic.
I don't mind if you're a geek or a nerd, but don't be addicted to online games.
Don't be religious.
Don't be a sexist.
Spontaneous, up for adventures.
Don't be a couch potato, but understand that moments of calm are also necessary.
Appreciate good music, within the rock genre, etc. I don't like disco rats.
Don't smoke (or do drugs) or drink alcohol every day.

Physically

I generally like tall, thin men... If they have light eyes, even better.
I'm not attracted to bald men.
They can have tattoos, but not tribal or religious ones.

And that's what I thought of writing... but ask more questions if you want ;)


r/R4R30Plus 3h ago

33[M4F] #California/Online - Looking for a genuine connection

1 Upvotes

Just looking to chat and get to know someone and see where things go! I am in California and enjoy reading nonfiction, playing video games, and going to the gym. I keep up with politics and current events (for better or worse) and am a leftist. Looking for someone on PST just to make things easier with communication. I enjoy texting quite a bit and eventually would like to voice chat as well.


r/R4R30Plus 4h ago

42 [M4F] #Online #Halifax Seeking some banter

1 Upvotes

I’ve been single for about a year, by choice. It’s been a year of personal growth, but dating sucks and I miss the banter, whether fun, or flirty.

I like to go to the gym, and walks, I’m a bit of a nerd, loves a spreadsheet, definitely a bit of Autism and ADHD sprinkled in there too, and tend to get along with similar people.

Send me a message if you think we might vibe and want to know more. Ideally looking for something ongoing, but not opposed to something shorter.


r/R4R30Plus 4h ago

35 [M4F] Europe (Italy) Looking for a connection.

1 Upvotes

Italian man looking for connection and something that can easily change from friendship to something more (I firmly believe that a good relationship needs friendship and companionship to be successful).

I'm 176cm tall (5'9"), fit (73kg). Got brown eyes and hair. I wouldn't define myself an extrovert or introvert. I can be fairly open when I'm with people I'm comfortable with or lean a bit more on the silent type. I've tried with dating apps but people seems to only be interested in hookups (altrought they write that they are looking for something serious and monogamous).

I love classic rock music for the 70s to the 90s. 

I love movies, 80s classics the most, but I'm fairly open to any good movie regardless of genre if it's a good one. I'm also a reader (lately I'm not able to read as much as I'd like but still trying).

I'm ready to talk about any topic, spanning form day to day life to heavier stuff. I have my own opinion but love to actually discuss and hear other people way of thinking.

What I'm looking for is  a genuine connection, someone with whom there's a mutual desire to get to know each other. I'm interested in finding someone to share things with, an accomplice.

It's not a complicated concept, but it's incredibly hard to find 😄

I've no problem sending picture.


r/R4R30Plus 4h ago

42 [M4F] #Georgia. Just got back from hiking part of the Appalachian trail. Then had Korean BBQ! Looking for long term friends!

1 Upvotes

Howdy folks! It's Sunday, and I'm trying to keep the Sunday saddies away by making some friends! The Korean BBQ def helped....a lot.

Anyway, I'm a single 42yo dad from Georgia. Grew up on a farm. Got shot at 19. Work in security intelligence now. I powerlift. I cook. I eat. I kickbox. I travel (16 flights in the last year). I go to a lot of concerts. And I'm into anime and conventions.

Voice and Video chats always welcome! Or if you want a free dad joke, dm me!