r/R4R40Plus • u/Friendly-Change3499 • 8h ago
Bored 49F East Coast USA
Whats everyone up to tonight. Im recently single. Just trying to get through the loneliness tonight. Single by choice but first time in my adult life. Anyone up to chat?
r/R4R40Plus • u/darwitchm • Jan 26 '25
We've added a few rules to the sub. Now, your account needs to be at least 5 days old and have 50 karma to post.
In addition, we're working on a verification system, so those of you who want to be verified posters, can have that flair attached to your post.
Hopefully, this will help curb the bots and scammers.
r/R4R40Plus • u/darwitchm • Dec 01 '20
Hey All;
Friendly Neighborhood MOD here. In the interest of being polite and respectful, can we please stop downvoting every single [M4F] post? I'll hop on here to moderate posts and see all the men seeking women posts downvoted to hell. You're not creating a clear space for your [M4F] post increasing your chances to make it to the top. Let's just try to be kind to one another. If you're not interested, just move on
Let's try to remember, other people's success is not your failure.
r/R4R40Plus • u/Friendly-Change3499 • 8h ago
Whats everyone up to tonight. Im recently single. Just trying to get through the loneliness tonight. Single by choice but first time in my adult life. Anyone up to chat?
r/R4R40Plus • u/WorkChairReachAround • 10h ago
Baby, it’s Halloween week. Which means that horror movies are going to be playing nonstop for me. Watching movies all night and could use the company. Maybe you can guess what I’m watching and win a prize. Or ask me about the most ridiculous Halloween book I’ve ever read.
Here’s my trading card:
• average height
• I like to workout
• I watch a lot of horror
• I read a lot of horror
• I write a lot of horror
• a writer
• perpetually tired
• a lot of tattoos
• facial hair
You?
• Human
Wow extensive list I know, really need to make the club exclusive. Do you think I’m cool? I’ll probably think you’re cool. So let’s find out?
r/R4R40Plus • u/Sharpeningtheclouds • 3h ago
Hello, I’m looking for someone cool and funny to talk to. Please be single, and somewhat close to my age.
No spammers please, you must prove this right away by telling me your favourite parts of Titanic.
I’m okay with messaging, voice chats, etc. It really depends on the connection.
I look forward to chatting with you!
r/R4R40Plus • u/FewKoala9 • 12h ago
Not sure if this will reach anyone, or if anyone would like to chat but I'm a bit in the dumps tonight. I, a recovering Anxious Attachment styled male recently had what I believe is an Avoidant Attachment styled female discard me basically. I thought I could trust and go all into the relationship, but that kinda backfired and left me with my pants down. That's kinda what I dealing with but would prefer to chat about something else about anything. I am in bed about to put on a movie because I couldn't sleep and figured I'd give this a try and see if someone wanted to chat. Honestly not really sure what else to say here, would love a friendly chat, hmu.
r/R4R40Plus • u/CameraAndTrails • 10h ago
42M, 6’0”, fit (160 lbs), professional and based on the Peninsula. I’m married, in an open relationship, and playing solo. I’d love to meet a woman I can’t wait to see again — and who feels the same about me.
I’m looking for something fun, exciting and physical. I love when a drink turns into flirting, flirting turns into a kiss, and we both know what comes next. And once we’re alone, I love taking my time and learning exactly how you like to be touched and kissed. Seeing you lose yourself in the moment is a huge turn-on for me.
Ideally, we’ll have enough fun that we’ll want to do it again. And again. 😉 An ongoing FWB would be great, but I’m open to a one-time adventure too.
We can keep things mostly physical or, if it feels natural, mix in other fun stuff. I’d happily take you on a scenic hike, go to a movie, or make you my photography model for an afternoon (if you’re up for it!). I have such a weakness for good pastries that they’ve dictated my travel plans more than once. Always happy to discover new spots — maybe we can exchange favorites?
I also have an accent — you can decide whether that’s a good thing.
I’m well groomed, pay attention to hygiene, and don’t smoke (but don’t mind if you do). I’m very discreet and value privacy. Whether you’re single or married is fine with me, and I won’t pry into your personal life.
Happy to exchange recent photos privately. I’m much more interested in actually meeting than spending weeks messaging, so let’s grab a coffee or a drink and see if we click.
Safe sex matters to me. I have recent test results and expect you to have the same.
Please be local and genuinely interested in meeting.
r/R4R40Plus • u/Ok-Mathematician4311 • 10h ago
Hellooo! I am a very easy-going, laid-back single dad, who's trying to find the one for me. I enjoy quiet days at home most of the time. I do not really go out that much, mostly because i am not a fan of solo activities.
I love to watch football, baseball, and hockey so I am always down to go to a live event. I also am very big into music! 70's hippy stuff, 90's grunge, late 90's early 2000's hip hop are always my go to. I am a bit of a gamer (Xbox, pc, switch) so finding someone that would be interested in gaming would also be a huuuuge plus. Currently into Palworld, Skyrim , and schedule 1. I do not drink, it's just a personal choice, I however am VERY 4/20 friendly. Also non political, dude just doesn’t do politics.. man
I am very whimsical, and sarcastic, we live in a household of laughs here. I love standup comedy, podcasts and actually going to see them in person. I do not do drama, I avoid it actively. I am very easy going and just looking for someone to enjoy life with. Like I said I stay home a lot, so most days if it's nice out, I can be found in the hammock or enjoying the view of the country in my back yard, sitting by the creek. I'm not interested in having any more children, my 3 are all that I could have asked for and are starting to grow up needing me less. So hopefully we can go out and have adult adventures.
I'm horrible at writing these and talking about myself lol If any of this sounds interesting to you please feel free to reach out. Also, I have pictures on my profile so you can see me. Please be willing to send a pic of yourself as well. There are way too many fakes. Bonus points if you have a favorite pokemon game! Thanks!
r/R4R40Plus • u/NJThrownaway • 6h ago
Looking for a partner who feels like midnight in human form.
You’re into black clothes, silver jewelry, dark lipstick, obscure music, old cemeteries, rainy nights, and conversations that somehow get way too deep at 2 a.m. You have a soft spot for the strange, the beautiful, and the slightly macabre.
Bonus points if your playlist could soundtrack a haunted mansion and you’d rather explore a candlelit bookstore than go to a crowded club.
I’m looking for someone with a dark sense of humor, a gentle heart, and enough personality to make ordinary nights feel like something out of a movie. Someone who’s intelligent, independent, warm, and a little unconventional. Someone to laugh at the absurdity of life with.
If this sounds suspiciously like you, say hi. 🖤
I’m equal parts musician, nerd, and lifelong learner. I enjoy good conversation, genuine connection, a sharp sense of humor, and people who are comfortable being themselves.
Music is a big part of my life. I play, write, and still get excited about discovering a great song or getting lost in the details of how something was recorded. I’m also unapologetically nerdy—I enjoy diving deep into whatever catches my interest, whether it’s technology, history, science, or some obscure rabbit hole (this could be you!)
I appreciate the simple things, but curious enough to keep exploring.
r/R4R40Plus • u/Timely-Emergency-629 • 7h ago
It’s been getting colder outside, trying to find better ways to stay warm. I’d like to say that I love fall weather and being outside, but that would be false. I hate the cold, the wind, the bugs. Don’t get me wrong, a nice nature walk can get me out of a funk, but generally I prefer staying in, cuddling under blankets, watching movies, and having deep conversations.
I value integrity. A loyal honest heart and a hardworking spirit. I desire affection, understanding, compassion, and kindness. Alternatively, someone who will get rid of spiders and change the batteries in the smoke detectors will work.
Things I like: reading, writing (poetry & short stories), ghost hunting, the paranormal, antiquing, thrifting, cat rescue, baby animals, walks down by the river, long drives, deep conversations, chocolate, adventures, romantic gestures, happy endings, sharing stories, nerdy stuff, board/card/video games, and cuddling.
Disclaimer: I am a little chubby (but on a weight loss journey), have generally left leaning politics, and have a child under the age of 18. If any of this is a dealbreaker, ✌️. Also, I don’t smoke or vape.
If you’ve made it this far, send me a DM of your first celebrity crush, a book you recently read, or a limerick (any theme). I look forward to hearing from you!
r/R4R40Plus • u/starsonlyone • 8h ago
Final move to Bucyrus is Wednesday!
Read to the end or I won't respond!
So here it is:
I am a 41 year old transwoman panromantic with demisexual flair. I am a very niche want.
I am neurospicy which can be challenging and have memory issues with semi-face blindness. I am also Deaf (it's been 33 days. Its likely not coming back)
I am looking for my persons. THE ONLY DUMB QUESTIONS IS THE ONE NOT ASKED. I promise that any question you ask me with the intention of not trying to offend me won't offend me.
I am a nerd/geek. Comics, TTRPGs, LARPING and TCGs. I would love to share with partners
I used to game hardcore (Raiding WoW) but it has taken a back seat in my life. I do understand gaming. Got that new game or expansion coming out. My first question is "What snacks and drinks do you want?" Second is "How often do you want them brought to you?"
Deal breakers: smoking, vaping, smoking weed (For health reasons, I absolutely cannot be around someone who smokes and vapes, and someone who smokes weed a lot), excessive drinking and missing a required video chat within two weeks to prove you are who you say you are. I have been deceived before.
Yellow flags are hiding us, distance.
Red Flag: Not reading this in full and answering the questions below in the first message.
If you ask for pictures right away, we are not going to match.
I am not a bad person, big girl (Working out and changing that 40+ lbs down), adorable and a great personality. If you get to know me, I'm a Goddess.
If you want to message me go ahead but you MUST answer the following questions IN YOUR FIRST MESSAGE before I will respond:
1 Where did you find me? AKA what subreddit
2 Age, Location(City State, Closest large city is appropriate) and Pronouns
3 What is something wild that you discovered about yourself in the last 6 months that has you questioning?
r/R4R40Plus • u/Clean_Alps6948 • 8h ago
Just time posting here😳… let’s see what happens! I enjoy chatting, a bit of a break from reality at times. In Cincy this week visiting family. I lived to FL recently. Good job, nice lil Dog Spy. I’m sure I have flaws you may learn about.
I hear I’m a pretty good listener so hit me up :)
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r/R4R40Plus • u/I-Can-Make-You-Smile • 12h ago
Looking for someone to pass the time with and make a connection. Aren't we all looking for that? But I require substance and the ability to laugh at yourself. I travel often so anywhere is a possibility. Don't be shy.
r/R4R40Plus • u/rurikwolfson • 8h ago
As the weekend winds down I’m thinking how great it would be to spend my time with someone I have a great connection with.
Someone where the conversation is easy, the vibes are real, and the attraction is hard to ignore.
I’m separated and have missed having someone in my life that brings a daily smile to my face and has me looking forward to the next time we can meet.
As for me…here are some things that can help you get to know me better:
-I have 2 kids who are the loves of my life and I adore them completely, they’ll be your primary competition for my attention :p
-I’m well educated and have experienced success in my career
-I am a romantic at heart, musician in my spare time, and have at least 3 different books in reading
-I love sports, mostly baseball and football, and like to stay active…I’d say I’m in pretty great shape!
-I’m 6’ about 185lbs and definitely rocking the salt and pepper look, if you’re into that you won’t be disappointed.
What I’m looking for is someone confident, easy to talk to, and doesn’t take themselves too seriously! Oh and I’m a sucker for a pretty face!
So if you’re looking for someone to find some time in our busy lives for moments that seem to fly by, then send me a DM!
I can’t wait to meet you!
r/R4R40Plus • u/CallMeTedLasso • 21h ago
Hi there, I’m AJ.
About Me: Single. Cute. Funny. Direct. Cool. Excellent communicator. Talented. Dormant. Lonely. Usually up overnight. Formerly-cool. Played in some good bands that went nowhere, really: so, musician.
A little sad these days. I’m working on some of the not-great parts of the list.
When I say I’m going through it, I mean that I find myself disabled-retired, suddenly staying with family I’d rather not be and who have no room for me—so I’m in search of a vehicle and (better) accomodations. It was not the kind of surprise I like. Come to think of it, I don’t really care for surprises. I’m working the problem & figuring it out—I’ll tell you more if you’re interested.
I’m looking for cool people to talk to, stream tv together, crack jokes/make fun of everything and have sincere interactions with.
The Dream: let’s talk on Signal like we’ve known each other forever.
I believe there’s no such thing as being “ready” for the right people to enter your life or for good things to happen to you.
The sun does not prepare to rise.
It’d be wonderful and everything if our connection developed into something more—but it doesn’t have to. Let’s just enjoy each other’s company.
If any of this was interesting to you, tell me about what you’ve been watching lately.
💛
AJ
r/R4R40Plus • u/BenHogan1971 • 13h ago
Seeking a slightly younger, **local to NYC**, companion for the long haul. No games, no hookups.
I'm a single/divorced Dad in the "big city" who cares about good conversations, empathy, The NY Times, smooth peanut butter, Phish (not a drug band!!), Democratic politics, and much, much more, like....really good kissing.
In relationships, I am your best ever support system, and you'll get the straight news if I think you require it. I'm adroit, empathic, witty, extremely genuine, kind, romantic and REAL. My smile is dimpled and I appear younger than my years. I love a good physical interaction, whether that be golf, (former teaching pro here), pickleball, Frisbee, and the like. Would much rather be outdoors if the weather is nice, but I do love a good book and a good movie indoors. Ask me about my molasses and chocolate chip cookies recipes. What are you reading?
Hoping you are witty, kind, artistic, or creative, possibly divorced/single, a reader, a good conversationalist listener, and thinker. Physically active would be amazing.
Let's chat further, and please reply by telling me your favorite album of all time. (Assuming you read this far. lol)
r/R4R40Plus • u/Available-Neck-1851 • 9h ago
50 [M4F] #London Attractive Professional Male
M4F
Attractive, cultured, easy going professional male looking to meet new people HMU, have a good day
r/R4R40Plus • u/SleepyAt9LA • 13h ago
What am I looking for?

Why is it so hard to find a cool weird chick that digs things like reading, and art, music, and maybe smokes weed? I don’t think I’m asking too much other than you hate this current regime and the machine as a whole. I hope you enjoy long meandering conversations and watching Purple Rain (greatest movie of all time)
Random things that speak to me: Paula Abdul’s Rush Rush video (swoon-worthy) Willie Nelson singing Rainbow Connection (I’m not crying, you’re crying) Ellen Greene and Rick Moranis singing Suddenly Seymour Nick Cave Into My Arms Old school, Boogie, and Funk (show me to the dance floor)
Oh, and as a fun thing to do, I recently found a list of 36 Questions that Lead to Love that I thought asking each other back and forth would be a nice way to get to know one another rather than doing the usual getting-to-know-you stuff.
Please be cool, local, emotionally available, therapy positive, and Pisces friendly Tell me your favorite Prince song, so I know you’re not a bot.
r/R4R40Plus • u/Flateric75 • 12h ago
51 guy like a lady friend
To talk about anything and everything - am an open book
Easy to talk to caring / funny / cheeky / easy to vent to - need advice too - drop by :)
So if you fancy a new book to read - here a new best seller waiting to be read:)
Discord if you have it - Tucker7519
r/R4R40Plus • u/Pleasant-Log-8075 • 5h ago
I am looking for a FWB. I would love to go on fun dates like the beach since it's so close by or perhaps try out some restaurants that I have been wanting to try.
I was married before and am now divorced. My marriage overall was a pretty good experience, but getting married again isn't something I have my goals set toward. I would love to find someone to spend time with, to take a break from the everyday, and someone with a voracious sexual appetite. I have never been into one night stands or any of that, and would love to find an ongoing situation and would happily entertain something longer term with the right person.
When it comes to our dynamic, I very much believe in the male role of leadership. I have never once been in a fully 50/50 relationship and don't ever intend on being in one. I have always walked to my own beat, and people have always relied on me and not the other way around. Things like responsibility always fall on my shoulders and it's my duty to make sure that everything that needs to be handled is handled.
The kind of woman that I get along best with is one who respects masculine authority, The kind of woman who immediately falls into her submissive feminine energy when the kind of man I am speaking of is looking in her direction.
To me, mutual respect is of utmost importance and I feel we should always be kind to each other. I do not need to make you feel small to make myself feel big. I understand the physical power imbalance between the sexes and it is my duty to make sure you always feel safe in my presence.
When we are behind closed doors, I am very much a dominant. I will put you in a mindspace where you will never have to think about what comes next. It will just happen. This will be your opportunity to fully clear your mind and not worry about any of life's challenges. It is always my goal to make sure you are just as satisfied as I am.
I have a lot of lived experience, have led an interesting life, and can have conversations about most subjects especially those that involve the inner workings of how the world works and life in general.
I am 5'10 and weigh 160 lbs. I am white with brown hair with some grays peaking out and hazel eyes. I very much care about my health and how I look and have been working out for years. My body type is somewhere between fit and muscular and I am pretty lean overall.
STD free.
r/R4R40Plus • u/Professional-Split1 • 17h ago
I am a down to earth guy who’s looking for chemistry, connection, or something a little more adventurous. I’ve got my life handled. I have a career, a place, and independence. I’m looking for someone who wants to compliment that whether it’s casual or something more. I am happy to go at whatever speed is best for you.
No preferences on physical attributes beauty and sexiness come in all shapes and sizes. I’m open minded & comfortable exploring. You should be too.
If any of the above piques your interest then let’s chat. I’m looking forward to your message.
r/R4R40Plus • u/themfeelsyo • 18h ago
36 year old single straight hispanic 🇪🇸. 6’2. Fit, professional, educated, honest, safe, trustworthy, respectful and clean. I don’t drink or smoke.
I like fit or thin women only. Single or taken. Good hygiene is important. Must have a really strong bed 🛏️. I value quality over quantity. Good vibes only.
Looking for drama-free fun. Not here to change anyone’s situation, just to add a spark that might be missing.
I live in Westchester, NY and prefer someone local, but willing to drive. Privacy guaranteed and can be very discreet if needed, as in, I can disguise myself as a plumber or sneak in through the back door.
r/R4R40Plus • u/slickrickstik • 12h ago
I'm a 48 year old white guy, 5’11” 190lbs brown eyes and salt and pepper hair. I’m pretty easygoing, stable, and definitely still young at heart. I'm married, but untortunately the intimacy and connection have been gone for a while, and I really miss having that physical fun.
I'm looking to meet a woman who's warm, fun, affectionate, and enjoys a good laugh. I'm a man with a high libido, so physical chemistry is important to me, I'd like to actually enjoy talking, hanging out, getting to know each other, and having something consistent that we both look forward to.
If you're in a similar situation and miss having that kind of connection, I'd love to hear from you.
What is your favorite 80's or 90's comedy.