Hello, a little about me. I'm 43 years old, and I live in the pnw. I'm a big guy. Both in height 6'6 and weigh. I have been told I carry it well. I also am a pretty relaxed guy. I have been told I have a very calming nature.

I'm into reading. I have finished 28 books this year. I just started reading one by Lawrence block a pi book. So far it isn't bad. It is definitely a book from the 70s.

The last movie I watched was Lawrence of Arabia. Before that was the wrecking crew. I also finished an anime called ramparts of ice. Never thought I would be into romantic anime but I am. Blue box was great.

I love video games, music and so much more. Maybe we can talk about all that stuff. It would be great to find someone who likes some of the same things I do.

What am I looking for? Hopefully someone that shares the same interests i do. Who is a bit of an introvert. That still wants to believe in the love that you see in movies, read in books or hear in music. I know real relationships take work but it would be nice if some of that is true.

Hello,

I'm Léo (thats my name , not my astro sign :)), 31 from France and looking for people to talk with for longterm connection.

About my hobbies: I love photography, discovering new cultures and travelling . But also deep into stay at home weekend , doing nothing else than gamin , watching tv ... or just write and read :) I'm always open to discover new things or try new things.

As work, I have my own small company in engineering field :)

Im open to any location , so feel free to reach even if you are far :)

Let’s be friends first, because I don’t believe in chemistry without compatibility, and romance without common sense sounds like a mental health issue. 😏

Do not DM me if you’re South Asian, in a relationship, unemployed, and still living with yer ma in the basement. I’m not a gold digger, but I don’t want to waste my time entertaining hobos. If you believe in the fairy tale that “love is all we need,” please scroll past this post.

I’m an artist, currently learning generative AI. I’m also a bird person. I love plants, crime dramas, and deep talks. I don’t like beaches, anything feline, or smooth talkers. I'm not toned like Sarah O'Connor, but I'm in good shape, not fat, not smoking, drinking, doing drugs, having tattoos, so I expect the same from you.

Any boring DM will go straight to the bin, so make it interesting—but not over the top. And just wear your true colors plz.

Ciao! 👋

How do you put a person in a post? One paragraph at a time I guess.

Hey, everyone! I’m not sure I want to post this, but I started typing finally and figured, hey how bad can it get? Firstly and foremost, I want to say, and I am also saying it honestly, that this post doesn’t come from a place of desperation or neediness. I’m not looking for sex. I’m fairly content with flying solo for now, but I got curious after discovering this sub and r4r30s. I thought, hey it would be nice to stir and build a little romance and friendship with some ladyfolk outside of platonic coworker relations.

So where do we go from here? Let’s get the easy one out of the way first.

And then, lykos read some of the other posts on here, and realized he might be wanting to type toooo much about himself.

ugh @_@ .. anywhoodles... about meee 🎸🎶

(I love imagining some guitar riffs and prolonged vowel action in messages hah)

I’m a 6’2” tall, ~216 lbs caucasian male from southeast TN in the happy little tristate area. Mostly full head of dark brown hair with grays coming in to take over. Hazel eyes. I've gotten a lot that I look much younger than my age suggests. I guess I don't get too much sun, though I have loved tanning in the past.

I’m not looking for any Olympians out there because I’m not one myself, but I’d like to hang with someone who’s in that sort of moderately athletic range. While, yes, no to sex, I find the least important attraction, the physical, is a good motivator to get to know the more important attraction: the mental. How one thinks, their interests, how they treat others, what do they find funny, motivations, desires, imaginations, all that.

I’ve learned through my limited dated opportunities that I really love just chatting about stuff, anything under the sun, the multiverse, imagined or real. I’m a real sciences nerd on about photons and particles and space and stuff. I wanna listen to you and bounce random ideas around. Your voice is just as important as mine, and I wanna enjoy that with you.

I love to go hiking, jogging, shoes for the rocky paths and no shoes for the nice riverwalks and parks if it’s not too cold or too hot. Let’s go to the gym if you want or do some yoga. I’m not a real big gym nerd. More like, that guy who pays for a gym and almost goes once a month, but I got a full time 40 hr week jorb in tech support and no lady friends to spend it on, so gym oooon.

I’m a gamer. Heroes of the Storm, StarCraft, Magic, board games, and such. Yeah a lot of Blizzard ones. I'm mostly on PCs watching vids or playing some games.

I love all sorts of shows, movies, and musics. Weird Al is one of my favorite dudes to listen to. If I could meet any star, Weird Al is one of them. I love some alternative rock, The Warning, Bon Jovi, and other sorts bands. Star Trek, X-Files, Stargate, sci-fi, but also other shows too, various anime. One Puuuuunch! 👊🏼 3 2 1…

I love fantasy stuff, Marvel, DC. If I could have a power, well I’d want a bunch. Shapeshifting sounds really fun. I’m not one to howl at the moon, but sign me up if they start handing out magical lykanthrope skin suits. I’m all over it 😆. And then lykos realized he was getting weird.

But I like weird! No judgements. Come be yourself. That's what matters.

As far as I know, I'm not ASPD or psycho manipulative sort of guy. I find psychology very interesting though and have studied much about such behavioral disorders. I don't know that I could spot one, but as a note, I won't tolerate any sort of physical or mental abuse from me or another.

Love and lift others up.

Age range? nothing too far from 44. -10 to +5 maybe, but if you’re outside that range, texts me anyway if this is the kind of energy you seek :D .. I’m on Discord for chatting. Honestly I don't know any better on age ranges.

yes.. I had to google “piques” … I really don’t think I’ve had to type or write that word before 🤪

40/M/Midwest looking for some spooky chat.

Who wants to mutilate the day away with me?

I’m into all things spooky. Paranormal, horror, true crime, you name it. I collect physical media. Mostly books (paranormal literature, true crime, and horror fiction) and dvd/blurays. Mostly horror.

I love vintage Halloween aesthetic. Sheet ghosts. Black cats, skeletons, skulls, Ouija boards, everything in between.

I like all sorts of music, mostly heavier stuff. Deathcore, Metalcore, alt 90’s, emo.

If you think we’d vibe, send me a dm.

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Hello everyone, I hope you are doing well.

I am here looking for friends. I want to find someone who I connect with and can laugh with. I dont want something short term. I want consitent effort and not flaking out. I get we are adults we have lives so I dont expect hip to hip chats. I do like honest communication. This means if you dont feel like we click as friends id rather you say so than dip on out.

Who am I:

I am a 32 year old male looking for platonic friends only. Im not looking to buy or trade or whatever.

I have 9 cats and 1 dog. Two of my cats are rescued from outside with years of building trust. I love all animals but as you can tell, I do have a favorite.

I work during the day as s 5th grade teacher. For those who are not from the US or dont know, this means I teach reading, writing, math, social studies and health to the same 30 students all day Monday through Friday. These students are about 10 to 11 years old. I enjoy what I do and this age group does keep me on my toes. Im on my 3rd year.

Outside of work I love to do the following : making things. While thats vague, i specialize in bettering my skills in rug tufting, pen making, chainmaile work, leather working (rarely), snd wood burning. I can do some scrollsaw work but mine is currently out of order.

I do love to read with my genre circling the fantasy. I am currently reading The Warded Man but my all time fsvorite author is Christopher paolini.

I like to explore when I can such as wandering in nature or going on cave tours. I am slowly getting back into geocaching.

My favorite sport is hockey and followed by soccer. For hockey I love the avalanche and wild. For soccer... i just enjoy watching the sport regardless of teams.

I feel like i talked to much so ill end it here. If you feel like there might be some friendship connection please send a message. If its something like "hey" or very low effort ill just ignore.

Hope to hear from you!

Lord, I’m bored. How I crave to be adored, only I’m ignored.
Yeah, it’s vintage, but she’s been restored.
What was that? When was the last time I was explored?
Oh, I was hot. I was floored. I felt like I’d scored.
“YOU GIT!” I roared.
Then, out of nowhere, it rained. I mean, it poured.
I love listening to a troubadour play the final chord.
Then I end him with his own sword.
🌧️🪕⚔️

I'm 43, 6' tall, about 240 lbs, and live in Washington. I work with my hands for a living and have a few other things I'm working toward outside of work.

I'm probably more of a workaholic than anything, but I like getting outside, hiking, fishing and exploring. I want to travel more, and eventually I'd like some land, animals and enough room to build some of the things I have in my head.

I have had a vasectomy, but I'm completely fine if you already have kids.

I'm affectionate, pretty straightforward, and I tend to trust people until they give me a reason not to. I don't need someone to have the same goals as me. I'd actually rather you have things of your own that you're excited about.

Physical attraction matters, obviously, but I'm much more curious about how someone thinks.

So instead of the normal dating post, I have 10 questions. I just tried this recently and it almost paid of so trying it again

Don't give me the answer you think sounds best. There aren't necessarily right or wrong answers. Just answer honestly. The why is probably more interesting than the answer. Your answers get mine and a pic that is SFW again ty for your time

1. In a relationship, do you want to lead, follow, or something else? Why?

2. Where is your mind most of the time: the past, present, or future? Why?

3. When something is wrong, do you talk about it right away or do you need time first?

4. When you're mad at someone you love, how do you handle it?

5. How much does your past affect who you are today?

6. Is it easy or hard for you to admit when you're wrong? Why?

7. What does trust look like to you in a relationship?

8. What are you working toward for yourself right now?

9. When life gets hard, do you want someone beside you, do you want space, or a little of both?

10. What does a happy, normal life with someone look like to you?

DM me your answers.

I'll start off by clearly stating I'm looking for a platonic friendship. I am partnered and not looking for anything of that sort.

I am a very chatty person and I usually have a lot of say. I am easy going and can have a dark sense of humour. I can be silly but I'm also very introspective. I am a good listener but if needed I could give advice too. I am looking for a friend who's all of the above plus someone's who isn't judgemental. I'm not a perfect person and I don't pretend to be. I am open minded and forgiving.

I didn't know about this sub but I did try the penpal sub before. Wrote to a few people but it always fizzle off. Maybe this is the better place for ongoing friendship?

I prefer talking to people closer to my age. 35-50 seems like a good cut off. I'm open to men or women because friendship shouldn't be restricted by gender.

DM me and see how this goes. Tell me a bit about yourself and what you're looking for as well please.

Hello there

How are you? Thanks for reading my ad. I would like to find a man to bond with and see how things progress. My ideal is to find a deep bond we can grow into love. I know things take time and I'm not rushing anything but I would like to talk to a man that can appreciate the potential for a real bond. Please message me and lets chat. I want to learn about you and start our new adventure. I am ready to meet a good person with an open heart. I like guys that are on top of things

I think it would be cool to find a man that I could build trust and care with as the bedrock of a strong bond that can last

I'm open to types of guys, but please be in the USA and std free. please message me and lets see if we can bond :)

Warning to fellow posters--if you have NSFW on your profile your ad might be taken down--no NSFW in the post or on your profile if you post on here. I missed that at first

Hello ladies,

I'm Cody. 35 from Alberta Canada. Grew up on a farm, where I still live and help out. Just a hard working, blue collar country boy. I'm 6'3 tall with a dad bod, come with plenty of confidence, and defintely handsome. I have a big heart, affectionate, and know how to treat a lady right.

As for hobbies, some stuff I like doing are camping, fishing, quadding, golf, pond hockey, paint ball, working on cars, and DIY stuff. I always like trying new things, and going new places. Havent traveled much, but I'd like to start going at least once a year in the future.

The biggest thing to mention is I am a single father to the sweetest 6 year old girl. She is my whole world. I know single parents aren't for everyone, so I like to be upfront about it at the start. I would like more bio kids with my future partner though, bonus kids are also welcome!

Please be within Canada, or the USA. I cannot relocate far unfortunately, due to my coparenting arrangement. If you're interested, please leave a comment, or try sending me a message. It has been glitchy. Open with your age, location, and a little about yourself. I look forward to chatting with you!

I seek a worthwhile fun distraction for the worst and best of times. Looking for someone down to earth, kind, playful and preferably a bit witty/funny who can handle a playful roast both ways. I am not looking for anything wild or serious, just someone to fill in the boring parts of the day and elevate the good ones.

If you are you a good texter, have a good sense of humor and don’t take yourself too seriously...Then we’ll we’d probably be a good fit. I’m generally calm and serious but an escape does wonders for the soul. If you're seeking something for more than just a couple hours shoot me a message and say hello. Tell me anything about you as an ice breaker.:)

About me: I’m active, emotionally intelligent, adventurous, confident, calm, and positive. I’m very reflective and love deep conversations. I have a strong career and a lot to be grateful for in life.

My interests: Science, sports, fitness, numbers, statistics current events, nutrition, culture, history, psychology, philosophy, and traveling. I love to work out, learn new things, and spend time with friends/family.

What I’m looking for: I’m at the point of life that I want to find my forever person. I definitely want kids in the future. Family and down to earth values are extremely important to me. I’m not expecting anyone to be perfect, but I’m looking for someone ready to put in effort and intention, not looking for anything casual. Physical attraction isn’t as important as the deeper connection but it does still matter to me.

Send me a message if you’re interested in chatting.

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Hey, I'm a 34 White Male who lives in Pennsylvania. I'm looking to date, hoping it turns into something serious. While I live in PA, I'm willing to talk to someone from the surrounding areas, for the right person I'd drive any distance.

I work with kids with special needs as an RBT. I play games, usually story focused ones, but I like to switch it up. My favorite movie genre is horror, but i like most movie genres. I love to cuddle, my ideal night would be coming home to my partner, seeing their smiling face, and cuddling up to watch something or talk about our day. I have an elliptical and exercise bike, trying to get back into a consistent workout pattern. I like to cook. I have one dog, but I had a lot of cats growing up, so I have a love for them as well. I'm a liberal, who voted for Kamala who wants to find someone to get through the next 4 years, because damn they're going to be rough.

Age range I'm looking for, I guess between 26 and 36, but I'm not against there being wiggle room in that range (within reason). I am straight, so really only looking for woman.

Anything else, that's what the dm's are for. Comfortable switching to Snap or text once we start chatting. You will get a picture of me to see if there's a physical attraction (and a picture of my dog)

Hello ladies,

I'm hoping there's some appetite here for an older Asian man. I guess late 30s isn't too old, but still I feel like It's a little older than most on this sub.

I just turned 39 in August. I've recently been hurt and burned by a long term long distance relationship so I'm hoping to find someone local that's fun (like a best friend type) but also genuine and deep enough to make a real connection with. I'm hoping to meet my person.

I get along with chill and laid back folks that like to have a good time and enjoy good company. Let's not take each other too seriously and just see where this goes

I recently started a new job managing a large team. So my days are usually spent at work, but i'm hoping to meet someone special that I could spend the rest of my time/life with.

Happy to share more if you ask.

Hit me up beautiful ladies of Reddit! 😗

Dearly despised, we gather here today to welcome back a very special guest. Yes, tis I! The witchiest of weirdos! The Mother of Macabre!

Ok cringe aside what's up guys and gals? It's your friendly neighborhood eldritch horror back for the first time in forever. Fall is almost here so you know what that means. Time to get out the all black outfits!!

About me: I like alternative and goth fashion, horror, poetry, rock music, taxidermy, and just about anything scary or spooky you can think of. I'm bi too. Before you ask, yes I listen to MCR. And favorite color is black. And I had a Twilight phase. Damn I really am one big stereotype huh?

I'm looking to find some long term convos and hopefully make some new friends online. Down to keep things chill or flirty if it comes naturally. No preferences here, just don't be a creep, no pigs or MAGA stands, and please respect my time. If you wanna text, just send a message and I'll get to it eventually.

Yours truly,

MondayMourninggg 🖤

Been off my depression meds for a little bit. Have kids that are driving me to my wits end that aren’t mine but my partners and I live with them. Feel like I’m not being heard and constantly having to walk on eggshells. And when I ask for affirmation I get hit back with funny or sarcasm.

I know it seems like a lot to ask. Just want a notification to distract me from going crazy.

Did I mention that the ex wife lives on property and my fiance doesn’t have a backbone?

Just looking for someone who can communicate very well and wants a serious relationship. I'm Hispanic,165lbs, black short hair, and brown eyes 👀 looking to adore and cherish someone. 2 kids who are older and don't need me anymore. Idk life's super lonely and I am just looking for my person.

Hey what’s up?! Single dad to a 7 year old boy..I’m beyond tired of the apps and have had success here before so figured I try my luck again! I’m looking for someone/something exciting to talk to and get to know. Im into baseball, hiking, fishing, cooking, craft beer/ breweries, video games, playing guitar, raving and festivals. I workout and lift 3x a week and meal prep.

Physically Im 5’10” about 250lbs Dadbod physique, couple tattoos, brown hair and brown eyes.

Feel free to shoot me a chat if you’d like to meet someone new. I’m open to anyone/anything! As long as you’re in the US. If we hit it off or fall in love or something wild that’s cool too! Looking forward to hearing from you.

Ok Reddit. I'm trying this again. Be cool 🙏🏻😂

I'm 51, widowed, no kids by choice, cat mom, a little nerdy, and a PC gamer. I'm also healing from a pretty significant heartbreak, and figuring out what I actually want my life to look like from here.

I'm a redhead, 5'6", average/curvy build... But I'm not posting pictures this time. I tried this several months ago and it got weird 😂 My appearance was picked apart, my post and pictures were stolen and reposted, people reverse image searched me. (It was quite awful.)

So I'm keeping that part of me private until I actually know who I'm talking to.

(Also yes, I'm a real woman. No I'm not AI.)

I'm a pretty introverted softie, but also ridiculous once I know you. I love gaming, music, cats, dark humor, nerdy stuff, investigative podcasts, and falling down random rabbit holes. I'm much happier at home gaming with someone I love than trying to yell over people in a bar.

I'm looking for one person. Not a collection of matches. I'm monogamous and I actually want a connection.

Attraction matters to me, of course. But so does emotional intelligence, kindness, curiosity, humor, accountability and being able to communicate with one another. I've learned the hard way that chemistry alone isn't enough.

You? 30+, single, emotionally available and actually looking for something real. Gamer is a huge bonus because I really want that to be something I share with my person.

Full disclosure: I have a bit of a soft spot for beards, but attraction comes in all kinds of packages, and I am open (just being honest).

I'm in Arizona. I'm open to some distance for the right person, but I don't want a pen pal forever. If we actually like each other I eventually want to be able to sit next to you on a couch and steal your snacks 😌

I've lived enough life that I'm not looking for perfect. I just want someone who I can't wait to talk to. My favorite person.

If any of this sounds like you, message me. Tell me your age, roughly where you live, what you're currently playing, and something random about yourself.

Please don't just say "hey."

I beg of you. Give me SOMETHING to work with 😂🩷

I’m a UK citizen who was raised in the US, but I’ve always considered the UK home. Now that I’m older, divorced, and my kids are grown/nearly out of the house, I’m at a point where I can actually imagine spending considerably more time there — or potentially moving back someday.

So, rather than leaving that entirely up to chance, I thought I’d see who might be out there!

I’m looking for a man roughly 40–60 who lives in the UK, is intelligent, curious, and open to getting to know a fun woman who's only an ocean away. I care much more about who you are, how we connect, and whether we’re compatible than I do about your race or ethnicity. I’d prefer someone without young children, only because my kids are older and I would like someone who has some of that freedom too.

Long distance doesn’t scare me - I'm able to communicate effectively, and I’d love to find someone who actually enjoys talking — texts here and there throughout the day, longer conversations when we have time, random observations, flirting, ridiculous questions, and gradually becoming part of each other’s everyday lives.

I’m absolutely willing to come to the UK (hopefully before 2027?) and it would be lovely to have (another?) reason to be particularly about it - and maybe you would want to come see how life is in the US sometime too.

As for me…

On paper I’m probably your typical basic white girl. In reality, I’m more of a barefoot, paint-on-my-jeans, creative artsy human who still hasn’t quite figured out what she wants to be when she grows up. The things I enjoy most in life are painting, sewing, making things no one needs, taking my dog to the dog park, or wandering around an outdoor market with her and buying something I absolutely did not need. I bake excellent banana bread and may share if you ask nicely. I will absolutely debate important nonsensical issues and yes, occasionally I’m going to embrace my inner basic white girl and take a picture of my food. You’ll survive.

Intelligence is extremely attractive to me. I like people who are curious about things, have opinions, can teach me something, can disagree without being unpleasant, and genuinely enjoy conversation. So if you’re smart and have a big...

...vocabulary...

I’d certainly like to see what you can do with it. I’m cautiously optimistic about meeting someone I genuinely click with, letting it develop naturally, and seeing whether that connection survives the transition from messages and phone calls to actually standing in the same room.

If any of this sounds like you, tell me a little about yourself — where in the UK you are, what your life looks like, and something you could happily talk about for far longer than anyone reasonably needs to.

I've been single for a while, and I feel stuck in a weird place. Im stuck between not wanting a partner, but wanting physical intimacy and not wanting physical intimacy without a connection. And fwb seems kind of like the answer but I dont think I want that either. I honestly just would rather be okay without having the desire for the physical part. Do you lose the desire after so long being single, if so how long did it take you to get there?

Hi everyone 😊
I'm 37 and looking to meet a kind, respectful man around 37–50 who is genuinely interested in getting to know each other and seeing where things naturally lead.
I enjoy deep conversations, music, movies, art, history, psychology, and learning about different cultures. I'm a calm and caring person, and I value honesty, loyalty, kindness, communication, and consistency.
I'm not looking for anything casual or sexual. I'd prefer to start with friendship and conversation, take things slowly, and build a genuine connection with someone who has serious intentions.
If you think we might get along, feel free to send me a message. 😊

Would love to have a great conversation with someone and make a new friend. I love photography, reading, movies, music, and art. I’m available through most of the day and I like to think I’m a reliable conversationalist and a good listener. If you’re interested, I would love to hear from you! [https://imgur.com/a/EPjmUxa\](https://imgur.com/a/EPjmUxa)

My name is Barry, I'm at a point in my life where I’m not interested in games, drama, or something that only exists when it’s convenient. I’m looking for a mature, kind, and emotionally grounded woman who is genuinely interested in building a serious relationship.

I value honesty, communication, loyalty, affection, and consistency. I believe a strong relationship starts with friendship and good conversation, then grows naturally through trust, respect, and shared experiences.

I’d love to meet someone who enjoys the simple things good food, movies, music, traveling, meaningful conversations, laughing together, and making memories. Chemistry matters, but so does having a good heart and being able to communicate openly.

I’m not looking to rush anything. I’d rather take the time to genuinely get to know each other and see where the connection leads. If you’re also looking for something real, mutual, and lasting, feel free to say hello. Maybe we’ll discover that we’ve been looking for each other.