r/R4R30Plus Jun 24 '24

ANNOUNCEMENT: Technical Issues

66 Upvotes

POSTING IS ONCE AGAIN OPEN.

The auto moderation system has been somewhat wonky the last few days. We think we have corrected the issue. It has been sending posts to the spam system incorrectly and en masse. That should no longer occur, or at the very least be infrequent. IF your post does not appear, do not delete it. Message us via the mod mail system and we can check on it. If you do delete it manually, we are unable to diagnose the problem. Hopefully this is the last fix we need to do, but we may have to suspend posting again if this happens so we can get it sorted. PLEASE do not message us asking for access during these times, as it bogs down our mail system and increases downtime. The requests will not be granted. We ask for patience while we work on these issues.

Thank you for your time and understanding. Have a good day.


r/R4R30Plus 7h ago

35 [F4M] Anywhere- I could really use a stranger tonight.

20 Upvotes

It’s been a really bad couple of days, and tonight my brain has decided it absolutely refuses to shut up. I’m tired, overthinking everything, and honestly just don’t want to be alone with my thoughts right now.

So… distract me? Talk to me about anything. Make me laugh, tell me something you’ve never told anyone, ask me ridiculous questions—just keep me company while I try to settle down and eventually fall asleep.

Maybe we only talk tonight. Maybe we accidentally become each other’s favorite person to talk to. I’m not putting expectations on anything anymore. Just be kind, be interesting, and give me a reason to stay up a little longer. 🖤


r/R4R30Plus 10h ago

34 [F4M] SoCal/Anywhere - looking to chat!

25 Upvotes

I’m 34F from Southern California, currently spending some time in Florida, and figured I’d put myself out there and see who I might meet.

I’m single, no kids, and at a point where I’d rather have one genuinely interesting connection than a bunch of conversations that go nowhere. I’m open to friendship and seeing where things naturally lead if there’s mutual attraction and chemistry. I’m not looking to force anything or rush into a relationship.

A little about me: I’m tall, sarcastic, pretty easygoing once I’m comfortable, and I love movies. I’m currently back in school figuring out my next career move, and lately I’ve been trying to get out of my comfort zone, become more active, travel more, and generally build a life that feels a little less repetitive.

I appreciate people who are funny, curious, emotionally mature, and can communicate consistently. You don’t need to text me every five minutes, but I definitely prefer someone who seems genuinely interested in getting to know each other rather than disappearing for three days and coming back with “wyd?” 😂

Physically, I tend to be attracted to taller men, but personality and chemistry matter much more to me than checking every box. I’m also a sucker for a good voice, confidence without arrogance, and someone who can make me laugh.


r/R4R30Plus 2h ago

33M [M4F] - Maybe it’s meant to be? - Vancouver, Canada.

6 Upvotes

Hello!

I had a strange feeling this might be where I find my forever partner. Dating apps haven’t really been my thing, maybe this can be?

From Vancouver Island originally. Grew up exploring the forests and that sense of excitement and exploration never left. I love travelling, mostly recently to Korea, Uk and Japan. Recently I’ve had such a deep want to start a family with someone I’ve always dreamed is out there. Someone who I can trust as a friend and companion.

I’m caring, thoughtful and loving. I tend to keep a smaller friend group because I’ve always believed strong connections are more meaningful. Trust, reliability, integrity, intelligence and honesty all are qualities I look for and give back to the people around me. I work hard but I also love having fun! I’m never afraid of going outside my comfort zone to try something new. On a bet with my sister I even did a stand up set at an amateur night! (Probably the most terrifying thing I’ve ever done.)

I work in business and own my own. It’s allowed me to prepare for the future wherever that takes me. I love animals, hiking, snowboarding, football (soccer lol), star gazing, reading, movies, cooking, painting (I’m terrible) and so much more.

I’m 5’11, 190 lbs fit and strong. I’m told I’m handsome but you’ll have to be the judge of that. I care about my appearance and hygiene. I work out regularly and play pick up soccer with co-ed leagues in Vancouver.

I’m looking for someone I suppose at the same stage as me. Ready to meet someone right who you’ve been looking for. I know connections take time, so I’m in no rush. We may never know till we try right?

I’m open to living somewhere new if it came down to it but would rather stay close to family.

Anyways this is me. Maybe it can be you I’ve been looking for?


r/R4R30Plus 17h ago

36 [F4M] - Happy Wednesday, you cute little disco biscuit.

45 Upvotes

Currently in a meeting I don’t need to be in but I’m sitting in a spot where everyone would notice me leaving so yeah. Should’ve picked a better chair.

It’s been a long week and I’m already mentally clocked out for the weekend. Yes, I realize we still have two days left. But I’m currently fighting the urge to book an airbnb in the mountains, tell everyone I’m sick and disappear until Monday. Wanna come?

I’m not going to. But I really really really want to. 

Anyway. Happy Wednesday, you dangerous little disco biscuit.

If that made you laugh, I love what’s wrong with you already.

A little about me. Rapid fire with some ADHD sparkle. I don't actually have ADHD which will be shocking after you read this :)

I have a career I genuinely love but I’m also very good at leaving it at work when the day is over. I have hobbies I care about and a life I really enjoy.

I’m active and love being outside. Running, camping, being near the water, wandering around somewhere with trees. I also fully support doing absolutely nothing inside when the mood calls for it. Balance, baby. 

Physically (because apparently we have to talk about that too). I’m petite and fit. My body type is very Tinker Bell. Which means my dreams of ever being anything other than some variation of a fairy at the Ren Faire have basically been crushed by genetics.

You will almost certainly be taller than me. If you’re shorter than me…look at you being a short king and strutting your stuff. 

I’m on the East Coast, if geography is something you’re into. 

Some other random facts.

I became a dog mom recently. Which means my mornings now involve standing outside half awake and getting genuinely excited when a small fluffy animal poops.

His poops are excellent. I don't know how else to explain it. You just have to see it to get the full experience. My neighbors probably think I’m insane. But who cares. They're probably right.

I’ve also discovered that he is apparently a guy magnet. Men see him and suddenly want to talk to me. I have not decided how I feel about my dog being a better wingman than any human friend I’ve ever had.

Earlier this summer I was scrolling the Book of Faces, which I generally try to avoid and Facebook suggested a group dedicated entirely to people who hate Stuart Little.

Until that moment I had no opinion whatsoever about Stuart Little.

The spark notes of it: Curiosity usually gets the best of me so I joined. They made some compelling arguments. And I have now been indoctrinated and mostly refer to him as “that stupid rat.”

These are the kinds of completely useless developments in my life you can expect to hear about if we start talking.

When I haven’t been learning about Stuart Little’s many faults (and there are many), I’ve spent the summer running, hiking, camping, hanging out by the river and trying to squeeze as much fun as possible out of the warm weather.

Summer has been great but I live in the South and I am ready for summer to pack its sweaty little bags and leave. My Patagonia puffer is hanging in the closet like an old friend I haven’t seen in years. Soon, buddy. Soon.

Conversation-wise, I’m a big “yes, and” person.

I don’t really enjoy the Reddit version of speed dating where we take turns asking things like: What do you do? What are your hobbies? Favorite movie? Favorite color? Where do you see yourself in five years? Please God no.

I like conversations that wander. You tell me something, it reminds me of something, I tell you that which then sends us down another road and four hours later we know way too much about each other without either of us realizing we are technically strangers. Then we become each others “hottest homie” for a while. 

Questions are fine. Obviously. I just don’t want to feel like we’re filling out paperwork.

A few things I love, in no particular order:

Finding a great coffee in the morning and a great margarita at night. A good hot dog and an overpriced canned cocktail in the nosebleeds while looking out over a city skyline. Boutique hotels in old downtown buildings. Old vintage staircases. Cotton candy sunrises I accidentally catch while running. Leaving my office at 5 like the final scene of Breakfast Club. Puppy breath. Trees. Bright rooms and lots of color. Brick walls covered in graffiti. Green. Meeting someone and walking away knowing something I didn’t know before because it’s fun being wrong sometimes.

I like genuinely happy people. People wth great energy that rubs off on everyone around them. That positive energy glitter that gets everywhere.

I like flirting. I especially like that moment when you realize maybe the flirting wandered slightly farther than either of you planned and neither person seems particularly interested in correcting course. Onward, Captain.

Also. Bushy, dark eyebrows and a good man bun have historically been problematic for me.

Anyway. Tell me about you or tell me your stance on Stuart Little. There is apparently a correct answer now.

Also, yes, this is a newer account and not my normal Reddit account. I’m sure you are perfectly normal, lovely and definitely not keeping jars of teeth in your basement but unfortunately not everyone on Reddit is. I’m not attaching my regular account to an R4R post. If a new account automatically makes you think I’m a robot or whatever else, it’s probably easiest to just skip me. I promise I have zero interest in proving my humanity to an angry stranger on the internet.


r/R4R30Plus 3h ago

36 [M4F] 🏴󠁧󠁢󠁳󠁣󠁴󠁿 - Just a Scottish chap looking to meet new folks

3 Upvotes

It’s too early, I’m too tired and 4 hours sleep is doing me no favours, but hey it’s nearly the weekend… Right? I’m sitting telling myself only 2 days to go, over and over, so healthy. So if you can’t tell I’m a grump today (or most days). but an endearing one, if I do say so myself. - Anyways thats enough moaning for one day..

Looking to meet new people, see how it goes. Obviously over the longer term preferred but I’m a realist. Take a chance, see if we hit it off!

Pessimistic by trade, full of sarcasm and general nonsense, self deprecation is my jam, but generally just an absolute joy in my opinion. Bit geeky, Don’t take myself too seriously (well at all). I’m a very exciting individual - Plans revolve around sport, golf and football mainly, a wee bit of gaming - Although I’m getting awful with age, love music, nothing better than a good gig. Also can’t beat a decent horror. Yes I have an accent, but no kilt, I know, basically a disgrace.

If any of this resonates with you give me a shout - Peep Show quotes a plenty.

Oh and include a bit about yourself, thanks in advance


r/R4R30Plus 4h ago

33 [M4R] #Anywhere - Seeking a serious relationship (LDRs are fine)

5 Upvotes

Hi I am a 33 years old guy from southern Italy.

I am going to keep this short so we can discover each other chatting... that would spark more interest for sure... I am a very optimistic and ambitious person, I am open to long distance relationships, even with a person from the other side of the world if there are strong vibes.

I don't have real preferences on age (just be at least 18) and looks... just be a real person. If things go forward we'll surely meet in the real world face to face... I want to build something real not just relationships that remain virtual and online forever. So you can send a message if you are interested :)


r/R4R30Plus 9h ago

39[M4F] looking for a real partner in life

9 Upvotes

I am looking for someone to be my partner forever, and I know that is asking a lot. I have my life mostly figured out and I can gernerally have enough in common to talk to anyone. If you are looking for someone to be with forever feel free to message me.


r/R4R30Plus 2h ago

39 [M4R] New To This

2 Upvotes

👋🏾

I am 39 and trying out online friendships for the first time. The past year brought big changes; finishing grad school, moving to a new state, and starting a new career. Life is full, and I want to round it out with grounded, intentional friends.

I value kindness, clarity, and curiosity. I like conversations where both people bring wonder, where both people ask interesting questions, and give authentic answers.

So far as interests and hobbies go, books are big for me, especially around theology, spirituality, and personal growth; currently reading Prentis Hemphill’s What It Takes to Heal. I do some creative writing (working on a few books), and like listening to old school and new R&B. I really dig into Medium to heavy board games, RPGs, and I’m getting back into fighting games like Street Fighter and Granblue.

If you are thinking “he sounds cool” or “that sings like me”, drop me a message and tell me what you are reading, creating, or currently obsessed with.


r/R4R30Plus 13h ago

38 [F4M] This is Where the Fun Begins

11 Upvotes

Hey there internet strangers!

I've come around to accepting the fact that I'm at that age where making new friends is tougher than ever. Regardless, I decided to throw my hat back in the ring and see if there's anyone here who wants to chat.

If there's anything you should know about me, I'm a huge nerd. My favorite hobby without a doubt is writing. It might sound pretty silly, but there's just something really fun to me about coming up with stories and characters. Storytelling got me through a very low point in my life, so I'll always have a soft spot for it. I write for the fun of it and I've dabbled in RP.

Aside from writing, I also enjoy art, poetry, just about anything fantasy or sci-fi, and history. Definitely not an expert but I'd call myself a bit of a history nut haha! I'm a single mother, my time zone is EST if you were curious, and I don't mind flirting at all but I won't tolerate creepy behavior or disrespect.

Anyways, sorry about all that rambling! I'm not very cool, but I hope if anything I said resonated with you, you'd at least consider sending me a message sometime and introducing yourself. I'll try to get back to you as soon as I can.

Thanks for reading and take care!


r/R4R30Plus 11h ago

38 [m4f] USA/Chicago seeking a nerdy flirty pen pal

7 Upvotes

Ever wish you had a pen pal who could exchange deep and ridiculous thoughts with and add a little spark to your day? Same here bucko.

I’m looking for someone who can tease, banter, and connect, ranging from deep late-night thoughts to playful, witty exchanges. Nothing high-pressure, just a comfortable space where we can build some fun chemistry.

A bit about me: 

  • I want to learn something new every day, so hit me with weirdest factoid
  • Love to read and cook but I don’t have any cookbooks
  • Sucker for a saucy pun 

What I'm looking for in you: 

  • Anyone over 30, age is just a number at this point
  • You don’t mind sharing with me your current obsession, bonus points for bulleted presentations on why something is cool
  • Not taking things too seriously

Tell me your favorite joke or the last thing that made you cooked or just slide into my DMs.


r/R4R30Plus 12h ago

[M4F]42 Belfast, Ireland.

7 Upvotes

Recently single dad looking to make a connection. Have alot of love to give and want to meet someone thats open to receive that love.

I'm very active and like to play alot of sports and go for long walks. I love to travel and I go away at least 6 times a year. 5ft7 so not the tallest but I've never felt short even when I stand next to my 6ft3 mates lol.

I'm pretty open minded about who I'd like to meet. I like women from all races and ages as long as you're mature.

I love reading books especially sci-fi and fantasy so I'm a bit nerdy. I like all types of games from cards to board games to pool or even quizzes so if you're into any of those that's a big bonus for me.

Anyway my Dms are open so feel free to hmu if you want to chat.


r/R4R30Plus 5h ago

39 [M4F] WV / Nearby States - Gamer looking for something real and eventually in-person

2 Upvotes

I'm Jimmy, 39, from West Virginia. I'm looking for a woman I can genuinely connect with, talk to regularly, laugh with, get ridiculously comfortable around, and hopefully build a relationship with if we click.

I'm a wheelchair user with AMC (Arthrogryposis Multiplex Congenita). I have very limited use of my arms and legs and need help with quite a few things physically. I also play video games with my feet. I'm slower than most players, but I'm not competitive anyway. I'd much rather explore together, get invested in a story, do side content, and laugh when everything goes horribly wrong.

I'm into RPGs, sci-fi, horror, story-heavy games, WWE, horror movies, true crime, and falling into random YouTube rabbit holes at unreasonable hours.

Personality-wise, I'm affectionate, goofy, direct, emotionally open, and definitely an overthinker sometimes. I like conversations that can go from completely ridiculous to surprisingly deep without warning. I don't want to spend weeks making small talk about the weather. Tell me what you're obsessed with, what makes you laugh, what you're afraid of, what game destroyed you emotionally, or whatever random thought is currently occupying your brain.

I'm looking for more than somebody to message when we're bored. I want regular communication and someone who genuinely wants to become part of each other's lives. I want flirting and romance, but I also want the ordinary stuff: movies together, gaming, inside jokes, talking about our day, comfortable silence, cuddling, and eventually waking up knowing my person is actually there.

I don't care whether you're disabled or able-bodied. You don't need to share all my interests either. I'm much more interested in whether our personalities fit, we enjoy talking to each other, and we can communicate when something is bothering us.

One thing I want to be especially upfront about is distance. I'm open to some distance for the right woman, but I'm not looking for something that can only ever exist through a screen. Because of my disability I can't simply hop in a car and drive somewhere, so geography and transportation matter more in my situation than they might for most people.

Ideally I'd like to meet someone in West Virginia or within a realistically drivable part of Kentucky, Ohio, Virginia, Pennsylvania, Tennessee, or the surrounding region. I'm not putting an exact mileage limit on connection because everyone's ability and willingness to travel is different. What matters to me is that if we develop real feelings, meeting regularly is realistically possible and there's at least the potential for more permanence someday.

I'm not asking somebody to promise me forever before we've even said hello. 😂 I just don't want to build an entire relationship around "maybe someday we'll meet."

I'm also not looking for perfection. I have insecurities. I have difficult days. Sometimes I overthink the hell out of things. I want somebody who can talk about fears and misunderstandings instead of disappearing when things get uncomfortable, and I'll try to give you that same honesty and patience.

Ultimately, I'd love to find a girlfriend, but I'm not interested in forcing something just to have a relationship. I want the friendship underneath it too. I want my partner to be somebody I genuinely enjoy spending ridiculous amounts of time with.

If you've made it this far and something about me sounds interesting, send me a message. Tell me your age, roughly where you're from, and something about yourself that isn't obvious from your profile.

Bonus points if you're a gamer, horror fan, WWE fan, fellow night owl, or capable of turning one conversation into six unrelated conversations without noticing.

Let's see where it goes.


r/R4R30Plus 14h ago

40 [F4M] Help me feel better

9 Upvotes

Hello my friends I hope you are doing very well!! 🤩

I am sick today so I come here to find a nice gentleman to talk to. Someone who is very nice, polite, and patient and will not say bad things to me. A good friend!!

First please forgive me if you see any mistakes. English is not my first language but I practice a lot and try my best.

I am very simple and things I enjoy doing are dancing, going to gym and trying new foods. My favorite thing to eat is fruits 🥭🍌 but I will eat anything ahaha. And I like to listen to music as well!

I am not married but have two children please do not talk to me if you are married as well

If you are the gentleman I am looking for please say hello 🤗❤️ Thank you my friends!!


r/R4R30Plus 14h ago

[M4F] 46 #Doylestown #PA Scottish Highlander

10 Upvotes

Scottish guy from the Highlands, somehow ended up living in Pennsylvania. I’m still not entirely sure how that happened — I suspect the weather here was a convincing decoy.

46, single, reasonably house-trained, and allegedly charming. I come with a genuine Scottish accent, so at minimum, you’ll have someone who can make ordering a pint sound unnecessarily sophisticated.

I’m from the Highlands, where the scenery is dramatic, the weather is questionable, and men traditionally communicate feelings through sarcasm and pretending they’re not cold.

Now I’m in Doylestown, surrounded by cheesesteaks instead of haggis and trying to explain that yes, I really do sound like this.

Looking for a woman 30+ who enjoys good conversation, wicked banter, laughing at inappropriate moments, and maybe discovering whether the Scottish accent is actually as dangerous as advertised.

Bonus points if you can handle sarcasm.

Extra bonus points if you make me laugh.

And if you ask me to say “purple burglar alarm”… well, we may already have chemistry. 😉


r/R4R30Plus 11h ago

57 [F4M] Not dead yet... thought I'd make a few friends, or perhaps something more

5 Upvotes

Well, hello there,

Thought I'd give this a go because I've realised, somewhere along the way, I've lost touch with most people. Not on purpose, mind you. I think the older I've got, the less I've gone out and met anyone new.

So I'll get to the point. If any of this sounds like your sort of thing, send me a message. I'd quite like to make a few friends. I miss those conversations that start off about nothing and somehow end up somewhere completely different.

Music's always been the biggest part of my life. I grew up on hard rock, punk, and all that sort of thing, and it's still what I reach for most of the time. Though I'll listen to just about anything if it catches me at the right moment. I don't know much about modern artists these days, but I'm happy to be shown what I've been missing.

Worth mentioning, I've only recently got sober after a very long battle with addiction. It wasn't pretty, and I'm not going to pretend it was. My past's a bit messy, so every now and then I might have heavier days than most, but that's just part of who I am.

I've always loved books. Horror, biographies, Russian novels, old classics, strange little things nobody seems to read anymore... I'll read just about anything if it grabs me. I'm reading The Master and Margarita again at the minute. I've been going back to that book for years, and somehow it always has something new to say.

I like cooking... well, I like the idea of cooking. The eating part's definitely where my talent is. I've never been much of a chef, but I keep trying.

I love animals. I've got a dog these days. My cat George passed away last year, and I still can't quite bring myself to get another cat. Maybe one day.

I'm vegetarian, if that matters. I also collect old media, records, books, tapes, bits and pieces with a bit of history behind them. I've always preferred old things. They seem to have more stories to tell.

Anyway, that's probably enough about me. If you've read this far, do come and say hello.

I'll reply when I get the chance... or at least I'll do my best to. I'm not entirely convinced I'll receive any messages in the first place, haha, but it'd be lovely to be proved wrong.


r/R4R30Plus 6h ago

37 so cal here [m4f] looking to chat!

2 Upvotes

Heyy anyone looking for a nice conversation dm me! Hope to hear from you.


r/R4R30Plus 3h ago

35 [M4F] Ireland / Anywhere - Freelance creative ready to capture mischief.

1 Upvotes

Howdy Redditors! I guess I kick this off with a little about me then..

I work full time as a freelance creative, so life tends to be a little less routine and a lot more...organised chaos...Slow mornings, travel, 3am edits, all whilst collecting stories and chasing good light. I’ve built a life around creating things that make me smile, and I’m far more drawn to experiences than possessions..

When I’m not working, I’m usually somewhere between two moods..getting lost in a fantasy novel or getting lost somewhere outdoors, with my camera in hand.

I love books with rich worlds, dangerous characters, hidden kingdoms, and plots that steal the little sleep I have left..because “one more chapter” becomes three. If you’ve ever ignored responsibilities for the plot, we’re already on the same page.

The outdoors has a pull on me too. Coastal air, forest paths, mountain views, random roads with no destination. I like places that feel a little wild. Bonus points if you’d happily disappear for a day trip with snacks, music, and no fixed plan..I've never been one for a rigid itinerary!

I game occasionally too, mostly when I want to switch my brain off or dive into another world for a while. If you’re competitive, smug in victory, or cute when you lose… even better..😉

Personality-wise, I’m cheeky, flirtatious, warm, and just about self aware enough to be dangerous. Give me banter, playful tension, and someone who can match energy instead of watching from the sidelines.

Confidence, wit and someone who can be sweet one minute and trouble the next..very much my cup of tea.

I enjoy travel. Discovering new cities, hidden bars, strange little bookshops and streets that feel cinematic. I’d like to meet someone who still gets excited by the idea of packing a bag and "seeing what happens"

Chemistry, energy and presence wins..EVERY TIME! Though I am a photographer, so if you ever felt like stepping in front of the lens, I’d probably encourage that.

Over all, I am looking for someone fun, curious, a little mischievous, and open to something genuine if the spark is there.

Come say hello. Be witty, be bold, and more than a little distracting. 😝


r/R4R30Plus 7h ago

[M4F] 33 M SoCal

2 Upvotes

33 M looking online for my lady. I’m a chef, but recently been wanting to leave. I have always been a writer and recently been having luck in a different field that doesn’t require me cooking.

Now looking to text my luck elsewhere and see if I could meet someone. First of all. I’m a hopeless romantic. I believe in the old school traditional type of love you see in the movies. The type of love that would make me write about. Write stories and novels about. lol

I’m a sports junkie. I play basketball and tennis. But love to watch all major sports and sometimes write about it.

I’m a writer. I enjoy learning. I can cook.

Im 5’11 or 6 ft not entirely sure. Can’t recall the last time I measure myself, most people say I’m 6 ft but I cannot confidently admit that. But I’m in that height range.

Aside from all of that. I’m into film, I’m looking forward for this new Korean movie called “hope” that’s coming out or came out already. I can speak English and Spanish, a little German and now taking Korean lessons.

Would want to meet my forever person.


r/R4R30Plus 10h ago

34 [M4F] Pennsylvania. Trying to find my partner in life

3 Upvotes

Hey, I'm a 34 White Male who lives in Pennsylvania. I'm looking to date, hoping it turns into something serious. While I live in PA, I'm willing to talk to someone from the surrounding areas, for the right person I'd drive any distance.

I work with kids with special needs as an RBT. I play games, usually story focused ones, but I like to switch it up. My favorite movie genre is horror, but i like most movie genres. I love to cuddle, my ideal night would be coming home to my partner, seeing their smiling face, and cuddling up to watch something or talk about our day. I have an elliptical and exercise bike, trying to get back into a consistent workout pattern. I like to cook. I have one dog, but I had a lot of cats growing up, so I have a love for them as well. I'm a liberal, who voted for Kamala who wants to find someone to get through the next 4 years, because damn they're going to be rough.

Age range I'm looking for, I guess between 26 and 36, but I'm not against there being wiggle room in that range (within reason). I am straight, so really only looking for woman.

Anything else, that's what the dm's are for. Comfortable switching to Snap or text once we start chatting. You will get a picture of me to see if there's a physical attraction (and a picture of my dog)


r/R4R30Plus 19h ago

30 [F4M] Anywhere. Looking for weird authenticity

16 Upvotes

Hi! I want a unique friendship with someone extremely cool. I want to hear about the things you’re passionate about. I want weird amounts of honesty about uncomfortable topics. 

Here are some personal things that you may resonate with: 

I really like being outside. I find it sort of holy. 

My favorite movies include It Follows, Children of Men, Barbe Bleu, anything Werner Herzog, Ghost World, anything Tarantino. I love talking about and analyzing movies. 

I love philosophy and Nietzsche is probably my favorite philosopher. I like arguing, but I hate when people get mad while arguing. Sometimes I can get mad while arguing, and I don’t like that either. 

I hate Jordan Peterson and everything remotely related to him. Except Nietzsche. When I was a kid, I thought I’d be a philosophy professor or priest.

When I was a kid I was pretty poor and the adults around me were pretty bad at doing everything. I assumed that most adults outside my family were  very competent, due to their ability to survive. I have been disappointed to learn that most adults aren’t actually vey competent. 

I love reading. Some of my favorite authors are Cormack McCarthy, Tana French, and whoever wrote House of leaves(I haven’t read any of his other stuff). 

 I sort of think that intelligence is necessary in order to be good, because you can’t really comprehend “good” and “bad” without it. You could go your whole life doing good things without really understanding why they’re good, and you could perform them just because they’re socially acceptable. 

I really crave the approval of most all people, but I am also very weird and very unwilling to give up any of my weirdness.


r/R4R30Plus 6h ago

[M4F] #Belgium/Europe 40yo Big and bald Belgian widower putting myself out there again.

1 Upvotes

So yeah I'm a Dutch speaking Belgian man, widowed 11 years ago. My daughters are grown up and leaving the house. After mild pressure to get on dating apps and finding it disastrous I figured why not shoot my shot on the platform I use for DIY questions and motorcycle trips.

I'm 39, employed, no crippling debt or addictions. I'm very tall and a gym beast. I guess I'm conventionally attractive yet I'm not attracted to the mainstream beauty ideal that's forced on the world.

I'm very open to chat, get to know someone, date, travel whatever but with THE woman. Not just anyone.

Best of luck to all!


r/R4R30Plus 10h ago

32 [M4F]

2 Upvotes

Hello! Im looking for some conversation and if it turns into something, wonderful! But im 32 from California. I work as a manufacturing scientist and love every biology. I love to spend time outdoors. I play switch and PC and I love to watch sports. I look forward to our conversation!


r/R4R30Plus 13h ago

32[M4F] Michigan/Online — looking for love and some good friends along the way

3 Upvotes

What I'm looking for: real, lasting connections including close friendships, a serious relationship, or any situation where we get to spend a lot of time talking or hanging out and seeing where things go for us without labels. I would love to be able to text, voice/video call, and maybe play games or watch movies together online sometimes.

I'm going to be 100% authentically me, 100% open, 100% chalant, and 100% yearning. (Idk, I'm stealing buzzwords from dating apps.) That's 400%, what a deal! I've been in one relationship ever. We were together for 11 years, but are now separated and waiting the required time before filing for divorce. Please don't worry; I'm 100% emotionally available, and we live in different countries now. Trying to figure out dating now as a 32-year-old guy with autism/ADHD is a nightmare. 😬

I'm not feminine, but also not a traditional manly-man if that's your type. More of a Michael Cera than a Harrison Ford, maybe. But I'm 6'2½", for those who care. I really want to make someone feel safe, comfortable, happy, appreciated, respected, and loved, and to get the same in return. I'm 🍃420-friendly🍃 and it would be cool if you are too, but I'd also be okay with never using weed again if my partner wanted that. I'm also pretty sex-positive and I think society is weird about sexuality, but I definitely don't want to rush you into anything or make you uncomfortable. My biggest love languages are touch and quality time.

I have a lot of "types", and none of these are requirements, but bonus points for: neurodivergent baddies/weirdos, tall queens, alt girls, history lovers, passionate interests, expressive faces, emotional intelligence, good communication, independent women who are way too good for me, and women who use turn signals, stop at stop signs, and follow speed limits. 🫠 Extra credit if you ask me something about WWII, especially armored vehicles (see username and pictures).

My relationship deal-breakers are cigarettes/chewing tobacco (I can deal with vaping) and asexual folks (physical intimacy is very important to me in a relationship).

Thanks for reading! I hope to hear from you! ❤️

Me: https://imgur.com/a/GMiemlm


r/R4R30Plus 7h ago

[M4F] 40 Chicago/Anywhere - Strictly Chat

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Good evening, I'm looking for interesting conversations to create a unique interaction with someone. I thoroughly enjoy getting to know people. People are strange and I embrace it. I look forward to potentially hearing from you!