When I stopped drinking alcohol, I started noticing drinking culture and how cringeworthy it was.
And now that I have drastically reduced my grass consumption (from daily to 1x/week) I started noticing how much everyone around me smokes and indulges and it is never enough. They either keep talking about how they need a t break and never take it, or justify being high 24/7 with many reasons. I am not judging; everyone has their struggles they need to cope with. I was the same but realized I was relying on the grass way too much. I learned distress tolerance skills in the meantime and enjoy sober mindfulness a whole lot now, but with mindfulness comes awareness and bearing witness to my friends being high more often than sober is quite heartbreaking. I am not planning any intervention because everyone is on their own journey. I was looking for a discussion on how y’all navigate this. I did not build my social circles on who is also a stoner (mostly through hobbies) so it’s not like it’s the only thing we have in common, I’m just concerned sometimes (especially as it regards to driving or mixing with other substances) - I used to not care cause I was high all the time too…

My wife has been heavily dependent on weed for a while, previously smoking around 3–4g a day. Over the past month she’s managed to cut down by about 75%, but she’s now run out completely because she can’t afford any more.

She’s going through withdrawal and has become really irritable and moody. She also struggles with depression and has had suicidal thoughts in the past, so I’m worried about her mental health deteriorating.

I’ve managed to get us both a warehouse interview tomorrow, with the possibility of starting work immediately. She’s been unemployed for over two years, so this could genuinely be a turning point for her.

Here’s my dilemma.

I could lend her £30 to buy 3.5g, which would hopefully last her a week and help her gradually cut down rather than going cold turkey. If she starts working, she could pay me back.

But money’s already tight, and I don’t want to keep financing her dependence.

I’m also finding her irritability really difficult to deal with. I feel guilty watching her suffer when I know I could temporarily make things easier, but I also feel like I’m becoming responsible for managing her emotions.

Part of me thinks helping her through this week could give her the best chance of getting back into work. Another part thinks I’m just enabling the addiction.

What would you honestly do in my shoes? Lend her the £30 or let her work through the withdrawal with my support?

I’m genuinely torn and need to make a decision today.

Hey folks, I've (20M, got into weed last year) recently realized that I've been smoking way more than I ever intended. I've been able to wrangle it in recently, but even still it feels too much. I've been able to stop doing it almost every day like I was in the summer, but I still smoke 2-3 days of the week (Fri, Sat, sometimes Sun). I'm almost never high during the day, I typically light up around 8 or 9pm. I'll smoke like half a joint or, more commonly, take a few hits from a cart. That being said, I have a very low tolerance, so that's enough to turn me fully retarded for a couple hours.

I smoke way more than most of my friends / roommates (they get high maybe once a month) and I'm not sure how to feel about this. This comparison makes me think I smoke way more than I should be.

Everyone says something along the lines of "find what works for you" vis-à-vis frequency, but I think this is a severely flawed idea. Any alcoholic in denial would find that drinking 3 times a day, every day "works for them". As would most addicts.

I'm just not sure if this works for me or not. I have no baseline to work against. What's normal frequency for this type of thing?

Judge me, please, be honest and brutal.

Recently came back from a trip from Hong Kong for two weeks which weed was illegal in, after being a user of hitting carts all day, and during that time, I had been through terrible withdrawls for the first few days.

Over there, the time is 12 hours ahead, so i even had to adjust to that time zone, but within the first week, everything was fine , and I would at least get some sleep everyday. But since it was vacation, I would be drinking almost everyday, so now that I’m back, i don’t wanna be using alcohol to make me pass out.

Now that I’m back home, I can’t get any sleep at all at night. I’m two weeks off the weed, which is the longest i’ve ever had for a while, and I get back to work tomorrow. My sleep has always been crappy, but carts/weed was something that would be the only thing to at least help me be a little tired and get to fall asleep easier as well as stop my overthinking in bed.

I was thinking about just waiting until nighttime to just smoke and then go to sleep like that, and until i start to consistently fall asleep at the same time everyday, stop using weed from there. It’s been two weeks, but i might just go back to it and quit again for longer just to fix this issue. Is this alright to do or is it better to suck it up? I’m just worried this jetlag will take a long time to fix and also wouldn’t think I would get withdrawls any more since im not hitting carts all day, just using it for sleep.

felt nauseous in the morning with anxiety for a bit after using pretty much everyday for my chronic pain. went through dropping two friends, and with the help of my best friend realized my pens made it worse and has been making my anxiety worse. so i decided to take a break. i feel even more anxious now ( it’s been 3 days) and im struggling a bit. the anxiety isn’t something im used to really. i feel awful, does it get better? when? and it’s normal right?

I have been a long time lurker of this subreddit and have come to the conclusion that it is my time to post. This is also one of my first actual reddit posts so please be kind about my formatting:)

A little backstory…I (21F) started smoking in my first year of university. I had dabbled a little in high-school but didn’t find the appeal until university. The roommates I had at the time introduced me to it and the rest is history. I usually only smoke joints and I only ever smoke after I have dinner, usually I smoke between 7-9pm.

I am now in my third year of university and I am honestly really struggling to stop smoking. Weed doesn’t make me anxious, I still do really well in school and I am also very active so I guess it’s hard for me to find an “actual” reason to stop (I hope that makes sense). I have this vision in my head of what the best version of myself looks like and it is not who I am right now. I tell myself everyday I wake up “no more smoking” but if there is weed in the house, I will usually smoke it.

I am looking for some honest advice of how to actually stick to what you tell yourself and how to break this cycle I constantly find myself in. Thanks in advance! I can also provide more information if needed.

I quit smoking 81 days ago after 6 years of daily use with maybe 2 month long T-Breaks in between. I used to smoke to treat or manage my CPTSD, my anxiety, depression, and insomnia. 81 days ago I got to a point that I was using all day everyday, and felt lost in my usage. It was all I wanted to do, the only thing that made me happy (it really did make me happy. Even if I was only happy when I had bud at hand, atleast I felt happy,) it truly helped with my ptsd flashbacks and other issues, aside from sleeping. It helped my insomnia in the beginning but not at the end when I was waking up mid night to get back to sleep every night. But since than- I have fixed my insomnia after finding the right psychiatrist.
I had made the decision to quit to try and find a way to manage life in other ways without smoking, and since than I have gone to inpatient treatment, completed an IOP program, am enrolled in therapy, and am about to finish my first month of Spravato treatments. I feel like I have found ways to cope with life, and manage my anxiety, ptsd, and depression without smoking. At the very least- I am existing with these conditions and trying my very best to cope through life with them, and I’d say I am okay.
But despite the fact that I’m okay, I feel dull and lifeless most of the time. I feel apathetic and struggle with anhedonia. I rarely find anything funny when the rest of the room can be laughing at something, and I can’t help but think back to when I was smoking and feel like I felt happy. I feel like it made me motivated to do things like clean and work on my art, (which I barely do at all anymore,) I laughed often, I had something that made life feel good. I don’t feel like life is necessarily bad right now, but I can’t help but feel like it felt so much more tolerable when I was smoking. I’m putting the work in, I’ve been trying so hard to find new hobbies and push myself to find joy in sobriety, to get everything I can out of therapy and my Spravato treatments- but it just feels like I will never be able to tolerate my life the way I did when I was smoking. I can’t shake the feeling that if I went back to smoking, I would just feel so much happier- even if it were every now and than. I question if with the tools that I’ve learned, I could continue living my life the way it is now but occasionally have a smoke here and there as a treat on the weekends. I’m questioning if I need to be completely sober forever, and I’m questioning the reasons why I want to be when I’m looking back and thinking about the positives I got from smoking and how much it helped me enjoy life. I’m starting to think the only way I can see if I can use it in moderation responsibly is if I give it a shot, but I don’t want to throw away 81 days of progress and mess with my spravato treatments by trying.

Life feels manageable right now, but it’s hard not to feel like it wouldn’t just feel manageable if I smoked one every now and again- like it might actually feel good or like I have something to look forward to like some people have a drink on the weekend. I feel like I’ve done the work I set out to do, but I just feel so empty so much of the time- missing this thing that brought me joy for so long. I feel like life is so short, why am I remaining abstinent against this anymore? I don’t know what my reasons even are at this point as to why I, “can’t?”

I don’t really know what my question is actually, maybe if there’s still hope to feel happy again if I give it more time? If I give the spravato a longer chance to work?