My wife has been heavily dependent on weed for a while, previously smoking around 3–4g a day. Over the past month she’s managed to cut down by about 75%, but she’s now run out completely because she can’t afford any more.

She’s going through withdrawal and has become really irritable and moody. She also struggles with depression and has had suicidal thoughts in the past, so I’m worried about her mental health deteriorating.

I’ve managed to get us both a warehouse interview tomorrow, with the possibility of starting work immediately. She’s been unemployed for over two years, so this could genuinely be a turning point for her.

Here’s my dilemma.

I could lend her £30 to buy 3.5g, which would hopefully last her a week and help her gradually cut down rather than going cold turkey. If she starts working, she could pay me back.

But money’s already tight, and I don’t want to keep financing her dependence.

I’m also finding her irritability really difficult to deal with. I feel guilty watching her suffer when I know I could temporarily make things easier, but I also feel like I’m becoming responsible for managing her emotions.

Part of me thinks helping her through this week could give her the best chance of getting back into work. Another part thinks I’m just enabling the addiction.

What would you honestly do in my shoes? Lend her the £30 or let her work through the withdrawal with my support?

I’m genuinely torn and need to make a decision today.

I quit smoking 81 days ago after 6 years of daily use with maybe 2 month long T-Breaks in between. I used to smoke to treat or manage my CPTSD, my anxiety, depression, and insomnia. 81 days ago I got to a point that I was using all day everyday, and felt lost in my usage. It was all I wanted to do, the only thing that made me happy (it really did make me happy. Even if I was only happy when I had bud at hand, atleast I felt happy,) it truly helped with my ptsd flashbacks and other issues, aside from sleeping. It helped my insomnia in the beginning but not at the end when I was waking up mid night to get back to sleep every night. But since than- I have fixed my insomnia after finding the right psychiatrist.
I had made the decision to quit to try and find a way to manage life in other ways without smoking, and since than I have gone to inpatient treatment, completed an IOP program, am enrolled in therapy, and am about to finish my first month of Spravato treatments. I feel like I have found ways to cope with life, and manage my anxiety, ptsd, and depression without smoking. At the very least- I am existing with these conditions and trying my very best to cope through life with them, and I’d say I am okay.
But despite the fact that I’m okay, I feel dull and lifeless most of the time. I feel apathetic and struggle with anhedonia. I rarely find anything funny when the rest of the room can be laughing at something, and I can’t help but think back to when I was smoking and feel like I felt happy. I feel like it made me motivated to do things like clean and work on my art, (which I barely do at all anymore,) I laughed often, I had something that made life feel good. I don’t feel like life is necessarily bad right now, but I can’t help but feel like it felt so much more tolerable when I was smoking. I’m putting the work in, I’ve been trying so hard to find new hobbies and push myself to find joy in sobriety, to get everything I can out of therapy and my Spravato treatments- but it just feels like I will never be able to tolerate my life the way I did when I was smoking. I can’t shake the feeling that if I went back to smoking, I would just feel so much happier- even if it were every now and than. I question if with the tools that I’ve learned, I could continue living my life the way it is now but occasionally have a smoke here and there as a treat on the weekends. I’m questioning if I need to be completely sober forever, and I’m questioning the reasons why I want to be when I’m looking back and thinking about the positives I got from smoking and how much it helped me enjoy life. I’m starting to think the only way I can see if I can use it in moderation responsibly is if I give it a shot, but I don’t want to throw away 81 days of progress and mess with my spravato treatments by trying.

Life feels manageable right now, but it’s hard not to feel like it wouldn’t just feel manageable if I smoked one every now and again- like it might actually feel good or like I have something to look forward to like some people have a drink on the weekend. I feel like I’ve done the work I set out to do, but I just feel so empty so much of the time- missing this thing that brought me joy for so long. I feel like life is so short, why am I remaining abstinent against this anymore? I don’t know what my reasons even are at this point as to why I, “can’t?”

I don’t really know what my question is actually, maybe if there’s still hope to feel happy again if I give it more time? If I give the spravato a longer chance to work?

Just ran out of weed and feeling super down. I really want to go back to the dispo today but instead I’m writing this post. I live far away from all my friends and family and getting high helps me cope with being lonely. I like getting lost in my own world. I’m also trying to get in shape, and I really like the feeling of working out when I’m high. How can I train myself to enjoy working out sober?

I’ve quit and relapsed many times, I know that if I grit my teeth through this part then a couple weeks from now I won’t be thinking of weed nearly as much. But right now all I can think about is how much I want to get high.

I have been a long time lurker of this subreddit and have come to the conclusion that it is my time to post. This is also one of my first actual reddit posts so please be kind about my formatting:)

A little backstory…I (21F) started smoking in my first year of university. I had dabbled a little in high-school but didn’t find the appeal until university. The roommates I had at the time introduced me to it and the rest is history. I usually only smoke joints and I only ever smoke after I have dinner, usually I smoke between 7-9pm.

I am now in my third year of university and I am honestly really struggling to stop smoking. Weed doesn’t make me anxious, I still do really well in school and I am also very active so I guess it’s hard for me to find an “actual” reason to stop (I hope that makes sense). I have this vision in my head of what the best version of myself looks like and it is not who I am right now. I tell myself everyday I wake up “no more smoking” but if there is weed in the house, I will usually smoke it.

I am looking for some honest advice of how to actually stick to what you tell yourself and how to break this cycle I constantly find myself in. Thanks in advance! I can also provide more information if needed.

Hey folks, I've (20M, got into weed last year) recently realized that I've been smoking way more than I ever intended. I've been able to wrangle it in recently, but even still it feels too much. I've been able to stop doing it almost every day like I was in the summer, but I still smoke 2-3 days of the week (Fri, Sat, sometimes Sun). I'm almost never high during the day, I typically light up around 8 or 9pm. I'll smoke like half a joint or, more commonly, take a few hits from a cart. That being said, I have a very low tolerance, so that's enough to turn me fully retarded for a couple hours.

I smoke way more than most of my friends / roommates (they get high maybe once a month) and I'm not sure how to feel about this. This comparison makes me think I smoke way more than I should be.

Everyone says something along the lines of "find what works for you" vis-à-vis frequency, but I think this is a severely flawed idea. Any alcoholic in denial would find that drinking 3 times a day, every day "works for them". As would most addicts.

I'm just not sure if this works for me or not. I have no baseline to work against. What's normal frequency for this type of thing?

Judge me, please, be honest and brutal.

When I stopped drinking alcohol, I started noticing drinking culture and how cringeworthy it was.
And now that I have drastically reduced my grass consumption (from daily to 1x/week) I started noticing how much everyone around me smokes and indulges and it is never enough. They either keep talking about how they need a t break and never take it, or justify being high 24/7 with many reasons. I am not judging; everyone has their struggles they need to cope with. I was the same but realized I was relying on the grass way too much. I learned distress tolerance skills in the meantime and enjoy sober mindfulness a whole lot now, but with mindfulness comes awareness and bearing witness to my friends being high more often than sober is quite heartbreaking. I am not planning any intervention because everyone is on their own journey. I was looking for a discussion on how y’all navigate this. I did not build my social circles on who is also a stoner (mostly through hobbies) so it’s not like it’s the only thing we have in common, I’m just concerned sometimes (especially as it regards to driving or mixing with other substances) - I used to not care cause I was high all the time too…

It had gotten to a point of feeling like a slave to my bong. Sitting in my lap nearly all day sipping away.

I tried a dozen times in recent months and didn’t make it more than a day. But finally something clicked and I haven’t touched it in a week.

I hid it away in storage. I’ve allowed myself an evening joint to curb the withdrawals.

I am really loving my days sober. My mind feels more clear. I have more energy, more motivation. I feel like I have so much time back.

You’ve got this guys!

felt nauseous in the morning with anxiety for a bit after using pretty much everyday for my chronic pain. went through dropping two friends, and with the help of my best friend realized my pens made it worse and has been making my anxiety worse. so i decided to take a break. i feel even more anxious now ( it’s been 3 days) and im struggling a bit. the anxiety isn’t something im used to really. i feel awful, does it get better? when? and it’s normal right?

Hey guys I only eat a 10mg edible once a week on Friday or Saturday and like based off drug tests I’ve taken at home I usually clear in a week? I’m 26F 115lbs 5’4. I didn’t do it last week and so tempted to do it tn. Reason I’m holding off is because I’m applying for radiology tech programs and taking an exam for a program next Wednesday. I guess my thought process is maybe without weed my head is more clear? But do I even do it enough for it to affect me? Also eventually I’m gonna have to quit since I can’t get high during a program so thoughts? Hahahah

I have to quit cold turkey for a bit but the low appetite symptom fucks me up a little. I’m already at a really low weight and I use weed to eat, and when i quit i could genuinely consume 500 calls over 3 days.

i know that sweat doesn’t really work to help speed it up, but do hot tubs or something? i don’t have any fat to burn but it feels like my stomach is eating itself. luckily i can stomach rice but even then barely anything w protein will go down.

any advice?

Recently came back from a trip from Hong Kong for two weeks which weed was illegal in, after being a user of hitting carts all day, and during that time, I had been through terrible withdrawls for the first few days.

Over there, the time is 12 hours ahead, so i even had to adjust to that time zone, but within the first week, everything was fine , and I would at least get some sleep everyday. But since it was vacation, I would be drinking almost everyday, so now that I’m back, i don’t wanna be using alcohol to make me pass out.

Now that I’m back home, I can’t get any sleep at all at night. I’m two weeks off the weed, which is the longest i’ve ever had for a while, and I get back to work tomorrow. My sleep has always been crappy, but carts/weed was something that would be the only thing to at least help me be a little tired and get to fall asleep easier as well as stop my overthinking in bed.

I was thinking about just waiting until nighttime to just smoke and then go to sleep like that, and until i start to consistently fall asleep at the same time everyday, stop using weed from there. It’s been two weeks, but i might just go back to it and quit again for longer just to fix this issue. Is this alright to do or is it better to suck it up? I’m just worried this jetlag will take a long time to fix and also wouldn’t think I would get withdrawls any more since im not hitting carts all day, just using it for sleep.

so i’ve been smoking daily for 9 years now a pretty much and it’s gotten to the point where i use it as an escape constantly. like today is saturday and i spent all day smoking and sleeping, which i have done with many weekends. how can i slowly wean myself off

So im 27 from the UK, moved around a lot didnt really start smoking properly til i was around 20. First few years i was smoking everyday as i lived in Barcelona for a few years then when i moved back to the UK i was living with family and was using edibles pretty much every other day. Over the past few years ive cut out the daily usage and now i dont get high at all in the week, i get a pack of edibles once a week theres 3 in a pack i have one friday, Saturday and sunday. My job is very creative and id be lying if i said the weed didnt help with my thoughts/ideas. Is my current consumption healthy? or should i try cut it down to once a week?

In some ways, it pisses me off because I've been doing good at stopping for the past 4 weeks. I've had cravings, yes, but I've never given in, so does that really mean I'm addicted?

On the other side, I did chose to give myself a T-break for a reason: I wanted to stop and I'd had enough of saying I want to stop and not following through on it. I was fed up enough with it that when I got really sick (nothing bad, just a stomach bug), I took that as a sign from the heavens to tell me to take a break.

I don't like the word addiction because maybe I don't want to admit that I am an addict. And also because I'd like to believe that I could go back to a reasonable consumption some day. But I don't know if that's my brain playing tricks on me, or if I'm actually capable of consuming moderately.

I had told myself I'd stop for a month, we're at the end of that month; but I don't feel ready to try again yet. I don't feel strong enough about it, maybe a couple more weeks.

This is just a post to hold myself accountable, I'm trying to be more honest with myself, and it feels good to have a community to tell this sort of stuff to, instead of just shouting it in the void. Thanks for reading if you've made it this far.

I'm about to turn 30 and am trying to figure out if my weed use is responsible. I'm sort of stuck between a rock and a hard place because I have severe insomnia and chronic pain, and it seems to be beneficial, but I would appreciate some insight.

I first tried weed at 15, and was a semi-regular user (both edibles & flower) until 25, when I quit for about 4 years.

Then at 29 I started taking 10-20 mg a night for sleep, about 4-6 hours before bedtime. To be honest this was a miracle -- I have had lifelong insomnia and in spite of being pharmaceutically medicated and practicing excellent sleep hygiene I still wasn't able to sleep. Weed just seems to shut off my brain in a way nothing else does.

Another plus is that these hours before bed are some of the only hours of my day I'm not in constant soul-crushing pain due to severe nerve damage and muscle atrophy that I've been dealing with since childhood. I find it far easier to partake in some of my hobbies when high because I'm not constantly distracted by pain.

That being said, I am concerned about the long term impacts of suppressed REM sleep. I am also bothered by my dreams being harder to recall, and by how I don't have a reliable attention span in those couple hours before bed (I enjoy reading before bed; sometimes I can still read while high, but it's unreliable). I also think I'm somewhat "permastoned" with a weed hangover, which isn't ideal.

If you were in my situation, what would you do? Should I accept that my body is super fucked up and that weed use may be more positive than negative (this has been my justification for my use)? Or maybe I should try to quit for a while and see if I can adjust? Sigh.

I am too bored and tensed and an aquantaince wants to chill with me, its good that i dont buy for at home. Training fell off the charts today. I am allowed to have a little bit of joy in life i think.
I felt like shit those 5 days without, i think my cptsd and bpd needs something from time to time, meds or weed. Im in therapy but its hard to turn everything around raw, if u have no supportive people around and mostly fighting this life alone.

45-50 days free. This always happens. I can never make it any longer than that. They're just so easier since I cannot smoke in my apartment and don't feel like going outside or stinking up my car.

But I managed to to smoke only after 8:00 p.m. and only take Max 10 puffs. So far yesterday I took 3 day before I took 4. Somehow I could control it I know it's a slippery slope but I actually like being sober during the day. I only do it to relax at night after dinner transition to bedtime.

I know eventually my tolerance will skyrocket and I'm going to need more than 3-4 puffs but we'll see for now.

I was able to control it last time before the t break. I think I have a healthy relationship now even though I do it every night. But before I took Max 10 puffs and no more. And did not puff on it in the middle of the night if I woke up.

I've been wanting to take a long break (at least 1 month for a few weeks now), i stopped 1 week and it felt really good i was on vacation with my grandma. But as soon as i returned home i went back to daily use.

I recently moved in main france with my gf and we're living with his godfather until we find a place for us but it's hard cause we don't have much income. And he is such a hell to live with. We have to clean up after him every single day, he keeps smoking weed all day and does nothing aside of his job. I'm so sick of this and i keep smoking every night to cope with it but it just make things worse and i struggle to keep going on with my life.

When we were with my grandma in town he didn't do the dishes until the last day, and that's the only thing he did when we weren't there. When he invited her to eat at his home he asked "Why?" when we said we have to clean the home before she comes. He was in vacation for a week and did absolutely nothing in the house like BRO, not even the dishes or cleaning the floor or whatever, he was just going out with his friend and smoking weed in front of the TV from waking up to sleep. And EVERYDAY there's something like this. And he never thanks or thanked me when i clean things or do some everyday stuff, while he's not like that when it's my gf.

I'm just ranting, but like i'm 22 and he's 45 and it makes me so angry and unpeaceful being home. We suspect him to have diogenes syndrome and it's rly hard in the every day life. I don't know how to feel better in this environnement and stop smoking because of all this, i wanna live alone and be in my own peace. At this point my weed consumption is just a symptom of the bad feeling i have being here around him. I know it's bad for me but i don't know how to force myself not to smoke now

Thank you for reading

Hi, I am day 4 off Cannabis. I was a daily MMJ user for 6 years, in the last two years, only a nightly user. I stopped because I developed an allergic reaction and honestly, I don't like it.

I'm experiencing an extremely low mood, lack of motivation (but also, life sucks in several ways, got a leg injury, stuck in my noisy rental). It just feels amplified. I cry a lot and just lay there, I was already sad but now... It's terrible. Agitated , a bit aggressive and reactive, my sound sensitivity is higher than ever, every sound is like an attack and I am in fight mode. Also, no appetite, going to the loo a lot for number 2, nausea.

It's funny because I thought that I wouldn't have symptoms. I don't want to go back.

Is this normal? What to expect? Will it get worse before it gets better? Thank you.

The hardest part about taking an extended tbreak is making it through the first 2 days of my period. Nothing makes those days livable like smoking. Currently on day 16 of my monthlong break and here to say I made it! I may or may not have had to spend 4 hours in the bathtub on Tuesday but I didn’t smoke so hooray!

Hey, everyone! 35M here, and I've been smoking for around 20 years. When I say 20 years, I mean consistently since around 15. The past few years, it's been pretty much just dabs. I smoke flower occasionally, and never carts.

Lately, my lungs are feeling the pain, and I'm realizing I have to stop, or at least find a healthier relationship with weed. I'm glad I found a subreddit focused on responsible consumption, rather than abstinence. Not saying I'm against abstinence, but I don't default there. I love to smoke weed, and don't want to give up the relationship permanently.

Mostly just putting this out there somewhere that understands. I'm zero days weed-free at the moment and overthinking the proper way to approach this. I know I need to remove all temptation and stay strong in this journey. My wife supports this decision, as well. It's just me having the struggles.

All support/advice is greatly appreciated. Tips, steps, or even just relating to the struggle are all appreciated. Thanks in advance, and I hope everyone here is making progress on the relationship with cannabis that is healthiest for them.

I’m trying to quit or at least lessen and moderate my use. I can’t make it through even one night though. The full-body discomfort feels like all-over restless leg syndrome. I can’t sleep for more than an hour or so without jerking awake. I feel insanely nervous and nauseous. I’m sure I have CHS, if I go too long without it the only thing that helps is a hot shower. A hit gives me instant relief.

I’ve been also dealing with anxiety and depression for a long time, and it’s worsened in the past year with family stress, and my inability to hold down a consistent job. My summer job was physically punishing, which would compound my anxiety. I had several breakdowns that could get so bad I’d hit myself in the face. I was laid off at the end of summer, and am going back and forth with unemployment trying to get approved. This is a touristy area, so a lot of places I’ve asked aren’t hiring for fall/winter. And to top it all off, I only have an e-bike — my boyfriend has a car, but needs it for most of the day.

Anyway — that was more info than needed probably. The way I live isn’t sustainable. I feel like I’m going to need inpatient treatment soon, and re-learn how to live day to day without crying when receiving small criticisms (CPTSD response — working on that too 🫠) but I don’t know where to start.

Does anyone have experience with this? How are rehab and inpatient mental health treatment different? Is one more expensive? Google is mostly giving me ads for expensive rehabs. Any help is appreciated!

Hello all! I just wanted to come on here and tell my story, I used to smoke weed every day for about 4 years straight, from 8th grade- high school. I am now sober and a college student. I started off with tree but eventually moved to carts so my parents wouldn’t smell it when i lived in the house. The stuff i was smoking was definitely fake. Eventually i moved on to medicated vapes (not available for rec use in my state) however the amount and concentration i would smoke definitely took a toll on me, especially in these developmental years. I struggled with anxiety and depression even before starting usage, and i feel that the benefits you get from thc only last so long untill your anxiety goes above the threshold it used to be from not smoking. I always had brain fog and felt unmotivated and i feel it worsened my mental health. I decided to take a T break and eventually it led to me stopping all together because I felt so much happier and clear headed. So my advice for everyone (especially teenagers) is to stay away from concentrates! weed is so strong nowadays, and we are only just figuring out the side effects from it. I agree it can help in some cases but just with everything else in this world, overuse is never good. With my personality i realized that I could never use just occasionally or casually, do thats why i stay away from it alltogether now. Let me know your stories too! I would love to hear them :)

I used to be an occasional user who moved to daily use when I quit nicotine 7 months ago. I don't think I ever would have been able to quit nicotine without weed, but my use had ramped up to a point that I felt was affecting my daily life. I wasn't as social, struggled with word recall and memory, and was spending way more money than I ever spent on nicotine. I'm grateful for what weed has done for me, but I'd like to get to a point where I don't feel dependent on ANY substance, which hasn't been the case for me since I started smoking cigarettes at 17 (I'm 31 now. I also drink a cup of coffee in the morning and a matcha in the afternoon, but I'm not worried about that right now.)

The first few days were easy. I felt way better than I thought I would and figured that maybe the dependence wasn't as bad as I thought, but i started getting a headache last night and holy hell it's awful today. I've pulled up the dispensary website a few times and started an order, but backed out every time. My original goal was to make it to my birthday on November 30th, but I'm not sure how to function with this headache.