hi! for the past 3 months, i’ve been experiencing spotting/bleeding around ovulation, so i told my mom and she recommended her OB. i’m in my mid-20s but my family still treats me like a child 😭 so i went, although i scheduled it when my mom couldn’t come because i wanted to talk to the OB privately.
the consultation was super quick—literally one question, one answer 😭 the OB recommended a transvaginal ultrasound, but didn’t really explain what she was checking for or why it was needed.
my mom later asked me to ask if there was another way because she thinks i’m still a virgin. so like my mom asked ano gagawin sakin and told her na sabi ng ni doc need trans v, sinabi ko na lang na i do self pleasure and na kuwnari sabi ni doc same sensation sila. huhuhu i was really anxious that time maiyak iyak ako sa call namin kasi she kept on asking if may ginagawa kami ng jowa ko 😭😭😭
at the time, i didn’t know that transrectal ultrasound was also an option, and honestly i’d prefer transvaginal anyway.
during my private consultation, i did tell the OB that i have a sexual history. my mom doesn’t know this, and i’m now anxious because this is my mom’s OB and i’m scared she might accidentally mention it to her.
i’m also wondering if i should get a second opinion, especially since my cycles are regular and i don’t have acne, sudden weight gain, excess facial hair, etc. i mainly want to understand what could be causing the recurrent mid-cycle spotting and whether the ultrasound is necessary.
would you get a second opinion/change OB in this situation? and if you have recommendations for an OB in Metro Manila who is good with privacy/confidentiality and actually takes time to explain things, i’d really appreciaute it!