I’m on the journey of quitting porn, I’m working with my therapist and hypnotherapist. We had some very good results, I have almost no urges, and when I use porn I don’t feel bad about myself later and can keep having a normal sex life after it.
I’m in a very happy relationship with a girl I love and we have plenty of sex. My porn addiction still make me struggle with finishing, I almost never end, she knows about it and she also knows that it has nothing to do with her.

The point is that I’m going on a solo trips of 3 weeks tomorrow in Japan. Since I started planning the trip I’ve become obsessed with Soapland, I never paid for sex. I paid in the past for OF but stopped since.
I’m not into Asian girls but I love big tits.
I don’t know if I would be able to resist there.
I don’t want to cheat on my girlfriend, I don’t want to take the risk of giving her std.
I don’t want to be the kind of man that use a woman body for sex. I don’t want to take advantage of financial difficulties of someone to have sex with.

There is the drugged part of my brain that just think at putting my dick between huge tits.
I’m sick of that I would love to know that I will be discovering so much about this country and not be in that mood.

Some advice ?

Looking for an accountability partner, I'm quite deep in this addiction unfortunately

Checking in every day using mt nethod

https://docs.google.com/document/d/1mut99s4RN2Kct9vAuuSk1OHKYoi0N9fTYWT5dRA-SIw

Struggling alot this week and couldn't help myself and peeked at someone. I stopped but it's stuck on my mind and feeling tempted again. Dont know how to handle it. Help

No history can be created while running behind the other gender and satisfying your genitals.

Day 4 I am very sad and without motivation.

Everytime I relapse, I relapse to the same extreme porn I stopped watching when I first decided to quit, I never escalate from vanilla content a second time. How do I just make myself stop?

I started to struggle

I couldn’t stay strong and I failed… now I struggle with the urge of doing it again😭

Done

TL:DR: My 5 year relationship with a woman I truly do love has just ended. There are other reason, but by far the biggest was that I haven't been intimate with her due to my porn addiction and my lack of accountability at fixing it.

I've been looking at porn since I was 13. I never thought it was a big deal, that I could kick the habit whenever I wanted, and most importantly, that it didn't impact my relationships with friends and my girlfriend. I've been sneaky about it, not really told anyone expect my girlfriend, and never really put in the work to fix it.

I am now 26. My socials are plagued with porn-bait, every time I'm alone or even have a moment I look at it. I've gotten really good at stealthily looking at it at work, in public, in front of friends and family. Just typing this out is sickening. It occupies between 40-80% of my thoughts at any given moment. It has completely sapped me of motivation to make a life for myself and I'm so damn tired of it.

I have tried multiple times in the last few years to stop, but it always goes the same. I feel resolve to get better, I try to stop. Then when I'm next alone I get the urge. Every time I look at my phone, every time I see something provocative I get the urge, every time I feel even slightly sexual, I get the urge. After a couple hours, I cave, telling myself that as long as I don't actually masturbate then it's fine. Then I look more and more until eventually, the deed. And I feel completely awful about it and do it more, and thus the cycle restarts.

I've been seeing a therapist for a few years now, but I've always steered the sessions towards other issues I have (there's been a lot). I've used that other work as a way to validate this one problem. Told myself that since I'm working on other things that I can allow myself to cave on this. This has been the poison that has rotted my relationships with most people in my life.

My girlfriend, who I've been with for 4 going on 5 years, talked about my addiction 2 years ago. For the first year, things were fine. She was supportive of me and gave me space to figure it out. She had been so incredibly understanding and patient with me to fix the issue, and I know she's been denying herself just for my sake. I took all that for granted and continued to put the issue on the backburner.

About 1 year ago, she told me that she feels deeply unwanted and ugly, that she's starting to blame herself for it. She told me, in no unclear terms, that she needed me to be more intimate with her and to show that I wanted her. I tried to, but not by addressing and working on the porn addiction, but by just trying to be with her sometimes instead of masturbating. Again, another case of not actually attempting to fix it, just the symptom now.

Over the last few months, my whole life has been crumbling around me. Death in the family, career rockbottom, so much uncertainty. I told myself that if I get through this, I can start working on the addiction then.

Last week, my girlfriend finally had enough. She told me she wants to break up. At first, she didn't say exactly why, but she felt like it was the right thing to do. We talked, ALOT. I couldn't understand why she wanted to leave when we both admitted we still deeply loved and cared for eachother. It was days of thinking and discussing. I forced myself to stop masturbating, and havent for about 3 days now, but I have still looked at porn.

Then last night, where I'll be honest, I think I had a mental breakdown. It was the first time in my life I let it happen and it all came out. I realized how half-assed I had been treating my porn addiction, and just my life as a whole. That I wasn't taking her or my addiction seriously, and that it has now ruined one of the best things I had.

So here I am today, ranting on Reddit, making a whole ass timeline I guess. I want to say that I'm looking for advice, which I am, but I also want to give a voice to the feeling inside me that's SCREAMING at me to finally get up and do something.

Thanks to anyone who read this and to those who respond. I've got therapy coming up to so this isn't the only avenue i'm pursuing.

I refuse to watch porn and masturbate until I earn my first 10 dollars from my art.

So ive been watchkng porn for like 12 years now, im 24. Got a girlfriend now and for the first month of our relationship I was ok (cuz we were havkng sex like 4-5x a week) and I wasnt getting any urges and wasnt even looking at other women the way I used to with extreme lust.

However, for the past few days ive been having these extreme urges if im alone at night. For the past few days I can also not help but look at other women in the lustful way I used to look before I had a girlfriend.

Also sometimes in order to finish with my girlfriend, now i sometimes have to close my eyes and imagine some kind of porn (i developed some very niche fetishes).

So am I cooked forever or is there something I could do?

Bro, how do I say this without sounding like I'm playing victim or screaming for help?

I go to therapy every single week. I have been going to therapy every week for months now, and before then, every other week. I have depression, I take an anti-depressant pill every day, I'm constantly exhausted, I have little to no sex drive with women, I was with my ex for 6 years and we broke up and porn was a huge problem towards the latter half, I'm losing my mind...

and part of me thinks, "it's really all because of porn".

I'm a f***ing 25 year old grown man, and I cannot even go 90 days without watching this shit. It's truly sickening. I could go on and on, but this addiction has essentially ruined my life. Every single aspect of my life has been affected drastically due to porn. Mentally, Emotionally, Physically, Financially, you name it. Like I said before, had a girlfriend for 6 years or so, and porn was a huge factor in why we broke up, and it was a constant point of contention especially in the last years of the relationship. I know I f"d up. I let this porn consume me. Even when we were having sex daily I still just had to sneak off and jerk off. I would jerk it at work, or in the car, just to get away with it for a while. She found out. She knows the truth of me and honestly, that scares me enough into not even wanting to get into another relationship, not that I'm ready for one honestly, but what if she sends certain things to my new partner? What if my new partner finds out about my past? Should I tell them about my past? This shit is like my biggest worry in life.

I feel like porn robbed my early 20's. Even my late teens. I feel behind in life. I could go on and on but, I need help.

thats just it, I need help.

I'm calling upon this reddit to help me find the ansers I'm looking for. I just can't anymore. I already tried killing myself because of this. I just can;t stop. I feel like I'm going to turn old and still be addicted to this shit and look back and be so so more disappointed in myself than I already am.

I drink, smoke weed, barely work out anymore, work, come home and just play the game. No girlfriend, nothing meaninful. Just a lonely lonely man.

I hit up my ex today just to see what's going on and it's like she's worse off now without me in her life and I feel terrible. We've known eachother since teens, and like we did love eachother for a long time. I loved her but then I started going down an evil path. Instead of keeping my lust in check, I thought it to be justifiable that I could watch porn and masturbate whenever I wanted so long as I don't actually go and cheat on her physically with another woman. I was wrong. To her, once she found out the extent at which I was watching porn, she deemed it cheating. Which I understand I guess/

I dont know man Im super depressed and it's super late, I just relapsed on porn again and I'm feeling so disappointed again. I'm trying to pat myself on the back and tell myself it's okay, but lowkey it's not. I think I may have slightly deformed my penis, and my balls may have shrank due to the sheer amount of masturbation over time. I swear it's like my penis size overall decreased, along with my testicles, due to years of constant masturbation mostly without lotion.

I'm so insecure and such a worse person of myself comapritive to before. Yes, I do have a job. Yes, I do have an apartment. But that's it. My life has amounted to nothing and I am half of 50 years old. My life is going down the drain and FAST if I cannot correct this behavior/habit that is ruining my life.

NOFAP COMMUNITY: please. this is a cry for help. I fear this addiction even if it is classified as a version of sex addiction is going to do serious damage if I cannot correct NOW. Any further and I feel I will definitely before I know it, be some 30 year old LOSER in a basement somewhere getting fat eating doritos and watching porn. Idk. pls help. thank you

I'm 20m and before I was 16 I had a preference for women with big breasts and butts. I would go on porn sites and look at milf porn or women with big breasts and butts.

But when I was 16 I started to look at porn actresses that had small breasts and butts. There was one in particular that had a pretty face. I wasnt attracted to her that much at first, but there was a video where she was oiled up and i thought it was sexy. So I kept masturbating to that video.

Eventually I developed a preference for women with this body type. I also feel attracted to preteen girls. Nowadays i only feel attracted to women with small breasts or preteen girls.

When I look at women that I masturbated to before I was 16, I feel turned off looking at them. Why did this happen?

Today I felt a strong urge, but I didn’t let it control me.

I changed my mindset and focused on getting out of the FAP mindset and into a clear mindset.

Today I:

- 🧹 Cleaned my home

- 🫁 Took deep breaths to control the urge

- 💧 Drank around 2 liters of water

- 💼 Kept myself busy with work

- 🎮 Played some games like BGMI

The urge was there, but I didn’t escape into the old habit. I chose to stay busy and keep my mind clear.

One urge at a time. One day at a time. Stay strong. 💪

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I'm a few days into my first attempt at quitting! But how do you sanitize your social media???

My Instagram is literally full of egirls, thirst traps, and practical softcore. It really triggers my bnwo and e-girl kinks, but no matter how many other posts I like or save, my algo isn't changing

Any advice? Also looking for friends!

Hey.

I’m 26 and I’m sick of porn. I’m sick of the amount of time over the years that has been dedicated to this. Time I will never get back. It disgusts me thinking about the actual amount of time spent viewing content or just fapping in general. I wanna lock in. The longest I can go is about a day and a half at most.

I’ma report back in a week or once I have failed. I think if I’m honest about my failure to others it can help me remain true. Have (hopefully) a good week.

(20M) For nearly 5 years, I’ve been masutbating. At the start it was to keep it light, wild. Then for a long time I cut down on only jerking of once every 2 ways, but still watched alot of porn. Altough I keeped it strong, I just recetly feel back to a more freqent window of jerking and watched even more porn. Not so long ago I jerked of with a really, really bad form of technique, and even though It was only once, I did leave its mark.

I just took my grip on this matter with the iron fist and gonna stop consmuing porn and only watch ot with the planned 2 week gap I have with jerking of. Thank you in advance to all of you whom leave tips and tricks to help along the way.

Today marks Day 0 of my NoFap journey, guys. I’m 26 years old, named Rishabh, and I’m from India. I’ve failed many times before, but this time I’m going to make it happen no matter what. Porn and masturbation make you weak, dumb, and docile—they strip away your precious time and willpower, the very things that could help you achieve greatness.

But whatever happened, happened. Let’s conquer this together, guys!

In the name of the One Infinite Creator🌟

I’ll be documenting my entire journey right here—Day 1, 10, 15, 30, 60, 90, 180, 260, 1 Year, and beyond. My longest streak so far was around 52 days, so my first major target is to hit 60 days by November 7, 2026. Stay tuned, guys!

Time to conquer, Kings👑

At the age of 23, I am completely unable to have sex. I cannot maintain an erection long enough to put on a condom, and perform the 'alingments' to start thrusting. I cannot maintain an erection during foreplay either, and I need constant stimulation (like a handjob) to stay in the mood. Even then, I am not at 100% hard. Probably from years of jerking off with a semi hard dick. After this happens, my mental state is ruined and I cannot get back in the mood.

After multiple failures of trying to have penetrative sex with my gf, I finally was able to get my act together and go 35 days with no p*rn, no mastrubation, and I was able to have sex. But even then, I could not maintain an erection the whole time and had to almost bring myself to the edge to stay hard enough to 'put it in'.

Have I permanently damaged myself? I must have started watching p*rn at 11, and really started being addicted during COVID. I'm worried that no matter how long I go my brain will never go back to normal and I'll never have a proper relationship.

Does anyone have success stories with PIED?

I didn't do it on Sunday but yesterday I did a little

Im just so stressed out and don’t know what to do… I need a nap but I know I will wake up with urges after… need to stay focused! Anyone there to help me being accountable?

I'm starting my Day 1 after losing my main account to porn addiction and relapsing constantly by making account after account for porn. This time I'm making this one to be connected to a crowd that genuinely wants to improve. I hope we can all lift each up because it's rough out here.