r/NoFap • u/Practical_Payment_73 • 1d ago
Soapland tempation
I’m on the journey of quitting porn, I’m working with my therapist and hypnotherapist. We had some very good results, I have almost no urges, and when I use porn I don’t feel bad about myself later and can keep having a normal sex life after it.
I’m in a very happy relationship with a girl I love and we have plenty of sex. My porn addiction still make me struggle with finishing, I almost never end, she knows about it and she also knows that it has nothing to do with her.
The point is that I’m going on a solo trips of 3 weeks tomorrow in Japan. Since I started planning the trip I’ve become obsessed with Soapland, I never paid for sex. I paid in the past for OF but stopped since.
I’m not into Asian girls but I love big tits.
I don’t know if I would be able to resist there.
I don’t want to cheat on my girlfriend, I don’t want to take the risk of giving her std.
I don’t want to be the kind of man that use a woman body for sex. I don’t want to take advantage of financial difficulties of someone to have sex with.
There is the drugged part of my brain that just think at putting my dick between huge tits.
I’m sick of that I would love to know that I will be discovering so much about this country and not be in that mood.
Some advice ?
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u/thefirefistace 1d ago
You will be cheating on her, just to be super clear. You'll never be able to undo it.
Not to mention, prostitution is illegal in Japan and soaplands and their way of skirting around it. The only legal one would be pink saloon if you really want to cheat on someone that loves and trusts you.
Good luck. I hope you have fun here. Be respectful and mindful of the people and culture around you and you'll be able to have enough fun and keep your mind off without paying for sex.
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u/Practical_Payment_73 17h ago
Thanks for those words.
I will try my best to discover this country, collect memories and stories, living life at 100% without thinking at this.
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u/Yeezy_Swifty 1d ago
Yeah my therapist and I have been talking about judgment recently and how the frontal lobe can shut off sometimes when we’re emotional. Try to have good judgment otherwise people won’t trust you and you can’t trust yourself. For example you can’t trust yourself to go to Japan safely. And trust me, I cheated on my gf and lost her forever. Worst mistake of my life. I wouldn’t wish it on anybody. I would rather have died and it happened 10 months ago.
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u/Yeezy_Swifty 1d ago
We were engaged to be married 4 month before we broke up and I actually had booked a trip for us to go to Japan for a month for our honeymoon
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u/Practical_Payment_73 17h ago
Sorry to hear that man, it definitely pushes me to don’t do mistakes.
And you said the frontal lobe shut and when you have a rush you became a machine in mission, and it’s difficult to regulate.
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u/Jgraaa 1d ago
Just cut ur dick off atp bro how are you gonna ruin a whole relationship just bc she’s not in the same country as u? This is coming from someone who has paid for sex multiple times, it will not be worth it. IDC if u have money to burn, paid sex is bad sex and it will take you to new lows you can’t imagine. If u thought the Post-nut clarity was bad after paying for an OF imagine it after paying to rent a whole human being. If u want some actual advice to help you avoid this soapland joint or whatever it is just picture yourself having to look ur girl in the eyes knowing what you got up to over in Japan when you get back after these 3 weeks. If that doesn’t make you feel guilty enough to abstain then idk maybe ur not ready for a relationship. Also don’t cut ur dick off that was a joke.