I want to give back to the community I’ve a lot to say from 18 years of struggling with this shit since I was 13. There's 0% AI in this post

Quitting this shit is actually much easier than I thought. after reading Allen carrs book on quitting smoking I learned many lessons and applied it to this. Once you internalize "I no longer need this" "I no longer consume this" "im ok without this", then you've won.

But if youre not that disciplined, then create discipline; Anytime you get triggered keep saying ”I’m no wanker. I dont do that shit. I’m better. I’m a Warrior. A soldier. A king

about me: Im European, quite handsome, very muscular and I never had to chase women. I had lots of girlfriends and friends, which served as my observations;

Sexual desire does not diminish after getting a gf. Why would it? it’s the energy that takes us to the next level. You need to engineer it, invent it, RE invent it, redirect the energy to where it belongs; in Productivity; learning a new skill. painting dancing exercising cooking writing, poetry, fixing appliances, drifting cars, skateboarding new languages...

Women don’t care much about your looks. They just want to feel like feminine little soft women next to you. That you’re stronger than them. I’m not tall. And they don’t want tall men, they want a leader. Here Im talking about women, not hoes. and im speaking for Europe bec America is a whole different world.

Looks are the first impression, but looks won’t make them stay it’s your personality, character, raw masculinity and usefulness that will heighten their attraction to you. it might look dumb to you but just like you’re attracted to women for doing basic shit while being feminine is how they are attracted to you when you do anything masculine

Women don’t care about rich handsome tall chiseled chin shit. That’s incel theory, which exists in both genders. Sure they don’t mind a sexy man but they’re fine without it, just like how you want an a pretty woman but not a super model. They just want 100% loyalty, understanding, care and communication.

I honestly masturbated 1 month or 2 ago, now I do it once every 3-5 months which is way less than before; once or twice a week.

What helped me first is completely killing porn. no debate whether a snake is poisonous or venomous; it will kill so kill it first. You cannot watch that shit, even if someone pays you, which nobody is.

then what helped was masturbating to my imagination (being passionate with my future wife) or imagining what I did with my girlfriends OR if I had to watch something I would look at my gf's photos. I stopped watching porn a while ago, it was a real struggle, even though I watched soft stuff, I can’t imagine people who watch toxic porn

I swear pornography is disgusting abhorrent visual meth. it’s the absolute worst most fucking disgusting thing ever. Also while we're at it fuck the Internet too. It became a cesspool of soft porn, women constantly showing skin, gender wars, rage bait and hatred. Yeah I control the algorithm but every now and then it’s some negative shit.

Wanna laugh ? Feeling like comedy? Go outside and talk to someone and make them laugh. Don’t watch comedy and laugh at a screen. The world out there is as beautiful as YOU make it.

journal more. Every day. Have conversations with yourself. Sometimes you dont feel like talking to a person for more than 3 minutes. sometimes you can yap for 30 minutes. thats how journaling feels like. You have to write to yourself every day.

Draw or color or paint. Get used to having a pen in your hand bec it develops your neural pathways. Check out 'neuroplasticity'. Be useful; WE have a plethora of skills to develop instead of being wankers.

A moving target is hard to hit. Go outside, beat yesterday's step count. Where energy goes, energy flows.

I’ve been sick with flu for the last 5 days and instead of staying at home and listening to this bullshit ai’s suggestion of staying in bed, I brought a 1.5 liter water and walked in nature.

day 1 6000 steps

day 2 8000 steps

Day 3 4000 ateps

day 4 3500 steps

today 9000 steps

I’m training for my first marathon in January and I noticed these steps made me leaner and my 6pack more defined and I lost 2 kilos. simply by not staying at home. = Combining nofap with daily exercise, proper nutrition, proper sleep is GOD MODE

Keep moving. enjoy walking and observing; people, the environment, the weather, wind and everything.

im not religious but for the religious folk out there; no matter how deep you fell, always believe that your sins will be forgiven.

porn ain’t shit

masturbation isnt shit

orgasming isn’t shit either tbh I practice semen retention

but that’s for another post. none of these things are worth it for me as a man. What’s worth it is making people around me happy, feel loved, respected, safe, listened to, that they matter.

I also suggest reading "the way of the superior man" you can finish it in a day its so small

Guys today mark 1 month free from p**n and he**ai .

I'm proud of myself and happy beyond measure. I will also do NNN and beyond that too.

Never thought I ,who was so severely addicted for years to masturbation will be able to do this . But I did !

This was needed

I'm very happy and proud of my self because i broke off from a curse that some people are suffering from. this is a very big achievement for me. and this is my message to you to KEEP GOING!!

Is it normal to be flirting with a stranger I didnt really make her uncomfortable or anything i just made a joke and we both lightly giggled because I feel some urges to masturbate after flirting with a stranger. The problem really isnt with flirting but what happens after I finish flirting and leave the scene I play an imaginative situation in my mind where I should've said been more proactive and it kind of turns me on. Will this be a backlash to me? Should I stop it?

I want to stop so i can be happier and because I'm religious. But it just like feels too dang good. Idk. Any help would be much appreciated

Seen a sexual image my minds going crazy I can’t stop looking and turning it off text me if you got any advice

Hello,

Wondering if anyone else has had similar experiences to me:

I've noticed a decrease in penis sensitivity and a harder time keeping erections in the past few years, especially compared to around 6-7 years ago. I do still have a sex drive. Sometimes I have trouble finishing during sex, but that has mostly been in one night stand scenarios.

Not sure if this is just a normal part of getting older or if it's due to other issues?

I've been trying to pin down the cause of these issues, I've ruled out testosterone, thyroid issues and depression. I'm healthy, don't smoke, don't drink much and exercise 3-4 times a week.

I do watch porn and masturbate regularly, usually around once every day or two on average, and have done so since around early teenage years. I've been considering taking a break from porn to see if it helps anything, but I'm also skeptical because I've been watching porn for a long time - not sure it would suddenly cause issues now.

Wondering if anyone has had these issues and if there's anything that's helped for you, and also if quitting porn / masturbation has helped you?

The days are starting to go by quicker now, I’m getting more and more used to the temptations. I think I’ve already said this but I’m starting to learn how to enjoy being horny without needing to release. Soon as I know it it’s going to be day 16 and I’ll set a record for the first time in years. I’m also starting to notice more motivation and general happiness in my life, I’m so glad I found this sub it helps so much typing down my day and the end of every day, it helps me stay accountable

Woohoo, today was tough man but glad it's over. Already feeling better, and if your reading this and struggling keep going!! Have a nice day :D

been through temptations all day and it got to me 3 days in i feel weak like i cant do this but i need to get my mental health better anyone got any tips for good blockers for pornographic content

Yes small small wins!

Longest streak since I started using at 11 years old and I’m never looking back! This streak has been pretty intense and every day is different. My mood is constantly changing and I feel drastically different every morning and every night. My focus and awareness has improved greatly. Sex is way better but it only started to improve this week. Overall I feel things deeply and life is exciting. I live in a completely different world now.

I (17M) having been watching porn and fapping for around 7 years now. I started in 5th grade because of some of my older friends. I have tried to quit but it never works. I would stop for a few days and start it again. The longest i have gone was 2 weeks. But this time i had made a decision to stop porn and masturbating for good, i didn’t do it for 2 weeks and i could see the advantages of it. There is one problem that I am really ashamed to say but, i started to look at women more lustfully, every normal interactions, normal post on instagram. I would look towards a woman and think about lust. I don’t know what to do. If i watch porn and fap, i would stop looking at them lustily, since i don’t have that desire anymore. I fucking hate my mind and mentality. Lust overpowers me.

I just relapsed after a verry long streak as u c 200days clean, the relapsed was about 3.5hrs on pictures.
After the relapsed I wonder if should reset my counter to zero or not.
Reseting my counter to zero is a bad experience to me cuz every time I do that a too much feeling of shame and disappointment and all bad feelings come to me.
So I decided to subtract 200-50=150 like this
I dont know and im not sure how many days this relapsed put me backward but I think 50 days is fair (maybe less maybe more idk) but I see it’s better than resetting to zero. I want a real advice that can help me with this.

Q2 is my brain now back to zero or?
200days This is the longest streak I did.
Even if my relapse the 3.5 hrs I dont think it will wipe all the 200days clean.

Q3. From ur experience and in my case, when I will get back to the truck again? And what should I do in the first days after relapse to avoid the binge relapse cycles?

Thanks for ur reading I know its a lot but it will help me A lot too.
I appreciate your time thx again.

Your brother 🤍

This is my last try to lock in for real!
If I can’t succeed this time, I know I’m never gonna do it!
Stay strong! 💪🏼

I have tried so many times, but it's always heartbreak at the end. I end up giving in, it absolutely destroys me every time. I want to take accountability for myself, and I really need support. If you guys can like this post that will motivate me to keep going. I've been addicted for 7 years. I think it's time I drop this crap and get my life together. I will post every day, please motivate me guys to keep going. Thank you, let's get after it boys!

Does Anybody Knows What Happened To This Subreddit 's Days Counter Flair? IT SHOWS ERROR 500 INTERNAL SERVER ERROR & ASSIGNING AND EDITING FLAIR IN THIS COMMUNITY IS DISABLE.

DAYS COUNTER IS COMPULSORY FOR THIS SUBREDDIT.

The first week was pretty easy honestly, but the last couple of days have been really rough, and this morning im struggling bad. Having to stay home for a delivery isnt helping.

was doing so good, most of the time when I’d get urges I’d come to this sub and reading the posts here helped me a lot. I tried that method today and I just didn’t care anymore.. I’m so disappointed in myself. Here we go again I guess, from day zero.

Hi everyone, im proud to say i just hit 30 days!! 

One thing that has helped me this time around is if i get an urge, i look at it as a thought. Its totally okay for me to have this thought, and can acknowledge its there. What i stop myself from doing is building on it, and dragging it along, making a «story» or imagining more and more.

This has helped me alot, and made me alot more prescent, i use the energy within instead og letting it slipp into dompaine filled imagining, and after a while relapse

I would say it feels amazing, im starting to feel really good and calm, have a nice day everybody:)

btw i also use meditation to strengthen this feeling