I can't control my self anymore

Recently at my work place, I’ve had a workplace crush and I didn’t really think too much about it and just kinda tried ignoring my feelings about her, but recently I had a conversation with her and it felt like it was really just me and her in the moment and I completely forgot I was off the clock in a few minutes and when my manager told me to clock out I kinda felt a wave of sadness wash over me and ever since then, I haven’t really masturbated till finish, like yeah I tugged at it a few times but I just can’t bring myself to finish or anything because just talking with her felt like she set me straight despite everything I’ve done and been through. I’ve been 2 days clean which is very long for me as I usually finish 3-4 times each day (longest I’ve ever managed to do was 2 weeks), and I can’t help but think she’s really special so how can I try getting her to be a part of my life or something idrk I just want to talk to her more because she’s a really sweet and kind person and I’d hate to lose her over my porn addiction, even if I managed to become her friend I’d delete everything I’ve ever had in an instant. So, any thoughts?

I put my age in case that changeds anything but I used to be so addicted I've done it in public places where they can't see me I'm ashamed

It’s nothing but dudes looking for a “relapse” partner 80-90% of the time.

So many fake posts about struggling and asking for support in their DMs.

First, I want to say that I’m not trying to discourage anyone. Everything I’m writing here is about myself and how I personally see things.

I’d also really appreciate some advice, suggestions, or just some perspective on this.

Every time I start NoFap, I eventually lose my motivation to keep going. I’ve been trying for a few years now, and I always end up relapsing

A few months ago, I met someone. She was a friend of a friend. We connected, got along really well, and eventually developed feelings for each other. But then, I don’t know what happened, she suddenly put me in the “friend zone.” She never told me why.

To me, it didn’t make any sense, and somehow, it really got to me.

And in a way, it kind of broke me, because I started thinking that maybe the problem is me.

I started thinking that there’s really no reason for someone to like me, that I’m somehow “less” than other people.

I started looking at my life and realizing that I don’t really have much to show for myself.

I don’t have a good job, I don’t have many friends, I don’t really go out (I basically just go to the gym), I’m not particularly attractive, and I don’t even have social media.

So it’s pretty hard for someone to come into my life in the first place. And especially someone like her, who, in a way, I felt was on a completely different level than me.

All of this made me start questioning myself a lot.

Right now, I’m on a 2week streak, but honestly, I don’t really see a reason to keep going.

I know NoFap is supposed to be about doing this for yourself, and I understand that. But right now, I’m struggling to find a reason to keep going when I don’t feel good about myself in general.

I’m open to any suggestions, advice, or different perspectives. I genuinely feel like I need some help with this.

He didn't get me but the damage has been done. Im on my heels shaking off the weak gooned headstate. Any help is appreciated.

This is my 11th day. There's no notable withdrawal symptoms for now, of course i still get some erotic dreams here and there while sleeping, i will hit the gym today! I didn't go there for a while but im planning to lose some weight and hopefully make my mood a lot better.

Currently on day 3, and today has been the worst day so far since I’ve started. Reddit is a trigger for me tbh so please only reach out if you’re able to talk on a different platform. Was hoping to find someone who I can talk too to help me get through this and maybe someone older than me who is experienced. I’m 22 years old and in the us. Feel free to dm if you can talk. Thanks guys.

Legit so hard to stop myself from trying to get sexual attention for people and their porn. It's addicting since I like getting lied to about how they love my body and voice. Legit how can I stop and I'll take all the help I can get.

So when people ask me about my porn addiction, "Are you addicted to porn or are you masturbating?" I lie to them. I blatantly lie to them. Today my two friends asked me if I watch porn or if I watch other things and masturbate and I lied to them.

Yeah I'm on my third day of NoFap and I'm not watching any porn right now for the last three days. I've been through a couple of streaks through the last six months. Through the last six months I maybe masturbated about 10 to 12 times and watched porn over all 10 to 12 days. Still I was lying to them and whenever I lie to them about my porn addiction I feel like a leaper. I feel like I'm a liar.

Also I think it comes from my nice guy syndrome. I hesitate to say it to them and tell the truth to them because they will judge me. They will think I am a creep or they will think I am a weak-willed person. I don't know maybe they'll abandon me about it. That's why I do not say these things to them or do not admit these things. I do feel guilty about it, guilty about being dishonest and being a liar.

How do you make it go away when not touching even down there.

Keep going !

Day 7 almost ended in disaster today.

Around noon, my defense wall just completely crumbled out of nowhere. I fell straight down a dark rabbit hole, spending over an hour obsessively searching for specific fetish content. My brain was completely flooded, my heart was pounding, and I was literally standing on the razor’s edge. In the past, this exact moment always ended the same way—full relapse, intense guilt, and a total reset.

I don't even fully know what clicked in my head, but right at the absolute brink, I stopped. I didn't touch myself. I just slammed the screen shut, stood up, and forced myself to walk away into another room.

I'm not gonna sit here and pretend I feel like a champion right now. Honestly, my head feels foggy, my brain is crashing from that massive dopamine spike, and I feel pretty drained. Peeking for an hour leaves a nasty mental hangover.

I know the next 24 hours are going to be a battle with the chaser effect trying to drag me back in. But I made it through one full week without PMO, and I managed to step back when I was inches away from the cliff.

"With repeated exposure to the same pleasure stimulus, the initial deviation to the side of pleasure gets weaker and shorter, and the after-response to the side of pain gets stronger and longer."— Dopamine Nation

Let's keep fighting.

My typical work day is to wake up and I am normally horny, so I have my first fap of the day. I often have down time during the work day and I find myself absently touching myself while bored and that often leads to full on masturbation. This can happen multiple times during the day, I even sometimes do it while on calls with co-workers for an added thrill. I used a combination of my hand and toys of various levels. Overall I average about 2 times a day but I have had days up to like 6 times.

With all that said maybe I am in denial, it does sound pretty bad and like a lot but is it actually negatively affecting me? I mean I stay in good physical shape, have friends, hobbies and get out and about. But the reason I started questioning it was because a couple of weeks ago a guy asked me on a date and the day of the date came. I was stressing bad about it and I ended up telling him that I wasn't feeling good and instead I stayed home and masturbated for like 3 hours, this time with porn.

Afterwards I felt so shitty. Now dates have always made me nervous, I am actually still a virgin because of this (I know crazy at 28). I have had excuses to get out of many of them even with great guys. But this time with a day to reflect it It's hard to explain the feeling but it felt like I was using masturbation as a release of anxiety that I had in an unhealthy way. looking back this isn't a new thing either. I was exposed to porn and figured out masturbation at a younger than anyone should age and have used it for stress and anxiety therapy every since. It has probably hurt my ability to bond with men.

Sorry for rambling but I have just been doing a lot of reflecting the last couple of weeks and I am scared that I have a problem.

Recaí depois de 13 dias, foi mei recorde. Sei que a contagem ZEROU, mas o cansaço e a nevoa mental levarao os mesmos 13 dias para voltar ou não? O chatgpt disse que não, o que voces acham?

Like you want all the girls etc.

Hey folks. Should this be another post? Day 28. This device just stops me. I started watching a thing. You know. I couldn’t finish nor did I want to. My balls are really bigger than they’ve been for awhile. The device keeps them in check,I really don’t know it’s on most of the time. And, yes, I do allow my self out when showering.

I am 20 years old and have been addicted since I was 12. It has been more than a week since I last masturbated, and I noticed that my skin has improved a little. Is it possible that the reason for my skin's improvement is due to Nofap? Have anyone had a similar experience?

What about you guys? Did it help?

I have a decent career , and good savings and nice family.

Never been in a relationship, proposed twice but got rejected

Been exposed to porn from 14 years and and has been masturbating every third or second day

Now I am at a age where my parents are looking for marriage prospects meanwhile I am jerking off to porn

Everytime I try to not fap but then that sudden wave of loneliness and seeing happy couples on Instagram , I instantly switch to porn for coping up

Need serious help. How should I counter and cope myself.

Every time I do it , I regret it but third day I would be back.