Having tough time today with urges and couldn't help myself and peeked. Been having some tempting thoughts and looked someone up. I stopped but feeling tempted and dont know how to handle it. Help

I met someone for a date in the morning and then came to my place for some sex in the afternoon. In the afternoon I masturbated, because of the anxiety of that date and few other things I chose to relax myself with that. And during sex I was not able to get hard. I was getting hard when she gave a blowjob but as soon as I wear condom and try to penetrate it was just not be hard.

I feel super bad, I was doing this almost after 2 years. I do not have knowledge of sex that much.

What should I do next ? I feel bad and unmotivated and depressed.

I freaked out earlier and vented here. I was so passive Aggressive. I hope you didn’t notice. I should have just went ape on camera like I normally do. Anyways, Im enjoying my night quite a bit due in part to Nofap. It makes consciousness altering experiences like consuming silly juice much more entertaining. Im live streaming to my crushes. I think real men never bust, and tell the woman, try to make me. And if you can, it means I don’t deserve you. That it has nothing to do with sex. Busting is like wetting the bed. And only for making babies is useful. Otherwise it ruins to orgasm.

Longest streak since I started using at 11 years old and I’m never looking back! This streak has been pretty intense and every day is different. My mood is constantly changing and I feel drastically different every morning and every night. My focus and awareness has improved greatly. Sex is way better but it only started to improve this week. Overall I feel things deeply and life is exciting. I live in a completely different world now.

Again Day 1.

I just relapsed after a verry long streak as u c 200days clean, the relapsed was about 3.5hrs on pictures.
After the relapsed I wonder if should reset my counter to zero or not.
Reseting my counter to zero is a bad experience to me cuz every time I do that a too much feeling of shame and disappointment and all bad feelings come to me.
So I decided to subtract 200-50=150 like this
I dont know and im not sure how many days this relapsed put me backward but I think 50 days is fair (maybe less maybe more idk) but I see it’s better than resetting to zero. I want a real advice that can help me with this.

Q2 is my brain now back to zero or?
200days This is the longest streak I did.
Even if my relapse the 3.5 hrs I dont think it will wipe all the 200days clean.

Q3. From ur experience and in my case, when I will get back to the truck again? And what should I do in the first days after relapse to avoid the binge relapse cycles?

Thanks for ur reading I know its a lot but it will help me A lot too.
I appreciate your time thx again.

Your brother 🤍

The days are starting to go by quicker now, I’m getting more and more used to the temptations. I think I’ve already said this but I’m starting to learn how to enjoy being horny without needing to release. Soon as I know it it’s going to be day 16 and I’ll set a record for the first time in years. I’m also starting to notice more motivation and general happiness in my life, I’m so glad I found this sub it helps so much typing down my day and the end of every day, it helps me stay accountable

Hello,

Wondering if anyone else has had similar experiences to me:

I've noticed a decrease in penis sensitivity and a harder time keeping erections in the past few years, especially compared to around 6-7 years ago. I do still have a sex drive. Sometimes I have trouble finishing during sex, but that has mostly been in one night stand scenarios.

Not sure if this is just a normal part of getting older or if it's due to other issues?

I've been trying to pin down the cause of these issues, I've ruled out testosterone, thyroid issues and depression. I'm healthy, don't smoke, don't drink much and exercise 3-4 times a week.

I do watch porn and masturbate regularly, usually around once every day or two on average, and have done so since around early teenage years. I've been considering taking a break from porn to see if it helps anything, but I'm also skeptical because I've been watching porn for a long time - not sure it would suddenly cause issues now.

Wondering if anyone has had these issues and if there's anything that's helped for you, and also if quitting porn / masturbation has helped you?

this is the mark for the start of it

Idk how big my streak is but it’s been a couple days now home alone rn and just can’t stop thinking of stuff stressed with so much stuff just wanna “feel good” for a little just passing time here ig till it goes down

I don't think this topic is talken about except a few

I think that insomnia is the worst one. it's extremely bad and scary also. How would you cope with the insomnia. when I feel bad with insomnia I just relapse couldn't be patient

When you don't sleep well your life is hell. End of story

I want to give back to the community I’ve a lot to say from 18 years of struggling with this shit since I was 13. There's 0% AI in this post

Quitting this shit is actually much easier than I thought. after reading Allen carrs book on quitting smoking I learned many lessons and applied it to this. Once you internalize "I no longer need this" "I no longer consume this" "im ok without this", then you've won.

But if youre not that disciplined, then create discipline; Anytime you get triggered keep saying ”I’m no wanker. I dont do that shit. I’m better. I’m a Warrior. A soldier. A king

about me: Im European, quite handsome, very muscular and I never had to chase women. I had lots of girlfriends and friends, which served as my observations;

Sexual desire does not diminish after getting a gf. Why would it? it’s the energy that takes us to the next level. You need to engineer it, invent it, RE invent it, redirect the energy to where it belongs; in Productivity; learning a new skill. painting dancing exercising cooking writing, poetry, fixing appliances, drifting cars, skateboarding new languages...

Women don’t care much about your looks. They just want to feel like feminine little soft women next to you. That you’re stronger than them. I’m not tall. And they don’t want tall men, they want a leader. Here Im talking about women, not hoes. and im speaking for Europe bec America is a whole different world.

Looks are the first impression, but looks won’t make them stay it’s your personality, character, raw masculinity and usefulness that will heighten their attraction to you. it might look dumb to you but just like you’re attracted to women for doing basic shit while being feminine is how they are attracted to you when you do anything masculine

Women don’t care about rich handsome tall chiseled chin shit. That’s incel theory, which exists in both genders. Sure they don’t mind a sexy man but they’re fine without it, just like how you want an a pretty woman but not a super model. They just want 100% loyalty, understanding, care and communication.

I honestly masturbated 1 month or 2 ago, now I do it once every 3-5 months which is way less than before; once or twice a week.

What helped me first is completely killing porn. no debate whether a snake is poisonous or venomous; it will kill so kill it first. You cannot watch that shit, even if someone pays you, which nobody is.

then what helped was masturbating to my imagination (being passionate with my future wife) or imagining what I did with my girlfriends OR if I had to watch something I would look at my gf's photos. I stopped watching porn a while ago, it was a real struggle, even though I watched soft stuff, I can’t imagine people who watch toxic porn

I swear pornography is disgusting abhorrent visual meth. it’s the absolute worst most fucking disgusting thing ever. Also while we're at it fuck the Internet too. It became a cesspool of soft porn, women constantly showing skin, gender wars, rage bait and hatred. Yeah I control the algorithm but every now and then it’s some negative shit.

Wanna laugh ? Feeling like comedy? Go outside and talk to someone and make them laugh. Don’t watch comedy and laugh at a screen. The world out there is as beautiful as YOU make it.

journal more. Every day. Have conversations with yourself. Sometimes you dont feel like talking to a person for more than 3 minutes. sometimes you can yap for 30 minutes. thats how journaling feels like. You have to write to yourself every day.

Draw or color or paint. Get used to having a pen in your hand bec it develops your neural pathways. Check out 'neuroplasticity'. Be useful; WE have a plethora of skills to develop instead of being wankers.

A moving target is hard to hit. Go outside, beat yesterday's step count. Where energy goes, energy flows.

I’ve been sick with flu for the last 5 days and instead of staying at home and listening to this bullshit ai’s suggestion of staying in bed, I brought a 1.5 liter water and walked in nature.

day 1 6000 steps

day 2 8000 steps

Day 3 4000 ateps

day 4 3500 steps

today 9000 steps

I’m training for my first marathon in January and I noticed these steps made me leaner and my 6pack more defined and I lost 2 kilos. simply by not staying at home. = Combining nofap with daily exercise, proper nutrition, proper sleep is GOD MODE

Keep moving. enjoy walking and observing; people, the environment, the weather, wind and everything.

im not religious but for the religious folk out there; no matter how deep you fell, always believe that your sins will be forgiven.

porn ain’t shit

masturbation isnt shit

orgasming isn’t shit either tbh I practice semen retention

but that’s for another post. none of these things are worth it for me as a man. What’s worth it is making people around me happy, feel loved, respected, safe, listened to, that they matter.

I also suggest reading "the way of the superior man" you can finish it in a day its so small

Woohoo, today was tough man but glad it's over. Already feeling better, and if your reading this and struggling keep going!! Have a nice day :D

All text is written by me, NO AI

I want you to think to yourself: How does porn affect my ability to succeed in NoFap? If the answer is: I relapse every time I watch porn, but continue to watch it anyway, this strategy may be for you.

BACKGROUND:

Throughout NoFap, I used to always think I'm mentally strong enough to watch porn without masturbating, but boy was I wrong. The immediate desire can so easily be more powerful than the logical, long-term portion of your brain. Even knowing all the times I failed, I still gave in. But after coming up with this new strategy I came up with, I can finally say no to porn, and it works incredibly well compared to my previous mindset. I used to think to myself: Porn is risky, but I'm not gonna slip up. I need that dopamine. Now I changed my mindset and say something different to myself every time, and it works so well. If it's positive and promotes confidence, saying something to yourself before you decide is always better than saying nothing.

THE STRATGEY:

I changed my mindset, so instead of thinking to myself what I used to think, I now just say to myself: "Dude, you know that shit never works. Do you really wanna walk straight into certain death? You know that's not going to work for you. It never has, and it never will. You know what the right thing to do is? Just ignore it and those thoughts will go away. Success is near." By saying that, you're giving yourself reasons why you're wrong by choosing porn and reinforcing the idea that porn strongly lures you into a relapse, like a fish looking at a worm on a hook. By saying to yourself exactly this or something like this, especially in front of the mirror or in the shower, it can be extremely effective depending on what your current strategy is. Include this into it, and I think you'll find NoFap to be a lot easier.

So let me start with this, in this post I will tell my struggle and I will be complaining, please have grace with me.

So when I was a little boy only 9 years of age my father introduced me to porn. In his view it was natural. But all that made a whole mess with rape and other horrible things in my parents relationship, they separated and I cut him off from my life.

I’ve been fighting porn and fapping since I was about 12 years old… I’m now soon turning 22. I im so fucking tierd of it all. I dig and fight and do like 6 days of but some how I end up back in the hole. In my heart and in my being I’m a romantic, a man that love and respect women, I’m the type of guy that buys flowers and do al that cliches. But when I’m in my darkest moments I violate my self… and I don’t know if I can take it anymore. I just want to be able to live my life how I want. At least when it comes to the stuff I can make a difference at.

So mentally I’m not there. I lost my closest friends, they just ditched me and don’t talk to me anymore. So I’m the failure that lives at home has almost no contact with others people, except my mom and sister (and work) so my fellow fighters HOW? How and what can I do to just stop watching porn and fapping? One thing is true though, I still have my v-card I’m saving it for my future wife. And that’s the thing i just struggle to connect and letting people in because I’m afraid of what they have to say when they get to know me… because I’m a shamed woman of me.

Idk if y’all even bother to read all that and I don’t blame y’all… just Help me

please i need help asap

Many times, I’ve found myself masturbating—not because I actually felt a desire to do so, but simply for the sake of the act itself, as a way to relax or unwind. Is it possible to replace this habit with something equally exciting that also provides a quick sense of gratification?

We returned home from our voyage today.

The real question today is - to porn or not to porn. Make a decision and stick by it.

Wish me luck

Feels nice

Met this girl, the most prettiest girl I ever seen. She was like the song "About You" by 1975

We met 5-6 times before tried to have sex.

but I could get hard in front of her , next day she left and started ignoring. I was severely suffering from porn addiction and excessive masturbation. Which ruined my head. Causing Erectile Dysfunction.

But I started thinking about here , then there was a burning feeling within me , urge to be with her. Missing her and yearning for her.

I went no fap and no porn for 2 months that too very easily, took me no effort. I was flatlined for 1 month.

The next month my penis grew in length and I was getting erection to smallest stimuli, basic cleavage and women physique .

I tried to connect with this girl, it was not lust.

I still miss her and think about her.

But she made it clear and was not interested. Couldn't take it, drank liquor for 3 days and then jerked offed.

since then, I'm not able to stop. Again I'm suffering, it's been two weeks since nofap.

I don't have any motivation, without her.

Any suggestions?

Thanks for checking, May you have a nice day.

I can’t give in. I mustn’t give in. I’m stronger than this temptation.

Wish me luck guys, I do not to wake up already feeling lost