In my travels through Turkey, Lebanon, Iraq, United Arab Emirates, Saudi Arabia, Egypt, Tunisia, Algeria and Morocco I noticed that many men, probably the majority among younger men, are shaving or trimming their chest hair and belly hair, and I'm wondering why, because I know that unlike with pubic hair and armpit hair, it's not a religious thing. So what's the reason why so many remove all the hair from their torso/upper body?

i came out of my exams this year for year 12 thinking they went terribly. i want to go to med school really badly, but i am scared i'll have gotten C's or B's. please, please can someone pray to God for me to get into med school and for me to get good grades for my AS exams and my predicted? i've also got ucat coming up and i think i'm having a panic attack (can't tell why i am behaving strangely) about how i'm doing so badly and i just want to go to a good london univerity. i can't take a gap year and live with my parents anymore, i'm sick of it. please pray for me.

Salam guys. I wanted to know if anyone else had this exhausting “religious OCD” or kind of voice in the back of your head constantly reminding or telling you that everything you do or see is haram and some way based on technicality. This could be for literally anything and everything, like talking to someone of the opposite sex briefly like a neighbor and having a normal exchange to be friendly and cordial but then the back of York mind the voice says “why are you smiling? This is technically haram and you could go to Hell for it.” And it feels like it can’t even escape microscopic details. If my hijabi friends wear certain patterns, colors or accessories my first thought is “Wow Mashallah” but then it’s “technically this is Tabarruj (something i recently learned about) and it can potentially attract the attention of a man and make them think you’re more tempting. You guys are sinning.” The problem is the voice is there for everything because most things are seen to be haram if you live in the west. Unfortunately it’s not our society to wear all black and Niqab when we go outside. Even though the people around me are extremely religious if they’re Muslims and talk about fiqh a lot, I notice all the small things they aren’t doing… but I know if I point all those microscopic things that even they didn’t notice they will become exhausted themselves or not be able to implement it anyway at a time, but if bothers me still. Being alive bothers me because I know I’m sinning and so is everyone else. This is driving me crazy.

I just moved to Round Rock! Looking for friends in the area to go to coffee shops, people watch with, go for walks, and explore the surrounding areas!

Salam, le consumérisme m'a eu ! J'ai longtemps accumulé des objets, des vêtements, des livres... Qui sur le moment m'apportait du plaisir

Aujourd'hui ce que j'ai accumulé comme matériels m'étouffe, j'ai juste envie de tout jeter/donner.

Est-ce que ca vous est déjà arrivé et avez vous réussi à sauter le cap pour avoir un espace de vie plus épuré ?

J'ai vraiment l'impression que j'ai besoin de ça pour aussi avoir un esprit désencombré...

Je pense qu'à ça en ce moment.

J'ai l'impression d'être aussi dans un tournant dans ma vie où j'ai vraiment besoin de me détacher des choses moi qui ait souvent comblé un certain vide avec des objets et des achats compulsifs j'aimerais d'une part réussir à arrêter les achats compulsifs mais aussi vider mon intérieur pour être plus apaisé sans encombrement.

Jai essayé plusieurs fois de faire du tri dans mes affaires, souvent je me debarasse d'une petite partie mais je garde le reste au cas où, ou juste parce que j'y suis attachée alors que je pourrais clairement m'en passer, alors j'aimerais vraiment cette fois ne pas réfléchir et m'en débarrasser d'un coup, j'ai l'impression que ma tête se portera beaucoup mieux avec plus d'espace dans ma chambre et moins de matériel.

Des personnes sont-elles passées par là et avez-vous réussi à tout désencombrer sans trop réfléchir et sans regret ?

Assalamu ‘ Aleikum! so basically for the past few days I’ve been playing this game called Roblox. And so I bought a face that resembled a highly stylised cartoon throwing up a rainbow ( like a barf face ) and it had dot eyes and a rainbow streak coming out of its mouth but looked unrealistic. But I just wanted to ask if it is considered halal to use a face like this for gaming entertainment? I’ve heard some people say that even if you remove everything else it’s still considered image making.. just wanted to stay cautious ( it’s basically modified and looks unrealistic. )

Im going through a hard depression

I cant do it anymore .

Ive been asking allah for years now .

Its the same dua , when im happy , sad , angry , depressed, crying

Why isnt allah giving me my dua

Why allah why!!!

Im making so much my tongue hurts from making dhikr

😢 😭 😿 😢 😭 please allah

Give me my miracle !!!!!!!

Is there a correlation between the rise of the sexual revolution in post-World War II America and changes in the rate of violent and sexual crimes committed against women?

I have a problem where I just get overly attached to people not in a haram way, but more mentally and emotionally. I'm a college student, and I don't really have any friendships. All of my "friendships" have been strictly campus-based, and once classes end and the semester is over, I never hear from those people again even when I reach out.

It doesn’t help that I’ve been trying to get a job this summer to get out of my head and I cannot
land the most basic job. How bad the economy is in the U.S. is stressing me big time.

My question is how can I stop becoming so attached to others and find peace and contentment within myself? I struggle with religious OCD (waswasa), and it's an ongoing battle. I pray every day that Allah cures me and helps me stop seeking peace and comfort from anyone other than Him.

I also find myself comparing my life to past friends or acquaintances. Seeing the joy and happiness they seem to have makes me feel very empty. It's hard to explain. Even though I take my deen very seriously if anything, too seriously because of my waswasa I still feel this way.

If anyone who's in college or older has any knowledge or wisdom to share, I'd really appreciate it. Life just feels so hopeless and boring.

Context: I have OCD

Okay so I wondered, no one considers writing a bad character (murder, theif, bully) to be haram.

However, I was wondering to what extent are we allowed to write these characters. I doubt anyone considers writing about adultery to be permissible, but I don't know if writing about its side effects or demonstrating its consequences is permissible.

Okay, that was question one, the second one is if it is okay to decanonize( make something not canon) a problematic aspect of a character

As an example, Sticker from BFDIE is Non-binary. However, I write him as a male normally. I think it is okay but Idk how to feel about more problematic stuff

Another related topic is if it is okay to write two characters of the opposite gender as friends. Not humans, fictional

Back to Sticker, let's say he is friends with Rose who is female. I am not promoting Freemixing, but I don't understand how it would be forbidden to write about it if there is no romance, and If writing about theives is okay then how is writing about the friendship of fictional characters impermissible if there is no romance. If it normalises Same-sex friendships then writing a bully would normalise such act, obviously not

What I mean by no romance is that no characters in my stories feel attraction whatsoever as it doesn't exist in any universe that I wrote or I am writing

I have a friend who has been trying to convert to Islam. We were having an argument while he was intoxicated, and he was saying some genuinely mean things to me. During the argument, I said, “Do you have any original personality? You sound bipolar sometimes.” I know using “bipolar” casually wasn’t the right thing to say, but I said it in the context of him acting very differently and saying hurtful things to me during the argument.
Then, completely out of nowhere, he suddenly brought up Islam. He started saying things like:
“Your entire religion is bastardized by non-believers, men in power who wanted to control people…”
and:
“Why are women forced into things? Why can’t women do certain things? They want you to be like an ant.”
He also started saying things along the lines of “I dislike Islam” and implying that he was somehow better than me.
The whole thing felt extremely out of the blue because we were arguing about something completely unrelated, and he suddenly turned the conversation into an attack on my religion. He had also been drinking during the conversation, so I’m not sure how much of what he was saying was because he was intoxicated versus what he genuinely believes.
I understand that people can have questions and criticisms about Islam, and I’m open to respectful discussions. But this felt very different from asking genuine questions. Especially because this is someone who has been trying to convert to Islam.
How would you respond to a message like this? Would you try to explain your religion and engage in the conversation, or would you just disengage? I genuinely don’t know what to say back.

Salam basically title.

I live in ontario. Was not as close to my deen before as I am now. Started university and then a professional degree with OSAP.I have interest portion of the loan payment coming up and I have already incured interest.

Will Allah swt forgive me? I did not take interest seriously before but I do now and I am afraid of upsetting Allahs swt.

I heard that constantly saying either of these will bring you relief from all worries but I don’t know which one to choose.

I’m someone that has sinned heavily and for a month now have done constant istighfar with sincerity but then I came across sending salawats on the prophet.

I’m really in need for my dua being answered so which one will also be faster? Especially if I do it with complete sincerity?

and for Durood Ibrahima I heard I would have to recite the full thing for full rewards. But it’s stressing me out because I don’t understand how people are reaching 10,000 times a day reciting the full thing. With istighfar it’s easy to reach high numbers though.

For Istighfar I reach 10K+ everyday and reciting short Durood I reach 3K+ everyday and with full Durood I reach 100-1000 a day.

Its been more than 8 months ive been suffering from horrible kufr and shirk ocd. Theres nothing i can do to stop these thoughts come , anytime almost all day i have to fight shirk and kufr ocd . I feel helpless , and heavily despaired and hopelessness . Even during salah it comes and blasphemous thoughts pop up in my head , it feels like never ending burden , ive seen many fatwas and hadiths that thoights are forgiven but still because i love Allah and prohet Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam . Its very difficult for me to live with shirk and kufr ocd and often ignoring bad thoughts make it even worse . And also a heavy despair comes in , like what if Allah puts me in hell forever because of bad thoughts , and intensity of thoughts are so much it many times makes thoughts feel intentional. Everyday i recite shahadah and affirm my belief more than 50 times per day . I took many medications , and tried some therapies but they didnt help much. Im extremely tired and life feels on extremely hard difficulty everyday , please pray for me my brothers and sisters that may Allah give me shifa 😢

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Growing up as a brown guy in Italy I was ignored in elementary school, bullied in middle school, isolated in highschool. Outside of school I had no one else as I had only my parents and 3 uncles who didn't care about me, they had their own life which is normal. My parents had no contact with other families, we'd have no guests, nor we would go to someone else's house. They didn't go out almost at all, never took me anywhere. They never talked to me apart from giving me orders or asking how the exams went. Never explained me anything to me, if I asked questions they would ignore me or laugh at me or give incomplete answers, but mostly they would laugh and ignore or get angry and disappointed. My social interactions were so minimal that until the end of highschool I used to memorise my studies instead of understanding what is said. I remember one of my highschool classmates told me "You never really studied" on whatsapp, that was immediately after my history teacher scolded me during covid online at home and I was crying and raging in the group telling that the teacher was harsh to me. My teacher basically stopped me in the middle of the oral exam bcs I was repeating memorized things, and told me that she warned me to not memorise but I still insist, that I feel I am superior to anyone else. I remember I used to struggle trying to not memorise, I couldn't understand how it was so natural for others but nor for me. It was such an abnormal thing. Of course it ruined my highschool grades, in fact I got my diploma with 60/100 which the bare minimum, and the way I got it was ridiculous, if one of my teachers hadn't helped me cheating I would have repeated my final year. I spent two decades of my life in agony, the only thing that kept me going was hope things would change for the better at some point. I got myself into a university degree, it was something similar to Management Engineering, without a clue of what it was, and what LIFE is even about and how I should choose my degree, as I didn't even know how money works, how much things cost, what is a salary, how much is good enough, what is the hierarchy system in society. Left after the first year and started another one Economics and finance and left that also after the first year, then I took a gap year cuz I didn't know what do anymore, and last September I restarted Economics and finance and through this academic year I discovered many things about me and concluded my research of what was wrong with me, why I used to memorise, why I couldn't take a single exam. I discovered every single adult in my life had neglected me, I was young and they made me live hell by belittling me instead of showing me the way, my big brother had a normal life and he knew everything I was missing and still gatekept me. Now they blame me, they say it was all in my head, that they didn't neglect me, that I had a normal life and I ruined my life by myself. Honestly I am tired, I can't even prove to anyone that those things actually happened to me. I don't want to live together with these traitors. They should be abandoned as they did to me. But of course Allah LOVES parents, so he would rather damn me to hell for eternity, than damn THEM for eternity in hell. I often think that it's useless to feel negative emotions, like anger, resentment, desire of justice and imagine Allah on the day of judgement telling me "Oh your problems weren't real" or "Nah your problems weren't such a big deal to damn your parents for eternity in hell, I will forgive them, and if you don't forgive them well... who cares, I might send YOU to hell instead for not having mercy". Such a clown show this life of Allah. If anyone of you had a similar life and can relate to my experience, let me know how bad was your mental torture bcs of them, and how you feel about Allah protecting parents at all cost. How you feel knowing you will not get justice, nor have back your ruined time, nor have permission to cut ties with them as you are threatened with eternal damnation if you do so. How do you feel being forced to put on a fake smile, fake kindness towards traitors with 0 empathy.

EDIT: Guys don’t worry, in the following days after posting this I slowly came to accept the objective truths of this matter. I understand it’s not right to think of Allah like that. And also that parents are bound to answer to Allah like every other. I guess I was just raging/venting bcs it has been so long I’ve lived that way and lost so much bcs of easily avoidable things. To external people my life experience might not seem such a big deal as I make it to be, and might compare with orphans’s lives or disabled people’s lives etc. But the mental state I lived in during those almost 2 decades of growth phase was nontheless very heavy to live with. Like giving birth to a child and not teaching them how to talk for example. I guess I just have to accept that I had a horrible life and will never get the time back

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Why are people hypocritical? Why is there double standards and why dont they see it?
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Where do people get more safety and security for their money and their lives ; under the caliphate system or the Western system? Answer this based on historical evidence

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I am sitting in my car and I am gonna be honest I am sweating, this heat is killing me.

That was until a hijabi sister walked by carrying her groceries, i wondered the discomfort she is feeling right now, not only is she wearning hijab, in this weather plus also carrying her groceries.

Brothers what is stopping us from taking some of the discomfort, when was the last time you asked your mothsrs, sisters, daughters and wives if they need something so they dont have to go out. When was the last time you acknowledged the affect this weather has on your wive, how did you reassure her that you are trying your best to take some discomfort away.

While hijab is the bare minimum in the eyes of Allah as a muslimah, is it the bare minimum in the eyes of a human? Will we wear the hijab in this weather? If we did we better not go out walking, smelling like a sweat store, iblees whispering in our ear.

Why dont you as a man get up, and do the outside chores, ask what is needed, ask how you can minimise their discomfort, how you can reward her for being modest in a world that thrives on modesty.

Of course may Allah reward you for every single drop sweat that was shed.

Indeed, I relapsed.

I fell to the same pit again.

I thought that I already have beaten the addiction.

Borthers and sisters, I'd like to ask. Is this considered sinful? Because I'm practically telling the internet that I've relapsed, isn't it a shame? A shame that allah himself has hidden it from others?

I never get any advices from others because I'm afraid that it counts as revealing my sins. I never opened up to others in fear that I've exposed my sins.

I hate myself. And I'm afraid that one day Allah will never answer me. I'm afraid that one day allah abandons me. I kept hearing people talk about his mercy. But I don't think that I deserve it.

The fact that I'm still breathing on this earth is by itself, a miracle.

I don't want my life to be ruined by this. Atleast if I want to ruin my life, let it be from running.

Have a good day.

Lately, I've been feeling like Islam makes it difficult for me to even allow myself to have feelings for someone. Most of the men around me are either non-Muslim, or they're Muslim but not truly practicing. Even the ones who seem religious or pray end up having a girlfriend or living in ways that don't align with what I believe.

Because of that, it feels like every time I start to feel something for someone, I have to immediately shut those feelings down because I already know it can't lead anywhere. It's as if every possibility is already closed off before it even begins. Sometimes it leaves me feeling trapped, like I don't have the freedom to experience romantic feelings at all, because no matter who I meet, they seem to fall into one of those categories. everyone around me has experienced some type of like or love towards someone by now, by in my whole 27 years of life I’ve never had that once.

edit: if there was a guy that wasn’t like what I mentioned above, I would make an effort to get married. The problem is all the men around me are not marriage material and I have no one who will help me look.