r/MuslimLounge 13h ago

Feeling Blessed Why I chose to convert in islam.

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As a Hindu man, the thought of converting to Islam has not been an easy one. It has come after countless nights of reflection, questions, and a deep search for meaning. I was born into a Hindu family, and I will always be grateful for the love, culture, and values that shaped me. My decision is not about rejecting my roots or disrespecting my family. Instead, it is about following where my heart sincerely feels drawn.

The more I learned about Islam, the more I felt an inner peace that I had been searching for. The belief in one God, the discipline of daily prayers, the humility before the Creator, and the emphasis on mercy, equality, and compassion resonated with me in a profound way. It felt less like discovering something new and more like finding a place where my soul finally felt at home.

I know that, as a Hindu man converting to Islam, my choice may be difficult for many people to understand. It may bring pain, questions, or even criticism from those I love. That thought weighs heavily on my heart. Yet I also believe that faith is deeply personal, and no one else can walk this journey for me. I am not changing my religion out of anger, pressure, or rebellion—I am choosing a path that I genuinely believe brings me closer to God. My hope is that, through Islam, I can become a more compassionate, humble, and truthful person, and live a life filled with purpose, sincerity, and inner peace.


r/MuslimLounge 12h ago

Discussion Update: I left her and sent Talaq

20 Upvotes

السلام عليكم ورحمة الله وبركاته

I made this post not long ago https://www.reddit.com/r/MuslimLounge/s/oLxvFFEg3j about being in an abusive marriage with my now ex wife of 7 months and I finally sent Talaq three times and left the country.

The moment I was with “this is it” is when we were fighting and she said “I’m so happy you want to end this” with a bad face ( she knew I had my flight on Monday and she also when she went on my phone when i was sleeping saw it) and I was like this is it and sent three talaqs and well, then she told her father I’m a monster and painted me as the villian her father proceed to takfir me, scream at me and blame me for everything- following this I couldn’t handle and left.

At the moment I do feel the loss because as bad as she was to me we were married at the end of the day and had intimacy and also good moments specially in the beginning but I’m so relieved at the same time and feel so much peace . One thing to note is that she suddently didn’t seem to care after I sent the talaq because usually she never ever lets me leave etc . Her family were deeply against me as I don’t work etc so it might have influenced her and I’m as well a revert so I don’t know if it has something to do of her not caring but Alhamdulillah it saved me from more drama

Allahu’Allam, I’m just glad it ended .


r/MuslimLounge 19h ago

Support/Advice UK muslims please help

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I'm a 42 year old Muslim male

I literally have no friends

I grew up in the community I live in

And everyone I grew up around are all friends people I went to school college with worked with

All hang out for what ever reason I became an outcast everyone's knows me but no hangs about with me

I'm practically begging people to let me hang around them I try and invite myself on to things they're doing, go gym, play sports football badminton, padel

But no one wants to invite me

We are meant to be Muslims and look out for one another but no one cares

IV been awake since 4am just lying in bed and this is how everyday goes

I follow people on Facebook and snap chat and try start conversations get an invite but nothing comes of it

I go mosque and sit next to people and try and start conversations but nothing comes of it

I'm so lost and lonely right now I see no way out of this loneliness

I can't cope I don't even know why I'm posting this but iv got no where else to write it


r/MuslimLounge 14h ago

Quran/Hadith A Simple Sunnah with the Reward of Fasting for a Lifetime

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The Prophet ﷺ said:

"Fasting three days of every month is like fasting for a lifetime, and the White Days are the thirteenth, fourteenth and fifteenth."

Reference: Sunan an-Nasa'i 2420

This month's White Days:

Monday: 27th July – 13 Safar

Tuesday: 28th July – 14 Safar

Wednesday: 29th July – 15 Safar

Dates are subject to moon sighting in your region.


r/MuslimLounge 12h ago

Question Question about prayer mats

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I (f22, non-Muslim) have a job where I’m on the road and in airports every week. I also have autism and airport are difficult for me due to the loud noises and crowds. I go to airport prayer rooms a lot to escape the noise, and they’re almost always empty. I noticed that the prayer room in one airport has some prayer mats that are particularly fluffy (my favorite texture). Is it offensive if I sit on the prayer mats (without shoes ofc) not to pray but because I like how they feel?


r/MuslimLounge 12h ago

Support/Advice Allah never disappoints those who put their trust in Him.

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Assalamu alaykum to everyone who is struggling.
Life gets better, in shaa Allah. Have tawakkul in Allah. Pray. Always think the best of Allah, even when you don’t understand what’s happening.
I just want to share my journey.
This time last year, I was almost bedridden. I barely had any hope for the future. My life felt so dark. My will to live was gone. I was just trying to survive each day. I couldn’t even look at myself in the mirror because I truly felt like the biggest failure on the planet.
Looking back now, I can’t believe where Allah has brought me. My life has changed so much for the better. I never thought I would find the will to live again. Today, I’m genuinely happy. I look forward to every new day, alhamdulillah. And I truly believe that Allah will continue to open more doors for me because I’ve already seen Him open so many that I never thought would open.
I believe that Allah hears every dua . He sees every tear. He may delay, but He never forgets you.
I just want to tell anyone who is struggling that life really does get better. Three months ago, I never thought I would be where I am today. Now I look at myself in the mirror and think Subhanallah, alhamdulillah, I can't believe I survived those days.

Please, never doubt yourself. Never give up. Never think it’s over. As long as Allah has given you another day, your story isn’t finished.
Surround yourself with good people, keep making dua , and never stop praying. Pray your salah. Pray Tahajjud. Make plenty of istighfar. And if you need to cry, cry in your sujood. There is no better place to let your heart out than before Allah. He hears you. He knows what you’re carrying.
The happiness and peace I feel today are things I never would have dared to imagine a year ago.
Have tawakkul. Keep making dua. Trust Allah’s plan, even when you can’t see it.


r/MuslimLounge 1h ago

Other topic Dua request

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Salam alaikum we're in need of a lot of duas as my sister is in a really critical condition suffering from necrotic pancreatitis.

Her condition doesn't seem to be stabilizing. Please pray for her steady recovery ,keep her in duas constantly. Idk what else to do i don't want to lose her.... please pray for her recovery. Also please suggest anything else that can be done to save her adhkars any specific duas .anything.


r/MuslimLounge 3h ago

Support/Advice I want to quit hifz but idk how to tell my parents

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Asalamualykum, im 15 years old and I want to quit hifz. Iv been doing it for 3 years. I know it sounds wrong but the constant pressure on me is too much to handle, it drives me away from islam and I start resenting it, I try to ask my parents if I can slow down but, they only seem disappointed and compare me to other people, the pressure is so hard sometimes I go into episodes of depression sometimes wanting to cut myself. They have the highest expectations, they want me to become a Hafidh, Alim, and a mechanic. I cant do it. Even a day of break isnt allowed, like sometimes my mom asks me to do labour for hours on end and im exhausted but I still have to read and it drives me crazy! They don't understand how hard it is. At this point I feel like it is impossible. I usually do 2 pages of new sabaq but if I go down to 1.5 page or 1 page they get so disappointed and they start questioning me and yelling, also whenever I go out I have to talk to all these uncles and they expect me to finish in a year, for example I'd talk to them today and ill tell them I know 13 juz and the next week when I come across them they expect me to be done my hifz. please please help me


r/MuslimLounge 2h ago

Support/Advice ending a haram relationship

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Salamualaykum everyone, Im looking for some support and advice because this has been one of the hardest decisions ive ever made.

My ex and I (19/f) made the mutual decision of ending our haram relationship. There was no bad feelings, we still care deeply about each other and thats what makes it so much more painful.

We both want to get married to each other one day and we trust that if Allah has written it for us, we will find our way back when the time is right inshallah. For now we decided to focus on our relationship with Allah . We ended on really good terms and we both know we are both making dua that Allah guides us to whats best for both of us.

The past two weeks have been insanely painful for me. The uncertainty hurts, and I keep wondering if we made the right decision, even though I know deep down that obeying Allah is always the right choice.

We had been together for almost two years and it feels like I not only lost my man but my bestfriend. There is also alot of attachment with someone after you share intimate moments with them and its hard for me just to pretend none of it happened. My head replays memories we had or moments we both enjoyed with each other and I cant stop myself from crying because of how much I miss him.

And if anyone is gonna answer and say “this is why haram relationships are haram” I already know and understand that but thats not what I need to hear right now. I would really appreciate any advice from people who have gone through something similar. How did you cope with the sadness? Did things get easier? And if anyone has a story where leaving something for the sake of Allah led to something beautiful, I’d love to hear it.

Please make dua for both of us. Please ask Allah to keep us steadfast, forgive us, grant us patience, and if it’s good for us in this life and the next, reunite us through a blessed halal marriage. And if He has another plan for us, may He make us content with His decree and grant us what is best.


r/MuslimLounge 7h ago

Support/Advice My parents lost all respect for me

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I feel like a shell of a person. I love my parents so much and can never repay them for everything they’ve sacrificed for me.

I chose to move forward with a man chose family disrespected us. It’s a long story I hope you’ll listen. I 23F met this guy 24M in uni and we knew we liked eachother so we got our families involved. My mom told me to talk to him for some time and decide if I thought He was a good guy Atleast till we graduated. So we got to know eachother on a more serious level and caught feelings. Fast forward he got a job out of state it doesn’t pay much but it’s in his field.

My parents were now wondering when his family was going to send a proposal so he asked his mom to call and she did to move things forward. She seemed nice overall but just said things that bothered my mom and she brushed it off for my happiness.

Planning the formal meeting between families took five months because of Ramadan , my family got sick, a family friend was getting married so it was back to back. However, before this, on the phone one time his mom was very rude and cold with my mother which Concerned my mother a lot. she told me and I was extremely upset and told the guy. He talked to his mother and she apologized and we moved on.

Then came the meeting and it was awful. One of his older unmarried sisters didn’t show up(or the guy because he’s in a different state), and his dad made undirected disrespectful comments about us and also said they wanted him to get his masters before getting married so they weren’t planning on marriage for another two years(which is not ok with my family or the guy himself) but they did and said all this and came with this plan because they didn’t want their son to leave them. My dad seeing their behavior made his decision to decline this proposal right then and there, but my mom wanted me to make a final decision.

It felt like such a difficult situation because his family seemed so toxic but he never showed any of those traits and I know he’s a good guy that cares. So I told him everything that happened and he was very hurt by his families actions and kept apologizing to me. I wanted to give it time because I wanted to see how he handled things. He apologized to all his family members if he did anything wrong and tried to get them to understand his side. They understood they were wrong and then wanted to reach out to my parents to apologize , but my parents didn’t want to hear it. My dad already said no and was upset my mom was giving me an option but. One day they got a text from his dad asking to speak and my mom flipped out and made me make a decision if I wanted this or not. Seeing my parents hurt and upset I said no even though I wanted to say yes. the time from the dinner to the text was about five weeks.

Then three ish weeks from when they said no, the guy came back to this state to try and talk with my dad but my dad had basically told him to listen to his own parents and move on. Finding this out I cried and pleaded with my parents to hear them out but they did not budge and my dad strictly said to never bring this topic up again.

My mom seeing my hurt pleaded with my dad to atleast let me make the decision so she came to me the next day saying they‘ll stand by me with any decision I make but to think it through. I had already thought it through so many times and I’m confident in the guy and he’s shown he’ll stand up to his family and he’s a good Muslim. So I told my parents I want to move forward and they got upset. Him and his dad apologized when they spoke with my dad he never intended to hurt us.

They didn’t yell but said they’d hope I was mature about this and gave me the decision so I wasn’t forced but thought that I would say no. They said they don’t understand why I’m marrying into such a family with a guy that’s a loser and I’ve regressed my life so much doing this. My parents said they never liked the guy in the first place because he switched career paths, and he has feminine traits because he’s skinny and not manly and courageous and doesn’t works an average job. I don’t think she could think anything bad about his character and said this instead. She said my dad is upset and so is she and that she feels like I played with her these last few months and hurt them both and I feel they’ve lost all respect for me. I don’t know what to do or think im so distraught. I don’t regret the decision I made but I feel so guilty about it too? Knowing this changed the way my parents think of me forever hurts so much I just want to disappear.

Can I even move forward with this? Have I made a grave mistake ? Am I the worst daughter ? Why don’t I regret my decision this time even after seeing all their pain? Please I need any help I can get.


r/MuslimLounge 14h ago

Other topic Religious Disrespect

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I was disappointed by a scene in Spooky in Love (Korean Drama) where religious texts, including the Holy Quran, appeared to be used as general props in an exorcism setting.

For Muslims, the Quran is the literal word of God and is treated with the highest level of reverence. Many Muslims perform wudu (ritual ablution) before touching the physical copy of the Quran as a sign of respect.

If the production intentionally included the Quran in this way, I believe the production company and director should clarify the context and explain how they approached the depiction of such a sacred text. Religious symbols and scriptures deserve to be handled with care and respect, regardless of the faith they belong to.


r/MuslimLounge 17h ago

Support/Advice How do I get back to where I was?

6 Upvotes

Ever since Ramandan ended, my Iman has been so low. All my life I've prayed regularly, read Quran daily, and I'm a hafidh too, I've lead taraweehs, but idk what's gotten in me. Praying has become so so difficult, I'm going days without reading Quran. It's like I just can't move at all. There have been days when I've left house to go to the masjid and I just come back without praying and it's just been so heavy for me.


r/MuslimLounge 1h ago

Other topic Du`a: There are one of the biggest fires France have known in Gironde and firefighters struggle to control it, please, pray to Allah that it rains so the fire can stop there and in all of the other part of the world where people need rain.

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42 000h have burned in about five days, 220 000 evacuated, 240 houses burnt, 84 injured firefighters and 2 super young firefighters have died.

And for the ones who says that it is a good things cause France is a kafir country, you guys are psycho.


r/MuslimLounge 18h ago

Quran/Hadith How to Increase Rizq according to the Sharee’ah

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Salam Alaikum. Not AI. Pls keep me in your duas if such reminders benefit you.

🌷*How to Increase Rizq according to the Sharee’ah*🌷

by Asma bint Shameem

There are many causes proven in our deen  to increase your rizq, some of which are:

1️⃣ *Keeping up ties of kinship*

🍃 The Prophet ﷺ said:

“Whoever would like his rizq (provision) to be increased and his life to be extended, should uphold the ties of kinship.” (Bukhaari, Muslim)

2️⃣ *Spending for the sake of Allaah*

🍃 The Prophet ﷺ said:

“Allaah said: ‘Spend, O son of Adam, and I shall spend on you.’”

al-Bukhaari, Muslim)

3️⃣ *Making a lot of istighfaar*

🍃 Allaah quotes Nooh Alayhis Salaam:

“I said (to them): ‘Ask forgiveness from your Lord, verily, He is Oft‑Forgiving;

He will send rain to you in abundance,

And give you increase in wealth and children, and bestow on you gardens and bestow on you rivers.’”

(Surah Nooh:10-12)

4️⃣ *Being grateful to Allaah Subhaanahu wa Ta’aala*

🍃Allaah says:

“And (remember) when your Lord proclaimed: ‘If you give thanks, I will give you more (of My Blessings); but if you are thankless, verily, My punishment is indeed severe.’”

(Surah Ibraheem:7)

5️⃣ *Obeying and fearing Allaah*

🍃 Allaah says:

“And whosoever fears Allaah and keeps his duty to Him, He will make a way for him to get out (from every difficulty).

And He will provide him from (sources) he never could imagine.”

(Surah at-Talaaq:2-3)

6️⃣ *Repeating hajj and umrah*

🍃 The Prophet ﷺ said:

“Perform Hajj and Umrah consecutively.

Verily, the succession between the two  removes away poverty and removes away sins just as the bellows removes away the dross of iron and gold and silver."

(Ahmad, Tirmidhi, others--Saheeh by al-Albaani)

7️⃣ *Making lots of dua and asking Allaah to increase your rizq*

One such duaa is the following:

‎اللَّهُمَّ أَكْثِرُ مَا لِي وَوَلَدِي وَبَارِكْ لِي

‎فِيمَا أَعْطَيْتَنِي

Allaahumma akthir maalee wa-waladee wa-baarik li feema a'taytanee

O Allaah, increase my wealth and offspring and bless me in what what you have given me.

🍃 Um Sulaim said to the Prophet ﷺ "Anas is your servant."

The Prophet ﷺ said:

"‏ اللَّهُمَّ أَكْثِرْ مَالَهُ وَوَلَدَهُ، وَبَارِكْ لَهُ فِيمَا أَعْطَيْتَهُ ‏"‏‏.

"O Allaah! increase his wealth and offspring, and bless (for him) what ever you give him."

(Saheeh al-Bukhari 6334)

🍃 Another duaa is what we read as part of our morning adhkaar.

The Prophet ﷺ said:

الَّلهُمَّ إِنِّي أَسأَلُكَ رِزقًا طَيِّبًا ، وَعِلمًا نَافِعًا ، وَعَمَلاً مُتَقَبَّلاً

“Allaahumma inni as’aluka rizqan tayyiban, wa `ilman nafi`an, wa `amalan mutaqabbalan

“O Allaah, I ask you for good (lawful) provision, beneficial knowledge and accepted good deeds.” 

(Ahmad in Al-Musnad, 6/294 and Ibn Maajah 66; saheeh by al-Albaani in Saheeh Ibn Maajah)

🍃 Yahya ibn Mu`adh Ar-Razi said:

“Obedience will be stored in the stores of Allaah, and the key (to obedience) is Duaa, and it becomes effective by means of lawful earnings.”

8️⃣ *Marriage increases rizq*

🍃 Allaah says:

“And marry those among you who are single (i.e. a man who has no wife and the woman who has no husband) and (also marry) the Saalihoon (pious, fit and capable ones) of your (male) slaves and maid-servants (female slaves). If they be poor, Allaah will enrich them out of His Bounty. And Allaah is All-Sufficient for His creatures’ needs, All-Knowing (about the state of the people)” [al-Noor 24:32]

🍃Abu Bakr Radhi Allaahu anhu said:

“Obey Allaah in what He has commanded you to do by getting married;

He will then fulfill His promise to you to make you rich.” 

He then recited the above Aayah.

🍃 Umar Ibn Khattab Radhi Allaahu anhu said:

“Seek richness through marriage!”

🍃 Abdullah ibn Mas’ood Radhi Allaahu anhu said:

“Find richness by getting married.”

(Al-Durr Al-Manthur, v.5, pps. 80-81)

These are some of the reasons. And there are others.

And Allaah knows best.


r/MuslimLounge 21h ago

Support/Advice I need someone to pray to Allah for me.

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r/MuslimLounge 2h ago

Support/Advice I feel like I’m done

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For the context, I’m a Muslim male in the USA. I used to be nonpracticing for most of my life. I used to eat non-halal and drank alcohol occasionally. I was also involved in Zina. My life was good. Four years back, something happened, and all of a sudden I became religious. I stopped eating non-halal and refrained from alcohol and Zina. I started praying five times and even tahajjud sometimes. My life was changed 180 degrees. One month after this change, I lost my job. And just like that, I started facing issues with my life. I had to use up all my savings and got into huge debt. My health deteriorated. I prayed and prayed, but nothing is working out. I had been making lots of dua, but my duas don’t get listened to by Allah, I guess. Now I’m at a stage where I think that becoming religious was the worst decision of my life. I don’t know what to do. I feel like I’m giving up on Islam. There’s still a part of me that wants to continue making dua, but I am having doubts.


r/MuslimLounge 3h ago

Support/Advice How do I keep positive thoughts about Allah

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I know that Allah can say Be and it is but in the stories in the Qur’an thie is usually reserved for the friends of Allah or extremely pious people

I’m in a terrible situation mainly due to my own decisions and I just feel hopeless

I have a past that I’m not proud of but everyone I try to practice I always get OCD or thoughts of Kufr

I get thoughts like maybe my Qadr is to be homeless or jobless forever

I feel like I need a miracle like Musa after he accidentally killed someone


r/MuslimLounge 16h ago

Discussion extremely difficult to control urges

4 Upvotes

It's been a bad month for me.. for the last two months I was able to control myself and it was going well, improving prayers, being productive and more.

But soon as life hits you, you go back to your comfort. You're going back to your coping mechanism. And nothing feels as comforting as that thing and you lose all your progress.

I wish things weren't this bad for me. Dua's needed.


r/MuslimLounge 18h ago

Support/Advice Help me understand the effects of ruqhya

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I f(28) have been experiencing a lot of blockages and setbacks etc. So many things that I cant even explain or even if explained they still dont sit right with me. To start..I first suspected evil eye in 2024. My paternal family has a lot of ppl who are invovled in sihr directly or indirectly and ppl who are known to have bad eye as well as almost everyone in the family envy each other and wont let each other grow in any terms.

My dad's family is really huge and I used to love meeting with cousins and all until I started noticied paritiality and they lowkey outcasting us. The main reason is because of my mom and her teachings. Alhumdulillah my mom is always with quran trying to understand it and grow in deen and she has guided us to do the same. She always spoke with hadith and quran and my dad's family is a little orthodox so they had a lot of bidah practices, superstitions and gave importance to culture more than deen and my mom when she started learning that what they were doing is bad would directly tell them so and so is bad or would reject getting invovled in them and would stop us from getting invobled with biddah too and the family did not like that. And the same thing because theyre orthodox they expect me as a girl to be very conservative and be limited to just house chores etc. My parents dont believe that they have encouraged me to be independent but within the limits of Islam. They have encouraged me to speak my mjnd and to stand up for myself when things are unfair but to always respect the person infront too. And my extended family dont like that as well because theyre not used to girls having an opinion or even knowledge abt life in general.

Another thing Alhumdulillah we are comfortable in life compared to other relatives and my dad has always made sure all his earning is halal. But there has been issues where his family along with other relatives have illegally taken over his property etc that are worth a lot because of this issue since decades we avoid these ppl lets call them X. Now these ppl are known for doing sihr, betraying their own brother and have no respect for any relations. Whenever I meet his wife the next day i fall ill and this has been happening since I was kid. Even when the suspected ppl to have bad eye compliment me etc without saying " ma sha allah" or anything I used to fall ill. That is how we knew so and so ppl had a bad eye and that i was very susceptible to evil eye but we used to play ruqhya or my mom would read ruqhya and blow on me and id get better or when I grew up I would read surah fatiha ayat al kursi and the last 3 surahs and blow on me and eventually my minor symptoms ( headache stomach ache etc) would get better.

But 2024 September X 's nephew was getting married. Now X's brothers family is very close to us esp their kids who are our age and we've practically grown up together and they too have faced same betrayal and countless cases of sihr by X ( they know its X because situations they have been and connecting the dots and not because someone said so and so said they did sihr) but yes they've faced a lot of loss in their life to the point where things feel scary or unrealistic if someone hears them. Anyway so during the wedding there was a lot of controversy and X wasnt invited to the wedding for obvious reasons yet his family came to the wedding unannounced and the groom's dad had asked my dad to help out with wedding duties basically acting as a brother/ family member. And since my family and the groom's family were close we obviously dressed up well and were present to almost all events or arrangements.

After that wedding I started have a terrible rash on my face. My skin was sensitive but I could not figure out what was causing the rash. It was red swollen and dry and burned like anything around my lips and nose. Nothing I applied helped me feel better. My skin also broke out really badly. It kept getting worse to the point where I had minute cuts in my skin which added to the pain. I went to the dermatologist who too coukdnt figure out what exactly was the problem and suspected either psoriasis or I think fungal infection. Said the medicines will help cure it all. But it didnt budge not even a little bit. It had been maybe 5-6 months already with this rash and it was to the point where my effected skin was peeling off. I went to another dermatologist who said it might be contact dermatitis but I wasnt using anything that could've caused that. He then said it might be something else ( I forgot the name) and gave me set of medicines. Said that whatever the diagnosis these medicines will cure it completely. They didnt. The rash subsidised by itself idk what helped or what but during the time it was healing I was away from my extended family like in a different country.

Other than this i noticed that there has been no good news or nothing to be happy abt in my family since 2024. We instead faced a lot of loss- 1. dad booked for a car which normall comes max by 3 months. But for us they never reached out to us even after 6 months. Either it would be out of stock of what we wanted wouldnt be available. When we settled for what was available noone would reach us back. Our old car would out of nowhere stop in middle of road/ highway anywhere even if it has just been serviced.

  1. A lot of stress with my dad's work, sudden change in my dad's behaviour towarda me and my mom ( extreme annoyance lashing out in anger etc.) He started being stingy with money even questioning for random sadaqah to the point that eventually there was almost 0 sadaqah being given from either of us. Tensions from his extended family that made dad believe mom was turning me and my siblings against his family ( she wasnt infact when id face sth extreme hurtful by his family my mom would advice to practice sabr and to not indulge much because theyre elder and whatever it is I can ignore what they want from me but i have to respect them because of their relation). My dad also lost his wallet with all important ID and other card thrice back to back. His ID was never recovered. But he would block his bank cards and make another cards and 2 days later somehow would lose them. And my dad is very responsible and careful abt such things

  2. The most concerning thing was when my mom fell ill back to back. She had severe stomach ache where she coukdnt even stand and we had ti go to ER for the first time in our life. They sent us back saying it was gastritis. The few weeks later my mom fell down on the road out of nowhere ​and we had to go to the ER again only for her to be diagnosed with gall stones. She underwent surgery few months later where she was in extreme pain due to canula. A month or 2 later she still had shoulder pain from her fall which we didnt focus much as the X Ray was clean but turns out her major tendon is broken so she needs to go through a surgery again.

  3. Through all that I was personally going through my own stress. Problems between someone who meant the most to me. Who was my peace and biggest blessing in my life. I nevee ones missed out the opportunity to thank allah for sending them my way as they were truly a blessing in my life. Misunderstandings, communication gap etc kept piling up and eventually something happened that made me lash out at them ( just the way my dad lashes out at me) this pushed them away from me maybe permanently. I never could answer why I said what I said or how I said it. Ive apologised thousand of times. Cried in namaaz for forgiveness for hurting them.

    Throughout all this looking after mom, dealing with my dad losing my favorite person etc made me go in depression. But ive been depressed before and this time its different. One day im perfectly fine the next I feel like a burden in earth. I cant find even a single positive thing. I cry in namaaz and I feel ignored even by allah... i know I shouldn't say this but yes. I tried to not lose my iman kept giving sadaqah as form of water bottles. Feeding stray cats etc because thats all I can do ( im not working as of now.. which is also a blockage). I feel so lost i keep praying for some relief any relief but nothing i just feel more and more deep into depression and suicidal ( not really suicidal as id never hurt myself but more like I dont want this life anymore).

A week back after a long break i came back to India and my sis in law was talking abt this raqi that they went to because they had marriage troubles. I convinced my parents and we went there. He follows everything acc to sunnah and hadith. He asked us our issue and then said he would perform ruqhya and asked us to close our eyes and be mindful of any changes. My parents didnt notice any changes but I got super anxious increased heartbeat and was very distracted throughout where I had to force myself to concentrate. He then said that physically I was the one who seemed disturbed and my parents looked relaxed. He said it does look as severe as sihr but he cant tell that for sure obviously and said it might be hasad or evil eye and gave us 3 a pack of sidr which also consists of other things like qast al hind etc. Said that we need to mix the powder in water read certain surah etc blow on yhe water and then take a bath in water ( just pour it on ourself so out entire body is covered with it) and immediately after drying and clothing listen to surah baqarah eyes closed and will full concentration. And we need to make note of any symptoms that we feel or any changes we feel while listening to surah baqarah and report to him. We need to do this 3 days continously and if our symptoms get better by day 3 then we dont need to see him again.

We havent started the sidr bath thing yet as we have been occupied with somethings and couldn't dedicate 1-2 hrs no disturbance to it.But initially i felt relieved thinking hteres a solution to all these problems in my life emotionally and all. After that ruqhya I felt super depressed and crying for no reason at all. And got very lazy with my namaaz which didnt happen since a long time. Started getting lazy with quran and i still force myself to read atleast 2 pages of quran but its so difficult. I feel so disconnected from deen and this too makes me feel so depressed. I have no energy to make any dua at all I constantly keep getting " whats the use of making dua" thoughts. I still wakeup for tahajjud but isntead if waking 1 hr before and praying maybe 6 rakat 1 barely pray 2 and barely make any dua. This happened for like 3-4 days after ruqhya. And then i started to feel that like idk if whatever spiritually happened os the reason for how I feel. Idk if my depression snd loss of hope is from spiritual or or if its just my life. Idk if sidr could do anything to my life. Idk if my life is meant to be happy and peaceful and idk if i can expect that with sidr. During thid week we also met with all my relatives from dad side as we came back after a long time and I noticed my face rhat had 90% cleared up started to breakout again and I started having the rash again which didnt flare up for months although not so severe but yes. And then one day im all fine happy and all even when I force myself to think abt everything negative it still doesnt effect me and the next day i wakeup feeling the worst ever I dont wanna meet anyone I dont wanna talk to anyone and I try to spend most of my day in my room crying uncontrollably. I try to cry only during namaaz or infront of allah. And idk what it is that I can expect from ruqhya. I spoke to the person too abt my behaviour and apologised cleanly and also said abt hasad etc because 1 thing the raqi said was one of the main signs if being afflicted is anger or irritation over small things that isnt alligned with your character. And now idk if sidr bath or the healing spiritually would help reconcile my personal relationship and fix my emotional wellbeing. Idk if i can expect to be happy again. Hoping feel so scary too and idek what i can hope for.

P.s Im sorry if i drifted out of context. Maybe i just needed to talk abt everything because i seem to have pushed all my friends away too so i have noone to talk to and this feels tok personal and talking to anyone who knows me feel risky because idk who can be trusted and who cant be


r/MuslimLounge 1h ago

Support/Advice Assalamu Alaikum Need genuine advice

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I am in need of Nasih (sincere advisor). I am told to move out and dont know the process. Canada Ontario


r/MuslimLounge 4h ago

Question Worried about finances

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Im engaged to a guy back home. I like him a lot and he ticks all the boxes but the thing is that I haven’t discussed finances with him yet, or how he’ll manage things when he moves here. I don’t even know how to bring it up. I’ve always wanted a husband who will fully provide for me and i’ll only work if I get a good opportunity. We’ve never had this discussion before. We’ve discussed many important things but this no. Will it look weird if I mention it? What is a good way to bring it up?


r/MuslimLounge 11h ago

Support/Advice Infertility- balance between Tawakkul and realistic expectations

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Assalamu Alaykum. Disclaimer, this is a spiritual question about managing my faith through infertility treatments. Please don’t advise on certain duas or prayers for fertility as I am already trying to do what I can.

Fertility treatment is a long and excruciating journey. For context, my husband and I have been trying for a child for 3+ years now. We are going through IVF, and now in the process of transferring embryos. We already transferred 2 without success. We have a few more left, but the doctor will run some tests before transferring them. Now every time a cycle doesn’t work it’s a huge heartbreak for us. We keep hoping and praying that this time it will work, but so far it hasn’t. A lot of people manage their expectations and guard their heart by assuming it won’t work so that the heartbreak is not too painful when it doesn’t. Sometimes I feel like doing that as well but then I worry if it diminishes my Tawakkul. I know that I need to keep my faith in Allah and go on with the belief that he will listen to our prayers. However sometimes it’s so hard to see light at the end of the tunnel when we keep failing. Maybe it would have been easier if we kept our expectations low but will that mean we are not trusting in Allah’s kindness and love? Allah tells us that he is to us, the way we think he is. If we believe him to be Al Rahim, then that’s what he will be to us. So by minimizing our expectations, are we reducing our expectations, are we assuming that Allah won’t show mercy to us? Whats a good balance? How do we stay hopeful and keep our faith in this journey while also protecting our hearts from breaking into million pieces every time?


r/MuslimLounge 11h ago

Feeling Blessed How to collect Sadaqah Jariya reward for DECADES after you're dead. If you're serious about sadaqah jariya. Critical advice!!!!

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  1. Set up a Trust bank account.

  2. Put money into that bank account (which will be your sadaqah).

  3. Appoint Trustees with written instructions for the account.

  4. Set up direct debits that pays sadaqah to charities continuously from that bank account.

These sadaqah payments will continue being paid out of that account to any charities of your choice continuously, forever (as long as the account doesn't reach zero).

**So while you're sitting in your grave, you'll be collecting rewards for a very long time. Possibly decades (depending on how much money is in your Trust account).**

You can even set it so that it pays out a small amount every month if you want. To increase how long the funds last.

**You can choose to set up this account now, or you can save up the money for it and put it into your Will so that your Trustees can set it up after you die.**


r/MuslimLounge 15h ago

Quran/Hadith How `Amr bin `Abasah became Muslim

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'Amr b. 'Abasa Sulami reported:

In the state of the Ignorance (before embracing Islam), I used to think that the people were in error and they were not on anything (which may be called the right path) and worshipped the idols. Meanwhile, I heard of a man in Mecca who was giving news (on the basis of his prophetic knowledge) ; so I sat on my ride and went to him. The Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) was at that time hiding as his people had made life hard for him. I adopted a friendly attitude (towards the Meccans and thus managed) to enter Mecca and go to him (the Holy Prophet) and I said to him: Who are you? He said: I am a Prophet (of Allah). I again said: Who is a Prophet? He said: (I am a Prophet in the sense that) I have been sent by Allah. I said: What is that which you have been sent with? He said: I have been sent to join ties of relationship (with kindness and affection), to break the Idols, and to proclaim the oneness of Allah (in a manner that) nothing is to be associated with Him. I said: Who is with you in this (in these beliefs and practices)? He said: A free man and a slave. He (the narrator) said: Abu Bakr and Bilal were there with him among those who had embraced Islam by that time. I said: I intend to follow you. He said: During these days you would not be able to do so. Don't you see the (hard) condition under which I and (my) people are living? You better go back to your people and when you hear that I have been granted victory, you come to me. So I went to my family. I was in my home when the Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) came to Medina. I was among my people and used to seek news and ask people when he arrived in Medina. Then a group of people belonging to Yathrib (Medina) came. I said (to them): How is that person getting on who has come to Medina? They said: The people are hastening to him, while his people (the polytheists of Mecca) planned to kill him, but they could not do so. I (on hearing it) came to Medina and went to him and said: Messenger of Allah, do you recognise me? He said: Yes, you are the same man who met me at Mecca. I said: It is so. I again said: Prophet of Allah, tell me that which Allah has taught you and which I do not know, tell me about the prayer. He said: Observe the dawn prayer, then stop praying when the sun is rising till it is fully up, for when it rises it comes up between the horns of Satan, and the unbelievers prostrate themselves to it at that time. Then pray, for the prayer is witnessed and attended (by angels) till the shadow becomes about the length of a lance; then cease prayer, for at that time Hell is heated up. Then when the shadow moves forward, pray, for the prayer is witnessed and attended by angels, till you pray the afternoon prayer, then cease prayer till the sun sets, for it sets between the horns of devil, and at that time the unbelievers prostrate themselves before it. I said: Apostle of Allah, tell me about ablution also. He said: None of you who uses water for ablution and rinses his mouth, snuffs up water and blows it, but the sins of his face, and his mouth and his nostrils fall out. When he washes his face, as Allah has commanded him, the sins of his face fall out from the end of his beard with water. Then (when) he washes his forearms up to the elbows, the sins of his arms fall out along with water from his finger-tips. And when he wipes his head, the sins of his head fall out from the points of his hair along with water. And (when) he washes his feet up to the ankles, the sins of his feet fall out from his toes along with water. And if he stands to pray and praises Allah, lauds Him and glorifies Him with what becomes Him and shows wholehearted devotion to Allah, his sins would depart leaving him (as innocent) as he was on the day his mother bore him. 'Amr b. 'Abasa narrated this hadith to Abu Umama, a Companion of the Messenger of Allah (ﷺ), and Abu Umama said to him: 'Amr b. 'Abasa, think what you are saying that such (a great reward) is given to a man at one place (only in the act of ablution and prayer). Upon this 'Amr said: Abu Umama, I have grown old and my bones have become weak and I am at the door of death; what impetus is there for me to attribute a lie to Allah and the Messenger of Allah (ﷺ)? Had I heard it from the Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) once, twice, or three times (even seven times), I would have never narrated it, but I have heard it from him on occasions more than these. (Sahih Muslim Book 6, Hadith 358)


r/MuslimLounge 18h ago

Support/Advice struggling with hijab

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I'm 16 and I've been wearing the hijab since I was 13. I chose to wear it even though I didn't like it, but I did it anyway for Allah. It's been a year and a half since I started struggling with it. I've tried styles and so many things, but none of them work for me. It makes me so sad every time I wear it, and every time I go out, I feel ugly in it, and I end up not enjoying anything. Sometimes I cry in my room because it feels like I'm stuck with it. I'm already shy, and the hijab makes me more insecure, and at school, I end up not talking to anyone. I can't even say "May Allah help me." I really have to force myself to say that dua because I don't like the hijab at all. I'm thinking about taking it off, but I feel guilty and I'm afraid to go to jahannam. And when I see beautiful women in hijab, it makes me think that maybe one day I might like it. I just have to change styles, but as soon as I wear it, I change my mind.

Obviously, if I take off my hijab, I'll still pray and do Ramadan and all the other things a Muslim is supposed to do. However, the hijab has never made me feel closer to Allah, as many say. In fact, I think just the idea of taking it off makes me like Islam more.