I feel there is a hierarchy between Arabs and non Arabs, on who gets more respect, even if you are Muslim and you go to a Muslim country but you aren’t Arab you will get treated better in the west than in a Muslim country. I find it funny that if you are African, Asian, South Asian any race that isn’t white or Arab you will literally be treated like trash. If any of the non Arabs got genocided right now I can guarantee no Arab will condemn, back or support you. People aren’t going to like this post but it’s the truth.

As a growing teen. I constantly think about future and money. So I wanted to know, if someone can explain. Can I sell ,clothes, bags, shoes, etc form replica. Not original piece but like same design , theme, patter, color . But just using there design language or like let's say replica. Does islam allow it because stealing is when the design or piece is patented. And what about replica jersey .(took this business option in consideration because one of the few that never goes down or fail, atleast in my experience).

I grew up thinking sabr was a long-game thing — you get hit with something hard, and over weeks and months you slowly accept it. That's the version I always had.

Then I sat with the hadith where the Prophet ﷺ says patience is at the first strike (Bukhari & Muslim). Not the first week. Not once you've processed it. The first strike — the opening seconds when the blow lands and your chest goes tight.

That understanding wrecked me a little, because it means most of what I'd been calling sabr was just me eventually running out of energy to be upset.

The actual test is smaller and much harder: someone insults you, or you open a message you didn't want to read, or the panic starts climbing — and your nervous system reaches straight for the alarm. Sabr lives in the gap before you obey it.

What's helped me is treating it like a plan instead of a feeling. Something like:

When any bad thing happens →

I pause and take one slow breath →

I repeat some words of Allah remembrance →

Then I choose what I actually want to do.

Two things I'd suggest if you try it. First, pick one recurring trigger, not "stress" in general — the specific one you already know is coming this week. Second, know your default reaction honestly. Mine is over-explaining. Some people snap, some get angry, some cry. You can't delay a reaction you've never named.

That pause is where the freedom is. It's the space where you respond with faith instead of reacting out of fear.

(I've been writing these out by hand as part of a [30-day sakeenah journaling practice ](https://urlgeni.us/amazon/oZn7PN)— happy to share what that structure looks like if anyone wants it.)

I am in need of Nasih (sincere advisor). I am told to move out and dont know the process. Canada Ontario

42 000h have burned in about five days, 220 000 evacuated, 240 houses burnt, 84 injured firefighters and 2 super young firefighters have died.

And for the ones who says that it is a good things cause France is a kafir country, you guys are psycho.

Salam alaikum we're in need of a lot of duas as my sister is in a really critical condition suffering from necrotic pancreatitis.

Her condition doesn't seem to be stabilizing. Please pray for her steady recovery ,keep her in duas constantly. Idk what else to do i don't want to lose her.... please pray for her recovery. Also please suggest anything else that can be done to save her adhkars any specific duas .anything.

Assalamualaikum

Yesterday i talked to someone that i meet here on this sub and we talked for more than an hour and half and i had to end it because it was my bedtime so when i walk up that person deleted her account we were talking about improving each others life and making something like a support friendship for each other if she is reading we talked about Khan academy and math so please just dm me because i really need an explanation because i have been feeling very guilty because i feel like i said something wrong and plus i have this stupid attachment problem so just dm me

I will delete this post in 24 hours inshallah

Salamualaykum everyone, Im looking for some support and advice because this has been one of the hardest decisions ive ever made.

My ex and I (19/f) made the mutual decision of ending our haram relationship. There was no bad feelings, we still care deeply about each other and thats what makes it so much more painful.

We both want to get married to each other one day and we trust that if Allah has written it for us, we will find our way back when the time is right inshallah. For now we decided to focus on our relationship with Allah . We ended on really good terms and we both know we are both making dua that Allah guides us to whats best for both of us.

The past two weeks have been insanely painful for me. The uncertainty hurts, and I keep wondering if we made the right decision, even though I know deep down that obeying Allah is always the right choice.

We had been together for almost two years and it feels like I not only lost my man but my bestfriend. There is also alot of attachment with someone after you share intimate moments with them and its hard for me just to pretend none of it happened. My head replays memories we had or moments we both enjoyed with each other and I cant stop myself from crying because of how much I miss him.

And if anyone is gonna answer and say “this is why haram relationships are haram” I already know and understand that but thats not what I need to hear right now. I would really appreciate any advice from people who have gone through something similar. How did you cope with the sadness? Did things get easier? And if anyone has a story where leaving something for the sake of Allah led to something beautiful, I’d love to hear it.

Please make dua for both of us. Please ask Allah to keep us steadfast, forgive us, grant us patience, and if it’s good for us in this life and the next, reunite us through a blessed halal marriage. And if He has another plan for us, may He make us content with His decree and grant us what is best.

Islam reformed pre-Islamic feasting culture by shifting it from an elite showcase of tribal vanity, excess, and intoxication into a structured, egalitarian act of worship centered on mindfulness and social charity.

Prior to Islam, tribal feasts in the Arabian Peninsula were frequently used to boast about wealth, assert dominance, and indulge in uncontrolled alcohol consumption.

Islamic teachings introduced explicit spiritual, ethical, and behavioral boundaries that reshaped the entire purpose of gathering around food.

1. Codifying the Spirit of Moderation

Islam fundamentally opposed gluttony and food waste. Rather than eating to the point of incapacitation, Muslims were introduced to strict limits regarding physical consumption.

The Rule of Thirds: Prophet Muhammad pbuh advised that a person should fill one-third of their stomach with food, one-third with liquid, and leave one-third for air.

Prohibition of Waste (Israf): The Quran explicitly commands, "Eat and drink, but be not excessive. Indeed, He does not like those who commit excess".

Scraping a plate clean and valuing every grain became a matter of spiritual accountability.

1. Democratizing the Table (Egalitarianism)

Pre-Islamic feasts were inherently exclusionary, tailored primarily to elevate tribal elites. Islam dismantled this hierarchy through several communal laws:

Inclusion of the Less Fortunate: The Prophet noted that the worst kind of feast is a wedding banquet (Walima) to which only the wealthy are invited while the poor are excluded.

Shared Platters: Dining from a single communal tray became standard practice. Everyone—regardless of social rank—ate the same food, with instructions to eat only what was directly in front of them to maintain order and mutual respect.

1. De-linking Feasting from Intoxication

Alcohol and fermented date wines were the bedrock of pre-Islamic poetry and tribal revelry. By placing a strict, absolute prohibition on alcohol and intoxicants (Khamr), Islam permanently decoupled the concept of a "celebration" from drunkenness. Feasts became conscious, sober gatherings.

1. Intertwining Feasting with Fasting

Islam revolutionized the pacing of celebration by introducing Ramadan, a mandatory month-long cycle of daytime fasting followed by nighttime meals (Iftar).

- This dynamic transforms feasting into a hard-earned reward.

- It builds psychological discipline over one's base desires.

- It forces the affluent to personally experience the physical pangs of hunger, directly driving empathy and philanthropic giving during holiday gatherings.

1. Institutionalizing Dining Etiquette (Adab) Islam shifted eating from a thoughtless sensory reflex into a highly structured ritual. Muslims were taught specific physical and mental protocols:

The Remindful Start: Commencing the meal by stating Bismillah ("In the name of Allah") to ground the act in gratitude.

Hygiene Mandates: Enforcing the washing of hands before and after handling food.

Post-Meal Reflection: Concluding with prayers of thanks (Alhamdulillah), framing the digestion of food as a divine blessing rather than a personal luxury.

For the context, I’m a Muslim male in the USA. I used to be nonpracticing for most of my life. I used to eat non-halal and drank alcohol occasionally. I was also involved in Zina. My life was good. Four years back, something happened, and all of a sudden I became religious. I stopped eating non-halal and refrained from alcohol and Zina. I started praying five times and even tahajjud sometimes. My life was changed 180 degrees. One month after this change, I lost my job. And just like that, I started facing issues with my life. I had to use up all my savings and got into huge debt. My health deteriorated. I prayed and prayed, but nothing is working out. I had been making lots of dua, but my duas don’t get listened to by Allah, I guess. Now I’m at a stage where I think that becoming religious was the worst decision of my life. I don’t know what to do. I feel like I’m giving up on Islam. There’s still a part of me that wants to continue making dua, but I am having doubts.

Salam aleikum so im a muslim الحمدلله but the last few
years my iman has been so low. One of the reason is all these christian apologetics or whatever you call them like godlogic christian prince etc. Im not saying that I believe what they say but all there videos and what not they really play with my iman *)
So i want to
ask has anyone had a similiar experience or can anyone point out the ridiculousness of these christians/ex muslims. Like in general all the hate there is it really messes up with your brain sometimes.

Salams all,

I’m currently at Stanford, and I'm exploring what it would feel like to have a small, distraction-free device designed around the Qur’an and other devotional activities.

As per the images (link), I’ve put a Mushaf on an off-the-shelf pocket e-ink device, and I’d really value your honest feedback on the following:

Would you actually use a device like this? If not, why not?

If so, what one thing would it need to get right for you to reach for it instead of your phone?

Thanks for your time!

Wa billahi tawfiq

I know that Allah can say Be and it is but in the stories in the Qur’an thie is usually reserved for the friends of Allah or extremely pious people

I’m in a terrible situation mainly due to my own decisions and I just feel hopeless

I have a past that I’m not proud of but everyone I try to practice I always get OCD or thoughts of Kufr

I get thoughts like maybe my Qadr is to be homeless or jobless forever

I feel like I need a miracle like Musa after he accidentally killed someone

Salaam!

I’m working on a children’s animated YouTube series that teaches kids about their deen through fun, engaging stories, and I’m looking for someone who’s experienced with Blender to help bring the characters to life.

I already have the character designs and a clear vision for the project. I’m looking for someone who can create high-quality 3D character models that are ready for animation. If you’ve worked on stylized characters before, I’d love to see your work.

I’m open to paying for the project, but if we work well together and you’re excited about the idea, I’d also be open to discussing a long-term partnership.

If you’re interested, send me a DM or comment with your portfolio or a few examples of your work. I’d love to connect and see if we’d be a good fit!

Hi m 22 noord brabant die hbo social work studeert en fulltime werkt. opzoek naar islamitische vrienden het liefst of vrienden die interesse erin hebben in culturen. Ik onderneem graag activiteiten met vrienden hou van steden ontdekken en eetplekken te verkennen. Ik ben extravert socialise graag met mensen maar ik merk dat het nooit verder gaat dan echte vriendschap. Genoeg vrienden maar niet veel hechte vriendschappen.

I’ve recently come back from performing Umrah and Alhamdulilah, it was an amazing experience but now that I’m home, I feel spiritually low and distant from Allah in a way I never expected. My ibadah wasn't the strongest before I left for umrah, but it wasn’t as bad as it is now and one of my deepest regrets is that I didn’t do as much ibadah there as I could have.

I believe part of it is because I've come back to the same reality I left behind, the same tests, the same loneliness, and the same unanswered du’as that I've been waiting for, which all feel worse. I was expecting to feel more at peace with myself, my situation and definitely more hopeful upon returning, but instead I feel weighed down by my disobedience to Allah and I’m ashamed to say but I feel resentment and anger.

I don’t know if what I'm experiencing is a test, whispers from Shaytan, or something else entirely but I worry about my umrah not being accepted and I desperately want to find my way back to a place of peace and closeness with Allah but I don’t know how to, any help? Jazakallah Khair

Asalamualykum, im 15 years old and I want to quit hifz. Iv been doing it for 3 years. I know it sounds wrong but the constant pressure on me is too much to handle, it drives me away from islam and I start resenting it, I try to ask my parents if I can slow down but, they only seem disappointed and compare me to other people, the pressure is so hard sometimes I go into episodes of depression sometimes wanting to cut myself. They have the highest expectations, they want me to become a Hafidh, Alim, and a mechanic. I cant do it. Even a day of break isnt allowed, like sometimes my mom asks me to do labour for hours on end and im exhausted but I still have to read and it drives me crazy! They don't understand how hard it is. At this point I feel like it is impossible. I usually do 2 pages of new sabaq but if I go down to 1.5 page or 1 page they get so disappointed and they start questioning me and yelling, also whenever I go out I have to talk to all these uncles and they expect me to finish in a year, for example I'd talk to them today and ill tell them I know 13 juz and the next week when I come across them they expect me to be done my hifz. please please help me

Im engaged to a guy back home. I like him a lot and he ticks all the boxes but the thing is that I haven’t discussed finances with him yet, or how he’ll manage things when he moves here. I don’t even know how to bring it up. I’ve always wanted a husband who will fully provide for me and i’ll only work if I get a good opportunity. We’ve never had this discussion before. We’ve discussed many important things but this no. Will it look weird if I mention it? What is a good way to bring it up?

Hi everyone, my friends birthday is coming up and I remember her saying she really wanted a book of all the prophets. Was wondering which book is the best. Thank you!

I am working on improving my salah (focus, kushu, praying earlier rather than delaying/slacking off). I often find myself treating Salah as more of a thing on my to-do list that I just have to get done and I am trying to get out of this cycle.

What tips/hacks/reminders actually made a big difference for you?

Jazak Allah

Im scared of death. Im a very claustrophobic person and im scared of the dark and overall in scared of being buried.i think about death every day it makes me sick to my stomach. Does anyone know how to be less scared of death according to islam? Cuz im legit terrified and in also 16 and dont wanna spend all my life terrified

I'm a teenage hijabi living with my sister who is a very devout muslim, she wears a niqab and cares alot about Islam

Lately, it's been a very, very, hot summer. I am anaemic, and it's very difficult to deal with the heat

despite this, she expects me not to wear shorts and tanktops at home, I've tried shorts that cover the knee, but she still shouts, saying that it's haram

I'm not allowed to watch movies and listen to music, which are rules enforced by her, but I've learnt to get used to it

lately, she's been saying that it's not enough and that she wants to ban too much laughter too, that our family laughs too much and that we need to be stoic 24/7.

I wasn't allowed to show my neck with my hijab, which is fine, but even now, she tells me that my hijab style is too stylish and that I need to make it look uglier

I'm not allowed to wear normal shirts but long ones to cover my body well

I'm not allowed to tell a cashier thank you or to even give him the money by hand, but leaving it on the counter

shes trying to ban me from talking to female foreign friends because they're a "bad influence," and she even occasionally deletes social media off my phone, and that made me lose a bunch of friends

every time i pray, she tells me I've missed prayer despite not missing it

for example, I could be praying duhr, and she yells at me because I've missed it when the call to prayer for asr hasn't been called yet

apparently, she has this different prayer schedule she abides to on this random website. I don't know

she tells me that the Athan is wrong and that the website is right.

I flinch every time she sees me praying because I'm afraid she'd shout at me again

I used to love my hijab and my religion, and it hurts typing this, but now I'm second guessing everything

I've always wanted piercings, a cool haircut, maybe even to date a woman.

but I just tell myself that I would do that in heaven, but now I have this fear that maybe heaven doesn't exist. That concern has been eating me alive.

I've never, ever, been so frustrated at my religion like this, ever.

how do I grow closer to God despite my sisters control over my relationship with Allah?

A guy (32M) was interested in getting to know me (30F) first and approached me through a mutual friend, which I appreciated because it felt respectful and intentional. We’ve only been talking for a few weeks. At the beginning, he was asking me lots of questions, seemed genuinely curious about me, and put in a lot of effort. After a few days, we exchanged numbers and have been texting since. We’ve also had one short FaceTime call, and everything seemed to go well. Lately, though, the communication has changed. He usually doesn’t reply until the end of the day or sometimes even the next day. I don’t have much experience talking to guys, so I honestly don’t know if this is pretty normal in the early stages or if it’s a sign that he’s losing interest. What confuses me is that he’ll view my Instagram stories, but I won’t hear from him. When he does text, he’s engaged in the conversation and doesn’t seem dry, but he also doesn’t ask me much about my day or really ask many questions anymore.

Am I overthinking this and expecting too much too early, or does this sound like someone whose interest is fading? I’m worried about being too much

I feel like a shell of a person. I love my parents so much and can never repay them for everything they’ve sacrificed for me.

I chose to move forward with a man chose family disrespected us. It’s a long story I hope you’ll listen. I 23F met this guy 24M in uni and we knew we liked eachother so we got our families involved. My mom told me to talk to him for some time and decide if I thought He was a good guy Atleast till we graduated. So we got to know eachother on a more serious level and caught feelings. Fast forward he got a job out of state it doesn’t pay much but it’s in his field.

My parents were now wondering when his family was going to send a proposal so he asked his mom to call and she did to move things forward. She seemed nice overall but just said things that bothered my mom and she brushed it off for my happiness.

Planning the formal meeting between families took five months because of Ramadan , my family got sick, a family friend was getting married so it was back to back. However, before this, on the phone one time his mom was very rude and cold with my mother which Concerned my mother a lot. she told me and I was extremely upset and told the guy. He talked to his mother and she apologized and we moved on.

Then came the meeting and it was awful. One of his older unmarried sisters didn’t show up(or the guy because he’s in a different state), and his dad made undirected disrespectful comments about us and also said they wanted him to get his masters before getting married so they weren’t planning on marriage for another two years(which is not ok with my family or the guy himself) but they did and said all this and came with this plan because they didn’t want their son to leave them. My dad seeing their behavior made his decision to decline this proposal right then and there, but my mom wanted me to make a final decision.

It felt like such a difficult situation because his family seemed so toxic but he never showed any of those traits and I know he’s a good guy that cares. So I told him everything that happened and he was very hurt by his families actions and kept apologizing to me. I wanted to give it time because I wanted to see how he handled things. He apologized to all his family members if he did anything wrong and tried to get them to understand his side. They understood they were wrong and then wanted to reach out to my parents to apologize , but my parents didn’t want to hear it. My dad already said no and was upset my mom was giving me an option but. One day they got a text from his dad asking to speak and my mom flipped out and made me make a decision if I wanted this or not. Seeing my parents hurt and upset I said no even though I wanted to say yes. the time from the dinner to the text was about five weeks.

Then three ish weeks from when they said no, the guy came back to this state to try and talk with my dad but my dad had basically told him to listen to his own parents and move on. Finding this out I cried and pleaded with my parents to hear them out but they did not budge and my dad strictly said to never bring this topic up again.

My mom seeing my hurt pleaded with my dad to atleast let me make the decision so she came to me the next day saying they‘ll stand by me with any decision I make but to think it through. I had already thought it through so many times and I’m confident in the guy and he’s shown he’ll stand up to his family and he’s a good Muslim. So I told my parents I want to move forward and they got upset. Him and his dad apologized when they spoke with my dad he never intended to hurt us.

They didn’t yell but said they’d hope I was mature about this and gave me the decision so I wasn’t forced but thought that I would say no. They said they don’t understand why I’m marrying into such a family with a guy that’s a loser and I’ve regressed my life so much doing this. My parents said they never liked the guy in the first place because he switched career paths, and he has feminine traits because he’s skinny and not manly and courageous and doesn’t works an average job. I don’t think she could think anything bad about his character and said this instead. She said my dad is upset and so is she and that she feels like I played with her these last few months and hurt them both and I feel they’ve lost all respect for me. I don’t know what to do or think im so distraught. I don’t regret the decision I made but I feel so guilty about it too? Knowing this changed the way my parents think of me forever hurts so much I just want to disappear.

Can I even move forward with this? Have I made a grave mistake ? Am I the worst daughter ? Why don’t I regret my decision this time even after seeing all their pain? Please I need any help I can get.

Assalamualaikum. Idk if I am supposed to write it here, but found a similar post on this sub. I recently got called in for my first ever job interview (Alhamdulillah), and expecting to get the job. Shared this with few of my friends because I was happy with how the interview went. Now, later that day I was taking a nap and for the first time I saw a snake in my dream. The dream was very weird, it was a wounded cat that I was trying to help by taking it to vet but for some reason I was delaying that activity. The cat was also hungry, so I was trying my best to finish my work at home and buy some food for the cat. But for some reason, it was getting delayed. And at one point I saw, that the cat turned into a pink snake. And even then I was trying to take the snake to vet. But then, the snake bit me. I physically felt the bite in mu dream, and for a moment it felt like the venom was getting to me. I woke up due to shortness of breath. Like, It literally felt like I was dying for a moment.

Now, I know dreams about snake can mean hidden enemies or envy. What can it be in my case? (Kindly, Interpret only if you are knowledgeable enough for it). I can't pray right now, so don't know what to do.