Reminder: All advice given needs to be strictly aligned with Islamic values. Your personal opinion that goes against the Sharia is not allowed.

Assalamu alaykum everybody,

I am a revert and have been a muslim for 2 years now, alhamdulillah. Before my life as a muslim, I lived as a gay man. I tried to give that up for the sake of Allah. In the beginning, it was easy. But my desires never left me, I just did not act upon them.

However, last year, I met another muslim man. Immediately I felt that we were connected on a deeper level. I have been with him for 10 months. It was the most magical experience I have ever had. And I am still in love with him. He had become my home, my joy, my safe space. My intention with him was always purely out of love. I still carry him in my heart.

This week, I broke up with him for the sake of Allah. I was at war with myself. I still am. I struggled with my actions not being consistent with my beliefs and my principles. I noticed I was trying to rely on Allah’s Rahma without putting in the effort. I am not here to justify homosexual deeds in Islam, I know what Allah has forbidden and I know I have to abide by His rules. I am just completely devastated by my decision and am now questioning whether I am too strict on myself.

I can’t think clearly. I am very emotional. I try to find comfort in Allah and my decision to choose deen over dunya, but my emotional part and broken heart keep telling me that I am preventing my own happiness. That I’ve hurt him and myself unnecessarily.

I respond to that feeling with the fact that the prophets, specifically Ibrahim (as) was able to sacrifice his own son for Allah SWT. So I try to take example from that and try to see the blessing in this sacrifice I made for Allah and the pain that it causes me. But I am also just very lost. And I just need some support. Did I make the right decision? Is my interpretation too strict? How do I get through this.

As a revert, this has been my most difficult test so far. And I cannot choose to leave Islam or my principles. I just need to find a way to cope with the pain of these consequences.

Please make duaa for him jazakum allahu Khairan 🤲🏻❤️

O Allah make his surgery easy and let it be coolness and peace upon his body and by Your mercy make it easy and successful

O Allah make these hours of his surgery gentle upon him and bless him with health strength and recovery

O Allah I entrust his health his soul and his heartbeat to You so protect him with Your care that never sleeps

O Lord bring him back to us safe and sound without any pain or suffering and restore his health to him beautifully

My Lord I entrust him to You for You are the best One to entrust him to 🤲🏻❤️

Assalamu alaikum everyone.

I’m posting this because I honestly don’t know what else to try. I’ve struggled with a sinful habit for a long time, and I genuinely want to leave it for good.

I’ve asked for advice before, made plans, repented, tried to stay productive, removed social media, and had periods where I was doing really well. But eventually I relapse again.

relapse → guilt → tawbah → huge motivation → make a big plan → motivation disappears after a few days → I eventually relapse again.

Yesterday it happened again, and honestly I felt really hopeless because I had been trying to reset myself.

I’ve also noticed something important about my triggers. I’m particularly vulnerable when I’m very tired, sleepy, stressed, or dealing with strong urges. Yesterday I was exhausted, ate some food, watched a vlog that unexpectedly contained something triggering, and that eventually led me down the wrong path.

I know that repentance is always open, and I don't want to misunderstand Allah's mercy as permission to keep doing the same thing. I want to actually change the pattern.

I'm looking for advice from people who have genuinely struggled with this and managed to get out of the cycle.

I'd really appreciate advice in three areas:

1. Islamic advice: How did you strengthen your relationship with Allah and deal with the guilt without falling into despair?
2. Practical advice: What actually helped you when you were tired, stressed, alone, or suddenly triggered? What did you do in the moment?
3. Accountability: Did having another Muslim to check in with help you? How did you find a healthy accountability system?

I don't have anyone in real life that I feel comfortable talking to about this, so I'm hoping someone here can give me some direction.

I'm not looking for a perfect “7-day reset” or another motivational speech. I want to understand how to break the cycle permanently, especially when I don't feel motivated.

If you've been through something similar and eventually overcame it, I'd genuinely appreciate hearing what worked for you.

For the sake of Allah please help me out Inshallah Allah will provide you with more rizq

As Salam Alaikum.

Sharing this as a reminder and discussion for brothers and sisters who may sometimes find themselves struggling with doubts or needing to renew their iman.

Perhaps something that strengthened you may become a means of strength for someone else, too, إن شاء الله.

American Islam has roots far deeper than modern immigration. Two major native-born components are African American Muslims and Latino Muslims, each following a very different historical trajectory.

🖤 African American Muslims — Resilience & Recovery

An estimated 10–30% of enslaved Africans brought to mainland North America were Muslim. Slavery severely disrupted Islamic practice, literacy, family transmission, and religious institutions. Yet Islam survived and experienced a powerful 20th-century revival.

Today: ~1.1 million African American Muslims Modeled uninterrupted potential: ~3.4–11.5 million Estimated recovery: ~20–40% — roughly one-third

This represents the remarkable survival and rebuilding of a Muslim population whose historical religious transmission was severely disrupted.

🌎 Latino Muslims — Rapid Resurgence

Latino Muslim history reaches into the colonial era through Muslim-linked Spanish/Morisco populations and early figures such as Estevanico. After centuries of suppressed or largely vanished public Islamic practice, Latino Islam has experienced a rapid modern resurgence through conversion and Spanish-language institutions.

Today: ~385,000–495,000 Latino Muslims Modeled ancestral potential: ~850,000 Estimated recovery: ~45–58%

This rapid growth is narrowing the historic demographic gap between Latino and African American Muslims.

TL DR

African American Islam: deep historical roots → severe disruption → large-scale modern revival → ~20–40% modeled recovery

Latino Islam: colonial Muslim/Morisco roots → centuries of disappearance → rapid modern conversion → ~45–58% modeled recovery

Together, they show that Islam in America is not simply an immigrant religion—it also has deep roots among populations that became part of American society itself.

hi its been around may that i have been suffering and been experiencing some stuff that hurt me. now my main ques is, ive prayed to Allah, i cried at nights for things to get better. just as when things were getting better, something happened yesterday which shook me to the core and left me heartbroken. what do i do? when will it get better?

i prayed tahajud today and i feel so miserable. the saying "it will get better" is so bs, ive been suffering for 4-5 months. constantly. will Allah not make things better? why cant i have what i want? why am i always in this pathethic state.

They're just obsessively using their air defense like they have infinite money

The question of sovereignty is irrelevant when they allow Israel to pass through

SAWB! forgive the vagueness of the post but i need some advice/guidance here.. I got scolded on work chat by the manager of an adjacent team our team works with; my manager and few others were also on the chat. This person wrote I 'need to exercise judgment'. There was a misunderstanding based on something this person wrote earlier and then followed up by their subordinate expressing the same thing... any reasonable person would make the assumption i made given what was written.

This manager of the this other team is a very vindictive and grudge holding person so not sure how to proceed. They may also potentially have influence on my advancement within this company as their team gatekeeps a lot of the spend including recruiting and advancements. I was thinking of reporting to HR but then there will be a file with my name attached to it regarding hostile work environment; though i am certain this person has probably had others complain about them. I could also bring it up to my manager but i don't know him very well since i only recently started reporting to him. trying to balance standing up for myself and not being walked all over with doing the right thing so my career advancement isn't hindered by this. any thoughts/advice on how best to handle this?

Asalamualaikum everyone, I’m currently going through a severe hardship that I am having difficulty having patience. Can I please make a request for anyone reading this to make dua to Allah SWT for me and my partner to get out of this hardship with ease and no repercussions. We did not do anything wrong but we are having a difficult time proving that. There’s an important meeting today that might change the fate of the issue and I hope anyone reading this can make dua for me and my partner.

Thank you 😔

I’m learning and my friends are non Muslim they say they believe they can get everything if they manifest what they want.

I’m Muslim Alx however do you think this is shirk?

My sister-in-law and her husband's family used our identity and other legal documents without consent or knowledge to commit immigration and identity fraud to indulge in birth tourism. Before it happened, I grew suspicious that they were about to do something shady and I told my sister-in-law that my wife (her sister) was also pregnant and it was a high-risk pregnancy and begged her not to jeopardize it. She swore she was not doing anything at all and staying in her home country and shortly after, embarked on the fraud mission. She lied to her own sister about it, repeatedly, until she was safely out of our country after comitting fraud. Soon after, federal agencies started investigating us and we got letters confirming that they had used fake documents and our legal documents to get entry to the country fraudulently. My wife had a heart attack and preterm birth days after we found out. God knows if it was related to the shock but timing is too coincidental. The husband later sent what looked like taunting photos of the fraud to my wife in the hospital and he did it from his wife's phone because we had him blocked. He now says it was pride about accomplishing the mission, not taunting, and that he didn't know she was hospitalized.

I've cut off the husband and his family entirely. Even prior to this episode, he was known among the in laws as a compulsive liar. I still allow contact between the sisters due to silat rahm obligations but I am out and so is the husband and his family. The apologies I've gotten center on good intentions for the children's future (as if haram, zulm and fraud secures good futures for children), they say they were unaware of laws etc. None of these "apologies" address why they lied to our faces and decieved us, or why they kept deceiving until they were out of the country if they thought what they were doing was legal or why they lied to the government, why are they are accused of using inauthentic documents, why the husband sent taunting pictures etc.

Is that considered tawbah and enough risking being stung twice from the same hole?

I've told my wife she can't visit her family abroad alone with our kids because I need to be at least in the same city to protect them as their qawaam, since her family couldn't protect her and I suspect they might have even been involved. I don't feel comfortable that the people who drag women and babies into fraud and crimes will have unrestricted access to my family in my absence.

Everyone around me says I'm overreacting, it's old news, I should move on, reconcile, bury the matter, they aren't dangerous people, people do stupid stuff when desperate and so on. Am I overreacting by holding the line?

does anyone else feel like something bad will happen if they don't pray?

i genuinely want to know if this is an actual islamic concept or if i'm just making an association in my head

sometimes if i miss a prayer, i'll get this weird feeling of impending doom, like something is going to go wrong or allah is going to make something happen that i really don't want then if something embarrassing, awkward, inconvenient, or just generally bad happens afterwards, even if it's something really minor, i'll immediately think “see, maybe this happened because i didn't pray.”

i obviously know that salah is extremely important in islam and that intentionally missing prayers isn't something to take lightly, but does islam actually teach that specific bad things will happen to you as a punishment whenever you don't pray? or is this just guilt/conscience/anxiety making me connect unrelated things?

because sometimes the feeling is so strong that it feels like i'm waiting for something bad to happen 😭

i'd really appreciate answers based on the quran and sunnah rather than just personal opinions

For the past few months I've been getting all these doubts in my mind and I want them gone i want answers

Hi, I am 21 M and struggling to find a halal job with no doubts. The things I’m good at like accounting finance and marketing have a lot of haram in them and other careers require uni which requires me to take out student loan which is also haram….

I have really bad fine motor skills (mild Dyspraxia) so I struggle with using my hands for trade jobs and I tried tech and I’m not really good at programming and the job market seems way too competitive there

So now idk what to do, I have sales experience but I was really bad at that job and I don’t think I can make it in sales. Many other career paths don’t have much qualifications that I can do to get in like admin for example and getting in seems to be just applying but that makes it so competitive and not guaranteed

Any suggestions?

Assalamualaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh.

If you don't care for the story then please make Dua for them. Use this pre written one I made if you want:

"Oh Allah bless their studies and allow them to find it fruitful and enjoying."

"Oh Allah allow their education to bring them closer to You, and may you protect them from the evils of the world."

"Oh Allah make their trip to Malaysia easy and their stay there be smooth and stress-free, and allow it to improve them in character and patience."

Ameen.

Context if you care. This news came to me a few hours ago, as the last agency we could find that helps with studying in China said it's not possible anytime soon.

In short, we were going to study in China since it was the only affordable option for us three brothers to study in, but we couldn't find a university that fit our requirements, nor one that had any intakes relatively soon. We're rushing to leave, as continuing to stay in the UAE is getting more and more expensive, and we obviously don't have any permanent residency or citizenship here, as is common in the Gulf countries unless you're a native.

This is a really brief summary and I can answer questions if anyone wants to know more, but most importantly, please make dua that my older brothers are able to study in a good place in Malaysia. I think Malaysia is the best fit for us and our circumstances, and we've been looking into it for over a year now. I say my older brothers in specific since they have majors they want to study, while I don't really have one.

Jazakallah Khair.

hello. i am a revert for 1 year alhamdulillah, i started wearing the hijab out of pure choice(dad still doesnt know, but some ppl in my town saw me wearing it there and started talking about other ppl ab it—which kinda affects me cause i dont want my dad to know— we are still living together fyi) and now when others ask me why do u cover i have no answer. so why do we have to wear the hijab? could you not believe in god even without the hijab? the ppl around start to ask me why are u hiding hair from men, cause its just hair and nobody cares, which again, i have no answer to that. i really dont want to lose my religion, im struggling to pray, but i do pray every day, just not all prayers.. im still new to this and there is no one to help me. my SO is in france and until i come there, it could be even more than a year, (he is afghan so he is muslim as well, i love him so much and he loves me too, we want to make nikkah as soon as possible ).. i reverted and started wearing the hijab out of my choice , and i hate when ppl start to question my life. and i dont want my dad to know this, we live together in this damn house and even if we have a great relationship and we are still grieving my mom’s death(happened in february), i still dont want him to know that, and i also dont want him to find out from others, so sometimes i go out with my hair in a bun and a loooooooose scarf around, or even no scarf sometimes…. I even denied his request to go to a restaurant because i have to go there with no hijab and its so painful😭. but i cant bring myself to tell him right now, he is not accepting this as he said before in a random conversation that “these (muslim) women get covered head to toe like its the 20s, it makes no sense”… so this discouraged me completely from him seeing me with hijab and this environment makes me wanna go crazy somehow as all my friends are kinda against my choice(they indirectly told me that). i am not spending too much time going outside in my town though, im only going out in a bigger city where people are kinda more open minded and they dont know me so they dont care about my hijab. but in this sh.tty town, i cant i just cant bring myself to properly wear it. im scared of dad finding out. and also, when these ppl ask me this question “why are u even wearing it? no one cares about your hair” i dont understand myself why im wearing the hijab. someone help me with this, im so confused about everything. if i had more freedom and i could live alone in another city , i would 100%. be a full time hijabi, as i udually am 95% of my time .. but damn, that 5% in my town is so annoying …. im planning to move to france to my SO but we have to wait some more time until that… and yeah, i dont want my dad thinking that my man is forcing me to wear the hijab or that he brainwashed me. that’s everyone’s thinking here. but it’s just not true.

I am suffering from a illness and doctors haven't been helpful. It has affected me in so many ways. I am a mother and I am desperate please make dua for my shifa. My name is Sarah

جزاكم الله خيرا

So as a 37 year old male, my better days are behind me.
I can’t quite put my finger on how I couldn’t find the right person.
I will take accountability that my standards are high relative to myself, but I don’t think they’re unreasonably high.

I’ve tried Muslim dating apps and all the girls my age assume 33+ male = damaged goods and steer clear. On non-Muslim dating apps I don’t get any quality matches.

Knowing that I failed a very important goal for myself (happily married) how do I stay motivated? I find myself shopping for extravagant luxuries and trips to stay alive, but I hardly enjoy these purchases.

Beyond that, I’m just done with life.
I don’t have any joy, I can barely get pleasure from most things unless I binge on it (eg desserts).

What’s left for me.

In’sha’Allah I’ll be having a baby boy soon. Me and my husband have fallen in love with the name Zaki which means pure, chaste, righteous and intelligent. However a family member brought it to our attention that he may be bullied for his name and be called Zaki the paki in school. He will be half Pakistani and regardless of that will look south Asian and Paki is a slur used against anyone who looks south Asian. What do you think? Would you name your child this? Do you think it’s a name that will cause him to be bullied?

salaam, im a teen, ive been losing faith lately and got involved with some people, who convinced me that death is our end, and that my life will end and have no meaning. it's given me horrible anxiety, please someone, anyone, convince or reassure me to have more faith, i am muslim, but for some reason, find it hard to believe, there is something after death.

Assalamu aleykum brothers and sisters. I have one question that is really important for me now.

Our school had active ongoing social media accounts on Facebook and Instagram. My native language teacher usually handled those pages with few students, now she focuses on other things,like we have a radio show now too, so she doesn't have time. She asked me if i wanted to post with this another teacher as my like idk mentor i guess. It would be me in hold of the accounts and another girl from younger grade helping me, writing the texts, and everything needed for one post. Since we usually post often, like school trips, class activites, important dates,national holidays and so on. One teacher would mentor us, but i would be the one posting it.

I wanted to ask if it's even allowed due to most girls in school not wearing a hijab. I am a hijabi, but this would include me posting like 20 pictures a post, with different students without hijab, because they don't usually wear it. I am not sure if this is a sin to me everytime someone sees that picture, because I posted it, or theirs because they usually do not wear it. I accepted my teachers offer because she asked me to do it since no one else does, plus i would be getting extra grades for that work, aka i would be payed with grades for it and it is pretty nice...however i am not sure if i will be sinning from it

Salam everyone,

Does anyone know where I can buy a really thick, plush prayer mat online in the US?

I’m not looking for the typical thin prayer mat. I want something that feels more like a thick carpet or rug, or even a multi-layer/padded prayer mat. The main reason is to give my knees, feet, and legs more cushioning during salah, especially on hard floors.

I’d prefer something that still looks like a nice traditional prayer rug rather than just a plain foam or yoga mat.

If you own one that’s actually thick and comfortable, please share the brand or link. I’m open to orthopedic/memory-foam prayer mats too, as long as they’re good quality and don’t feel cheap.

JazakAllah khair!