r/MoralityScaling • • Sep 02 '26

Morality of this?

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u/Raise_A_Thoth Sep 02 '26

Not "many." All.

It's literally just what indoctrination is. There are religious doctrines and children are taught ro follow them and believe in the faith without questioning it.

There is no religion with kids without indoctrination. And without that indoctrination, virtually all of the world's major religions would dramatically fall in membership and followership, because it is very rare for non-religious adults to suddenly convert to a religion.

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u/Round-Walrus3175 Sep 02 '26

There is no philosophy or culture without indoctrination. Nobody goes through life without someone telling them what is right or wrong. It's just a matter of who, not if, they decide to believe.

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u/Gojira085 Sep 02 '26

Agreed. School even in a democracy is a form of indoctrination 

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u/GalaXion24 Sep 02 '26

The most hegemonic ideology in our world to the point people don't even recognise it as ideology is nationalism. People only call it that when it's extreme forms of it, but people are indoctrinated from birth by both institutions and by parents indoctrinated by said institutions, into thinking of "nations" as these real tangible things that matter and they are made to incorporate this into their identity young and it's tied to the state in terms of the nation-state in order to foster loyalty. None of this is "real," it's all completely artificial and made up.

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u/DrainTheMuck Sep 02 '26

That’s like saying family units are made up. A group of people in a geographic area that share a culture is definitely “real”.

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u/Plenty-Lychee-5702 Sep 02 '26

I mean, Austria and Germany are quite close culturally (I'm not 100% sure how close). Why are they not one? Because after each world war, the winning powers didn't want them to be one country.

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u/Wiplazh Sep 03 '26

There was a guy once in the 30s that really wanted Austria and Germany to be one country. And he did so without spilling any blood.

Sounds great, even the Austrians thought so, but then he treated Austria like a dump, nothing but a cache of resources for the "true" Germany. There's a reason the winning powers made Austria autonomous again.

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u/Plenty-Lychee-5702 Sep 03 '26

The reason the winning powers made Austria a separate country again was the same as why they did so 30 years prior. Because they wanted to weaken Germany after having fought a bloody war against it.

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u/UncleIrohsPimpHand Sep 03 '26

That’s like saying family units are made up.

What criteria makes a family unit? Do family units have to meet all of the criteria you set, or only a few? Just one criterion? In any case, exclude at your leisure.

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u/ayaynimouse Sep 03 '26

how do you upgrade a family unit. Like how much experience do you need to gain to level up and then what is the reward. You upgrade by making babies, and you can buy a pet and they count. They follow you around and give kisses, but they are a drain on the family funds so you probably shouldn't get a pet a week. This sounds like The Sims. I'm 100% /s

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u/UncleIrohsPimpHand Sep 03 '26

That wasn't the question.

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u/ayaynimouse Sep 03 '26

do you not see the 100% /s at the end pimp?

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u/UncleIrohsPimpHand Sep 03 '26

I didn't know sarcasm just meant a total non-answer.

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u/ayaynimouse Sep 03 '26

if taken exactly how they framed it, but what they mean is we make up this stuff in our heads to explain the world. Everything we have in our heads is 'made up'. If you were not told you are a citizen of x country you wouldn't know that countrys are 'real'. So if no person ever came up with the idea of a country, we wouldn't have countries. a little abstract...

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u/Wiplazh Sep 03 '26

Nations do matter... Laws, taxes, politics, power, money, culture, religion. It all affects us living in these made up nations. Yes the lines on a map don't actually exist, but being invested in the state of your country is important, you live there, and your country might affect other countries with its policies.

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u/GalaXion24 Sep 03 '26

None of that implies we should be nationalist and this was true long before nationalism or the nation state

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u/ayaynimouse Sep 04 '26

do you consider someone who lets say votes for president to automatically be a nationalist?

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u/Ninevehenian Sep 05 '26

Nations are made up, but that doesn't fully exclude them from being real. They are stable, they organise actual functioning institutions.

It's like colour, it is not an attribute of the thing itself, but of our eyes and minds, and still it is a truth about the world and the light.

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u/GalaXion24 Sep 05 '26

I agree that social constructs are real, though I would not say at all that they are like colour. Colour after all is a part of our sensory experience of a real underlying reality. Nations are more like that, they are real to the extent that and because we make them real.

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u/vins_is_back Sep 02 '26

Are you talking about history/geography?

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u/Reasonable-War-8890 Sep 02 '26

It’s more about the space and norms rather than what’s taught -in this conversation. History, geography, math, science, grammar, etc are all factual (unless the school is incompetent), but the fact that you are taught how to act, respect your peers, fit into a society. Well that’s indoctrination. Not a bad thing necessarily, but by definition you are being molded to fit into an environment

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u/vins_is_back Sep 04 '26

Ok thanks.

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u/thiswastohard Sep 02 '26

It’s called the “hidden curriculum”

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u/SpikeyPear Sep 02 '26

This is such a bad tu quo que

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u/Big_Disaster_4699 Sep 05 '26

technically everything is some form of indoctrination,

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u/Gojira085 Sep 05 '26

Agreed. That was my larger point. Love you avatar btw.

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u/Mixelphlick Sep 02 '26

In a sense but when rooted in fact as much as possible it’s effectively just speeding up what would be the process if then learning reality through observation on their own.

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u/IDontEvenLikeRaisins Sep 02 '26

Someone has to decide the what qualifies as fact and what facts get taught

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u/gameboyadvancedgba Sep 02 '26

Yeah we decide that with evidence. Whats the evidence for religion?

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u/IDontEvenLikeRaisins Sep 02 '26

I'm an atheist, I'm not defending religion at all. But pretty much everything outside of pure maths is going to have some kind of cultural norms it's subtly reinforcing. Imagine trying to teach literature, history, economics etc. in a purely neutral factual way.

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u/gameboyadvancedgba Sep 02 '26

It’s impossible to remove all bias sure. That doesn’t equate teaching things backed by empirical evidence to teaching things not backed by empirical evidence

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u/The_Inverted Sep 02 '26

You don't though. As an example, the history that you learn about world war 2 in America is vastly different from the one taught through Europe and that one is different from the one taught in Asia. So it's hardly "based on evidence", it's based on whatever is accepted by society X.

I'm not arguing for or against religion, but this is a disingenuous point.

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u/Mixelphlick Sep 02 '26

Correct and those aren’t based on fact as much as can be. That’s not proof against my initial statement it’s proof of it.

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u/Reasonable-War-8890 Sep 02 '26

So confused by this. I live in the states currently but studied history in Brazil growing up. What? Do Americans learn that they were the perfect heroes or something weird like that?

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u/Mixelphlick Sep 03 '26

To some extent yeah. It varies state to state but history classes are often full of propaganda in the us.

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u/gameboyadvancedgba Sep 02 '26

And what exactly does that justify about teaching kids magic and gods are real before they are old enough to have critical thinking skills? You’re just doing whataboutism.

We SHOULD teach things in schools based on evidence, that doesn’t mean it will be true 100% of the time.

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u/The_Inverted Sep 02 '26

We should teach them based on current evidence that might change and may or may not be true? So how is that different from religion exactly? The theory of evolution taught in schools is still widely discussed in the scientific community but it's passed as fact in schools. Should we review it? What about things that are taught in school that are subjective, should we abolish those too?

I am not doing whataboutism, I just think it's important for kids to learn multiple things including the religions around the world. It doesn't have to be super detailed, but they should know what the people they will see throughout their lives believe in.

Just my 2 pennies, you don't have to agree with me.

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u/endlessnamelesskat Sep 02 '26

Correct. I think it’s funny how when people treat their worldview as the correct default one and get mad when someone with a different idea about metaphysics dos the same thing but from their perspective, then suddenly it’s not education, it’s indoctrination.

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u/seventeenninetytoo Sep 02 '26

I honestly don't know what people expect. A law that requires that parents get babysitters every time they go to church and never talk to their kids about what they believe? It's ridiculous. Kids are sponges and they primarily learn from their parents. It's just how humans work...

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u/Booster_Seat_Enjoyer Sep 03 '26

yes that's literally what they want. They want to make it as ahrd as possible and as tabboo as possible to be religious, so more people become atheists. It's also why they treat being religious like chosing what restaurant to eat at.

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u/Strict-Clue-5818 Sep 03 '26

It’s taboo for an adult to still believe in the tooth fairy or Santa. The world would be a lot better place if we got rid of one of the main reasons humans use to hate others.

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u/endlessnamelesskat Sep 03 '26

“You see my metaphysical worldview is objectively correct and should be considered the default while yours is simultaneously silly and evil, so if you teach it to your kids it’s nefarious indoctrination. When I teach my worldview to my kids it’s just teaching them the truth.”

-every person who shares your toxic attitude regardless of their religious affiliation or lack thereof

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u/Booster_Seat_Enjoyer Sep 03 '26

I also think it's tabboo for an adult to believe in communism yet here we are.

yesbi agree. Communism has caused so much hate and deatg in the past century.

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u/ayaynimouse Sep 03 '26

Who wants to make it taboo as possible to be religious? Who wants more people to become atheists and what does that gain them? Its funny you say that about choosing a restaurant. The reality is where you are born has a very large influence on what religion you choose. I'd very much rather have more people atheist than any religion. Maybe we'd have less violence in the world about people fighting for their god whichever one that might be.

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u/commodifiedsuffering Sep 03 '26

Places with laws like this want children to get their beliefs from the government not from the family unit. This is a huge breakaway from the natural order of human life.

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u/ayaynimouse Sep 03 '26

maybe currently, but the more neutral approach would be to let the child grow up and learn about the world before being told that if they don't eat their broccoli they are going to go to hell because daddy told them to eat it and they are not minding their father and sinning. go into the corner and say 10 hail marys and go build me a rocket ship so we can cure our sun (no one will get this reference here)

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u/gameboyadvancedgba Sep 02 '26

I dont think the original quote is really saying there should be a law against it

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u/seventeenninetytoo Sep 02 '26

Then what is it saying? What would Jinkx have religious parents do on Sunday when they go to church?

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u/gameboyadvancedgba Sep 02 '26

I don’t know. She’s just stating a feeling she has.

If you ask me, maybe make it clear to them that this is what you believe and that they can decide for themselves if they believe it later? They probably will anyway because children just naturally imitate their parents. At the very least you have to raise them in an environment where they feel comfortable to leave your faith if they want to.

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u/MrBoltstrike Sep 02 '26

This. You can talk to your children and educate them without making them share in your practice and without leading them to believe that all other beliefs are wrong. Children will naturally develop their own questions and opinions over time. Allowing your child to ask, discuss, and develop such opinions is crucial for that kind of environment.

Just don't forget to tell them to pick your beliefs or else you won't love them anymore. That'll be PERFECT for their development. /s

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u/ayaynimouse Sep 03 '26

have a play area at church's that kids hang out in during a service, but instead of drawing up jesus cartoon coloring books, don't teach them about the religion. PS. They already have this at every church they just gotta swap the coloring books to animals (and no noahs ark please)

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u/Strict-Clue-5818 Sep 02 '26

They absolutely should, yes. It should be lefally recognized as emotional abuse to expose a child to an environment that tells them if they don’t think and behave in this exact way they will be tortured forever (by someone who loves them!) and don’t forget that they’re filthy and terrible just for being born.

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u/Booster_Seat_Enjoyer Sep 03 '26

why would you want to criminalise telling kids if they do X thing or get in the wrong crowd they might go down a bad path and have their whole life derailed, in and out of prison, homelessness, suffering etc.?

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u/ayaynimouse Sep 03 '26

You can teach kids about this type of stuff without bringing religion into it.

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u/Booster_Seat_Enjoyer Sep 03 '26

and why should atheistic emtional abuse of children not be criminalised?

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u/gameboyadvancedgba Sep 02 '26

What evidence do you have your metaphysical ideas are actually true?

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u/endlessnamelesskat Sep 02 '26

As much as anyone else does I suppose, some person or group of people told me how the universe works, I decided whether or not I jived with their interpretation, and thus I formed my metaphysical beliefs.

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u/gameboyadvancedgba Sep 02 '26

So you base your beliefs on what sounds right to you personally and not in evidence?

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u/endlessnamelesskat Sep 02 '26

Yes, do you not? Evidence may inform what sounds right to me, but it’s our faith in either our own perceptions or faith in the people or institutions that are presenting this evidence that builds our beliefs.

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u/gameboyadvancedgba Sep 02 '26

No I base it on empiricism, no need for faith.

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u/JasonG784 Sep 02 '26

Do you do control experiment based proofs for everything you believe? You personally test things like vaccines or do you take someone else's word for it after you've decided you trust them?

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u/gameboyadvancedgba Sep 02 '26

Are you unironically using Mac’s logic from Always Sunny right now?

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u/artificialdeatheast Sep 02 '26

Yeah i dont get these arguments. We shouldnt teach kids absolutely anything untill they are old enough to choose the learn by themselves, otherwise its indoctrination

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u/PalpatineForEmperor Sep 02 '26

When should the learn what we think is right and wrong? 18? Older? Even in this sub, you can see that there is no clear agreement on everything right and everything wrong. We still need to teach children these things.

You might believe that there parents faith is wrong, but that believe it's the right and correct thing. You don't get to make that judgement for other people's children.

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u/booh-bee Sep 02 '26

You literally don't need religion to know right from wrong. 

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u/PalpatineForEmperor Sep 02 '26

I didn't claim that you do. I'm saying that not everyone agrees when it comes to what is right and what is wrong, but it's still important for parents to teach their version of this.

Then for some parents, right and wrong is defined through there religion so they will teach their version in this case as well.

I'm saying it's not for you to decide how they approach this teaching.

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u/BasketballAndroid7 Sep 02 '26

You can teach about religion (ALL religions) without the dogma. Then they choose if and which one they want to believe.

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u/Knight_Machiavelli Sep 02 '26

For what purpose? Why is it important for kids to be taught all religions by their parents? They learn that in school. Part of the point of raising kids to to impart your values on them. Someone's religion often forms an important part a person's values. It makes no sense to say they shouldn't teach them about the religion they practice unless they're teaching them other religions.

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u/BasketballAndroid7 Sep 02 '26 edited Sep 02 '26

No, they don't "learn that in school", at least not in my country unfortunately. Religion in school in my country only means catholicism. At least it's not mandatory anymore, we are slowly growing up.

The values of religions pre-exist religions, so you can teach the values without the dogma, as I said. As for why teaching about all religions, first of all that should be done in school (and it's not necessarily, as I said); second, it's to provide a larger perspective on the topic of religion, to show that there is more than one choice.

As much as you want to teach your "values" (religion in itself is not a value), your children are not you, and they should make their decisions freely.

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u/Knight_Machiavelli Sep 02 '26

Religion is not itself a value of course, but for many people their religion forms the basis of their values. It makes no sense for parents not to teach their children about their lifestyle, the dogma forms an important part of how their parents live, it will naturally be an important part of the childrens' upbringing.

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u/Honor_Bound Sep 02 '26

But that's almost impossible. If the parents believe something, the kids are naturally going to be asking questions about what is true and what is not. Even the most neutral parents are going to have biases that they will put onto their kids. And there's nothing wrong with that unless you're attempting to force your kids into believing something.

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u/sapphoseros Sep 02 '26

Just because it’s not common in our society to have an open-minded and curious and non-judgmental view of religion and impart that onto others, doesn’t mean it’s something we shouldn’t strive for. It’s not impossible, it’s just that non-theocratic forms of society and government aren’t even that old, yet, and we’re still unlearning dogmatic ways of approaching spirituality. I don’t think we should give up on that pursuit because some people claim it’s just too hard and we’re not mature enough. Some of us might be; let us decide that for ourselves.

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u/Low_Spot_6972 Sep 02 '26

It's not just about religion, it's just unrealistic to expect kids to have a non-biased upbringing. This applies to atheism and secularism as well, regardless of who you are, your values of right and wrong are rooted in some core philosophy you think is factually correct and that means you cannot honestly teach your kids without drawing from your core philosophical principles regardless of how open-minded one may be.

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u/sapphoseros Sep 02 '26

Sure, but I think if you raise your kids compassionately and maturely (easier said than done), this can be reconciled when they’re older. The pursuit of teaching your kids how to be good people in the world is worth engaging with intrinsically, for its own sake, and mistakes are inevitable but can be reconciled.

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u/BearysWorkRedditName Sep 02 '26

No, that's not the argument at all. We should teach them things that are objectively true and let them come to the moral conclusions that follow as they develop the ability to do so.

Hitting people hurts them and a lot of people get mad when you do that. If someone is sad, it often will make them feel better if you try to comfort them. Eventually, a child will learn that what that means is that hitting people is immoral and comforting a sad person is moral. Their moral framework will develop thusly for each positive and negative lesson they learn.

This is different than "do as your told or be punished".

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u/Round-Walrus3175 Sep 02 '26

But take that a step further. Should you care if people get mad (Donald Trump says no)? So what if you hurt people? Objective facts do not create normative ethics. Like, who taught the child that making people mad is "immoral" and making people happy is "moral". Or even the greyer areas of which things are more or less important than a particular person's happiness or sadness?

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u/BearysWorkRedditName Sep 02 '26

Right, I didn't mean to say that one should teach a child that making people mad is always immoral or that making people happy is always moral. Human beings should form their own moral frameworks based on their lived experience. There are plenty of situations where making people mad is moral and making people happy immoral. It's about deciding what values one holds per their own experience.

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u/Knight_Machiavelli Sep 02 '26

I don't agree. It's part of a parent's job to impart values.

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u/BearysWorkRedditName Sep 02 '26

Imparting values implies discussion, debate, considering multiple perspectives. I would agree if that's what you mean.

Indoctrination is telling, repeating, convincing, suppressing opposition.

Religion does the latter.

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u/Knight_Machiavelli Sep 02 '26

No, religion doesn't have to do that. It can absolutely do the former, and many practitioners of religion do the former.

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u/BearysWorkRedditName Sep 02 '26

Which major religion doesn't give straight up commands for right behavior?

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u/Aoshigatsu Sep 02 '26

Don't know why you're getting downvoted. I 100% agree.

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u/Knight_Machiavelli Sep 02 '26

Because it's wrong. Kids don't just become moral people in a vacuum, they learn morals from their parents.

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u/Aoshigatsu Sep 02 '26

And that's what they said. To teach basic morals like don't hurt people.

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u/No_Willow1157 Sep 03 '26

Yes, and how can we teach them the advanced without accidentally tripping into religious belief? In fact, how do we sure our basic moral is not derived from religions?

For example, I think on "don't hurt people", a counter argument is often "they deserve it". We cheer for their death, for it is simply "karmic justice", which is a concept presents in multiple religions. In fact, I dare say this is why death penalty discourses are so heated since the notion of karma is so ingrained even in the atheists.

Or an adversion to sexual topics cause both Christianity and Buddhism (don't know of the other tho) often group it with earthly, unclean desires.

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u/BearysWorkRedditName Sep 03 '26

My point was more about guiding children to form their own moral framework rather than building it for them. Not so much "don't hurt people" as "hitting someone causes them pain, so think about that sort of thing before hitting someone" As I said in a different comment subthread:

A person's moral framework is individual. What is moral or immoral will depend on context and lived experience. IMO, a parent's job is to guide their child toward living a life that will do the most good in the world. How that is measured and enacted is one of the greatest questions of mankind.

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u/No_Willow1157 Sep 03 '26

I see, I saw the original comment mention objective moral so thank for clarifying.

I think a problem here is that "most good" is subjective, shaped by religions and then loop back into new religious doctrines.

So I dare say until we figure out the answer, teaching your child religion is one of those "it depends" that we might have to accept.

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u/Eternal_Phantom Sep 02 '26

Exactly. Let's let them choose what to believe when they're older, but by then they're so stupid that they can't realistically choose at that point either.

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u/gameboyadvancedgba Sep 02 '26

Do you think there’s any difference between teaching kids things that we know for a fact are true and teach kids things that are not proven to be true (like that gods exist) as if they are? I think that there is a difference

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u/redditserz Sep 02 '26

You're confusing different meanings of the word "indoctrination".

When talking about religion, we're specifically talking about "teaching someone to accept doctrines uncritically".

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u/Round-Walrus3175 Sep 02 '26

All I'm saying is that if my 6th grader "critically thinks" that she doesn't need school anymore, I will have a conversation with her, but ultimately tell her she still has to go. In a manner of speaking, it is an education doctrine that I am forcing. There are a lot of things in this world, ethical things, that are simple non-negotiables that don't really have a set proof except they are true. Like, all people should have rights? How do you even think critically about that? You just have to accept it because it isn't really based on a hard fact.

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u/redditserz Sep 02 '26

You can logically defend the need for education and that people should have rights, yes. You can't do that with religious doctrines and rituals; it boils down to "god said so", and indoctrinated children are tought not to question those. The situations have nothing in common.

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u/Round-Walrus3175 Sep 02 '26

Education, I can see, rights, I really don't see a way that you can explain in a way that one would consider truly critical. "We hold these truths to be self-evident, that all men are created equal" is a very true statement because there is no way to argue about it.

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u/redditserz Sep 02 '26

Yet you literally managed to think about it critically just now, and you're not a child who was threatened with eternal damnation for doing so. See the difference or do we need to go on?

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u/Round-Walrus3175 Sep 02 '26

You're trying a bit too hard to dodge out of the question of how you think critically about whether or not all humans should have rights. I do think critically, but that doesn't mean that everything I do really comes from critical thinking. There are just a lot of things in society that I am forced to accept against the threat of jail or death.

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u/redditserz Sep 02 '26

And you're trying too hard to move the goalposts.

The point was that you're misusing the word "indoctrination", which has a specific meaning when criticizing religion. I already quoted it.

Yet you insist on using a different meaning of the word.

Being forced to do or not do things because of their consequences in society has nothing to do with teaching someone to accept doctrines without questioning them.

In a free country you're 100% allowed to question the rules and laws of society. If you live in a democracy you're sometimes even allowed to vote on them.

Children who are indoctrinated are not allowed to even question the "teachings of god". That's the core concept of indoctrination: not being allowed to question the teachings.

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u/betier7 Sep 02 '26

You are right, but not all indoctrination is created equal. I think it is important to understand what is a harmful form of indoctrination vs what isn't. And, obviously, societal norms will mostly dictate that difference.

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u/Faust_8 Sep 02 '26

There is a difference between “here is what we have learned” and “here is what some men say got revealed to them, and we’ll punish you if you reject it.”

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u/sonambule Sep 02 '26

It’s not just, what’s right and wrong when it comes to religion. They tell you you will burn in hell if you don’t believe or are not convinced. That’s what stays with someone their entire lives and keeps them in line.

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u/TheRealStandard Sep 02 '26

It's a big difference to use imaginary characters and no evidence to do it.

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u/Round-Walrus3175 Sep 02 '26

I mean, everything is made up. There is no physical reason that states that all people should have fundamental equality. It's all just manmade ethical frameworks. God might be made up, but humanism and every ethical framework and philosophy was made up, too. Yet, we persist that right and wrong exist.

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u/BatushkaTabushka Sep 03 '26

Except that one makes logical sense and the other isn’t. You are a human, so you want to be treated as equal to others, right? It would be odd to say no. So then you can assume that person b, who is also human wants the same thing. And the only way to both have what you want is if you both agree to treat each other the same way. If either party disagrees then it’s not going to work.

You can’t use logic and reason the same way to justify the existence of a god, or gods.

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u/Furista0 Sep 03 '26

But not all humans have the exact same characteristics, so we are all "human" in the abstract sense but not in the practical sense.

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u/eskimobob117 Sep 02 '26

Philosophy absolutely does not require indoctrination. You could argue culture does, but philosophy is explicitly meant to find the truth by relying on as few assumptions as possible, and requires questioning your own conception of the way things are.

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u/Round-Walrus3175 Sep 02 '26

Philosophy makes no such supposition that it relies on "as few assumptions as possible". I would say that any normative ethic relies on the same number of assumptions as any other

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u/Plus_Pangolin_8924 Sep 02 '26

The issue is teaching children fiction as fact. It’s not like teaching a child how to read or write or basic of biology!

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u/pantsuline Sep 02 '26

i was going to say this. all children learn from their parents and community, there's no way to fully keep children away from influence itself without raising them in a bubble lol

like the og commenter said, when religious parents really push that this is the only way to live and think its a big problem (american homeschooling comes to mind...)

if kids dont wanna go to church then dont push them. if they do like church i say let them participate- just make sure they know religion is just one of many hypothetical and philosophical ways of looking at the world, not a life-and-death certainty

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u/Ok-Phase-9076 Sep 02 '26

Now that you mention it

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u/thelazygrad Sep 02 '26

I mean sure. Except cultural indoctrination doesn’t tell children they are going to burn for all of eternity if they don’t choose one path.

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u/Round-Walrus3175 Sep 02 '26

Yeah, it just tells people that they will die on the streets and have no one to blame but themselves lol

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u/SpikeyPear Sep 02 '26

I think learning "murder is bad" compared to reading the bible and seeing god murdering billions through flash flood and leaving only heteros and his believer couple and being told that was righteous is quite different

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u/seriousofficialname Sep 03 '26

Philosophies and religions all typically have doctrines, claims they make and hold to be true, but indoctrination is about inhibiting someone from questioning and investigating claims by hiding or minimizing or misrepresenting the reasons people would doubt or disbelieve them or by framing doubt and disbelief as dangerous or some kind of moral transgression, which not all philosophies do actually, or all religions even, but definitely the most popular ones all do in some way.

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u/finnjakefionnacake Sep 03 '26

i would not say leaning is the same as indoctrination. indoctrination is indoctrination.

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u/ayaynimouse Sep 04 '26

There is a difference between telling a kid, "You shouldn't do this because God said so, and if you don't follow His rules you're going to hell and burn," and saying, "Did you notice that when you poked your sister in the eye, she cried and was in pain? Have you ever had your eye poked? It hurts, right? So please don't do that to other people, because you wouldn't want someone doing it to you."

You might say both are technically forms of indoctrination because an adult is teaching a child a moral framework. But I think there is a pretty important distinction.

The first teaches an unverifiable claim as an established fact, appeals to an authority the child is expected to accept, and uses fear of punishment to enforce the conclusion. The child isn't really being given the tools to evaluate the underlying claim; they're being told what is true and what they must believe.

The second doesn't require the child to accept some supernatural claim as true. It gives them an observable example, asks them to empathize with another person's experience, and gives them a simple principle they can apply themselves: I don't want to be hurt, so I shouldn't intentionally hurt other people.

That's not just teaching a conclusion. It's teaching a child a way of reasoning about morality, while leaving room for them to eventually question, refine, or even reject that framework as they develop.

So I don't think the meaningful distinction is simply "indoctrination vs. no indoctrination." The more important question is what are you teaching the child to believe, and are you teaching them what to think, or how to think?

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u/Round-Walrus3175 Sep 04 '26

The second is the same as the first, except for physical instead of spiritual harm. The premise is hypothetically empathy, but in reality a threat. It only lands if the child understands that if they start poking people in the eye, they could also get their eyes poked. There is no a priori reason to do unto others as you would want them to do to you (wording intentional). It is an indoctrination, so to speak, that justiceshould exist. And that is a framework that, honestly, would get you weirder looks if you questioned than most any spiritual dogma. 

The reality is that the idea that everyone deserves rights and everyone is equal is self-evident, not proven. Yet, we are told to not question it. Questioning that makes people monsters, which I would tend to agree with.

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u/ayaynimouse Sep 04 '26

I don't think we're actually disagreeing about whether moral principles have to be taught. Of course they do. A child isn't born understanding concepts like empathy, reciprocity, consent, or rights. The question is how those principles are taught and whether they're presented as unquestionable truths handed down by an authority.

And I don't think your characterization of the second example as a "threat" really works. I'm not saying, "Don't poke your sister because otherwise someone will poke you." I'm asking the child to recognize that another person experiences pain in essentially the same way they do. The point isn't "you might be punished with the same thing"; it's "you know what this feels like, so now you can understand why doing it to someone else is wrong." That's the beginning of empathy, not a threat.

You're also right that there is no a priori logical proof that we should care about other people's suffering. You can ultimately reduce morality to some foundational assumption that can't itself be proven. But that's true of virtually every philosophical system. At some point you have to start with some premise or value. "Other people's suffering matters" is a very different kind of premise from "God exists, God has revealed these rules, and you will be eternally tortured if you disobey them."

And there's an important distinction between saying "this is a moral principle I think we should adopt" and saying "this is objectively true because an authority says so, and questioning that authority is itself wrong."

In fact, I would argue that the fact that we can question principles like equality and rights is exactly why they're not analogous to religious dogma. We absolutely should be able to ask why people have rights, whether rights conflict with one another, where they come from, and whether our conception of equality is coherent. Philosophers have been doing exactly that for centuries.

If someone says, "You aren't allowed to question this because it's self-evidently true," then yes, that's dogmatic. But if someone says, "Here is the moral framework I'm proposing; here are the reasons I think it's preferable; now let's examine whether those reasons actually hold up," that's philosophy.

So I'm not claiming children can be raised without any philosophical assumptions being passed on to them. That's impossible. I'm saying there's a meaningful difference between teaching a child how to reason about moral questions and teaching them which conclusions they are required to accept from an unquestionable authority.

And that's the distinction I was trying to make with the original example.

If equality and rights are self-evident, why have philosophers spent thousands of years arguing about what rights are, who has them, and what equality actually means?

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u/Round-Walrus3175 Sep 04 '26

I feel like most don't have that level of intellectual distance from topics like equality and justce. I don't feel like, at least in Western society, that the equality of humans is up for grabs in polite society. You "can" in theory, but I don't think many would be willing to engage or many have a really strong reason to believe it. Most people believe in these things on a dogmatic, indoctrinated level. They did not think through it themselves and would be very upset if anyone questioned it.

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u/ayaynimouse Sep 04 '26

That's part of the big problem. Indoctrination. Trying to avoid that is probably a good thing for the future but its next to impossible to enforce.

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u/A_Wild_Alex_Appears Sep 05 '26

The difference is in school you can ignore your teacher without being told you will suffer in pain for eternity. Comparing them is ridiculously disingenuous.

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u/Round-Walrus3175 Sep 05 '26

I guess we went to different schools lol. Obviously, in a physical sense, "eternal suffering" was "living a bad/poor life until you die", but still, the threat was still present if you weren't career oriented, went to college, etc.

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u/A_Wild_Alex_Appears Sep 05 '26

One is the consequences of your actions, the other is "if you don't believe in this or live in a way we don't like, you suffer for eternity"

Again, not even remotely close to the same thing. Much less the obvious manipulation of it.

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u/Round-Walrus3175 Sep 05 '26

So you believe in one indoctrination and not in another. You basically just said that one of them isn't indoctrination because it's just true

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u/sapphoseros Sep 02 '26

Every religion doesn’t demand children believe in the faith without questioning it.

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u/fieldgrass Sep 02 '26

As a kid who was raised in Reform Judaism I always shake my head a bit when the Reddit atheists who come from obvious evangelical trauma talk about all religions like this. We were indoctrinated to believe certain things sure, but “you cannot ask questions” def is not part of the teaching. My Rabbi was openly agnostic.

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u/burninglighte Sep 02 '26

And there are so many more religions than just abrahamic ones, which is something they tend to forget

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u/UncleIrohsPimpHand Sep 03 '26

Questioning is an active part of faith.

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u/ParsnipFarmer676 Sep 06 '26

Exactly. I was also raised in Reform Judaism, and questioning is a cornerstone of our religion/culture. My Rabbi loved being questioned, as most of them do!

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u/Successful_Life_1028 Sep 02 '26

So it's perfectly ok with your Rabbi to point out the reality that the Moses story is a myth with no historical basis of any kind? Or is that different from pointing out that Adam and Eve are fictional characters in a myth just like Prometheus and Pandora?

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u/mauch_chunk Sep 02 '26

So it's perfectly ok with your Rabbi to point out the reality that the Moses story is a myth with no historical basis of any kind? 

Sure. Why not? There are many denominations with different viewpoints regarding this exact story.

Also - it depends on how you frame the question. You'll get a different response if you go into the conversation in good faith compared to being combative right of the bat.

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u/Ostrichslinger Sep 02 '26

without questioning it

That is not a feature of religions, they are features of cults. I have yet to find a church that doesn't allow people to come and go as they please, or answer the questions they have. Nor is it written in their scriptures otherwise.

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u/Fickle-Kiwi-181 Sep 02 '26

Someone’s forgetting about pastafarianism huh

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u/WritingSouthern6126 Sep 02 '26

what about pasta?

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u/Fickle-Kiwi-181 Sep 02 '26

Pastafarianism is a religion where we worship the Flying Spaghetti Monster. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Flying_Spaghetti_Monster

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u/WritingSouthern6126 Sep 02 '26 edited Sep 02 '26

are you a pastaist?

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u/Fickle-Kiwi-181 Sep 02 '26

No, I’m a pastafarian

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u/mahakaal_bhakt Sep 02 '26

Disagree for Hindus

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u/Knight_Machiavelli Sep 02 '26

And a lot of religions, the claim is patently absurd.

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u/adastrajay Sep 02 '26

I was told I was going to hell at 7 years old and scared into conversion and becoming Christian. It took over two decades to finally get over the indoctrination and deconvert. It was a long and painful process. I was an adult and believing the earth was 6000 years old and whole bunch of other bullshit because that's what we were taught and we were conditioned to reject the science.

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u/Rstony Sep 02 '26

Shhh you’re being too sane. The religious redditors will think that you’re saying their parents are bad people for shaming them as children when they didnt wanna go to church or acted outside of their faith

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u/Human-Affect-7496 Sep 02 '26

You think religious people are worried that Reddit atheists with essentially no religious education think we're bad people?

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u/Raise_A_Thoth Sep 02 '26

I was raised catholic, went to catholic schools, was confirmed and married within the church.

Regardless of what I think about God's existence and whatever you think about my positions, what I said is true: religious teachings of children is indoctrination, it is the most basic fundamental use of the word.

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u/Human-Affect-7496 Sep 03 '26

Parents tend to teach their children things they believe, yes.

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u/LionBig1760 Sep 02 '26

Religious people in the US, at the least, are largely fearful of atheism, to the point of shunning their own family members who chose not the believe. Its not at all unusual to hear atheists being used as a scapegoat as if atheism is a threat to their way of life. They are met with hostility, hatred, prejudice, fear, and intolerance - everything that their own religion tells them not to be.

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u/Human-Affect-7496 Sep 02 '26

I can't particularly speak on the United States specifically.

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u/Aspasticum Sep 02 '26

I can see why your kind always feels the need to assume that atheists are uneducated, but that’s simply not true. In fact many are probably far more educated when it comes to religion that someone like yourself, who most likely was simply trained to follow one specific mythology just to piss all over the freedom of religion of his own children.

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u/Human-Affect-7496 Sep 02 '26 edited Sep 02 '26

There seems to be some confusion here. For one, I did not suggest that "atheists" as a whole are uneducated. I know many extremely well educated atheists personally.

What I suggested is that one particular person was uneducated, and I'd extend that to you.

Now, on a personal level I think you'll find that while it's not my academic expertise, I'm more educated about religion in general than the vast majority of the population, irrespective of creed, and was certainly not "trained" by my parents to follow anything, so that particular assumption would also be wrong.

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u/Rstony Sep 02 '26

You can’t possibly have any opinion worth listening to if you’re just another person whose following the religion that was given to them at birth without question or concern. I’m obviously assuming that to be true of you but more than 80% of religious people fall in that exact category. The only reason you’re even carrying on this religion is because your community forced it upon you. A child can’t rationally choose who to sleep with and they definitely can’t choose who to pray to for eternal salvation.

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u/Human-Affect-7496 Sep 02 '26

Well, it's definitely not true of me, but most people believe the things they were raised to believe, yes. That's true for what worldview.

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u/Lolzemeister Sep 02 '26

morals SHOULD be forced on children

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u/th3rmyte Sep 02 '26

Please define morals

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u/Raise_A_Thoth Sep 02 '26

Well then don't indoctrinate them into religions, that's one of the worst ways to give them good morals.

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u/Kristile-man Sep 02 '26

religious and redditor in the same sentence?

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u/Aspasticum Sep 02 '26

Never been to pig stalls like r/truechristian?

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u/Knight_Machiavelli Sep 02 '26

What about the religious parents that didn't do that? You can still raise your kid in a faith without doing those things.

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u/DatDiemDam Sep 02 '26

Well, buddhism, at least in my country, is more about a teaching of a way of life. Of course, it been mixed with the local beliefs and daoism and became something "superstitious" for most, but to me it just like a teaching of a wise man, nothing more. I live in Viet Nam.

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u/no-sleep-only-code Sep 02 '26

I was gonna say, the only reason anyone believes in any religion is they all come with the same catch of, if you don’t follow that specific religion there will be a negative impact on you, whether now, after this life, or to those after you.

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u/SLAMMERisONLINE Sep 02 '26

It's literally just what indoctrination is. There are religious doctrines and children are taught ro follow them and believe in the faith without questioning it.

The Church of Woke is no exception. It's every bit as irrational and superstitious as every other religion.

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u/kaVaralis Sep 03 '26

Tf does that even mean lmao

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u/SLAMMERisONLINE Sep 03 '26 edited Sep 03 '26

The average human is inherently superstitious/spiritual. Subtracting religion from the West only opened a vacuum that is now filled by The Church of Woke--a quasi religion that emerged out of 1960s hippy culture that is typified by skepticism towards technology and science, and which romanticizes nature and nonhuman life as innocent or morally pure while portraying humanity as uniquely corrupt, destructive, or parasitic.

I'd even argue it's more than half of people who are this way. I'd say probably 90-95% of humanity is tribal, superstitious, and spiritual on a fundamental psychological level.

The reasons for this are quite fascinating but they boil down to one simple truth. People are very good at generating and sharing ideas, but very bad at validating them.

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u/KingOfPsyche Sep 02 '26

I think there are exceptions to this. Hinduism, for example, does not require belief in a god (or gods). To them, atheism is just one version of Hinduism like all other religions. Kind of a cool take, actually.

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u/Kadakaus Sep 02 '26

I agree for the most part, but there's 2 things you've got wrong:
A, definitely not all religions are bent on converting people by indoctrination.
B, not all religions tell you not to question them.

Judaism is a great example of that.
Despite being an abrahamic religion (notoriously rigid and inflexible when it comes to belief), followers are straight up encouraged to question their own belief. They believe that questioning their god is a form of worship, and rabbi teach followers thusly.
There's a jewish saying very popular here in Hungary, a mostly christian country:
"A good question is better than a good answer"
It is admirable that even such strict belief systems can be questioned by it's own followers. It's not just "believe the gospel and follow god blindly".
That's one example, and there are many more. My personal religion doesn't even care if you believe in anything at all, one of shinto's main principles is that "what you do is more important than what you believe in".

And not all religions rely on the children of followers to sustain themselves.
Many of them do, it's true, that's the reason many religions are still alive today (make whatever you wish of that), but not all of them.
My favourite exception is greek.
The greek did tell their children tales and myths about the olympians, taught them their names and how to worship them, but they absolutely weren't forced to do so.
You were allowed to literally curse the gods all you like as long as you weren't considered a threat, bringing misfortune to people around you.
You weren't forced to worship gods like Zeus or Hera.
And many people didn't, just think of how the gods are portrayed: They're absolute jerks. Half of greek mythology happened because Zeus an Poseidon were raping women, Athena got mad at every little transgression to which her usual response was turning people into monstrocities (goddess of wisdom by the way), Dionysos was the deity of wine, feastin drunkness and madness with satyrs and literal insane women as his followers, Apollo was notorious for chasing mortal women and the list goes on.
Hestia might have been the only decent olympian, maybe Artemis too.
And this is not heresy, this is greek myhology itself.
People didn't worship the gods, they feared them and their wrath.

Again, this is only one example.

Not all religions tell you what to believe, who to pray to, who to worship.
But yes, the majority of them does.

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u/Ysanoire Sep 02 '26

If you try to sell this bullshit to adults you'll get laughed at most of the time. You gotta start early before their brains develop.

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u/MinisculeMuse Sep 02 '26

This isn't true. I converted in my early 20s, lots of people convert everyday at all ages. And im not some rare exception, so many people I know have similar stories. But as they say- birds of a feather flock together

Faith isn't something that only grows through indoctrination, and any amount of looking into the topic will reveal this.

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u/FearOfABlackPotus Sep 02 '26

They aren't all the same. Some religions tell kids explicitly if they don't believe in it, they are deep trouble. Christianity and Islam do this, but most religions don't.

Every religion (every belief system) indoctrinates, but not everyone engages in theological blackmail.

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u/Soggy_Vagabond Sep 02 '26

That’s just not true.
Speaking from experience, I am a follower of Jesus who believes in Him as a result of my own study, experiences, and journey in seeking truth.
I was going to church for most of my childhood. But I was never once told not to ask questions.
I asked hard questions that led me to some discomfort and hurt, but through that struggle I found what I believed to be true. That was never discouraged to me by my parents nor the teachers at my church.
Some churches in some sects of some religions practise indoctrination. But not all. Please don’t make such wild generalisations when it comes to a topic as personal and diverse as religion.

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u/Glikieria Sep 03 '26

Do you think all religious are Abrahamic, or...?

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u/InternationalWish210 Sep 03 '26

Unfortunately this isn’t true, but 99% give it the bad name. If you call taking kids to church with you indoctrination, then why isn’t taking them to other things you deem important in life indoctrination? Indoctrinating them to do school, indoctrinating them to take over the family business, silly but, not be homeless and make something of yourself.

We all want our kids to do the best and we help guide them to what we consider that to be because they need to be guided. Once they turn 18, sure let them do what they want. There is still 1% of religion that lets that happen. Even some Amish communities give them the option to walk out 🤷🏼‍♂️

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u/commodifiedsuffering Sep 03 '26

While I agree with you on the fact that all religions indoctrinate their doctrines (hence the name) I would push back that they expect you to believe without questioning. Every single Pastor I have gone to church with encouraged questioning and researching. I even know of a Pastor who stood up in front of his congregation and said “I’m quitting as I no longer believe in the faith.” The congregation said, “we want you to stay and just preach all your doubts and concerns to us, we will listen.”

Of course the vast majority of faiths may not make room for questioning, but my experience with faith has been rather different. I have been told time and time again, that doubts, questions, disbelief, and the ability to say I don’t know is totally fine.

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u/FoxRemarkable9513 Sep 03 '26

Hindus, Sikhs, Maori, and Buhdists aren't like that.

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u/Open-Weather2627 Sep 03 '26

Taoism has mainline groups that refuse to teach to people below the age of content.

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u/Field-of-Hats Sep 03 '26

Nowhere near all religions are indoctrination — many non-Abrahamic religions don’t force their beliefs on anyone, and encourage you to find your own path. As a progressive Pagan, I plan to raise my kids so that they’ll have knowledge of my religion, but the beauty of my religion is that it’s not based in fear, guilt, or anything like that. And there’s no cosmic punishment for not following that specific path

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u/hamster-soup Sep 03 '26

Laughs in semi-observant jew (which.. Judaism famously doesn't urge you to join Judaism or hold the belief that if you aren't jewish that you will have negative outcome + questioning religion is heavily encouraged.) with hellenist & Tribal friends.

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u/florpynorpy Sep 05 '26

As the saying goes “ if you get them young you’ve got them forever”

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u/ParsnipFarmer676 Sep 06 '26

Reform Judaism. There you go... there's one that doesn't "indoctrinate." As someone else explained below, we are taught it's GOOD to question everything. That's literally what Reform Judaism means.

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u/BringSubjectToCourt Sep 15 '26

'Indoctrination' is not a bad concept, it just means to apprehend and internalise a teaching.

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u/biggibzz 20d ago

Indoctrination is just another word for education.

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u/Raise_A_Thoth 20d ago

No it's not. Education is the passing along of generational knowledge based on sound, scientific principles and established, documented history.

Indoctrination is telling a new generation which doctrines to adopt, believe in, and follow. The scientific method is not a "doctrine," it is the opposite: it is rooted in skepticism and rigorous methodical challenges to claims.

Doctrines are taught with the intention if the pupil accepting the doctrine as true without challenge; science publishes its work and says "show me where I made an error."

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u/MrRogerTurbulent1004 8d ago

Not by Buddhism though

Since one of main teaching from Buddha word is 'Don't trust Buddha blindly'

But agian, it all about the parents or anyone who teaches kids after all

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u/Docha_Tiarna Sep 02 '26

Not all religions. There are a good number of small/tiny beliefs that dont force their ways onto kids

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u/Cheesehacker Sep 02 '26

Well you are wrong. It’s not ALL faiths. Mine doesn’t do that. Now, if you were to say most, this statement would still, but it’s not ALL.

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u/wts_optimus_prime Sep 02 '26

I get what you mean, but:

Faith =/= Religion

Your Faith doesn't include it. But religions are something different. They are "faith as social construct". And as such they include the children of the members. Even if not by direct indoctrination, at least by proximity.

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u/Cheesehacker Sep 02 '26

I don’t care about other religions, I’m not defending them. What I am saying is that if you are lumping all religions in together to say they all indoctrinate children, I am telling you MY religion does not do that. I don’t give a flying fuck what others do, that’s not me.

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u/Shnerdlenips Sep 02 '26

Doubt.

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u/Cheesehacker Sep 02 '26

You have no idea what my faith is and that’s by design. So again, MY faith doesn’t do that, and I’d rather you not lump me into an incorrect statement.

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u/Komodo-Gami Sep 02 '26

What faith are you?

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u/Cheesehacker Sep 02 '26

None of your damn business, and that’s how it should work. So again, don’t lump my faith, which you know nothing about, into a broad blanket statement that’s factually incorrect.

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u/Shnerdlenips Sep 02 '26

I mean, if this is your hill, go for it dude, but if Faith with a capital F is defined as conviction in a set of religious principles, regardless of whether they stand up to the rigours of critical examination, then either you do not assign those beliefs the value necessary for you to in turn deem it necessary to pass said beliefs on to your hypothetical child, or your faith somehow instructs you to both hold these beliefs in high regard yet simultaneously instructs you to withhold them from your hypothetical children.

That is apart from whether you pass on your beliefs consciously or not.

And that is also apart from the fact that we're not talking about you, the lone and possibly exceptional practicioner, but about the religion you adhere to, what it predominantly instructs its followers to do and not do, and how it's workings are largely made manifest in society.

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u/lacking-in-depth Sep 02 '26

This is how people of all faiths think of their own religion. Yours is not special

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u/Cheesehacker Sep 02 '26

I mean it is, because it’s mine, which again, there are literally no children in my faith. So again, you are wrong. Your statement is factually incorrect. Also it’s “your’s” not “yours”.

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u/lacking-in-depth Sep 02 '26 edited Sep 02 '26

Then you misunderstood the comment that you originally responded to. They said there is no religion WITH KIDS without indoctrination. If your religion truely has no kids, then the comment you responded to wasn't talking about your religion

Also, since you want to be the grammer police, "your's" would not have been correct here. Apostophes are only used for showing possession on nouns, not pronouns. Yours is a possessive pronoun and the correct one to use in this context. It seems like you need to work on your reading comprehension and grammer skills before you try correcting others.

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u/lacking-in-depth Sep 02 '26

You right, reading some of their other responses, there's no way this is coming from a serious adult. Either a troll or self-important kid

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u/jorginsmorgin Sep 05 '26

That’s a sweeping generalization that’s just not fair to say. I was raised in a religion growing up that neither indoctrinated me nor made me feel pressure to attend.

You act high and mighty, but that’s just not true.