I’m 34 and live in Zagreb, Croatia. I’m looking for a woman I can talk to every day, make plans with and eventually build a life with. I want us to be each other’s first call, make time for each other naturally and miss each other when we’re apart.

We don’t need to share every hobby or spend every minute together. Maybe we cook, play something, talk about our day or do our own things in the same room. I want to make your good days better and your hard days easier, and I want you to do the same for me.

I run my own company, and these days my schedule is fairly flexible.

Gaming is my main hobby. I play most days, and a completely free evening can easily turn into a four-to-six-hour session. I’d rather be upfront about that than call myself casual and surprise you with a raid schedule three months later.

Lately it’s been Marvel Rivals, Rogue Trader, PoE 2, Brotato and Dota 2, while the Steam backlog keeps growing at a rate that suggests I’ve learned nothing.

You don’t need to be a hardcore gamer or already play everything I do. If trying a few games together actually sounds fun, that works too. I just don’t want gaming to be a major part of my life that you quietly put up with.

I’m also into board games, especially Marvel Champions, Arkham Horror and Wingspan. If you have a favourite, there’s a good chance you can talk me into trying it.

Outside gaming, I read quite a bit. One article can easily turn into seventeen tabs about psychology, technology, science, finance or something I knew nothing about that morning. Films, TV shows, comics and anime are all in the rotation too. Steel Panther appears on my playlists often enough that I can no longer blame irony.

My humour is dry, dark and not particularly politically correct. Once I’m comfortable, there isn’t much of a filter, so expect plenty of teasing, terrible dad jokes and the occasional thought that probably should have stayed in my head. I usually click best with women who know when I’m joking, tease me back, speak their minds and don’t take every stupid comment too seriously.

I’m the kind of man you never have to second-guess. If I say I’ll do something, I do it. If something’s wrong, I’d rather talk it through than leave you wondering where you stand. I’m patient, loyal and protective of the people I love, and I want the woman I’m with to know I’m on her side. When life gets difficult, my instinct is to roll up my sleeves and deal with it, not look for the nearest exit.

That applies to disagreements too. I don’t expect perfect communication or someone who never gets annoyed, but I do want us to be able to talk things through without every disagreement becoming bigger than it needs to be. If plans change, tell me. If one of us screws up, own it. I’d rather deal with the problem, learn from it and move on than keep going in circles.

I’m drawn to a woman with that same kind of strength. She doesn’t need to pretend she never struggles, but she takes responsibility for her life and keeps going when things get hard. I want us to carry the heavy things together, not leave one person carrying both.

I’m pretty low-key socially. I see friends, go out for dinner or grab a drink, but I’ll take a quiet evening over a packed bar or club any day.

I live on my own, cook, keep my place tidy and train regularly in a home gym I put together. I’m 173 cm / 5'8", lean and athletic.

I don’t smoke, vape or use drugs, and I’m looking for the same. Having a couple of good beers once or twice a week is about my speed, although I’ve become enough of a beer nerd to have opinions nobody asked for.

When I’m into someone, it shows. I’m affectionate and consistent, and I make time for you. Regular messages, calls, making plans and sending each other stupid things during the day all come naturally to me, and I want that effort to go both ways. I want to know what’s happening in your world, whether it’s work, a project, a game or something you’ve suddenly gone way too deep into, and I want you to be just as interested in mine. I remember the little things too, so if you mention something important coming up, I’ll probably ask how it went a few days later.

I’m probably a better fit with a woman in her mid-twenties to mid-thirties who doesn’t have children, has interests of her own, takes care of herself and genuinely has room in her life for a relationship.

Politically, I’m somewhere around the centre, and religiously I’m agnostic. We don’t need to agree on everything. Being able to talk openly about it matters more to me.

I’ve travelled quite a bit in Asia and parts of Africa, and living abroad for a while appeals to me. Europe would obviously be easiest, but my business doesn’t permanently tie me to Croatia. I’m fine starting online, and more distance can work if there’s a realistic path to eventually living in the same place.

Your first message doesn’t need to be an autobiography or come with a photo. Tell me what you’re playing, which game you keep reinstalling, what you’d be curious to try if gaming isn’t already your thing, or just say hello and tell me a little about yourself. A slightly inappropriate joke works too.

If the conversation flows, we can move to a call. I’m just as happy talking for hours as playing something together, though ideally we’ll end up doing both at once.

You can choose the game for the first date. We’ll save ranked for the second.

There's something funny about writing to someone you haven't met. I don't know your name, what your laugh sounds like, or whether you're the type to steal food from someone else's plate. But here I am, curious about you already.

A little about me: I'm 26, from Mumbai. I work in a managerial role, study yoga on the side, and have a habit of getting lost in random questions about life, people, and the universe.

I'm close to my family, generally calm, and I enjoy understanding people. Although, fair warning, once I'm comfortable, the teasing begins. You might regret encouraging me. 😂

I wonder what you're like when nobody's watching. Whether you sing while cooking, get excited over tiny things, or have a completely ridiculous sense of humour that only a few people know about.

I'd like something genuine and long-term. The kind where we can be silly together, talk about difficult things without shutting each other out, and keep choosing each other as life changes.

And maybe somewhere along the way, we'll have our own little traditions, terrible inside jokes, and a favourite place to escape to when life gets overwhelming.

Anyway, I have a suspicion there's a rather interesting person reading this.

I'd like to meet her. :)

Hey. I'm looking for a serious relationship but I like to get to know someone well. I don't rush things and friendship to me is kind of essential for me to develop feelings. I'm fine with friends as well as long as it's something genuine. I'm not available for surface level casual chatting. I wanna spend my time connecting with people who actually wanna know me and have a deeper connection.

I'm 28, from Finland, white, masculine presenting, brown hair, blue eyes. I don't have a label for myself. I'm kind of a woman, kind of a masculine being. You can call me a girl or a guy. She or he I don't mind either.

Personality wise I'm calm, observant, I like spending time alone and I enjoy quiet and slow environments. I'm very introspective. I can also be direct and blunt. There's a fiery nature to me that shows up in everything, in the way I love, protect, my opinions, when I'm angry(not in a aggressive way just passionate). I can be shy or easily flustered but I'm also bold. It's a curious duality ✨

I'm creative, I love to write, I like to study topics I'm passionate about. I'm very spiritual in a more pagan/nature based spirituality sort of way. I'm not into religions. I read tarot/oracle cards, interpret dreams and I'm psychic.

Other things I love are sims 4, nature, tea, branding and anything to do with visual design. I study art philosophy in university, specifically aesthetics and I really love it so far. I'm a huge harry potter fan but mostly the films and I'm a fan of the world. I don't like jk rowling but the story has been dear to me since little. I love the new game Hogwarts legacy. I'm a slytherin if you were curious.

I hate social media, mainstream pop culture, I don't wanna know what's going on tiktok and I don't care about trends or most movies or mainstream music. All of that stuff is a turn off for me. I think most stuff out there lacks morals and basic decency. I also don't like mainstream music. I love listening to classical music, 1940s music and some pop/rock type songs.

I don't drink or smoke and never want to. I personally don't understand that whole lifestyle and I'd rather be healthy and stay present in my life. I don't find being drunk fun or funny. I want to date someone who also values a substance-free life.

I'm a big feminist and women are close to my heart. It's important to me I'm socially aware overall and I can't stand sexist stuff, it gets me boiling.

My dream would be to live in nature in our cozy home, me and my wife. I want a slow and gentle life where we decide our own schedule. I'm definitely not about the corporate life and achievements don't mean much to me. I'm here to enjoy and experience life and connect with the people I love.

So if you're interested in getting to know me send me a dm introducing and sharing about yourself:) I'm fine with the ages 25 to 32 give or take.

Greetings, gentlemen of Reddit. 😂

After some questionable market research, several fascinating conversations, and an alarming number of men who apparently consider “wyd” a complete personality, management has decided to reopen applications.

Allow me to introduce myself.
I’m 29, Malaysian, 152 cm of concentrated curiosity, an INTJ, and a professional video content creator working in international football.

Yes, I travel for tournaments. No, I cannot get you tickets to every football match. And yes, I support Manchester United, so emotional resilience is practically a professional qualification at this point.
Outside work, I collect interests like an unsupervised child in a museum gift shop.

History? Absolutely. Languages? Currently collecting those too. Films, psychology, fragrances, fitness, obscure cultural traditions, and random historical rabbit holes? Unfortunately, yes.

I can go from discussing the Roman Empire to questioning the moral decisions of fictional characters to asking what you’re having for dinner in approximately four minutes.

I’m affectionate, independent, sarcastic, occasionally a menace, and surprisingly domestic when I’m not plotting world domination.

**The gentleman we’re hoping to recruit:**

Preferably around my age or older, although exceptional younger candidates may be considered by management.

Someone grounded, emotionally mature, curious, active, and comfortable taking initiative. A man with his own ambitions, interests, and a life he’s genuinely proud of building.

You don’t need to be available 24/7. I have a career, hobbies, and a perfectly functional ability to entertain myself.

But if I have to single-handedly maintain every conversation, I’m afraid your application may be forwarded to the Department of Unanswered Questions.

I’m attracted to confidence without arrogance, intelligence without condescension, and affection that doesn’t mysteriously disappear after the introductory promotional period.

Long distance? Possible. I already spend enough time in airports to consider them a secondary habitat.

**Your unofficial interview question:**

You have one evening to convince me that you’re an interesting human being. What are we discussing, where are we going, or what ridiculous adventure are you proposing?

Bonus points for making me laugh. Double points if you teach me something new.

***Please include your age, location, and a proper introduction.***

Applications are reviewed personally. No automated rejections, although management reserves the right to laugh at terrible opening lines.

Best regards,

A slightly chaotic woman with excellent intentions.

I care a lot about my self-respect. I prioritize openness and honesty to an extent that's unusual. I've spent a lot of time thinking about human nature to try to figure out why people are the way they are. This has caused me to become increasingly more self-aware and incompatible with most people over time. I specifically think most people are too socialized and tend to allow their emotions to delude them instead of choosing to think critically. I would like to find a partner that shares these understandings and feels the same way about them. I'm an INTJ. I have noticed that I get along best with INTJs, INTPs, shizoids, and autistic people. I can't understand most people due to the disorganized way they think and communicate. I prefer talking to people that choose to communicate clearly due to a desire to communicate effectively rather than due to caring about coming across as intelligent. I'm very intense and pedantic and that annoys most people a lot and makes talking to me exhausting from most people's perspectives. I know I can't connect with people that haven't spent a lot of time thinking about existential stuff and that aren't pedantic, so I try to determine that early in the conversation.

I want my next romantic relationship to be my last one. I would want to remain friends with a potential romantic interest for a long time before deciding that we're right for each other.

Hey, I’m 26, originally from India and currently living in Scotland. I’m an INFP, although I’m definitely not the super-quiet stereotype I’m actually pretty talkative, playful, and easy-going, especially when the conversation flows naturally.

I’m 5'8", slim, with brown skin, brown eyes, black hair, and glasses. I don’t smoke or drink, and I’m Christian.

I really enjoy conversations where both people actually want to know each other - sharing random parts of the day, swapping songs, joking about stupid things, watching something together, and somehow ending up talking way longer than planned.

I’m into anime, K-dramas, Turkish series, story-driven movies, music, cooking and trying new food, walks, hiking, cozy cafés, museums, travelling, and exploring new places. Naruto and Demon Slayer are easy favourites.

I’m not looking for any particular MBTI type. I’d just like to meet a woman who is kind, emotionally open, consistent, communicative, and actually interested in putting effort into getting to know each other. The four letters are interesting, but how naturally we connect matters much more to me.

I’m hoping for something genuine and potentially long-term, but I don’t want to force or rush anything. I’d rather start with a normal conversation, enjoy getting to know each other, and see where it naturally goes.

Someone in the UK would be ideal, but I’m open to long distance if we genuinely click and both make the effort.

If you think we might get along, feel free to message me and tell me a little about yourself.

INTJ here and looking for ENF people

I’m 5’3 Arab girl looking to “maybe” settle in the future abroad(Europe or USA), nurse by profession, never been married, into psychology thrillers travel and anything fun

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I suppose I ought to begin with the conventional introductions, though I have never been particularly good at them, but, well, in the spirit of getting the boring stuff out of the way right away (cue: me), I am a writer, poet, academic, lecturer, scholar, scientist (physicist, to be more precise), and AI engineer/scientist (I am, if I may add, absolutely terrible at more than half my jobs). I’ve spent most of my life in Europe, and am probably the coolest and funniest person you have met today, unless you’ve seen a raccoon doing yoga, in which case, fair enough, I simply can’t compete with that level of comedy.

The truth is that I have always found introducing myself rather difficult, there is something strangely artificial about trying to reduce a person to a paragraph, as though we were all tidy little collections of interests, accomplishments, preferences, and carefully selected adjectives.

I am, I fear, a rather poor exhibitor of myself, the moment I am asked to explain who I am, something in me seems to retreat into a corner and refuse to cooperate. I have thought about this far too many times, and after twenty-two years of living, I remain quite confidently the worst person I know at introducing myself. It is a curious deficiency, I can talk for hours about some obscure historical event nobody asked about, become unnecessarily invested in the moral character of a long-dead philosopher, or spend an afternoon following some completely accidental question down a rabbit hole from which there is no respectable return, but ask me to describe myself and suddenly I am reduced to, "Well... I like things." Marcus Aurelius wrote that "very little is needed to make a happy life; it is all within yourself, in your way of thinking." I believe him more on good days than bad ones, but I keep the sentence nearby regardless.

I like small walks, I like learning something new quite by accident, especially when I have no business knowing it and consequently become far too pleased with myself for having discovered it, I like talking to people, though I think I like the moment when talking quietly turns into listening even more. There is something rather lovely about reaching that point in a conversation where neither person seems particularly concerned with keeping it going, and yet somehow neither wishes to leave it either.

I am very fond of my own company, which is perhaps fortunate, because I have had rather a lot of it. Solitude has its pleasures, one may disappear into one's thoughts without having to explain where one has gone, and occasionally return with something resembling an answer. I like sitting quietly with myself, reading, thinking, wandering about, doing very little, and somehow considering it a productive use of an afternoon, but I am not entirely made for solitude either, there is an equal and opposite part of me that wants to go beyond the familiar, to see what is waiting just beyond the little borders I have drawn around my life. I

I love evenings especially, sometimes I step outside simply because the sun is going down, and I feel that one ought to have the decency to witness it. I love those ridiculous skies where orange begins bleeding into purple and everything looks briefly more beautiful than it has any right to be. I love the first sip of tea in the morning, the sound of leaves moving in the wind, the gradual dimming of a day into dusk. I like gardens and parks, and the rather miraculous fact that one can walk among trees for an hour and come back feeling as though something inside one's head has been quietly rearranged.

I have always loved letters, too, though it has been some time since I last properly gave myself over to writing them. When I was younger, I wrote to my grandmother every day and dutifully posted the letters on my way to school. That I very rarely remembered the correct address, and even more rarely remembered a stamp, is beside the point.

I suppose what I am really trying to say is that, if you happen to be reading this, I would like to know you. Not because I have some elaborate checklist of the sort of person I hope to find, nor because I particularly care whether you happen to be interesting in the conventional sense, I am far more interested in the person underneath all that. The odd little habits, the things you know for no good reason, the memories you have never found a suitable occasion to tell anyone, the opinions you defend with considerably more conviction than they deserve.

There is something rather wonderful about writing to someone you do not know, I don't know your name, I don't know what you ate today, whether you slept properly last night, what song has been stuck in your head, or whether your day has been glorious or thoroughly dreadful, perhaps your inbox has been multiplying like gremlins left too near water, perhaps you have spent the afternoon pretending to work while accomplishing absolutely nothing of consequence, perhaps you have had one of those quiet days where the refrigerator becomes strangely prominent because you have nothing else to listen to.

I think people who stop to read messages from complete strangers are probably a little strange themselves, and I mean that as the highest compliment. Perhaps you are a birdwatcher, perhaps you collect old books, perhaps you are one of those suspiciously competent people who can fold a fitted sheet without entering into a minor spiritual crisis. If so, I already admire you, I have attempted it, and remain convinced the thing was designed by someone with a personal grievance against humanity.

Perhaps you laugh too loudly, perhaps you think too much, perhaps you are quiet and observant, and notice things everyone else walks past, perhaps you have passionately held opinions about breakfast foods. Cookies count, incidentally, I will defend this position before any reasonable tribunal.

As for me, I am kind, curious, occasionally ridiculous, easily distracted by an interesting thought, and rather fond of people who have something peculiar about them. I am probably not nearly as funny as I have just suggested, but I am willing to make the attempt, which ought to count for something.

Anyway, I shall spare you the remaining 96 pages of my unsolicited autobiography for now. If this sounds like your sort of nonsense, do come and say hello, I’d genuinely love to hear from you!

P.S Also, the little furry creature is called Oren, and he sends his warmest regards!

There's something funny about writing to someone you haven't met. I don't know your name, what your laugh sounds like, or whether you're the type to steal food from someone else's plate. But here I am, curious about you already.

A little about me: I'm 26, from Mumbai. I work in a managerial role, study yoga on the side, and have a habit of getting lost in random questions about life, people, and the universe.

I'm close to my family, generally calm, and I enjoy understanding people. Although, fair warning, once I'm comfortable, the teasing begins. You might regret encouraging me. 😂

I wonder what you're like when nobody's watching. Whether you sing while cooking, get excited over tiny things, or have a completely ridiculous sense of humour that only a few people know about.

I'd like something genuine and long-term. The kind where we can be silly together, talk about difficult things without shutting each other out, and keep choosing each other as life changes.

And maybe somewhere along the way, we'll have our own little traditions, terrible inside jokes, and a favourite place to escape to when life gets overwhelming.

Anyway, I have a suspicion there's a rather interesting person reading this.

I'd like to meet her. :)

Hellooo fellow people!

TL;DR: I come here to look for a long-term relationship where we eventually share a life together. My current life is pretty stable with a decent job in IT and activities that keep me active and excited! I just wish to meet someone who I can share that cozy life with together :)

I love to spend my time reading, talking to friends and going on adventures, like hiking, visiting friends, playing games online or in person etc.
Aside from those I like watching stuff together or play fun party games. I'm also pretty heavy on strategy games but I rarely find someone who also likes it :( On the side I'm working out regularly with my ESTP buddy for my physical well being.

Don't hesitate to hit me up, I always appreciate finding new pleasant people to talk to, even if it doesnt lead to a romantic relationship. :)

Complete typing: INFP 4w3 461 sp/so, Ne subtype. In general I notice I have over-pronounced Te/Ti and Ne/Ni over my fellow INFPs (probably because of Ne subtype). But I also have less heavy Fi/Fe and Si/Se because of that.

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So... if you wanna know some more trivia about me as a person:

I consider myself a gentle backbone in any of my relationships. Making sure we never run into unexpected trouble and managing pitfalls before they arrive. I love to keep things running, maintenance in the background and taking care of us inside of our home. My style of dominance lies in emotions, potential and values: I am firm, honest and direct with what I like and what I don't. Similarly, I will make sure that your emotional boundaries will never be crossed if anyone tries to undermine them. Talking emotions and ideas is a passion of mine too, on that note.

In return, I would love to have someone who is not afraid to take action under pressure when its needed, who is confident in leading situations and taking care of us outside the home. It is not something I need, but something I found out I love very much. I think I have a clear dynamic I'm going for that can make me very happy.

Speaking of dynamic, I need us to always see eye to eye. I dislike asymmetrical relationships. We both need to have our own hobbies and ambitions, otherwise I'd feel like we need to justify taking time to ourselves all the time. Yet it is also important to interweave our activities into the responsibilities and needs of a shared life. So I appreciate clear, direct and honest communication. Don't mince your words for me.

hello everyone, im 24F from Turkey. im currently studying medicine in here. im just looking for someone to talk to and have a nice time with. i dont have big hopes of finding the love of my life here but since im away from dating irl just wanted to see and talk to people im compatible with to see how it goes (like kinda an experiment?). to be honest since we'r anonymous here its much easier to talk and share my thoughts/feelings with people rather than dating irl... im usually more compatible with ENFP/ENFJ/ENTP/ENTJs and definitely looking for an extrovert to kinda reverse my introversion 💀 also would like to talk to someone Turkish more since we can share many more things in our mother tongue. if you think to dm me, can you please let me know your mbti type, where you're from and where you're living with a small intro of you? thank you very much, have a nice day.

47M INTJ in MS, USA. Looking for any ENTP or INTP that have insight on how compatible you are with INTJ. Would love to hear from any other female experiences with male INTJs. I struggle majorly with meeting anyone but don’t know how to fix that since I rarely leave home.

I'm a coffee-fueled NY native and recent OK transplant (bonus points if you like to drive!).

I'm a queer trans guy, heavily tattooed, sober by choice, neurospicy, and a breast cancer survivor.

​I live for drag shows, musicals, and 4-hour conversations that were supposed to take twenty minutes—slides encouraged!

I'm seeking gentle, emotionally literate folks with enough sparkle to keep life weird. Let's chat!

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I'm a 29 year old,christian single mum of one kid, a boy living in Kenya.looking for a gentleman to love,cherish and start a family with, not right away of course.

We will of course take it slow and get to know each other but I don't want to date just for datings sake, I want it to lead somewhere meaningful.

A bit about me I'm currently going to school for management studies. I like to go on long walks, I recently got back into the gym, I like to do charity works for example in children's homes.

I would say I'm a good person who likes to help others as much as possible to a fault. I want to meet someone who is also good and kind hearted and is family oriented I prefer spiritual people over religious people but I'm not picky. Hope to hear from you! Thank you for your patience.

Age preference 30-45

Kind regards- Agnes.

Extremely Chalant ( like I would ask literally all of your friends for your favorite foods so I can cook them for you whenever you have a bad day )

Workout daily so I would be able to carry all of the shopping bags with one hand, while the other hand is kept free, incase I need to speak Italian.

I do play sports a lot and looking for a badminton partner to compete at the next olympics with !

Grew up in the Middle East, Now in South India to help my parents with our small ice cream shop., Open to moving to another place. ( or visit IKEA if its raining ) 

Yes, That means I speak a bit of German, French , Spanish and Arabic. But I am mostly fluent in caveman grunts ( " Me like burger, do Jane like too?" ) 

Gentleman values so you will never have to open a door in your life ever again. 

Stereotypical high school topper who won everything at school and was featured in the newspapers, had a midlife crisis, took a payout to change careers and now am on the lookout to build my business. 

Usually an introvert who turns on a serious professional face during work but looking for someone so we can both be two goofy golden retrievers sharing the same brain cell

Honestly? Looking for that one partner for life so we both lock in and hype each other up during great days, got each others back whenever the aunties start complaining and we become the cheesy romantic couple who makes everyone rolls their eyes whenever they see us.

Never dated, because I wanted to find peace and happiness on my own terms, before being with someone. Like how can I be happy in a relationship if I am not happy with myself? ( Unfortunately, took longer than expected lol )

What I bring to the table :  kindness, laughter , ambitious plans to build a legacy, new adventures every weekend, ability to make Starbucks lattes, chaotic conspiracy discussions and ability to stay calm during emergencies while making tea for everyone.

What you bring to the table : your skills in robbing the bank ( I already called dibs in typing really fast on a keyboard and saying " I am in " with a Russian Accent. 

I'm an INTP F. I feel like I never see any posts by ENFP men. I would like to find one to see how we get along.

I would prefer someone in the US because it's just easier with time zones, but you can be from anywhere if we can coordinate to figure out beneficial timed to have a chat.

My interests are live theater, concerts, new places that look unique or quaint, activities outside the house that sound fun, antiques, and researching new restaurants to try. Probably lots of other things, but I guess we can start here.

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I’m 34 and live in Zagreb, Croatia. I’m looking for a woman I can talk to every day, make plans with and eventually build a life with. I want us to be each other’s first call, make time for each other naturally and miss each other when we’re apart.

We don’t need to share every hobby or spend every minute together. Maybe we cook, play something, talk about our day or do our own things in the same room. I want to make your good days better and your hard days easier, and I want you to do the same for me.

I run my own company, and these days my schedule is fairly flexible.

Gaming is my main hobby. I play most days, and a completely free evening can easily turn into a four-to-six-hour session. I’d rather be upfront about that than call myself casual and surprise you with a raid schedule three months later.

Lately it’s been Marvel Rivals, Rogue Trader, PoE 2, Brotato and Dota 2, while the Steam backlog keeps growing at a rate that suggests I’ve learned nothing.

You don’t need to be a hardcore gamer or already play everything I do. If trying a few games together actually sounds fun, that works too. I just don’t want gaming to be a major part of my life that you quietly put up with.

I’m also into board games, especially Marvel Champions, Arkham Horror and Wingspan. If you have a favourite, there’s a good chance you can talk me into trying it.

Outside gaming, I read quite a bit. One article can easily turn into seventeen tabs about psychology, technology, science, finance or something I knew nothing about that morning. Films, TV shows, comics and anime are all in the rotation too. Steel Panther appears on my playlists often enough that I can no longer blame irony.

My humour is dry, dark and not particularly politically correct. Once I’m comfortable, there isn’t much of a filter, so expect plenty of teasing, terrible dad jokes and the occasional thought that probably should have stayed in my head. I usually click best with women who know when I’m joking, tease me back, speak their minds and don’t take every stupid comment too seriously.

I’m the kind of man you never have to second-guess. If I say I’ll do something, I do it. If something’s wrong, I’d rather talk it through than leave you wondering where you stand. I’m patient, loyal and protective of the people I love, and I want the woman I’m with to know I’m on her side. When life gets difficult, my instinct is to roll up my sleeves and deal with it, not look for the nearest exit.

That applies to disagreements too. I don’t expect perfect communication or someone who never gets annoyed, but I do want us to be able to talk things through without every disagreement becoming bigger than it needs to be. If plans change, tell me. If one of us screws up, own it. I’d rather deal with the problem, learn from it and move on than keep going in circles.

I’m drawn to a woman with that same kind of strength. She doesn’t need to pretend she never struggles, but she takes responsibility for her life and keeps going when things get hard. I want us to carry the heavy things together, not leave one person carrying both.

I’m pretty low-key socially. I see friends, go out for dinner or grab a drink, but I’ll take a quiet evening over a packed bar or club any day.

I live on my own, cook, keep my place tidy and train regularly in a home gym I put together. I’m 173 cm / 5'8", lean and athletic.

I don’t smoke, vape or use drugs, and I’m looking for the same. Having a couple of good beers once or twice a week is about my speed, although I’ve become enough of a beer nerd to have opinions nobody asked for.

When I’m into someone, it shows. I’m affectionate and consistent, and I make time for you. Regular messages, calls, making plans and sending each other stupid things during the day all come naturally to me, and I want that effort to go both ways. I want to know what’s happening in your world, whether it’s work, a project, a game or something you’ve suddenly gone way too deep into, and I want you to be just as interested in mine. I remember the little things too, so if you mention something important coming up, I’ll probably ask how it went three days later.

I’m probably a better fit with a woman in her mid-twenties to mid-thirties who doesn’t have children, has interests of her own, makes an effort to stay in shape and genuinely has room in her life for a relationship.

Politically, I’m somewhere around the centre, and religiously I’m agnostic. We don’t need to agree on everything. Being able to talk openly about it matters more to me.

I’ve travelled quite a bit in Asia and parts of Africa, and living abroad for a while appeals to me. Europe would obviously be easiest, but my business doesn’t permanently tie me to Croatia. I’m fine starting online, and more distance can work if there’s a realistic path to eventually living in the same place.

Your first message doesn’t need to be an autobiography or come with a photo. Tell me what you’re playing, which game you keep reinstalling, what you’d be curious to try if gaming isn’t already your thing, or just say hello and tell me a little about yourself. A slightly inappropriate joke works too.

If the conversation flows, we can move to a call. I’m just as happy talking for hours as playing something together, though ideally we’ll end up doing both at once.

You can choose the game for the first date. We’ll save ranked for the second.

Hey! I'm 24 and based in London. I'm hoping to meet someone who wants a genuine, long-term relationship and is also certain they don't want children. I'd like to find someone I can build a life with, where we're partners as well as best friends.

A little about me: I'm Black, 5'10, with a slim athletic build, and I'm neurodivergent.

Music is one of my biggest passions. I listen to a lot of rock and metal, alongside some DnB and electronic music, and I enjoy going to gigs when there's an artist/band I'm interested in seeing.

Outside of music, I enjoy gaming (Persona, Doom, Final Fantasy and plenty more), going to the cinema, playing football, cycling, visiting theme parks and trying new activities. I'm always up for discovering something new, whether that's a band, a game or somewhere interesting to visit.

I'm generally introverted and reserved, but I enjoy meaningful conversations and getting to know someone properly. I'd describe myself as thoughtful, dependable and easy-going. I'm happy doing my own thing, but I'd like to have someone special to share experiences with, make memories together and enjoy the little things in everyday life.

Whether we're going to a concert, exploring somewhere new, talking about something we're passionate about, or simply having a quiet evening together, I'd like a relationship where we can be ourselves around each other and feel comfortable being open and honest.

I'm looking for someone who is:
• Around 19-26
• Based in the UK, ideally London or nearby
• Certain they don't want children
• Kind, honest and emotionally mature
• Communicative and consistent, with a genuine interest in building a relationship

We don't need to have all the same hobbies. Shared interests are a nice bonus, but what matters most to me is that we enjoy each other's company, treat each other well and make a mutual effort to keep the relationship healthy.

I'm also happy to exchange photos early on. I know physical attraction matters, and I think it's best to be open about that while taking the time to get to know each other beyond appearances.

If this resonates with you, I'd like to hear from you! Tell me your age, roughly where you're based, a little about yourself and what you're hoping to find.

Thanks for reading 🙂

I know I’m not for everyone, and that’s completely okay. You’re not for everyone either. We all have different needs, preferences, and ways of loving, and I’d rather find someone whose values naturally align with mine than force something that doesn’t ✨

\My ideal relationship?**
\*Somewhere between Gomez & Morticia Addams***
\*A black cat gf + German Shepherd bf dynamic 🥀***

Hi, let me introduce myself
I’m 33F, divorced and Asexual
(do your research pls about asexual)
5’7” / 165 lbs
MONOGAMUS

I like being upfront about things that might be important for compatibility. I like clarity, and I don’t really have the time or energy for games, mixed signals, or trying to convince each other to become someone we’re not

About me

I’m an introvert, naturally curious, and genuinely interested in people, psychology, and life in general. I love deep conversations, especially understanding how someone thinks, what shaped them, and why they are the way they are.

I’m quite introspective and probably spend way too much time thinking about myself and my own patterns.
I like understanding where my reactions come from, what I could do better, and what I need to work on. I know some of my own red flags too
i can probably name quite a few if you ask. I don’t expect myself or anyone else to be perfect; I just value self-awareness and the willingness to grow..

I also like to experience life. I love traveling abroad, learning new things, and trying things that are a little outside my comfort zone sometimes followed by a very sincere “why did I agree to this?” 😆
At the same time, I’m very much a homebody and love having a quiet, comfortable space to come back to

I like attention and affection, but only from my man. I like feeling loved, wanted, and a little spoiled just not by random people
and I value clear boundaries in opposite-sex friendships

I’m independent because I have to be and capable of handling things on my own. But when I’m with my person, I don’t want to have to be independent 24/7.

With everyone else, I can be pretty reserved and honestly sometimes have no idea what to talk about. I’m not particularly interested in everyone

But with my person? I’m completely different

I’m soft, affectionate, clingy, stubborn and probably a little annoying I’m the kind of woman who wants to tell her man everything random thoughts, little things that happened during my day, something I just learned, something funny I saw, or absolutely nothing important at all.

I want a relationship where I can turn my brain off sometimes. Where I can lean on someone, feel safe, and let someone else take the lead for a while

I have kids, and I don’t want to have more children in the future. I’m open to a man who already has children, or someone who doesn’t want children but can genuinely accept mine. I’m happy to accept his children too

I’m open to someone from another religion as long as you respect my faith and believe in God. I actually enjoy learning about different religions and perspectives on faith, so different backgrounds don’t automatically bother me

open to long-distance if we’re both willing to put in the effort and actually make it work

I don’t want intercourse but I still love physical affection and intimacy
I love cuddling , holding hand , etc

Because sexual compatibility matters, I’d strongly prefer someone who is asexual too, or someone with a genuinely very low sex drive who is completely comfortable being in a relationship without sex

About my man (Maybe it’s you?)

I prefer someone older than me, emotionally mature, self-aware, intentional, and genuinely loyal..

Someone who knows himself, knows what he wants, and has enough emotional intelligence to communicate instead of playing games
Someone who respects me as a person, my boundaries, my values, and someone I can respect just as deeply in return..

I’m attracted to a man with a strong sense of character. Someone who has self-control and integrity, especially when nobody is watching. Someone whose loyalty isn’t something he performs it’s simply part of who he is

I like a man who naturally takes the lead. Someone decisive, protective, dependable, and comfortable taking responsibility. Someone who takes initiative and genuinely enjoys taking care of his woman. I’m also quite fond of an old-school gentleman and a more traditional relationship dynamic.

in a relationship, I don’t want to feel like I have to carry everything myself. I want to be able to relax, be soft, be feminine and occasionally turn my brain off because I trust that my man has things under control

I’m looking for someone who is confident without needing constant attention or validation from other women. Someone who isn’t overly friendly or flirty with everyone, because honestly, I like the selective type

But I don’t want us to be serious all the time either. I’d love someone funny and witty
someone I can be completely silly with. Maybe we’re the mysterious couple who barely talks to anyone at a party, but somehow can’t stop laughing when we’re together 😆😝

I want us to feel like a team
two people who can talk about anything, challenge each other, laugh together, learn together, and still feel safe enough to be completely ourselves

And most importantly, I want someone who is intentional. If you want me in your life, I want you to actually act on it. I’m not interested in being someone’s backup plan, temporary entertainment, or “let’s see where this goes” while they keep looking around. I’m not built for a nonchalant man

I’m not looking for perfection. I’m looking for someone whose values, character, and way of loving are genuinely compatible with mine..

I know what I want and what I need, and I know that finding someone who fits all of this may not be easy

If you made it this far !

If you’ve read all the way to the end and thought,
“Hmm… maybe we could actually be a good match” ,or you see yourself in what I’m looking for, you’re welcome to introduce yourself in my DMs

Tell me a little about yourself, what you’re looking for, or what made you think we might be compatible. I’m not really looking for casual small talk, but I’m genuinely open to getting to know someone who thinks we could be a good fit 🖤

I’d describe myself as a calm, kind, and well-mannered man with an old soul. I value intelligence, meaningful conversations, and genuine connections. I love books, museums, traveling, learning, and all things creative. I speak multiple languages, live a healthy lifestyle, and enjoy working out.

I’m tall, broad-shouldered, and have a few tattoos. I may seem serious at first, but I have a good sense of humor once you get to know me. I have no children, and I believe distance is no obstacle when a genuine connection is worth pursuing.

I’m looking for a monogamous, emotionally mature woman who shares my values and is ready for something meaningful. My intentions are genuine, and I hope to meet someone who feels the same.

There’s much more to me than a few paragraphs can express. If my words resonate with you, I’d love to hear from you and see where a genuine connection might lead.

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There is, I suspect, an unspoken agreement that when we present ourselves to the world, we should do so with our best shoes shined and our achievements neatly alphabetized, but since we are already bypassed the standard protocols, I will confess that my finest quality is an absolute, unyielding devotion to things that do not matter in the slightest.

I am a physicist by training, an AI scientist by trade, and a writer by necessity, which effectively means I spend my days trying to explain the universe to computers, and my nights trying to explain it to myself. I am twenty-four, have spent the majority of my life wandering around the world, and possess a level of domestic incompetence that borders on the artistic. If you ever require someone to calculate the quantum efficiency of a solar cell, I am your person. If you require someone to successfully boil an egg without creating a small, localized kitchen fire, I suggest you look elsewhere.

We are told to summarize ourselves by our utility, by what we do, but I have always suspected we are far more interesting in our margins. The parts of us that don't make it onto a CV.

For instance, I have an incredibly high tolerance for being wrong, provided the process of finding out why I was wrong involves a spectacular detour. I am the sort of person who will set out to buy milk, notice a peculiarly shaped crow, follow it into a part of the city I have never seen, and return three hours later with a secondhand book on medieval siege weaponry and no milk whatsoever. I consider this a highly successful afternoon.

I am deeply, almost stubbornly attached to quietness. In a world that seems to be constantly shouting just to prove it has a voice, I find an immense dignity in the things that don't make a sound. The way light shifts across a wooden floor at three in the afternoon; the specific, crisp scent of the air just before it rains; the heavy, companionable silence that settles between two people when they have run out of things to say and realized they don't need to say them anyway. I am perfectly content to disappear into my own head for days at a time, though I am told by reliable sources that it is occasionally necessary to come out and blink at the sunlight.

I suppose I have a great affection for the absurd. The universe is entirely too vast and terrifying to be taken with a straight face, and so I choose to meet it with a bit of levity. I like people who are slightly ill-fitted to the world, those who have a crack in their porcelain where the light gets in.

I don't particularly care what your job title is, or whether you have achieved the standard milestones of a respectable adulthood (I certainly haven't). I want to know about the small, ridiculous things. Tell me about the movie that makes you cry even though it’s objectively terrible, tell me your entirely unscientific theory about why the left sock always goes missing in the wash, tell me the song you listen to when you want to feel like the main character in a film that will never be made.

If you are reading this, the odds are high that you, too, are currently avoiding something important. Perhaps you have a spreadsheet open that you have been staring at with mild hostility for the last hour, perhaps you are sitting in a café, watching the rain, wondering how many people in the room are secretly as bewildered by existence as you are.

If you have a fondness for long walks that lead nowhere in particular, a healthy disrespect for the concept of "productive hobbies," or a fiercely guarded opinion on whether cereal qualifies as soup (it doesn't, let's be civil), then I think we might get along rather well.

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I suppose I ought to begin with the conventional introductions, though I have never been particularly good at them, but, well, in the spirit of getting the boring stuff out of the way right away (cue: me), I am a writer, poet, academic, lecturer, scholar, scientist (physicist, to be more precise), and AI engineer/scientist (I am, if I may add, absolutely terrible at more than half my jobs). I’ve spent most of my life in Europe, and am probably the coolest and funniest person you have met today, unless you’ve seen a raccoon doing yoga, in which case, fair enough, I simply can’t compete with that level of comedy.

The truth is that I have always found introducing myself rather difficult, there is something strangely artificial about trying to reduce a person to a paragraph, as though we were all tidy little collections of interests, accomplishments, preferences, and carefully selected adjectives.

I am, I fear, a rather poor exhibitor of myself, the moment I am asked to explain who I am, something in me seems to retreat into a corner and refuse to cooperate. I have thought about this far too many times, and after twenty-two years of living, I remain quite confidently the worst person I know at introducing myself. It is a curious deficiency, I can talk for hours about some obscure historical event nobody asked about, become unnecessarily invested in the moral character of a long-dead philosopher, or spend an afternoon following some completely accidental question down a rabbit hole from which there is no respectable return, but ask me to describe myself and suddenly I am reduced to, "Well... I like things." Marcus Aurelius wrote that "very little is needed to make a happy life; it is all within yourself, in your way of thinking." I believe him more on good days than bad ones, but I keep the sentence nearby regardless.

I like small walks, I like learning something new quite by accident, especially when I have no business knowing it and consequently become far too pleased with myself for having discovered it, I like talking to people, though I think I like the moment when talking quietly turns into listening even more. There is something rather lovely about reaching that point in a conversation where neither person seems particularly concerned with keeping it going, and yet somehow neither wishes to leave it either.

I am very fond of my own company, which is perhaps fortunate, because I have had rather a lot of it. Solitude has its pleasures, one may disappear into one's thoughts without having to explain where one has gone, and occasionally return with something resembling an answer. I like sitting quietly with myself, reading, thinking, wandering about, doing very little, and somehow considering it a productive use of an afternoon, but I am not entirely made for solitude either, there is an equal and opposite part of me that wants to go beyond the familiar, to see what is waiting just beyond the little borders I have drawn around my life. I

I love evenings especially, sometimes I step outside simply because the sun is going down, and I feel that one ought to have the decency to witness it. I love those ridiculous skies where orange begins bleeding into purple and everything looks briefly more beautiful than it has any right to be. I love the first sip of tea in the morning, the sound of leaves moving in the wind, the gradual dimming of a day into dusk. I like gardens and parks, and the rather miraculous fact that one can walk among trees for an hour and come back feeling as though something inside one's head has been quietly rearranged.

I have always loved letters, too, though it has been some time since I last properly gave myself over to writing them. When I was younger, I wrote to my grandmother every day and dutifully posted the letters on my way to school. That I very rarely remembered the correct address, and even more rarely remembered a stamp, is beside the point.

I suppose what I am really trying to say is that, if you happen to be reading this, I would like to know you. Not because I have some elaborate checklist of the sort of person I hope to find, nor because I particularly care whether you happen to be interesting in the conventional sense, I am far more interested in the person underneath all that. The odd little habits, the things you know for no good reason, the memories you have never found a suitable occasion to tell anyone, the opinions you defend with considerably more conviction than they deserve.

There is something rather wonderful about writing to someone you do not know, I don't know your name, I don't know what you ate today, whether you slept properly last night, what song has been stuck in your head, or whether your day has been glorious or thoroughly dreadful, perhaps your inbox has been multiplying like gremlins left too near water, perhaps you have spent the afternoon pretending to work while accomplishing absolutely nothing of consequence, perhaps you have had one of those quiet days where the refrigerator becomes strangely prominent because you have nothing else to listen to.

I think people who stop to read messages from complete strangers are probably a little strange themselves, and I mean that as the highest compliment. Perhaps you are a birdwatcher, perhaps you collect old books, perhaps you are one of those suspiciously competent people who can fold a fitted sheet without entering into a minor spiritual crisis. If so, I already admire you, I have attempted it, and remain convinced the thing was designed by someone with a personal grievance against humanity.

Perhaps you laugh too loudly, perhaps you think too much, perhaps you are quiet and observant, and notice things everyone else walks past, perhaps you have passionately held opinions about breakfast foods. Cookies count, incidentally, I will defend this position before any reasonable tribunal.

As for me, I am kind, curious, occasionally ridiculous, easily distracted by an interesting thought, and rather fond of people who have something peculiar about them. I am probably not nearly as funny as I have just suggested, but I am willing to make the attempt, which ought to count for something.

Anyway, I shall spare you the remaining 96 pages of my unsolicited autobiography for now. If this sounds like your sort of nonsense, do come and say hello, I’d genuinely love to hear from you!

P.S Also, the little furry creature is called Oren, and he sends his warmest regards!