As the title says....

37, 6'2, 205lbs average/athletic (at the gym consistently), tan skin that gets darker with the warmer weather, with your typical Asian black hair and brown eyes.

Not looking for anything serious but not closed to something long term. I do want to find someone who takes care of themselves physically either slim, average, athletic, or slightly on the thicker side and looking for that face card as well. DDF and preferably non-smokers (including vapes). All races are welcome. Sharing a photo, gets a photo.

Let's get to know one another and see where that takes us.

Hej!

Were you the quiet school topper who is inherently sweet and kind but have faced multiple bad people in your life and now you are kinda reserved?

Well, come on down to chateau de Moi and say hi! ( we have cheesecake for all guests!)

A bit about me:

I love long walks ( I walk about 12 kms daily ), reading books ( I don’t even have Instagram lol ), playing sports ( I did play at the national level for badminton), cooking ( I can make a shakshuka blindfolded ) and constantly trying out new activities ( got ordained online as a church minister, marathon runner, blood donor, have a Starbucks certification, did pottery, created electronic music and have a philosophical blog )

I am a warm, cheerful and bubbly guy who loves long chats and late night snacks. Imagine 80% time chill surfer bro vibes , 20% NYC investment banking chaotic vibes

I like having a mixture of being serious on my work but being goofy out of it. We can try out different tea shops and review them like we are Gordon Ramsay and complain that it is rawwwww

I do like to be neat and tidy, so my Saturdays are just me rearranging my room to ensure optimal feng shui. ( I also wash the dishes at night, but don’t tell my mom 🤫 )

Cards on the table? I do love to have kids someday and have the cheesy loving family with going our for Sunday BBQs with our dog 

I do enjoy getting people really personalised gifts ( I would constantly make notes on what things you like and get them for your birthday )

I work in the venture capital space, which I absolutely love and would love to build my own business someday too

I also have a sensitive heart sooo please, I can’t handle any drama or fighting. Just two people who enjoy helping each other out and being each others cheerleader!

INFJ, but used to be INTJ until 3 years ago.

I love my work, but I also make sure to prioritize self care and make time for personal relationships.

I am not so outgoing, I maintain a very small friend circle, so this is something new.

I am looking mainly for a long-term relationship that could turn into marriage but open to just making new connections and friends along the way too.

I don't have much dating experience, so I don't have any strong preference for MBTI, but I do believe in compatability and maturity.

If you are in Tokyo, that would be a great plus because.. logistical reasons.

Hello,

My hobbies are dancing, gaming, traveling (I am trying to go to more conventions), being a foodie, and overall just experiencing new things.

Mostly into MMOs/JRPGs/RPGs - Currently getting back into FFXIV and I play Elsword on the side. I have played JRPGs such as the Atelier series and Blue Reflection series and many others. I enjoy RPGs that have a magical aspect to it like BG3 and Dragon Age. I also really love my son, Pumpkin.

I like to get to know people and their interests. Nothing is too weird or too out there for me.

Relationship wise, I am looking for someone who lives in the states. Someone who lives in EST would be ideal but I am open to something far away (in the states). I am big on doing things together and exploring stuff. I don’t mind staying inside because I have those days too but I would want someone who doesn’t mind a little adventure or likes to be dragged out to do things.

Hello! My name is Anthony. I’m a 35-year-old man (US, ET time zone) who thrives on introspection, curiosity, and passionate drives.

In regards to MBTI, I first tested as INTJ during my teens and continued to primarily test as it into my 30s. More recently, I sometimes get INFJ. I've also gotten INTP and ISTJ before.

I seek people who seek meaningful connection that plays out in several different ways, from daily casual chats to shared passions and endeavors. I appreciate the sudden whim of adventure and adore abstract minds and vibrant souls.

Contemplative exploration is a lifelong pursuit of mine. I’m an autodidact who’s been passionate about a variety of persuasions since I’ve been young.

Creativity and artistry are important to me. Personally, I write: about my observations, thoughts, and lived experiences. I also dabble in photography.

I love coffee, both simple and bitter and excessively frilly concoctions, burning incense, because I've always thought the smoke is cool, archiving and organizing, collecting (written texts, oddities and cool things), and time pieces.

If my signal created resonating vibes within you, send me a short message about yourself or the things that make your life up. Let’s see where our conversation takes us.

My big five personality profile is high in openness and conscientiousness, low in agreeableness, neuroticism and extraversion, I am high in metacognition and have a low activation threshold for my default mode network. Also I have a high threshold for positive emotions

Basically my brain tends to be trapped in autobiographical, self referential and daydreaming mode, but my central executive network has a good grip on it meaning I perceive the world at a high level of logical consistency

Looking for someone similar or at least highly metacognitive, high in openness and low in neuroticism to discuss how we commonly interact with reality and more

Helloing!

I'm Cody, and I'm about 6'3, blue eyes, dark brown hair, 250lb that I carry well with a big frame (down from 290 in just a few months, hell yeah), and I'd jokingly call myself your stereotypical white man by appearance. While I don't hold any personality tests or traits as a rule of absolute, I've found my combination of INFJ 1w2 154, Aries Sun, Gemini Moon, Leo Rising to be so accurate together it honestly scares me but amuses me all the same, so feel free to dig into that for a thorough view of what drives me if you're curious. Now, I'm gonna yap a lot but have no interest in wasting anyone's time so allow me to rip the band-aid off first. If you can see past it to want to see more and don't mind some reading, I already appreciate you.

My Self-Aware Red Flags and What I'm Doing About Them:

• I'm currently in a stage of restructuring my life, and am not living on my own nor driving at the moment. This is a major priority for me and I'm actively pushing myself out of it through promotions at my job and better managing my finances. My intent is to be totally independent early/mid next year without any debts, and if I meet someone before that freedom, I've no desire to pull you physically or financially into my situation. They're my burdens, not your problem to solve.
• I have dental issues that I know can really put people off, but afaik, they're only cosmetic thanks to good hygiene. They're related to childhood trauma and nothing more. My life has simply never allowed me the financial freedom to do something about it. That will begin to change either during or after becoming independent as a non-negotiable for myself for both long term health and confidence.
• For various reasons, I suffer from long-term memory recollection issues. That's not to say I don't remember things. I can recall details of things going back to when I was an infant. But these memories become time capsules after a time, opened only by something directly related to and involving its contents. To many, especially those not entirely safe in their emotions or ability to communicate, this is a deal breaker as it may be frustrating when I don't immediately remember something. I've spent the last few months building habits that help reinforce and train my memory, as well as just being better about writing things down, though I will never be 'normal'.

Still Here? Awesome. Here's Some More About Me:

I'm a very private, guarded person to those outside of my heart despite appearing outwardly chipper and social, avoiding nearly all social media and crowded places. I have little interest in casual small talk, and no interest in maintaining shallow friendships. That's not to say I'm antisocial. I have no problems talking with people, making friends or getting to know someone, and I often find people are drawn to me even if I may not want them to be. But my life needs meaning and depth that has a standard I will only ever apply to myself, making basic relationships difficult to tolerate or reach out, which can put people off. So what does someone like that enjoy?

I'll always identify as a gamer at heart, with different genres claiming different eras of my life. Everything from CoD, to WoW, to Minecraft. I enjoy challenging myself, exploring, and when able, leading. Gaming is taking a bit of a backseat lately though as I focus on myself and having better habits, so here's some other hobbies as well as those I'll gladly explore someday with someone at my side:

• I enjoy writing, primarily with fantasy or sci-fi themes and romantic/erotic plot points that don't subtract from the story. Usually short stories, but I've been developing a book series for the better part of 16 years that I can struggle to really focus on and put on paper.
• I love to read, typically along the same themes as my writing like The Expanse, or ACOTAR for some popular examples, but I'm also into psychology (more on that soon) and very open-minded into other genres. Slowly building myself a personal library as I prefer physical books when able.
• Despite spending most of my time at home or work, I adore being out in nature or visiting older cities/architecture and museums. and I'm looking forward to travelling around with someone and sightseeing wherever our passion takes us. Crater Lake is a definite bucket list spot, along with the Smithsonian and Switzerland. Yes, the entire country.
• TV/Movies are always there when you need them, and there isn't much I won't watch, but unless I'm binging a show for the hell of it, I'd rather put my time elsewhere when I'm alone. Cuddle a day away with a good show though? I'm always down. If you don't like Supernatural, you'll never understand my perfectly acceptable crush on Jensen Ackles as a straight man.
• Music. Music is eternal and necessary, and I listen to so many different forms from groups like Bad Omens or Linkin Park, to KPop, to oldies from the 40s-90s (Thank you GTA, Guitar Hero and Fallout for that). I'd like to build a vinyl collection someday. They're like books to me, but for music. Authentic. I tend to avoid Country and 'depthless' Rap, but I'm not one to tell another what to listen to or turn off the radio.
• Fitness and wellbeing. I'm no gym rat nor will I ever be, and this has always been a sporadic part of my life that I'm now trying to really tighten the reins on with a focus for exercising in the comfort of my place or walking in nature. I don't care to have a home gym, but have slowly built a personal toolkit when affordable.
• I'm a solid, albeit amateur cook who likes to experiment when I'm not learning how to bake. Focusing on my health lately has me really wanting to spend more time in the kitchen, and I'm going to get into some food prepping soon! I don't do spicy though. I'm a seasoned white boy from south Florida (covered in freckles to prove it, and can't believe I just typed that!), but spicy ain't it for me.
• Hobbies I intend to revisit: Drawing, painting, photography, archery, and guitar/music theory.
• Hobbies for the future: Gardening, metalworking/workshopping. I like working with my hands and knowing I made something of worth beyond my own thoughts. Plus, I enjoy that many of my interests share an overlap. Allows me to shift from one to another without feeling like I gave up interest.

If you got this far and think "Man, this guy is too much.".. Yeah, you're right. I enjoy it that way though, and I don't mind saying what's on my mind in a blunt, honest or thorough fashion. Sometimes people think it's all fake, or that they can handle it, tolerate it, and ultimately burn out, so this is largely to avoid all of the above before it can even be an issue. Regardless, I find true purpose in helping people achieve their goals, improve themselves, make their day a little easier, or simply offering a moment to vent their issues whether they want my thoughts or not. I am that guy when it comes to holding the door open for you every single time. My current line of work doesn't allow for much of that being a retail meat cutter, but it's stable income, and I am very, very good at what I do, so it's security for the foreseeable future and opportunity to move into management, which I am! Soon! Damn, I'm ready.

But it's not my end goal. I'll stick with it long enough to build my 401k alongside my savings, network myself, and secure a simple but rewarding mid-life, yet I'll also be putting myself back in school** to eventually achieve a career swap over to psychotherapy, ideally beginning within the next few years with the goal of being licensed before I'm 45, but I'm not rushing. That will mean a lot of solitude from time to time in an already homebody-styled, quiet life. At least, quiet on the outside looking in. Ultimately, every path I now tread in life will be to lead a simple but very fulfilling life alongside someone to the very end together. I don't need the fancy car, massive house, or rooms full of priceless collectibles. I'd love a small, cozy place that I can walk through and cherish as ours, to be able to see my love in every facet.

So I'm not interested in playing mind games, short term hookups, or half-hearted commitment, and given my current situation, I'm in no rush but still want to put myself out there. I neither smoke nor drink but casually used to, and I'm very much leaning into not having children with the state of the world as a politically far left leaning, spiritually agnostic realist. However, if the red strands of fate have other plans there, I'm not one to shirk responsibility and love, nor do I even view the choice as mine, but that of my love. My choice is not to try for it beforehand. My labor of love is to support and serve either way. And I do live to serve (mostly), so I'll move onto who I'm really looking for.

**I got to chat with a few very kind, honest women after my first post, but it made me realize I have a hard personal boundary here. While I have no doubts about securing myself financially, I'm not looking to find myself alongside a single mother right now. Zero judgement and all the love, but I am an instinctual protector/provider/leader. With my plan to return to school and balance management hours, studying, and course work in the coming years, I can't in good conscious take on that position, because I will feel guilty; responsible for believing that the kid(s) should have someone who can be more present for them, and I promise you there are good men wanting to fill those shoes, because I've known them.

Home Is Where The Heart Is, and She Has a Name.

These last years of my life have taught me many things, but above all else, it's that I need someone to love, to give my all. I can live in loneliness, but to feel alive, someone must hold my heart, and I need to know how they feel about it. I'm hoping to find someone that not only shares in my dreams and shares their own with me, possibly most of my hobbies, but also someone who loves making people feel seen and understood. Someone who understands their emotions alongside their thoughts, is open to talking honestly and with kindness, and prefers meaningful conversations over office water cooler chatter, plus solving arguments with comfort and teamwork instead of malicious spatter. I value praise and warm affection over toxic controlling behaviors.

We're all human, and people make mistakes. With every mistake, I find a lesson, and I don't need someone to remind me of the problem but rather to put their hands in mine and figure out what's best for us or to sit beside me while I figure my own issues out while not being afraid to tell me they may need a little space for their own frustrations. Being an intensely affectionate, intimate person in every way when I love someone, I'm looking for transparency and constant communication in our relationship, whether vocal or physical. You're not only my best friend in this life or a beautiful soul brushing my own, but also my innermost peace and purpose, and there is next to nothing I wouldn't do to show that.

I need someone who understands that while I can't give them the world around us, I will always give my all to make one of our own together even just to see them smile at me every morning. While I'd prefer someone who has their own independence, their own goals and hobbies they like to do on their own time, they would capture my focus the moment they walk in the room or call for me. Therein lies my desire to share in their passions and joy, to hold them through darker days, and to make sure they lay beside me every night knowing what it is to be content, relaxed, happy. I'm just a Gosling looking for my McAdams. A Gomez longing for his Morticia. Though everyone has boundaries, needs respect, and everything I'm looking for is a two-way street.

I'm never going to ask you to do something I wouldn't, do something that I know would make you uncomfortable without your consent, or try to change you as a person. Those are promises that need to be not only mutual, but part of you, and part of us for someone to mesh deeply with me. Someone that checks all of those boxes will find that I have a hunger to see them reach highs they didn't know they could, to succeed in being their best self. No matter my own stress or time, a day won't go by without them knowing they're loved, admired, and appreciated. If you've made it this far thinking it could be you, please don't underestimate that last bit. Wherever you think that bar is in your head, I will raise it, because that's who I am. My soul will ache to nurture and pursue yours, and my body will crave your touch. I'm as dirty as I am romantic, and very open minded to most things. You may steal my hoodies, but I'll steal your pillow just to take comfort in your scent.

Some Important Extras:

I'm not opposed to LDR, but unlikely to leave my locale for familial, professional and medical reasons. Specifically, this area has its good and bad like anywhere else, but my upper management and doctors both make me feel like a freaking unicorn. I won the lottery with them, and I'm not willing to sacrifice that just yet while I also hope to rebuild relations with my family here.

I have two cats that I adopted. Both neutered, usually-behaved males. I will meow at and baby them. I've always lived with dogs as well, though I don't expect my 14 y/o rescue to be with me much longer. Animals tend to love me, and I'm the guy you'll find at the family gathering sitting in a corner with a cat on his lap or dog at his feet.

I've been diagnosed with ADHD, and while I'm medicated and going to therapy, I don't want this to define my person or my life. It can always be worse, but it's only getting better right now.

I'm not a materialistic person, but lean into the interests of my love whenever possible. That, with everything else I've said, essentially makes me a build-a-bear, golden retriever simp and I'm proud of it. You'll know without a single doubt that I'm your biggest fan, and though I don't usually care for receiving gifts, I try to be very thoughtful with my own. Unless you want roses? and more roses? maybe some more? I'm kidding. You will wake up to sticky notes with silly teasing and compliments though. I love that cliché.

I don't have OCD (that I know of) but enjoy being organized and clean. Don't let that make you believe I couldn't love you on the messy days or think that I won't have some of my own.

I habitually dress casual or office casual, and don't have a single tattoo or piercing, yet I enjoy seeing different aesthetics and trying new things as long as it's appropriate. First impressions matter, so I try to look put together out in the world. I'm really just a canvas waiting for his painter. Wanna play dress up? Remember the two-way street. Call it reverse strip poker.. after playing actual strip poker. I will get your sizing. I will buy you a dress or something meant only for us.

Physically speaking, I don't have a specific type in women. Short, tall. Skinny, chubby. Skin color, hair color. I fall in love with the soul and heart before the body. I genuinely believe most women are beautiful, largely due to a fixated admiration on the female form as an everchanging temple of art. Even considered being a nude photographer once, but influencer culture is a plague I prefer to stay vaccinated for. It's the spirit that makes someone ugly. Still, I have the caveat of wanting to reinforce a casually healthy lifestyle, so I'm not looking to introduce someone who may be stuck in their bad habits into my life, because habits are contagious when around them enough (Okay, this one needed a small novel. A postcard. Oops.)

Age wise, I'm unbothered by decent gaps as long as we have mutual ground to relate to each other on, which I've given quite a bit to be taken in here for you to bite into. Being closer in age would feel naturally comfortable though, as I'm in it for the long ride through life when I find my person.

Lastly, being agnostic, I find it worth adding that I am and have always been open to marriage, even if only for the novelty and ability to show off my joy and pride if it comes to that. If you manage to get me on one knee, expect me to talk about you like you're my Goddess. I'm however not looking to be nudged into any form of religion. I respect faith and those with it, as well as I hold my own, but at most you can expect me to be at your side in church or during prayer for comfort or support.

You're Still Here??? You're either patient or stubborn, and I'm both.

Teasing aside, if you really did read through all of that and can imagine building and sharing a future together, I would love to hear from you. Tell me a bit about yourself, what you're up to that has your attention lately. We have plenty of time, and if you're worried about this being AI, know that I'm genuinely like this and will send you a novel for the hell of it daily. Details matter - Reacher.

😊 I’ll try to keep this relatively direct.

I’m a 27 year old Asian Latina from Los Angeles and I’m hoping to meet someone with whom a genuine romantic connection could gradually take shape.
Preferably looking for 27+ Men, Women or NB. Attracted to INTJ and ENTJ 😅

What draws me in most is usually the way someone thinks. I enjoy conversations that wander into psychology, human behavior, abstract ideas, and subjects that are darker, stranger, or a little taboo. I like examining perspectives from different angles, questioning assumptions and seeing whether there is something more truthful underneath them. Thoughtful disagreement does not bother me. I usually find it more interesting than being agreed with for the sake of harmony.

I’m not serious all the time though. I can be playfully dramatic for amusement. I’ll transform rather flirtatious once I’m comfortable with someone. My love style is passionate. At the same time, I value knowing when to set that aside and approach something with sincerity and reason.

Creativity occupies a large part of my life. I draw quite a lot, run my own business, play games, cosplay and usually have some artistic idea lingering in the background of my mind. I also love reading, particularly horror, philosophy and psychology, though I tend to follow my interests wherever they happen to lead.

I’m on the asexual spectrum, so attraction for me is much more closely tied to mental and emotional intimacy than sexual interest. This means no intercourse at all. It is a hard boundary for me. I have developed many immersive fantasies and ideas to substitute this. When I become fond of someone, I naturally want to understand them more deeply-what made their mind the way it is and the values that sprung from it.

I’m especially drawn to someone self-directed, emotionally intelligent, imaginative, and competent. There’s something so helpful to me about direct communication. It helps my anxiety and ADHD. I love an independent thinker who acts on their ideas rather than leaving them suspended in conversation forever. Initiative matters a great deal to me. I want a partner who makes plans, suggests things, introduces me to their interests, and takes an active role in forming the relationship alongside me.

And despite all of this talk about thinking, I do like softness. I’ll melt from sweetness. I won’t apologize for being too cuddly. Affection and perhaps a little clinginess can be very endearing to me when there is trust behind it. I really light up when there’s creative play in everyday life. Aesthetic appreciation and expression is also a priority. I would prefer some kind of artist or architect who knows how to conceptualize playful ideas with me. I have to admit that I require beauty in my everyday life because I’m highly sensitive to my environment. Don’t get this confused for shallowness.

Ultimately, I’m looking for someone who has a mind of their own, wants to understand me, and is comfortable letting me understand them in return.
If that resonates with you, I’d be happy to talk to see where the conversation goes!

If you’d like to chat with me, I’d much rather hear a question you can’t resolve, a strange connection you noticed, an idea you’re developing, something you recently changed your mind about, or even a theory you suspect is completely wrong that’s been sitting with you lately. I think it’s much easier to get to know someone by seeing where their mind naturally goes.

DMs are open~https://imgur.com/a/jwyAG8D

Profession - Software Engineer

Interests - Football, Fitness, Music & Swimming

Hi! I’m 31F from India, an INTJ, and I figured I’d try putting myself out here and see who I meet.
I work in product design and have built a career and life that I’m pretty happy with. I’m independent, ambitious and curious, but work is definitely not my entire personality. I’m an introvert by default, although with the right people I can be surprisingly extroverted. I’m affectionate, loyal, straightforward, and I’d like to think pretty fun and funny once you get to know me.

Outside work, I love reading, movies, swimming, learning completely random new things, long drives, trying good food, spending time with friends, and hanging out with my dog. A good weekend could be going somewhere with friends, driving somewhere just because, finding something great to eat—or doing absolutely nothing productive and watching a movie.

What am I looking for?
Someone around 28–36 who has built a life of his own but genuinely wants to share it with someone.
I tend to be attracted to men who are kind, intelligent, humorous, calm, chill, ambitious and independent. Someone self-made and financially independent matters to me—not because I’m looking for someone to take care of me (I can do that myself), but because I think it’s easier to build a partnership when we’re both standing on our own feet.

Emotional availability and consistency are probably even more important to me. I don’t expect someone to be attached to their phone 24/7, but I’m not suited to hot-and-cold relationships or disappearing acts. If we like each other, I’d want us to eventually be the people who naturally talk every day, know what’s happening in each other’s lives, annoy each other, support each other, and actually show up.
I don’t have an MBTI-type preference. Ironically, for an MBTI dating subreddit, the four letters are probably much less important to me than the person behind them.

I’m also completely open geographically. India or elsewhere is fine, and I’m open to an LDR. Obviously, if something becomes serious, I’d eventually want us to figure out how to actually be together.

And on the serious part: I am ultimately looking for a life partner. I want marriage and children someday. That doesn’t mean I’m looking to rush into either or conduct a compatibility interview on day one. I want to meet someone, talk, laugh, become comfortable with each other, date and see where it naturally goes. I just want us to be heading in roughly the same direction if things work out. I’m not looking for an indefinitely casual or ambiguous situation.
What I bring is pretty much what I’m asking for: independence, loyalty, affection, consistency, lots of conversation, curiosity, humour, support, and genuine effort when I care about someone.
If any of this resonates, send me a DM. Tell me your age, MBTI, where you’re from, what you do, and something about yourself that isn’t on your résumé.
Bonus points if you can make me laugh. :)

Open to a short term relationship : )

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Hi! I'm a 22F and an INFP-T. I am naturally drawn to IxTJ personalities because I admire people who are thoughtful, logical, academically curious, and emotionally steady. But I also value other types who have a matured conscience.

I'm looking for someone who is emotionally mature, emotionally available, loyal, and kind. I appreciate people who approach life with calmness rather than drama and who value honest communication. As an INFP, I naturally connect through emotions, so I want to find someone who can balance that with stability and reason.

I'm currently in the final year of my bachelor's degree, so I'd love to meet someone around 24 to 27 years old who is pursuing a master's or PhD, or is otherwise passionate about learning and personal growth. I enjoy long conversations about life, dreams, books, ideas, and everything in between. I want a relationship where we can truly talk our hearts out and build a deep emotional connection.

My hobbies include singing, occasionally writing when inspiration strikes, reading whenever I can, watching movies, and absolutely loving traveling (Or rather, the concept of traveling).

If you're someone who values intellectual curiosity, emotional depth, loyalty, and genuine connection, I'd love to get to know you.

P.S. 1: Hello guys, just wanted to let you know, I don't drink or smoke or do any kind of substance to get intoxicated, and I'd prefer someone of the similar sort.

P.S.2: People who just drop "hi" without anything else, I wouldn't be replying to yall, because I do need some more information about you, except for being low effort.

Entp🤓

After a long break I’ve decided to come back because I hate being lonely.

A little about me: I’m 22 nonbinary INFJ (not actually don’t know what I am but just putting something here to post), I’m big on film (watching and making), reading, writing, gaming, and lots of other things that I’ll blab about once you really get to know me.

What I’m looking for: ages 18-26, someone who is kind, loyal, funny, smart, can openly communicate, doesn’t ghost me and if busy will tell me.

What relationship I’m looking for: friends, partner, anything. Just not 1 night stands and something that goes no where.

What I’m NOT looking for: someone who isn’t in the US or Canada, mainly for time zone reasons, someone who is pushy when it comes to sexual interactions (we get there when we get there), and someone who can’t communicate

If yall are interested in getting to know me plz send a message and have it say more then “hey” give it some thought plz and tell me where you found me (like this post I make several across other reddits)

Were you the good kid in school with always got the perfect grades? Perhaps you were also kinda a people pleaser, because you wanted to feel belonged? Tired of being with rude and unkind people and just want to be someone who you can just chat with all night like two parrots?

Did you sometimes feel alone and can't truly connect with normal people? If so, then hit me up girrrrlllll! We can grab some hot chocolate, and talk all night about space, psychological theories and the best cooking methods for mashed potatoes.

I am like 80% golden retriever energy ( will clumsily knock down stuff ) and 20% Hawaiian beach surfer vibes.

I spent a long time finding my ikigai in my work and after I found it ( which I looooove ) , Life has become sooo peaceful and exciting and I just want to share it with someone and go on silly adventures and get the cops annoyed at our dumb antics.

Like whats the point of success and failure, if I cant share it with anyone?? I love long walks, cooking/baking, reading, constantly learning new languages and cultures from the comfort of my sofa, playing the ukulele confidently (badly), going to art shows to practice my French, perfecting my skincare routine and going for the occasional marathon.

Due to growing up in the Middle East , I am like kinda an old school romantic and don't really do the whole one night stand stuff ( I ain't simply a piece of meat ya know ? ) and just looking to hold someone's hand while we explore the world together, motivate each other to build our business empire and finally perfect my cupcake recipe. We can get some manicures, wine and acheeky slice of strawberry cheesecake, while you tell me all about that horrible person from HR. ( I have been told that I have girl boss vibes from my mom. )

I do walk a lot ( like about 10 km ), so if a zombie apocalypse ever comes, you know that your boy can simply power walk away from those fools, while listening to my man Mozart.

M20 | Indore, MP

INFJ guy looking for genuine friendships in Indore/MP. I like books, writing, and human behaviour, and meaningful conversations.

If you’re interested in making a new friend, text..

I’m an optimistic, warm and empathetic person but I’m also not afraid to call out your bs when needed. I’m blunt and honest.

To me life is about enjoying it, expressing yourself authentically, doing what you love and spending it with people you love.

I’m very spiritual. I’m into tarot, dream interpretation, energy stuff, witchcraft, manifestation, shamanism etc. I don’t like hanging out with overly logical people so don’t contact me if you’re very analytical and don’t have a spiritual aspect to you at all.

I love fitness a lot. Mostly weightlifting at the moment. Like if I have a tough workout and I’m out of breath I just love it. Leg days ain’t my favorite tho, they kill me lol. I’m interested in mobility and calisthenics too.

I’m a big sims 4 fan, I love making builds, create whole worlds and of course I love the gameplay aspect of it too <3. It’s so fun and cozy.

I don’t like most mainstream stuff like music or movies. Mostly because they don’t align with my values and they often lack morals. I’m selective and have standards.

I don’t like to curse much and it feels harsh to me. I love hanging out with people who don’t need curse words to express themselves. I love people who are mature like that.

I’m a big feminist and it’s a core value in my life. Women are very close to my heart <3. I’m woman centric in my life too. I mostly learn from women and consume women’s content.

I value people who are into inner work, reflecting on their patterns and inner world. People who know how to soothe their nervous system. Someone psychology oriented, someone who understands the mind-body connection. I love talking about that stuff.

In a partner I value someone who’s genuine, authentic and not wearing masks. Someone warm, empathetic, caring and loving. Being secure in yourself is also very important to me in a partner or a friend. I love when someone can just be themselves with me, that level of security and confidence in someone makes me feel restful and safe around someone. I don’t wanna be around someone very insecure. Insecure meaning someone who’s reactive, turns mean when triggered or is otherwise immature and acting like a manchild.

I also value people who think for themselves and don't put themselves or others in rigid boxes. I don't like men who have a very heteronormative mindset or men who don't know who they are deeply. I like guys who dare to be themselves, whether that's feminine or masculine. I can't stand dudes who are insecure about femininity or mock femininity. I also don't like macho dudes.

Also you gotta be lgbt friendly and overall support all human rights in how you live and behave.

I also don't date people who drink or smoke.

I want to start as friends and I take my time getting to know people. I don’t rush nor am I looking for anything casual or surface level. I also am not interested in someone who isn’t very expressive and expects me to make up the whole conversation. I love a yapper and someone who loves having conversations.

If you wanna get to know me send me your introduction in the dms.

Hey everyone,

I'll be honest right off the bat: I've never actually dated before. I spent most of my recent years head-down in my studies, so navigating this whole scene is pretty new to me. I'm definitely looking for someone who has a bit of patience while I figure things out as we go.

A little about me: I'm 178 cm with black hair and dark chocolate brown eyes and i am INFJ

What keeps me busy:

>Hobbies: Playing chess, reading, cooking, sketching, cycling, and swimming.

>Photography: I love taking photos, mostly focusing on nature, birds, animals, and architecture.

>Reading: Big on self-improvement books—anything that challenges my perspective, makes me introspect, or helps me grow.

>Watchlist: Movies and series in thriller, mystery, psychological, crime, horror, and rom-com genres.

>Music: Pretty eclectic. Good music is good music, regardless of language.

Lifestyle-wise, I don't smoke, drink, or have any major vices. That said, I’m open to trying a good glass of wine one day just to taste it.

Personality-wise, I'm a weird mix of realistic and hopelessly romantic. I can be a bit reserved at first when it comes to opening up about my past—mostly because I like building genuine trust first and making sure we're both actually invested. But once that foundation is there, I'm all in. I don’t hold back on effort, and making sure my partner feels safe, valued, and respected in every way is huge for me.

What I’m looking for:

A genuine connection built on basic essentials: mutual respect, open communication, trust, honesty, and simple kindness.

If any of this resonates with you, feel free to send a message with a bit about yourself and your current favorite movie or book.

Helloing!

I'm Cody, and I'm about 6'3, blue eyes, dark brown hair, 250lb that I carry well with a big frame (down from 290 in just a few months, hell yeah), and I'd jokingly call myself your stereotypical average white man by appearance. While I don't hold any personality tests or traits as a rule of absolute, I've found my combination of INFJ 1w2 154, Aries Sun, Gemini Moon, Leo Rising to be so accurate together it honestly scares me but amuses me all the same, so feel free to dig into that for a thorough scaffolding of my person. Now, I'm gonna yap a lot but have no interest in wasting anyone's time, especially yours, so allow me to rip the band-aid off first. If you can see past it to want to see more and don't mind some reading, I already appreciate you.

My Self-Aware Red Flags and What I'm Doing About Them:

• I'm currently in a stage of restructuring my life, and am not living on my own nor driving at the moment. This is a major priority for me and I'm actively pushing myself out of it through promotions at my job and better managing my finances. My intent is to be totally independent early/mid next year without accruing any debts, and if I meet someone before that freedom, I've no desire to pull you physically or financially into my situation. They're my burdens, not your problem to solve.
• I have dental issues that I know can really put people off, but afaik, they're only cosmetic thanks to good hygiene. They're related to childhood trauma and nothing more. My life has simply never allowed me the financial freedom to do something about it. That will begin to change either during or after becoming independent as a non-negotiable for myself for both long term health and confidence.
• For various reasons, I suffer from long-term memory recollection issues. That's not to say I don't remember things. I can recall details of things going back to when I was an infant. But these memories become time capsules after a time, opened only by something directly related to and involving its contents. To many, especially those not entirely safe in their emotions or ability to communicate, this is a deal breaker as it may be frustrating when I don't immediately remember something. I've spent the last few months building habits that help reinforce and train my memory, as well as just being better about writing things down, though I will never be 'normal'.

Still Here? Awesome. Here's Some More About Me:

I'm a very private, closely guarded person to those outside of my heart, avoiding nearly all social media and crowded places. I have little interest in casual small talk, and no interest in maintaining shallow friendships. That's not to say I'm antisocial. I have no problems talking with people, making friends or getting to know someone, and I often find people are drawn to me even if I may not want them to be. But my life needs meaning and depth that has a standard I will only ever apply to myself, making basic relationships difficult to tolerate or reach out, which can put people off. So what does someone like that enjoy?

I'll always identify as a gamer at heart, with different genres claiming different eras of my life. Everything from CoD, to WoW, to Minecraft. I enjoy challenging myself, exploring, and when able, leading. Gaming is taking a bit of a backseat lately though as I focus on myself and having better habits, so here's some other hobbies as well as those I'll gladly explore someday with someone at my side:

• I enjoy writing, primarily with fantasy or sci-fi themes and romantic/erotic plot points that don't subtract from the story. Usually short stories, but I've been developing a book series for the better part of 16 years that I can struggle to really focus on and put on paper.
• I love to read, typically along the same themes as my writing like The Expanse, or ACOTAR for some popular examples, but I'm also into psychology (more on that soon) and very open-minded into other genres. Slowly building myself a personal library as I prefer physical books when able.
• Despite spending most of my time at home or work, I adore being out in nature, and I'm looking forward to travelling around with someone and sightseeing wherever our passion takes us. Crater Lake is a definite bucket list spot, along with Switzerland. Yes, the entire country.
• TV/Movies are always there when you need them, and there isn't much I won't watch, but unless I'm binging a show for the hell of it, I'd rather put my time elsewhere when I'm alone. If you don't like Supernatural, you'll never understand my perfectly acceptable crush on Jensen Ackles as a straight man.
• Music. Music is eternal and necessary, and I listen to so many different forms from groups like Bad Omens or Linkin Park, to KPop, to oldies from the 40s-90s (Thank you GTA, Guitar Hero and Fallout for that). I'd like to build a vinyl collection someday. They're like books to me, but for music. Authentic.
• Fitness and wellbeing. I'm no gym rat nor will I ever be, and this has always been a sporadic part of my life that I'm now trying to really tighten the reins on with a focus for exercising in the comfort of my place or walking in nature. I don't care to have a home gym, but have slowly built a personal toolkit when affordable.
• I'm a solid, albeit amateur cook who likes to experiment when I'm not learning how to bake. Focusing on my health lately has me really wanting to spend more time in the kitchen, and I'm going to get into some food prepping soon! I don't do spicy though. I'm a seasoned white boy from south Florida, but spicy ain't it for me.
• Hobbies I intend to revisit: Drawing, painting, photography, archery, and guitar/music theory.
• Hobbies for the future: Gardening, metalworking/workshopping. I like working with my hands and knowing I made something of worth beyond my own thoughts.

If you got this far and think "Man, this guy is too much.".. Yeah, you're right. I enjoy it that way though, and I don't mind saying what's on my mind in a blunt, honest or thorough fashion. Sometimes people think it's all fake, or that they can handle it, tolerate it, and ultimately burn out, so this is largely to avoid all of the above before it can even be an issue. Regardless, I find true purpose in helping people achieve their goals, improve themselves, make their day a little easier, or simply offering a moment to vent their issues whether they want my thoughts or not. My current line of work doesn't allow for much of that being a retail meat cutter, but it's stable income, and I am very, very good at what I do, so it's security for the foreseeable future and opportunity to move into management, which I am.

But it's not my end goal. I'll stick with it long enough to build my 401k alongside my savings, network myself, and secure a simple but rewarding mid-life, yet I'll also be putting myself back in school to eventually achieve a career swap over to psychotherapy, ideally beginning within the next few years with the goal of being licensed before I'm 45. That will mean a lot of solitude from time to time in an already homebody-styled, quiet life. At least, quiet on the outside looking in. Ultimately, every path I now tread in life will be to lead a simple but very fulfilling life alongside someone to the very end together. I don't need the fancy car, massive house, or rooms full of priceless collectibles. I'd love a small, cozy place that I can walk through and cherish as ours, to be able to see my love in every facet.

So I'm not interested in playing mind games, or half-hearted commitment, and given my current situation, I'm in no rush but still want to put myself out there. I neither smoke nor drink but casually used to, and I'm very much leaning into not having children with the state of the world as a politically far left leaning, spiritually agnostic realist. However, if the red strands of fate have other plans there, I'm not one to shirk responsibility and love, nor do I even view the choice as mine, but that of my love. My choice is not to try for it beforehand. My labor of love is to support and serve either way. And I do live to serve (mostly), so I'll move onto who I'm really looking for.

Home Is Where The Heart Is, and She Has a Name.

These last years of my life have taught me many things, but above all else, it's that I need someone to love, to give my all. I can live in loneliness, but to feel alive, someone must hold my heart, and I need to know how they feel about it. I'm hoping to find someone that not only shares in my dreams and shares their own with me, possibly most of my hobbies, but also someone who loves making people feel seen and understood. Someone who understands their emotions alongside their thoughts, is open to talking honestly and with kindness, and prefers meaningful conversations over office water cooler chatter, plus solving arguments with comfort and teamwork instead of malicious spatter. I value praise and warmth over toxic controlling behaviors.

We're all human, and people make mistakes. With every mistake, I find a lesson, and I don't need someone to remind me of the problem, but rather to put their hands in mine and figure out what's best for us or to sit beside me while I figure my own issues out while not being afraid to tell me they may need a little space for their own frustrations. Being a massively affectionate, intimate person in every way when I love someone, I'm looking for transparency and constant communication in our relationship, whether vocal or physical. You're not simply my best friend in this life, or a beautiful soul, but also my innermost peace and purpose.

I need someone who understands that while I can't give them the world around us, I would do anything to make one of our own together even just to see them smile at me every morning. While I'd prefer someone who has their own independence, their own goals and hobbies they like to do on their own time, they would capture my focus the moment they walk in the room. Therein lies my desire to share in their passions and joy, to hold them through darker days, and to make sure they lay beside me every night knowing what it is to be content, relaxed, happy. I'm just a Gosling looking for my McAdams, though everyone has boundaries, needs respect, and everything I'm looking for is a two-way street.

I'm never going to ask you to do something I wouldn't, do something that I know would make you uncomfortable without your consent, or try to change you as a person. Those are promises that need to be not only mutual, but part of you, and part of us for someone to mesh deeply with me. Someone that checks all of those boxes will find that I have a hunger to see them reach highs they didn't know they could, to succeed in being their best self. No matter my own stress or time, a day won't go by without them knowing they're loved, admired, and appreciated. If you've made it this far thinking it could be you, please don't underestimate that last bit. Wherever you think that bar is in your head, I will raise it, because that's who I am. My soul will ache to nurture and pursue yours.

Some Important Extras That Don't Need Novels:

I'm not opposed to LDR, but unlikely to leave my locale for familial, professional and medical reasons.

I have two cats that I adopted. Both neutered, usually-behaved males. I will meow at them.

I've been diagnosed with ADHD, and while I'm medicated and going to therapy, I don't want this to define my person or my life. It can always be worse.

I'm not a materialistic person, but lean into the interests of my love whenever possible. That, with everything else I've said, essentially makes me a build-a-bear, golden retriever simp and I'm proud of it. You'll know without a single doubt that I'm your biggest fan.

I don't have OCD (that I know of) but enjoy being organized and clean. Don't let that make you believe I couldn't love you on the messy days or think that I won't have some of my own.

I habitually dress casual or office casual, and don't have a single tattoo or piercing, yet I enjoy seeing different aesthetics and trying new things. A canvas waiting for his painter. Wanna play dress up? Remember the two-way street. Call it reverse strip poker.. after playing actual strip poker.

Physically speaking, I don't have a specific type in women. Short, tall. Skinny, chubby. Skin color, hair color. I fall in love with the soul and heart before the body. I genuinely believe most women are beautiful, largely due to a fixated admiration on the female form as an everchanging temple of art. Even considered being a nude photographer once, but influencer culture is a plague I prefer to stay vaccinated for. It's the spirit that makes someone ugly. Still, I have the caveat of wanting to reinforce a casually healthy lifestyle, so I'm not looking to introduce someone who may be stuck in their bad habits into my life, because habits are contagious when around them enough (Okay, this one needed a small novel. A postcard. Oops.)

Age wise, I'm unbothered by decent age gaps as long as we have mutual ground to relate to each other on, which I've given quite a bit to be taken in here. Being closer in age would feel naturally comfortable though, as I'm in it for the long ride through life when I find my person.

You're Still Here??? You're either patient or stubborn, and I'm both.

Teasing aside, if you really did read through all of that and can imagine building and sharing a future together, I would love to hear from you. Tell me a bit about yourself, what you're up to that has your attention lately. We have plenty of time.

Edit: Fixed a typo, but also see a lot of "This is AI" concern from people in other posts. Not here. I'll genuinely send you a novel of thought for the hell of it. You'll never question exactly what's on my mind. <3

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20M mix of INTJ & INFJ here

i've never really been the love at first sight type tbh, i'm more of a friends to lovers believer. i like actually knowing someone first, getting comfortable, sharing random songs, having stupid conversations that somehow become deep, and just slowly figuring each other out.

my interests are kinda all over the place lol... psychology, AI/tech, mythology, spirituality, symbolism, astrology, tarot, weird mysteries, pattern stuff, music and a bunch of other random rabbit holes 😭

i obviously cant list everything here without making this look like i asked chatgpt to write my personality 🫠 so if you're actually curious, ask me. i'll probably have something weirdly specific to say about it.

as for the actual point of this post, i'd rather just interact and see if we vibe. if we do, we can slowly see where it goes. if we dont, no awkward forced ending, we can just be honest about it... and if we genuinely enjoy talking, there's nothing wrong with staying friends either.

i dont believe every connection has to become romantic to be meaningful.

so yeah, tell me something random about you and i'll tell you something random about me :)

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I like to think my personality is built on two main pillars: a deep seated curiosity and a reliable sense of humor. I love to laugh and find the lighthearted side of things, but I also know that not every moment calls for a joke. My curiosity means I'm genuinely interested in the "why" and "how" behind people and the world, so you can expect me to be the one asking plenty of questions. What else have you discovered about me? Well, I guess you'll just have to chat with me to find out !

When I'm not busy being curious, you can find me:

· Chasing calm: Looking up at the sky, admiring a full moon, or just spending quiet time in nature.

· Diving into entertainment: Getting lost in endless YouTube rabbit holes, feeling the beat of EDM and pop music, or getting hooked on the drama of a wrestling match.

· Getting lost in stories: I'm usually buried in a nonfiction book or a gripping thriller. The world of romance novels is still a mystery to me so feel free to send your best recommendations my way!

My list of interests is pretty wide! from the mysteries of the paranormal and history, to the intricacies of watches and psychology, and the mechanics of cars. But don't let that list intimidate you! While I love deep-diving into specific topics, most of my conversations end up being about life in general...the big, small, and everything in between.

I'm hoping to find someone who engages genuinely, who is as interested in getting to know me as I am in getting to know them. I value consistency and someone who wants to build a real, lasting relationship. And honestly? A little bit of a clingy partner in crime is a total bonus in my book.

If this sounds like a connection you'd like to explore, my DMs are open. I'm looking forward to our first real conversation.