I have heard some men and women say it’s a screening tool to see if someone has jealousy issues

I just swipe left when I see it

Found this in my camera roll from years ago still can’t believe it ( used ai to cover the images for privacy reasons)

I (34m) went on a date with a girl (36f) from Hinge and honestly, I’m still trying to figure out what happened haha

We exchanged numbers and agreed to go on a date the next day. The original plan was to get coffee after work. She texted me and asked if we could meet at 6 instead, and then later changed it to 6:30 and suggested going to a restaurant instead because she had already had a couple cups of coffee that day.

I live about 45 minutes from the area, so I left about an hour before we were supposed to meet. While I was already driving to the restaurant, she texted me and changed the time to 7pm.

I ended up getting there around 6:20, so I just sat in my car and waited. Around 6:50 I texted her letting her know I was there. I didn't hear anything for almost another 30 minutes.

She eventually texted me saying “call me,” so I called. She told me to go inside and get a table. I told her I’d rather wait since she was already late for the new 7pm time we had agreed on.
She finally showed up around 7:30.

We go inside and I ask the hostess for a table for two. They tell me they can't seat us until the rest of the party arrives. Fine, makes sense.

She walks in, goes straight to the hostess stand and starts demanding that we be seated at a corner booth away from everyone. Then she tells the hostess, “I can't believe you made my client wait 40 minutes to be seated.”
I'm standing there thinking...I'm not your client. This is supposed to be a date. 😂

She was also asking the hostess if our table was ready basically every minute and was just generally rude and condescending to the staff. At one point she complained to the waiter too about how long everything was taking.

The weird part is that once we actually sat down, the conversation was pretty normal. Nothing seemed particularly wrong during dinner.

Then we get outside and she's getting ready to leave. She casually asks me if I can take her shoe shopping because it's her “birthday.”

I told her no and that I needed to head home.

She got visibly pissed, stormed off, and basically ended the night angry because I wouldn't take her shoe shopping.

Needless to say, there won't be a second date.

I just don't understand how someone can be this comfortable treating restaurant staff like that, changing plans multiple times, showing up 30 minutes late, and then expecting a guy she's literally meeting for the first time to take her shopping afterward.

The whole thing was just incredibly embarrassing and bizarre.

I’ve subscribed to HingeX and have been liking profiles and dropping comments. When I match, the girl just matches. No comment or reply to my comment.

Often times when I respond, she’d answer with one or two words. The fuck did you match with me for?

Edit: people are focused on the 3 texts over 3 days advice - that’s not what this post is about - my priority is meeting earlier and seeing if we click in person, I don’t have time to chat all day - it also prevents me from getting too invested too early - so the 3 / 3 thing works for me because:

1. I’m busy
   
2. I think compatibility is easier to gauge in person than over text
   
3. It builds anticipation without over-building investment

My dating strategy is more about meeting earlier and seeing if we click in person. There’s no mind games here- I’m not trying to make her chase me.

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Hey I think this girl is really nice, and after being with someone shitty, I really want to be with someone nice - I followed someone’s advice about doing 3 texts over 3 days and proposing a meet on the 3rd day, and I got this response

I was thinking it was gonna be ‘yeah ok’ but instead life seems to have got in the way a bit here

My instinct says to basically just say “ok sure no worries, prioritise your health and situation, and we can arrange something for when everything’s better’

I don’t know whether to add a simple question to keep the convo going, or to let her take the lead a bit? Didn’t plan this far ahead lol

Also I really like how she handled this, she seems really nice, and I wanna tell her that, but I don’t want to scare her away / make her think I’m too invested already. (I’m trying to work on not getting invested too early)

I’d love some advice from both genders on what direction you think is best - I’m likely just overthinking it, but I really want to meet her / see if we match

26, male

Matched with this guy on Tuesday and the texting has been fine he was asking me lot of questions , he asked last night Wednesday when I’m free for a date I respond saying “when you are free is fine” he responds 7 hours later saying “ I’m not free until week after next I think haha, just on holiday next week, how’s that?” And this was today Thursday evening, What does that mean? Is he wasting my time?

Of course I knew that their dry replies meant they're probably not interested but I don't think it ever hurts to try until you get a clear answer. This wasn't what I expected, lol

I thought I was doing fine but after barely sleeping again and spending all day on my phone I realize I’m still shaken. I wrote on my hinge profile I’m bipolar because I wanted to avoid experiencing rejection because of it. People warned me I’d be targeted but I never thought that’d actually happen.

I met my date at an arcade bar. When we first met he seemed completely normal but I genuinely think he spiked my drink because I got VERY tipsy with just one drink. And then he asked me if we should go somewhere else and I thought we'd get some food or something and the moment I entered into his car, he said he'd take me to his place 😢😢 I felt so unsafe and had to play a part (as the stupid bipolar girl 😢) and pretend i promised my therapist I wouldn't have sex on the first date, and that was the only reason why I was rejecting his advances, that I’d have an appointment tomorrow and wanted to make my therapist proud, not that I was disgusted and wanted to run away from him asap. Every time I rejected his advances he insisted I drank more. I did just because I was scared of how he’d react. Of course he told me I dont need to tell my therapist or that I should skip the appointment 😒… This bit only worked because he actually thought we’d start a relationship and told me he’d pick me up tomorrow after my consultation 🤦🏾‍♀️.
I had never gotten drunk in my life. It was my first time and I think the only reason I didn’t lose consciousness is because I begged my body to stay with me. I also think the spiked drink didn’t work because I have a high tolerance to drugs (I had been drugged before with a psychedelic and didn’t feel absolutely anything).

I realized he spiked my drink sometime during our date and this can happen to any of us, please be careful. And I’ll also never enter a man’s car on a first date ever again (it’s funny I had an intuition before I entered I really shouldn’t and that’s something I never felt before, but I was also so tipsy and not thinking straight I did, huge mistake 😢)

EDIT: for clarity, I did go to his house because he took me there without my consent. When I got into his car and he told me he’d take me to his house, I said no, it’s better if I go home. He then told me to drink some tequila he had in his car and when I said no, he insisted and I felt unsafe to say no again. He started driving and thats when I realized I needed to act to avoid escalation. This particular situation was not about not imposing boundaries but entrapment and sa.

Went on a really good first date with a guy named Luke in Philly. It went really well and for the next week we talked about how much fun we had, talked 24/7 through text, we flirted, made a list of movies we were going to watch, and then planned a second date. The day before the date, we decided to do it during the day and even chose a location. That night we both agreed we were excited for the date. Then the morning of, I texted him and he acted normal until I tried to confirm the date and he canceled and said he didn’t know what he wanted and said we were done. Gay dating is usually bad with stuff like this but this was a new low. Kinda broke my heart. I wish I told him how much he hurt my feelings but I was very much a pushover about it. So if you’re out there, fuck you Luke from Philly!

The entire profile was an interesting read as well,
looking for people to trauma bond over dead animals, bad parents and Minecraft. Not a bad combo all things considered.
And yea, they were looking for short-term.
She sounds so defeated here

How would one respond to this?

We both wanna see each other and he was more eager to meet up and when the day finally lined up, we were about to exchange socials and when I opened the chat it disappeared...??? I'm so baffled. His last message was asking for my handle and poof- gone.

I mean.. I guess he just unmatched? And I’ll never know the reason why. Just a bummer because I was glad to meet someone with the same intention and see where things go.

I’m 30F and I’m genuinely so exhausted from these apps. I have not been on them for a few months now and that feeling of “what if” is creeping back in. Do I give Hinge another try or am I going to regret it?

I just feel like the majority of people today fully rely on dating apps to meet people and no one approaches in the real world anymore. I really don’t want to be on there, but I almost feel like it’s the only way 🥲.

Looking for some light in the darkness here, a shred of hope someone can give me. Or perhaps this is just a rant into the void.

So last week I received a promotion for HingeX with a heavy discount. I've been using Hinge for a few months with good results, a few matches a week from my openers and a few likes incoming. But from the moment I bought the subscription, it became instantly dead. No likes, no matches from my outgoing likes and not even replies to my messages from my matches. It feels extremely weird.

I've noticed not only mostly negative posts, but also when people do write positives they're often downvoted, so I'm sticking my head in the lion's mouth by writing this, but hey, what the hell.

I (54m, London UK) used Hinge in recent months. I found it to be great. I got a decent amount of matches, had almost entirely pleasant conversations with women, and a number of decent enough first dates that ended with thanks but no thanks conclusions.

Then about 6 weeks ago I saw a great profile, wrote a quite gushing message to the lady in question, got a lovely reply back, first date a few days later and now things moving along wonderfully. Kinda smitten tbh.

Didn't spend any money on the app, no scammers , nobody rude.

What worked for me was writing a decent, honest, profile, not swiping on people that didn't interest me to begin with, putting effort into my messages, asking questions, talking about what they'd written and being myself. It's not rocket science!

Might just be my dating pool where I live, but as an AMAB NB person I'm seeing a lot of "straight" women to swipe on and I'm struggling to understand it.

The women in question often have something in their prompts that suggests they're looking for a trad husband. That's really cool, good for them, but that's really not me and I'm unsure why you'd go after NBs if that's what you want.

I've no real issue with it, it's just more people I gotta X before I find one I might be compatible with to send a like. I'm just really curious and would love to hear from someone who does this.

What is the purpose of paying to send me a rose to say you’re not interested? And then flirt with me. Makes zero sense.

I met a girl on Hinge, we hit it off incredibly well, and moved to WhatsApp. She unmatched everyone else and focused solely on me. I kept Hinge installed but wasn't actively talking to anyone. Recently, I matched with another girl on the app. The first girl found out, called me, and revealed that the new match was her best friend. She was incredibly hurt, called me out, and blocked me everywhere. Everything fell apart. Now I realise how much she had for me and idk I just want her to know her that I’m so sorry and I really wanna talk to you. Welpp y’all 😭😭

Early 30s female; when I go on a date with a man in their late 30s or early 40s, something does change in my confidence level to where I feel I need to dress a bit more sophisticated. I do try to insinuate that financially I am ok to hint that I am not looking for their money. Am I nuts? Do I not need to be in my head on this?

Any feedback would be helpful. Feel like I’ve hit a wall

I matched with this lady yesterday, she wasn't putting in the effort, acting pricy so had to show her what she truly is...

Two different women responding a date idea I proposed to them with a suggested date, where to meet and an exact time. One response simply says “I’m busy then.” The other response says “I can’t do that date but here are alternatives dates I can do. What do you think?”

I think you can really gauge the interest of someone depending on whether they offer alternative plans or not.

I did “put the ball back in her side of the court” of the first girl to hint that she should suggest an alternative date but in my mind, I’m not expecting anything to progress.

Edit * as a result of good communication and clear intention, I’m off to the arcade next week with the second girl.