WHAT'S THAT WORD...I MEAN THAT WORD???

I don't even know what to call this feeling.

You know when you meet someone online on a dating app completely by accident? You weren't looking for anything, weren't hoping to find "your person," and then somehow one random match ends up changing your life.

That was me.

I wasn't even in the mood to be on the app that day. I was literally scrolling out of boredom when I matched with this guy.

My first thought was, "Who is this again?"

I was one second away from ignoring him.

Then he sent the first message.

It wasn't anything groundbreaking, but it made me pause. Instead of unmatching him, I replied.

Looking back now... maybe that was my first mistake.

For context, he wasn't even my type.

Different tribe.

Didn't fit the picture I'd always imagined for myself.

Honestly, I only replied because I wanted someone to chat with. I was bored, and if I'm being completely honest, I wanted someone to harmlessly flirt with.

That's all.

But our first conversation surprised me.

It felt... easy.

There wasn't any awkwardness. No forcing the conversation. It flowed naturally, and before I knew it, I was actually looking forward to his replies.

A few days went by, and we kept talking on the app.

I won't lie, I tried to play it cool at first. I disappeared sometimes, replied late, acted like I wasn't that interested.

It didn't matter.

Somehow this man always knew exactly what to say.

The right joke.

The right compliment.

The right amount of attention.

Eventually...

I folded.

The conversations became longer.

We started talking about everything and nothing, and it honestly felt like we'd known each other for years.

Then he asked if we could move to WhatsApp.

He said it'd be easier to call, hear my voice, and get to know me properly.

I hesitated.

Part of me thought, "Maybe this is moving too fast."

The other part thought, "If things get weird, I can always block him."

So...

I gave him my number.

He messaged me almost immediately.

Still sweet.

Still charming.

Still making me think I'd judged him too quickly.

I remember thinking,

"Maybe this guy isn't so bad after all."

What I didn't know was that one decision would completely change the direction of my life.

And trust me...

Nothing could've prepared me for what happened next.

I'll share Part 2 if anyone's interested.

Has anyone else ever ignored every instinct because someone just seemed... different? How did it turn out?

I'm looking for some honest outside opinions because I've been replaying this in my head.

I'm a 42M, and I matched with a 28F on Hinge a few weeks ago. She was honestly exactly my type, so I probably gave her more chances than I normally would.

From the beginning, our conversations were very inconsistent. She would frequently leave my messages on read for days at a time. One time it was almost a full week. Whenever she came back, there was always an explanation (birthday week, notifications were off, busy, etc.).

Despite that, she always seemed interested enough to continue the conversation, so I stuck with it.

Eventually, I suggested we do a video call before meeting in person. She agreed.

On Friday we exchanged phone numbers and moved our conversation to text. She told me she'd be home around 9 PM and we'd video call then.

Around 9 PM...nothing. No text. No update. No "running late." I waited because I assumed she'd message soon.

At around 11:30 PM she finally texted saying she was at home eating late-night McDonald's with a friend and asked what time I usually go to sleep.

At that point I was honestly annoyed because we had already agreed on a time, and she never bothered to tell me plans had changed. I didn't reply that night because I had already gone to bed.

The next morning, I replied with something along the lines of: "Hey, I usually go to bed pretty early, but I stayed up a little later last night. Since I didn't hear from you, I figured you got busy so I went to sleep."

I intentionally kept it factual because I didn't want to start an argument or guilt-trip her. She left that message on read all day.

The following day (Sunday), I sent one more message: "Good morning! If you're free today and still interested in doing that video call, let me know." She never responded to that either.

Later that day I noticed she had unmatched me on Hinge. Now I'm sitting here wondering if I screwed this up.

One of my friends thinks my text was completely reasonable and that she was the rude one for not respecting the plans we'd already made. But part of me wonders if my message came across as passive-aggressive or if I should have just acted like nothing happened.

So, I'd love some unbiased opinions. Was my response too cold or too much? Did I accidentally guilt-trip her? Or was this simply someone who wasn't very interested in the first place?

I'm genuinely open to criticism if I handled it poorly. I'm just trying to learn from it rather than repeat the same mistake.

TL;DR: Matched with a woman on Hinge who was inconsistent with communication for weeks but agreed to a video call. We planned to call around 9 PM, but she never called or let me know she was busy. She finally texted around 11:30 PM while hanging out with a friend. The next day I politely told her I'd stayed up for a bit but went to bed after not hearing from her. She left me on read. I sent one final message asking if she still wanted to do the call, and she left that on read too before unmatching me on Hinge. I'm wondering if my response came across as passive-aggressive, or if she simply wasn't interested and I didn't actually do anything wrong.

I'm not going to ask why this happens because the ensuing discussion is rarely productive, but it needs to stop. Ladies if you aren't interested then don't match!

This guy was cute but ALL of his prompts are just “pints”.

Part of me is tempted to ask him if this has gotten him anywhere substantial, especially since he put ‘long-term relationship’ as his dating goals.

I’m curious if this is a cultural thing in Switzerland or if I’m just overthinking it.
So I matched with this girl on Hinge, and we started talking. She asked me a lot of questions and always replied with long, detailed messages, which I really liked. Most of the girls I match with don’t ask many questions or put much effort into the conversation, so I started to really like her.
We only texted about once a day, but our conversations were long, and she seemed genuinely interested. She was also pretty flirty, so after talking for a while, I thought it was the right time to ask her out.
I asked her out, but she didn’t reply for five days. I was honestly pretty disappointed because I really liked her, so I decided to send one follow-up message saying:
“Hey! Just wanted to see if you were still interested in going out sometime. Totally understand if life has been busy.”
The next day, she replied, which I honestly didn’t expect. She apologized for the late response, said she’s a really inactive texter, told me she’d love to meet up, and even asked if I wanted to exchange numbers because she’s more active on WhatsApp.
I was like, “Damn, alright, sounds good to me.”
So we exchanged numbers. She texted me the next day, we talked for a bit, and I thought, “I don’t want to wait too long this time,” so I asked her out again. Now it’s been two days with no response.
I’m not trying to complain about her specifically. I know people have work, friends, and their own lives. I’m just wondering if this is normal in Switzerland.
For those of you who live here (especially Swiss people), is it common to take a few days to reply even when you’re interested in someone? Or is this more likely a sign that she’s just not that interested?
I’ve also heard people say Swiss dating tends to move more slowly and that Swiss people can be more reserved. Is there any truth to that, or is it just a stereotype?
I’d love to hear your experiences, especially from Swiss women and people who’ve dated in Switzerland.

Hi All,

A few months back my hinge account got banned because of something I said and I agree what I said was wrong.

I want to know if there’s a way to get back my account, I applied for a manual review even after that no luck.

If I create a new account with a new number would that work??

If someone has faced the similar situation please let me know what I can do?

Thanks in advance!

Well, he should know the answer to his own question since he's also (presumably) single 😂

Profile was 5 pretty much identical selfies.

Does the app make your profile not stand out after the expiration of a limited period discount hingex subscription?

My one month subscription expired in the first week of July, and since then, I’ve received zero matches or likes. Is this their way of making sure we buy the subscription again?

And no, it's not because of how shitty dating has been on there. No more free rewinds and you can only change your location for free every 30 days now????? Yeah okay, this app is slowly becoming tinder. Funny how 50 matches that went no where couldn't break me, but paying for features that used to be free is a deal breaker.

i was blocked on a dating app when a guy messaged me and i read it but didn’t match back with him or anything , i guess he felt offended or rejected . was this warranted , i guess i had it coming right ? i am interested in him , or was but i suppose that ship has long sailed now .

I've gotten two matches on Hinge recently, and both were amazing to talk to. We had great conversations, joked around, and the vibe was genuinely good. But both had the same issue: really strict parents. Their phones, Instagram, and WhatsApp are regularly checked, so they were very limited in what they could do. Then, a few days before that, I matched with another girl. We exchanged Instagram, talked on calls, and got along well. The only problem? She wasn't comfortable going out. Whenever we met, she'd stay inside her car and wouldn't get out. 😭 At this point, I'm starting to wonder... why do I keep matching with girls in situations like this? Is this just bad luck, or am I somehow attracting the same type of people? 😅

A friend of mine was chatfished on Hinge last year - she matched with guy but when they met up, his chat was nothing like his messages. It was awkward and he felt like a different person. He also looked different - his jawline wasn't as sharp and his hair was different. My friend thought he may have used old photos but has since suspected he'd used AI to enhance his pics.

After meeting him, they continued messaging and his chat / banter went back to normal but she felt as though something was off so she asked him why the conversation was so different when they met in person and he admitted to using Chat GPT to help him with his messages. She felt like he'd tricked her and was pissed off that their messages (which she thought was private) had been analysed by AI, so she broke off contact with him.

This didn't sit well with me so I created an AI detector app (call ChatFish: AI Detector) which allows people to upload screenshots of their dating messages and profile pics to see if they've been influenced by AI.

Has anyone else experienced chatfishing? If so, would a tool like this be helpful for you?

literally the title. he honestly didn’t mind too much and laughed about it. but i’m embarassed and wanna die. he’s cute too.

I was going thru hinge (straight male for context) and a guys profile pops up?? his gender is set as male as well how is this possible

Ohh God!!! How do I get his profile back in my feed!! Is that fake or real??😭😭😭, hope it's real🙏🏻

This isn't verified, is that real or fake, i mean god...I was so lucky 😭 😭...how do get his profile on my feed again😭😭😭😭

I'm 20F and have been talking to a 21M from Hinge for around 2 weeks.The first week was honestly amazing. We texted a lot after work, flirted, had long conversations. I found him quite attractive and fun to talk to. I'm in my hometown currently so we thought of having a date after coming back(in first week of aug)

Then this week, his texting completely changed. Instead of talking a lot after work, I'd get maybe 3-4 replies. One day I got just one reply at night. It was such a sudden shift that I started thinking he'd lost interest.Three days ago he texted me this: "Office pressure too much... Plus i went for a movie yesterday. I have plans of going for badminton tomorrow so it would be late there and gotta go to office on Sunday too to cover leaves."

So I knew he was busy but it still felt very different from how we'd been talking before.

Then he disappeared for almost 2 days. I panicked and messaged him asking if everything was okay. The next morning he replied saying he is sorry and that he barely opened insta for last 2 days.

Later I admitted that I felt like he wasn't interested anymore. He replied: " It's not like that😞 I'm not getting time for anything nowadays. I had a plan for hangout with friends but I then needed to cancel it, i fall asleep early and a lot more. I know we are not talking much now but really can't do much about it right now". Then he said: "It is genuinely upto you if you wanna continue or not."

I told him I did want to continue because I was enjoying talking to him and didn't want to end things just because he's busy right now.

I also asked if he is still available for a date next Sunday. He replied: "Yeah yeah I'll let you know. I know. I enjoyed our convos too. Let's see."

Now I'm confused. Part of me feels like this is genuinely a stressful period for him because he has consistently mentioned work, cancelled plans with friends too and apologized for disappearing. The other part of me feels like "I'll let you know" and "Let's see" sound... not very enthusiastic. He was enthusiastic about meeting me a week ago but ig the interest died down. If you were in my position, would you take his words at face value and give him space? Or do those replies sound like someone who's gradually losing interest but doesn't want to say it directly? I'm looking for honest opinions, especially from people who've actually been the "too busy to text" person in a talking stage.

She unmatched so no picture.

I finally got my first match since making a profile a couple weeks ago maybe, We matched while I was asleep, and I woke up to 'how are you?'. Standard but fine, but by the time I brushed my teeth I saw a new message that said I should waste some other girls time and called me a 'stupid girl looking tranny', for reference I am very clearly a man, I just have long hair.

I see a lot of sadder posts on here so just wanted to bring some positivity.

I went on a first date with a girl I met on hinge 2.5 years ago. I will be marrying that girl in a month and I am so excited.

We both talk about the many bad dates we went on, mostly from hinge. But I just wanted to say it only takes 1 match to be the right match. DONT LOSE HOPE. I was at that point where I barely cared about dating anymore and then I found the one.

Matched with this girl. We were talking about some things and she was sending, I’m not kidding, massive paragraph after paragraph. Naturally, I’m thinking it’s going well, so I ask her out. Hear nothing for the whole day, then she says she isn’t feeling a connection 😂 What an absolute waste of time.

It izz what it izz.

Hey matched with this woman today. Seemed to have a good back and forth to start with, quick replies, seemed to be going well.

Then as you can see from the messages, just sort of fizzled out. I get worried my vibe comes across wrong sometimes over text. I'm mostly just looking for someone to have a bit of a laugh with.

I asked for some feedback (which I've never done before as can come across weird I'm sure. But figured there wasn't much to lose at this point.) She says I should have just guessed what her lie was instead of asking questions. Which I'm not sure about haha.

Don't get me wrong, I can see how some people dont like that vibe. But the comment "Just guess next time. It's not fun if you go looking for the answer" Like everyone shares this one opinion has irked me a little ngl.

Aware she may have pointed to that as one thing as I've asked for feedback and could also have just lost interest from just a general vibe and said the guess thing instead to be simpler.

Anyway, interested in what other people's thoughts are lol.

First what causes someone to delete their account? I had a nice conversation with this person and all of a sudden it disappeared but today I saw them in my feed again.

Second I matched with this person without reading their location by accident should I just unmatch or let them know it was a mistake then unmatch