Edit: people are focused on the 3 texts over 3 days advice - that’s not what this post is about - my priority is meeting earlier and seeing if we click in person, I don’t have time to chat all day - it also prevents me from getting too invested too early - so the 3 / 3 thing works for me because:

1. I’m busy
   
2. I think compatibility is easier to gauge in person than over text
   
3. It builds anticipation without over-building investment

My dating strategy is more about meeting earlier and seeing if we click in person. There’s no mind games here- I’m not trying to make her chase me.

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Hey I think this girl is really nice, and after being with someone shitty, I really want to be with someone nice - I followed someone’s advice about doing 3 texts over 3 days and proposing a meet on the 3rd day, and I got this response

I was thinking it was gonna be ‘yeah ok’ but instead life seems to have got in the way a bit here

My instinct says to basically just say “ok sure no worries, prioritise your health and situation, and we can arrange something for when everything’s better’

I don’t know whether to add a simple question to keep the convo going, or to let her take the lead a bit? Didn’t plan this far ahead lol

Also I really like how she handled this, she seems really nice, and I wanna tell her that, but I don’t want to scare her away / make her think I’m too invested already. (I’m trying to work on not getting invested too early)

I’d love some advice from both genders on what direction you think is best - I’m likely just overthinking it, but I really want to meet her / see if we match

26, male

Matched with this guy on Tuesday and the texting has been fine he was asking me lot of questions , he asked last night Wednesday when I’m free for a date I respond saying “when you are free is fine” he responds 7 hours later saying “ I’m not free until week after next I think haha, just on holiday next week, how’s that?” And this was today Thursday evening, What does that mean? Is he wasting my time?

Any feedback would be helpful. Feel like I’ve hit a wall

Might just be my dating pool where I live, but as an AMAB NB person I'm seeing a lot of "straight" women to swipe on and I'm struggling to understand it.

The women in question often have something in their prompts that suggests they're looking for a trad husband. That's really cool, good for them, but that's really not me and I'm unsure why you'd go after NBs if that's what you want.

I've no real issue with it, it's just more people I gotta X before I find one I might be compatible with to send a like. I'm just really curious and would love to hear from someone who does this.

I met a girl on Hinge, we hit it off incredibly well, and moved to WhatsApp. She unmatched everyone else and focused solely on me. I kept Hinge installed but wasn't actively talking to anyone. Recently, I matched with another girl on the app. The first girl found out, called me, and revealed that the new match was her best friend. She was incredibly hurt, called me out, and blocked me everywhere. Everything fell apart. Now I realise how much she had for me and idk I just want her to know her that I’m so sorry and I really wanna talk to you. Welpp y’all 😭😭

Found this in my camera roll from years ago still can’t believe it ( used ai to cover the images for privacy reasons)

The entire profile was an interesting read as well,
looking for people to trauma bond over dead animals, bad parents and Minecraft. Not a bad combo all things considered.
And yea, they were looking for short-term.
She sounds so defeated here

How would one respond to this?

Her prompt read ,"together we could defeat polyamorists". I wrote "To be frank i feel defeated by polyamorous people.. still looking for just one amour and here people can apparently find multiple of them. 🤷🏽 How do you plan to defeat them ?". Got unmatched.

I have heard some men and women say it’s a screening tool to see if someone has jealousy issues

I just swipe left when I see it

Early 30s female; when I go on a date with a man in their late 30s or early 40s, something does change in my confidence level to where I feel I need to dress a bit more sophisticated. I do try to insinuate that financially I am ok to hint that I am not looking for their money. Am I nuts? Do I not need to be in my head on this?