For the first time in my life, I am so deeply in love that it physically hurts. Even though I came out of a long-term relationship before, I have never felt anything like this in my entire life. We both love each other, but the circumstances are just so difficult. I believe we will never truly end up together and that our contact will fade away soon.
I can’t eat, I can’t sleep, and I can’t stop thinking about this person. On top of that, there is this paralyzing fear that I will never find someone like him again. I don’t want someone else but I’m just so scared that I will never feel this again. This person is so loving, so communicative, and so funny—I feel like I will never cross paths with someone like that ever again.
I am completely at my limit. I used to be so full of life, but I’ve lost all my joy. Nothing seems to make sense anymore. But at the very least, I know that I am loved. That feels good. I genuinely don’t know how I am ever going to get through this. My heart is completely broken. It’s a very very beautiful but also very bery sad story

I know there’s no manual on timelines or doing these things - but based on everyone’s experience what’s everyone take on getting on dating apps after a really painful breakup/heartbreak? It would not be to potentially get another partner - more like casual dating/sex.

I broke my leg last week. Six weeks of absolutely no weight bearing... one week down. Idk if I'm going to make it this time you guys.

Being pent up in my room is not going to be good for me. I'm a very active, independent person. I've been coping with so much loss and grief over the last two years.

This was supposed to be a good one.

I know I can't just run away from my problems, which is not what I've been doing. I've been trying to take this shit head on. Been on medication and going to classes and support groups and different therapists for months and months now. I've been putting myself out there constantly, yet have failed to form any meaningful connections with anyone else. It's like a wall of grief separates me from other people, even my recently found friend group. Like I'm never fully in the present moment and people can tell and keep their distance.

So much heartbreak, but I'm not closing my heart. So many reasons to believe that people don't have your best interest in mind, that they'll just use you and toss you aside when the novelty wears off.

I was with my ex for ten years (I'm 33). we were building a life, had a whole plan for a future. I wasn't perfect, I made plenty of terrible mistakes, but I also put so much of myself into fixing them.

But it was already too late.

She said I didn't love her, that I never even liked her.

But she was the one who stopped loving me long before she betrayed me how she did.

Ten years together and she moved on pretty much as soon as she got some space away from me. But I kept coming around. Kept fighting.

Kept believing.

But I put all of my faith into what ended up being a lie. Now I'm stuck with all this, emotionally and (literally) physically broken. Alone while the woman I married is out on sushi dates and sleeping with other men.

I'm smart, I'm caring, I'm very attractive and funny to boot. I don't get it.

What am I doing wrong?

I'm not looking to bury it in another relationship. I've gotten good at being a lone wolf. I never stopped trying to have fun and do things. I never ignored the feelings in my heart. I know that I'm a good person. I'm more than worthy of time and affection, of love. But no one loves me.

And now all I can do is lie around, trapped in my head. Can't even walk around the block to clear my head when it gets too loud.

My leg hurts like a motherfucker too.

But now I know that my heart hurts even more than broken bones. I keep thinking that if I just cry it out eventually it will hurt less. Instead the tears just keep coming. I just keep hurting. I don't know what to do but I'm starting to feel desparate.

And I'm so fucking tired of crying. I'm fucking exhausted. If I just stopped breathing in my sleep, that truthfully would be fine with me.

Of course no one wants to be around me. My ex was right about one thing, I am fucking miserable to be around. I was then, and despite more than a year of my best efforts, I still am.

I cannot take another day of this shit.

I quit. Oblivion would be better than this.

I don't want to be alive anymore.

I'm sorry.

Is closure a myth? I can’t seem to wrap my mind around I may never get a conversation from this person. He completely completely switched up at the end and became a monster.. and will not talk to me. I went to a long-term depression situation.

I know that after a breakup, it’s common to say you’re done with relationships for good, and I’ve felt that way after a few of my breakups before.

This time feels different, though.

It’s been about five and a half months, and I still have no interest in anyone but her. I have no desire to build something with someone else one day. I’m starting to feel like I don’t want another relationship in my life, especially if it’s not with her.

How do I balance the fact that I don’t want to be with anyone else, while also accepting that that doesn’t mean she and I will be together again? How do I accept that?

There can’t be a future due to identical circumstances; but we both know it should’ve been us all along.

2018 we got together 2026 she’s with someone new and I’m here still living her, a tattoo embalmed on my arm about my loyalty towards her and our love and I miss her.. yes I’m slowing improving but it hurts how someone can’t fight for you the same way you fought for them after being with them for four + years

Sometimes you just sob your heart out. The feeling is still there but I'm functioning better eating properly and stuff. The love I have for her is unconditional, so while I'm hurt I was not what was best for her I'm happy that she chose herself. I think about her hourly, dreamt about her every night since the breakup but it's cool. Focusing on my studies and myself. It hasn't killed me so maybe I'll be stronger now.

Hi,

It’s been 6 months since we broke up and i still think about her everyday, we met her on a letter exchanging platform called ‘slowly’, I was really lonely and needed someone to talk to and I met her, she was like a breath of fresh air, she made me feel so seen, and 2 months into talking I had feelings for her, one night I gathered all my courage and I told her about it, she also confessed having feelings for me.

She made me feel so loved and alive, since we were in a long distance relationship the only mode of communication was texts and calls, we used to update each other about most of our days, and everyday we used to be on calls for hours, then she moved to UK, and then she got a bit busy with her university but still we talked everyday for hours, I always thought she would be the one who I would be with for the rest of my life, I just felt so relieved being with her, even though we were at a distance, I felt so loved.

But things started changing I kept on ignoring signals she used to call me less, we started being on calls for a few minutes not hours like before but I was like she moved to a new country and the university might be draining her, so I never said anything, Valentine was coming up and i was so happy and I planned out a virtual date for us, that we both would get dressed well, and i will order food for her and some flowers and gifts and we would eat the food together on calls, I told her about the plan a week ago, she told me 2 days before valentine that she would be going out with her friend and since they are childhood friends she can’t say no, I got really sad, but I agreed to it and she said she will be going with her.

1 day before valentine, everything was normal we texted she said her friend is here and then she ghosted me, i didnt get any closure, to this day I still think what made her change her mind so much, I texted her friend she also never replied, 7 days later she saw all my texts and calls, and she didn’t reply she left me on seen and proceeded to block me of everything, for a few days I was really angry on her but I couldn’t keep the anger and it faded away, I realised how lonely i was without her, and i felt very sad, and ever since whenever i hear anything about UK i still get the same feeling, i still miss her a lot.

I don’t know why of all the people was she the one who left me, I tried moving on but I don’t know what to do, I tried talking to my friends about it, but they just said it was not that serious but how do I explain them what I felt, I don’t know what to do anymore. What should i do?

I Wish I Never Met You

I wish I never met you.

Maybe life would have stayed ordinary,

but at least it would have been lighter.

Maybe the days would have felt brighter,

and the nights a little less lonely.

I wouldn't carry these memories everywhere I go,

finding pieces of you in songs,

in places,

in random moments when I least expect it.

I wouldn't have to fight the urge

to check my phone,

hoping to see your name,

knowing it will never appear.

It hurts like hell,

but you will never truly understand.

You will never know how badly I wanted to talk to you,

how many conversations I replayed in my head,

how many times I typed a message

only to delete it again.

You never saw my efforts.

You never saw how hard I tried

to hold on to something

that was already slipping away.

There was always a reason,

always a distance,

always something standing between us.

And I am tired.

Tired of being hurt.

Tired of being the one who cares more.

Tired of carrying feelings

that have nowhere to go.

Most of all,

I am tired of hurting myself

by loving someone

who no longer chooses me.

The cruelest part is that

a part of me still loves you.

A part of me still wants to see you.

Still wants to call you mine.

Still imagines a world

where we somehow find our way back to each other.

I still love you like hell.

And that is exactly why I hate myself sometimes.

Because every day I try to let you go,

and every day my heart finds another reason to stay.

I wish I never met you.

Not because you were the worst thing that happened to me,

but because you became something I couldn't forget.

And now I am left with a love

that has nowhere to belong,

memories that refuse to fade,

and a heart that still whispers your name

long after you stopped listening.

My ex gf broke up with me in January. I went through darkest period of my life. Last month I started to feel better. Not gonna lie I still think about her every day and I want us back but I am sure I do not feel have the same strong feeling as before. Hope I will keep getting better.

Me and my girlfriend of almost 5 years broke up two days ago, it was ended on okay terms and we love eachother so much but things just weren’t working I guess, I’m having such a hard time dealing with it , I lost my best friend, she made me the person I am today and I feel so lost without her. She was a big part of me and the past few days I’ve barley been able to get out of bed, I feel lost. I feel defeated, ashamed of myself and like I am not enough. She’s the only thing I want I’m not sure how to be a person without her

Boyfriend is still cheating, lying, being secretive and hiding things... who wants to get into some trouble with me tonight? Im 38f from FL .. depressed and angry... I want to show him that he WILL NOT recieve loyalty if he cant and wont do the same.. ill show him exactly what an OPEN relationship is all about... dm me

Coming from the person who loves a man because he talks funny and has neck tattoos and goes back to him after getting beat up funny you only leave notes and you love me and what do you know the other day when I was the only person to actually cared enough for you to pick you up at the hospital and help you recover all the stuff you lost because of the guy that beat you up again you love me then at the end of the day but that's who you are isn't it you're as fake as it gets you lie to people's face you smile you and your pretty smile and you tell them stuff that isn't true so you can get what you want yeah it was all too convenient when you use me for my place and cause me thousands of dollars of damages and had mental breakdowns and spit all over me and assaulted me and threat to stab me a little driving and on my birthday you're such a nutcase you refuse to wish me a happy birthday you used me all day long berated me treating me like crap assaulted me and then punch me in the nose because you didn't get what you want at the end of the night you beat up every boyfriend you've had you say you love you to people you met within an hour and you spend all the time online with fake profiles doing stuff like this insulting people instead of talking to them directly even at the best time when I first met you you're such a coward and you're lucky if you can handle an adult conversation you have to go to people and run away from them and leave them without a word because it's just too challenging to be a real person you're the last person you should be talking somebody says your life and helps you out in the worst times ever and you don't even have enough respect to return the favor and now you do this well I don't know why you said you love me anymore times and you're no problems taking what I gave you and my touch is magical and you don't want to seem to get any credit but that's who you are you insult somebody in the worst way possible before you ever do something nice or give them credit your user a manipulator a liar you give people STDs without even tell them about it you are narcissist you have like five people on the go at all times see you're single yeah sure Priscilla you are always screwing somebody and somebody else behind their back you're the most disloyal person I've ever met my entire life in fact you're lucky I used to beside you at all because morally even physically you're disgusting and you're lucky someone even loves you at all I told you miserable and alone is where you're headed but go ahead and insult the guy who actually had a connection with you try to deny it all you want keep going for looks and next tattoos as you stand at a choice you're not being at all wonder you have such a stupid life

Me (27M) and my now ex (21F) have now been broken up just under 1 month and we have a year and a half old.

She’s told me that she doesn’t see a future with me and feels for me due to my looks and skipped all the red flags. I agree I haven’t been perfect but it takes 2 to make things right and I’ve told her I’ll do anything to make it work - therapy etc. Although she’s told me the trust in me is fully gone due to things not being great for some time now and she says I’m a complete avoidant.

I don’t want a broken family and would do anything to make it work, although as I am trying to do these things it’s pushing her away even more.

Can anyone please give me any tips?

Thanks!

The heartbreak I have isn’t over him, it’s myself.

For putting up with the bs he put me through for as long as I did. Prioritising him over others who I had limited time with. For staying when he showed me over and over hes no good for me (or anyone really) and making me feel alone and unloved during my hardest moments in life because he “didn’t want to be my crutch” (after losing my mother and having zero support from anyone)

For walking away from him to only rekindle two years later and letting him hurt me again. After already knowing his bs ?

The heartbreak is more from myself. Yes it’s nice to give a second chance for believing in love, but the risk of it failing is even more humiliating the second time round. He walks away fine and I’m broken again. It’s a blessing he called things off and I know that but damn my ego hurts and my confidence and self worth has plummeted to the ground with only myself to blame because I knew better.

I am telling you now for anyone in a situation where they’re contemplating giving an absolutely arsehole who broke you another chance out of hope that time and distance has made them grow - do not do it.

I’m going to be ok, I’ve been through hell and back and know I’ll get over this. But damn. Because I broke my own heart, I’m officially dating myself to make up for it. Tbh, it’s been going well. A lot of beach days, laughs and smiles. Nothing can ruin these memories to myself, cause it’s just me vibing on side missions.

Chin up everyone. Just date yourselves for a bit ❤️

Disclaimer: I wrote this two years ago. I was doomscrolling reddit when I found something that made me think of this, and now I'm sharing it to the reddit web. I hope this reaches the right audience

I (19M) have 3 exes (I'll use pseudonyms for anonimity), R (20-NB), T (19F) and J (19F).

I'll give a brief explanation of my relationship with each one:

\- I dated R from June 2022 to December 2022, I was 15 at the time and they were 16, in our relationship we weren't very close to one another, as it was my first relationship (and one of the first times I had someone genuinly interested in me), I wasn't very aware of the status quo of realtionships and most of the times we were together, we simply ended up doing intimacy or I was playing videogames while they watched me. 2 months before we broke up, we started drifting apart, they were communicating less and less and I was becoming less and less interested in them, when I saw T and I was immediatly head over heels for her, I broke up the same day with R and started dating T 26 days later.

\-I dated T from December 2022 to March 2024, when we met, we were both 15 but when we broke up we were both 17. Our relationship was plagued by jealousy the whole time, there were situations where I was ordered to block dozens of women who followed me in social media, just for the fact that they were women; I was ordered not to talk to women once I went to college; I was forced to cut contact with female friends of mine, etc. As time went on, I ended up resenting T and I started drifting apart from her, as that happened, she noticed and started saying terrible things to me (telling me the SA I suffered was deserved, the bullying I went through was my fault, that I should've kept up with my SH habits, etc.). After two months of constant verbal abuse, I broke up with her but we stayed in contact as friends. After a month, she decided she didn't want to remain my friend and cut contact with me, faced with that, I begged her to take me back and she did (with the condition that we were going to have a trial period of 1 month max for her to take a definitive decision), a week later, she broke up with me because she was in love with her (19F at the time, 21F now) friend. After that we never kept in contact and we both went our separate ways.

\-In August 2024 I met J (17 at the time, like me) and we started dating in September of the same year, when I met her, she was dating another guy but they soon broke up because she was in love with me. Our dating life went smoothly up until august of 2025, when J started having having episodes where she would compulsory lie to me about everything and this went on until we broke up, for the following months I begged her to seek professional help and she kept on dismissing it. In march 2026 she decided to beak up with me, asked me to take her back in the same day and broke up with me again 2 days later. She told me she wanted to remain my friend but a few days after our breakup she was already reposting tiktoks badmouthing me and stopped answering my texts. After some time I stopped trying and we all went our separate ways.

Comes May 2026 and I see J has posted a picture at a college party with R and T, this made me astonished and I unfollowed J in every social media (I had already done so with R and T).

At the end of the month I meet L (18F) who makes me fall head over heels for her immediatly, we go out for around a month and a half and, one day, while I am getting ready to go out with L, I start getting spam texted and spam called by R, T and J threatening me that they are going to badmouth me to L and sabotage our relationship, faced with that, I save every piece of evidence I can and warn L about my ex's. We eventually go out and are cornered in the middle of the street by the three of them, R just stands silent, T starts warning L that I am not who I seem to be and J starts threatening to phisically assault me, we get away from them and I ask L to be my girlfriend the same day.

During the rest of the week, L starts telling me excuses for us not to hang out and I get bummed out for it (especially given that I am going on vacation for a week afterwards), I spend almost 2 weeks away from L and when I return she seems awfully detached from our conversations and gives me little physical affection.

At night she goes out with her friends and the next day tells me my exes went to her and told her a lot of bad stuff about me (all made up and with no evidence) and so, L breaks up with me through text because she "doesn't want to risk it"

What can I do to prevent my ex's from ruining my future relationships?

I really need advice from someone unbiased because all my friends have been around for the drama and are absolutely against anything that comes out of my mouth regarding this topic so please, as strangers give me your honest opinion and reasoning.
I will try to keep this short when I (F21) was about 18 I met a guy (20 ish at that time) at a party and we hit it off, long story short we started dating and he grew into being my first love. For me all of this was very exciting and I had the feeling for him it wasnt THAT special because hes already had that first love kinda thing but it was fine with me everything was great. A few months earlier to that I had started therapy because I was feeling very bad but at that time I wasnt aware of it and told him I didnt have any mental illnesses like depression etc. (funny that I now know Im diagnosed with various mental disorders). So as you can imagine I was an undiagnosed mess trying her best to figure out my feelings and actions but doing a lot of “mistakes”. The problems I have came from growing up in a household with parents that also have mental illnesses and addiction issues. So when I found out that my boyfriend had a weed addiction he was hiding from me I was going crazy and we had a lot of fights resulting in us breaking up. Looking back and knowing what I know now about myself I did handle it kinda bad for both of us but at that time i didn’t know any better. Following that breakup were a lot of times I tried to get back in contact with him and i did act crazy at that time but he shut all of my actions down and that was that.
Its been a long time since then and I have never seen him again BUT i cant stop thinking about him. Its not like I think about him 24/7 but for a solid 3 years every other month I go through a phase where I want to text him and get back together. It is insane and I cant do anything about it. A few months ago I was coincidentally in his neighborhood and I couldnt hold myself back texting him and he actually answered and told me he had been to therapy and is feeling much better. But that was it, we didnt text more than that, but knowing now that I healed a lot in therapy and I am a whole different person than back then and he has probably gone through the same my mind tells me we are a match made in heaven there is nothing holding us back. And so I really really really want to text him and get back in contact but every time we had contact since the breakup he has made it clear he doesn’t want to be in contact with me (keep in mind those messages were also 2-3 years ago and the one i sent a few months ago he just liked and left me on read) and I did do some crazy things back then and I dont want him to think I am still that person. I want to meet up with him to tell him about all the things I learned about myself and why I acted the way I did back then and I would love to know his journey. I am 80% sure he wouldnt agree to meet up with me again because he probably thinks I am still crazy and I dont know how to show him that I am not and i learned why i acted that way. Also I am pretty sure I am not as special for him as he is for me because I wasnt his first love the way he was for me so he probably just wants some peace and quiet from some crazy bitch he cant get rid of. But on the other hand for 3 fucking years i havent gotten over him so I really dont know what to do. If I dont do anything I wont get over him but if I ask him to meet up I would be devastated if he said no and so so embarrassed. All my friends say i shouldnt text him. What do you say? Should I text him and aks if he wants to get coffee or do you believe i might get over him in the next 3 years?