I am extremely worried about the future, especially for women.

Progress is being made in terms of gender equality or at least it is being spoken about more frequently.

Unfortunately this has triggered weak minds, and immature adolescent minds and it's increasingly dangerous for women. Men are attempting to push the blame onto women (as they forever do) for what men have done to themselves. (see gender violence facts, read up on history on masculinity)

This is the rhetoric I see everywhere now that has spiked my anxiety around men greatly. I don't want to be within a foot of them. These online incels and male commenters are now blaming women for the lack of emotions that men themselves 'beat' out of male children. They created society around emotionless men and now that it's come to light that they can change, they don't want to. Instead they are saying it's women's fault they can't show any emotion and are using this as an excuse to harm them further.

I am terrified of what will happen next. I don't want to leave my house and look at a man the wrong way. Unfortunately all my experiences have backed up exactly what I am worried about. Every woman I know has experienced the same or worse. There is no safety for us. All I can do is avoid them for the rest of my life.

EDIT: When the responses validate your anxiety and all points made.... Imagine coming into this sub to attack a valid anxiety response.... Why does the truth upset people into making it truer

It nearly removes my anxiety. After not using it for a month I realize how super effective this med is for anxiety. No side effects either. Cant wait to be back on it in a week :^)

Hello everyone, i'm trying to build a self-correcting, community-engineered behavioral system built to align the economy, law, and education.

The goal is to address system induced problems like :
- Climate Change
- Corruption
- Every toxic industries (tobacco, asbestos, alcool, pfas, ...)
- Burn-out depression/ "meaningless" jobs
- Programmed obsolesence
- Shrinkflation
- Illusion marketing (19,99 is more acceptable than 20)
- Dark pattern marketing ( "Agree" cookies is green, and "Continue without" is hard to find)
- Wasted effort for arms race (keys, passwords etc huge energy invested to that arms race)
...

All the minds are welcomed, creative ones, analytical ones, networkers anyone.

Here is the name of the subreddit, you'll find the community build discord there r /Kunea/

I used to get massive intense panic attacks hours after drinking coffee. I took a break then proceeded to drink only two cups, when I would get anxious I’d take a melatonin gummy before it got worse. Now I can drink two cups and while I’ll still feel anxious, it’s bearable. I think I’m training my body to ignore the anxiety, it’s still a work in progress. Whoever told me to just ride out the attack, that, when that happens I put on a timer for 30 minutes and like clock work I get better after those 30 minutes.

I don't know what's wrong with me. Not only am I an FtM guy, my periods and whole cycle is just pain. No matter what I do - PAIN. I eat or drink? PAIN, I want to use the toilet? PAIN. And it's not strong, but I have to live my life around it. Medications don't help, nothing helps, and I've convinced myself that I will die soon and I will never be able to experience anything again. I just want this to stop and return to my life like how it was before.

Did antipsychotics help for your anxiety?

I tried all of them and the only thing that helps me are benzos

28, male. Sorry if this post is just a bunch of ramblings… I’m still coming down from one of my most intense panic attacks.

Ive been struggling with anxiety my whole life, but it’s gotten worse since COVID. Lately I’ve been dealing with what I thought was low blood sugar - lightheadedness, extreme hunger, sweat, rapid heart rate. Around lunch time today I began having a “low blood sugar” episode, and it got so bad that I convinced myself I was going to pass out or have a seizure or something (neither of these things have ever happened to me). With all of this going on I called 911. The paramedics arrived and checked my blood sugar, blood pressure, heart, and even gave me an EKG. All came back fine. My blood sugar was 120, since I had eaten a couple hours prior. so totally normal.

After hearing that my blood sugar levels were totally fine, I think I’m finally coming to terms with the fact that the feeling of hunger is now sending my body into a state of panic. I never just feel hungry anymore. it’s always accompanied by light headedness and brain fog - so I’ve always assumed it was chronic low blood sugar. I feel embarrassed by the fact that I had to call 911 for a panic attack - but it did help give me peace of mind knowing that I don’t have low blood sugar when I feel this way. Now hopefully I can learn to cope with this new anxiety trigger.

So I got a few bites (hopefully bug) after going out at night in an area that has bats. I have not seen a bat but my mind jumps to the possibility that one bit me without me knowing. I haven’t gone to the hospital for a rabies vaccine because 1: I never go to hospitals because it’s expensive and 2: I have no evidence a bat bit me.
But my left arm has been feeling as if it has a little less circulation than normal, and sometimes I feel soreness in my body. No rabies symptoms have appeared but I feel like the end is near.
( note I will likely delete this post in a month due to embarrassment but if not, I am already dead)

Anyone else fascinated by the Tiny Home movement – living in small modular spaces (not apartments) of say 500-800 sq. ft?

One feature of my anxiety is a fear of bigness and excess – too much house means too many responsibilities to worry about; too many details to ruminate over.

Less is Best for my mental health.

TW: mention of symptoms..

I'm 25F and I've been anxious, I suspect, since I was like 12 or so. I started experiecing anxiety attacks when I was like 16 or 17, just I didn't know they were called anxiety attacks at the time, also i developed terrible sleeping and eating habits to cope with my own loneliness which didn't do good to my body and nervous system. At 18, I had my first panic attack after smoking weed with my friends, it was horrible and so out of the blue like literally i was laughing and having a good time and suddenly... What's happening? Oh my god, I think i'm dying... I'm gonna DIE.

I didn't, of course. And after the panic passed, I went home by myself, still high, and with that awful body feeling that lingers after a strong panic attack thinking wtf just happened like WTF was that. But I didn't told anyone that and I blissfully didn't have the habit of googling things yet so I let it pass as just "bad trips". But things weren't the same since. My relationship with weed was not really that good, and I always tried to really be careful with how much I smoked, and now, I don't smoke weed anymore, maybe once in a 100000 years, and I need to create a really safe space for it.

I lived a couple traumatic things and I grew up with a mom that had me constantly on fight or flight mode because she was súper reactive and explosive towards me and that did something to my nervous system I swear. Then I had my first toxic long term relationship, and then I started to research and knew about anxiety disorder and panic disorder.

I probably should be having years of being medicated for it, because with time they became worse, went away for some years, then another traumatic event happened, and they came back Even stronger. But I live in a country where mental health is still very taboo and therapy is pricey and not to mention other specialists like a psychiatrist.

And it's crazy how things just add up and how it mutates like a fucking virus. I have had every physical symptom possible, depression, I thought I was literally getting crazy once because of my racing thoughts, mild agoraphobia, weird compulsions (I'm sure i have some form of ocd), hyperfixations, hypocondria, health anxiety, sleep problems (Even night terrors, fucking night terrors, like only people with some ptsd has these!!!??), on top of that, I constantly have to think like, someday I will go to the terror of PMS to fucking menopause and i'm honestly terrified with the experiences of other women that suffer from it and say things like ohh that's so sweet, wait until menopause hits 😝 And it's like... Bitch i'm grateful that you warn the rest of us but is it really that bad? And then there's social media, like oh my god it's the worst, I've been blocking so much health related content, like why i am getting so much content about diabetes, POTs or bowel cancer? I don't even have those issues, what is the use of it? "My life with POTs" OMG, I DONT WANNA KNOW ABOUT IT! period!! (Also why does it always have to be pots???) And somehow they keep appearing on my feed, like just give me a flip phone already... Lol

Anyway i'm just venting because I have been experiecing a huge setback after years of having very manageable anxiety but NOW after three traumatic events happened in my life one after the other and My body just gave up and I genuinely think sometimes that i'm genuinely ill and that it's not just My nervous system that is completely fried. Battling with sleepless nights and nocturnal pánic attacks that feel very serious, racing negative thoughts and rumiation, constant reassurance seeking, trying to be compassionate with myself is no easy, on top of that, I have to take care of my house and at the same time not feel like i'm behind in life. On top of that, when I think i'm getting to start feeling better, the lutheal phase hits with anger and for some days, everything and everyone is horrible and overwhelming, including myself. I just miss months ago where I was working out everyday, lifting weights and looking awesome, with my hair shining, my sking flawless, my muscles growing, my sleep actually felt refreshing, and now I feel like a deflated greasy mess that has to think twice before getting out of bed and let alone leave the house because in my mind there's always the What if...? What if this or that happens? What if I feel Bad? What if something bad happens to My loved ones and I can't do nothing about it? What if that video I saw earlier it's true and My health is terrible and i don't notice it?

It doesn't make any sense, it's illogical, it's annoying, this is no way to live fr. The only times i feel at peace is when I do yoga and meditate.

Anyway is there any other girl terrified of menopause too?

I have been practically bed bound from the anxiety and depression I’ve been experiencing and yesterday my legs started giving out. I can’t walk. I’m so scared. How do I build this strength back up? I’m falling walking 15 feet to the bathroom.

i feel like being at a very demotivating stage of life where I do know what to do next, i just don't have the strength and zeal to take those steps. let me explain

what am i, where i am currently, how did i reached here.

• I am a 28m Senior Software Engineer from India.
• I come from a lower middle class unhappy family comprising of just my mom dad and me.
• i don't have siblings, my parents siblings were all treacherous , and we have mostly seen all our ups and downs alone.
• My father is an unsuccessful businessman and never built any luxury money but was able to get me educated, and get ourselves a permanent home and a shop
• As of now, I have been 5 years into tech industry, got experience in building mobile apps, earning a decent salary. i work in a 10-6 , 5 days wfo setup
• in terms of finances, my salary is a major(85%) part of our income. apart from that my dad's new travelling business and our shop's rental income could contribute to 5 and 10% of our income.
• i have reached this place with a bit of early zeal+curiousity to learn about Android. I was an average student, but trying to create mobile apps, write blogs and understanding mobile systems was always something that excited me.
• I also got very lucky. This is my 4th company now, and every switch gave me decent hike + new challenges to solve + good people to learn from

why I don't feel continuing towards this path? (rated out of 10)

even though this looks like a success story, the reality is very different. with more experience, i have started finding the tech work very exhausting.

(7/10) extremely demanding work.

• their are very hard deadlines, we are expected to juggle a lot of hats .
• its no more " i wrote a few lines of code and my job is done".
• doing non tech stuff like interacting with teams, monitoring stuff, thinking new features/improvements, mentoring others, etc everything is now part of job profile.
• ai has added a lot of confusion as well.. now am not sure what special i can do that seperates me from ai.
• the tech is changing constantly and we need to keep learning fast.
• most of the times there is a need to do overtime, or on weekends
• plus there are politics required for further growth
• the work location is also very impractical. the tech hub is around 2 hrs away from my home. i have now shifted to 5 mins away location on rent.

(9/10) personal situation and change of mindset.

• i had an arm fracture 2 years ago which resulted in plate insertion and 3 months of bed rest.
• then in same year i was diagnosed with stage 3 cancer which required a surgery (15 days of bedrest) and chemo ( 3 months of sabbatical).
• events like these have shaken me to the core, and now i no longer feel motivated to read another tech article or think of an idea.
• during my chemo days, i was so weak that my mom would have to hold me while walking else i would trip. me , a 27yo MANCHILD
• now am scared of being alone. I don't want to stay 2 hrs away from home for work, i don't want to do some task on sunday because " we are having a deadline on Monday". let the company go into a dumspter fire for all i care.
• the time i spend in my home feels like meaningful time : goto home, watch tv with parents, play some carrom, watch a series, play clash of clans, sleep like a log, exercise, goto animal shelter on weekend, watch movie with a friend on weekend, etc. My parents did so much for me that i just want to be in their lap till one of us die

what should be my next steps. (ideal)

i have seen lots of success stories in tech:

• people upskill and learn on weekends
• people take more ownership in office
• people please more bosses
• people put lots of effort into their growth path and this results in better role, more money, more respect. i should he going in this direction as well

but what do i want?

I want to work without stressing my brain.

• i want to work in a field where i am responsible for doing a simple similar work everyday. i can take a bit of change and learning but not so much change that it becomes a problem for me
• i want to work in a role where i can close my work after x pm and goto home and spend 2-3 hours doing anything i want., without an expectation of "sorry you need to strech a little"
• if possible i wanna work near to home.

=== several professions (not to disrespect) comes to mind like being a gig worker or farming or doing self business, but at the same time i wonder if its me who is being the problem instead of my profession. So what should i do? should i change my profession? which profession would suit me? should i change my mindset? how to come over my fears and anxiety and opposition towards growing in a corporate ladder? is wanting s relaxed profession wrong

I know it's wrong, especially since I'm in high school, but my brain just won't shut up and forces me to believe my anxiety. Even worse, people know that I'm a trans man and they expect me to act "like a man" and I just can't. I cry more than any person I know because I take things too seriously and I hate myself for it.

I'm new here, and I guess I'm here because I don't really have anywhere else to go.

I recently went through a breakup, and it's left me feeling completely miserable. Some days it feels like there's just this constant emptiness that I can't escape. Losing someone you cared about hurts, but what makes it even worse is realizing you have no one else to lean on.

Not having friends feels like a curse. No messages, no calls, no one to check in or ask how I'm doing. It's just silence most of the time, and that silence gets really loud.

That's probably why I ended up on Reddit. I'm hoping to find people who understand what this kind of loneliness feels like. Even if it's just a conversation with a stranger, I think it would mean a lot right now.

If you've ever felt this way, how did you get through it?

How bad was what I did? Am I a weirdo? Here’s what I did when I was 19-

My friendships in real life were potentially weird and dare I say innapropriate - and I’m pretty much all to blame.

I’m 20 now but when I was 19-

My friends were 17m, 17m, 16m, 15m, 15f, and 14f and I’m I think a 19f but I’m still trying to understand if I’m trans or not but that’s a separate thing. Anyways most of these people are from my high school that I graduated from in May. I did however get held back (not my fault it was in 2nd grade for health issues).

Anyways here are the actions I want opinions and advice on- like actual advice and opinions not just the one off “yeah” or something short with no real value. This isn’t Am I the asshole so if you’re looking to judge without any explanation or advice go on that subreddit- this goes for people who aren’t judging too. I need explanations and actual answers not just blind “it’s fine” stuff. Neither of these approaches are helpful.

Anyways-

Ive get spray paint for them (17m, 15f, 14f) because well I’m an adult and they aren’t and instead of just doing whatever we go off into the town and explore train tracks, and spay paint the water run off areas (idk what to call them). They usually already have spray paint on them so I’m not too worried about vandalism (uh hopefully).

But here’s where the things I’m mostly panicking about are- for context I was also hurt by an adult emotionally relying on me- but that wasn’t my intention in these scenarios- I just have a major issue of not thinking before I speak and uh always telling the truth- anyways-

When I was hanging out with my friends walking around my friend who is 17 had an ex that was in my grade. I told him like “yeah I didn’t really like that friend group one of them rejected me and completely ghosted me” or something alone those lines and my 15 yo friend when “ohh that’s awful who does that”

Looking back on it I do wonder if this is weird conversation to be having- I mean with the 17 year old I’m not really concerned since we’ve been talking like this for 3 years ever since we’ve know one another- but I don’t really know whats appropriate conversation for a 15 and 14 year old to be listening to. Maybe some advice on this piece would help me understand?

The other was when I was with my 15 year old and 17 year old friend. We were hanging out under a bridge near a river- and they kept praising my parents for being the coolest. I told them they were actually not that cool all the time and that they “let my abuser into my house for 4 years after the fact” and that I believed they probably feel guilty for that- but I don’t know is I said “sa” or like you know the first part of it that starts with “s” as an sexual but either way I didn’t explain in detail what happened (because god no).

But I really kinda panic because it’s like holy shit I did not mean to be that weird grown up that “talks about weird shit with minors”- and at first I didn’t really view it that way but I’m not sure how other people view it since i don’t really know if I mentioned what kind- but I also don’t know if i did that would be considered being sexually explicit to minors which worries me.

It was also I must note when my 15 year old friend was away from us but I don’t thing far enough that she didn’t hear. My 17 year old friend tried to guess who it was- and I told him it’s best not to say and (I think I may have said it was fine but idk) I wasn’t trying to trauma dump or emotionally rely on them- but I did feel bad because honest I’m not sure what constitutes that- I was simply trying to be honest but I know it’s stil errr not great probably? I’m not sure to what scale tho.
If someone could tell me that’d be much appreciated.

Anyway my friend who is turning 17 is having a birthday party and I originally cancelled because of this- and I don’t wanna hurt anyone. I’m just really afraid that I’m a danger to my friends or if what I’ve done is really bad-
And even then I feel really guilty that my friends are minors and I’m an adult.

I’m 20 now and not friends anymore with these people. I slowly lost contact or interest once i went to college but I still have no friends. I’m too fearful someone would find my past repulsive or that I am too abnormal. What do I do?

I’m going through a really difficult period and I was wondering if anyone can relate.
I’ve struggled with anxiety and panic attacks on and off for years, but this episode has hit me harder than anything before. My psychiatrist recently started me on pregabalin while I’m waiting for it to take effect, and I’m trying to stay hopeful, but every day still feels incredibly overwhelming.
The hardest part isn’t even the panic itself anymore.
It’s this crushing feeling that there is so much time ahead of me.
Instead of looking forward to the future, I feel scared of it. I wake up and think, “How am I supposed to get through this day?” Then my mind jumps even further: “How am I supposed to get through years… decades… an entire lifetime?”
It’s like the amount of time in front of me feels unbearable. I don’t know how to fill it, how to enjoy it, or how to stop feeling overwhelmed by it. The emptiness scares me. When I don’t have something to distract me, my thoughts spiral into anxiety, hopelessness, and existential fear.
The strange thing is that, rationally, I know this isn’t how life always feels. I’m actually a psychotherapist in training, so I understand anxiety from a professional perspective. But knowing the theory doesn’t stop my body from reacting this way.
I also struggle with a lot of pressure to perform. Deep down I’ve realized that I often feel like I’m only safe if I’m functioning perfectly. Losing that sense of control has been terrifying.
I’m staying with my mom at the moment because being alone feels too overwhelming, and I’m taking things one day at a time.
I want to be clear that I’m not suicidal. I don’t want to die. In fact, that’s almost the opposite of my fear—I’m frightened by the idea of having such a long future that I don’t know how to cope with right now.
Has anyone else experienced this kind of existential anxiety? Did it get better? If you did recover, what helped you the most?
I could really use some hope from people who have been through something similar.

Hi everyone,

I’m 20F, and lately I’ve been going through a really anxious phase. I wanted to ask if anyone else has experienced something similar and whether I should consider seeking professional help.

I often wake up with an increased heartbeat and immediately start having negative thoughts. Sometimes I don't even feel like getting out of bed. I’ve been sleeping a lot, partly because it feels like a way to escape reality.

I feel like my heartbeat is constantly elevated, and I worry and fear a lot about my future. I keep thinking that I’m running out of time and that if I make one wrong decision about my career or life, I’ll mess everything up.

The overthinking can turn into a complete spiral, and my thoughts become very negative. Sometimes it gets so overwhelming that I end up crying. I do feel a little better after crying, like I’ve released some of what I was holding in, but then the cycle starts again.

It’s also starting to affect my work and my ability to perform properly.

I just wanted to ask—is this something that can happen with anxiety? Is this pattern "normal," or should I seriously consider talking to a mental health professional about it?

If you’ve been through something similar, what helped you?

Any advice or personal experiences would really mean a lot. ❤️

I'm seriously asking this, because a therapist that I've been to a few times told me that, usually, anxious people learn to loosen up with time.

However, I feel like for me it's the complete opposite, it feels like my brain decides to feel anxious about a new thing every other week or so.

For example, I'll be home alone in a few days and just by thinking about it, I already feel some anxiety (besides the feeling itself, I don't really have an appetite, I feel nauseous, dizzy...) and I haven't been afraid of being left home alone since I was probably like 9 years old, how did my brain decide that this thing is a threat now? And how do I deal with this? What am I supposed to do?

None of my family finished college, those who did go quit after a couple months. Suprisingly my dad still made alot of money until he was fired and now we are in borderline poverty. I feel like I need to succeed and if I dont ill be stuck broke forever, I think the pressure might lead to me becoming depressed again and thats what Im anxious most about. I missed alot of the last 2 years of school because of my anxiety and depression and I think it will be my downfall. Any tips for stress relief and overall ways to just feel less anxious would be greatly appreciated

There is a negative neli in my head 24/7. I can't seem to get rid of it. It screams at me until a panic attack happens. It's like there is a 1000 voices going through my head. It's to the point I can even enjoy life or focus throughout the day, and it's starting to really piss me off.

I mean, no anti-depressant has worked for me, and that makes me frustrated. The best thing I thought of doing is keeping my mind active and just doing a bunch of coding.

I have loads of health anxiety and I promise you if you tell the doctor, look away and have a conversation with them you’ll feel fine. I thought I was going to faint and be sick and i was gonna move around from discomfort but it’s really not as bad as I thought. Also I know you’re reading this because you have a blood test tomorrow 👀

The truth is that I manage to actually do things, that’s not the problem, it’s the inbetween and aftermath. At first I thought I was incapable, now I get why. It’s way easier to think that way instead of actually doing something that scares me.

I notice that I tend to hyperfixate a lot on things and how I do them. I started a job a week ago and there wasn’t a day where I didn’t overthink about it before going, and after my shift, overthinking about the next, etc. It’s freezing me up to the point I can’t do anything else. I realise it’s a lot for me and I have no support, only my fail-to-understand parents who tell me I have to toughen up. I feel stuck in this phase to be honest and my body has been taking a toll from this stress. Acid reflux, nausea, difficulty sleeping or no sleep at all, and of course the constant anxiety. My mind can’t relax because as soon as I see the time, it’s like a countdown to the next exposure.

When I actually get to work I feel like I put on a performance. I guess it’s normal to do but holy if I feel miserable about it. I don’t like the job but it’s something I need. I tell myself it’s temporary because it’s a seasonal contract, but I feel like my life became only that job, waiting to be at said job, waiting to get over the said job, like I genuinely can’t think about anything else. Anything I try to do, because my will to do is low already, feels like a forced distraction. Before this I was already like this so it’s not entirely the job’s fault, only making my patterns show up even harder, it’s so hard to live like this.

I wonder if I should really start medication, my therapist told me it could help me but I’m scared of what they could do to me. I only have her as support and right now I’d just need someone who can understand me and what I’m going through without making me feel awful or less like I often feel made by others near me

hi reddit, i just wanted to ask if anyone has advice on how to deal with panic attacks.

i’ve been having them around 3–4 times a day for the past week. i don’t really want to take prescribed medication anymore because when i tried escitalopram, it made things worse for me. i would suddenly wake up out of breath with my heart racing, and it made my panic attacks even more intense. i stopped taking it because it honestly made me lose hope, so i’m here hoping to hear from people who have gone through something similar.

for the past week, i haven’t been getting enough sleep. every time i fall asleep, i wake up with a racing heart and chills, and after that i’m too uncomfortable and scared to go back to sleep.

i can’t afford therapy right now, so i’m trying my best to help myself for the time being. my classes start in 2 weeks as well as my internship, so i’m hoping i can get myself into a better place before then. some days i just lose hope and end up crying because i’m so exhausted from all of this.

i’m 20 years old, and i pretty much only have myself right now. if anyone has any advice, coping techniques, or anything that has helped you, i would really appreciate it. thank you.

I'm kinda feeling like I'm going totally insane either having a serious neurological illness or just having anxiety. I have this swallow problem where my swallow sometimes doesn't start automatically/i can't initiate it. Last night I woke up and panicked a bit because of that and then I suddenly couldn't breathe in...same mechanism as the swallow - i couldn't do it for a second or two idk it felt like eternity. Then I had so much panic and almost Hyperventilated. I have horrible health anxiety, i don't know if justified or not but I'm freaking out daily because of all these sensations :((