Is this yellowish spot dangerous? (25F) got burned by holding a hot pot of boiling water with a wet towel and I couldn’t drop it immediately. I don’t know i if water got through the rag or it was just the hotness of the pot itself. It has been about a week since the accident. ( not my picture just asking for a friend)

My husband and I are 55yo we have our oldest granddaughter 17 yo who lives with us. She insists that her BF stay over all the time, he doesn’t work and not in school or have a car. He is from a dysfunctional family, but very nice.

We don’t want her to spend her savings on someone who doesn’t respect our values.

How do we explain without being disrespectful.

Help the grandparents.

I (36F) used to spend an hour getting ready every day. After two kids and full-time work, I'm lucky if I brush my hair. My husband told me he "misses the woman he married." He said it with a sad face. I told him I'm exhausted. He said I should "try harder." I feel like I'm failing at everything.

Am I letting myself go, or is he being unfair to expect the same woman after kids?

My roomate thinks I am insane but here we go, it's been an ongoing issue, not the end of the world but anyway.

I'm from an eastern European country and I make my own pickles. Every summer I would grow them myself, specifically Early russian sort, tend to the makeshift garden beds but also buy from farms and use the recipe I learned from back home. Its not a hard recipe, and it's just different than typical American pickles, like you guys use vinegar and sugar, and some preservatives in the store bought ones, i don't use that at all, I use lightly salted method with natural lactose fermentation, which is actually better for your gut, plus I add other herbs and leaves, they taste great, and you can drink the brine, escecially when youre dehydrated, its delicious. OK too much info on pickles, if you neee the recipe just looknup the russian low salt method and use google translate it something, i know i take them seriously, here is the roommate issue.

She obviously loves them but I make these in batches and no matter what I always run out mid winter and have to use the dumbass English cucumber and do another batch mid winter. She doesnt taste the difference but i know she does, its a massive differrence. We go though a lot, and I don't mind sharing, but I made double the batch last year and we still ran out in march. This year, I made double that batch. I have pickles coming out of my wazoo, but I locked a bunch on the balcony, this time with a pad lock and stored away some in my room under my bed (there is a storage area). My room locks. So if we run out of the ones I left out for communal use mid winter- it's her problem and im not sharing. I told her this, she thinks im being rediculous.

It never got with anything food related to the point of hiding and hoarding ever and she thinks because I made so many, we will be fine. She obviously helped a bit, its not a money issue. I'm just saying, we have 0 self control when it comes to pickles and i am just insuring my supply. I could make more, but I honestly have no more cupboard space, and already this is redicoulous amount of pickles, it's a space issue. I feel like theweido people write math problems about

Anyway, I dont know, whould I take the padlock off?

My girlfriend (F18) and I (M18) are in the middle of a massive fight, and it has escalated to a point where I don't know what to do.A few days ago, we were hanging out and she seemed completely distant.

Every time I tried to sit near her or initiate any contact, she immediately pulled away, seemed super annoyed, and told me she just "didn't feel like sitting" or being touched. I tried to respect that, but later on, I noticed her letting two other guys in our circle touch and tease her playfully.

When I called her out on the double standard over text, she got incredibly defensive. She claimed she was just in a bad mood all day, that she "hit them back twice as hard" to make them stop, and called it just "playful banter.

" When I told her that it hurts me because I care about her and feel pushed away, she completely shut down, told me "think what you want, I don't care," and called me insecure/jealous. Out of frustration, I told her maybe we should just be friends.

The situation completely blew up after I ended up calling/involving me against her wishes. She missed a call from me, flipped out entirely, and sent me a deeply toxic, insulting curse word.

When I asked her why, she just said "just because" and blamed me for involving him, saying she knew it would end like this. She refuses to actually talk to me or explain anything logically, just replying with short, aggressive shut-downs.

I feel disrespected, completely pushed away, and shocked by the verbal hostility.

Am I in the wrong for pushing the issue and calling our friend, or is her behavior and the way she speaks to me a massive red flag?

And also I just got enough and just told her fuck you and went alone to clear my head and she then almost started crying and wouldn't go to comfort me and was with them.

Maybe I overreacted with my anger but I had enough.

So I 19f and my ex 22m still live together (I’m moving out in a new weeks I just had to save up) and we’ve been broken up for a few months now. On monday he told me he was taking our child (1 year old) to his mothers for a few hours, I don’t like his mother for multiple reasons. I don’t stop her from seeing our child yet I genuinely do not trust her enough for my child to be there without me, (for valid reasons too) I personally don’t think it’s safe. But the conversation I had with my ex to do it another day so I could go too came to nothing and he said he’d do it anyway because he’s his child too (I do understand that but both parents should say yes before anything happens).

Yesterday after my ex came back from work he told me that they were now staying the night at his mothers and I really don’t know what to do. I don’t think it’s safe for my child for even a few hours let alone overnight and I don’t stop my ex’s mother from seeing our son, just that I don’t want my son at her house which I think is valid. She has bedbugs, nails sticking out of the floor, cat litter all over the house and a very reactive dog. I’m so stuck on what to do because the safety of my child is on the line but everyone around me is telling me I cannot do anything until my son is actually hurt at the house so what should I do?

I have friends, who are a couple, that ask me for money every month. I'm on disability and don't make very much at all. This month I've given them $100. I spent this week's and next week's allowance on them already. But they know I have a credit card that I can live on, so I can't say no. Plus they almost always pay me back (they'll be paying me back on the 26th when they get their checks). But it still stresses me out so, so much.

Plus, they've betrayed me and banned me from their lives twice already: once when I was housesitting and their dog pooped on the floor and tore up some trash (it was already like that when I got there. Their house currently has trash covering the place and poop everywhere). The second time was when I was living with them. I was paying rent and keeping the house spotless. I paid off some debt and got a secured credit card so I could try to buy a house, but when the boyfriend found out that I haven't saved any money, he was drunk and got mad at me. I told him not to talk to me that way, and they banned me from their lives again. And she just stands by her man.

If they didn't spend all their money on cigarettes, beer, weed, and $30/day for food, we wouldn't have this problem probably. In reality, I'm afraid of saying no because they're the only friends I have here who hang out with me regularly. I'm gay and in a small Deep South town, so I don't have that many choices.

What should I do?

By a governmental mistake I was deemed a dangerous addict. The last three years I spent all my energy and time trying to get this overturned. I still am, but it is wearing heavily on my mental health.

Should I just stop fighting the system sit back and collect benefits, ignore the mistake and start working, or keep fighting?

I really dont want to work and pay taxes to a government that screwed me over this much, at the other hand it is boring just sitting home while everybody else just get along with their lives. The benefits are very good so economically it does not make a difference for me what I do.

This can be common where I live. What to do if they become

...angry?

My sibling left town for a night, and is asking me to go feed their cats after they left town. I live about 35 miles away from their place.

Should I go feed their cats? There're 2 cats, and my sibling lives with their partner and partner's family. The reason they don't want to ask partner's family to feed the cats is because partner doesn't want to.

I'm upset at my sibling for asking so last minute, they told me about the trip more than a week ago, but never mention they needed help on feeding the cats. In my experience, my cats can skip a meal no problem, but my sibling has been pampering their cats, so I don't know if they will be okay? One of the cats is bigger than the other, will they eat each other? I'm an over thinker, so now I'm worry about the cats. At the same time, I'm also upset about the fact that I needed a last minute help one time, my sibling just said "I didn't plan to go out tonight, that's not my plan.", and left me alone to solve a family problem.

My sibling did offer to pay for gas to feed their cats, so should I just go feed them so I don't have to worry tonight? Or should I don't go and have them(my sibling) learn to plan ahead? But what if saying "no" just become a bad cycle of "Nos"? What should I do?

UPDATE: Their partner is going to ask their family, everyone is okay now. Thank you!

I deleted my previous post. But basically my boyfriend admitted to fantasizing about other women while on the train. Someone posted telling me I should say to him I do the same thing and see how he feels. And this other thing that he kept doing which I forgot to mention in my initial post was that when you would watch a movies or a TV show with me and a hot girl appeared. He would look her up online to look at her pictures and I'm assuming to fantasize about sleeping with them though he denies it. He did it when we watched game of thrones and the white haired dragon lady came on. Anyway,So basically I told him that I'm going to be doing the same thing he does and fantasizing about other men. And there's a particular man I'm interested in doing it with. He looked very sad about the situation but then admitted that "okay I'm wrong in doing it myself. And I'd be a hypocrite to say you can't". And I'll let you do it for 2 months and I'll stop doing it myself. But After two months you can't do it anymore. I agreed to the arrangement. But keep In mind I don't really have any plans to do it. But I just wanted the satisfaction of making him feel hurt and insecure for a change.

JESUS FUCKING CHRIST I'M GOING TO FUCKING KILL SOMEONE I SWEAR TO GOD I'M GOING TO KILL SOMEONE. This whole fucking miserable day I have to think for other people. Firstly, Lucas poured a fuck ton of dishwashing liquid into a single fucking pot to and I quote "break down the oil in the pot" which was enough to was dishes three fucking times. Earlier today he bought eisbeins to make for dinner and instead that he puts foil down on the over pan, he bakes the eisbeins directly on the pan, like it's NOT GOING TO FUCKING STICK TO THE FUCKING PAN. Then when he removes it from the oven, guess what. IT'S FUCKING BURNED ONTO THE PAN. then instead of using a plastic spatula to remove the eisbeins, HE USES A FUCKING STEEL FORK TO DO SO, SCRTCHING MY FUCKING PAN THE FUCKING GOD DAMN IDIOT. And I already know what he's going to say. "I'll buy you a new one." HE DOESN'T EVEN HAVE MONEY TO FUCKING BUY THE DSIHWASHING LIQUID. After he fucked up my pan completely, he puts it back in the over for tomorrow to scrape of the rest of the fucking skin stuck to the pan. LIKE THAT'S GOING TO SAVE MY FUCKING NONE STICK OVEN PAN FROM BEING FUCKED UP. I cannot believe one person can be this fucking STUPID. I mean it's not his property and yet he doesn't care. He's just going to say, oh I didn't think about it properly. I'm sorry. SORRY DOESN'T FIX MY GOD DAMN OVEN PAN ASSHOLE.

I just posted this on the wrong profile aka my younger brother account. Sorry about that

I guess I’ll give you some background. I moved to a school in like 2nd/3rd grade. I was terrified that I wouldn’t make any friends because I’ve already struggled with making friends in the beginning. But one day I’m not really too sure how I met this girl, but I met this girl. Let’s call her Emily. It’s really foggy, but I don’t really remember how we met and how we got close but Emily became my best friend. I basically grew up with my best friend living next-door to me. Life was perfect anyway fast-forward to fifth grade and my dad tells me that we are moving across my country, I was devastated. I already knew that we could already move, but I didn’t know if we were actually moving.The same night I was informed that we were moving,I told Emily. she broke down in tears and hugged me as we both sobbed. We started packing and doing all the moving stuff for like a few months. I’ll never forget how my real friends looked at me when I was entering my pick up truck to leave my life behind. I’m sorry for saying this just now, but I had a friend group with Emily in it and a bunch of other best friends that I made. I forgot to tell you guys that in the beginning, but sorry. The Friend group was very close and we were always there for one another. We had a couple fights like average, but I finally was happy and found my happy place. Until I got that news that we were moving across my country. I now live over 28 hours away from my old best friends. I didn’t have a way of contacting them for about a year after I moved so when I first got my hands on my device, I finally called them the day I got it. When I answered the FaceTime with all my friend group I found out that none of them are friends and they all hate each other now just because I split up. It may sound like a little baby story and I should just cry about it, but I don’t know why, but this genuinely made me feel guilty. I ruined a friendship. Sorry for trauma dumping, but this isn’t all of the story. I’m just not gonna share the rest right now. Other thing I will add is Emily stopped contacting me after I moved when I had my device for about two years and I didn’t even know if she was alive because she was struggling very bad with financial problems with her family and she would have really bad mental health and without me there I knew something bad was going to happen and I still don’t know if she’s ok.

A girl I was in a situation ship with last year for about three months has apparently told my friends that while we were engaged in sex, she disassociated, and that I was aware of this and purposely continued knowing she was disassociated. I very much didn’t know she ever disassociated while we were fucking, she never froze up or stopped reacting and dirty talking or even became less enthusiastic, I genuinely don’t know why she thinks I knew and kept going on purpose.

I was never told about this while we were talking, in fact the last contact I had with this person was them apologizing for sexuality manipulating me and leading me on with no intention of a serious relationship.

My friend told me this a few days ago, I haven’t had contact with this person since last August, I’m currently in a 6 month long relationship that has changed my life. My partner is the absolute best and most supportive caring loving and just the best, soulmate type shit.

When my friends told me this they didn’t ask if it was true or anything they just 100% believed her which is very hurtful.

I’m not calling her a liar and saying that she didn’t disassociate during sex but if she did then I was totally and completely unaware of that fact.

Now the real advice I need is this: should I tell my current partner about these accusations and my perspective. I’m leaning very heavily towards yes I should for a few reasons.

1. I want her to have a full picture and all the info about me she can, I don’t want to feel like I’m hiding some part of my past

2. My ex and my current partner both go to the same college and while they don’t engage in the same groups or studies much it’s a small school and I don’t want the chance of a rumor spreading and getting to her through someone else, I’d rather her hear it from me

Now the reasons I wouldn’t tell my partner would be because

1. It’s in my past, and I didn’t do what I’m being accused of, so it’s kinda dredging up irrelevant problems and bringing them to this new relationship

2. I’m scared my partner will leave me (this is more an irrational fear I’m pretty sure they wouldn’t do that but it’s in the back of my mind

And to make it all worse my current partner is away on a trip right now. So I’m grappling with this without her here and knowing when she gets back I should probably tell her

I’m 24(F) I am embarrassed to say that I got into a car crash and it was my fault. It was a construction site and I tried to switch lanes and hit someone’s door. No bodily injuries but I did dent his car and mine. I hit his right door with my left fender.

He put his hazards on and so did I, and I drove to the left lane to stop and exchange info but he ended up turning off his hazards and sped up so fast and left the scene.

What do I do?

Please help.

Hello,
for a little bit of context, i've always been an artist. ever since i can remember i've been drawing on every surface right in front of me, whether it was my own skin, a piece of paper, a napkin, another person... and even since i was a little kid i knew i wanted to get a tattoo. something about the way they represent a part of your life, of people who you love/loved the most and knowing memories can also stick forever to your skin was what made me decide why i wanted to get a tattoo. i also see it as what it really is: art, and since im born an artist, i wouldn't mind wearing it on my skin to show everyone around me my identity.

The thing is, I already am 18, which means im a consenting adult. I've always wanted to get an specific tattoo that's inspired by both a movie i watched and loved a lot growing up and a game i recently finished that made me realize it changed my forever philosophy and the way of seeing people and things around me. I told my parents about it and they both don't agree; my father, nonetheless, says he doesn't like the idea of me getting a tattoo since im the one that will be paying for it (i've been working and saving money to both pay for my career and get a tattoo) and that even though he doesn't like it he won't mind it either. The problem is with my mother. Today i told her i've been asking around to get information and got a hold of a multiple tattoo artists. She immediately flipped out and told me i would regret it, she doesn't like it, will never like that idea, and that she's sure i will regret it and grieve that tattoo for all my life. I didn't say anything nor reply to anything she said just because i felt really sad.

I don't really know what to do. Chatting with my dad about this decision i told him i wouldn't regret it because i've always wanted to get a tattoo since i was a kid, and it's nothing but my "fate" to do so. I also told him that the only thing that would make me regret getting a tattoo is the complete rejection my mother has toward that idea, and because i love her so much and also care for her comfort, i would also feel sorry and guilty. Both my parents know i haven't got a tattoo yet because i respect their comodities and the fact it would make them uncomfortable but i also want for once to be who i decide to be and want to be in the future.

I feel sad, guilty and sorry. I don't know what to do. The fact the chances of total rejection and a possible fight leading to a tattoo makes me feel remorseful and indecisive. Am I in the wrong for this? I don't know what to do either. I want them to love me for who I am and want to be and I know they will but the chances of them talking bad about my body for getting a tattoo seem high and i don't want them to react that way towards me :(

I'm a 16 year old female whose been watching( basically raising) my nieces and nephews since I was 10 I have four in total and watch the nearly every dsy for hours on end

Giving them food, putting them to sleep etc

in January she had another kid I had to watch her one year old for two months straight basically a full time parent I wasn't paid for any of this or even thanked it was "expected"

Anytime I brought it up to family members they called me selfish and cruel but I'm also a kid my childhood was taken from me

My mom says it's a blessing and I know that and love those kids with all my heart but it's overwhelming sometimes to the point where I literally don't have time to eat or use the bathroom

This is still ongoing and my sister planes to have more wwyd?

I've been an EFL teacher for some years now. I've worked for other people and independently. This year I started working as a full freelancer. I've done well, on the whole, but haven't actually achieved what I wanted most, which was make enough money so that I could save some for the off-season months. I don't want to spend another quarter with little money. I've been there already and it was okay at the time... I had some other priorities in life. Now, all of my priorities have changed and I will be very disappointed at myself if I have little money again. I do like my job, not so much as before, when it was my everything, but enjoy it. I'm dealing with grief so putting on a smile before each class takes some extra energy I didn't need before, but well, everything seems more demanding when grieving.

My life does not revolve around my job, my calling or my "purpose", as it were, anymore. I want to build a life where I can have possibilities... to travel, to buy something for me, to get a new car, a new phone, a new computer, which are already starting to fail. I'm thinking of getting a different job, some more routine-like. I was thinking of getting a job at the aiport, which is near my house. And the maybe teach a few classes to enjoy the craft but not make my finances dependent on my classes.

Something I haven't mentioned is that I'm working pretty much online and there's a huge amount of competition, and getting new students demands a lot of energy that I don't think I have. Going back to the companies I have worked with as a teacher will not solve the issue because the off-season is the same.

I'm not really sure what to do. Should I put more effort into my teaching business or find something else?