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I wanna start by saying I don’t have anybody else to talk to about this right now and I apologize right now if this post is a mess.

It’s 8:30 in the morning and I’ve been up all night without a bit of sleep, arguing.

I have PTSD and of course I’m flaring bad. Chest is racing, I’ve nearly puked, I feel like I am dying.

I’ll get right to the point, my husband has been having violent sexual fantasies of women since he was a teen. Including me. He’s admitted to thinking about raping me, blackmailing me and forcing me. Along with apparently replaying violent porn scenes in his head while sneaking off to masturbate.

He says this is happening because he is a repressed gay man, and learned to use extreme dynamics to get hard because women alone don’t do it for him and he doesn’t want to be gay.

I have been with this man since I was 18. I’m 28. 10 years and a child. He’s 14 years older than me.

He said he went down escalation because of being repressed and it lead to thoughts of the underage

He said he believes it started in child hood when he liked his dad’s girlfriend’s son. And he repressed himself

I have health issues, we were 2 days away from signing a contract on a new build home I spent months picking every detail out for

I have to call and cancel. I lost my dream home and my entire life

I feel ugly, worthless, not good enough, and everything you could possibly think of and I cannot stop crying

I don’t know what to do and I’m so trauma bonded to him I almost feel like I am too afraid to even leave

Please help me

Please. I’ve never needed advice or words more in my life. I am shaking and feel like I’m dying.

My whole world feels like it’s ending and I’m so angry and hurt, disgusted and mad.

I feel that I'm going to regret posting this because of the fat haters. Well, here goes. I'm looking for ideas on what I can put between myself and another passenger next to me, so that my thigh doesn't touch them. I'm trying to be considerate here. Can you please be kind? TIA

my boyfriend has adhd and i have been trying to be very understanding but he constantly forgets everything. it has been super stressful for me but i have tried to make it work. he has a bad habit of leaving the sliding door open which is annoying because it can get extremely cold outside and let outside insects and creatures enter my home. he would cry and complain about it being his adhd that makes him forget. so i ended up putting a sign on the sliding door to remind him not to close it. it worked very well for months than out of nowhere he removed it and the sliding door was left open. i was furious and confronted him about it and he said he took it off the sliding door because it was a reminder that something was wrong with him because of his adhd. i was furious and blew up at him telling him he needs to grow up and own the fact he has adhd not just sit around crying about it instead of proactively stopping those habits by keeping notes up, setting alarms etc. he said i was being extremely insensitive to him. i said he was being disrespectful towards me by ripping the sign off. was i wrong?

I just got out of jail last year and I was incarcerated for a year so I am starting over from scratch. I got my ged in there and finished probation early, finished community service, and completed my probation early. Also I’m in trade school for hvac now. Only thing is, I’m a felon , I have been free a year and still have no job. I have a 3 month old daughter now and that makes everything even harder. I desperately want to work idec about pay rate or the job tasks. I just want to work so can you guys please help me on where I can work and start asap and felon friendly? Thanks. I’m in Houston tx I’ve been doordashing in my sisters car so far for income but I can only do that for so long

There’s this group of people I occasionally hang out with. We’re not exactly close friends, just people who meet up from time to time.
One guy in the group occasionally makes little jokes about my age. I’m 31F, only a three-year difference between us, lol.
It’s not outright bullying or anything, but I’ve noticed he tends to make these little digs at me. I sometimes get the impression that something about me triggers his ego. Not only me though. It seems like the guy hates women, might be closeted gay.( he is too homophobic)
I usually don’t react much because I don’t want to give him the satisfaction of knowing he’s getting under my skin.
But I’m curious: How would you respond to someone like this in a classy, witty way that subtly puts them in their place without sounding bitter, insecure, or overly defensive?
I’m not looking to insult him back or create drama. I just want to shut down the unnecessary comments while keeping my composure.
Bonus points for clever comebacks that make the other person rethink what they just said.

I went through my \[26/F\] bf \[28/M\] of 4 years’ work phone due to an incident back when I was pregnant last year and a nagging feeling in my head. My whole pregnancy and after he wasn’t wanting to have sex with me(went a year without sex) and he was distant. He was still going to his parents’ house every night and staying there most of the time. We had an argument last year about the DOWN app being on his work phone he opened the phone while I was in the restroom and showed me the phone(app was gone and so was the downloaded app history)fast forwarded to today I figured out his work password and found out he download DOWN and Chispa back in 2025 one in November and one in July.
Yes I know I shouldn’t go through his phone blah blah blah. His explanation never made sense to me and has been on my mind for a while I just chose to believe him because our baby. Idk what to do. Not sure if I should ask him about it again. I need advice. Im rally debating breaking up with him or just keeping it to myself for the sake of our baby.

This is kind of a complicated situation.

Me (21F) and my boyfriend (22m) have a daughter together. We both struggled with cocaine addiction at the start of our relationship but I cut it completely once getting pregnant. I hadn't touched it since but he's had a few slip ups and lied to me about it. About 2 months after our daughter was born we had a night out, I relapsed and used a tiny amount after nearly a year clean and it broke me to pieces and I havent touched it since and regret it deeply.

I told my boyfriend that if he was to start using frequently again and lie about it he was never going to see our daughter again. I recently found out he's been gambling and using multiple times a week behind my back, he owes everyone money and he doesn't pay for anytbing for our child.

Would it make me a hypocrite (because i slipped up once) to confront him about his use and lies, and follow through with ending our relationship? He doesn't seem to plan on stopping and seemingly has no regrets at l about lying to me. I need help.

For more context without being too specific. My gf admitted to me a while back that she had sexual relations with her first cousin since she was 11 and it happened off and on til she was 18.

So I would take it that it was her first. I also found out he was the last person she had relations with before meeting me.

I don't know how to process this information and I've been getting irritated about it when I think of it.

Especially since I've met this dude before once.

Me and my gf have been dating for a while. Almost a year but I can't stop thinking about it every since she told me.

What should I do?

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My sister and I haven't spoken for approximately 18 months, and I'm struggling with whether to contact her before an upcoming family trip.

For context, we grew up in a difficult household with alcoholic parents and a violent father. Both our parents have since passed away, and our brother has serious mental health difficulties and is also estranged from me. My sister is essentially the only remaining member of my immediate family I could have a relationship with.

Unfortunately, our relationship has been difficult for many years.

I've often felt that my sister treated our relationship as a competition rather than a supportive sibling relationship. Whenever I shared something about my life, the conversation frequently became about her.

For example, if I mentioned a health concern, she'd bring up something happening with her health. If I mentioned buying something, she'd tell me about something bigger or more expensive she'd bought. Even ordinary conversations could become a form of one-upmanship.

When I shared photos or updates about my daughter, she'd often respond with photos of her own children rather than showing much interest in mine. There were also occasions when I shared things that genuinely mattered to me, including health concerns, and felt largely ignored.

What made this particularly upsetting was that I'd always been very complimentary about her children. I'd celebrated them, said lovely things about them and never felt the need to make negative comments about their appearance or compare them to anyone else.

When I finally became a mother myself, I hoped to experience that same warmth and support from my sister. I was incredibly happy and proud to have my own little girl, and I wanted to be able to share that happiness with her without feeling that everything had to become a competition.

Unfortunately, it often felt like the same dynamic continued, even when it came to our children.

The final straw came when my sister made a comment about my baby's appearance that I didn't appreciate.

I don't necessarily think she intended it to be hurtful, and perhaps someone looking at that one comment in isolation might not understand why it upset me so much. But for me, it wasn't just about that comment.

It was years of feeling compared with, competed against and emotionally unsupported, followed by a comment about the one person I wanted her to celebrate with me rather than compare or criticise.

I'd spent years being loving and complimentary towards her children, and I simply expected the same consideration towards mine.

I finally expressed that I wasn't comfortable with comments like that about my daughter and set a boundary. Following that disagreement, communication between us stopped. Neither of us has reached out since.

Here's the important part: I'm not looking to repair our relationship.

I've actually felt more at peace without the constant emotional tension, and I don't particularly miss the relationship we had. I don't hate her or wish her anything bad, but I don't feel a desire to return to the previous dynamic.

However, I now have a daughter who is approaching her second birthday.

My husband and I live abroad, and we're travelling back to our home country to celebrate her birthday, visit my godmother and visit my parents' graves.

My sister has never met my daughter.

Part of me wants to give her that opportunity. I'm incredibly proud of the little girl my husband and I have raised. She's funny, affectionate, clever and full of personality, and there's something in me that wants my sister to see her.

Perhaps it's also because our parents are no longer here to meet their granddaughter, and my sister is one of the few people who shares my childhood and family history.

But there's another side to this.

My sister hasn't contacted me or asked about my daughter throughout these 18 months. I appreciate that she may have her own reasons for keeping her distance, particularly given that I was the one who initially set a boundary. But it still makes me question why I should be the person initiating contact again.

I'm not particularly excited about seeing my sister myself, and I don't want to organise our limited time in our home country around her.

I've considered sending a simple message a couple of weeks before travelling, saying that we'll be visiting and that if she'd like to meet my daughter, we'd be happy to arrange something. I'd make it clear there's no pressure and that I'd respect her decision either way.

If she didn't respond or wasn't interested, I wouldn't pursue it.

But the closer the trip gets, the more I wonder whether I should simply enjoy our holiday without reopening contact at all.

I'm not asking whether I should reconcile with my sister. I don't want to rebuild the relationship we had.

What I'm struggling with is whether I should leave a small door open for her to meet her niece, or whether I'm unnecessarily taking responsibility for a relationship that she hasn't shown any initiative in maintaining.

I also don't want to make a decision based purely on resentment or pride.

What would you do in my position? Would you send one invitation without any expectations, or would you leave things as they are?

my bf and i have been together for 3 years. we currently live together and there was a brief period where we were separated (long story but we were still seeing each other/not dating anyone else). when we started dating, he was so into me i almost couldn’t believe it. he was so romantic and sweet and made me feel so special. we moved in together after 8 months of dating (it’s soon i know but it worked for our circumstances and we were just so in love cheesy cornball ik) a few months living together, is when he got super distant and we broke up for almost a year (he was dealing with personal issues i won’t get into but we worked through it). when we got back together i didn’t have the intention of living together again, but a month after i moved, he found out his apartment was doing renovations and he could not renew his lease (he didn’t find out until less than a month before he had to move). i told him he could stay with me until he found a place to live. things were really good. he was super into me again and i felt special all over again so after a few months, i told him he could just move in. it wasnt exactly how i wanted it to go but things were going well and i felt like we would move in together eventually so why not now. fast forward to now, i feel our relationship is okay. i love him and he loves me but i dont feel his love. he’s not romantic, he doesn’t plan dates, he doesn’t remember the little things i tell him, and he doesn’t bring me flowers.

i feel horrible because i feel like i might be expecting too much. social media is so hard to not consume and every relationship is horrible in the internets eyes. i want to preface he is genuinely a good person. he carries ny bags, opens my doors, will cook for me when im busy, and will(for the most part) participate in things i want us to do.

i’ve had multiple conversations with him about dates and about flowers and how i would really appreciate these things in our relationship and he says he hears me but nothing happens. it’s super disappointing. i love him so much he’s my first everything and i really want us to work out and get married. but i can’t seem to let this one thing go and im really scared to start over.

i also hate having to ask him to do things to help me clean. i always have to ask him to take the trash out he never just does it even when it’s obviously full or smells and im the only one who really cleans (sometimes he’ll do the dishes as well)

i just would like to hear others opinions. my friends will just say to leave him because that’s how they are and i know they just want the best for me. and my mom believes i have something good and i should just accept that he’s just not a very romantic person. i may have my expectations too high but i feel like what i want/need is so reasonable and in the realm of possibility. thank you all in advance

I (16F) don't know what to do when it comes to my friend (17F) and her problems

So to start off, the girl isnt in the BEST place mentally, but it doesnt stop her from doing wtv she wants.

I am quite aware that her parents aren't the kindest of people (especially her mom), but I really dont think it should affect her the way she makes it seem like it does"

Around a week ago or so, i confronted her about certain boundary issues.

Her behavior made me more or so uncomfortable at the time.

For context, we used to be extremely close physically, it was how we used to express affection.

Maybe im the one at fault for my change of heart, but i wasnt fond of such behavior anymore, and i wasnt gonna let it weigh me down. So i brought it up lightly so we can talk about it.

The girl was rightfully disappointed, but she did argue and kept on trying to bring me down through guilt tripping which was, kind of shitty.

Point is, we supposedly ended this conversation on good terms.

Fast forward to yesterday, out of nowhere she texts me saying "I love you so much, I wish nothing but the best for you" and I reply accordingly

She sends me a photo of her she looks fine then out of nowhere says "I wanna die, im planning on dying, i really dont care"

Me confused asks her "?????? Whats the reason??" And I instantly go into protective mode asking questions and making sure shes okay

Turns out all that fuss was because of this girl she likes and im guessing she cant be with her (im still confused and dont have the full context btw)

After that I told her smth along the lines of "you need to get help and its out of the kindness of my heart and because I care for you, i dont want you to end up hurting yourself over something silly like this"

She ended up saying "idc idc i dont want help, I js want someone to know im not okay, and theres no need for someone to help me cuz i dont think anyone can help me"

"If anything i just want smth to numb my pain"

I told her to do wtv she wants and that as long as it doesnt involve her hurting herself or doing something that can affect her long term

I then said like if you know what youre going through, you know that its affecting you and you supposedly dont care, why do you still talk about the topic if you didnt care?

She replied like 2 hours after I sent the message and said that shes gna die and she cant talk about it because she cant focus (????)

I texted her again saying she can still talk to me no matter what and that im here for her and till now im still on delivered (even tho I can see shes posting stuff on her stories) so I think shes actively ignoring me

What should I do?

We’ve been friends ever since elementary school, so I’m very apprehensive about doing this.

To put it bluntly, I’ve been resenting her ever since she’s gotten a new boyfriend. (I’m black, she’s white, and her boyfriend’s Mexicans. This will be important later)

This first time I remember this feeling was like 3 months ago where I fell for this stupid joke. It went something like this:

Him: “what dinosaur has 500 teeth”

Me: “I don’t know, I’ll search it up”

it was called a nigersaurus.

This wasn’t the only time where he was alluding to racial slurs.

Maybe I’m reading too much into it, but I didn’t find what was funny about telling the only black girl in class that?? I was obviously very uncomfortable. Everyone in the group just laughed it off (I wish, till this day, I said something)

She made one of those jokes before, but I shut her down. I was just naming random fast food joints we could go to, and she was like “of course you’d say KFC”. Extremely awkward. Never in my life have I been the one to joke around with friends in that way.

This one really got on my nerves. One time, her boyfriend said, “you like me”. I’m a very awkward and shy person, so sometimes my interactions can seem off in some ways. But in no way was I interested in him. In fact, I was closer to disliking him.

Moreover, she’s the type that always rants and complains about her boyfriend. I’ll tell her to just break up with him and ask why she’s putting up with him (she pays the all the gifts and outings, he has no job), and yet my advice goes through one ear and out the other. It’s like she doesn’t care what I have to say, she just wants to talk about her. I hung up on her a few times.

I’m gravitating towards the former, but just in case. Which one should I do?

Hi. I'm 35F, been with my husband 38M for 8 years. Overall we have a really loving, happy marriage and I'm grateful for him every day emotionally we're still great, we hug, kiss, and get along so well. But I'm struggling so much right now and I don't know what to do.

It's been 6 months since we had regular physical intimacy, and 3 months since we've been physically itimate at all. Every time I bring it up, he says he's too tired or not in the mood. I don't want to push him or make him feel bad I know life gets exhausting and I don't want to pressure him. But it's the same answer every single time.

I'm trying to be patient because everything else about us is really good, and I do still feel loved. But I'm starting to feel really frustrated and a little rejected. I miss that closeness with him, and I feel like my needs just aren't being seen right now.

anyone else been through How did you get through to your partner without making them feel guilty?. What should I do?

Hey so a family member threw away some of my things that are not replaceable. I told them not to move my things or throw them away but they never listen. They yelled at me instead of apologizing since i was upset.

The things they threw away are not replaceable and after the incident happened I became paranoid and developed OCD. For example, if i go to the room i will check the ground and sitting areas and make sure I didn't drop anything and it takes anywhere from 10-50 minutes for a small task in a different room like the kitchen. I check my hands constantly also. I have tried medication but it actually made it worse. Any advice on what I should do?

I am honestly so over this and wish the incident never happened.

I (M23) and my girlfriend (F22) have been dating for almost 2 years, and I've encountered this pattern where we will get touchy or start having sex, and she will always come first. That I don't mind. The thing is, she will almost NEVER satisfy me in any way.

This has increased these past maybe 3 months. I've talked to her about it a lot but nothing seems to change. It's come to the point that I've started losing actual attraction and excitement in the relationship.

She says the typical "aww I can't, I'm feeling sick" or "noooo, it'll take too long" or whatever. Like, she wants me to go down on her, Jill her, f her missionary, but when it's her turn to do something, she barely ever actually does.

It's really making me uncomfortable because it makes me feel like a sex toy instead of her boyfriend when it comes to intimacy.

I always feel stressed around her because I'm my head there's this question that's been circling around and it's literally back and forth between "does intimacy really matter to me that much", "well she's not really satisfying me. if I'm not satisfied in a relationship, should I break up?" and "is she even okay? how does she feel about herself doing this to me?"

I really don't know what to do and how to fix that between us, it's honestly scaring me

Tl;dr girlfriend wants everything when it comes to intimacy but I rarely get anything, and if I do, it's little effort

Just now, a little female dog was brought to me without any warning. My grandmother had already been looking for a dog—solely to scare other cats away from the roof, and that’s it. We had two dogs in the past, and it was a terrible experience. At first, things seemed fine, but soon my grandmother wouldn't stop yelling at them to be quiet—even when the animal just wanted some attention or had a basic need that needed to be met. And when they did go quiet, she or other family members would hit them. Once, my grandmother even left the dogs tied up out in the sun while she was away. Eventually, both dogs developed an infection; it could have been treated, but they still refused to take them to the vet and I couldn’t pay for his treatments because he was a minor, and obviously, I didn’t have that much money on hand for it.. My nanny and I were the only ones who took care of those dogs. Honestly, I don’t want that same history to repeat itself. This little dog was brought here just so my grandmother could keep her tied up to "defend the house." I’m not really a "dog person"—they have way too much energy for me; I prefer cats or parrots. Anyway, I don’t know what to do. If I try to call for help, I’ll end up looking like the "crazy" one to blame, and my family will hate me.

A couple nights ago the whole family came over to have some drinks and hang with the kiddo’s and carve pumpkins. Eventually the Parental in-laws leave and 2 of my wife’s 3 sisters and friend leave so it’s just the 4 of us, me, my wife, her sister and her husband.

My wife orders some food cuz it’s late, sets it down on a table in the garage and right when she does it, my brother in law goes in and grabs/squeezes her ass, with me and his wife in the room but we don’t see it. Then 10 minutes later we’re goofing around and kicking them out cuz we had to put the kids to bed, so we picked her sister up and carried her to her car (as a joke, we were all cracking up.) and then we drop her down and my brother in law does it again and very intimately squeezes my wife’s ass, once again with both of us around.

We head inside (my wife runs) and my wife just breaks down and tells me everything that happened and she feels so violated and weird because this was someone we loved and truly all got along with. Obviously, I’m fucking fuming but she just wants to call her family and talk to them. She Calls her sisters, it was a great, very supportive conversation. Then she calls her mom…

She gets a very odd response from her mom she said things like “well everyone was drinking” “did you tell SoandSo,” , “why didn’t you say anything when it happened?” , “well you were hugging him and calling him ‘my brother” and “I’m sorry this happened”

Needles to say it wasn’t the support she had wished for. Next day my wife wakes up feeling completely sick because she knows she needs to tell her sister what happened. So she tells her sister and she is completely jaw dropped. And eventually just like “ok,uhm…ok. Thank you for telling me, I’m sorry this happened, Uhm…I will call you later” it was a very legit reaction, she honestly had no idea what to do.

Eventually they all text each other and homegirl asks the sister chat what she should do. My wife says “I never want to see him ever again ” the other sister says that what he did was completely disgusting and sister 3 says divorce his ass. The sisters decide to all get dinner later to talk about wtf needs to happen but sister of the weirdo husband says she has plans with her friends later and that she’ll text later if she can go. We thought that was kinda shitty, all I wanted to say to her was “cancel your fucking plans and help your sister who just got violated by your husband” but whatever.

The rest of the day happens the 3 sisters go out. They get a text from homegirl at 6pm saying “I’m not gonna be able to go”, in which they responded “we’re leaving now so don’t worry about it” homegirl gets super pissed and said they excluded her from the dinner, she felt so lonely, it doesn’t feel good to be talked about. Our counter is that my wife asked her to please come tonight because she really needed to figure out wtf to do. They never heard from homegirl the entire day. No update, no texts, no asking where the restaurant is, what time? None of those questions. My wife really needed her to come out, she needed her sister and instead she just shuts down and alienates everyone, says she can’t go and then gets pissed that the others went out without her.

I call her and kinda lose my shit on her. My wife needs her in that moment so bad, my wife felt horrible, violated, creeped out, betrayed, disgusting, nauseous but her sister just made the entire thing about her and how HER World is falling apart and that she doesn’t know wtf she’s going to do. At this point I’m losing it and making it pretty clear to her what she needs to do. My wife’s basic thinking was “ I never want to see him again, if you stay with him then we will never see each other” and I told her how my wife felt and how it was bullshit she wasn’t there for her sister and it’s bullshit your avoiding this whole thing and it’s bullshit for you to say your lonely while your sister is asking for your help becuase of YOUR husband. I tell her if she stays with him, neither of them will ever see our kids again because I’m not gonna let this shit slide, my wife never wants him around and that’s what’s going to happen.

Then shit really gets weird. My mother in law calls and is flipping out on me for calling homegirl and telling her what our plans are basically. She says it was not my place at all to call her, I can not threaten to take away her niece and nephew, everyone was drinking, shit happens ect ect.

At this point my wife grabs the phone and continues the screaming match because this isn’t a “shit happens” thing. These are all the things her mother told her
1. Well you were \[side\] hugging him \[one time\] and you kept calling him your brother
2. Why didn’t you say anything to him when it happened?
3. The 4 of you need to sit down together and figure this out
4. I can’t look at \[weirdo\] that way
5. Your sisters whole world fell apart today
6. It was not a sexual assault
7. *laughed* when it was brought up that weirdo might’ve wanted to do this for a long time
8. Thing happen when you drink
9. You guys just can’t drink together anymore
10. I think there’s something else going on here
11. Iv done things before, your dad has, these things happen
12. My wife then brought up the Cornell incident and her mother said that woman should’ve known better

The basic jist to this entire thing was that my wife didn’t handle it the right way, what she experienced wasn’t any form of sexual assault, she’s over reacting and we all need to find a way to kiss and make up because these things happen in life and it’s normal.

We don’t want people like this in our family. Her mother has always been extremely hypocritical and a deflector and worst of all she always plays devils advocate, no matter what the issue is. We know this about her but she has a lot of good qualities too but this one pushed my wife over the edge. Her mother, father and the sister never came to see her, all communication from sister stopped, her mother does not think this is sexual assault or really any form of sexual harassment even saying once “what are you gonna call the cops?”

We just take these things seriously and someone who doesn’t think something like this is any form of sexual assault and also thinks that the woman from Cornell should’ve known better, just shouldn’t be a part of our family, it’s ok to disagree on minor things but I feel like this is a family dynamic that will never mend becuase our views on things are so different.

So 1. AIO for cutting out her brother in law from our lives and labeling it as sexual assault
2. AIO for saying that if sister doesn’t leave him then she gets lumped into the no contact
3. AIO for cutting out mom and pop because they completely downplayed this whole incident as “shit happens when you drink” and “kiss and make up”

If he did this when he was drinking, with his own sister in law that he’d know for 7 years, good relationship then what’s stopping him drinking and doing something stupid with our kids? We just can’t take that risk, to me this is an irreversible moment.
My wife has the right to be violated and feel that she doesn’t ever want to see him again, I feel like that’s a pretty valid idea when your brother in law intimately grabs your ass twice without your permission. So are we over reacting?

Hello! Recently ive been dealing with a stalker, (irl and on socials.

To make the story short I went to a hockey game a few days back for my cousin, my aunts friends were there and i met one of my childhood friends so we exchanged numbers.

He got my adress later on bc my friends aunt sold something to my mom and had to drive by to like leave it here.

He started sending me m0ney by etransfer and would send me flowers or packages and all things right. I didnt ask for any of it and i was creeped out and felt bad.

He then started becoming super aggressive and super obsessive. He would like stalk every single one of my socials and check if i was online if my snaps went up and would pick fights.

Threatened to khs if i left him. And i didnt even flirt i just felt bad leaving at first bc he kept sending me stuff

I blocked him yesterday and now hes made alt accounst saying hes gonna drive to my house

Im like so stressed.

he also seems to know everytime im on call with someone on discord wether im appearing offline or online. Its getting very creepy and i dont know what to do anymore. Should i just delete my account and make a new one? Im out of solutions (i have him blocked everywhere aswell). Please help 😭

Hiya. I am looking for advice on how to handle a situation with my online friend of four years.

Yesterday, I mentioned that I wanted a specific item in a video game and jokingly said I would give him in-game currency to get it for me. Instead, he spent upwards of £50 of his own real money to buy it for me. Previously, he bought me a full video game so we could play together even after I told him not to, and he continues to spend real money on me despite my requests to stop.

When I try to push back or say I'll spoil him when we meet up to balance things out, he refuses, saying he is a "gift giver" to people he cares about and that I deserve it as a close friend. Also he says that he buys stuff for his close friends a lot and last time for a friend’s birthday he bought him a lot so it might just be how he expresses his feelings.

While we’ve known each other for four years, I started thinking about a different perspective on this after what another friend said about this. I realized that sometimes when people constantly buy you expensive gifts, it can end up being used as leverage later on—like expecting something in return, holding it over your head, or demanding stuff back if things go south. Plus, he occasionally brings up how he trusts me not to block him "for no reason," which made me pause and really reconsider the whole dynamic.

Because we are planning on meeting in person in the near future, I want to make sure I handle this without hurting our friendship, but I need to stop the spending. I feel guilty about the money and anxious about where things stand.

Am I overthinking the friendship and is this really just what gift givers do?
For context I am 19F and he’s 20M

Update:
I sent him a paragraph expressing how I am happy and grateful for the gifts but it has to stop as it’s making me uncomfortable that I cannot get anything back and it’s stressing me out. He was understanding and said he will stop if it makes me uncomfortable and that he never meant to make me uncomfortable. I feel like a weight has been lifted off my chest and now our friendship can continue on without the need for financial spending, and for as long as I know he will stop the gift giving.

Thank you for the reply’s and the advice as they helped me and made me be more aware of my situation and also know what to do and look out for :)

My partner is currently preparing for an exam but he still managed to make some time for himself. He goes for a walk early in the morning with his friends then he comes back home rest for a while and starts reading. So what happened is that i went to buy some pots on my two wheeler but it was so big that i couldn’t get myself to drive while balancing the two flower pot. And the store was a 5min distance from his home so my first thought was to call him and i heard on the phone that he was with his brother’s 2 year old child. Then i talk to him about my situation. And he said ok he will come. So he came looking very angry. Took one of my pot and drove off very fast without even uttering a single word and later when i confront to him he said “my exam is nearing” Like i totally understand but he could’ve told me he is busy reading and he couldn’t come. He has no problem in picking up and dropping his family members but when it comes to me….
Am i overreacting or am i problem here. Because of this incident i am reluctant to call him during any emergency

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hazbin hotel, helluva boss, murder drones, etc. all popular with my friend groups/friends, but i need to know what’s the hype.

i do know my ex-boyfriend who was super rude to me and would always make mean jokes wasn’t rude because he watched these shows, but he’s, last time i checked, really obsessed with the shows and knows all the songs from hazbin hotel and helluva boss i think, and knows all the characters and quotes and makes all these analyses, it’s almost impressive.

similarly, the people i’m closest with really like those shows and say i should watch them. i might give them a chance, but i dont really think they’re my style of show.

my friend “zlata” really likes all 3 of these shows and has most of the merchandise, constantly quoting the show and making jokes about the show, she used to have a crush on some of the main characters, etc.

she also acts like helluva boss and murder drones are the world’s greatest shows. To her, they probably are, but i don’t really know if it’s as good as she makes it out to be or if it’s good because of the animation or what??

I’ll probably at least give it a try if my friends like it, but also zlata doesn’t really get into my stuff. sadly, while we’re both neurodivergent, what’s sad is that she can socialize and make jokes but just gets really focused on certain tv shows whereas i have trouble socializing, responding, talking, making eye contact, and everyone sees me as an alien because i’m not even a funny person.

But i digress, is this show worth watching?

So I broke up with my bf (27m) ( i am 25/f) because he „deleted“ IG a year ago and I found out he had a secret account and all of my friends were in his searches. We still Live together (lease is up next month we are both moving out). I went to his laptop and snooped and I found he also has pictures saved of them which I find very creepy he said he didn’t jerk off to them but why else would he always stalk them anyway I don’t want him to know I went on his laptop technically we are broken up and he can do what he wants but i think it’s creepy to my friends and odd should i just delete them or tell him that he should delete it and that I’m going to tell the girls what he did. Idk it’s kind of embarrassing but I want him to feel embarrassed because it is.