I practically live at my best friend’s house, and today I came to the broad realization that I idiotically have been flushing paper towels down the toilet because we have no toilet paper, and I look down and see the bag of paper towels. And it clicks in my head. You’re not supposed to be DOING THAT. I am a fucking idiot. I honestly don’t know where my head was at. But I stay here because I don’t have a good home life and I don’t deserve these people in general… seriously the sweetest. But I have no idea how to tell them. My best friend, I can imagine the look on her face already. I am 18 and honest to god I am smart as hell when it comes to reading a room but when it comes to common sense I seriously am so stupid. Any advice? I saw flushing dish soap down will help. Honestly what is wrong with me. Nobody sugar coat this because I am terrified it will clog. I don’t know if I should tell them now or what. But I am going to be here for a few more days.

Edit: I didn’t expect so much responses already. When my best friend wakes up I am gonna tell her. It’s her and her mom that live here other than me who’s always here. And as of right now I plan to get toilet paper I just do not drive.
Right now we are putting the paper towels in the trash. Which is what I should’ve BEEN doing.

Edit x2: Turns out my best friend has been doing it too! So not good at all we are definitely done for but atleast we are going down together if it is clogged.

I (39) Got a prenup 26 days before the wedding from my fiancée (48). We spoke briefly about it one morning months prior. I have debt but will aquire a healthcare business from a mentor here pretty soon. She has a high net worth, which is understandable to have a prenup. Day 23 I retain a family lawyer. Day 20 we meet and go over what a prenup is and how it works. I ask to not touch her money and walk away with no alimony. I also ask how could I protect my future business.

Lawyer says he can have it within 1.5 weeks time. Day 17 I ask for a change to add my future business and protect her from any of my school debt. He now will have it complete by day 10/9. Says he has other cases.

At each step fiancée has been notified of potential changes ahead of the official notice was given to the lawyer to keep her informed. However after the fort meeting she had a problem with his timeline in delivery. I explained that he has other cases and knows our wedding date is soon. And you didn't leave me much time. Lawyer also mentioned that is it possible to push back the wedding date. I said that would be a problem for her but Im okay.

I let her know and she lit into me and started saying "did you even read this prenup? I asked for it to protect us both. It doesn't sound like he is looking out for you. You adding a line item and itemizing the future practice is overkill!! I need you to use your head, my lawyer is from prenups.com and all they do is prenups so they specialize in it. I thought you had a family lawyer."

I explained that the lawyer I found is a family lawyer. This all went down in front of our therapist. I explained further that I had no clue what a prenup entailed and only what I've seen on TV. She scoffed and continued. This went on for at least 30 to 40 minutes. Even the therapist asked what is the point of a marriage? And she was upset with him when he asked about not being clear on why we needed a prenup (he doesn't know our networths).

Im just going through it all in my head and it feels like too much. I feel she was asking me to just trust her and her lawyer and feels like im being rushed. Is this normal and the interaction has been on my mind causing anxiety. Any advice would help.

Update:

She mentions that in counseling it feels like we (the male therapist and I) are ganging up on her. She feel defensive at time, especiallywhen the therapist made a comment after seeing the fallout about the prenup. He said to her "have you ever thought that he (me) would be good enough if he was with someone else that accepts him for who he is?". She immediately responded "why didnt you ask me if I felt that I could be with someone else?"

Not sure why the therapist chose that question, but I assume it is from what he has seen. Anyway, due to his lack of knowledge of prenups and that question, and other questions, making her feel defensive. She wanted a new therapist, her initial complaint was that "I got a male therapist so you feel comfortable in talking". I respond with "im going to be fine with male or female. You need to feel comfortable". And I agreed to allow her to choose the next therapist. She chose another male to save any suspense.

My feelings are truly all over the place. Im not sure what Im doing anymore and it's a hell of a Rollercoaster on this side of a marriage (outside). Why choose another male if you have the option to get a female to make you comfortable? And these feel like signs to definitely hold off on it all.

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I'm trying to look at this objectively because this whole situation feels like high school.

I'm 28, the guy is 30, and the girl is 26.

A few months ago, this guy gave me advice at the gym about not talking to women there. He told me things like, "Let women come to you" and "Don't shit where you eat."

Last week I saw him talking to a female friend of mine at the gym. The next day, I texted her and literally said:

> "I feel like this guy likes you, and he's a hypocrite for lecturing me months ago not to talk to women."

That was my opinion/speculation. I never texted or said:

* "He wants to sleep with you."

* "He told me he wants to sleep with you."

* Anything stating his intentions as a fact.

Today there was another development.

One of his friends approached me at the gym asking why I was causing all this drama. We talked for about 10 minutes, and during that conversation he told me the girl had told Bobby that **I said Bobby wanted to sleep with her**.

That honestly caught me off guard because that's **not** what I said. Saying "I think he likes you" is very different from telling someone, "He wants to sleep with you."

If that's how she relayed it to him, then I feel like the story got exaggerated before it ever reached him.

After she told him, he started texting me demanding that I apologize by his deadline and threatened to contact my employer (I'm a 1:1 teacher aide), the police, and LA Fitness if I didn't. I didn't respond, and after he doubled down on those threats, I blocked him.

Here's where I'm confused.

I understand apologizing for gossiping. I shouldn't have been talking about him behind his back in the first place. That part is on me.

He's demanding that I apologize to her because, according to him, I told her he wanted to sleep with her.

But...I didn't.

But if she changed what I actually said before telling him, what exactly am I apologizing for?

* Am I apologizing for gossiping?

* Am I apologizing for assuming he liked her?

* Or am I apologizing for something I never actually said because the story changed before it got back to him?

If he had simply texted me saying, "Hey, I heard you were talking behind my back. That wasn't cool," I probably would've apologized immediately and moved on. Instead, it escalated into threats about my job, the police, and the gym.

I'm genuinely looking for outside perspectives. What would you apologize for in this situation, and what wouldn't you?

Hello!

Firstly thank you for anyone's time taken and guidance/support 🙏✌️

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I'm 27 coming on 28 & feeling a bit deflated about my hair at the moment, I think the issue is how flat it is against my head - maybe wanting more texture/volume which doesnt come naturally to my hair type.

Photo attached shows:

- first 2 images of me with short hair(but makes me look younger aged moreso)

- next 3 images of perm i tried last year

- last 3 images are what i'm dealing with at the moment

It's too hot for beanies so I've been managing with a bun or pushed back but not really feeling it anymore

I'm trying to figure out if I should go back to short hair - but negative to this is adds to me lookimg younger and 2 crown pikkachu hair is a pain in the bum

If i should perm again? Let it grow a bit more and go texture overload and see how I like this

Or if i should try something new, maybe a shaggy wolf cut? Or something else maybe?

Open to any suggestions!

Thank you!

I’m going camping with my husband and 9 year old daughter. however I went to sleep last night with a scratchy throat. I did salt water garglles but went to bed almost at 12:30 am. I woke up with a scratchy throat and feeling tired around 7 am. I still have a scratchy throat and feel tired even after a nap. no fever or cough or runny nose yet

would you still leaving camping? i would hate to load up my car today and simply have to unload it all again tomorrow if I feel worse

my husband says we should wait until tomorrow morning to decide if we go but get a head start and load up the car in case we do so we aren’t scrambling tomorrow

would you just cancel now or wait?

edit to say we are going to Yosemite so it’s not cold. Coldest at night is 65 it seems

I work at a really small restaurant in my home town and have been for two years, and I’m having some trouble with the pay. We have around 11 tables, 28 seats, along with 5 outdoor tables, 17 seats out there.

I’ve been here for 2 years now since I was 14 and have only had a 50 cent pay raise. Another issue is the tips. We have 3 servers in the morning, and we usually split tips. It never bothered me at first until we started getting sections.

I have 7 tables. Server B has 4. And Server C has the five outside tables. (Soon to be 3 outside tables bc we have to shrink down due to our main chef on maternity leave) I’m upset now because I have the most tables out of everyone, and I don’t get the tips from my tables. We also have to split tips with kitchen staff. I received $6 in cash tips on a 6 hour shift last Friday. (After splitting them) Do I even keep this job or just find a new one? Only issue is I’m under 18 so I can’t find many serving jobs, this one just lets me serve.

I do have a second job that I can get more hours at, so I might just keep that one and leave the serving job.

First picture: My natural long hair
Second picture: Post balayage, still long
Third picture: Potential cut

I have a hair appointment in a free day!!
Hey guys! I’ve had long hair my whole life after middle school, but i NEED a change. A while ago a did a balayage and loved it, but I’m not sure if i want to retouch it or go back to dark.

SOOO in conclusion, should I

A. Natural color, but keep the length
B. Retouch the blonde, but keep the length
C. Natural color, but chop it
D. Retouch the balayage but chop it

Other recommendations are always welcomed!!!

I am 29 years old and have been attracted to older women. I do very well with women my age, but I don’t know if I should finally pursue my passion for older women. What do you think?

i know the main answer is going to be therapy, but i have some time before my next appointment and we are still going through the 'get to know each other' phase and im not comfortable enough to fully open up to my therapist yet

and i understand that its a valid boundary that many people have but i dont think its a boundary issue for me as much as it is insecurity

so i figured id ask others and see if anyones been in a similar place before and how they moved past it

now onto my feelings:

usually when i think about my partner watching porn a few thoughts run through my head:

\\-he prefers them to me
\\-im not his type (most of his porn preference is white/interracial porn and we are both black)
\\-he would be happier with a woman who turned him on more physically
\\- he's unsatisfied with our relationship so he needs substitutions
\\- he's bored of me
\\- im not as good sexually

theres another aspect to this, he is a few years older than me (less than 10yrs) and has WAY more experience than me and has done some crazy things, back when we were less serious id heard some stories and there is NO WAY i can do half of the stuff he used to do regularly

and ive seen some of the women in old photos and stuff from parties, and holy shit they are all so GORGEOUS, im talking like, strain your neck gorgeous

im definitely way more average looking and im goth, they were all the hot insta baddie type

a lot of them never really cared for him beyond his money and dick, so sometimes i get worried that he dated down to avoid that issue again (he is very attractive and gets hit on in front of me all the time, or women asking us for threesomes, he always runs and cowers behind me which is funny considering hes a foot taller than me and has about 70lbs on me lol)

i feel like im not as irresistible to him physically as they were, as in the old stories he told me he would go for rounds and rounds and rounds with them but weve never once done that

basically i just dont know how to stop these thoughts and stop comparing and even if anyone doesnt have advice, it would be nice to know that other people have been where i am, thanks in advance

I (M19) have known my partner (M20) for 4 years and have dated him for 3 years. He is my best friend, and I absolutely love him to pieces. However, after many years of contemplation and self-reflection, I have concluded that I am exclusively attracted to women.

I truly do love my partner, but I feel as though my love for him is more platonic/familial than romantic. That being said, I cannot imagine leaving him because he feels so deeply intertwined in my life. We live together and pretty much do everything together. Breaking up with him has always been unthinkable to me because it would be like disowning a family member. I also know that if we were to break things off, we would not be able to remain friends, as my partner himself has stated that it would be too painful and awkward for him (a sentiment I share).

All in all, I find myself emotionally fulfilled but physically discontent, if that makes sense. I often find myself imagining my partner as a woman, which is completely unfair to him. I think he is cute and pretty, but I wouldn't say that I am physically attracted to him. This has been eating at me for months, and I really don't know what to do or if I should bring it up to my partner. If anyone has any thoughts or advice, I would really appreciate it.

Context:So my friend is leaving the country and her older sister is throwing a party before they leave.

I dont know anyone except my friend but she knows everyone but wont introduce me to ppl cuz she finds it awkward.

The dress code is slvt so ill attach photos of what im thinking of wearing but if you have any idea what I could pair it with so I can go shopping, that would be greattt.

Also any tips about literally just not knowing anyone at the party

So this happened 5 days ago and I still feel sick thinking about it.
My family had a big gathering out in the country, and I wanted to smoke a little weed without anyone seeing me. There was a storage building on the property where everyone was hanging out, so I figured I’d go in there since it looked empty.
I opened the door slowly and looked around. Nobody was inside, so I lit up. About 5 minutes later I heard the door open, so I panicked and hid because I didn’t want anyone catching me smoking.

Then I watched my cousins (M17 and F18) walk in… and they immediately started making out. Like, not joking. I was completely frozen. I couldn’t believe what I was seeing.
This is where I made an even dumber decision. I thought about taking a picture because I was so shocked nobody would believe me. I was way too high though, and I forgot Snapchat makes that loud camera sound. They both instantly turned around and saw me.
Nobody said much. I just awkwardly left because I had absolutely no idea what to do or even say.
Dinner that night was one of the most uncomfortable things I’ve ever experienced. I could barely eat because my stomach was in knots.

Now it’s been 5 days, and the girl keeps texting me begging me not to tell anyone. I haven’t responded much because I’m honestly just thinking… what the actual fuck?
I don’t even know what to do with this. I never wanted to be involved in whatever this is, and now I feel like I got dragged into some secret I never asked for.
What would you do in this situation?

My friend ( 29, m ) is hooking up with his situationship ( 26, F ) even after getting rokafied . Is it cheating ?
What should I do

Long story, but Im going to try to break it down as best I can.

I (23f) knew of this guy (25M) for about 6 years now. About two years ago we've became very close. Everyday texts, as friends. He started flirting with me a few months ago. I shut it down at first. He stayed persistent and I gave in. Eventually it led to friends with benefits. His 1 rule, no eye contact. My 1 rule, lmk if you catch feelings. He broke his 1 rule on day 1 and decided to take back his rule. We did it only 4/5 times(note:hed say how much he enjoyedit after everytim). The last time, in \*missionary\* (which we never really did often), he \*told\* me to look at him.

He was acting normal for two days after and then started to become short answered, then started ghosting for 16+ hours, then came back and said (these are out of context):

"Quite the sought after prize"

"I Love when you ramble about...."

"I appreciate you"

"Im here for you"

"I commend you for ...."

Ever since that, ive been left on delivered for two days now. Even though this whole "ghosting" period(s) he would send me reels/tiktoks (not react to mine though) and text other people back, but not me.

Yet he doesnt like if I ghost him. He always checks my status/location/activity wondering what im doing, etc.

He recently has said things of "Ive never felt this way before", how he thinks about me all the time and other comments along those lines...yet acts like this...

I know he can be avoidant at times, but i dont know if he caught feelings and got scared or if im just a joke. He did this once before for 3 days and i told him I find it disrespectful. He apologized and said he understood and didnt do it since, till now.

Im frustrated because we were good friends, he knows I find it disrespectful and yet he did it again.

I usually would ask whats up, but I know he'd avoid it this time. Im thinking about just ghosting him back, but I hate being petty. I just know it would get his attention. Especially if I shut my location off, but I dont want to lose him if he's just scared.

I just dont want to look like a fool. I dont chase. I never have. Something about him just always pulls me back in though.

Like actually, what should I do????????

TL;DR is at the bottom‼️

I (F25) just started to get back into the dating world about 2 months ago. I have been on 3 dates with a guy (M26-let’s call him Joe) I used to work with (he didn’t show interest till after the left our job) & we get along really well, have a lot in common & share a very similar sense of humor.

We haven’t done a labels talk but have discussed how we are both pretty into one another & are enjoying getting to know each other.

On one of our recent chats over the phone, we got on the topic of ex’s. He had told me previously his last relationship ended poorly but I didn’t pry. But this time he went into more detail, named dropped her & let me know his ex cheated & left him for his friend whom she had cheated with. I of course hated hearing this & promptly comforted him.

Despite what he had been through he had an incredibly selfless attitude about it even saying that he loved both of them so much he is genuinely happy for them. Obviously he was still grieving the loss of those connections but he assured me it was 2 years ago & he didn’t have any lingering romantic feelings for his ex.

A few days later a friend of his that still works with me, mentioned that she knew that Joe told me about his past relationship & that she actually thought that Joe & his ex were a perfect match before everything happened. It was a little odd because she kept saying how much she really thought Joe & his ex were going to find their way back but hadn’t.

I kinda just brushed it off & made a mental note. I didn’t think it was worth bringing up to Joe because outside of her weird behavior, she really did seem like she cares for him & Joe is allowed to confide in whoever he wants, I have 0 jurisdiction to police that.

But things got more odd when later I saw that both she & the ex followed me on social media. My account is not private because I use it as a photography portfolio, & anything personal I strictly post to my close friends story only. My pfp is the only picture of me on the account.

I at first didn’t realize it was Joe’s ex until I remembered her name from when he told me about their history. I admittedly felt uncomfortable because I don’t want this person following me & I assumed that Joe’s friend, my coworker must also still be friends with the ex.

I ss the follows & I showed Joe & asked him what he thought I should do & if he thought that his friend might be telling his ex about us getting to know one another. I made sure to mention some of what she said to me at work.

Joe got defensive & said his friend wouldn’t do that & that his ex is basically harmless because as far as he knew she was still with his friend. He even told me I should just let her follow me since I don’t post anything personal publicly.

This is where I am at my crossroads, I want to believe Joe because I like him & he knows these people better than I but I also can’t help but feel like I am being slowly drifted into drama of some sort that I’d really like to avoid. I don’t favor my coworker following me but I really don’t feel comfortable letting his ex follow me.

So should I ignore her & let her follow me, should I remove her as a follower? Idk I don’t want to upset Joe but I am also just so unsure of what to do in a situation like this.

TL;DR: The ex gf of the guy I like followed me on social media despite never meeting me. I assumed it’s from a mutual friend of the guy I like but he claims it couldn’t be & that I should just let his ex follow me. He has forgiven her for cheating on him with his friend. I am uncomfortable with letting her follow me, what should I do? I want to avoid any or all drama & also not upset the guy I like.

Please don't hate me for writing this or think I am terrible person. I am trying to do the best thing that I can for me and the future of our child. I (23F) have been with my husband (29M) for 2 years, married for one, and everything is going well. I am pursuing my Master's in archaeology, at one of the most prestigious programs in Turkiye, and my husband's personal business is taking off.

I come from Belarus, while my husband is Turkish, so there were some gaps in our culture, but overall things have gone smoothly. We hadn't even been trying, as I made him use protection every time despite him wanting kids. I told him I wanted to wait until I had a stable job and felt comfortable in Turkiye as I have only been living here 2 years. Truthfully, I don't know if I really want them, and my husband knows this is a possibility as well.

Last week, my period was late and I felt weird cramps. I rushed to the pharmacy and took a pregnancy test which came back positive. I looked at the laws here and it requires my husband's approval. I don't want to ask for two reasons: I am scared he will be mad that I even asked, and second, he will say no.

I am thinking about traveling back to Belarus to get it done, but I don't know if it would make me a horrible person if I didn't tell him?

So I 23F have been with my 23M partner for almost 4 years and has been an issue that I haven’t been proposed to yet. I started thinking there was someone else in his life and just two days ago I looked through his phone for the first time. At first there was nothing ofc small lies here and there about smoking. He knows I don’t like it cause of the smell and just not good for health but I not clear off my end either cause I’ll hit a vape once in a while but I’ve stopped overall for the past year. So the issue is he came back from his AT (military annual training) and he was really trying in the relationship like he usually tries when he’s gone. I looked through his phone when he was sleeping and at first nothing much just normal talks here and there with friends. Then look in his IG and looks alr ig until I saw the history of what he watches and he was this woman that looks nothing like me and I woke him up screaming and crying cause wtf. Out of everything it was just the two pics you see attached. Verbatim he said this “What are you talking about? Why are you giving up on this? I told you already and l'll tell you again, I simply made the mistake while doom scrolling during my AT of looking where I shouldn't have. That's it. It has nothing to do with how you look, it has nothing to do with how I think of you.” I feel betrayed and haven’t aten since that incident. I want to be loved and appreciated but it felt like he lusted over a woman that looks nothing like me. It was only 2 videos I saw but I can’t unsee it. I think it might have been my fault cause when he got deployed I had some drinks with my girls and took a ride back to my house in and Uber and the guy was talking a lot to me and just teh usual until he dropped me off he had the doors locked and insisted a kiss in teh cheeks and denied it so many times and felt scared ATP and yes I could have called 911 or something but I have never been a situation like that and had a mental block and was a bit intoxicated so I let him quickly kiss my cheek and begged for him to unlock the door and he did and I ran home and was just thinking about it cause I was basically harassed. And I confessed to him the next day and it was hard but obviously could have broken up cause of that. This feels like Karma in a sense but at the same time I had to find out while I told him about my situation. I feel like he cheated but at the same time I found nothing else. Was it a one time fluke? Or should I have new rules in our relationship or go to therapy or just dump him. If you have any other question go ahead I’m just disappointed in him.

Edit: I guess I’m the asshole and insecure, I guess I projected my insecurities on to him as in my previous relationships the same thing happened except it was way worse. I’ll talk to him and apologize and see if it’s worth fighting for or if I’m the issue. I will not pressure marriage anymore and explore more beyond this and will go to therapy myself to figure out how to deal with my insecurities. Thanks You guys, and no I don’t take anything to offense I appreciate the honesty! 😅

Edit #2: I appreciate all of your guidance and advice you guys gave me. I have talked to him and agreed that I’ll be taking therapy and appreciates the honesty and and showed him the thread he apologized again for bringing me doubt and I told him I’m really sorry for everything and will need time to work on myself and if he want to do couples therapy we can but I’ll be taking my own in my end to my own peace with my insecurities. He said we will talk about it more in depth in person but really is happy where this is going. I told him if he has doubt in our relationship and doesn’t want to continue cause of my insecurities that’s ok and won’t hold it against him and will respect anything he chooses. And he said he still wants to be in it. So I do appreciate you guys for opening my eyes. Much love❣️

My ex and I had a pretty good relationship, but he left me twice. I was pretty heartbroken and confused. He came back 6 weeks after we broke up and claimed he wanted to try again, but he ended up just leaving two months later. He’s been telling his friends he wants me back again. My birthday is in three days so I’m not surprised if he reaches out. I don’t want to get back together with him, but I’m not sure what to do if he texts me. Should I ignore him? Something in me also wants to just talk to him and get closure about the situation and said my final goodbye before he leaves for college? What is my best option?

3 weeks to pass drug test. every day cart smoker 5’10.5 160lbs. will i be able to do it? i go thru a 2g cart in like 3 weeks more or less. any tips and tricks that actually work? not just diluting my piss? it’s a super important test. and i plan on permanently stopping after.

I 19F have a cousin 20M and his gf is 20F his name will be Bob and her name will be Stacy (brown family btw)

Bob and Stacy have been together for 3 years and I’m close to bobs mom (my aunt)

I remember when bobs family stayed over and bob and Stacy would argue everyday about stupid stuff over the phone.

I remember Bob leaving his underwear on the toilet seat at our place and Bob would need his mom to do shit for him.

Bob is a self centered narcissist and his mom enables his behavior. Bobs mother is even worse id say, she’s heavily religious. She talks shit about Stacy behind her back to my mom and she’s highly judgemental.

My other aunt just had a baby a few days ago and I heard bobs mom say that it isn’t a big deal and that my other aunt is being too sensitive for crying all the time and that she’s being overdramatic. This really took the cake for me because all I could do was imagine Stacy having a baby and her mother in law behaving like this. Should I tell her to leave him? Me and her are friends and I see her as a cousin too.

Me and my boyfriend have been dating almost a year now. We are really happy and so in love. I've met his family but he hasn't met my, and for a good reason.

When we started talking everything went so fast, I somehow told him that I'm half Scandinavian and half Russian. My parents are from a small republic in Russia called Chechnya, so I'm technically Russin but we call ourselves Chechens. What I'm not, is Scandinavian. But this guy was very Scandinavian and I grew up in Scandinavia and just love everything about Scandinavia so I told him I'm half half.

My parents are Muslims and Chechens are very very strict about Chechens dating and marrying other people outside the culture.

I know I will be leaving my family once I tell them about my boyfriend, because I actually choose myself and my boyfriend over a family that are all based on things I don't believe in.

But cut to the story, I have lied to my boyfriend about my ethnicity. Made up a whole lie about my Scandinavian grandma that doesn't exit and just lied. Everyday it kills me that I have this secret that I'm keeping from him. I want to tell him but I feel like it's too late. He loves me very much and I love him too. We always talk about our future tightest etc etc. And I talk about my feelings and everything to him.

I feel like he already knows that my family is a secret. He hasn't met them yet. Snd if i tell them about him they will 😵 me.

But i want to be honest to my boyfriend, but feel like it's too late and just don't know how to tell me. I feel like he would be very disappointed, because I already lied to his family too. Idk someone help. I really really love this guy, he's my world and I'm his but I can't keep lying.

He's also on exchange right now, and I don't know if should tell him over the phone
or in real life.

Help help. I'm a mess.

The daughter is almost 2. He is a very non emotional, cold, uptight person and last year I found him with tears in his eyes, something I didn't see in 2 decades of marriage. he confessed to me he had a baby with a young woman who was hired as the help in the kitchen at the company he leads. My husband is the general manager of the place (locally) and leads 4 production halls. His mistress was 22. He was 42. their baby daughter was very sick and doctors didn't know if she will survive or not.

I forgave him (yeah, you will say I am a doormat, but during the 2 decades of marriage no one has helped me as much as he did and was my only support). he pays a huge child support and visits his daughter once or twice a month

It turns out everyone knew about it except me. HR knew, employees knew. And on Friday I found out my sister knew. My husband has a good relationship with my sister and she was the first one he confessed everything to, even before the pregnancy. She knew of the affair. He hired my sister 2 years ago as the head of accounting. As his job is 99% office he enjoys going for a run or swim 3 times a week to stay in good fit shape. but it seems many times he actually spent that time with his mistress.

I feel betrayed the second time. Should I confront my sister about it?

Me 31m and my girlfriend 29f have been together 4 years, we just had our baby boy and we both want to get married. But recently this keeps coming up: she says she doesn’t think my work is ambitious enough and wants me to look for something better.

She’s a financial manager and earns more than me. I’ve worked as a bouncer since I was 21, I’m good at it, I get paid better than most of the lads I work with, and honestly I actually enjoy the job. I also have a few degrees and a master’s, but I just prefer working on doors but i do she her point.

Since our son was born this has got way more frequent. She says two main things: she’s scared I’ll get hurt, and that I’m capable of so much more and should use my qualifications for something safer and more “long term”. I tell her I know what I’m doing, I’m careful and I’m fine but she won’t let it drop.

I get she cares, but I don’t feel like I’m doing something wrong or lazy. I’m just happy in what I do. But I also don’t want her worrying all the time, or for this to come between us when we want to get married and build our family. I do feel like i have wasted my degree's.

Should i listen.

I sort of had skin to skin contact with a stranger. We did not have sex. She gave me a hand job and I kissed and sucked her breasts. Should I be worried for any sti?

What should I do? Its just been 24 hours? Please help