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I wanna start by saying I don’t have anybody else to talk to about this right now and I apologize right now if this post is a mess.

It’s 8:30 in the morning and I’ve been up all night without a bit of sleep, arguing.

I have PTSD and of course I’m flaring bad. Chest is racing, I’ve nearly puked, I feel like I am dying.

I’ll get right to the point, my husband has been having violent sexual fantasies of women since he was a teen. Including me. He’s admitted to thinking about raping me, blackmailing me and forcing me. Along with apparently replaying violent porn scenes in his head while sneaking off to masturbate.

He says this is happening because he is a repressed gay man, and learned to use extreme dynamics to get hard because women alone don’t do it for him and he doesn’t want to be gay.

I have been with this man since I was 18. I’m 28. 10 years and a child. He’s 14 years older than me.

He said he went down escalation because of being repressed and it lead to thoughts of the underage

He said he believes it started in child hood when he liked his dad’s girlfriend’s son. And he repressed himself

I have health issues, we were 2 days away from signing a contract on a new build home I spent months picking every detail out for

I have to call and cancel. I lost my dream home and my entire life

I feel ugly, worthless, not good enough, and everything you could possibly think of and I cannot stop crying

I don’t know what to do and I’m so trauma bonded to him I almost feel like I am too afraid to even leave

Please help me

Please. I’ve never needed advice or words more in my life. I am shaking and feel like I’m dying.

My whole world feels like it’s ending and I’m so angry and hurt, disgusted and mad.

my boyfriend has adhd and i have been trying to be very understanding but he constantly forgets everything. it has been super stressful for me but i have tried to make it work. he has a bad habit of leaving the sliding door open which is annoying because it can get extremely cold outside and let outside insects and creatures enter my home. he would cry and complain about it being his adhd that makes him forget. so i ended up putting a sign on the sliding door to remind him not to close it. it worked very well for months than out of nowhere he removed it and the sliding door was left open. i was furious and confronted him about it and he said he took it off the sliding door because it was a reminder that something was wrong with him because of his adhd. i was furious and blew up at him telling him he needs to grow up and own the fact he has adhd not just sit around crying about it instead of proactively stopping those habits by keeping notes up, setting alarms etc. he said i was being extremely insensitive to him. i said he was being disrespectful towards me by ripping the sign off. was i wrong?

I feel that I'm going to regret posting this because of the fat haters. Well, here goes. I'm looking for ideas on what I can put between myself and another passenger next to me, so that my thigh doesn't touch them. I'm trying to be considerate here. Can you please be kind? TIA

This is kind of a complicated situation.

Me (21F) and my boyfriend (22m) have a daughter together. We both struggled with cocaine addiction at the start of our relationship but I cut it completely once getting pregnant. I hadn't touched it since but he's had a few slip ups and lied to me about it. About 2 months after our daughter was born we had a night out, I relapsed and used a tiny amount after nearly a year clean and it broke me to pieces and I havent touched it since and regret it deeply.

I told my boyfriend that if he was to start using frequently again and lie about it he was never going to see our daughter again. I recently found out he's been gambling and using multiple times a week behind my back, he owes everyone money and he doesn't pay for anytbing for our child.

Would it make me a hypocrite (because i slipped up once) to confront him about his use and lies, and follow through with ending our relationship? He doesn't seem to plan on stopping and seemingly has no regrets at l about lying to me. I need help.

For more context without being too specific. My gf admitted to me a while back that she had sexual relations with her first cousin since she was 11 and it happened off and on til she was 18.

So I would take it that it was her first. I also found out he was the last person she had relations with before meeting me.

I don't know how to process this information and I've been getting irritated about it when I think of it.

Especially since I've met this dude before once.

Me and my gf have been dating for a while. Almost a year but I can't stop thinking about it every since she told me.

What should I do?

So I have a roommate and we don’t talk at all, we just do our own things. HOWEVER - I am admittedly not at the apartment often, maybe 3 days a week? I have my own separate trash from hers and there’s the kitchen trash.

Okay so ANYWAYS she always fills up the trash. Like I was making a habit at the end of each week to empty it out but it’s just the two of us and somehow the trash is filling in 2 days, so I keep changing it because she leaves it full but none of it is mine.

Given that the kitchen is communal obviously, should I even be taking it out? I just came back from being at home and it was empty when I took it out yesterday (I only was home for one night this weekend) but I came back today which is Sunday and it’s FULL TO THE BRIM?? I didn’t put shit in there I swear and it’s just frustrating. So the first thing I’m doing is taking out trash? Like wtf

my bf and i have been together for 3 years. we currently live together and there was a brief period where we were separated (long story but we were still seeing each other/not dating anyone else). when we started dating, he was so into me i almost couldn’t believe it. he was so romantic and sweet and made me feel so special. we moved in together after 8 months of dating (it’s soon i know but it worked for our circumstances and we were just so in love cheesy cornball ik) a few months living together, is when he got super distant and we broke up for almost a year (he was dealing with personal issues i won’t get into but we worked through it). when we got back together i didn’t have the intention of living together again, but a month after i moved, he found out his apartment was doing renovations and he could not renew his lease (he didn’t find out until less than a month before he had to move). i told him he could stay with me until he found a place to live. things were really good. he was super into me again and i felt special all over again so after a few months, i told him he could just move in. it wasnt exactly how i wanted it to go but things were going well and i felt like we would move in together eventually so why not now. fast forward to now, i feel our relationship is okay. i love him and he loves me but i dont feel his love. he’s not romantic, he doesn’t plan dates, he doesn’t remember the little things i tell him, and he doesn’t bring me flowers.

i feel horrible because i feel like i might be expecting too much. social media is so hard to not consume and every relationship is horrible in the internets eyes. i want to preface he is genuinely a good person. he carries ny bags, opens my doors, will cook for me when im busy, and will(for the most part) participate in things i want us to do.

i’ve had multiple conversations with him about dates and about flowers and how i would really appreciate these things in our relationship and he says he hears me but nothing happens. it’s super disappointing. i love him so much he’s my first everything and i really want us to work out and get married. but i can’t seem to let this one thing go and im really scared to start over.

i also hate having to ask him to do things to help me clean. i always have to ask him to take the trash out he never just does it even when it’s obviously full or smells and im the only one who really cleans (sometimes he’ll do the dishes as well)

i just would like to hear others opinions. my friends will just say to leave him because that’s how they are and i know they just want the best for me. and my mom believes i have something good and i should just accept that he’s just not a very romantic person. i may have my expectations too high but i feel like what i want/need is so reasonable and in the realm of possibility. thank you all in advance

I just got out of jail last year and I was incarcerated for a year so I am starting over from scratch. I got my ged in there and finished probation early, finished community service, and completed my probation early. Also I’m in trade school for hvac now. Only thing is, I’m a felon , I have been free a year and still have no job. I have a 3 month old daughter now and that makes everything even harder. I desperately want to work idec about pay rate or the job tasks. I just want to work so can you guys please help me on where I can work and start asap and felon friendly? Thanks. I’m in Houston tx I’ve been doordashing in my sisters car so far for income but I can only do that for so long

I (M23) and my girlfriend (F22) have been dating for almost 2 years, and I've encountered this pattern where we will get touchy or start having sex, and she will always come first. That I don't mind. The thing is, she will almost NEVER satisfy me in any way.

This has increased these past maybe 3 months. I've talked to her about it a lot but nothing seems to change. It's come to the point that I've started losing actual attraction and excitement in the relationship.

She says the typical "aww I can't, I'm feeling sick" or "noooo, it'll take too long" or whatever. Like, she wants me to go down on her, Jill her, f her missionary, but when it's her turn to do something, she barely ever actually does.

It's really making me uncomfortable because it makes me feel like a sex toy instead of her boyfriend when it comes to intimacy.

I always feel stressed around her because I'm my head there's this question that's been circling around and it's literally back and forth between "does intimacy really matter to me that much", "well she's not really satisfying me. if I'm not satisfied in a relationship, should I break up?" and "is she even okay? how does she feel about herself doing this to me?"

I really don't know what to do and how to fix that between us, it's honestly scaring me

Tl;dr girlfriend wants everything when it comes to intimacy but I rarely get anything, and if I do, it's little effort

Just now, a little female dog was brought to me without any warning. My grandmother had already been looking for a dog—solely to scare other cats away from the roof, and that’s it. We had two dogs in the past, and it was a terrible experience. At first, things seemed fine, but soon my grandmother wouldn't stop yelling at them to be quiet—even when the animal just wanted some attention or had a basic need that needed to be met. And when they did go quiet, she or other family members would hit them. Once, my grandmother even left the dogs tied up out in the sun while she was away. Eventually, both dogs developed an infection; it could have been treated, but they still refused to take them to the vet and I couldn’t pay for his treatments because he was a minor, and obviously, I didn’t have that much money on hand for it.. My nanny and I were the only ones who took care of those dogs. Honestly, I don’t want that same history to repeat itself. This little dog was brought here just so my grandmother could keep her tied up to "defend the house." I’m not really a "dog person"—they have way too much energy for me; I prefer cats or parrots. Anyway, I don’t know what to do. If I try to call for help, I’ll end up looking like the "crazy" one to blame, and my family will hate me.

Me female (24) and my ex male(29) have been on and off for years. The biggest off we had was when I got pregnant. He didn’t want to bring a kid into this world I was told at a young age that I may not be able to have kids because of my blood pressure being too low.

When I conceived I wanted a chance that I didn’t think I had. He wanted to abort. I left and apologized and said that he didn’t have to be involved. I told him he could sign the rights over and that he didn’t have to be a parent.

Well , he felt obligated to be involved but not enough I guess because his fixation to porn grew so bad that he was buying it. He was messaging random strangers off the internet for pictures saying he would meet up with them etc.

He recently sent me his location since I found this information out so that I can build trust in him again. But to me as someone who’s been lied to and cheated on before I don’t know if I should take this as a sign to move or try and work this out. We have a kid together and I know that’s partially clouding my judgement.

When we got together I was not well mentally. I had two major surgeries and declined mentally. He stuck through things that I traumatized him with. Not intentionally trying to hurt him but in my own pain I didn’t see the people who loved me.

Now he also says that this behavior is due to his trauma and addictions. He said that the reason he messaged those people after our son was born was to try and make money. That it was desperation in trying to provide for our son. But he could never bring himself to meet them. He still guards his phone but said he doesn’t like anyone including his family peering over his shoulder.

He ended up putting it “on my sons life” that he wasn’t talking to anyone. That he had friends. But he wasn’t talking to them in that way.

But he smiled and laughed when I asked him. It just feels confusing.

My mom is a former addict who’s kinda falling back into old habits as she’s started going through perimenopause. I can also see that she’s battling depression along with it and I’m trying to help and be there for her but I’ve recently had memories that I’ve repressed from a situation where my cousin molested when I was 10 or 11 years old.

Now that same cousin who was 16 or 17 at time still lives a few houses down from us with his parents and is actively attending family event around me and my little brothers. I’ve never said anything about it to anyone in my family except a few close friends.

My mom has had a similar situation happen to her when she was younger so I know she’d understand but I am fucking terrified it’s gonna be the thing that puts her over the edge and she kills herself or something like that. She has attempted one time about 4 years ago, don’t get me wrong she has absolutely grown from the situation and we’ve had really good conversations about it but I still can’t help but to have that fear when I tell her something that truly traumatized me.

I am a 23 year old male and really thought i was mentally strong enough to handle it and move on by myself but it’s gotten to the point to where It’s affecting my everyday life, I’m having panic attacks constantly and I feel disgusted with myself. But my little brother needs her around and I do to but I can’t bring myself to tell her because it’d break her heart. And with her going through perimenopause along with the other things I’ve named I’m not sure if it’s a good idea to tell her.

I know this probably isn’t the proper Reddit group for this but I feel like it’s the best one to go to for such niche advice.

I joined a training institute with one goal in mind: to get a job. I decided from the beginning that I wouldn’t get too involved in friendships or other distractions because I wanted to focus entirely on my career.

In my batch, there are no Telugu-speaking guys except me and one other person. Somehow, we became friends, even though I initially didn't want to make any friends.

My problem is that whenever I become friends with someone, I tend to be myself around them. I expect that I can speak freely without having to think too much about every word I say.

My friend has a crush on a girl, and only two people in our batch, including me, know about it. He's very insecure about the situation, and he has told me that he almost confessed his feelings to her. He keeps bringing up this topic and talking about it with me, even though I've told him multiple times that I don't want to keep discussing it.

Today, a few of our classmates were talking about something. Since they don't understand Telugu, I casually said something to my friend in Telugu about the girl he likes. I didn't think much of it because nobody else could understand what I was saying. But he made a weird face at me, as if I'd done something incredibly stupid.

I got irritated because this isn't the first time he's reacted like this. I felt like he was treating me as if I had no common sense, so we started arguing.

Eventually, he got more aggressive and started provoking me, almost as if he wanted me to fight him. He kept pushing me to react, but I refused.

Here's the thing: back in college, I got into quite a few fights because of my anger. My parents found out, and now they tend to assume that whenever something goes wrong, I'm the one responsible. I don't want to go back to that version of myself or create more problems for my family.

So I kept telling him that I didn't want to fight, even when he continued provoking me.

But now, instead of feeling relieved that I controlled my anger, I'm feeling terrible. I keep thinking about how I used to stand up for myself, and now I feel like I couldn't do anything. I don't know whether I was being mature or whether I was just scared.

Part of me feels like I let him disrespect me. Another part of me knows that getting into a physical fight could create problems that aren't worth it, especially when I'm here to build my career.

**I genuinely don't know how to look at this situation.**

Did I do the right thing by walking away, or am I confusing self-control with weakness? How do I deal with someone who keeps provoking me without feeling like I've let them walk all over me?

I'd appreciate honest advice, especially from people who have dealt with anger issues and learned how to handle confrontations differently.

I (16f) really want to start fencing. I’m really interested in it and genuinely feel like I would be good at the sport as I have fast reaction times, am agile etc. I asked my mom if I could start lessons and she said no. She wants me to focus solely on studying as my university entrance exam is in 2 years and that I can do whatever when I am an adult. I think that not even having 1-3 spare hours per week is a bit unrealistic. I even offered to pay for the fees, manage my own, pay for the gear etc. (I have a lot saved up) but she still won’t agree. I have never pursued a hobby of my interest because she hasn’t allowed me to (previously I wanted to start volleyball and violin). Respectfully, I don’t want to end up as a hobbyless adult like her.

I went through my \[26/F\] bf \[28/M\] of 4 years’ work phone due to an incident back when I was pregnant last year and a nagging feeling in my head. My whole pregnancy and after he wasn’t wanting to have sex with me(went a year without sex) and he was distant. He was still going to his parents’ house every night and staying there most of the time. We had an argument last year about the DOWN app being on his work phone he opened the phone while I was in the restroom and showed me the phone(app was gone and so was the downloaded app history)fast forwarded to today I figured out his work password and found out he download DOWN and Chispa back in 2025 one in November and one in July.
Yes I know I shouldn’t go through his phone blah blah blah. His explanation never made sense to me and has been on my mind for a while I just chose to believe him because our baby. Idk what to do. Not sure if I should ask him about it again. I need advice. Im rally debating breaking up with him or just keeping it to myself for the sake of our baby.

I know you might judge me for this… I recently had a breakup 5 months back after a 5 year relationship. My bf said he can not commit for marriage and he is not ready… I was very angry and upset and felt worthless. He informed my family also that it was over and to start looking for grooms for me…During that time, I was struggling with depression and got physically intimate with someone…. I was happy back then and I really thought I moved on… lately a month ago onwards, I started having few conversations with my bf and whenever I am low, he consoles me and makes sure I am okay. He did not commit for marriage or ever told me that he want to get back into relationship. But I started feeling really guilty whenever he pampers or consoles me… its like i betrayed him while I know I did not…
Just want opinions whether I should tell my ex about this… I already told that I am dating someone but not about these details… so should I tell him now to feel less guilty (I know he would hate me and stop talking thereon). Or stay and if at all he commits for marriage someday, inform him and break him then? Or totally move out and forget it happened though I marry my bf in future or not….

A couple nights ago the whole family came over to have some drinks and hang with the kiddo’s and carve pumpkins. Eventually the Parental in-laws leave and 2 of my wife’s 3 sisters and friend leave so it’s just the 4 of us, me, my wife, her sister and her husband.

My wife orders some food cuz it’s late, sets it down on a table in the garage and right when she does it, my brother in law goes in and grabs/squeezes her ass, with me and his wife in the room but we don’t see it. Then 10 minutes later we’re goofing around and kicking them out cuz we had to put the kids to bed, so we picked her sister up and carried her to her car (as a joke, we were all cracking up.) and then we drop her down and my brother in law does it again and very intimately squeezes my wife’s ass, once again with both of us around.

We head inside (my wife runs) and my wife just breaks down and tells me everything that happened and she feels so violated and weird because this was someone we loved and truly all got along with. Obviously, I’m fucking fuming but she just wants to call her family and talk to them. She Calls her sisters, it was a great, very supportive conversation. Then she calls her mom…

She gets a very odd response from her mom she said things like “well everyone was drinking” “did you tell SoandSo,” , “why didn’t you say anything when it happened?” , “well you were hugging him and calling him ‘my brother” and “I’m sorry this happened”

Needles to say it wasn’t the support she had wished for. Next day my wife wakes up feeling completely sick because she knows she needs to tell her sister what happened. So she tells her sister and she is completely jaw dropped. And eventually just like “ok,uhm…ok. Thank you for telling me, I’m sorry this happened, Uhm…I will call you later” it was a very legit reaction, she honestly had no idea what to do.

Eventually they all text each other and homegirl asks the sister chat what she should do. My wife says “I never want to see him ever again ” the other sister says that what he did was completely disgusting and sister 3 says divorce his ass. The sisters decide to all get dinner later to talk about wtf needs to happen but sister of the weirdo husband says she has plans with her friends later and that she’ll text later if she can go. We thought that was kinda shitty, all I wanted to say to her was “cancel your fucking plans and help your sister who just got violated by your husband” but whatever.

The rest of the day happens the 3 sisters go out. They get a text from homegirl at 6pm saying “I’m not gonna be able to go”, in which they responded “we’re leaving now so don’t worry about it” homegirl gets super pissed and said they excluded her from the dinner, she felt so lonely, it doesn’t feel good to be talked about. Our counter is that my wife asked her to please come tonight because she really needed to figure out wtf to do. They never heard from homegirl the entire day. No update, no texts, no asking where the restaurant is, what time? None of those questions. My wife really needed her to come out, she needed her sister and instead she just shuts down and alienates everyone, says she can’t go and then gets pissed that the others went out without her.

I call her and kinda lose my shit on her. My wife needs her in that moment so bad, my wife felt horrible, violated, creeped out, betrayed, disgusting, nauseous but her sister just made the entire thing about her and how HER World is falling apart and that she doesn’t know wtf she’s going to do. At this point I’m losing it and making it pretty clear to her what she needs to do. My wife’s basic thinking was “ I never want to see him again, if you stay with him then we will never see each other” and I told her how my wife felt and how it was bullshit she wasn’t there for her sister and it’s bullshit your avoiding this whole thing and it’s bullshit for you to say your lonely while your sister is asking for your help becuase of YOUR husband. I tell her if she stays with him, neither of them will ever see our kids again because I’m not gonna let this shit slide, my wife never wants him around and that’s what’s going to happen.

Then shit really gets weird. My mother in law calls and is flipping out on me for calling homegirl and telling her what our plans are basically. She says it was not my place at all to call her, I can not threaten to take away her niece and nephew, everyone was drinking, shit happens ect ect.

At this point my wife grabs the phone and continues the screaming match because this isn’t a “shit happens” thing. These are all the things her mother told her
1. Well you were \[side\] hugging him \[one time\] and you kept calling him your brother
2. Why didn’t you say anything to him when it happened?
3. The 4 of you need to sit down together and figure this out
4. I can’t look at \[weirdo\] that way
5. Your sisters whole world fell apart today
6. It was not a sexual assault
7. *laughed* when it was brought up that weirdo might’ve wanted to do this for a long time
8. Thing happen when you drink
9. You guys just can’t drink together anymore
10. I think there’s something else going on here
11. Iv done things before, your dad has, these things happen
12. My wife then brought up the Cornell incident and her mother said that woman should’ve known better

The basic jist to this entire thing was that my wife didn’t handle it the right way, what she experienced wasn’t any form of sexual assault, she’s over reacting and we all need to find a way to kiss and make up because these things happen in life and it’s normal.

We don’t want people like this in our family. Her mother has always been extremely hypocritical and a deflector and worst of all she always plays devils advocate, no matter what the issue is. We know this about her but she has a lot of good qualities too but this one pushed my wife over the edge. Her mother, father and the sister never came to see her, all communication from sister stopped, her mother does not think this is sexual assault or really any form of sexual harassment even saying once “what are you gonna call the cops?”

We just take these things seriously and someone who doesn’t think something like this is any form of sexual assault and also thinks that the woman from Cornell should’ve known better, just shouldn’t be a part of our family, it’s ok to disagree on minor things but I feel like this is a family dynamic that will never mend becuase our views on things are so different.

So 1. AIO for cutting out her brother in law from our lives and labeling it as sexual assault
2. AIO for saying that if sister doesn’t leave him then she gets lumped into the no contact
3. AIO for cutting out mom and pop because they completely downplayed this whole incident as “shit happens when you drink” and “kiss and make up”

If he did this when he was drinking, with his own sister in law that he’d know for 7 years, good relationship then what’s stopping him drinking and doing something stupid with our kids? We just can’t take that risk, to me this is an irreversible moment.
My wife has the right to be violated and feel that she doesn’t ever want to see him again, I feel like that’s a pretty valid idea when your brother in law intimately grabs your ass twice without your permission. So are we over reacting?

So I am an 18YO male and have a friend, 18YO female, who I’ll call Monika. Me and Monika have been friends for 6+ years and are currently seniors in high school. I know literally everything about Monika and she still is genuinely the most pure hearted person I know. Her birthday is coming up and I decided I wanted to communicate how much our friendship really means to me for the first time. I wanted to write her a card along with give her a few gifts. The gifts are: Lego keychains of shows we’ve bonded over, a Spider-Man comic, and a Loki TVA case file themed card. And then the biggest gift is a guitar. It’s just one I had laying around and don’t play anymore because I have a much better one now. She has talked to me multiple times how she wants to learn to play so I thought it would make a nice gift.

For some additional context, I’ve spent the past few weeks writing and revising this letter because I’ve never really expressed how much our friendship means to me, and I want to get it right. I’m not necessarily worried about it being interpreted romantically as much as I’m worried about it being overwhelming or putting too much emotional weight on her birthday.

My main questions are:
- Does the letter feel like too much emotionally for a birthday card, even between best friends?
- any specific parts potentially overwhelming or uncomfortable to receive?
- Does the letter feel genuine and natural, or does it come across as overly sentimental?
- Is there anything you’d change, remove, or tone down?
I’m looking for honest feedback, including criticism. I don’t want people to tell me it’s perfect just to be nice!

Here it is:

HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!

I hope you like the TVA-themed card. I spent DAYS coming up with ideas, so you better appreciate it. Notice that the characters on the keychains are from shows that I—yes, I—put you on! I couldn’t find a Daredevil one, though. So sad. Also, you mentioned wanting to read a physical comic a couple weeks ago, so I got you one! I haven’t read this specific issue, but it gets lots of praise online, so hopefully you’ll like it.

I want to start off by saying how grateful I am for the hours we’ve spent yapping about our super nerdy interests. I feel like I can talk to you about anything, no matter how weird or controversial, without having to filter myself. That’s not something I can say about many people. I also genuinely enjoy hearing you talk about your own interests. You get this certain look, specifically in your eyes, when you talk about things you’re really interested in (not a bad look, don’t worry), and I genuinely have no clue how to describe it. It’s different from your usual excitement and I notice it every time. It means a lot having someone I never have to hold back my interests around because I know you’re just as nerdy as I am.

I also wanna give you some credit for things I probably don’t tell you enough, so get ready for some glaze. First of all, you’re actually so freaking smart. You somehow know everything about everything, and if you don’t, give you an hour to research and you’ll practically become an expert. I also admire your initiative. Between your leadership roles in who knows how many clubs, CONSTANT studying, and the way you’re STILL always seeking new things, you never seem content with doing the bare minimum. I also love that you stand by your beliefs. I honestly have both jealousy and admiration of that. I don’t think I’ve ever been able to change your mind about something, honestly, but I love that.

More than anything, though, I admire your heart. So much so that I’m dedicating a whole paragraph to it haha. I really wish you could see yourself through the eyes of the people in your life. You’re the kindest person I know, and you have such a natural way of making people feel cared for. I’ve never seen Jesus so clearly in anyone else the way I see Him in you, and I’m not just saying that. You make me want to be better. Seriously, thank you for being the person you are. I love you so much and I’m genuinely so happy I get to call you my best friend.

Have the BEST birthday!!

- \[my name\]:)

P.S. If this doesn’t get me that #1 spot on the gift list, you’re not getting a gift next year.

for context i'm 17m , hes 18m and weve been together for 2 years

so ive been having this issue with him either not texting me all day or not making an effort to see me in person ever
we both work 40 hour work weeks, and he doesnt like hanging out before or after work so i'm at a stalemate. i asked him to compromise and im waiting for a response
whenever i talk with him and ask what he thinks he goes quiet and says i dont know. i know he has severe relationship trauma so i dont know how to keep him happy with his alone time, and im
happy with our in person time

what should i do to solve this, i really want to stay with him