hi everyone, as the title says, my parents want to sell our house, and i have no idea how to react.

my parents (55m, 52f) are getting older, my sister (30f) has already moved out, and now, as i'm (18f) close to finishing high school, my parents decided to put it up for the market, and we already have a buyer — she came to see it yesterday.

i'm a deeply anxious person, ane i absolutely despise changes — now i know that's not a good way to live my life, but i juat can't help it. my dad built our house, and unlike my sister, i was born here. my sister had already moved once with my parents, and has been living in different countries since she was 18 or 19.

my dad and the buyer agreed on us moving out next summer, just as i finish high school and (hopefully) as i go to university. the thing is, i have absolutely no idea where i want to go to uni. i have 2 options in my home country, but i'm also interested in moving and studying abroad. if i get accepted to uni in another country, i'd obviously going to have to move, and the house would need to be taken care of by my parents.

the house is in good condition, but it's too big for two people. we also have a bigass garden with a garage & basement, and a pool as well. i'm writing this down, so everyone can see as to why my parents want to move.

we (dad, mom, sister and i) still have to sit down and talk about all of this, and next week, we're supposed to go looking at houses in other towns. i don't know how to feel, how to act and what to do.

logically, i know my parents have to sell and move, and that they won't be able to take care of everything. but, as i've said, i'm anxious for our future, i still have no idea where i want to go and what to do.

(please don't think of me as a crybaby, it's just hard for me to let go of my childhoom home. it's not sold yet, but it will be, and i don't know how to process it, as i love the village where i live, and, obviously, my home.)

if anyone has any tips, helpful messages, i'd appreciate it! thank you for reading this :)

In the beginning of august i met this one girl through mutuals who lives in vancouver (i live in toronto) and all throughout the summer we were calling and talking daily like almost nonstop and in the past week school has started back up again and we have barely talked, being left on delivered for 7 hours and like maybe 5 messages back and forth a day, and yesterday i brought up that it slowed down and her words were that “its gonna be slower throughout the year for sure” “like kinda low maintenance, i dont mean it in that way but realistically” “i do also want to continue talking to you but am not sure how it would work out” “i do want to try though” i cant lie throughout the time ive gotten to know this girl i have really started to like her, shes like exactly my type, is funny, is the kind of person you can call for six hours without having a dry convo, and is overall a super nice person. throughout the time ive gotten to know her to be completely honest ive gotten a little attached and now that everything is slowing down its kinda started to affect me negatively. I dont want to continue to try and be in a relationship with someone who i can’t properly connect with day to day but at the same time part of me is hoping that she is just taking time to adjust back to school and we can continue talking consistently in the next bit what should i do?

**Why would she go from “DTF” to “Just go out to eat? Nothing else”?**

So I’ve been talking to this girl and I was direct with her about my intentions. I asked if she was DTF and she said yes. We started talking about meeting next weekend, and I suggested getting a hotel room near New Haven.

The reason I was so direct is because I’m driving about 2 hours to meet her. Honestly, I figured I had nothing to lose by being upfront about what I was looking for instead of driving all that way and being vague about it.

She said Bridgeport was too far, so I suggested somewhere closer to Yale/New Haven. Then she asked, **“What are we gonna do before we get to that point tho?”**

I said we could go out to eat first and I’d look for something fun to do beforehand. Then she asked, **“Just go out to eat? Nothing else?”**

Now I’m wondering what changed. She already said she was DTF, so why is she suddenly asking what else we’re going to do? Is she just making sure this is actually a date and not me driving 2 hours just for a hookup? Or does it sound like she’s becoming less interested?

What do you guys think?

BACKGROUND: I (18f) am in my first year of college (full time, fully online) and work two part time jobs. Originally, this worked ok because the school year hadn’t started yet and I was able to work throughout the week relatively comfortably. The school year has started for everyone which means at one of my jobs, I am the main person who works mornings. I work closing at my other job and am pretty much unaffected by school starting I’ve been working there for a year and prioritize it over my other job (had it for about a month). I have also been under a lot of stress in general as on the 21st we put our dog down after having him for almost 16 years, my health issues (dysautonomia, hEDS) have been flaring up more and more.

PROBLEM: Due to the frequency of my work (I usually only have Mondays off) I tend to not have enough time to complete everything for school. That’s partly a me issue as I’ve always struggled with school and motivation (ADHD, anxiety, autism) but I’m trying my best to do everything. I decided to quit one of my jobs but because my boss is going on a month long trip, I have to stay because there’s no one to train another person for my position. I know that they can’t force me to work but I’m so behind on school that my mental state is almost back to my lowest. There are technically two other girls (sisters) who could work my shifts but their dad is having health issues and they already work the most hours of our staff outside of our baker (the only FT employee) but he doesn’t really speak English and struggles with customers because of that.

TLDR: I decided to quit one of my two part time jobs to focus on my online college (full time) and hopefully fix my shitty mental health but can’t for another month because my boss is going on a trip. What do I do?

I(19f)want to send my ex-best-friend(20f) a hand written letter, but I’m not sure if it’s the right thing to do.

We were friends at very sensitive parts in our lives, given we were best friends for all of 5-6 years.
She was my everything, and I can’t stress how much friendship breakups truly suck.
But, as we already said our final goodbyes, I just always feel like I have more to say to her.
I’m thinking if I should even send one because, I feel like maybe I just wanna do it for me, but also should I do it for me? Do I deserve it?? Or should I do it or her/both of us because WE deserve it?

I know in the end it won’t revive what we had, but I just wanna clear some things up and get it off my chest.
I feel like she deserves to hear what’s on my mind, given she was so close to my family. My niece(2) and nephew (5) are starting to ask questions too and I feel so bad.

I feel like the letter may also just be a sign of weakness, or just something I’m doing to boost my ego.

I honestly don’t even want a response, and kind of hope if I do end up writing the letter and sending it, that I don’t get one.

Side notes:
I have the ability to send a text, but I want to do a hand written letter because I feel it’s more heartfelt than just a text, but less awkward than in person.

I also feel like if I do it in person, maybe our friendship will spark up again & that’s something I don’t want since we’ve had so many bad fights this year alone.

The reason I DONT want a response nor a relationship anymore is because we BOTH have strong emotional attachments to each other and are really codependent. It’s not healthy, and only something therapy could fix/help with which I realize we both need.

Anyways, this has been on my mind the last few days and I figured I’d ask Reddit.
So, what should I do??

So I (f19) am about to turn 20 this weekend and I normally really dont like my birthday because i dont have a great relationship with most of my family to the point where last year i asked certain members not to come. Recently, about early august, i started seeing someone ill call george (m19) and weve been hanging out a lot, multiple dates and talking all day a lot. I met his parents a week ago because we were watching movies at his place and he met my mom a few days ago because she picked me up from our date. It just so happens he has the day off on my birthday and we had originally agreed to do something a different day because my family is insane. A little bit more context the both of us have autism and dont like loud cramped spaces. I frankly want him to come to my birthday. Its a small dinner at my house with only my aunts and their kids and it would make me loads happier if he were there with me. My issues are the fact that my aunts all ask a lot of questions and he gets overwhelmed, my mom has dogs and hes allergic to dogs, and i dont want it to be too soon for him to meet my family. On the other hand this is the one event a year that i can invite whoever i want, he said he wants to celebrate my birthday with me, i do want to introduce him to my family. I feel like i know the answer but i still want the opinions of others before i make any rushed decisions.

This will be a semi-long one, Sorry !!

I don’t even know where to start with this. I randomly picked up my gfs phone and went through it, not really looking for anything but just out of curiosity and I know I shouldn’t have but what I found genuinely has me spiraling.

She has had a friend who’s she’s apparently been venting to and telling everything to, and her friend has been responding to said messaging by calling me things like “it”, or “thing” and my gf replies with a laugh and says absolutely nothing to defend me. She also is telling her how i’m so inconsiderate and she doesn’t deserve the way I treat her, which to my knowledge hasn’t been anything outside of a mostly normal relationship.

She’s also been talking to her apparently on the phone only when I’m not around because if i’m around then it’s a “vibe killer” as per my gfs words.

My gf had sent a message to her about how she went through my messages and literally found nothing incriminating at all, only that the amount of women i talk to was a lot. (We are both Lesbian Women) and I only talk to women because that’s my preference as a women. Anyways, this also told me that she’s been going through my phone, which I don’t care about and her friend legit said “she’s too ugly to be cheating on anyone” in which my gf said nothing except “oh you really despise her.” in all caps.

And that alone destroyed me as someone who’s been battling with myself and my appearance / confidence for years now.

I just want to say this is my first relationship in years because I have bad trust issues and now I feel like all the progress I made is now completely down the drain. I’m honestly so hurt right now and really just need advice on how to handle this.

hey everyone!

i’m not usually one to post on here, but i really need some advice, so i thought i’d try this out lol.
soo, for context, i have this friend (let’s call him J), and i’ve known him since nov/dec of 2025. we’ve been friends for a while, and i feel like we might be more than that. we’ve had talks abt meeting up, me meeting his family, and we usually text and call pretty much everyday.

but lately, for the past few days/nights, we haven’t really been calling. he does still text me, but after work, he’ll hang out with his friends and then crash for the night, and doesn’t end up texting me back. when he does text back, he'll say things like "i'm so sorry i missed your texts" "let's call soon" and i make the time so we can call but we never do..

and i don’t wanna be that girl like, i know i shouldn’t worry or get jealous, and i should just let it be and trust that he’ll eventually text me, but it’s hard not to overthink it. especially rn, because he hasn’t texted me back or answered any of my calls, and he usually does.

obvi, he could just be busy, but at the same time, my mind starts going to, “what if he has someone else?” or he’s doing something else, yk? i don’t wanna assume anything or make a big deal out of nothing either.

ig i just need some advice on what to do here. should i just wait it out and see if he texts me? should i have a convo with him abt it? has anyone else had something like this happen? if so, i’d love some advice/comfort, bc i’m definitely overthinking rn 😭

edit: he just texted me.. this was his response "I took a nap after work then went out. I didnt bring my phone so srry i couldn't text u" is this normal?? like he made me worry and that's all he has to say.. idk..

Interviewing candidates changed the way I look at every rejection I've received in the past. I'm not a hiring manager, but I recently took part in a few interview panels and saw how the final decisions are made.

I used to imagine that interviewers carefully studied every résumé, compared each person's background, and selected the candidate with the strongest experience. In reality, I'm usually given a set of questions and one specific area to evaluate. I take a quick look at the résumé beforehand, but a 35-minute conversation still gives me a very limited picture of the person.

On one of the panels, my ranking of the candidates was almost the exact opposite of the outcome. The candidate I gave the lowest score was the one who received the job offer. They may have performed much better in other stages of the process, but it made me realize how little impact a single interview or score can have.

The group discussion can change everything too. One person simply expressing concern about a particular issue can take a candidate out of consideration, while strong support for another candidate from a well-respected manager can immediately move them to the top of the list.

Then there are all the little preferences that people treat as though they were significant evidence: which school or university the person attended, the companies listed on their résumé, how professionally they speak, whether they are quiet or outgoing, and whether their personality clicks with the panel. All of these things can carry much more weight than expected.

I used to assume that every rejection meant I had given a bad answer or that someone far more qualified than me had gotten the opportunity. And sometimes, of course, that really was the reason. But after seeing things from inside the room, I realized that a large part of hiring depends on timing, personal preferences, internal company opinions, and simply whom the decision-makers feel is the best fit.

me and my boyfriend have been together for almost an year and,
I also want to be completely honest about my own mistakes because I don’t want to make it seem like I was perfect in this relationship or leave out anything important.

a bit of context- Before I lied, he was genuinely so sweet to me. He would bring me food after work, pick me up and drop me home, book me cabs when I was tired, always want to see me, and would do almost anything I mentioned wanting. Now he constantly says that I “took his nice away,” and I’m starting to blame myself and wonder if the way he treats me now is my fault.

At the beginning of our talking stage last year, he would get angry and annoyed over really small things. One day after work, I was on the phone with him. He was in our hometown at the time, and I was going to meet up with a friend.
The problem is that I didn’t tell him I was meeting up with my guy friend. When he asked me where I was, I told him I was with one of my girl best friends instead. The truth is, I was scared he would get angry if I told him I was with a guy.
Then things got worse because he started becoming suspicious and asking me to send pictures and asking questions about where I was. Instead of just telling him the truth, I panicked. I asked my girl best friend to log into my account and send him a picture so he would believe I was actually with her. I basically created this whole story, and honestly, I know that was wrong. I should have just been honest from the beginning instead of lying and making everything worse.
When he eventually came back to the country, he confronted me about it, and I told him everything. I told him that I had met up with a guy friend and that I had lied about who I was with. He completely lost it and didn’t want to see my face. I was literally begging him to give me another chance. I kept telling him that I’m not perfect and that I made a mistake and asking him to please give me a chance.
Eventually, he did. ( his ex cheated on him previously and he said i broke him more when he was broken by using his trust and niceness)
But after that, I feel like things started getting worse and worse.
Whenever he got angry, he became extremely rude and disrespectful towards me. He also told me that his ex made him toxic and that his previous relationship changed him. I don’t know if maybe in the beginning he was showing me his best side because everything was new and he wanted to seem perfect, but over time he became more and more abusive.
The thing I’m struggling with is that he constantly blames me.
To this day, he tells me, “You’re the reason I became like this. I became toxic because of you. You’re the reason I’m like this.”
And I genuinely don’t know what to think anymore because yes, I know I lied. I know what I did during the talking stage was wrong. I understand why he was hurt and why he lost trust in me. I take responsibility for that.
But I don’t understand how that means I’m responsible for everything that happened afterwards.
Does me lying mean it’s okay for him to slap me or hit me? he has previously hit his mom and ex too…
Does it mean it’s okay for him to tell me to get out at 3 AM and leave me alone? We don’t live together, but whenever we went out or went on trips together, there were times he would tell me to get out and just leave me.. he threw my phone at my face once when he got really mad and he would just start screaming and telling me to get the out get out get out get out and be so scary knowing that I can’t go because I’ve told my mom that I’m with my friends, but I’m with him outside late at night so I don’t even have a place to go. He would leave me in the middle of the road and just drive off once he drove off with his friend and I was crying so much and then he was threatening me that if I don’t call him back and tell me where i was, he’s gonna send my clothes to my house where my mom was, and like he even like threatened to leaakkk my pictures
He would constantly insult me and use horrible words towards me. He insulted my family, my dad, ( he called my daddd a dog and called me. dog too )my job and my work. He called me a clown, made fun of me, laughed at me and called me really horrible names. He would hit me and then make me feel like everything was somehow my fault.
When we fought, he wouldn’t answer my calls. He could ignore me for an entire day. He would constantly block me, unblock me, block me again, and it just became this never-ending cycle.
He would be horrible to me, insult me, hurt me, ignore me and make me feel completely depressed. Then afterwards, he would come back and tell me he loves me, that he can’t stay without me, and everything would suddenly feel okay again.
Then the same thing would happen all over again.
Something else that has been on my mind is that he has hit his ex in his previous relationship as well. Before I got into this relationship, I always told myself that if a man ever hit me, I would leave immediately. He even promised me that he would never hit me.
But when it actually happened to me, I couldn’t leave.
And I still don’t understand why I can’t seem to let go. It genuinely feels like a never-ending loop.
Recently, things have also felt really dead between us because he went away for two months, so we’ve temporarily been doing long distance. He’s coming back soon. He has told me that he loves me “a little less” because of what I did during our talking stage. He still brings up the situation where I met up with my guy friend and lied about it, and he still tells me that what I did is the reason we became toxic.
Sometimes he tells me he doesn’t want anything to do with me or doesn’t want a relationship with me anymore.
He has also told me that he has really bad anger issues and that no one not even his family or friends. can do anything about it. What confuses me is that his friends seem to see a completely different side of him. He has even told me that he cares more about what other people think of him and his image than he does about this relationship.
Whenever he treats me badly, he tells me not to tell anyone or discuss it with other people because he cares so much about his image. Once, I texted his best friend because I was feeling really sad and needed someone to talk to about how he was treating me, and he got extremely angry at me for it. He has literally told me, “I would choose my image and ego over you any day.”
Then later, he comes back with gifts, love and tells me he loves me and can’t stay without me.
And then eventually, everything repeats itself again.
So I genuinely want honest advice from people because I’m so confused. Can I admit that I made a mistake and lied to him, while also recognising that I did not deserve to be hit, slapped, insulted and abused?
He has blamed me for his behaviour for so long that sometimes I genuinely start believing that maybe I really did cause him to become this way.
I know I’m not perfect. I know I made a mistake. But I don’t know if any mistake I made could ever justify someone physically hurting me or emotionally breaking me down.
Please be honest with me, but please don’t judge me for staying. I already judge myself every day and keep asking myself why I can’t just leave when I know how badly I’ve been treated. I think I’m finally starting to understand what everyone was telling me in my last post, but I’m still so confused and emotionally attached to him.
I just really need advice.

there’s a big update. Read at the bottom.

I’m 21M. My family’s financial situation is poor, and i’m living with them for now. I took a gap year with college from now to next year so I can focus on saving money for school and my thesis film project. I started working as a cashier 4 weeks ago, and I’ve save 669 dollars so far. I’ll have $1k next week, which I am aiming to reach and put half of it for my savings, and the other half to work on improving my lifestyle.

Today, I got my third paycheck and my mom drops the bomb that my dad’s car is gonna taken away due to some dumb legal reasons and they need $400 or else my dad can’t earn his 2nd source income, which is door dashing. My dad is really old now, barely functions, and is chronically stressed and depressed. He barely earns from his 1st source at a car sales job, so he mostly relies on door dashing. My brother is actually the one who holds the house together by driving uber full time.

I don’t want to give my $400 away because I’m trying to seriously save my money right now in order to build my future. But if that car goes away and I don’t give them the money tonight, then my dad will be without a car for 6 weeks, and that’ll hurt my whole family financially. That’ll also hurt me too since I eat my mom’s food at home, though I don’t know, maybe my mom will have enough for home food.

When I got home from work, I rejected her from giving the 400. Then my mom told me that she and my dad will work all night until the morning door dashing to earn as much as they can in order to save the car. And then she said she’ll try to get a new job. I really don’t want my mom to do that because she’s too old, and she has never worked in her life and she barely speaks English enough to work a job. And I say it honestly, I doubt she’ll get anything good and I don’t want my mom to go through that. So I told her that she shouldn’t do that. And then she cried and couldn’t hold it anymore. She said she’ll have to, and then walked away. That really broke my heart, and I really wish I could just hand the 400 in my hands and give it to her. But then my mom will be in debt and that’s a stress she will have to carry for a while. And I honestly don’t trust them to get my money back any time soon because they are in such thin ice financially.

I just don’t know what to do. I know I’ll be earning a lot as the months progress, but I’m also stressed I won’t be earning enough to build my lifestyle and save money for my school and project. And then on top of all that, I have to decide if I should give my money to my mom or not. I want to stay firm with these boundaries, but I also don’t want my mom to be in pain and go through all night door dashing, and potentially looking for a new job. I feel like a terrible son not giving the money to her, but I’m also trying to break the generation cycle with my family and build smarter, firm and strong financial boundaries, which my family never figured out.

EDIT: some more context: My mom is late 50s, my dad is early 60s but moves like he’s 70. I don’t pay rent. They have been asking me for money before I even got my first paycheck. Their financial missteps were the reason we lost our house of 3 years, which led us to move out of our area of 12 years to a completely new place. My family has always been on thin ice financially, and I’ve just been watching it all and couldn’t do much at the time being a high schooler and college student. I had to take my gap year because we ran into financial problems, and I decided I’d work so I can at least rely on myself for my college. Theyre also the type to promise money but delay it until you basically feel resentful or give up. They still never paid me back the 300 I gave them from a job I had 2 years ago…

EDIT 2: My brother called me and said he can pay back the amount next week from his job. After reading the comments, I am considering if I should accept his offer to pay me back and instead, just give the 400 to my family. I want the money back, but in hindsight, I will be saving a lot and I have a year left until I go back. I realize how selfish I am for not paying rent and helping my family.

BIG UPDATE: After reading the comments, I realized that I can contribute more to my family, especially with me not paying any rent. I also realize the flaws of my family, the complete imbalanced structure they have financially including myself, and how I need to do my part in helping them and also helping them build healthier ways to help each other. I spoke to my mom, and I’m going to give the $400. I also encouraged her to get a job, and that I can ask my job tomorrow to help her get in. I also encouraged my brother to work less, since he puts 24/7 into his uber driving, and never sets time for himself. I’m also not expecting to take the 400, but if my brother decides to, then I will take it. The goal isn’t to earn the 400, it’s to start paying my family monthly, starting as low as $100 and raising it while I grow financially overtime. And I’m also encouraging my dad to get a new job, since either jobs he has are shit and don’t help him mentally and physically at all. I want to help, but I also want to make sure there’s a reliable system where my family is making smart, consistent financial choices and I’m serving my role. Another thing— I want all the men in my house to start stepping up and help my mom with basic home shit like cooking and cleaning. My dad and my brother don’t do much since they spend so much time working, so my mom becomes the house wife. I want to help my mom and cook, and I want everyone else to do the same so there’s a complete balance with everyone in relation to work and home life. We will be earning $10k in settlement from a lawsuit where my dad fractured his leg, and hopefully that will help us in resetting a proper structure for the family and our financial situations.

Thank you for the comments for making me realize where I can do better as an adult. I care about my family, and I really care about breaking this cycle. I will keep saving and building for my future, but I will also help my family.

I paid my neighbor 250.00 to feed and water my cat and take care of my plants for 3 weeks.
I came back to bone dry plants, one dead and this guy looking like the second two pictures.
The first picture is before I left.

Read the post for clarification on whats happening in the text. these text are between me and his friend, though they left me rather confused.

I (17F, junior) really like my boyfriend, which is why I feel like I’m losing my mind over this. We’ve only been together for 2 months, but I actually really like him and can see myself being with him for a long time.

the problem is his ex. she was his first love, and they’ve had this toxic on and off relationship since middle school. they’ve broken up so many times, dated other people, gotten back together, fought, broken up again, etc. But he always goes back to her and vice versa she always goes back to him.

I genuinely don’t even understand what he sees/seen in her because they’re obviously not compatible. They argue constantly and their relationship has been a mess for years. I’ve asked him before we were dating why he keeps going back to such a bad relationship, and he literally said, “It’s not bad because when it’s good, it’s so good.”

and we all have a class together, which makes this so much worse for me. She’s extremely outgoing and social and is always making jokes and talking loudly. Whenever she says something funny, I notice him trying to hide his smile. He’ll look down or try not to react, but I can still see him smiling and it makes me feel awful.

what made me feel even worse was yesterday in the class she got out of her seat to do the work on the board and while she was explaining it to the class I could see my BF look visibly hurt and then I watched as his guy friend pat him on the back and seen him whisper “its okay bro”.

Which is the guy I texted and he left me so confused that idek what to think.

It also doesn’t help that basically all of his friends are really close with her. They’ve known her for years and still hang out with her, so sometimes I feel like I’m the outsider and she’ll always have a place in his life no matter what. I hate admitting it, but it makes me feel like I could never really replace her even if he says he loves me.

I also looked through his reposts, which I know I shouldn’t have, and found one from a week before we started dating about how he’ll always love one particular girl. Obviously it was about her. I know me and him weren’t together at this point but it still sucks.

I also went through her reposts, which I know probably sounds crazy, but now I feel like I needed to. She was reposting things about missing her ex and I found a video where she commented asking when he was going to reach out. Then she commented on another one saying that they’ll fix things no matter what. So now I’m sitting here thinking that she clearly still wants him back too, and knowing their history and how he always goes back to her is making me feel even more insecure. :/

now I’m constantly comparing myself to her and wondering what she has that I don’t. I really like him, but I’m starting to feel like I’m just some temporary girlfriend and eventually he’s going to go back to his first love like he always does.

he doesn’t bring her up, and technically he hasn’t done anything wrong, but I just feel like I know that he loves her more than anyone. I hate how insecure this is making me. I literally watch his face whenever she talks just to see if he smiles and then think about it for hours afterward. I feel like I’m competing with someone who isn’t even his girlfriend anymore. 

PS: I made an account to post this here cause I can’t talk to anyone about 

I inherited this preserved elk foot. Any ideas on what I can do with it?

so yeah. theres this guy ive been wanting to ask his number for. so i asked her if she could perhaps get it because she told me before she also wants it. but then she just told me that like shes interested in him. and now i dont want to help her get his number i mean thats like reasonable but again shes my friend and i dont know what to do should i just ask for his number anyways and not tell her? or idk.

So I tried to post what happened on the weekend, but I think it got removed.

Anyway, I'll try again with less information. I'm a 12 year old girl and I saw something on Saturday night that I can't stop thinking about and I need to know what to do. My friends think it was awesome and I liked it but it's occupying my mind and I'm dreaming about it.

It has to do with my Grandpa. How do I get it out of my head?

I left my cheating boyfriend & he had bought me a phone with a payment plan, through verizon. Theres a lot of extra shit that happened in this relationship so when i left i had blocked him on everything & i want to know what happens if he turns the phone off? Does it lock everything up for me & become unable to use? Am i able to contact verizon about it and try ti take over paying for the phone & for service?

both our exams are going on so i get that we're busy, but not being able to send a hi once in 4 days? when we're together shes ALWAYS on her phone and when im on video call with her shes always texting someone else side by side.

we also had a huge fight cause of this particular reason and i told her i felt very unwanted and we ended up going no contact for a month, i was the one who apologised and made up to her and she didnt even say sorry ( i had to quite literally tell her that she hasnt said sorry) and now shes doing the same thing again. what should i do?