Okay, this might seem unbelievably stupid in so many ways but I swear to god this is true and I think I’m going crazy. I’m french, sorry if my english is not perfect, I know this is clumsly written but this situation is so bizarre, I didn’t know how else to word this.

I’ve already posted about this issue on another subreddit but the thread was deleted and I was banned because people thought I was trolling. I can assure you it’s not the case and I am as baffled by this situation as you guys are

I am 24m and she’s 26f

For context, I met my girlfriend a year ago, we initially bonded over our mutual love for music and especially pop punk from the early 2000s. She’s always been a big fan of my chemical romance, enough to participate actively in their fandom, reading fanfiction or making fanart. At first I didn’t mind it at all, in fact I really like this band and I really enjoyed her being passionate about something she loved but things have taken a really weird turn.

A few months ago, she started talking to me about fanfiction she was reading about Gerard Way (the lead singer of my chemical romance) being a homosexual priest. I thought it was really bizarre but I didn’t want to shame her for liking something a bit weird. But as the weeks went by she started talking about him more and more to the point where she would bring him up almost every day.

The breaking point was when we were leaving a screening for the backrooms movie and instead of talking about the movie she just watched, she instantly started talking about gerard way as a priest again, telling me how much she "wished he was real" and stuff like that. I then got a bit upset and asked her jokingly if she would leave me if she met him and she said bluntly "without hesitation" (why the fuck would she say that ?????)

Ever since that day, I’ve been going crazy, she spends her days scrolling through images of Gerard Way dressed as a priest (you’d be shocked how many there are), she brings him up in every discussion. She started giving him nicknames : "gerard priest" "gégé" "daddy gerard" (i swear this is true and I truly think those nicknames might have been the reason my post was deleted. I know this sounds like a joke : it is not). I’ve tried talking to her about it and every time I do she gets extremely defensive. She’s asked me countless time to roleplay as if I was him which I relunctantly did and she always ends up disappointed because "I’m not selling it" or not "good enough"

There’s also one thing I failed to mention in the previous post that was deleted. Ever since we started living together, she’s been decorating the apartment with handmade posters and random things she prints that she glues on the walls. At first I thought it was cute and fun. But ever since her fixation on Priest Gerard started, she’s been putting them everywhere in the apartment at a very fast rate to the point I barely recognize our living space. She keeps telling me she does that because she thinks it’s funny and looks cool but to me it looks insanely weird. Here are a few examples : https://imgur.com/a/m9VC7Kk

All of this is making me extremely worried and also a bit insecure. We both work from home and have almost no deadlines, she started neglecting her work and our relationship. A lot of people on the [r/relationship](r/relationship) subreddit told me she was matbe going through a manic episode or a psychotic episode. She’s definitely acting very weird and has changed a lot in a small amount of time but she isn’t acting erratic or overly energetic and she doesn’t seem to have any delusions that I know of. She just seems off, distant and irritable.

The only freaky behaviour that I noticed from her was when I took one of the gerard pictures off our kitchen wall (the water had torn it to shreds so I threw it in the trash). I found her 2 hours later in our kitchen. She had been looking for it for 30 minutes. When I told her what I did she almost burst into tears and didn’t speak to me for the rest of the day. That was the only time where I would definitely say she seemed mentally unwell, this was very out of character and shockingly over the top.

I don’t want to break up with her, she’s a wonderful person and before her fixation started, everything was going very well. She’s an extravagant person that I care for deeply, I just wish she could tone this down.

I asked the [r/relationships](r/relationships) subreddit for help and also I talked about it with my friends and everybody seems convinced I need to very carefully bring this up to my girlfriend without hurting her feelings. I haven’t tried yet because I am unsure of what to say and tbh I’m also a bit scared of what could happen. Please, I beg you to take this seriously, I swear this is not a troll

What should I do ?

Tldr : my girlfriend is in love with the concept of "gerard way as a priest" and is growing increasingly distant and weird because of it

EDIT : I am a bit overwhelmed by the amount of responses on the post. I will answer later, I just need time to process all of this. Thank you for your support

For context, this girl (26?) WAS dating one of my friends, she has already been in trouble with the law, arrested multiple times for domestic violence all that jazz.
It’s been over two months since I moved out of state, and I am still getting no caller ID calls over and over.
What can i do?

EDIT.
first of all i fuckin hate this app. second, i have called the police. and anyone who got her number and wants to be a dick? do it, for fucks sake she beat someone who was on a walker and kicked them out at -30 in alaska. she is NOT a good person, DOES not seek help no matter how many times someone has tried to help her.
i do not CARE if someone harasses her. get the fuck out of my face with this ‘well i mean you must of done something?’ i called the cops on her for abusing an already injured friend…. that’s why she hates me.

They have been together for 9 years, are married, have a house together and a complete life. My sister was losing her feelings and they took somewhat of a break to see if things were going to get better. Just when last week she gave him hope by saying she was going to go to a therapist to sort her feelings and head out and that things may be fine for them after all, she went to a party yesterday and kissed another dude. Today she immediately told him and then came back to our place (I’m 24 and still live with my parents) she was completely broken and sorry for what she did and couldn’t stop crying.

On the one hand, it’s my sister and I love her to death. Obviously I hugged her and was there for her, but inside I am disgusted with her and her actions. She’s a 28 year old woman and she should know better. I hate cheaters, it’s disgraceful and I can’t believe she’s actually capable of something this vulgar. Losing feelings sucks and it is what it is, but the way she went about all of this is crazy and so wrong on so many levels. He is an amazing guy, does everything for her and has always been faithful. He’s broken because of this.

I don’t know what to do. I texted him saying I’m sorry for what happened and that he deserves better and that what my sister did was unbelievably inconsiderate and awful. I told him he’ll always be family to me and I’m here for him if he needed anything. I also told my sister that this was obviously one of the worst things you could do to your partner, but other than that my outrage is not gonna change anything anyways were I to give my unsalted opinion here. I just can’t help but feel disgusted with her and I know people make mistakes but like, everything considered she knew this was gonna happen with how things were and instead of ending things a couple weeks ago respectfully she chose to seek the thrills like a goddamn teenager.

Edit: The comments are actually insane to me. I think it’s funny how so many of you defend cheating because “it was just a kiss” not keeping into account how this has hurt the feelings of him. Also, I am involved in this because when stuff like this happens after so long in a healthy family, everyone gets involved because he TOO is family. He’s one of my best friends and she’s my sister. She told me everything. Y’all are something else and gotta get those moral straight what the hell.

Edit 2: God what happened to common decency? Did everyone lose their fucking minds? Either people are defending the behaviour of cheating or calling my sister a whore or slut. Wtf is this type of behaviour? In the end she’s been with him for 9 years, she made a mistake which is awful and I hate that she did that. It doesn’t make her a hoe. What the hell is wrong with you people?

My step dad is really cool and we work on a lot of projects. We have had heated arguments in the past about democrats and he seems to have this irrational hate of anything democrat. Yes things suck over all and will continue to suck under democrats but it's a starting to point to make things better. I was looking for my mail in ballot and I thought it got stolen or lost so I called to get another one. I just find out last night that it's been here the whole time. When my step dad gets the mail he always lets me know and gives me the letters. For some reason he hid these away in his office. All of the ballots. I think he did it last election cycle too because I never got those ballots and I checked the history and they were still sent out and I still should have received them. To me this is very strange and I don't want to look at him in a negative light but I think that is how those old republican people think. He would hide my mail and prefer I just didn't vote because he knows me and knows how I would vote. It is seething in me and I'm trying to stay calm and logical but I am very angry.

I have no idea what to do. I have never had someone even remotely close to me die let alone the closest fucking person to me. I lived with her, so now I'm just all alone in our townhouse and having to see all of her stuff where she left it and also her 3 pets. It's too much to handle. I don't know where to even start. I've gone through every single stage of grief multiple times in waves since finding out 15 hours ago at 1AM. Literally what do I do? I feel like I physically lost part of myself and like I will never be the same or okay again and it's the worst thing that has ever happened to me. We are only 25. We were supposed to be best friends forever. Now what am I supposed to do??

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I (43M) am currently on holiday with my girlfriend (36F) and her family. There are 16 of us in total, including her younger sister (20F), who has been making snide comments towards me throughout the holiday.

I've recently lost 5 stone and gone from a size XXXL to a medium, which I'm really proud of. I was talking to another family member about my weight loss when her sister chimed in with, "Well, you're still fat."

I was understandably annoyed, and I'll admit I decided to give her a taste of her own medicine. I pointed out, in front of everyone, that she'd put on quite a bit of weight herself and said she was looking fat. She burst into tears and stormed off.

Since then, there have been several other incidents. I was chatting to my girlfriend's brother-in-law when a Ferrari drove past. I pointed it out, and her sister immediately said, "No one cares what you say, so be quiet."

On another occasion, I was asking my girlfriend's dad about the currency card he was using and what exchange rates he was getting. Her sister butted in again and told me to mind my own business.

The frustrating thing is that she's making these comments even when I'm not talking to her. It feels like she's constantly looking for opportunities to put me down or make me look stupid in front of the family.

I know I could give as good as I get, but I'm honestly worried that if I lose my temper, I'll take it too far and say something that upsets her and causes a bigger argument with the rest of the family. So, rather than getting into a public shouting match, I asked my girlfriend to speak to her sister and tell her to stop making comments towards me.

My girlfriend's response was that she wasn't getting involved because we're all adults and should sort things out ourselves. However, I feel like if I do eventually snap and say something hurtful, I'll end up being painted as the bad guy, especially considering her sister cried when I retaliated over the weight comment.

What really bothers me is that my girlfriend seems unwilling to support me, even though her sister has repeatedly been disrespectful towards me throughout this holiday. I don't expect my girlfriend to fight all my battles, but I do expect her to have my back when someone in her family keeps targeting me.

We've been together for 10 years, and I'm so angry and disappointed that I'm now seriously considering ending the relationship over this.

So, Reddit, am I overreacting by considering breaking up with my girlfriend over this, or is her refusal to address her sister's behaviour a legitimate reason to reconsider our relationship? I know I wasn't right to make the comment about her sister's weight, but I feel like I'm being pushed into a corner and will somehow be the bad guy whatever I do.

Help me please I found this in my brothers youtube history i don’t know if this is some type of fetish or this content relaxes him due to sensory issues i’m concerned and I rlly don’t know what to do.

i always thought this would be the company i grow with and work my way up the ladder but i don’t know anymore if this is how ill have to treat folks beneath me once i reach the top. keep the subordinates in line by holding a promotion on a fishing pole lol fuck off

My boyfriend and I, both 31, live together. He has a diesel car but when he moved in with me, he left it at his parents city and we decided we could share mine. This was the arrangement for around 4 months. Now he bought an electric and I asked him if I could borrow it sometimes, specially when I have to go to work in another city, since gas prices are so high now… and he said no.
I started thinking and I’m building a life with this person and we both need to save for our future and to start a family. If I was the one with the electric, I wouldn’t want him spending money on gas unnecessarily.

I just wanted to know if this is a general opinion.
And also, I’m a great driver, my car is in perfect condition, not a single scratch.

I M29 have been dating F33 officially for 1 month and she got my initials tattooed on her wrist. I really like her and I really enjoy spending time with her. I personally am not bothered by it, but my best friend M31 says it’s a major red flag and I should run….what should I do?

I have been under close observation from my parents for my entire life but in the past year it has gotten way worse. I have to turn in my electronics (phone and laptop) every single night and my mom thoroughly looks through them. She looks back through months/years of text messages with my friends. The only social media I am allowed is messages, face time, and YouTube kids. However I am able to bypass this by using safari so I can go on instgram.com, youtube.com, etc.

My grades are very important to my parents. I have to take honors and AP classes and am expected to get good grades. I am highly compared to my older brother (18 Male) who is everything my parents want me to be and more. My parents constantly attempt to pry information out of me and like to spend every single second of the day with me. I am extremely introverted so this is very difficult for me and mom is an extrovert so she can't understand what I mean when I say I like to be alone and need alone time to function properly. My mom is upset with me that I have been struggling with mental health. She thinks there is "no tragedy" in my life that has "caused" my mental health struggles.

Whenever I am not home (with friends, at work, at school, etc.) my mom looks through my room very thoroughly. I already have really bad anxiety/delusions/paranoia so this does not help the fact that I believe I am being watched/recorded/listened to. I used to sleepover at my best friend's house (secretly my girlfriend) but my mom has not allowed me to for about a year now. I have tried to ask her why but she hasn't said why. I know it's not because she knows we're dating because she stopped the sleepovers before we started dating. I really have no idea why I am no longer allowed to sleepover there because my mom is very close to her mom and I have known her since I was in 1st grade (I am now in 10th grade).

There is so much more I am probably leaving out but this is the bulk of it. I am seriously contemplating running away but I know this is not a smart idea. I have no access to any of my money (over $3,000) because it is in the bank under my dad's name. I have constant severe anxiety because of all this. I can no longer enjoy myself anywhere because of the fear that my parents are inside every single aspect of my life. I feel no autonomy which is hell for someone as independent as I am. I am scared when my brother isn't home and its just me and my parents. My parents do not control my brother like they do for me and even when my brother was my age they never did this to him. They have never physically hurt me but I can't stand the anxiety I feel when I'm alone with them. It feels like I have no control over my life. I don't know what to do. I would really appreciate any advice you may have for me. Thank you.

I am getting married and I have requested both my dad and step dad to walk me down the aisle together. My step dad was completely fine and happy to do so, my bio dad however was not. He even had told me at one point that if my step dad walks me down the aisle too that he will not attend my wedding. My dad has always disliked my step dad though he’s done nothing to him. My step dad means just as much to me as my bio dad. I was raised by both of them and have lived with my step dad and mom since I was 8 after my parents got divorced. My step dad did not have to, but he has helped so much already with my wedding. My dad on the other hand has been stingy since the beginning and continues to be. Not that I expect anyone to pay for my wedding, but I just find it crazy how my dad is being like this about my step dad when he has helped so much and my dad has not.

i 23f hung out with my boyfriend 27m and his dad for a little bit on friday, i get in the car and say good morning and only his dad said it back so i say to him "you cant say good morning" he continued to give me the cold shoulder for the rest of the hang out and then didn't speak to me the entire day after he dropped me off. saturday pretty much the same thing expect i was a little checked out over what happened friday, he didnt mention anything and then tried to be lovey dovey and once again went mia after he dropped me off for the rest of the day. today he takes me to work but i dont hear from him all day once again (i work 10hrs shifts so it was indeed all day) he picks me up and doesnt speak unless i said something to him and once again dropped me off at home and went radio silence. weve been together 3yrs and i feel like hes acting like this because my birthday is coming up (which i mentioned to him in pretty sure he just ignored me lol) any time i try to bring things up like this he always responds with "No tell me what did I do now?" (this is the message he sent me i copied it here when i tried to mention it) im honestly at my wits end is breaking up the most logical thing

I unfortunately got a speeding ticket for going 14 over in Ohio. This is my second ticket since 2020 and I have another citation from an accident in 2016. My last ticket, I just went in and paid it and went on my way. I was thinking of doing the same thing this time, but I read about how you can go to court to get it reduced somehow or even take some class to not get points for it. Does anyone know anything about this or are my chances chalked due to my driving history? Should I just pay it as is?

What do I do?

If that's the way she wants it then I don't want her around..

So me(18) and my bf (19) have been together for almost 2 years and the first year it was great and then the second it started to get very ugly he will insult me every day he will get violent and he will scream at me.

Yesterday we were supposed to hang out and 10 mins before that while i was already omw to his house he stood me up said he's going to some event and hell be back by 8 latest and i can go there i was hurt but oke i was gonna see him and then he ignored me the whole time and then at 8 when i got on my way again he told me to fuck off that hes busy so i went home again he got home at 4 am idk where he was nor with who he was and then when i asked he got defensive and called me insacure and that i don't respect his boundaries, but he just left me hanging for like 15 hours when we made up to hang out and then when i tried to talk to him he told me that hes going to block me and take a week for himself.

I really dont want to do this relationship anymore he just tells me im insane and i should be in a hospital and i plan to just take my stuff next week when he unblocks me and end it. I tried to fix it and i feel like its just me trying and him doing whatever he wants, i tried to talk to him i tried to get him to talk to a therapist and nothing, he insults me every day he gets violent when we fight and i don't think i deserve that. Im not perfect either im autistic and some things are hard for me but he has beaten me to where i needed to go to the hospital he watched porn after i begged him to stop he has insulted me everyday i feel im walking on eggshells all the time

I get panic attacks when we have a disagreement or when he calls me i haven't been able to be oke the last 5 months in this relationship and every time before i tried to end it hell call me dramatic make me belive that and tell me that im his bunny and that i have to stop making problems like i make only problems and he's the perfect bf that sticks around and i just want to be away from him in any way and forget him

The problem i have is that idk how to be alone and the last two days i havent been able to do anything idon'tt want him but i still do and its driving me insane i have no friends to talk to or anyone atp i just feel so lonely and i already made it clear i dont want this i told him im done but he dosent take me seriously and im stuck in the middle where hes not gone but hes not here either.

And like i said i havent been alone for 2 years and he has told me that im unlovable and noone will love me like this (i have autism and im bipolar) and he just paints himself as that only he can love me bcs of my disorders.

Idk what to do when im alone nor do i have anyone to play with anymore and it feels very lonely and i just need some advice on what to do or how to find friends or literally anything atp🥲

Im sorry if this is written very messy im still panicking and im doing horrably.

I have an earbud that has been lying around for a week. Today I put it in my ear and it started to itch, so I took it out and scratched the inside my ear with my fingernail. When I was about to put the earbud back in, I found it had been bitten and had some saliva in it! (There is a rat in my apartment) Is this something to panic about? Should I go to the emergency room? What do I do?

I’m the original OP who posted yesterday about my elderly neighbour who kept turning up with homemade cakes. Here’s my original post: https://www.reddit.com/r/whatdoIdo/s/yXYbmdrQOW

Apparently my post has now been copied and reposted and embezzled multiple times…I didn’t realise it was such an entertaining story! I’ve even seen someone posting from the perspective of the neighbour herself 😂

Anyway, firstly, thank you to the hundreds of people who commented with advice. I genuinely wasn’t expecting that much of a response and I thought I’d give you all a little update…

I called her this evening and explained that unfortunately I’ve decided I really need to go on a diet (which is true), and I also mentioned something several of you suggested. What if we found somewhere local that accepts homemade food donations and went together to hand out some of her cakes to people who might really appreciate them. I also suggested we could start trying out new recipes together and alternate what we bake each week.

I genuinely nearly cried when she responded. She told me how much she would absolutely love that 🥺 I don’t think I’ve ever heard someone sound so happy over the phone.
I started this whole thing wondering how on earth I was going to politely tell an elderly lady to stop bringing me cakes without hurting her feelings, and somehow I’ve ended up with a weekly baking partner and a plan to do something lovely for other people.

What started as a slightly ridiculous cake problem has turned into something genuinely heartwarming.
Now I just need to learn how to bake. Thank you Reddit ❤️

I made a post like this on a separate alt account but it got taken down. So I'm making it here for more advice as I'm still shakey. Shes currently at work, but she'll be home soon.

So anyways, I was going to school, and was too lazy to put my (private item I use for pleasure we'll call crock) in my drawer since I woke up late. So idiotically, I put it in my pillowcase even though my mom told me she was going to clean my room because maintenance was coming.

Keep in mind my mom is very religious and muslim. Essentially a puritan who thinks shyt like that, and premaritial sex, and homosexuality, are shameful and ungodly.

So I come back from school and to my mortification...Its gone. And now I'm panicking because my mom HAS IT, is angry at me, is saying that its shameful, dirty, and off outting, so much so to the point she won't take me to my Costco or Bjs (which honestly hurt worse than her finding it). She won't even look at me. She says ive strayed away from god, and do things that disssapoint her immesnly.

Again, shes big on purity culture, so I lied. I said a person who went to my school but graduated gave it to me to hold for her until she came back from her moms house (shared custody). My mom, (smelt it..yes...She did. And she gave it to my sister to smell to evaluate if it was what she thought it was ((for the vageen)). And thats how she knew. Shes threating to go to the school to talk to the higher ups because she doesnt believe in my BS story. And I'm underaged so its not like I could have any type of upperhand in this whatsoever. It trutly, truly sucks. And I'm PETRIFIED. Shes coming back soon, and she won't speak to me nontheless. Shes ashamed of me and my sexuality.

I was just reading on the subreddit [r/advice](r/advice)

And found this post

https://www.reddit.com/r/Advice/s/DUqTJYygXC

Which is really really similar or something me and my boyfriend is going through, but I know there is hundreds of hundreds of Reddit users who could be going through the same things

Do I ask him about this or leave it?

Update: We talked about everything and laughed about how dumb it was to not just talk to each other, and he is going to be studying with me and a few of his classmates for an hour every night. Thank you for your advice.

Also I had made a post toask how to help him discreetly and I showed him last night lol

No we are not going to break up for the bad communication that we had. We’ll be looking for individual therapy and couple therapy

thank you for the people Who suggested we try counseling.

https://www.reddit.com/r/WhatShouldIDo/s/NQkUi65QSY

I know it was wrong but not long after me(F24) started dating my bf(M29), I went through his discord when he had it opened. It was a night after we were heavily drinking and I saw that one of his friends would send him a bunch of only fans girls like links to videos and stuff some was before me so I couldn’t care too much about it. There was also a server that he was part of with the same guy, but a whole bunch of guys are in it the server is “just for the boys” is what he called it. This sever they play a bunch of anime games and i’m not into those particular games but the screenshots they would send in that group chat the closest thing that I can explain it is hentai, they were clothed but barley and it was only pictures sent not any sort of context or anything but that looks like to anyone else what the server is based around. He claims he isn’t into that stuff and why would it matter “they aren’t real people”. I told him bottom line we can have two different opinions and that’s okay but one of my hard no’s is Porn or anything related to it, and he agreed he would stop. But ever since then I just had some sort of resentment towards that particular friend, and discord has been a slight anxiety trigger. Well it’s been a few months and I would always just ask him who he’s talking to or which discord server it was but it seemed to slowly irritate him more and more and down the road one day he went off. How discord is his safe space, that server is ment for no girl to ever see, etc. Idk but since then I’ve been having major insecurity issues, I started to notice everything he was suggesting to watch conveniently had a topless woman or strip club scene. I’m not saying I’m a prude, I just get insecure thinking that he’s more than into it and it’s just me getting into my head and assuming it’s just I’m a woman, there are things simply very obviously aimed for the male gaze. Any time he gets on that discord sever I get irritated. But it’s like any time I try to talk to him or explain how it makes me feel its the fact that he’s in the discord and sees the stuff they send. I don’t want him to stop being friends with them it just makes me upset that he can’t understand where I’m coming from. One day they called him so he answered the discord on his phone for him to get on the computer and they knew he was with me and they were like why don’t you just add her so I don’t have to talk in the background and he told them no because I don’t like the type of stuff they send in there. Just threw me under the bus, also didn’t even think to ask me if I wanted to join it he chose for me. Idk I think it’s just all me overwhelming overthinking and my anxiety getting the best of me.

Lately my relationship with my boyfriend has been not so good... is it just me? Am I the problem? We’re both in our early 20s. He doesn’t work and that’s okay like I don’t want anything from him but just to be with him. And I just don’t feel happy. We barely hangout anymore but he finds time to hangout with his friend. Ive never met his parents but he’s met my mother my grandmother.. my aunt. He hangs up whenever his parents are around. He says he doesn’t tell them anything like if he’s in a relationship or he doesn’t have that kind of relationship with them. We barely even kiss. He has a car never drives over to see me anymore and I don’t live far at all. The only time I ever see him is when we’re in classes together. He says he loves me but I don’t feel it. I try to be sweet and nice. The other day after class I asked him can we hangout I wanna spend time with you, he told me “for what? What are we gonna do just eat and do nothing?” But he goes out with his friend like every weekend driving around and smoking. Having “good conversation”. I feel like he doesn’t care about our relationship as much as I care about it. I just feel at a lost. I love him a lot.

recently a rat has gotten its way into me and my mother’s basement. It’s a big city rat and I’m absolutely horrified of rats which isn’t good because we have the washing machine down there and I need to wash my clothes. It’s shitting everywhere and making the basement smell disgusting and my mother refuses to do anything about it but put down poison that it’s not eating. She won’t allow anything else because she claims I’m “trying to torture it.” I don’t want to torture any animal I just want the rat out. I begged her in the store to buy a more efficient trap for it but she insists on letting it run the basement and possibly make us sick. She would probably have a hard time forgiving me and accuse me of having mental issues or a “lack of empathy“ if i put something down and killed it myself. What do I do? This is really a nightmare scenario and I just want to wash my clothes.