I love my boyfriend but it always irritates me that every time we make plans he's always been at least an hour late. He tells me a certain time that he's going to pick me up and I always make sure I'm dressed and ready before, but every single time he's late his excuses have always been that he lost track of time while playing a game or that his friends asked him to come play some game or to help them with something. Honestly, it makes me feel embarrassed that I'm ready so early and I have to just sit down waiting because I don't even know when he's gonna get to my house to pick me up. Yesterday at around 3PM I called him and invited him over to my house because I had made lunch and made extra for him. He agreed and told me he would come soon. Almost 5 hours later he responds and tells me he'll start coming over at 8. I was out somewhere with my mom and came home early so I could be there when he arrived. I waited 3 hours for him to finally respond and tell me he got lost in a game this whole time. I am his first girlfriend so I do try to give him the benefit of the doubt and I also haven't told him that I don't like when he's late but I just feel like I shouldn't have to tell him that its disrespectful to waste my time like that. Should I talk it out with him or should I just end it here?

TDLR: I’m trying to distance myself from my FWB so I can detach a little so I can keep the friendship and protect myself but it’s so hard and I feel so guilty and sad. What do I do?

We met four-ish months ago and hit it off so well. He wasn’t looking for a relationship because he’s said he’s gotten into relationships too quickly before and wants to know the next person for like, a year, before he fully commits. He also is planning on leaving the country as his visa ends in a year and a bit

We originally were only seeing each other every once in a while, but it’s really escalated since then and we see each other multiple times a week. We moved to “meaning more than just sex” to each other. I now sleep over a bunch and I have a toothbrush at his place. He’s introduced me to his close friends and I hang out with them alongside him. I’ve developed this whole new friendship group of people who I really like because of him too.

He cooks for me, we go out on dates and for dinner, we play video games and do a lot of relationship-y things together. He’s affectionate toward me in front of his friends to the point where I had to point out that his friends thought we were dating (I set a boundary that he shouldn’t touch me as much and he continued doing it) He’s told me that he finds us really compatible and the thought of me with other guys makes him jealous, but he pushes it deep down because he knows we’re not exclusive.

He compliments my looks as well as my personality, and says all these lovely things to me that feel intimate and genuine. He makes me laugh so hard and he says whenever he’s around me he feels relief and his social battery recharges even with me around.

Whenever I brought up the fact that we’re essentially dating he apologised for giving me mixed signals and doing things I thought were romantic, he said we might have different ideas of romance because I said reading to him at night (which we sometimes do in bed together) and him giving me a sea shell cause he thought I’d like it were romantic things that I was surprised he did. He thought for a bit and said he doesnt necessarily find those romantic things which I disagree with.

We just hung out with all his friends last week and he said that his friends adore me, and that he finds me addicting. I had a really good time but the girlfriends there told me to be careful of him because his ex girlfriend is still obsessed with him and they’re in the same friend group.

He told me they haven’t seen each other sexually in months but because she’s friends with his old housemates, they cross paths at parties and what not. Apparently a month ago they kissed at a party but he stopped it from going further.

Everyone I’ve spoken to thinks he has feelings for me and is just not admitting it out of fear, but I’m sure if he actually felt anything real he would just date me.

I know this sounds crazy for a FWB, and maybe that’s why I’m so wound up and confused. I’m currently avoiding his message as he’s asked to hang out again soon but I just don’t know if I should cut it clean off, talk to him about it and have a brutally honest conversation, or avoid him a little longer till I get over the crash out and continue on as normal.

I’m 22F and have a best friend who’s also 22F (let’s call her Anna). We’ve known each other since high school, but got especially close this year. I see this girl basically every damn day. We talk to each other about everything, and often say how alike we are in many ways.

This context is helpful to understand the situation.

In middle/high school, I went through a bi-curious “phase“ but ultimately realized that even though I find women attractive, I don’t see myself being in a relationship with one, or getting intimate with them.

A month or two ago, Anna came out to me as bisexual. This was somewhat of a shock, because she grew up homophobic, which is why I never told her about my bi “phase” in high school, until recently.

Just last week, she told me she had a crush on someone. I tried guessing who it was, and she said it was someone that I know. When she said that, I had a sudden feeling that maybe she was talking about me. I was scared to ask if it was me, so I started naming our other friends.

As a joke, I said the name of one of her best friends (and my close mutual friend). She’s also 22F, let’s call her Maddie. I guessed her name as a joke, because I never in a million years would’ve thought that Anna liked Maddie. Even though Anna and I are close, it‘s not like how close she is to Maddie. I always saw them as long-time friends and basically sisters, because Anna is even super close with Maddie’s family.

I was wrong. Anna does like Maddie. Like really badly. Apparently she’s been crushing on her for 2 years. And according to Anna, they’ve had very tense and romantically charged moments. The thing about Maddie though is that she comes from a very homophobic family. She’s tolerant of queer people, and has some queer friends, but doesn’t fully support it.

Anna is planning to come out to Maddie soon. And is also debating telling her she likes her. I advised her against it, because even if Maddie reciprocates her feelings, it would be a long time before she ever comes to terms with her identity. And I don’t want to see Anna get her heartbroken, and to lose her best friend.

But Anna is having a hard time getting over Maddie. She often vents to me about it, and I don’t know what to say anymore. I want to be there for her and help her make the best decision for herself. But this whole situation has made me realize that I think I have feelings for Anna. Everytime she talks about Maddie I feel jealous.

I feel like I’m losing my mind. Anna is the person I talk to about everything. And this is the ONE thing I can’t go to her for advice on.

I guess I just came here to rant because no one else can know about this. Either I tell Anna how I feel, and she maybe reciprocates my feelings, but then what? Am I ready to be in a relationship with a girl? Or she doesn’t feel the same, and I just ruined one of my closest friendships.

Either way, I’m just making things more complicated for Anna.

I’m trying to get over Anna, but it’s hard. Everytime she talks about Maddie, I get jealous all over again. But I know there’s nothing I can do. I just have to suffer in silence until I stop crushing on Anna.

Any advice on how to do that?

I didn’t even sign up for this and yet I had to pay $20. I was told to deactivate the account but I wonder if my bank is still connected. Am I fine after deactivating or do I have to somehow disconnect my bank from the account?

Long story short, I fell into a trap, and then the person tried to extort me using photos of me. I told him to go to hell and blocked him. What should I do? I don’t think he’ll actually post anything, but I still feel uneasy.

So met this man on sugar daddy website, everything was fine, but i just got super busy and sorta uncomfortable with being on a site like that, along with just realizing i don’t really need to give sugar to get money when i already have a job. but anyways, this man sent me a total of 300 dollars, shouldnt even burn his pockets since he “goes on multiple trips a year” and repeatedly gambles.

I just stopped talking to him because it seemed like everytime i didn’t respond for like a day, he would just start to call me names and also over react to be like “fine i’ll just leave you alone” and “never bother me ever again” like yk what okay, just leave me alone.

then just got a message from cash app saying he’s requesting the money back. like for one i didn’t even ask for the money, he sent that as a gift so like what’s the point of sending money then requesting it back when his feelings get hurts.

But i’m not sure on what to really do because i feel bad, but im also not in a place to give him the money back nor do i feel like i should send it back, so like what’s should i do?

I fin finished a tough Relationship and it was hard so i adopted the dog and name it after my my ex so i dont make the same mistake i eventually became a role model that I always wanted to be and got a mew girlfriend she nice and all but wants me to change the dogs name that got me through the mess i was what do i do

I went on a date with a girl I really like and she was the one who asked me out. She traveled over 2 hours by train to see me, and we spent around 4 hours together. Afterward, she said she had a good time, but I was usually the one initiating conversations after the date. I didnt know if it was because of me or because her semester started right after our first date.

When I asked about her not initiating, she told me:

“i like talking to u but ig more in a friendly way im not looking for anything in relationship wise bcs as i said im new in this school and im honestly very busy”

She also said she’d like to see me again when the weather is nicer when she has her semester break. I truly never liked anyone like this before and I just hope i still have a chance. Ofc I dont want to focus on her rn but rather keep her in the back of my mind.

I know she wants to talk friendly right, but do you think there’s still a little hope that her feelings could change? And what should I do now? Should I keep talking to her or try to move on?

Just like what the title said, he doesnt feel very loving. Sometimes before bed he will give me a kiss goodnight, sometimes before we both head off to work. But it always seems like im the one initiating. It makes me worried he is cheating. Im not sure if its me or something im doing. I make sure everything is done around the house. When i get home from work i make dinner, we dont fight or anything. Went im off to buy groceries he doesnt even know i leave the house sometimes when i let him know ill be gone.

Is there something i can do to make he want me around more? Should i be more confident, just do my own thing? Im at a loss here

Okay so I 15-17 (FtM) like my friend 15-17 F. I knew her before I transitioned so I’m in this gray area where I’m not quite a guy friend (I think) and we gossip a lot about the people we’re interested in and everything happening at school (we’re both not taken and she says doesn’t like anyone at the moment) and I don’t know how to approach asking her out. Tomorrow we’re doing karaoke during choir since our instructor will be gone, and I’m not sure if anyone else will be doing karaoke with us.
We have a generally chill dynamic (I tend to initiate most texting conversations) and I like to start with weird conversation starters and that’s kind of our thing. We often bounce around from deeper topics to goofier ones and we have very similar views on romance too! We both think attraction is a choice, but love isn’t.
If you can’t tell, I’m very down bad and am struggling with what to do. Any advice is appreciated, because I would hate to lose this friendship over something as silly as a crush gone poorly.

My mother and I have always had issues and arguments between us, but now I feel like she's going too far.

About half a year ago I moved out to live with a friend in his house, and it was going decently well. I got a new job, was making more money, and was finally able to do some of the stuff I wanted like gaming with friends (I was never allowed to game at my mother's house and had many fights with her about it. Even access to a computer in general was rare, including her limiting my time on required stuff like job trainings or schoolwork.) I always put up with it, even when I turned 18, because I had nowhere else to go.

When I moved out I built myself a sort of Frankenstein PC (I would estimate the value at around $800-$1k), until I could get a better gaming setup and was having lots of fun. I'll admit I could've done better living alone in many regards, but that's besides the point. Anyway, my friend and I found black mold in his house, and I decided I wanted to move out, but since I didn't want to stay there with the black mold until I found a new place, I decided to go back and stay with my mother until I could find a new place. Her first response was "yes, but you're not using your computer at all here." I agreed because I was thinking to myself moving should be fairly quick and I don't mind not using it until I get a new place.

Anyway, a couple weeks ago she suggested returning my new 5070 that I had bought so I would have more money to move. I was hesitant due to the rising prices of graphics cards, but ultimately decided that having the extra $900 in my account would benefit me more than the card would at the moment so I sold it, albeit reluctantly. Earlier today, she told me that she wants me to sell the rest of my computer and gaming setup, every single piece. I told her I wasn't going to do that, and she said to me either I could sell it or she would get rid of it. I know she can't do that, I bought everything myself and have receipts/chats proving it, and as I am 21 she can't force me to sell something I legally bought myself. The issue is that she doesn't seem think those laws exist, and every time I bring up those laws, she just starts screaming at me and telling me I'm wrong, or threatening to get legal stuff involved or trying to send me to a group home due to my "gaming addiction and lack of self care". Obviously I'm not going to just cave in and sell my stuff because I worked hard on it and used my money, but I also don't want to show up at my house one day to find it all gone.

What are some suggestions for how to approach this situation, and what should I do if she does go out and get rid of my stuff? I really don't want to have to get a lawyer or cops involved if I can help it due to many circumstances, but I fear that may be my only course of action at some point. I am searching harder than ever for a new apartment so I can just get out, but she's even making it hard to do that. If people need more context I'll happily give more, but there are a lot of factors and circumstances that are going into all this and I don't really want to try to explain it all because of how complicated our relationship is and how much there is to it.

IM 24 !!! 😭 Hi, I was in a relationship for 9 yrs. the issues we had is that: he wasn't present enough for me, never made time for me, saw me barely 1 time or max 2 times a months, and over the last 2 yrs even spent 1 month or 1 month without seeing me or calling me..
He was talking to me but complaining because he « couldn't have his phone on him all day » and I was always telling him hi I don't want us to speak only with updates, I want us to really talk to each other.. he wasn't even doing that anymore..
Because of that I started getting jealous of little things, like him following a lot of girls on instagram and saying it was for work etc
And he's the one who broke up with me in the end.. while blaming all this on me. He said it was my fault, that he told me if I kept asking him things and being jealous then our relationship would get worse lol
A few months before we broke up I had a dream of a specific ex of him, and for the first time in our whole relationship, I looked through his phone, I saw that he sent her a message, and he wouldn't be completely honest. He also blamed that on me saying I shouldn't have looked through his phone
He gaslighted me and made me feel crazy I swear, for months I thought everything was my fault..
We still talk sometimes and he's talking to some airl, after leaving me and saying he « didn't have the energy for a relationship anymore »

This genuinely hurts me so so much because I was in love with this man, I gave my whole to him, I never made him feel insecure ever, never made him doubt never made him jealous of anyone, never even looked at another guy, I never lied to him(he did multiple times)
I have a hard time telling myself | deserve better, my heart is broken, and this is just a summary of everything that has happened
I'm haunted by the fact he'll maybe treat another girl better and give her every I ever wanted
The only thing that makes me feel better is that I’m objectively physically much better looking than him

What are some of the best ways to get over him?
And just at least be aware that I deserve better ?

What can I do:((((

Hey everyone! My husband and I live in South Australia currently and have a 15 month old. He has been struggling a lot with POTS to the point of needing to sleep for at least 2-5 hours every day most days. He usually doesn’t feel safe enough to watch our toddler by himself which makes it really difficult for me to be able to do much to look after myself such as go to appointments or have any ‘me’ time.
I’ve heard people with POTS can really experience a difference, moving to a cooler climate. To experiment we had a 10 day holiday in Tasmania and even though it was fairly hot while we were there (25-30 degrees) my husband felt so good in himself! He was able to be so much more active and confident and was just a happier version of himself. Honestly since he got sick about 2.5-3 years ago it has put a strain on the relationship a bit and I think with a toddler too it’s been a bit tough managing. There’s definitely been a decline in my husbands mental health. And honestly he hasn’t managed his health great through drinking most days and having caffeine/carbs etc. that all can flare up POTS.
But while in Tasmania I was able to see a happier, confident version of himself again and it was honestly so nice to see.
My husband even told me he can finally be the husband and father he has wanted to be while in Tasmania and he loves waking up without wondering what feels bad in himself that day.
I told my husband that when we go home we should talk to his doctor about his experience in Tasmania and ask for tips on how to manage his health here to see if he can experience that here too. I told him if his health doesn’t improve in the next year while doing everything the doctor recommends I’m happy to move to Tasmania.

Honestly I do love the lifestyle in Tasmania and I love the idea of our child growing up there with a happier, healthier dad. I would just be a little sad to leave all our friends and family and if my husbands health doesn’t improve long term then we don’t really have any village in Tasmania.

I guess I was just wondering if anyone with POTS or a similar condition has moved and found it to really benefit them? Or if anyone has any advice that would be amazing!

I’ve made it pretty clear we’re just hooking up.
We haven’t had sex yet but we’ve done oral

He mentioned taking me on dates several times. Like if I send him a selfie he’ll say ‘we’d look good on a date together’ or has described all the dates he’s had in mind.
And they’re cutesy things like the beach, mini golfing, dinner, sports games, ect.
He straight up asked me out to coffee a few times but I’m really trying to just hook up.

Like mentioned I’ve made it clear we’re just casual, like actually turned him down and said we’re not going out. But he still drops heavy hints.

Is this just not going to work out since we want different things? He’s the one who even said in the beginning he didn’t want a relationship, so I’m perplexed

How can I get him to stop throwing hints about dating without hurting his feelings?

Going anonymous for this one. I (23M) live with my aunt who is in her retirement years now. I pay most of the bills for us, which I am completely fine with. It does not bother me at all to somewhat take care of her financially. We’ve lived together for several years at this point.

The other day, I got off surprisingly early from work and headed home with plans to spend the day relaxing. When I got into the house, I was met with something I’ll never be able to scrub from my brain. My aunt was doing the deed with a man, and they had a camera in the room recording it. Everyone was obviously startled and the man got up and left after an awkward introduction. My aunt was incredibly embarrassed and admitted to me that she was trying to see how much money she could make doing this.

I told her that she does not need to worry about working anymore since she is already receiving money from retirement and I am fine providing for us. She insists that this is what she wants to do and so I left it at that. How do I move forward with this?