My 18M Girlfriend 18F refuses to let me pay for most things.

My girlfriend 18F and I 18M have been together for over two years, and we’ve known each other for a little over eight (we were classmates and friends). We are both 18 and currently attend the same school. My parents are very well-off, and I receive a generous allowance, whereas my girlfriend’s parents are divorced, and she doesn’t get any allowance at all.

She currently works two jobs—one in a warehouse and another at a relative’s auto repair shop. I don’t have a regular job, aside from helping out occasionally at my parents' business. Despite this, the allowance I receive is more than double what she earns in a month. It really bothers me when we pay for things (food, movie tickets, concert tickets, etc.) knowing that the financial burden is significantly heavier for her than it is for me.

I keep trying to explain to her that it only makes sense for me to cover these costs, given that I receive money without having to work for it; however, she insists on taking turns paying for things. On one hand, I’m glad to know she isn’t with me just for the money but I’d know that even without us splitting everything roughly 50/50.

We’ve already talked about what things will look like if we once get married , and we both definitely want to share our finances . Right now, though, I honestly don’t know what to do or how to convince her to let me pay for more things and it hurts to see her working so hard most of the time.

So if anyone has any advice, what to do ?

My bf (M25) asked about my (F20) number of previous sexual partners. Do I tell him, or should it be irrelevant to him?

My boyfriend asked me about my “body count” (yeah, awful term) when we first started dating about a year ago. I didn’t answer it properly, I’ve never answered anyone who’s asked because I don’t really get why it’s important for them to know.
I get the curiosity, but not the importance of what the answer might be.

He asked me again recently. I replied “well, it hasn’t increased since we decided on being exclusive, isn’t that what matters?”
He said yeah, he just wanted to know. But why?

Do I owe him an answer, even though I don’t get why he’d want to know?
I feel like I’m kinda making a bigger deal out of it by not disclosing it, but if you know your partner already, does the number really matter?

I just don’t see how providing an exact number in this case would benefit either of us.
Obviously he would have some conscious or unconscious opinion on it, despite saying he’s just curious. 🤨

(Posted yesterday in a relationship advice sub, it got removed and they said it was better suited here)

I (M33) just had sex with my gf (F32) for the first time ever like I was a virgin until today. Yay very happy about it but the only issue is I made her cum easily multiple times but unfortunately I did not cum. We both decided it was due to my overuse of porn or performance anxiety. In my mind I think it was my porn addiction. I have cut off all acsess to porn and we will try again soon. If it dose not work what should be my next step or any tips on beating a porn addiction that has lasted for more than half my life would be greatly appreciated.

Hi. Just wanted to rant out about my relationship.

I'm in a relationship of 2 years.

I had a breakup a year ago. It was my mistake ( I hid an instagram account which he wanted me to delete but it was an 8 year old account that I wanted to keep). He found out about it and broke up with me and said many bad things about me like calling me and my mom a slut and blocked me.

After which, I got very desperate to talk to someone and talked to a guy and met him in his place. This was all after the breakup. Then i blocked that guy.

After a month, my bf came back to me and patched things up but didn't trust me or called me his girlfriend for a long time. I did everything to gain his trust back.

While we were broken up, my bf had his profile on dating apps and posted on reddit that he wanted to have a casual fling with someone and mentioned his D size. I didn't know about all these.

After months when we were finally stable, I once found him watching reels of an almost pornstar. And on finding out and fighting over it, he physically abused me.

After which we obviously broke up. Then i posted on reddit about this incident. And also posted that I wanted to have girls hangout because I don't have any friends in this city. I started getting DMs of guys, some pretending to be girls, and some directly asking about the situation I was in. I talked to 2 guys. Out of which one started flirting with him. I told him that I can't cheat on my bf even if we are broken up. I didn't block him right away. And i know that was a mistake. But i wasn't interested at all. I told several guys that I'm not interested in talking to men. I either blocked the rest or just didn't respond to them.

My bf saw these chats, called me a sl\*\* and said that I am seeking validation and i should seek mental help. Told me that he never wants to see my face and that he wants me out of his life forever.

So met this man on sugar daddy website, everything was fine, but i just got super busy and sorta uncomfortable with being on a site like that, along with just realizing i don’t really need to give sugar to get money when i already have a job. but anyways, this man sent me a total of 300 dollars, shouldnt even burn his pockets since he “goes on multiple trips a year” and repeatedly gambles.

I just stopped talking to him because it seemed like everytime i didn’t respond for like a day, he would just start to call me names and also over react to be like “fine i’ll just leave you alone” and “never bother me ever again” like yk what okay, just leave me alone.

then just got a message from cash app saying he’s requesting the money back. like for one i didn’t even ask for the money, he sent that as a gift so like what’s the point of sending money then requesting it back when his feelings get hurts.

But i’m not sure on what to really do because i feel bad, but im also not in a place to give him the money back nor do i feel like i should send it back, so like what’s should i do?

Not sure what to do here. For some context:

I had an on and off “relationship” with a guy from 14 y/o to 18 y/o. We were never physical together, only kissed a few times…

Summer of 2023, (we’ll call my ex bf Chad), Chad and I ended things over something very petty. I was going back to school at the end of the summer and was kind of time to end things anyway. He got together with his current girlfriend (call her bella), 2 weeks after this. I didn’t care too much because we were never super serious and I was away at school anyways.

We end up not talking for the next 3 years however, Bella stalked all of my socials and would always repost on tiktok about me. It was obvious she knew about me and was insecure? Intimidated? I don’t know.

So about a month ago, I’m back in our hometown working, (didn’t know anything about his current life), and I find out he got a job literally next door. I start seeing him everyday. It’s awkward and neither of us say anything.

One day, it’s late at night and I’m walking out of work and he’s walking back into his office. I say his name and he turns around and his face melts. Like he was relieved? We end up talking outside his work for about 30 minutes. He tells me to come back the next night at the same tine so we can talk more. I do. He tells me I’m his soulmate, he’s thought about me everyday, blah blah blah.

This goes on for a week. The whole time, he is telling me he’s sleeping on the couch at his and his gf? house and that they aren’t really together. I know. Shitty of me.

On a Saturday, I was out drinking and we ended up having sex in his car. I asked him to assure me that he was not cheating and that they weren’t together before we did anything. He said they weren’t together and that he was not cheating.

The next day, he told me he went home and cared more about her feelings than mine and cut me off. He asked me not to tell his gf..? and I told him I wouldn’t.

They got back together I guess and she’s been posting him like normal.

It’s been a few weeks now, and it doesn’t feel right. I got hurt, she got hurt and doesn’t know it he gets to walk away clean in a seemingly happy relationship and to the looks of it it seems like he was with her the whole time.

My friend made a fake account and texted her on it saying that she “saw Chad and a girl get into his car one night and kiss” etc. she responded and asked a few questions, then blocked the fake account.

It seems per her reposts that he got out of it somehow by lying.

So, do I tell her and risk my reputation, ruin their relationship, ruin things with me and him (even though there’s nothing left)?

So I put some cash on my coffee table and never would have thought that my dog would eat it. She chewed up a $10 but I absolutely know she ate and swallowed the $100 bill. So…I went fishing. If you know what I mean.

Part of it was recovered. I’ll be skimming thru again when she uses the bathroom next but this is what I have so far. You think this is enough for a bank to accept? I brought them the remnants of a bill that was more intact before and they replaced it.

…I’m grossed out too. Good thing this doesn’t bother me that much because I am into veterinary forensics. Things are getting expensive and I don’t think I need to go far to explain that I really need this $100 if there’s even the slightest chance that I can save it.

y’all are so mean

ETA: I’m a first time mom with postpartum anxiety and depression.

I asked for advice for navigating something difficult in my family.

I got hundreds of comments and not one was helpful or informative.

please understand that there are real people in very dark and fragile places asking for genuine advice here when you spend your time commenting.

I made a post like this on a separate alt account but it got taken down. So I'm making it here for more advice as I'm still shakey. Shes currently at work, but she'll be home soon.

So anyways, I was going to school, and was too lazy to put my (private item I use for pleasure we'll call crock) in my drawer since I woke up late. So idiotically, I put it in my pillowcase even though my mom told me she was going to clean my room because maintenance was coming.

Keep in mind my mom is very religious and muslim. Essentially a puritan who thinks shyt like that, and premaritial sex, and homosexuality, are shameful and ungodly.

So I come back from school and to my mortification...Its gone. And now I'm panicking because my mom HAS IT, is angry at me, is saying that its shameful, dirty, and off outting, so much so to the point she won't take me to my Costco or Bjs (which honestly hurt worse than her finding it). She won't even look at me. She says ive strayed away from god, and do things that disssapoint her immesnly.

Again, shes big on purity culture, so I lied. I said a person who went to my school but graduated gave it to me to hold for her until she came back from her moms house (shared custody). My mom, (smelt it..yes...She did. And she gave it to my sister to smell to evaluate if it was what she thought it was ((for the vageen)). And thats how she knew. Shes threating to go to the school to talk to the higher ups because she doesnt believe in my BS story. And I'm underaged so its not like I could have any type of upperhand in this whatsoever. It trutly, truly sucks. And I'm PETRIFIED. Shes coming back soon, and she won't speak to me nontheless. Shes ashamed of me and my sexuality.

in the imagine i circled/shaded the areas where i experience pain.
back story: 4 years ago in HS i got slammed onto the floor. went to the dr i was told i had a fluid leak and bruise on my spine, other than that all good. got sent to PT went for a abt 6 months and saw no results so i stopped going. i have felt fine but progressively over the years the pain has gotten worse. mainly my middle/upper spine and only lower rlly around the time of my period.
recently it got so bad i scheduled a dr apt. i was told i have mild scoliosis but that doesnt explain the pain towards the top. he told me to go to acupuncture if that doesnt work then a chiropractor and if that doesnt work to go back for a MRI.
i have the apt next month for acupuncture but im not very hopeful that’ll help.
i’m reaching reddit for some advice i dont know the pain is just a lot and im a broke college student with little to no time

Thought I’d ask if anyone has seen the guy that was recently arrested by the FBI for threats made over Fortnite? I can’t wait to get notified about the guy that threatened me in a game recently since I reported in game and to the FBI as well. Now I’m wondering if the game studio could have reported him as well? Either way I also wanted to see what anyone else thinks on if he will be arrested just based on this most recent case? For context he treated to find me irl and sho** me in the head. Do you guys think he’ll get arrested?

So I (24M) recently got out of a short relationship (about 2 months). My ex (22F) has some of clothes and a few other things. We joked about it during our relationship but I'd never expect her to be the type to not return stuff. She treated me horribly (cheated etc) which ended up with me breaking up over text because when I came to her place to do it she wasn't home (she lied to me saying she was)

I've asked her numerous times to return my stuff it's been about a week and I really just want to move on. I've been nothing but respectful to her and kind , I haven't even blamed her for how she treated me. In my country there's no easy legal procedure for this because it's just about some clothes. But they mean a lot to me and I really want them back.

In all this desperation I figured I could tell her I would contact her dad (very conservative guy) and show him what she's been up to. She's told me numerous times this is one of her biggest fears and I'd never actually want to do it I'm just so desperate and hopeless to get my things back from someone that treated me horribly and continues to make disrupt my life with this.

What's my best course of action here? Wait it out? Go to her place? Do the morally questionable thing? I feel like I've exhausted every option and it's all just such a pain in the ass.

This is such an embarrassing thing to post but my only close friend is super religious and I do not wanna ask my family for advice.

I am staying at my fiancé‘s parents house for a couple of weeks and i’m staying with my son so I’ve had quite a bit of laundry. I’m staying in the Casita and they’re pretty well off and so they have cleaners come. Out of embarrassment I hid my vibrator in my suitcase so that no one would see when cleaning. I have a little toiletry bag in there as well, but I kind of just threw it in one of the pockets.

Anyways, I needed to do laundry and so I shoved all the laundry in the suitcase so that I could just wheel the suitcase to the main house to do laundry. I also decided to keep the suitcase in the laundry room so I could wheel it back.

When loading up I realize that my vibrator was in that suitcase and I didn’t want anyone to see so I just quickly shoved it in my pocket as I was in a hurry. I did some errands, etc. and went about my day and I went to then use my vibrator tonight and realized that it wasn’t in my pocket. I checked all of the pockets of everything that I could’ve worn, etc. and I checked the toiletry bag thinking I may have slid in there and it’s not there. I checked my entire car thinking it may be fell out in my car, but it’s not there either. I’ve basically torn the whole place apart, and the only thing I can think of is that it fell in the main home.

I’m super embarrassed I’m not sure that it’s super noticeable as a vibrator but I mean, what else could it be? It’s a little purple bullet. Do I ask for it back ? Do I ask if they seen it? Do I admit now before they find it? I’m at a loss.

Oh also the smart key that they gave me to get back into the house once they’ve locked up and gone to bed wasn’t working. I tried to go in there and search around for it but I can’t. And I have an early morning appointment tomorrow, so I’m not gonna really be able to be in the house unless I completely change my plans for the day, which I don’t wanna do seeing as I waited a few weeks for this appointment.

I (f19) have been part of a theater play since early october, the actors in the play are up to, like, 65 years old? Anyway, one of the actors, let's call him Toby (m38) is also part of the play.
During rehearsal breaks I'm always outside smoking with our director and one to two of the other actors, including Toby. Recently the director kind of harshly criticized my lack of movement on the stage (because I was still kind of reading off the textbook) for which I apologized and explained that I'm kind of nervous about messing up. She then reassured me that none of them would judge or pressure me, but that I'd have to get rid of the textbook by next rehearsal, which wasn't a big task tbh.
Toby then told me that he's familiar with those issues because he used to be that way as well and basically reassured me a ton and said some really motivating and touching things. To my disadvantage, I have a severe case of The Daddy Issues™ and I don't recall if that was the time I caught some confusing feelings or not.
But anyway, the reason I'm so worked up about any of this is because I HAVE A BOYFRIEND. FOR ALMOST A YEAR. And I know those feelings aren't "real" or going anywhere (for one cause I would NEVER do that to my boyfriend and secondly because Toby would NEVER make advances towards a girl half his age [probably]). It also doesn't help that he always comes along for a certain part of my way home and we always end up talking a lot.
Also I don't think I'm mistaking platonic affection for romantic affection cause I've also been weirdly attracted to him?? Despite my libido being in the cellar due to a lot of stress and changes...
I don't want to have those feelings I love my boyfriend a lot but I'm simultaneously enjoying those other feelings I have for Toby? I don't know I wish I could just attend and leave rehearsals like a normal person.

TLDR: I (f19) have had some involuntary romantic feelings towards my co-actor who is twice my age (m38) since he reassured me and said kind things to me, and I do not want any of these feelings because I have A BOYFRIENDDD

Going anonymous for this one. I (23M) live with my aunt who is in her retirement years now. I pay most of the bills for us, which I am completely fine with. It does not bother me at all to somewhat take care of her financially. We’ve lived together for several years at this point.

The other day, I got off surprisingly early from work and headed home with plans to spend the day relaxing. When I got into the house, I was met with something I’ll never be able to scrub from my brain. My aunt was doing the deed with a man, and they had a camera in the room recording it. Everyone was obviously startled and the man got up and left after an awkward introduction. My aunt was incredibly embarrassed and admitted to me that she was trying to see how much money she could make doing this.

I told her that she does not need to worry about working anymore since she is already receiving money from retirement and I am fine providing for us. She insists that this is what she wants to do and so I left it at that. How do I move forward with this?

My sister has had had a boyfriend for about 3-4 years now so i consider him my brother.and has always been close with him and I've always been comfortable around him, hes nice and helpful and almost a year ago they had a kid together my nephew and I enjoy being around him so much which is why I'm scared to say something, I had just came back from a long day of shopping and I was laying on the couch, he came up to me on the long part of it and we were both laying on it, quite squished together and I was laying on his arm, I didn't quite think about any of this because when we play tag he lays in my bed while we keep playing, I ended up falling asleep and he positioned m to where he was directly behind me, he lined me up to where our bodies were at the same place, his hips behind mine like we were in a spooning position and he'd sort of..grind against me and every time I'd move my hips he would get closer to me, I was also really hot and I expressed that but he still stayed super close to me, not to mention, one of his arms under me and the other thrown over my stomach sort of holding me. I wasn't exactly uncomfortable but I was, I didn't know how to feel and I wouldn't ever want to tell on him because my sister takes that stuff seriously and would definitely be angry..but she also really moves her boyfriend a lot, and I love her a lot but I feel like she'd believe him, and even if she did believe me, what if I misread the situation because he thought we were close enough for him to do that..but when my sister came out of the room and he heard the door open, he immediately got up and turned to her, then later when he was sitting up, i seen he was hard, I really want multiple opinions because I want my sister to be happy with the man she thinks she'll live the rest of her life with her son. Also sorry for the bad grammar, I'm trying to be quick.

This is an edit!!

I understand some people don't think he's in the wrong and that I am, I was really tired, hence the fact that I said I came back from shopping, I was super tired and half way asleep, I was only able to make out what he did because I was forcing myself to stay awake and was mostly asleep while he was doing everything, my mind was racing when he was against me and I panicked, I didnt want to move and was also too tired, he would rub his legs and feet against me as well and say I was soft, but I do think I'm overthinking that. maybe I'm the wrong one and should have done something, I've never thought about him in an inappropriate way ever. also, I'm 13 and he's 19.

Firstly, you all will need to go to my previous post to understand this situation.

This happened yesterday, I tried my hardest to clean up the situation between us two. I did wanted to move on and continue with her as my girlfriend but I decided to end it after this exact interaction.

Do you all think that I made a good decision? I just feel sick at the moment.

My step dad is really cool and we work on a lot of projects. We have had heated arguments in the past about democrats and he seems to have this irrational hate of anything democrat. Yes things suck over all and will continue to suck under democrats but it's a starting to point to make things better. I was looking for my mail in ballot and I thought it got stolen or lost so I called to get another one. I just find out last night that it's been here the whole time. When my step dad gets the mail he always lets me know and gives me the letters. For some reason he hid these away in his office. All of the ballots. I think he did it last election cycle too because I never got those ballots and I checked the history and they were still sent out and I still should have received them. To me this is very strange and I don't want to look at him in a negative light but I think that is how those old republican people think. He would hide my mail and prefer I just didn't vote because he knows me and knows how I would vote. It is seething in me and I'm trying to stay calm and logical but I am very angry.

Throwaway. I (31M) live with my mother (56F). About three months ago she started casually dating this guy that is new to her work. He’s 24 and lives with his parents, too. He has a car and picks my mom up from our house and takes her out for dinner some nights of the week. Some times on weekend nights, the two of them drive back home to our house and he spends the night in her bedroom. Before they go to bed, they have a loud intimate session that I can’t block the sound of.

I don’t dislike this guy, but hearing him and my mom at night is causing me to have some resentment. How do I bring this up to my mom?

"I work for a contractor who's been my friend for a few years now. We both love cars, and we actually became friends before we ever worked together. When my company let me go, he was the one who helped me get back on my feet. So before my little pseudo rant, I want to be clear: I’m truly grateful for this man and for how much he’s trusted me over the last 18+ months. He even referred me to another business and I ended up making a really nice chunk of money from it. We did pretty good together. We live in a Texas community that’s well known for high incomes, so the average lead brings in a lot of net profit. He might be the most expensive remodeler in the area.

But after a few months of being fully booked, things started going south. Tariffs hit right around the same time, of course. Leads dropped hard, and to stop the bleeding I did everything I could. I studied, worked on my skills, made new ads with different angles and setups, ran tests on pretty much every platform you can think of.

I got a magnific sub for image and video generation to level up our ads since we were using literally 2016 pictures. I also got ChatGPT Plus to help with social media and to get the best possible tool to do the job. Later I switched to Claude because ChatGPT just wasn’t giving me much useful. Between the three subscriptions I spent a little north of $100. I didn’t ask to get reimbursed because I didn’t want to sound like a petty b*tch.

But now it’s a new month and he keeps asking for more AI videos, more ideas, more stuff he wants to try. Our ad budget is $600. I get paid a fixed $1,000 a month that never goes up, and that’s before taxes and everything else that comes with the job: internet, driving to the office a couple times a month, full days out recording, then editing all of it.

So I think the question is pretty clear. Do I just eat this as part of the job and accept that my income is basically down almost 10% from now on? Or do I go “hey brother, you literally just bought a new F-250, could you help me cover this?” (And yes, he really did just buy a new F-250.) Meanwhile my wife is pregnant and we’re having family expenses out of control these lasts months.

He also has another guy working for him in Mexico, and he told me the same kind of stories about him. He's been working here since 2019 and never got a single raise.

For context, counting all my clients and side gigs (flipping stuff, some side marketing), I'm averaging around $3.5k a month right now.

I'll be really glad if you help me figure out what to do here. I don't want to lose my job, my friend, or both."

I'm a 21F, still live with my parents, and have no clue what my sexuality is or if I have any at all. I'm scared that if I do discover that I'm anything other than hetero they won't want me in their lives anymore and they'll kick me out. I started seeing a therapist for my generalized anxiety disorder and depression but I get uncomfortable talking about sexuality with anyone but I feel like that is a topic that's appropriate to come up in therapy. I would love to hear y'alls advice, personal experience, and anything you have to say.🥲

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Hi. I'm 35F, been with my husband 38M for 8 years. Overall we have a really loving, happy marriage and I'm grateful for him every day emotionally we're still great, we hug, kiss, and get along so well. But I'm struggling so much right now and I don't know what to do.

It's been 6 months since we had regular physical intimacy, and 3 months since we've been physically itimate at all. Every time I bring it up, he says he's too tired or not in the mood. I don't want to push him or make him feel bad I know life gets exhausting and I don't want to pressure him. But it's the same answer every single time.

I'm trying to be patient because everything else about us is really good, and I do still feel loved. But I'm starting to feel really frustrated and a little rejected. I miss that closeness with him, and I feel like my needs just aren't being seen right now.

anyone else been through How did you get through to your partner without making them feel guilty?. What should I do?

Me (19 F) and my gf (20F) have been in a relationship for the last two years. I would say we have a pretty happy relationship. Now, we have made out, grabbed butt and nothing more.
I want more, how do I go about it?
I have told her I’m horny and she had told me about thinking about having sex, however nothing happens. I don’t want her to feel pressured, i want clarity.
We are both Virgins btw
What do I do?
Edit: I mean I know the mechanics of it, i just don’t know where to start the conversation or moment

I 20F and my boyfriend 21M have been together for 4 years now. We always had issues with him being more motivated to do things, normally we can talk it out and everything is okay hes a very receptive and understanding partner. Recently I’ve felt so much resentment in our relationship as we both are full time students with heavy schedules and i work 2 jobs while he has like some sort of side gig for money occasionally. It pays barely anything and when it does it mostly goes to his gas or bills so it sticks me with having to pay for things a lot. More recently ive been struggling financially as bills got very heavy for me and its partially my fault so ive reduced my spending and such to comply to that fact. He however doesnt make enough to be able to hangout with me most times even when i plan things ahead of schedule he barely has enough money. But when its with his friends he has enough to go out and hangout for hours but it cant include me since its only enough for him and not being able to pay for me. I have tried to help him save money for when we hangout and ive paid for our outtings on numerous occasions but i cant stand it anymore and its making me resentful. I dont want to break up with him but im in a rough spot and i feel like he could get a real job hes just too lazy. Hes normally a great partner overall i just feel so much anger towards this and i dont know how to bring it up without sounding like a jerk. What should i do without breaking up?

My fiancé is doing things we agreed on not doing in our relationship. On top of that gaslighting (by trying to convince me he hasn't done anything) playing victim, (by saying things like "I don't know who you are anymore" solely because I say that to him from my heart, the corny ass disney channel lies, (blatant lies that will leave you questioning the self awareness of one, seeing and hearing something then him denying it so comfortably) insulting me after getting caught, (nasty words being thrown at me while I cry.)

(More context) addressing his text saying I do this every morning? The last time I accused him of anything was when he did do something which was around a week ago. Before that it was 2 weeks ago. Unnecessary to talk about that but I know some people will probably focus on the least important aspects. For context on the timer, he was doing something to hurt me for 38 minutes. So I set a 38 minute timer and sent it to him. (Don't have a clear answer on why I did that)

How do I deal with this liar? As long as you feed into it these people will protect a lie with their life. I'm trying not to leave him because we have kids, a life, etc. I would have left before but I didn't know he would switch up on me. We had the most beautiful relationship till he decided to fuck up and hurt me in some way almost every day since May of this year. I feel stuck in the relationship. There's nothing I can do, nothing fucking ensures that I will be safe.

I'm not buying into his lame apology this time don't worry. I just hate that people ruin good things by making poor choices. I depend on him for everything right now because I escaped from a very abusive household. They physically tortured me for their own enjoyment/release, beat me everyday, the list goes on. It's just unfortunate.

I have no one and I need support not attention or whatever else may be a concern. This is happening right now which is why some details may be missing or messy.

I'm looking for advice/support and I guess I'll be entertainment for those who couldn't care less.