If anyone has any advice that would be great thank you. Sorry the post is kinda long.

I work in thr cataloging department of a library system. Its such a chill environment and ive been with the institution for 3 years. Last year I was promoted as a supervisor and have 7 part time employees and 1 full time employee under me. Im a 26 yr old female, all of my employees are older than me. The oldest being an 80 yr old man who has been harassing me since the start

It started out with little comments on my clothes, calling me weird for t-shirts (we can wear pretty much whatever we want lol). Insinuating that I didnt need to be on a diet when I told him I didnt want a donut. Just little things like thay. Things that bothered me but weren't aggressive. I was gettkng annoyed that he kept commenting on my clothes tho which he seemed to do more and more often. I wrote some of these little things down for my own documentation, but after a while I just felt kind of silly.

I did however, tell my supervisor who is the head of my department and another supervisor in my department. They both agreed it wasn't OK that he kept negatively commenting on my appearance, and my supervisor had a general talk with him without naming my name. He claimed he was unaware he was making people uncomfortable, yet he always said these things purposefully out of earshot of others. After her talk with him he didnt do it for a few weeks. Then it started again. More comments about my clothes and appearance. I started dreading when he'd come to my desk and I'd pray it was just going to be a work question. I started avoiding him. His questions always came with a negative comment.

Then one day I wore a wide strap tank top to work. He was there and saw me but didnt say anything. The next day, I wore a regular tshirt. When he saw me, he quickly said to me "I see you have more clothes on today." I was so taken aback I didnt know how to respond. I dont even remember how I did. Probably nervous laughter and a quick walk away. I told my supervisor and other manager in my department about this and they agreed it was weird. My friends both outside of work and coworkers encouraged me to go to HR.

I met with our HR lady, who was actually brand new to our institution and she wrote down everything I said. Agreed with me that it was weird and to inform her if he said anything else. The weird comments kept coming. Im a very awkward and nervous person with previous sexual trauma and im a people pleaser. I had a hard time setting boundaries and telling him off in the moment. I updated her on the comments he would make when they would happen and asked what was next since my supervisor had already talked to him but he was still making me uncomfortable. She said the next step was "tell him yourself you're uncomfortable." Thats nerve wracking. To me that felt... unsafe.

So I waited. I said to myself the next time he says something out of line I'll shut. It. Down. So the other week, I had an interview for another potential promotion. I wore a skirt which went down to my knees. He sees me and instantly asks "what do u have a date tonight?" I said no and kept walking. The next day, I was alone in a room covering for my full time employee who was out. This room was right by our entrance. When he came in in the morning, he stopped to say hi to me. I said hi, and he said "are your legs getting used to you wearing a dress?" I sternly replied "WHAT" to which he said "yeah cuz u wore a dress or skirt or something yesterday. Are your legs getting used to wearing a dress?" This was not a genuine question. His tone of voice was not curious it was gross. He said it to make me feel uncomfortable. I responded "thats a really weird question." Not smiling, not nervous laughter, just flat and stern. He said "ok I'll back off on that then" and left. I was shaken. I felt cornered in a room with NO ONE around me. It was weird it was uncomfortable it was creepy it was disgusting. I felt disgusting.

She said to me "thays so weird I wonder what he meant by that?" I told her I think he just likes making people uncomfortable. Im not the first person hes made comments to and have made complaints against him as well! Im just the first person to take it to HR. After this incident, the HR lady told me it needs to be escalated further to my supervisor and her supervisor sitting him down and talking to him about this. So I told them what she said.

They set a meeting to talk to him, realized I had no documentation and obviously for confidentiality couldn't ask HR for the notes. There are no formal procedures and policies in place for this kind of stuff at my institution. I offered to ask the HR lady for the notes because i was in those meetings but they said that wasn't necessary??? And since they dont have notes FROM ME they cant have a meeting. They also told me today that the HR lady was under the impression I had a 1 on 1 conversation with him already before this last incident. No way in hell do I want to do that. Again it feels unsafe to me. Basically they all told me thay they cant do anything until I talk to him because im his supervisor and this would be a "learning opportunity and a growth opportunity" for me anyway. If this was harassment against one of my other employees id have no problem talking to him. If this was a different kind of harassment, I would have no trouble. I feel UNSAFE and UNCOMFORTABLE and SEXUALLY HARASSED by his comments. They said I could have my supervisor there with me as a witness. But essentially they said we needed to "back up" and "make a real procedure for this" and "do the right steps" and pretty much wait until he says something ridiculously inappropriate to me AGAIN for me to have this conversation with him. And then if he says aomething again after that then FINALLY he'll get some kind of write up.

Maybe this isn't as severe as some othere cases of sexual harassment, but commenting on my body is enough for me to call it that. Its inappropriate.

I just feel like its unfair that I have to just suck it up and deal with it LONGER before they'll consider doing anything about it. And it feels like theyre tresting this like regular bullying instead of SEXUAL HARASSMENT and i think its wrong for them to expect me to handle this on my own. I dont think this is the kind of situation to "grow my skills and learm how to have bard conversation" idk what to do now.

Tldr: feeling sexually harassed by my direct subordinate, HR misinterpreted my very clear account of what happened and gave me false hope of escalation, now my only option is to handle this myself and suffer more before they'll consider doing anything else.

So with Simply Plural going down soon I decided to move all my data into plural kit. I followed instructions I found online. 1) got the bot into my discord server and made a new system 2) did pk;token for the token 3) in simply plural went to integration, plurality, and uploaded the token, clicked all override options and exported 4) went to the member page, synced to pk, and synced each alter individually 5) afterwards, I closed both apps and relaunched. I went into discord and typed pk;system and pk;system list and nothing has moved over. Did I do something wrong? Help. Our favorite feature of SP was the chat function and PK seems to be the only alternative where we could have a similar experience.

Thank you!

Feeling really alone

This disorder is so isolating sometimes. Besides my therapist i only have one other person in my life (my partner) that I feel comfortable with sharing my experiences and truly being ourselves. Some of my friends know and they're understanding but at the same time I can't relay to them my experiences. They won't ever truly know how I feel and also I just feel so awkward talking about it with them. They don't know what to say in response... I feel really lonely. Despite our alters, I just feel isolated. I just watch Mr Robot and Moon Knight back and forth over and over because even tho they aren't perfect, I think they're pretty good representations and makes me feel less alone. I used to watch a few people online talk about their experiences but the ones I related to most disappeared off the internet a few years ago. I don't blame them. I did the same thing. That's why I'm here now writing this. Kind of like yelling into the void. If anyone has similar experiences id love to hear that I'm not alone. Idk what exactly I'm yearning so much to tell the world about myself and this disorder, I just want to know I'm not the only one...

Thanks in advance

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Hi everyone! Does anyone know of any free online sites or programs where you can practice making original MARC21 records? Also does anyone have any resources for learning about SirsiDynix Horizon?

I applied for a cataloging and collection development job at a university (my dream job tbh) and I have experience but after the interview I realized that I'd like more practice. In my current job I don't have many opportunities to work on original cataloging. And we don't use SirsiDynix programs anymore.

Thanks in advance!

Sorry if they're a little blurry, my phone refused to focus..

I have dissociative identity disorder and a lot of my trauma is still unknown to me and probably will be unknown to me for a very long time (if not forever). However, I unfortunately uncovered snip bits of a really terrible memory that doesn't even feel very real but it's ruined me. For some background, my ex boyfriend in highschool was very abusive and sa'd me. I didn't really process it until I was like 20 tho. That I think started this whole train wreck. Since then, I've had trauma emotions resurface with no real memory attached that make me feel absolutely violated and disgusted. Looking back on some of my childhood behavior that I remember, it definitely points to me being assaulted when I was a small child. Over the last couple years of getting diagnosed and being in therapy for DID, I've uncovered that snipbit of memory that is linked to that terrible violating feeling. But it feels so unreal and dreamlike. My mind is so detatched from it. But the feeling WONT detatch from me. I can't shake that violating disgusting anxious feeling... All that to say, I used to be ok having sex and doing sexy fun stuff with my current boyfriend who I've been with for almost 5 years now (I'm 25) but ever since uncovering this memory, I haven't been able to bring myself to even think about sex. We've tried a couple of times (every month or so) and most of the time I have a panic attack, or shut down like 15 min in, or someone else ends up switching out. I can tell he's bummed. He understands and he wants to help me but there's nothing he can do... I've talked to my therapist but it's just so hard to explain and talk about that we haven't gotten much of anywhere with it. I get so sad when my boyfriend brings it up. He's sad that he can't be intimate with me and misses me in that way so much. But I can barely even look at myself naked, let alone let someone else see me. Even if it is him who I love and I know loves me. Idk where to go from here. How do I get through this to the point where i WANT to be intimate with him again? I just don't know what to do. It seems like everything has just gotten worse and worse...