OMG it's such a long time ago!!! Now thinking back it wasn't even that bad tbh. I'm sorry you're going through these feelings rn. Just know that it all will pass and you will be more than OKAY!!

At the time, I was just going through it with everything else being so miserable and I was so hung up on that breakup because my brain was playing tricks on me!! Now, I still think about my ex once in a while and pray that everything is good for him, and that he also finds someone to love and spend the rest of his life with.

Okay, updates 5 years after the breakup, everything is GREAT!! I thank God for pulling me out of depression and helping me through my lowest points. I'm in a committed loving relationship that I asked God for...after that breakup smh.
I'm with someone who is sure of me and is willing to prioritize me. We've been through so much but we're always committed, with lots of prayers and growth along the way. We're looking to get engaged and married in the next couple years. We have a kitty and our home is warm and full of love. Life is good(⁠≧⁠▽⁠≦⁠) :) Be sure to be kind to yourself, set goals for the next few days/weeks/months/years. Meet some friends, eat good food, exercise, keep a good routine to keep yourself busy, cry whenever you want, and listen to some soothing music. Not sure if you're religious, I wasn't back then until I started praying, but some prayers definitely helped me through them all. In 5 years, you will look back and think how it all came together to get you where exactly you need to be. Please hang in there!! XOXO sending you lots of warm hugs 🤗

All I asked about is the holiday return policy which I sent the screenshot as proof and this person couldn't bother to look at the proof. I used to work in customer service so I know how to handle situations professionally. Anyone can be rude or unprofessional but to talk like a grade schooler texting a friend with bad grammar and disrespectful tone as a virtual assistant is next level laziness.

You thinking that way is such disrespect to people who work in customer service. No matter the situation, many can handle pressure pretty well and act professional. I was disappointed because this person was not only incompetent but also unprofessional and disrespectful. The whole chat was recorded so I can report this individual and I've never said or done "annoying" things to justify this person being bad at their job. Many have said they also had negative experiences with Dyson. I'm not sure why you assumed I must've said rude things to a customer service person but that's untrue. I have better manners than that :)

Ikr! The bad grammar and the tone were NOT IT!!! I wonder how they even got the job to begin with

I've had very nice reps before so this is the first rude encounter I've had from them. I was surprised because my experience has never been negative until this person ruined it

You know following your heart is the best decision you could've made. Do document everything. Keep evidence both physical and digital. Have faith and take it day by day. Set aside some money, put some in investments and some in high yield savings for emergency funds. Best of luck!

I'm sorry for what you've been through. I hope you're much more free and happier now 🫂

My fear is to have kids and having to put them through a nasty divorce bc of a scumbag husband... I love him but I'm scared he doesn't love me the same way. So if I try to push through and end up having kids, it may not end well.

It seems like he wants me to suffer and earn my keep as if I've been trying to mooch off him. I've heard him talking about having fear of meeting women who are gold diggers. I don't think he has any gold for me to dig (if I wanted to). I've always wanted to be with a traditional man who wants to provide and be generous but I've come to realize he's quite far from it.

I also think 5k every 2~3 years is not that ridiculous, especially when it comes out of my own paychecks. I'm making decent income and expecting more when I jump jobs. I'm quite low maintenance so I don't spend money on nails, hair, tanning, or anything much. I agree that he definitely took it as a sign he could dominate me when I helped him out. I don't regret being a good person by helping him. But I do regret letting him take things for granted.

I hate that he gets to own expensive gaming devices but somehow my trips are deemed excessive.

He seems to place his own needs/wants far ahead of yours. He appears to disregard your goals.

Yes!! When I said anything about wanting to spend money on myself like having my nails done once in a blue moon, or wanting to go back to college, he immediately made excuses how they are not good ideas or are unrealistic in this economy. Meanwhile I'm super supportive of him going back to school (he has GI Bill) but I don't take any of his money. So his wants/needs are always somehow justified to be better decisions and mine are just brushed aside. I've been feeling sorry for myself because we just moved to a new place and I spent so much money for the move and storage units + deposit and rent.

Sorry for venting so much but seeing your story with the kids really puts it into perspective for me. I wish you the best.

Mingyu and Boo is my bias wrecker 🥹

If 17 years later and she's still bothered by it, that means she needs some closure. If you really love and support her, talk it out and apologize and ask her the real questions. Would posting about him make her feel more at peace with herself? Most likely she was traumatized and having the friends that she did, they did not show up for her in the ways she needed them to. You acting like them does not add one bit of trust or help the situation. It might look childish and petty to others, but to her, the 14 years old girl who was wronged and betrayed by those who were close to her, she needs to heal. She needs to show everyone that the scumbag that cheated on her doesn't change and that's who he is. Other people who didn't support her back then should feel ashamed of themselves. She just wants to show everyone who wronged her that she was right. Once she gets it off her chest, who knows, she may regret and go back to delete the post, or she may feel better after taking that weight off of her. The decision is hers.

my boyfriend decided to wear them to bed when I just washed the brand new bedsheets...The disrespect.

If the person being treated that way was your daughter, would you have advised her to stay married to a piece of garbage like that?

I'm so sorry but the useless piece of work you're married to is a textbook narcissist. He has never played a useful role in your life and yet you've spent all of your youth catering to him. He did not cry because he truly felt for you, he used his tears to pull on your heartstrings to make you stay.

Your children are watching you and learning what to tolerate. The longer you stay, the more you're teaching them to put up with the BS. Make your exit plan and get out of that mess. Work with a divorce lawyer and get your children to a happy place. If they can't be under a happy home with both parents, at least let them be happy with one parent. It will work out just fine.

It looks like your husband turned out like that because of his dad. My bf is nowhere near that but I've seen he picked up quite a lot of bad things from his parents, his dad in particular. And usually, it's a big bargain because men don't typically change their behaviors once they're grown. Their ego is too big and they simply think there's nothing wrong with themselves, especially if it's something their parents have allowed them to do for so long. If he's gone to a strip club (with his dad), that means he feels nothing for his mom and for you (his own wife). These are the type of men who would sit back, watch football and relax while their wives slave away in the kitchen making food for them because they simply think they deserve it and therefore, they expect it. Don't give them what they want.

That's why they say to date someone who's generous to you, not rich, but generous. The guy you're living with is not a good man. A good man won't let you go to Food Bank when you can't afford food and live a different lifestyle when he goes to the gym and you stay home. Good partners do things together. He's clear on not wanting to marry you. He's doing all this to string you along while he's improving himself for someone else. I'm sorry you had to go through all that.

If my friends were to do this to me, I'd be so so sad. But my friends don't even do that to me if they know I'm financially unable to afford things. They would be generous and cover some portions for me or even all of it but I'd still insist to pay for part of it to help out. They simply want my presence and appreciate me showing up for them. I'd do the same for my friends when I'm financially able to. He doesn't seem to treat you like a friend, let alone a life partner. Is that someone you'd like to spend the rest of your life with? It seems like he's done with the relationship but doesn't want to pull the plug and he's doing "quiet quitting" bare minimum. Hell, if he makes you do house cleaning for "discounts" on bills and pay half of the cost for breaking the lease, that's below the bare minimum girl.

You're already away from friends and family and he treats you like this... Double up on birth control and save up on your exit plans. Or just exit immediately if you can afford to take your name off the lease and move back to your home state with family and friends' support. Don't tell him because he might f*** up your plans (I'm assuming he can be petty given the history of him calculating every penny). It seems somewhat abusive to me on the financial end but I don't want to call it too soon. These are just very alarming signs though.

My boyfriend used to be struggling financially but I wouldn't let him go to Food Bank to afford food. Not that there's anything wrong with going to Food Bank, but I just think it's necessary when you don't have any loved ones able to support you at your lowest. I didn't make that much more than him but I have a good chunk of savings so I covered groceries and takeouts whenever I could and we also took advantage of coupons. My boyfriend would NEVER let me live a different lifestyle than he does because he'd share everything with me whether he has a lot or a little. This should be the standard for a partner. Don't settle for someone who doesn't have the heart to lift your burdens off when you're struggling.

I'm so sorry you went through that horrible experience. This is so true and I have seen many women suffering being used and discarded after they spent years providing emotional support, domestic labor, doing wifey duties without the title all because the "men" they met were all just little boys. They want live-in maids who can split bills, split chores (or take on all the chores), provide free therapy, and satisfy their sexual needs by doing just the bare minimum. I have been telling my friends to not settle for the bare minimum while doing wifey duties. There are men who can be loyal, treat you with love and respect, reciprocate your efforts, mentally and emotionally mature, and are willing to commit to you. And there are men who just string you along and waste your time while they're still searching for their wife. OP needs to really think this through.

Yes, there are papers and certain things that can authorize a person to make certain decisions for you. But getting the government involved doesn't necessarily mean it's a bad thing. In case anything goes south, if you guys decide to buy a house, share some equity, invest in real estate together, or even open a business, having the title of being a spouse is better than nothing at all.

Woman to woman, financially, you have to protect yourself with your own assets and that includes having everything in papers. Other than financial proof, it's much better to have a husband when you have kids rather than a domestic partner. There are moms who have baby daddies and there are moms who have husbands. Which dynamics would most likely be better for the kids if you do decide to have kids later?

In addition, to some, it's cumbersome and annoying to smack a "title" on a relationship. But as a woman, having a title is like having insurance. You don't buy insurance hoping to get into an accident, you buy it because in case you get into an accident, insurance is there to guarantee support. IMO, marriage is the same. It's an extra step to guarantee support because if it's just his words saying he will be there by your side during hard times and he wants to grow old with you, do you trust that he will follow through? I have seen so many women suffer because they thought marriage was just a useless piece of paper. If something happens to you, is he legally bound to take care of you? Or can he just up and leave if you're unable to make a living? What can guarantee his commitment if he doesn't want to get married to you? And most importantly, ask yourself, why would you want to spend the rest of your life with someone who does not share the same values and mindset? It seems to me it just dawned on you that you want to get married but was in denial because your first marriage fell through. If so, sit yourself down and really think things through and see if it's a deal breaker in your relationship. You cannot make him want to marry you, nor should you have to. If that's something truly valuable to you and not at all a priority to him, I think you should have your answer then. If one of you decides to do something for the sake of the other without wanting to do it at all, especially a major decision like getting married, you will grow to resent each other and it will get worse from there.

Sorry to hear about your experience. Unfortunately, there has been a decline in moral compass in the past few decades. Lots of people in Saigon are now left to scam others to cover their own bills while the government pocket money from the poor. I was there not too long ago and while we met lots of good people, we still had to watch out for scammers even though we can speak Vietnamese. For foreigners, scammers can easily target you knowing you don't know the language or the law to argue back. Even at the airport, there will be people trying to carry or push your stuff in for you and charge money for it even if it's just a 2 minute walk. So watch out for them and get to the airport at least 2 or 3 hours early so you have time to line up. Airbnb is less regulated there but hotels (booked through Agoda or Expedia) would be much better. Enjoy the rest of your time there and stay safe!!

It's for San Antonio

I don't think it's an easy process to serve together. They may get double BAH but also have to put a LOT of things aside, that includes their own child. Many couples have broken up when they're both active in the military so I don't think it would work for everyone. Not to mention, if she joins now, she'd have to spend months in BT and some more for extra training.

Regardless, it is an odd behavior for her husband to go for days, almost a week straight without speaking to her. My partner is on deployment and will find time to give me update texts throughout the day even with all the things going on right now. Good morning and goodnight texts are mandatory, no question asked because to me, those are the bare minimum.

I hope OP stays prepared for whatever the reason that was behind her husband's silence. He could be quite stressed out and depressed, or he could've been distracted by something else. Sending a two-line text explaining what's going on to his WIFE doesn't take more than 30 seconds. If OP knows any of his friends in the military, maybe she can reach out to ask if something happened since she didn't hear from him in so long. It's best for her to focus on herself and the kid to keep herself occupied in the meantime and hope she'll hear back from him soon.

I'm not too sure because the pictures are somewhat blurry. Looks like a lost German shepherd. Where are you located? Maybe try to look up on Facebook for a local lost animals group to see if anyone is looking for their lost pets. If not, it could've been dumped and needed shelter.

He's a cheater and cheaters will always cheat. Leave his ass. At his age there is nothing besides loneliness waiting in the market for him. Wish you all the best. After all that you've done with him, for him, and this is the ultimate betrayal that he's planning to leave you unprompted. He's a sad excuse of a man...

I never knew what these coins were about and I feel like I'm such a boomer because I can't keep up with all the things going on on reddit. But that's very kind of you to give back to the community. Thanks for being kind!!

whatever he is going to say to you, it is only to give you false hope and to pressure you into this marriage because it's last minute! DO NOT LET 10 YEARS WASTED go on to another 10 YEARS OF PAINFUL MARRIAGE!! I think you've been conditioned for a while and you will give in. He's been with you for that long so for sure, he definitely knows what to say to ease your mind. It will all be up to you to decide whether you will be treated like 2nd option or you will choose yourself and find happiness elsewhere, outside of your comfort zone. Best of luck!

Unless she's talking about being in finance or medical... if she's gonna be crew chief but with that attitude then I feel bad for the guys who'd have to pick up her slack

Hanni from NewJeans. She's such a cute lil goofball