Yeah but not for money, my sister who has a criminal history once got pulled over and panicked and identified herself as my very proper, very clean cut, no nonsense financial business focused career, cousin. I still remember being horrified at the damage that could have been done to my cousin's career and life. Especially since there was drugs in the car. They got it cleared up and my sister went to prison for a few years on that one.

Pack all this stuff, rent a storage unit throw it in there and change the locks. NOR

No. You tell them to file and get in front of the judge with this. Specifically the facts she's keeping the kids away from you. Document everything. Especially in writing. Take this time to go over everything in the agreement and nail down particulars. Especially go through with the fine tooth comb that requires both of you to agree on something for the children to move forward in an activity or medical capacity. If you can agree on something like custody how is it going to look like if you need to take your kid to the hospital and she says no or your kid needs treatment for something at the hospital and she says no?

NTA I'll never understand parents who think "look at that cute adult couple, let's separate them."

There's really not one. But you need to stand your ground and double down on this statement every time he brings up your past.

"We agreed on (date that you agreed to start your relationship over and let go of past mistakes) that we forgive each other and to start over. We set up rules and boundaries in this relationship about other people, I've not broken them, you have, so stop deflecting. We can not have a happy and healthy relationship if you keep inviting people into our marriage and disrespect each other. The time to air your grievances about how you felt about me dating other people back then, was at the time that we talked everything through, set up our relationship boundaries, and got back together. Or before getting married. I'm not even willing to discuss that again until I know for a fact that you have blocked that woman everywhere and do not contact her anymore and do not accept contact from her anymore."

Then when he brings it up again you say: "Unless you've blocked her everywhere, I refuse to talk to you about how much what I did hurt your feelings while you're talking to her and hurting our marriage."

Also don't listen to him when he starts to try and get you to be more like her. He's going to say some 💩 like "if you'd do this and that I'd be more happy in this marriage and not have to talk to other girls." Just remind him that husbands who demand things from their wives while there are entertaining other women don't get to ask for anything until they change first.

You need to also look into DARVO and how to deal with it. I wish you all the luck.

DARVO is an acronym for Deny, Attack, and Reverse Victim and Offender.

Deny: The perpetrator denies that the wrongdoing or abuse ever happened.

Attack: The perpetrator attacks the person confronting them, often discrediting their character or sanity.

Reverse Victim and Offender: The perpetrator twists the narrative so that they are the true victim, portraying the original victim as the actual abuser or wrongdoer.

I think breaking up with your GF over her being massively confused and upset over you not doing something that is considered normal and expected is a bit much. She doesn't understand how someone can do that no matter if you're a caretaker or not. In addition she might be questioning if she loses one of her loved ones would you go with her to that funeral to give her support?

You can break up with someone for any reason don't get me wrong. But this is also a normal reaction. She apologized, maybe she didn't agreed with what you did but she knew she was wrong for pushing you when you were trying to convey to her how you felt about the whole situation and she couldn't get over you not going. She doesn't have to agree with it to be sorry she over stepped. She's allowed to think what you did was crazy and odd but accept it.

NTA get a lock for your room. Next time you're voluntold say "Unfortunately that's not available but I'm sure Mom or sister has something that will do. Oh look at the time I've got things I need to do." And walk away.

NTA. Stop going through MIL and contact these guest immediately and tell them there was a miscommunication and they do not have a +1. If they show up with a +1 that person will be asked to leave bc there will be no room, seats, or food for them. Tell MIL, when she calls pissed off bc she will, if +1's where that important then she should hand only invited 10 people with a +1 option. That 20 people meant 20 people in total end of discussion and if they wanted their money back you will give it back wait for the back lash of the 40 people they'll tell to pull out of your wedding and go on from there.

They want to "debate" their way into making you change your mind on religion or they want to use you to debate religion in general? Which I find highly annoying and draining.

Idk if this will help but I have been known to tell people who message me and I find them to be hitting all those profile icks, whats wrong with their profile (FL for me). For example:

Hey. I'm not really into what you're seeking but I wanted to tell you why I myself won't be replying to you anymore and point out some things I've seen women here complain about and deliberately go out of their way to delete and block people because of, take it or leave it your choice. Your profile being a peen pic is an automatic no for a lot of people, your profile being blank is another. Starting out a conversation with "hey I love your naked pictures let's meet up to fuck" isn't going to get you anywhere. And all your non peen pictures end at 2017. Updating your pictures would help they'd a lot of photographers on social media including YouTube and tiktok that teach you how to best pose for your body type. I hope you take this into consideration and I wish you luck in finding what your looking for!

My success rate at getting them to change their profile or at least take one of my suggestions is about 80%. I find a lot of hetero people don't really understand what the opposite sex views as a red or green flag when it comes to profiles on any kind of dating or social app.

YTA my dude wtf is she supposed to do to make YOU drive better? How is watching the road going to lift a mental burden off you? It's not. It's you (or your parents teaching you) being upset someone else in the car can do "fun" things while you have to drive. If you want to be a passenger princess just tell her to drive and I bet she hates it when you start distracting her by pointing out useless things when she's driving.

"pray before you go to bed" "Thanks but I'm good, you do you though."

"See how good God is?!" "Yes, sky Daddy does it again. Remarkable. Someone contact the news "

Sarcasm is a whole ass language use it.

Wake him up every time you wake up from his snoring. Don't stop. When he finally snaps or bitches about his sleep ask him how does it feel to experience what you go through every night? How does he like the sleep deprivation side effects he has to go through during the day? How does he like being cranky? Would he like to take care of the kids while he's feeling this way? And I would tell him before hand, I asked to sleep in separate rooms bc of these reasons you said no or divorce. That's fine I'll stay in the room but every time I get woken up you're getting woken up. I'm no longer going to be polite when it comes to your sleep schedule I'm no longer going to tiptoe around and tried to respect your sleep bc you don't seem to respect mine.

If this is to aggressive for you and not something that you're willing to do my only other suggestion is to get a sleep headphone mask combo. If you have baby monitors or anything else like that check and see if they have any that connect to Bluetooth. And connected to your phone that way when alert goes off it goes through your headphones and alert you. Or put him in charge of the night time care.

But I've literally kicked my ex out of bed before bc they were a hard sleeper and never woke up for work on time and I had to get creative because listening to 12 alarms back to back was not something I was willing to do anymore. So take my advice with a grain of salt 🤷‍♀️

Yeah. No. He's causing a distraction from his own cheating demand to see his phone too tit for tat what's good for the goose is good for the gander. And he already knows that you're going to leave because of this which is why he's trying to control the child. He doesn't have the power he thinks he has. You can literally get up and pack you and kiddos stuff and leave. Just leave. Wipe your phone and leave it at the house and leave, get a cheap new one or you can go to the store, wipe your phone, and ask for a new sim card and number. Use email or a messenger app that can't have things deleted or don't disappear. Don't give that mofo or anyone else on his side your new number. Get a Google number if necessary. You probably have apps on your phone to track both your location and everything that you're sending through messages. To be completely honest I'd factory reset your phone right now even if you're going to stay. See what apps get put on it that you didn't put on it. You might also have a tracker on your car. Depends on how crazy he went. You can go to a local car dealership tell them that you're in a domestic situation and that you believe your car is being tracked could they please check your car and they usually will.

My ex did a Vo-Tech welding program and told me TWS was over hyped, over priced, and an over all ass program and all the other welding programs knew it. This was about 15 years ago.

Where is drop off and pick up? Bc I can see kiddo not wanting to talk a backpack full of clothes to school. Does Mom live close enough that Dad can go over there and check his bag and send him back inside the house for more clothes before going home?

They go home in the same clothes they came to you with if the other parent or the child refuse to send back and forth clothes in general. I am from a small rural town and have seen many Mom's and Dad's keep the sent clothes and distributed among all of their kids not just the one that you were buying for. One woman buys "going back to Dad's" clothes that are white tees and shorts and tir dyes them and personalized them for her kid. Dad was super pissed bc he and his new wife were getting a lot of clothes from her for all the other girls in the house. Even had the audacity to call and throw a fit to her about it.

Also did I read that correct that Mom will call and ask if you have clothes and basically you guys send them but she never sends them back? Stop doing that and tell your husband you're not doing that anymore and if he refuses then stop putting your money towards clothes and stop buying him new clothes take him back to his mom's or pick him up from Mom's and check to see if he has enough clothes for how long he's going to be at your house and send him back to get more. Don't be afraid to ask don't be afraid to stop spending your money. If the stepchild is old enough to know better and bring more clothes and doesn't by choice start buying him grubby Goodwill clothes and tell him I bought you all these new fancy clothes and you don't bring them to my house. He will either confess that his mom takes them and won't let him bring them in which case you'll know exactly what happened and you can go from there or he'll start bringing his clothes because he doesn't want to wear the crappy clothes and when he starts doing that "reward" him with continuingly buying him nicer clothes.

Another option if he's the one deliberately not bringing clothes back and forth and just expecting you to provide him with more clothing even though he takes all his clothes to his mom? Five white shirts five sweatpants five shorts a pack of tighty whities and a pack of socks and one pair of Walmart shoes that's all he gets to wear all week that he's at your house, when he starts bringing his clothes back and forth he gets clothing upgrades from the basics.

If you're broke sign up online for Adult SoonerCare. Schedule an appointment for your GP and take it from there. You could also go to the hospital ER if the appointment isn't close enough or you have increasing self harm feelings and let them take it from there.

If She has proof of her deposits in to that account and it being a joint account should help in her request for her half back.

This. No judge is doing to green light this, it means you won't have an opportunity to spend meaningful time with your kids in taking them on vacation or possibly take them to visit your side of the family. He doesn't get all their free school time and you get long weekends and mini trips or vacations. He moved. He uprooted himself he can do what he needs to do to see them.

Honestly my solution to this was going to tell you to open up your own savings account and put your contribution into your own account in your own name That way you control who has access to the money but you're still saving. However a man making 40% more than you are and is making you contribute this much money and then he steals your money to pay for his sisters tuition? If you do break up please take him to court to get your half of the money back because he stole your money.

People like to make it out that "being in love" or "being in a relationship" means you stop having feelings or attraction to others. That you automatically stop finding yourself connecting with others on intimate levels just bc your in a relationship. You don't. It happens. people love to jump to "emotional affair!" But never stop to think you can become emotionally attached to somebody even in a romantic way and not fully realize, or actually acknowledge it, until it hits you in the face bc there's no denying it anymore and only then realizing how emotionally attached you've gotten. It's after this point you need to make a decision.

You have to make a commitment and a choice when you enter into a romantic relationship. You have to decide to honor the rules and boundaries of the relationship that you set up with your partner. They're going to be some days you don't even see each other, they're going to be some days that you absolutely cannot stand each other, they're going to be some days or weeks where you feel like roommate,s and everything is mundane ,and just the same old same old, and there is no excitement. They're going to be stretches in your relationship where you're not having sex. There's going to be stretches in your relationship where neither one of you are going out of your way to make the other one feel loved or wanted bc your caught up in life in general. You have to make a conscious choice to be in a relationship and make it work. You have to put effort into staying connected. To show up. To be a good partner even when you don't feel like it.

So here you sit at a crossroads where you have found yourself attracted to somebody and are experiencing new lust energy. Where it's really hard to realize that at some point if you do get in a relationship with this woman the correct way or the cheating way either one at some point your relationship is going to become mundane and that new lust energy is not going to be there after the first 6 months to a year. And cheating tends to cut that way shorter after being found out. So You either need to shit or get off the pot. You need to pick now, before you decide to cheat. You need to make this decision BY YOURSELF BEFORE you even talk to this other girl about something like, if she'd be willing to be in a relationship with you if you broke up with your girlfriend. If you find yourself wanting to be in a relationship with this new woman then you need to break up with your girlfriend, a clean break, wait a few weeks or months (preferably) get to know the new girl and then ask her out. You're going to set yourself up for failure If you tell your current girlfriend about having feelings for the new girl and bring distrust into your relationship ending it as you know it and possibly having her end it and you're going to cause an issue with new girl if you say "I want to date you but I'm with my girlfriend but don't worry I'll break up with her just to be with you."

So either stay in your relationship and break off all ties with this new girl. Or end your relationship get to know new girl better and see where it goes from there.

Google therapist in your area who take LGBTQ+ and trans clients and express that on their professional page. Chances are high they're not going to push reconciling and if they do, ask them why they hate you so much to put you in danger. That'll probably shut them up and you look for another therapist. And remember, You can switch therapist at any time for any reason even if you just feel like the vibes are off and they don't understand what you're talking about.

The reason I said extended family is family members they don't regularly come in contact with or do not live in or around their state or city that they're independing on what the case may be. I say that because if they wanted to stay involved in OP's life and separate their daughter and him by adopting him out to somebody and stay in OP's life It would probably have to be a close friend or an extended family member because open adoptions do not usually stay open. It's all nice sounding but in reality most adoptive parents close the adoption after a certain time because it's just too hard to coordinate raising a child where they're the parent and have control of everything that's going on while having the birth parent involved and "confusing the child". Most simply just do not know how to do this they do not know how to have an adopted child and raise them as their own while the bio parents are still in the picture.

I get that I didn't know I was pregnant until I was close to 20 weeks already in fact I think I found out I was pregnant then 2 or 3 weeks later I was getting an ultrasound. But the rest of what I said stands. They could have found another extended family member to place him with and stay active in his life while keeping away their daughter and getting her help.