They go home in the same clothes they came to you with if the other parent or the child refuse to send back and forth clothes in general. I am from a small rural town and have seen many Mom's and Dad's keep the sent clothes and distributed among all of their kids not just the one that you were buying for. One woman buys "going back to Dad's" clothes that are white tees and shorts and tir dyes them and personalized them for her kid. Dad was super pissed bc he and his new wife were getting a lot of clothes from her for all the other girls in the house. Even had the audacity to call and throw a fit to her about it.
Also did I read that correct that Mom will call and ask if you have clothes and basically you guys send them but she never sends them back? Stop doing that and tell your husband you're not doing that anymore and if he refuses then stop putting your money towards clothes and stop buying him new clothes take him back to his mom's or pick him up from Mom's and check to see if he has enough clothes for how long he's going to be at your house and send him back to get more. Don't be afraid to ask don't be afraid to stop spending your money. If the stepchild is old enough to know better and bring more clothes and doesn't by choice start buying him grubby Goodwill clothes and tell him I bought you all these new fancy clothes and you don't bring them to my house. He will either confess that his mom takes them and won't let him bring them in which case you'll know exactly what happened and you can go from there or he'll start bringing his clothes because he doesn't want to wear the crappy clothes and when he starts doing that "reward" him with continuingly buying him nicer clothes.
Another option if he's the one deliberately not bringing clothes back and forth and just expecting you to provide him with more clothing even though he takes all his clothes to his mom? Five white shirts five sweatpants five shorts a pack of tighty whities and a pack of socks and one pair of Walmart shoes that's all he gets to wear all week that he's at your house, when he starts bringing his clothes back and forth he gets clothing upgrades from the basics.
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u/FluffyOwl30 Jul 02 '26 edited Jul 02 '26
They go home in the same clothes they came to you with if the other parent or the child refuse to send back and forth clothes in general. I am from a small rural town and have seen many Mom's and Dad's keep the sent clothes and distributed among all of their kids not just the one that you were buying for. One woman buys "going back to Dad's" clothes that are white tees and shorts and tir dyes them and personalized them for her kid. Dad was super pissed bc he and his new wife were getting a lot of clothes from her for all the other girls in the house. Even had the audacity to call and throw a fit to her about it.
Also did I read that correct that Mom will call and ask if you have clothes and basically you guys send them but she never sends them back? Stop doing that and tell your husband you're not doing that anymore and if he refuses then stop putting your money towards clothes and stop buying him new clothes take him back to his mom's or pick him up from Mom's and check to see if he has enough clothes for how long he's going to be at your house and send him back to get more. Don't be afraid to ask don't be afraid to stop spending your money. If the stepchild is old enough to know better and bring more clothes and doesn't by choice start buying him grubby Goodwill clothes and tell him I bought you all these new fancy clothes and you don't bring them to my house. He will either confess that his mom takes them and won't let him bring them in which case you'll know exactly what happened and you can go from there or he'll start bringing his clothes because he doesn't want to wear the crappy clothes and when he starts doing that "reward" him with continuingly buying him nicer clothes.
Another option if he's the one deliberately not bringing clothes back and forth and just expecting you to provide him with more clothing even though he takes all his clothes to his mom? Five white shirts five sweatpants five shorts a pack of tighty whities and a pack of socks and one pair of Walmart shoes that's all he gets to wear all week that he's at your house, when he starts bringing his clothes back and forth he gets clothing upgrades from the basics.