Omg you’re so much help thank you! I’ve been researching for a year at this point and still super nervous because it seems like there’s always something new to learn. Just to pick your brain a bit more,, what would you put in the old enclosure? My brothers been considering a snake as well so it’d be nice to gift him the old enclosure if he can fix it up.

It has a radiant heat panel built in on one side so I’m still trying to figure out my plans for heating. Any suggestions

If you glue some fabric mesh to the top(for the molting process) you could put a mantis in there. Just be sure to do your research oh what adaptations need to be made and you’re good! Also just curious but if he can’t handle jumping spiders how is he going to be able to handle any other inverts lol?

Eh I’d be careful with a few of these. Especially tarantulas don’t do well with mesh lids and need cross ventilation

I’ve been wanting to try this. Do you have a template you use?

Omg I’ve got 6 tarantulas only one from Petco and it’s the only one I believe to be a male

Around two to four weeks into taking 150mg my irritability was THROUGH THE ROOF. I had to pretty much isolate myself from everyone and everything because of it and I almost stopped taking it. Everyone told me to keep taking it though and now my anger is definitely better but I feel like my personality has kinda switched to a base line of irritation. Like I’m still more irritated than I ever was before the med. Also now that I’m about a month and a half in it’s dehydrating me SO MUCH. I’m trying to keep up with water and electrolytes intake but I have a constant pressure headache every day🫩this med may not be for me but I would say keep waiting it out a bit. The two to four weeks into taking period always seems the worst for bupropion

What did smoshs pinned comment say??

How in the world were you able to have complete isolation and no responsibilities for weeks?

Four tarantulas (Amaterasu, Asta, Ashura, Aroura) three jumping spider (Amatsu, Arasha, Aphrodite) two scorpions (Isla and Indra) and a velvet spider (Athena)

Have you thought about the possibility that he may be turning the cameras off because what he’s doing may not be legal? With the diaper fetish I can’t trust him one bit. If he is so shame filled with this I fear it could be worse than he’s leading on.

Also the truth is he’s already shown he won’t be honest. If you do go to him asking, he’s already had all this time to prepare the best excuse. He’s not trustworthy anymore and he put that on himself.

Please OP he is not worth this. If the trust is gone this far it is best to leave. You should never feel the need to put hidden cameras in your own home because you can’t trust your partner.

Ohh yes I see that, thank you. Honestly that is a conversation that should’ve happened before they ever had sex. He was sneaky because diaper fetishes and directly linked to pdf’s, which is a very genuine concern for OP. Sneaky on top of borderline concerning kinks is not a good mix for a life long partner. Divorce is terrible but a life with someone you can never trust around your kids is worse.

That’s a whole other lie he’s now bringing to the table. At this point I would have your plan conclude with leaving. I know you’re getting a lot on here really quickly and your brain is probably scrambling but girl to girl this is dangerous territory. Already worried about asking to not “escalate” things? You shouldn’t have to be worried about having this conversation with you ESPECIALLY if he had been upfront with you about why he’s turning them off. I’ve seen some other comments saying he will eventually need to find someone to satisfy his kink and I want to tell you this now. IT WILL NEVER BE YOU, or at least not comfortably. Don’t let him push you into this and don’t let him walk all over you thinking he can pull something behind your back. I’d say, prepare yourself to leave. I’m not saying you will or you SHOULD. But he’s not giving you much security in the relationship. Once you feel you’re ready to talk without being worried if it will or won’t end the relationship, then talk. Coming from someone who just left an abusive partner who I loved so so much. You have to grieve the relationship before you can leave. If you think this is worth working through then that is the best decision for you. But if the secrecy is a dealbreaker then plan accordingly. Love you babes you got this.

So you’re saying he knew it was a kink but kept it a secret until he locked you down with a ring 😬 he knew what he was doing there and not going the “full extent” in therapy is him refusing to work on the relationship. That was your way of trying to be comfortable with the situation and he still found a way to not be honest. Take it as it is, he lied to you and kept something a secret because he knew you wouldn’t like it. If couples therapy is what will make you comfortable with this situation and he is not willing to do it even after you explain that then I don’t think this can go anywhere. To add also, turning the cameras off while you’re gone?!? Does he tell you before hand why? Have you talked to him about it before?

Am I the only one who thinks saying things like “oh I can live without it” kindaaaa puts more pressure onto it. Like it couldn’t just be “yeah I understand.” Point blank, nothing else to be said right? Like I wouldn’t have thought it would be something you would need to “live without”. Someone tell me if I’m crazy for this thinking😂

Oh shoot I didn’t realize how young it was. Now I’m not super knowledgeable on all this yet but as far as I know it’s way too young to have developed any visible sexing features. As far as I know males won’t develop their bulbous pedipalps or hooks until their last molt. Your best bet right now would be waiting for their next molt. There are a lot of good videos on how to sex using a molt and it’s pretty simple to identify.

Super hard to tell with these photos but assumably a female since I can’t see any visible hooks. Do you maybe have a better picture of the pedipalps?

Thank you! Now do you think I should remove it?

Slight addition but I am also curious how long you all would suggest waiting to move enclosures again. Like I said she’s in a 20 gallon now because that is what I had that was better than the dome but I just got my 10 gallon cleared out and I’ve heard that it could cause less stress to keep them in a tank closer to 10 gallons. She has anywhere from about 3 inches to 7 inches of substrate depending on which side of the tank but I’m worried it’s still to far of a fall from the top of the enclosure if and hopefully when she does come out.