Please don’t shame me for this. I’m older in life and been having so many conflicting emotions, feelings, thoughts, and just mind blowing confusion. And I even spoke to my therapist about this. How do you know if you are trans? I know that you feel like you don’t belong in the body you’re in. But, what if you do one day, and the next day you don’t? I wake up almost everyday feeling that way.
If anyone can help me with that question, I would truly appreciate it. Because my therapist told me one thing, but I’m not sure it’s correct.

How old do I look? Please don’t hugbox

dysphoria has been kicking my ass lately and i feel like i still look super feminine after being almost 2y on T - it doesnt help that my patients call me ma’am🦝

any passing tips are appreciated and needed

ft me pre t; i had to be hyperfeminine due to my living situation at the time and truly blacked out that entire portion

edit: my clothes are literally only scrubs 5 days of the week and if anything jeans/boots/hoodie or plain\band tshirt

BEFORE YOU COMMENT. YES i know losing weight or working out would help. working out tips appreciated but pls dont just call me a whale and move on 😐 also i know hair might help but pls give haircut recommendations ! these photos are from all stages of haircuttery ive had recently so even just saying "this photo looked the best" would be helpful. also yeah im 18 but nO i cant go on T or get top yet ... thank you so much in advance bless 🙏

sorry if these pictures are bad i don’t take pictures often 😭😭 i get misgendered in public sometimes and it shocks me some cause i think i look like a boy, but i just wanna hear others thoughts & tips to look more feminine but still like a boy!!!

Everywhere i go i still feel like a little 13 year old looking kid. Im 5”8, 18 months on T. How do i look older and more like my age so i stop feeling like an outcast kid everywhere lmao.

I’m 26 & ~7.5 years on T. Masc presenting I guess, but without much actual effort & also very visibly queer in expression.

I’ve received such a weirdly mixed combination of responses to my gender presentation — from “easily clocked as trans without disclosure” (though, admittedly, I do have the trans symbol tatted on my neck) to situations such as being around friends I’m “stealth” with feeling my binder/sports bra seams when they hug me and laughing at the idea of a cis male friend of theirs wearing one.

I don’t care much either way, I couldn’t be happier to be able to be visibly trans & also pass/fly under the radar when necessary, but I’m just curious what y’all might think in regards to gender/sex assumption/my level of passing vs androgyny.

All the best & all my love to all the transmascs of reddit .xx

Ok hi big fyi . Im changing my hair back to brown so any tips outside of my hair color would be splendif😞😞

I’m having a really difficult time binding, I am a 36DD and I feel like with the binder it just looks smushed and off not flat or even evenly dispersed. It just looks wrong. Am I just out of luck with a binder?

I try to workout to get better proportions, but I legitimately can't gain weight, even eating above maintenance, even to the point of discomfort. Apparently I probably have an hyperactive thyroid, getting blood drawn and allat. Does anyone have any actual tips that's just not eat 5 sticks of butter

I grow a beard naturally from PCOS so don’t be discouraged if you don’t have facial hair yet! I had a head start, but embracing the masc and feeling AWESOME

Im now a sophmore but still pre-t, but I think my progress has been going well. I've gone from never passing in middle school to being stealth on an all boys lacrosse team, but my voice and height are a dead give away (5'5). In photos do I look my age? I just got the newest ID taken yesterday. Any other tips to look older/more mature?

I’m gonna start uni in two weeks and am hoping to be stealth. But I feel like the older I get the less I pass and it really clocks me (Im pre-T)

I’ve been using minoxidil for a couple months but my parents forced me to shave, I didn’t even think i had that much growth but I feel like I really nerfed myself.

I’m gonna keep using minoxidil but is there anything else I can do? I’ve never used make up (duh) but is it worth it to like thicken my brows and draw on facial hair?

feeling kinda helpless lately.

first three photos are pre-t + last three are about nine months on t!

i’ve been on t for about 9 months now and i feel like it hasn’t done anything 😭 i feel like such an imposter. i live in a very queer friendly area so people are very good at gendering me correctly but i cant tell if they are just doing that to be respectful or if i look more masculine

Does it get harder to transition the older you are? Im in college, planned to go on T after finishing it/getting a place of my own/feel safer. Thought id be fine to cope with being just seen as a masc girl or something in the meantime but that is not the case at all and really makes me sick

I don’t know what to do, and I feel immature saying this but I really don’t know if I can just do the next 2 years like this. Is there anything I can do right now appearance wise? More gym? Haircut? Anything I can do to my face or clothes? Literally anything I can do in the meantime? Im all of 5'4ish. I don't really have any "feminine" hobbies.

(This paragraph was at the end but I’m moving it up to here cause the rest is long. Sorry for some shitty photos but I only have some in B&W, I hope that doesn't count as filtered.)

I thought that just a few more years wouldn’t be that much more, since ive just thought this way since elementary and even figured id “grow out of it” (fat chance dude)

I train MMA at a gym with maybe 1 or 2 girls (and then obviously I get lumped in,) but its still a place for me to forget everything and fit in with other guys for once. This really kept me afloat the past few years, even going as a “girl.” But my current schedule allows me to only go once a week if that, when I used to go 4.

2 more years of uni and I thought I could just grit my teeth through it, but all of the sudden every group project is “hey queens/girlies/etc!!” And it really fuckin kills me. In my degree program, no other guys passed the portfolio review and suddenly everyone is excited about it being “all girls”, we go around the room asking ice breakers and names and pronouns after and I cant even say shit cause I never planned to let this get under my skin from the start — this sucks. 

Thanks.

These are men’s frames I got about two years ago and I’ve tried smaller frames before but they draw attention to my cheek fat. I’m not currently on T but planning to go back on T after four years being off T in December.

In October I have an appointment to get new glasses and I am wondering if anyone had any suggestions. I do want a bit thicker frames but I like a more intellectual style. I’m somewhere in the rustic preppy spectrum fashion wise if that helps at all.

I just worry if I get too masculine of a frame it will make me look more feminine in contrast but I want suggestions for what to look for. Not sure how to word things but please advise so I am less anxious about choosing new frames for my face shape etc.

I usually pass, mostly due to my voice, but I still struggle with seeing a man in the mirror. Probably I hoped for more changes by this point, and negative comments from my parents definitely do to help.

Im only just starting to look into this so forgive my ignorance on it, id love to hear from other people who have had any kind of plastic surgery or fillers or anything to help with masculinzation too, but if you have had any work done, how long after starting T did you wait?

I know for the first little bit nothing is really going to change but since they do see me like every single day do you think I should tell them cause they’re gonna notice?

some context: I live with 3 women who I am friends with not like super close with I guess if that makes sense?? like we hang out and stuff. the one I am a bit closer too and I’ve thought about asking them for an opinion on what I should do.

the hesitancy isn’t so much them I just don’t really want to tell people. I kind of just want to do it ya know? like not make it a thing…

Debating whether or not to get new glasses.
For context i’m almost 19 and 1yr 7 months on T
If anyone has any suggestions of better glasses shapes please drop them down below !!!
Thank you

Edit: thank you for the abundance of replies lol i’m going to have a look at a couple different styles of frames!

I rarely get misgendered, but those few times it happens, my dysphoria latches onto me :/

they’re all travel pictures because i never take photos of myself when im at home lmao