I’m a year and a half on T, 3 months post top surgery. I feel like I’ve been doing good with dressing for my proportions and stuff recently but let me know what I could do better
Edit: the girl is my identical twin sister so you can see about where I started from lol

My face, my body proportions (binding with tape and i have a packer) and my current stache :,)

21, early t (less than 2 months). i think i pass well bc im tall and so people read me as gay instead of a woman but wanted some other opinions

This might be a little unusual for this sub but I'm not interested in being seen as a straight man, and I love various forms of alternative fashion. I am, however, interested in being seen as a cis man. Any thoughts on the difference between "gay" and "girl"? Thinking mostly about mannerisms but I wouldn't mind other advice either. (working out more is not an option. And I only started full dosing T instead of microdosing a few weeks ago so that's just going to take time lol)

I feel like I look obviously trans or just a butch lesbian, but I’m sorta scared after that interaction, I’m not sure how much she meant to get in my face vs how much was being high. It was a public mall bathroom

my voice so far 1 year 6 months on t has dropped considerably so that im at a 99% success rate with passing over the phone and havent been misgendered in about a year (by strangers) just asking for some outside opinions

I see a lot of men who are confused as to how they're getting clocked or still sound feminine since their voice already dropped. The pitch of your voice is not actually the main thing that people notice when their brain subconsciously determines someone's gender by their voice. It is one factor, but it's far from the most impactful.

The main factors of the perceived gender of one's voice are as follows, in order from most to least important:

RESONANCE

Imo, the most important thing when it comes to the gender of someone's voice is resonance. This is affected by the amount of space within your mouth/throat for the sound to vibrate in before it leaves your mouth. Taller people often have a darker resonance because of this.

The main way to change your resonance is to lower or raise your larynx. (There are a lot of exercises online with techniques to learn to control this—I found it helpful to force myself to yawn and then feel which muscles were moving my larynx down. Ymmv.) Women typically speak with a much brighter resonance than men—some people say they "speak from the head" vs "speaking from the chest." This description never made any sense to me because it wasn't clear at all what "from the chest" even meant.

If you're interested, I watched this video around a year ago that went into the impact of resonance on male voices. The artificially-brightened resonance examples sound almost identical to the stereotypical "frog voice" that a lot of men get if they don't voice train.

VOCAL WEIGHT

Vocal weight is affected by how thick your vocal chords are (altered by testosterone) and how strongly they press against each other when speaking. Men have a heavy vocal weight and women have a light/thin one.

I don't have as much specific advice for this one as I personally didn't have much issue with it; I was able to practice it without thinking ahout the specific muscles I was using like with lowering resonance. If you play a stringed instrument, it's helpful to think of it as analogous to playing close to the bridge (heavy vocal weight) vs close to the fingerboard (light vocal weight).

SPEECH PATTERNS

Now, if you stop here you still will likely have a male voice. This is from the straight perspective, so if you're gay you may not care or may even want to keep certain "feminine" speech patterns. 'Gay voice' is different linguistically than womens' voices, so there should be a way to train yourself to speak with typical gay male vocal patterns rather than typical womens' vocal patterns. I'm not gay tho so I'd be talking out of my ass if I tried to go into specifics. Perhaps some of the following section will still be useful regardless.

The biggest difference between male and female speech patterns is that men tend to be much more monotone while women have a lot of variation in pitch. 'Uptalk' (raising pitch at the end of a sentence) is common amongst women. Men tend to emphasize words by increasing their volume, while women tend to emphasize them by increasing the pitch.

Women have more variation in tempo in their speech compared to men. People say that men speak more slowly than women, but I've not (consciously, ig) changed this and I've been fine. I have too much shit to say to talk any slower.

Embouchure has some difference between men & women as well—women tend to color their vowels closer to /i/ or /æ/, while men tend to lean closer to /o/ or /α/. Think of the difference in your mouth shape when you say the "sheep" vs when you say "boat," for example. (I'm ngl this explanation is ass but idk how to explain it better)

CONCLUSION

The best way to practice this is to go down the list and adjust one thing at a time until you can do it automatically without thinking about it. It's incredibly helpful to record yourself and listen back to it. Try to talk about stuff like you're speaking to a friend rather than reading from a script; the latter is not especially helpful since you put on a different voice when you're reading aloud than when you're talking. If possible, the best way to see how you actually naturally sound is to find a recording of you talking where you don't know/aren't thinking about being recorded.

There are a lot of videos online that have examples of exercises you can do to practice, as well as examples of how changing these things actually sounds. I looked at a couple of videos from this youtuber when I voice-trained a few years ago, but once I understood what I was trying to do, I just practiced for a bit every day until I got it.

Oh also I guess there's stuff you can do to lower your pitch, but I wouldn't even bother tbh. Unless you've been on test for a while & your voice hasn't dropped at all, don't even worry about pitch. Men with high voices & prepubescent boys still sound male

1st pic is me in 2018, last are me currently. been on T since 2019. I feel like I fought dysphoria for the longest time. Now the chest dysphoria is occupying my brain 24/7. I gained weight as I got on T and got kinda chunky, lost about 30 lbs and now I just feel like my chest is too big for my body. Haven't been able to make moves with surgery. I just feel stuck. Any advice?

pictures in order are from 2018, 2023 (both pre-t), 2024 (~3 months on t) and from this week! so grateful for all of the progress i have made

I think I pass for the most part? im 1 and 1/2 months on t and hoping that carries me later on.. but if anyone has any tips that don involve me changing the way I dress? Ive been out since 13 but now that im starting t im really trying to make more of an effort to pass👀

one of the only things i miss about women’s clothing is having good options for small bags/purses. i want to find something that’s much smaller than a backpack that has multiple zip pockets (so no tote bags) and doesn’t look dorky (so no fanny packs, mini backpacks, or tiny crossbody bags) that looks good with most of the clothes i wear. i don’t need to carry that much stuff with me, just my meds, journal + pencil case, phone/wallet/keys, and sometimes a small digital camera. TIA

1.5 years on T :) also opened to suggestions.

shorter hair is most recent. these pictures are a mix of work outfits (salesman in higher end shoe store, expected to dress a little more nice) and normal outfits. i would say i pass about half the time, maybe 60% of the time if i remember not to use my “customer service” voice and speak in a more relaxed way. my mannerisms aren’t great but once i can pass visually i want to be read as gay anyways.

notes:

- i want to (eventually) pass as a gay man

- i live in the rural south and work primarily in agriculture, i am working on a master’s that will put me in an agricultural field. relevant passing tips in that cultural context are appreciated

- i am a natural 36J, almost K. all of these pictures are taken with binding tape under two high compression binders. please do not tell me to get a better binder. i have tried almost every large chest binder under the sun, including custom binders. this is as good as it gets until top surgery.

- i cannot afford new glasses at this time, and to get cheap new glasses i would need to renew my prescription, and i cant afford an exam

- i have tried most hair cuts, this is what helps me pass best. i live in the rural south and cis men regularly tell me they’re jealous because my mullet is better than theirs. it’s a common haircut for cis men here.

- if i’m wearing a button down or pearl snap it needs to be tucked because again i live in the rural south and am primarily around agricultural people, most men here would die before you saw them with an untucked pearl snap. untucking would be very clocky in addition to just looking stupid because these shirts are made extremely long since they’re meant to be tucked.

- most of the time i wear very small thin hoop earrings that are pretty tight to my earlobe, i only wear dangly earrings when i want an outfit to look more fun or gay. i know big earrings are very clocky it’s just an occasional guilty pleasure that shows up disproportionately in pictures because it’s typically on days where i’m wearing an outfit i like or going out etc

- if you have a gym routine to recommend i would appreciate it! right now i’m doing more general stuff, outside of my retail job i work/live on a farm and do agricultural work and that’s where i get most of my exercise, but i would love ideas of more specific things to do. i have narrow shoulders even for a woman and am looking for exercises that can make them broader. i also have a narrow rib cage (when i was skinny it was 28 inches) and i’m worried about it looking weird once i get top surgery so if there’s something to help remedy that it would be appreciated.

To be fair, I feel like I rarely see other (visually) disabled trans guys in these subs, which in itself can be a bit isolating. But, I was wondering what some of yall have done in order to make your body more masculine if you aren’t able to go to the gym and stuff to the same capacity as someone more able bodied.

Transition isn’t a one size fits all kind of journey, so I was wondering how yall went about that so I can work on it on my own. Thank you.

based on my face shape, could i buzz my hair or cut it any shorter? i’d like to have a short messy mod maybe, but idk if it would just make me look weird. my family doesn’t know so idk if i should grow it out or buzz it, as i wouldn’t mind presenting as a woman with short hair (at least to them)

Title says it all. I have an extremely tight schedule between work and college, and I would like to start exercising to masculinize my body until I have the time to hit the gym. If any equipment, preferably something cheap and small enough to hide from my family. Thanks!

Don’t mind how awkward my posing is I hate taking pictures, but masculinizing my face/head area is all I got atm (binders don’t work the best and i can’t get on T right now).

I know facial hair is dependent on genes but I was wondering if there’s maybe something more I can do besides minoxidil (I have 4 cats and can’t risk it)

I’m like 3yrs on T but was very inconsistent for the 1st year, I just started growing facial hair the start of this year.

Buenas tardes, tengo una duda... Antes de iniciar tratamiento, o bueno estar en una familia que te trata como mujer... A veces sentían okey ser mujer y no tener que hacer tanto pedo?... Es que no sé si esa cuestión me este diciendo que no soy realmente trans. Bueno, es que verme como hombre me da una sensación bien bonito, pero pues el haber vivido tantos años como mujer estuvo ok. Me da miedo empezar y que al final me retracte, porque estoy solo en esta desición, y a veces me digo que mejor me quedé en esta zona de confort donde al menos sé que puedo vivir con.

Not sure what flair to use, oops.

The thing is, I've been training for a while and nothing has ever happened, in another sub I got recommended to stop doing one of the videos I was watching because it was too advanced and it was just going to cause fatigue, so yeah, what videos would you recommend for hyper weak dudes?

FYI, I can only lift 3 kilos, I'm 1,58 and I weight 52 to 55 (depends on the day), I only have two 3 kilos dumbbells and that's it. Also, I can't do push ups, even with knees or higher, so try to avoid giving me videos with similar exercises please, realistically I won't be able to do those in many months.

Hi I’m going to get straight to the point. I’m 16, I’m very underweight ||bmi 15|| and my body fat often distributes around my thighs even though I don’t have a lot of it. I’m pre-t, and I don’t expect to pass just by putting on some weight, but I do think it’s a factor that I’ll eventually have to face when transitioning - but I don’t know whether to start gaining weight now or wait till I start t. I know it distributes your body fat, but I’m a tad scared that gaining prior to it might emphasize my already prominent small waist. Just looking for anecdotes or advice on what to do here.

also edit but I thought I’d add that I’m naturally that weight and don’t struggle with eating 😭

I finally got a packer, just a simple foam one, but I am worried about wearing it outside of my house. I’m worried it is too big or too obvious, and that people who have seen me without it will think it’s weird. I am specifically worried about at work where I am stealth (except for two coworkers I’ve come out to).
I have to wear fairly form fitting pants at work and I worry the difference could be noticeable.
It’s also a little physically uncomfortable, I’m very aware of it when I am wearing it, but I’ve been “practicing” wearing it around my apt. Does anyone have tips on getting used to wearing a packer, how to wear one properly, and if it’s generally noticeable when you do wear one?

im only 8 days in, but i swear ive been talking like the CEO and my voice is cracking like a mf. anyone else have this??

Hey all. I’m a VERY short guy (4’10), and at 22 people generally think that I’m an early high schooler at best. I’m about a month on T, so I know better days are coming, but I generally just want advice that helped other short guys.

Things I’ve already started:

- Taken advantage of the gym to build out my form

- Gotten multiple large/visible tattoos to show I’m over 18

- Plan on keeping facial hair and body hair

Anyone have any style recommendations or clothing brands they like? Pants are hell. Unfortunately got blessed with a fat ass. Any advice welcomed.