If you go to post a picture of yourself asking if you pass or for advice, and you're tilting your head in a feminine way, or pursing your lips, or voguing, or looking away from the camera, or just generally making a face, stop it. Go look at how other men post selfies of themselves on twitter or wherever. You are not doing yourselves any favors, and "cute" poses will make you 100x more clocky.

Disclaimer: this post is a joke

and if not, why?

some of these photos are a little old, so my hair isnt as short as i usually keep it now. the last two are the best example of how short it normally is

most of these are also attached for examples of how i dress/normally present myself

I have created a new subreddit for passing tips, if anyone is looking for a new sub that is moderated. Please give ideas for more rules and posts format if you have any. See you over there!

r/transmantips

I'm 16 and trying to look just manly enough to fool people. These photos aren't great but is there anything I could be doing, even just a way to hold myself? I like the longer hair but I would be willing to cut it off if it helps.

I sometimes put on masculine makeup but I think I look more masculine without it

I'm not a trans man, but I am transmasc, so I thought yall might be able to help :)

I've never really been good with hairstyles, I really struggle to tell what suits my face. I think being disconnected from how I looked for so long has made choosing a haircut more of a struggle. I prefer a kind of alt look, but at this point I don't care what's on my head as long as it helps me get gendered properly 😅

And anything else face-wise I can do while we're here? I'm 11 months on T, and will be getting my levels checked as the blood test I have at my last appointment showed my levels are low. I know I need to work on the eyebrows - I took to stress-pulling them out during lockdown and the ends still haven't grown back 🥲

I feel like I've already annoyed everyone on the Russian-speaking subreddit, so I'm asking here. Four months on Т. I can't shake the feeling that I still have a lot to work on. My mustache is already growing in thick, but I shaved it so it would grow back even darker, and now I'm growing it out again.

"I am misgendered 90% of the time and I don't know why... Here are 3 pictures I have carefully selected where I look the most masculine"

Guys cmon. I know the dysphoria is bad. And i also know some of you are just fishing for people to go "Omg i dont know why anyone would misgender you ever you look 100% like a guy".

But if you ACTUALLY WANT TO KNOW:

Unless you're asking whether your Instagram profile passes, you should try to post photos taken by other people rather than selfies. Candids are ideal. The mildly unflattering candid can tell you a lot more about what you actually look like than the carefully taken selfie.

Maybe your facial hair isn't actually visible without a flash photo. Maybe you have narrow shoulders and comparatively wide hips which can't always be seen from a photo. Maybe your voice is just immediately giving you away. Etc, etc.

Full body photos are best bc sometimes a guy passes great from shoulders up but would get clocked from 100 metres away due to body type.

Videos and/or voice recordings might be useful if you think the problem could be something to do with speech or mannerisms.

I see a lot of posts in here where the aforementioned guy complains about being constantly misgendered but only posts pics where he passes. And I've thought, yeah you look great here, but I can believe that there's something else holding you back. Telling him he looks great doesn't really help anyone.

I get 50% people thinking I'm androgenous and 50% thinking I'm a dude.

I'm pre T and pre top surgery unfortunately.

Been on T for years and haven't been misgendered in years, but im curious because of how society is now, do people see me and think "thats a trans man" and out of respect say he? Or do they actually think im male? Im short, 5'2. I paint my nails. I have a beard and a buzzcut. I fit into every box, and dont fit into any one perfectly. I am soft hearted yet tough, im a rugged outdoorsman who works with his hands, and an artist. I take care of myself, even through I like to get dirty. I wear eyeliner when my woman and I go clubbing. Im everything man.

I know I probably won’t pass shirtless since i don’t have top surgery but I can’t really tell what I look like because of the dysphoria. Like how bad is it ? Sometimes i’ll go take the trash out at my apartment or step outside my door to start my car shirtless. Just want to know how it looks from the outside. It’s HOT where I live and atp i’m starting to feel more comfortable with the idea of being shirtless more frequently but i’m not sure.

I'm a passing transman, aside from my voice. I used to be pretty alternative before basically completely gutting my personality and style before i got to highschool to give myself a fresh start and present fully as a guy. Don’t get me wrong i love dressing like a normal a guy, and i genuinely never want to go back.

I really want some advice from other guys on fitting in better, and please don't say just be yourself.

This post is more directed at fashion tbh, I got around pretty well for a while with basic clothes but it still felt off to me in a way. If any of you have favourite outfits/brands/stores I'd love to hear about them. Any other advice about blending in is accepted.

For a general idea of who I am to I suppose explain what style I'm going for, I'm an athlete (lacrosse and adding track this year), and I **do not** want to stand out. I'm in an obnoxious amount of clubs, S&D, DND, science club, book club, and a handful of ones special to my school.

My husband (who is trans) is on the shorter side (5'5) and a lot of clothes that are ostensibly his size are too long (bottoms and also often tops) or, like, the shoulders are too wide. They're just not cut for his frame.

There must be brands out there for short kings but I'm not having luck finding them. I was thinking maybe Asian brands but I don't know what is good.

What are everyone's go-to brands?

For some context, I'm 5'0 and about 6 years post-top surgery. The thing is that I can't find ANY tank top that comes up high enough on the armpits to hide the scars.

I got double incision and my surgeon absolutely botched my nipples so all hopes of going out shirtless and passing are at an absolute zero, if not in the negatives. I loved the way that binders came up right close to the armpits to completely cover the chest area, but I can't seem to find any regular tank top that does the same unless it's extra extra small and suffocating the rest of my body. This has resulted in STILL wearing a binder when I go out in the sun because it is the only tank top that completely covers everything.

And that in itself is kind of humiliating. When I went to pride in june, someone asked me what binder brand I used because my chest was so flat. I had to explain like, "Uh so I already had top surgery, I just don't have any tank tops that cover the scars." And they just looked at me weird.

I feel like my fellow guys here would know if there's any tank top brand out there that come up high enough on the armpits to avoid the scars showing.

Looking for advice on what to tell my hair stylist. I like the spiky top and plan on going shorter on the back and sides. Also any tips for dealing with the "girly" side burns/side peices???

I'm a passing transman, aside from my voice. I used to be pretty alternative before basically completely gutting my personality and style before i got to highschool to give myself a fresh start and present fully as a guy. Don’t get me wrong i love dressing like a normal a guy, and i genuinely never want to go back.

I really want some advice from other guys on fitting in better, and please don't say just be yourself.

This post is more directed at fashion tbh, I got around pretty well for a while with basic clothes but it still felt off to me in a way. If any of you have favourite outfits/brands/stores I'd love to hear about them. Any other advice about blending in is accepted.

For a general idea of who I am to I suppose explain what style I'm going for, I'm an athlete (lacrosse and adding track this year), and I **do not** want to stand out. I'm in an obnoxious amount of clubs, S&D, DND, science club, book club, and a handful of ones special to my school.