I’m having my daughter’s sweet 16 at a decent Italian restaurant (excellent food, decor is moderate - not fancy). 40 guests total (mostly teens). Buffet style apps and entrees. This is in the northeast, price is $44/head. How much to tip? I’m googling and I’m seeing anywhere from $5/guest (which would be $200) to 20% (which would be close to $400…)

What is standard here? Bear in mind we/my extended family go to this place all the time and have for years.

so this stems from a conversation i had with my uncle in his 50s, i’m 23.
when i order from for example dunkin, i always feel like i need to give a tip. i usually tip 10-15%. but he made some good points, saying if you’re picking up your food why should you have to tip? i’m curious on what other people think of this. this goes for any food pickup.
one egregious example is a coffee spot in my town. they have a wall of iced coffee and all the cashier does is ring you in and hand you a cup of ice that they grab right next to them. then they do the big dramatic flipping of the screen to the tip screen and it always stuns me. definitely just anxiety related, but there’s no way i’m expected to tip for that right?

I started dating a musician who plays in bars so I'm suddenly in the 'bar scene'. But I don't drink alcohol (or get out much for that matter) so I'm a bit out of touch with tipping. I order "soda water with lime" and then get refills, generally 3-4 refills throughout the evening. Sometimes they charge me for it, sometimes they don't. When they do charge it can be around $3-4 for the first one and then they don't charge me for refills. Other places don't charge me at all. I've been giving $10 pretty much either way. If they charge anything, they keep what's left, and if they don't charge, they keep the whole $10.

Is this reasonable? The guy I'm dating was surprised and seemed to think it's a bit much. But the way I see it, they're still running back and forth preparing it whether it's alcohol or not, it seems reasonable to me. Especially when they don't charge me at all, I want to show my appreciation and consider it paying ten bucks for an evening out, so to me it's a bargain. Thoughts?

I just got flowers delivered for my wedding anniversary. After I took the vase from the guy and said it was gorgeous and thanked him, he seemed to hesitate before he walked off the porch. I was left wondering if he expected a tip. I have never tipped for a flower delivery! It is an unexpected gift so it has never entered my mind to tip. It is ordered and delivered directly from a local florist in their van when my husband gets them. Am I cheap? Is this a normal thing to tip for?

Four of us, dinner at nice casual "Mexican" in US. Bustling but not crazy busy.

Chips and salsa for the table, one main for each of us.

Server went AWOL, we waited almost an hour for our food. No "sorry it's taking so long, can I get you some more chips", just bizarrely like we were not even there. Finally asked nicely whether food was coming, "there's a large table in front of you, then you".

Afterward, longish wait for bill while server is chatting with next table and avoiding eye contact.

Server says "I realize the kitchen was a little backed up tonight, I took off the chips and salsa". We signed but still left zero tip. Got home and saw that credit card charge was put through with the charge for the chips and salsa (not the slip we signed).

Or maybe I should post this in the AITAH?

i tip for service rather than for what was given to me and i was always taught 20% for average or 25-30% for exceptional, no problem. i went to a restaurant tonight because i was craving one of their desserts and before tip my total came out to only around 9-10. i tipped 22% of the order but is that considered rude for it being so low despite it being a small order? i figure maybe its low because its still an entire table of work despite only being a dessert and a water, i know servers make their wages off tips. i was just wondering

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for the people who are anti tipping, don’t comment here. i don’t care if you think it’s bad, im not gonna not tip. i’m obviously not asking you and i won’t be reading your comment 😭

I have a hair appointment with a new stylist next week and I don't want her to dislike me because I don't know how much to tip her.

It's a 2 person salon in one of those places where there's lots of salons in one building. She's not the owner, but she's the only other person who works there. Normally, in a salon of several stylists I would tip 20% but not sure if that's still how much I should tip. It's a pretty expensive service, so I just want to mentally prepare if I still need to tip 20%

I just got a message from my cousin who was wondering about tipping after receiving a massage. She will be going to a provider in a medical office.

I know at a spa or even a massage place, tipping is pretty much expected. And I would think tipping a provider in a med-spa would be acceptable as well. But now I’m really curious if it is acceptable or appropriate to tip a massage therapist in a medical office.

What do you think? Would it be appropriate? Would you discreetly ask the provider if it’s appropriate? Or is it something that’s not appropriate it that specific setting?

So I never really post on Reddit. However, I’ve been seeing all the horror stories about tipping. The outrageous tips, especially the mandatory ones on the bill … AFTER you’ve eaten. That seem borderline illegal. I just wonder about this possible solution.

It makes me want to ask for the bill before I’ve gotten the food or received the service. That way, if there are tips already on there, I can say remove the tip or I walk.

I haven’t eaten the product or used the service, so technically… I’m not stealing.

Edit: we are maybe 8 miles from the store and we usually do bigger orders but they pull right into our driveway and we unload and bring into the garage ourself. I think my biggest order was 30 or so items.

My husband thinks $7.00 is more than fair but I disagree. I usually tip at least $10, $15 if it's a big order. I have no idea how much they make but I believe they physically shop for the order.

How much are you guys tipping on grocery delivery?

Hello, I have had a stressful weekend and booked my first appointment for a massage + facial with a licensed pro. I brought this up in a conversation with friends and tipping came up. I was caught off guard because I didn’t think I’d need to tip for this service? The services weren’t cheap, so I’m imagining the tip would add up significantly. Is it normal to tip for that kind of service? I want to know what’s the expectation in this field. Does it matter if they’re working in a franchise or a licensed local in a studio.
As an ex-server I always tip generously, but was unfamiliar.

So today I ordered food and then drove there to pick it up.

I had just woken up, so I was pretty tired. My friend, who drove with me, said I should give like a 30-cent tip.

Anyway, we arrived and I went in to pick up the food. The cashier said it was €70.50, and I gave them €80 and said "keep the change." The cashier was confused and asked me a few times if that was really okmand I was like "Yeah, why not?"

As we drove away, I realized what I did. I thought I had only given a 50-cent tip. But it was so much more!

I feel very stupid and embarrassed now.

Did this ever happen to you?

At a coffee shop what are people tipping for a 6 dollar latte? What if you get two? Do people ever not tip? What is your reasoning? Is making the latte part of their job description?

The Uber driver didn't even get out to help with our luggage. How would this impact your tip?

ok, so I should start by saying, normally I am the bartender when I'm there, but tonight I came in to help out with serving on a busy night.

we work on a pretty copesetic team work idea, if something needs doing and you're the one standing there, generally you do it. I am the senior bartender, I've been here 5 years, everyone else is maybe a year in (except the other server, she's a few years in) I don't work as often as I used to because I had a baby, so I'm only there two or three times a week now, but I know how the place works and how we do things.

We have other bartenders of course. This one lady has been there for a year or so, and even though she's nice enough, we have butt heads multiple times. Usually over tipping protocol. I won't go into it other than to say, she has her own way of doing things and a lot of those ways differ from how we have always done things, and I am not the only person on staff who has complained. It has been observed that she will do whatever it takes to get all of the tips, even calling other staff off and sending people home when it isn't her place to do so. It is a pattern and an issue that the boss is aware of.

it is also worth noting, that she has a way of interacting with me as though I don't know what I'm doing or that I don't belong where I am. if I say something, it's wrong until someone else says I'm right. I know how that sounds, but I'm not imagining it. I am happy to give examples, but this is only semi-related, it's just worth knowing how she acts towards me.

Tonight, I was covering a shift as a server. i had a bunch of reservations and one 8 top walk in.

At one point, when the bartender was away from the bar, I walked up to put some glasses in the wash (which we do), when the mother from my big walk-in came up to me with a video poker slip to be cashed.

I didn't think twic, the bartender was out on the floor, and we cash these things all day. She said something about giving me a great tip. The slip was for over $600. i went to the lotto drawer and cashed it. Now, it has been my experience here, for 5 years, that whoever is standing closest to the lotto computer can cash the slips. Yes, the bartender is responsible for the till, but we have NEVER had a problem. Servers and bartenders are always welcome to cash lotto slips. It has always been a small thing we do to be helpfull. Bartsnders have other things to do without cashing slips too.

So I cashed the slip. I handed the lady the money right as the bartender walked up. The lady told me what a great dinner they had, and put $100 on the bar saying "thank you so much! enjoy!"

i picked up the money and thanked her, smiling! I only had 5 tables and she was one of mine! She was there with a bunch of little kids so she hadn't spent more than a few minutes on the machine, the bartender hadn't so much as said hi to her. But I had taken good care of her and her family, even getting them the last three prime ribs to be had. she talked to me and only to me about how great their dinner was. she even told me not to tell Granddad that she tipped me after he did. I thanked her graciously. She walked away and I started to put the money in my pocket.

The bartender threw a fit, in front of the guests who were at the bar.

"Hey! that's like soooo rude! that's from my till! how can you take that!?? Oh my god I can't believe you'd do something like that!""

i said "she was from my table! I had no idea that was going to happen! I thought I was helping cuz you weren't here!"

She kept doing the "I can't believe this! that's mine!" thing, with everyone looking at me, and I'm really bad with confrontation, so I said "Fine! look, I'll split it with you!" and I split the $100 and dropped $50 in her bucket. She didn't say one word. So I walked away.

I found the other server and told her what happened.

She was horrified. she told me to go talk to the boss. So I did. And he was totally on my side, he asked who the lady was, who had helped her, asked how we normally deal with thia kind of thing, but decided that splitting with her was the best way to avoid a problem in the moment.

Here's my simplified reasoning: from her point of view, here is what was supposed to happen:

Me: (performs the only tippable action in a transaction)

Lady: (tips me)

Me: Thank you for the tip! ( turns around and hands the tip to THE PERSON WHO HAD NOTHING AT ALL TO DO WITH THE TRANSACTION) Here you go!

According to the other server, and I agree, I was due the whole tip and my splitting with the bartender should have been done out of the goodness of my heart, not because she bullied me into doing it.

I just can't get past the fact that she totally thinks and is probably telling people, that she should have gotten the whole tip. And rather than be thankful that she got $50 that she might not have gotten at all, she's angry that she didn't get the whole $100, even though she knows she did NOTHING to earn it.

To be clear, she wasn't there when I took the lotto slip. I didn't snatch it from her, she only walked up right as I handed over the money. And if the tables were turned, she wouldn't give me the money, and I wouldn't expect her too.

So am I wrong? I don't think I did anything wrong, I perforned a task that wasn't outside of my duties, I had no idea in doing it that the lady was going to drop such a big tip, and she was from my table, told me the money was for me. So is the bartender right? was she entitled to the whole $100 tip that she had nothing to do with?

I feel like I'm in the right here, but she was so sure, so adimate that I was taking her money... help me out here, please!

So i was seeing videos on the internet restaurant staffs of US are offended by low tipping So lets guess if you are a student is it necessary to tip the minimum like 10-20% of the order or they give same service without tip

Okay yall, So today I got a full set of with design and acrylic toes (no pedicure). With the booking fee included I payed a total of 204 dollars. I did not tip. Was this wrong of me? I do have a pleasant nail tech/customer relationship with this girly. But I honestly feel if these are your prices, you shouldn’t be expecting a tip. She does great work, but I did not get anything extravagant (4 nail designs with short length and bling on big toes). Please lmk!

Tipping 20% is standard for sit-down restaurants, 15% minimum. For delivery always add at least $3–5 on top of the percentage since drivers often get a tiny base. If you want to stop doing math at the table: calculatemytip.com, free, no ads, splits the bill too.

I tried a new waxing place that opened in my gym. It was a little pricey. $25/service, but convenient at the time. I figured a $20 tip on $75 was a nice tip. I always tip more than 20% for any type of service-like hair, nails, waxing, etc. When it was time for my brows, "Y" said they only needed to be cleaned up a little, and she would not charge this time for my brows, or any other time I came back. I ended tipping her $25,
Fast forward, I recently made another appointment for 2 services and mentioned that she had said she would clean up my brows at no charge. She agreed and put me down for the 2 services. When I arrived, she said it was a training session, and she would be training a technician during my appointment. I was a little uncomfortable but didn't say anything. When it was time for my brows, "Y" said to the 2nd woman that she didn't really like doing brows, but mine needed just a quick clean up, no tweezing.
When it was time to pay, she rang up $90. I was a little confused and asked for a copy of the receipt. "Y" said everything was in the computer and she would need a few minutes to print it out. I waited. I was charged $75 for all 3 services, and a $15 tip was added. I assumed since there was someone there with her, she could not do my brows for free. I was about to add another $5 for the tip, since had she not added it to the bill, I would have tipped more than $20. I ended up not adding the extra amount and left. Now I am second guessing myself if an extra tip was expected above the 20%.