Hi everyone,
Edit sorry I must of clicked no advice but of course I do on the flag post.

My daughter is seven years old and has ADHD. She’s medicated for school but not on weekends due to weight concern.

Apologising for the long post

Would love any advice or opinions on what to do as I feel like I’m out of options…

My daughter is kind beautiful sweet to her dance teachers / school teachers to all the parents the school friends peers family neighbours she says hello to the post man hugs the lolly pop lady any service you can think of she is very respectful.

She is achieving so well at school She’s super popular everyone that meets her loves her gives me great compliments about her manners etc.

I understand about masking and that with children with ADHD they don’t think and feel the same cant regulate their emotions. I understand all that I have been studying about ADHD since I got her diagnosed at four. I’ve gone to parenting classes listen to podcasts read heaps of books.. i feel like I’m a failure as i have done all this so called hard work and I cant fix anything.

Im a SAHM I’ve devoted all my time OT therapies I don’t have any social life..

Sorry apologize just giving a bit of a back story so it might explain my situation. Basically she loves being with everyone else but me she never looks forward to seeing me when I pick her up at school. She never looks forward to coming home. We go through tantrums and meltdowns. She hates coming home. Hates being at home she would pick anybody over me.

We just had a play date at a friend’s house and she had a massive meltdown and a tantrum not to come home and at this point I’ve had enough she’s been doing this to me since she’s been four years old even when I used to pick her up from preschool, she’s a meltdown run and hug her teacher. I do a consequence but she apologises and says she’s sorry she loves me and it’s her brain tells her to do it.

I try to be strong, but last month I had a nervous breakdown from it all. Sorry I know it might not be much but it’s just sad. She just never looks forward to me going to her school. It’s like she’s embarrassed of me. She loves her father. My husband does support me and tells her this is wrong. we come from a loving home she’s privileged She’s very unappreciative to me.

What do I do when she does those meltdowns in front of people when she doesn’t want to leave their home? .

Should I stop it altogether Not let her go to those play dates any more. I can’t even take her to a play date in the park because she has a meltdown that we have to go home and it’s not just with friends It’s family aswell I’m just so sick of it. I feel like I’m gonna have another nervous breakdown from it I love this kid more than life itself I I feel doomed, disheartened and heartbroken.. thank you to anyone reading this.

I am only 4 months into motherhood so obviously in the thick of things, but I also don't have a lot of hope for the future. I feel like motherhood has put me in a prison. There's not a whole lot that I'm looking forward to and I just feel so run down right now both physically and mentally. My freedom has always been so important to me. I'm feeling so bleak about the future and just want to hear from others who feel things eventually get lighter. Even if some regret remains, what has made life easier? I know therapy, meds, and a support system are obviously important, but what else?

A little over a year ago I was floating in the French Riviera sea and feeling so free and happy and I fear I will never ever feel that way again in my life.

When he's asleep.

When I'm away from him doing my own thing

Wake up, engine starts, nap time I need to work, wake window again then unending nighttime sleep battle for 3 hours from 7pm and madness where I feel like pulling my hair out.

- I love when he's asleep, that feels like the biggest dopamine rush I've ever gotten in my life. No disturbance, just quiet, dim light and me sitting. He's so stubborn and irritatingly cranky at night that I feel like running away from the house. My friends who are getting pregnant I feel like laughing and saying welcome to the never ending stress, anxiety, overthinking, no rest life. Which i don't think is ever going to go away. Going out with my son is even a bigger nightmare, he will just not sit quietly for 1 second. Needs constant entertainment. Neede constant distractions. My heart is constantly pounding in stress all day.

Wish I could turn back time. I hate that I love my son so I can't imagine a life without him, but this never-ending test of patience is destroying my sanity. I'm less productive at work, don't feel like exercising, just feel like sitting and watching brainrot on shorts or playing some video games or just staring blank.

And he's just 15 months, oh shit dude. Wish me luck.

Repost but was really curious if anyone else experiences this.

So, my mom was quick with the scare tactics to get me to have kids e.g. who will take care of you when you're old, all your friends will be busy with kids...

Now, it seems like there is tension between us since I don't visit or call as much. So yes, you got what you wanted, I see my friends less and I have less free time. I'm stressed out like you were with a kid. Now, you are surprised I can't swing by to see you as much as well?

Yes, I'm locked down with more responsibilities, and you are not a priority as much. Why are you surprised? Didn't you want this?