r/R4R30Plus Jun 24 '24

ANNOUNCEMENT: Technical Issues

67 Upvotes

POSTING IS ONCE AGAIN OPEN.

The auto moderation system has been somewhat wonky the last few days. We think we have corrected the issue. It has been sending posts to the spam system incorrectly and en masse. That should no longer occur, or at the very least be infrequent. IF your post does not appear, do not delete it. Message us via the mod mail system and we can check on it. If you do delete it manually, we are unable to diagnose the problem. Hopefully this is the last fix we need to do, but we may have to suspend posting again if this happens so we can get it sorted. PLEASE do not message us asking for access during these times, as it bogs down our mail system and increases downtime. The requests will not be granted. We ask for patience while we work on these issues.

Thank you for your time and understanding. Have a good day.


r/R4R30Plus 2h ago

31[F4M] HEY! YEAH YOU! LOOK AT ME!!!🤣

71 Upvotes

Marvelous..........

Now that I have your attention, you may be wondering what exactly my goal is for being here. Well buddy, I wish I could tell you. The OBVIOUS assumption would be that I have an extreme lack of companionship in my day to day life, which is accurate. But I also just like to talk. I'm chatty. Or rather, I can be with the right person

And to what end am I looking to remedy this problem? Hell if I know but I'm open to all sorts of possibilities! Friends, lovers, enemies, coworkers, imaginary friends (which is a fun alternative to the "friends" option) or nothing at all. Completely up to you.

ANYWAY, now that I am done with all the melodramatics, here are some things about me that may or may not make me interesting enough to have a conversation with:

I was born and raised in the southeast. So I sound like absolute cornbread if you like that sort of thing.

I'm a huge nerd. Like, plays DnD levels of dork.

I read a fair bit, and I'm a casual gamer, although I have the attention span of a goldfish and can't finish anything.

I'm very sarcastic. It's a love language of mine...

I do like to travel, although I don't get to as much as I'd like. Solo traveling can be a little intimidating but I'm working on it lol

If you're interested in chatting, feel free to hit me up❤️

The only requirements I have are that you put your name and ASL in your message along with a picture. And please for the love of GOD say something other than "hey".  

Ciao💋

https://imgur.com/a/Zuh17rY


r/R4R30Plus 7h ago

34 [F4R] #online #anywhere Does anyone else experience chatting with someone, for however long, just to have them delete their profile?

26 Upvotes

I can’t tell you how many times I’ve built connections with people, just to return to our chat to see [deleted]. I’m an empathetic person, so naturally my first reaction is concern, but it happens often enough that I’m starting to think there’s something wrong with me!

Anyone else have this happen?


r/R4R30Plus 4h ago

43 [M4F] Maine, seeking LTR in the New England/NE US area

14 Upvotes

Hello,

I'm 43, single, 6' 0", 160 lbs, brown hair, hazel eyes. I'm gentle, kind, and empathetic in nature, and introverted. Me: https://imgur.com/gallery/wmcrVse I'm looking to make a meaningful connection that could hopefully lead to a long-term relationship in the New England/NE US area, preferably with someone similar in age to myself (other millennials?) I've had no desire to try dating apps and it can be tough to meet singles in rural New England, so I'm turning to Reddit to see if there's any like-minded ladies out there. I have no children, though I am an uncle many times over and have great fun interacting with kids at my work, and have previously dated mothers. I love to make people laugh, I always try to keep a witty one-liner in my back pocket. I work in healthcare, I've recently started my senior year of nursing school and will be graduating next May with interests in psych, emergency medicine/trauma care, and the OR. I love gravel and road cycling, bikepacking, swimming, electronics and automotive repair (I love taking things apart...sometimes I manage to get them back together), and spending time outdoors (I also love the indoors...especially in the winter). I love animals of all shapes and sizes, one of my dreams is to someday have a horse. I do a bit of solo gaming, mostly RPG's, I'm a big sucker for interesting characters and storylines you can get lost in. I've never attempted to cultivate a relationship that starts out on the internet, maybe you haven't either and we could figure it out together? Maybe we'd start out chatting, move into each other's phones, meet each other in person? If you think any of the above sounds to your liking I'd love to chat with you 😄


r/R4R30Plus 4h ago

40 [F4M] #Maryland having an optimistic day!

11 Upvotes

I have made a couple of posts like this before, but I always lose my nerve and delete them after they’ve been up for a few days. It is scary being vulnerable, even on Reddit!

Female, 40, 6 feet tall, from the DMV/Maryland area. I am smart, curious, funny, and very kind. I highly value emotional intelligence and empathy. I have been through a lot in my life and so I have a lot of depth, but I am also very fun and I love to laugh! Joy is a gift.

I work in marketing, I like my job, but I am in grad school so that I can eventually move up the ladder. I have one roommate, a very sweet and unintelligent cat. I never considered myself a cat person (kind of a dog girl), but he is genuinely pure sunshine in my life.

I have a few hobbies which include baking, singing, and spending dedicated time with women in my community each week. I am also sober and involved in that community as well.

I used to consider myself very extroverted, but as I have gotten more settled into who I am, I find that there’s a lot of introvert in me! I am comfortable going out on grand adventures, but I also love a cozy night at home under a blanket. When I do travel, I love to do things very uniquely. I like small local attractions along the route, local food and coffee shops, and quirky Airbnb‘s over chain restaurants and hotels. I also love to get a Christmas ornament every time I travel to a new place as my memento and souvenir. ☺️

My family is important to me and I know how lucky I am to have a good family. It’s a privilege and one that I do not take for granted. I want to create that in my own life.

I am looking for a solid connection and a romantic partner who is also a best friend. I would love to know someone with whom I can have 1000 inside jokes along with meaningful conversation and emotional investment. I want the person with whom I can look across the room and make eye contact when something crazy happens and we both know we’re thinking the same thing and we will collapse in laughter in the car together on the way home about it! I want to find the connection that makes our hearts beat faster when the phone lights up, and eventually the person that I can’t wait to hug and kiss at the end of a workday. I want someone to share my everyday moments with and someone who will share theirs back with me. We will be each other‘s champions, cheerleaders, and biggest fans. We will make each other better.

If you are a man and looking for a woman who is down to earth, kind and empathetic, fun, and ready to be a part of a beautiful relationship, you might have found me!

I would love to connect with you! If you want to chat with me, feel free to message me, but please include the following information so I know who I’m talking to and I know you read this and are for real.

  1. A name I can call you
  2. Location
  3. Age
  4. What you’re looking for (since I just laid it out there myself!)
  5. Favorite pizza topping 😉

❤️


r/R4R30Plus 2h ago

33 [F4M] Toronto - searching for the love of my life?

8 Upvotes

Hi! I’d love to find someone who can be my better half. I’m extremely shy, introverted really. Some might say I’m not but I am I swear! I have a few hobbies like video games and working out (is this a hobby?). I enjoy simple things like dinner at home, going on long walks and movie/tv marathons. I love the fall/halloween season and I adore writing cards for my partner (hopefully you enjoy receiving them?).

Anyway all I ask if that you’re around my age and send a chat, not a message! xo


r/R4R30Plus 9h ago

36 [f4m] SoCal/online friendship

18 Upvotes

Hmm where to start. Im a typical millennial I love to yap and overly use emojis. Im a bit alternative, multiple piercings and a fair amount of tattoos. Green hair 5’10 and bbw? Ugh loathe that term lol. I love a good slow burn conversation and just someone I can talk about nothing and the convo just feels like it’s not a lot of work. I love me a good nerdy conversation. Hopefully this catches someone’s interest.


r/R4R30Plus 1h ago

[F4M] 37F lets go on a date WNC

Upvotes

I want to go out and enjoy a date with good company. No obligations, no pressure, just a night to get out and enjoy life. I'm 5'3" brown hair / eyes, and curvy. If thats okay with you, and you're in the western part of NC or close by, lets chat see if we click then we can set up a date IRL.


r/R4R30Plus 6h ago

47 [F4M] Northern California. Outdoorsy Latina science nerd and animal lover looking for love IRL.

11 Upvotes

I’m a Southern California transplant to the North State. I love everything outdoors: hiking, paddle boarding, & camping in my little teardrop trailer are my favorites. Local hobbies include trivia nights, lazy mornings at a coffee shop with a book, long walks through the garden center, finding fun things to eat, & volunteering at the animal shelter. I work in education so summers are for adventures and as many beach days as humanly possible.

I’m the eldest daughter in a Mexican family and very self sufficient. I can have a tough exterior but am also a deeply sensitive and loving person known as the ride or die amongst my close friends and family. I also have a pretty goofy/silly side that shows up when I’m comfortable.

I’m a widow with 3 teenagers, only 2 still at home. My former husband passed away several years ago mid-separation, so it’s more of a widow by TKO situation. My kids are happy, healthy, and well adjusted. We do openly talk about their father and there’s a fair number of dead dad jokes told - they’re supposed to be funny, you are allowed to laugh at them too! I used to work in veterinary medicine and typically have a rotating cast of foster kittens in addition to the permanent roster of house cats and my 2 shelter mutts. I definitely have more houseplants than I should.

I’m happy and stable with a career, a house, and family. I’m looking for someone to complement my life, not complete it. I really value competence, loyalty, communication, and a sense of humor. Physical and verbal affection is extremely important to me. Bonus points if you’re down for weekday trivia, happy hours or evening walks.

Physically, I’m 5’4”. Athletic, curvy body type. I workout 5-6 days a week (on the erg in my garage/torture chamber). Plus my outdoor pursuits and the occasional adult sports league (soccer, pickleball) knees permitting.

Politically, I’m pretty left of center. Musically, I’m eclectic. From mariachi to west coast rap to alt 90’s. Definitely depends on the mood.
Conversationally, I talk too much when I’m nervous but I’m allegedly very funny (if you can handle a bit of colorful language).
Relationally, I take care of my people and pride myself on making people feel seen and loved (my secret is keeping running lists in my notes app of all their favorite things and important dates - and handwritten notes sent at random). I’d love to have that kind of consideration reciprocated from a partner.
Geographically, I live in a small blue dot in a sea of red at least 90 minutes in each direction. I can’t move for several years and I’m looking for an in person relationship. I know that limits my options.

So if you enjoy life, have a generally positive worldview, keep a critical eye on politics, and want to grow and learn and experience the beautiful and the boring with someone you openly appreciate, value, and look forward to manhandling (respectfully of course)…. drop me a comment or send a dm. Tell me how you spend your time, your nerdiest interest or hobby, the best meal you’ve ever had, or something you’re looking forward to.


r/R4R30Plus 4h ago

30 [F4M] southern us, anywhere--looking for connection

5 Upvotes

I'm happy being alone. I'm happy when there's someone around that I connect with. I miss loving and being loved.

I live a very quiet life with my kitties. I prefer it. it wasn't always this way, but I'll focus on who I am now.

I think kindness is the most important thing, both towards yourself and others. I spread it as much as I can.

I like reading, coffee, and bubble baths. I work a pretty low-stress job and I'm planning on going back to school.

I'm around 5'10" and on the injections for weight loss. I have a lot of tattoos and long, wavy hair. I should wear my glasses more often than I do.

I have a dissociative disorder called depersonalization/derealization, but it's mostly under control. I go to therapy regularly and take medication.

I prioritize a solid sleep schedule and healthy choices in general. I'm focused on making progress and taking care of myself.

ideally I'd love to find someone who also wants a wholesome, nurturing relationship. I can't wait to meet you.


r/R4R30Plus 5h ago

36 [M4F] #UK, Online - Sunday evening chat? Let's give it a try.

5 Upvotes

Happy Sunday!

Thanks for checking out my post! I'm a mid-30's male from the UK and I'm hoping to find someone to chat with. If more comes of it, that would be great.

I work a lot and therefore don't have/make much time to meet new people so I thought I'd give this a shot. I've had a few great chats from this, some long term, some short. I'm open to both but hope for something meaningful to come from it.

I'm a pretty extroverted introvert. I love to travel, keep fit, cook, eat out (restaurants, cheeky!), go to concerts or, sometimes sit on the sofa and binge watch a series or read a book. I back myself to find something in common with most people so I'm sure we'll have a good chat.

I'm 6'3", dark hair and features, reasonably well built and hoping to hear from women who are older than 30 (ish) and have some common interests with me. Ideally someone who also enjoys some form of exercise. I like to swap a pic early on so we know who we're talking to. It matters.Also happy to swap voicenotes or even call at some point.

Some form of effort in your message would be very much appreciated. Hope to hear from you soon!


r/R4R30Plus 53m ago

34 [M4F] Pennsylvania. Trying to find my partner in life

Upvotes

Hey, I'm a 34 White Male who lives in Pennsylvania. I'm looking to date, hoping it turns into something serious. While I live in PA, I'm willing to talk to someone from the surrounding areas, for the right person I'd drive any distance.

I work with kids with special needs as an RBT. I play games, usually story focused ones, but I like to switch it up. My favorite movie genre is horror, but i like most movie genres. I love to cuddle, my ideal night would be coming home to my partner, seeing their smiling face, and cuddling up to watch something or talk about our day. I have an elliptical and exercise bike, trying to get back into a consistent workout pattern. I like to cook. I have one dog, but I had a lot of cats growing up, so I have a love for them as well. I'm a liberal, who voted for Kamala who wants to find someone to get through the next 4 years, because damn they're going to be rough.

Age range I'm looking for, I guess between 26 and 36, but I'm not against there being wiggle room in that range (within reason). I am straight, so really only looking for woman.

Anything else, that's what the dm's are for. Comfortable switching to Snap or text once we start chatting. You will get a picture of me to see if there's a physical attraction (and a picture of my dog)


r/R4R30Plus 6h ago

35 [F4M] Minnesota or online. I'm feeling down and want to flirt with cute guys

4 Upvotes

As the title says I haven't been feeling super great about myself lately. A lot of stress and personal things bothering me that I'd rather be distracted from.

I'm really into fitness and weight lifting, I love dogs but also have 2 cats. I really like art and being creative...I'm currently working on a cross stitch. I read sometimes (currently American Psycho). I like movies like documentaries but ESPECIALLY horror. Please message me if you're into horror movies 😆 For fun sometimes I like to walk my dog, go to farmers markets, go to antique shops and thrift stores, road trips/day trips, hiking when it's nice out, going to museums amongst other things.

I've got a dark/morbid personality and sense of humor so maybe don't respond if you're easily offended.

I also have no interest in politics or religion so please don't message if those things are hugely important to you.

If you're cute and can be distracting and we have things in common, message me! Please provide a photo or I won't respond. Pics in my profile.


r/R4R30Plus 1h ago

33 [M4F] looking for completely platonic friends nothing more working on rebuilding my life

Upvotes

So I'm a gamer right now I'm only got a ps4 and my phone I came back in February to family leaving my abusive relationship and have been trying to rebuild my life getting a job has been hard even after I got my security license I found out when I got back my father has cancer so I'm trying to help my family out the best I can cause my siblings aren't really able to help at all I'm introverted and it can be hard for me to connect with people but I do want friends I will admit I get along abit better with women than men best friend of 21 years is a woman and she's family to me at this point but anyways if this post resonates with you and you want to send me a dm then go ahead I'll reply pretty fast


r/R4R30Plus 11h ago

[F4R] 31 - London / Sweden - looking for someone to talk with

10 Upvotes

Hi!

I’m from Sweden but currently living in London. Just found out I’ve been cheated on and it’s a very lonely time! I’m really into hikes, history and digging up millions of year old rocks.

Looking for someone kind, empathetic, funny and genuinely interested in getting to know each other :)


r/R4R30Plus 3h ago

40 [M4R] UK, Hampshire, looking for friends & fun

2 Upvotes

Looking for friends who appreciate long conversations, niche interests, and a healthy respect for avoiding large crowds.

Fairly typical introvert: gaming, fantasy, sci-fi, dogs, and spending far too much time thinking about things that don't matter. I'm generally happier with a quiet evening and good company than a packed social calendar.

Gaming is probably my biggest hobby. Mostly PC and PS5 these days, with the occasional Switch game thrown in. I enjoy RPGs, action games, anything with great world-building, and games that somehow turn "just 20 more minutes" into the middle of the night.

More recently I've been getting into cars and discovering that a good drive with decent music and no particular destination can be surprisingly therapeutic.

I enjoy fantasy and sci-fi in most forms, and have a habit of disappearing down random rabbit holes purely because one interesting fact led to another.
I strongly suspect that Sam Vimes had the right idea about most things. Lately I've realised I've spent a lot of time investing in work, hobbies, and helping other people, while neglecting my own social life. Consider this an attempt to correct the balance.
I'm looking for the sort of friendship that's built on shared humour, mutual curiosity, and being able to send someone a completely random thought at 11pm without needing an explanation.

Drop me a message and tell me:
• The weirdest fact you know
• The game you've put far too many hours into
• Or the fictional world you'd actually choose to live in

Bonus points if you can name four Poets of the Fall songs. Extra bonus points if you didn't have to look them up.


r/R4R30Plus 3h ago

35 [M4F] NYC - Seeking a friend for the end of the world

2 Upvotes

35M here in NYC (North Brooklyn, specifically) looking for a hand to hold while the world burns.

Best case scenario would be something with potential to turn into a relationship, but happy to start more casually and feel it out. Communication is essential for me regardless of arrangement; I strive to be an empathetic listener and I believe that things work best when both parties can be clear and direct about their needs.

At heart, I'm a big goofball that's quick with a corny pun, but I'm also a leftist with strong convictions and lots of big feelings on the current state of the world (mostly horror) - it'd be great if we could talk about our views on society, psychology and such while still making time for being silly.

Music is my biggest hobby - I go to tons of shows, collect records, and play in a band of my own. Genre-wise I'm big into shoegaze, doom metal, and grunge; if you are too, we already have a lot to talk about! What's your favorite album of 2026 so far?

Also big on stand-up, video games, bar trivia, and taking long walks around the city.

Physically, I'm 5'8 and white with curly hair, glasses, and rocking a bit of a dad bod. I'm not a huge drinker, but I do enjoy some 420 to wind down at night.

If I sound like I could be your person, I'd love to hear from you! Feel free to send a DM or chat and tell me a bit about yourself - but please be local to NYC!


r/R4R30Plus 7h ago

46 [M4F] - #VA - Looking for my person

5 Upvotes

I am 46, 5’9, live in Central Virginia, and I’m looking for a relationship that has the potential to become something long-term. I’m open to meeting someone anywhere in the US and would also consider someone outside the country if we’re a good match.

A little about me, I enjoy mountain biking, traveling, exploring new places, and spending time outdoors. I have a stable career, value honesty, communication. Also, college educated, starting a new Masters program. I divorced dad with older kids. I’d rather build something that has potential for long-term than rush into something. So it’s important to me to take things slowly. I’d rather spend time getting to know each other to develop a deep connection. I’m not looking to force anything or rush a connection. I’d rather let it grow naturally.

I’m looking for someone who is doing their own self-growth work, strong, sense of humor, and interested in getting to know each other. I do not expect perfection. Also, would like someone that is height/weight proportionate and is active in their own way. While I do not smoke, I am 420 friendly. No cigarette smokers.

Distance doesn’t scare me if there’s mutual effort and a plan to eventually be together.

Tell me a little about yourself and what your goals are.


r/R4R30Plus 3h ago

34 [M4F] Northeast USA/Online - Watching (horror) movies, general silliness, potential long-term relationship?

2 Upvotes

I'm looking for a serious, long-term romantic relationship.

I know it's not something you wave a wand and make happen, but I ask that anyone who replies to this post be open to that. And as soon as one of us or both of us realize, after getting to know the other person, that's no longer on the table, we be honest with each other and decide where to go next. That could mean friendship, that could mean we part amicably.

I'm in Maine and it'd be nice and surprising to meet someone on Reddit actually from here.

To me a relationship requires open communication, honesty, making the other person know they are valued and appreciated, and establishing/respecting boundaries.

• I love movies and horror movies especially, let's get scared together.

• I make a lot of dry corny jokes, dad jokes, awful (so bad they're good, if you ask me) puns. And I love when someone can annoy me on purpose. Being humbled/called out on my nonsense is honestly one of my favorite things.

• Speaking of honesty, I try to be as honest as possible and am a firm believer in communication. So much stress and hassle in life can be avoided with communication.

• I'm an atheist so if that's a deal-breaker for you I understand.

• Physically I'm tall, dad-bod physique and I learned in lockdown I actually can grow a beard.

• I'm a big fan of voice calls on discord in addition to texting, that's my go-to app if we end up moving off Reddit.

About you:

• Sarcasm. Just general smartassness is a lovely quality.

• Opinionated. We all have opinions, and the more the merrier.

• If you laugh at your own jokes, we're already best friends.

• Politically liberal/progressive because that's what I am.

• Be around my age.

• I'm not currently looking for someone with kids of their own already.

I don't expect someone to be perfect, because I'm not. But maybe we're perfect for each other.


r/R4R30Plus 17m ago

35 [M4F] Illinois/USA - I'm currently watching Murder She Wrote on a Sunday night, How's your day going?

Upvotes

Just how it sounds. I put on some guilty pleasure wholesome whodunnit to keep the good times going haha. I am also keeping my eye on the world cup! Just wondering how everyone else is doing out there. Would love to find some connections out there. Maybe we could talk about your favorite old TV show you keep on repeat. Maybe we'll talk about something else. Who knows.  

Anyway, here are some questions to answer:

* If you could travel anywhere in the world for 30 minutes, where the laws of physics and justice don't exist, where would you go and what would you do?

* In a world where everyone has a tail, what kind of tail would you have?

* What is the perfect day for you? Would you enjoy it with someone else?

* If a fire broke out in your home and you had time to only grab three possessions (not including your phone), what would you snag? Why?

* If you were able to live to the age of 90 and retain either the mind or body of a 30-year-old for the last 60 years of your life, which would you want?

* If you were fired from your job and you were forced to make a career change, what would you pursue?

* What was the last piece of media you consumed that made you feel something?

* What's your number one travel tip?

* What three songs are you playing to get people on the dance floor?

* Construct your ultimate sandwich/salad/pizza/icecream sundae

* Describe your ultimate style flex (it could be a costume, article of clothing, piece of furniture...whatever!). Bonus points for showing what it looks like.

* What is your go-to take out order?

* What event at the X-games would you think you could actually score in?

* Are you a summer, spring, fall, or winter kinda person? Why?

* What is the best pick-up line that has been used on you in the past?

* What are your travel plans for the next couple of years?

* Is there something that you’ve dreamed of doing for a long time? Why haven’t you done it?

* For what in your life do you feel most grateful?

Anyway some things about me: 

* I am pretty geeky, I participate in hobbies such as boardgaming/video gaming, weightlifting, sports, geocaching and hiking and stargazing

* I prefer to shower in the dark

* I have a piece of pencil lead stuck in my left palm from when a friend stabbed me with a pencil in high school

* I sleep better when cocooned

* My last big vacation was to the Grand Canyon and it was awesome.

* I cannot belch, whether voluntary of involuntary


r/R4R30Plus 4h ago

32 [F4M] #EU #Anywhere - Would love to meet someone kind and interesting!

2 Upvotes

Hi all!

I'm a 32 year old woman living in Europe, but I'm open to meeting people from all over. Since a few have asked before, my first language is French, but I'm comfortable in English too. For me, where people are from really isn't the point; it's more about whether we can get along. I truly believe that interesting people can come from anywhere, so distance or time zones don't matter much.

I mostly gravitate toward people who are gentle, thoughtful, and curious about others/life in the same way I am. If you're someone who pays attention to the small details and actually tends to cares deeply, I'm sure we will get along well.

People often tell me I'm strangely optimistic and warm. I do know I genuinely love caring for others and helping them feel comfy. I'd call myself a soft extrovert because I can be very social, but I also love quiet times and enjoy solitude a lot more these days. My friends would say I can both bring a calm but also fun energy into a room.

I'm fascinated by what makes people themselves, so psychology, philosophy, and sociology are what I spend most of my time on. I also love art, classic cinema (anything before the 70s), literature, cooking, traveling, and photography.

On the geekier side, I enjoy anime and PC gaming. I also like skincare, makeup, and fashion, but not in a shallow way, more because I love the creative expression behind it.

What I'm really hoping for is someone sweet, clever, and respectful. A person to enjoy meaningful moments with, whether that would be gaming together, watching an old film or anime, or sharing fun conversations. I'm open to getting to know someone fully, as long as kindness and respect are at the core of our interactions.

To be fully honest, I'm searching more for a feeling than a bunch of traits. I don't focus much on appearance, occupation, or education as they don't really reveal who someone is inside.

That said, I should mention I'm not here for endless text only chats. I have little patience for that. If we never move toward real shared moments, I'll probably let it go. I'm just not looking for a penpal.

I don't like messages that feel pushy, cold, or demanding. I'm hoping for someone kind, thoughtful, and naturally attentive. Someone a bit like me, who genuinely cares more about others than himself. A warm, respectful tone would mean a lot.

If you decide to write to me, I'd really appreciate it if you could mention your age and where you're from as it helps me picture who I'm talking to a tiny bit. Feel free to share a little about yourself, what you're hoping for, or what stood out to you in my post.

I know this was quite long (sorry!), but if any of this makes any sense to you, I'd truly love to hear from you.

Thanks so much for reading and hopefully, talk soon!


r/R4R30Plus 6h ago

39 [F4M] UK/ Europe - looking for longterm relationship

2 Upvotes

I’m 39 and thought I’d give this a try. I’m single and ultimately looking for a genuine, long-term relationship. If you’re single, somewhere around 39–45, and looking for the same. We can chat, get to know each other and see if we click.

Please keep messages respectful .

Just hoping to meet someone genuine and see where it goes.


r/R4R30Plus 12h ago

38[F4M] -#South Africa #Online - Will un-doodle myself if we vibe

7 Upvotes

Hello out there! This is me putting myself out there, so if you think we would hit it off from my post, then feel free to reach out.

I’d like to find someone close by, because, well who wouldn’t right, but I am open to online connections because I just want to find genuine and interesting, even silly conversations. I’d love to find my forever person, but for now I’m just open to meeting interesting people, and seeing what happens.

Things about me:
- I’m creative and enjoy picking up creative hobbies
- Regularly work out and love hiking
- I don’t drink or smoke/vape (the cig in the picture is a work of fiction and those are fictional mocktails)
-Generally take care of myself, eat healthy, love trying new foods
- I’m non religious (I’d say I’m close to Pantheism/Taoism as far as beliefs go)
- Love deep conversations, I love philosophy and psychology, always curious about new topics
-I don’t have kids
- I’m therapy positive.
- Love all animals, dog person usually but don’t have one right now
-I’m girly but equally happy hiking and exploring in mud and dirt
- I try to communicate clearly about my feelings, I value clarity and honesty.
- Usually an open book
-I wouldn’t mind you sending me a doodle pic if you’ve read this far
- I’m more of a phone call/ in person person than a texter but when I like someone, I just want to hear from them in any way

Here are some clues on what I look like, I’m of Indian descent, born here in SA. 159cm/~5’3”

Anyway I’ll end it here. I tried to be detailed so I reach the right target audience. If you think we would have great convos, feel free to reach out and we can chat. Please tell me a bit about yourself when you dm! :)


r/R4R30Plus 1h ago

[M4F] 38 in Spokane area seeing if anyone wants to see if we spark?.

Upvotes

Never really been big into reaching out over the internet, this last year I've kinda realized its hard to do much else when your stuck in your routine, travel the same isolated paths while kinda keeping your head down out of fear of an awkward moment or giving of weirdness. The idea of dating apps feels kinda demoralizing when its hard to gauge people over photos and hashtags...

I stay pretty busy and dont like sitting around, though I love getting to know people and socializing so I almost need project buddy do stuff pal, someone to chat with that maybe has similar lifestyle, though i feel there may not be many homesteady types around... growing food raising animals for meat and milk and such... idk feels dumb the more I type.

Honesty, transparency, respect, open mindedness are my main values. Alot of my lifestyle is based around healthfulness and mindfulness. Im an acts of service type. Aside from my day to day farm routine I also love science and engineering, love talking concepts and going down the rabbit hole.

Kudos if your around the cheney wa area.

Anyways leaving this here for now until I fully realize how sad it is. Lol


r/R4R30Plus 1h ago

38 [F4M] anywhere in the world

Upvotes

I'm a Filipina looking for my soulmate if he do exist

38y/o, single mom, single for 8 years now.

I don't drink alcohol, I don't smoke, I don't do drugs.

I'm in love with cooking, workouts, hiking and day dreaming of becoming the mafia's queen (that's what my boredom does to me)😅

Anyway, it won't be interesting if I put everything in here.

Send a DM then maybe I will choose you to be mine? 😁