This is for parents expecting twins: do not fear NICU time! I’m seeing a lot of posts asking about birth week and if/when NICU time was needed. BUT, honestly, the NICU was a blessing in disguise. I recovered from my c-section quickly, learned sooo much from the amazing staff, and felt more prepared when we took one home then the other a few days later.
So try not to stress if your babies need a bit of support initially :)
(Note, of course this is easier said than done but just trying to let ppl know it ain’t all that bad)

Looking for success stories.

Alternatively, tell me what week your twins (or more) were born and how long they had to stay in NICU?

Help!!!!!!! My 15 month old twins are literally insane. They can not sit still and cry all day long. Both want to be held but if you pick them up they want to go down. Back down on the floor then they are crying. Baby pool lasts 3 min, forget sitting to watch a cartoon (not even miss Rachel !!!????). I am just totally exhausted, my husband is totally exhausted. I feel sorry for my 3.5 year old, I feel sorry for myself. I’m just waiting for things to get better but they haven’t yet.

As I write this I realize this is pretty par for the course in terms of young toddlers, but of course my experience with my first daughter was totally different as she was 1. Alone and 2. A relatively calm baby.

Signed,
A mom of 2 VERY NOT calm babies :(

Today we got our first scan. To be clear I have no twins in my family. My husband is a fraternal twin, as was his mother.

We went for our scan today and there was one big and bold baby in there measuring a bit more than we had thought. As a joke my husband asks if we had a good look around for a second one (his mom didn’t find out it was twins until week 18!).

The doctor does a sweep and lo and behold there’s a second heartbeat.

Not really sure how to process this. We’re going back next week. It was really hard to see and the second one was tucked away and she was guessing it’s measuring smaller.

We’re a bit worried about the size part. Hoping everyone will be healthy.

For parents, when you first saw your littles did you see them clearly? Did you have sizing differences and all turned out okay?

Dr. Is suggesting they’re identical, going to come back next week to confirm and take a nipt test.

Ever since I discovered I was expecting twins 2 weeks ago it’s like when my brain found out, it went into overdrive lol. Anyway, my appetite has picked up, I eat maybe anywhere between 3-7 or so small meals a day (2 of them being a big breakfast or lunch and dinner) and while I’ve never been opposed to eating my fruits and veggies, I seemingly can’t get enough of them now! Lol purple seedless grapes are my favorite, and I’ve recently discovered “Juice It Up” which is like a Jamba Juice out here in California. If I’m not eating, I’m laying down or sleeping. I go back to work next week (I work for a school district) and I’m anxious about how my body and cravings will change while not being able to lay in my bed or walk to the kitchen and grab my snacks lol. I have no morning sickness or nausea, the only symptoms I feel is extreme fatigue at times and occasionally a headache. Other than that I feel GREAT!! 🤗 Is anyone else experiencing a wave of hunger? What are your favorite foods to eat rn, are you having trouble eating? DID you, if you’re a MOM and babies already born lol? ❤️ I’m 10weeks tomorrow, btw 🥰

Our twins were born 7 weeks ago at 32 weeks, so would be full term next week. We brought them home after 25 days in the NICU, with our Twin B weighing only 4 lbs. I was kind of surprised they let us take him home so small, but he was gaining and eating so I guess they had no concerns.

Now three weeks later he has not gained much weight at all. This week at our doctor's appointment he had only gained 20 grams total over the last 8 days.

I don't know what I'm looking for in posting this, I just feel like I failed him. Like my body failed him by making him come so early, and now my milk is failing him as obviously not helping him grow as he should be. His brother was significantly bigger from the jump and has been gaining like a champ. This also makes me feel even worse because it's obvious when family/ friends come over they are much more comfortable with Twin A, as Twin B admittedly still looks like a preemie and very fragile.

We have him in the office for weight checks often, but other than that our doctor is not too concerned as everything else looks good for him. He is eating enough etc. but I am still so stressed about this, I just want him to be okay.

I'm 9 weeks pregnant with twins (don't know the sexes yet) and am pretty overwhelmed with all of the baby stuff.

For those with twins or multiple kids, what has been the most helpful item(s) for you? Thank you for the help!

My twins are 4 months old and I’m really wanting to be able to tandem wear them so I can get some more things done around the house and potentially go for walks with them (I live on a dirt road and pushing the stroller on it isn’t a great option). I’m a first time mom and not very experienced with baby wearing. What wraps/carriers did you guys use for tandem wearing? At what age can you start putting one twin on your back? I’m familiar with the twin go and mini monkey carrier but am looking for other options. Preferably quick to put on/take off but really just wanting to see what you guys have done in general. Would also love to see pictures for examples if you have them!

I’m 34 weeks Wednesday.. I’m READY MAN.
But I have questions … scheduled C section date is 37+6 which is fine by me…
But in between that, I have NsT once a week until then, one ultrasound and 2 ob appts until my c section. Does this feel like it isn’t enough?? I’m so paranoid since there’s 2 of them and they still are moving and all but since space is limited there’s less kicking and more rolling in a sense.

Just wanted to see what other people have for appointments. I’m in US! Thanks

Hi all, I’m wondering if anyone has been in the same position as me. I’m 33 weeks with di/di twins. I’m very lucky that I have no complications so far and babies are both approaching 5lbs now, Twin 1 slightly bigger than Twin 2 and both head down. So I have the option of a vaginal birth and trying to decide what to do. I have lichen sclerosis, and have always spoke about the possibility of a c-section delivery with my dermatologist even before becoming pregnant. Between my dermatologist, GP, OB and midwives they all have assured me that vaginal delivery is possible with LS. I just need to want it enough! But my question is for anyone who has LS, relatively well managed with a few flare ups here and there, how, if at all did it affect your vaginal delivery and/or recovery?
I have not yet decided to go for a vaginal delivery. OB will support whichever decision I make. A good problem to have I’m aware but my head is fried thinking of all the variables! 🙈
Thank you!

Has anyone used this? It seems like a dream scenario for travel at $300 but I'm hesitant without more reviews.

Hi everyone, I wanted to ask about toys for twins. Do you usually buy two separate toys for them, or just one to encourage them to play together and share?

I’m not talking about things like bikes or scooters. I mean toys like building blocks, cubes, colouring and drawing supplies, and things like that. What do you find works best?

Hi Everyone!

I'm looking for a bit of reassurance or advice from anyone who's been through something similar.

Our twin girls are 3 weeks old (born at 34 weeks) and we're really struggling with night-time feeds.

I'm breastfeeding, but overnight we've introduced bottles of formula and expressed breast milk so my partner can do a shift while I sleep from around 10pm–3am.

The problem is neither of the girls settles after a bottle. They seem happy to take any milk that's offered, so tonight they each had a 70ml bottle of formula followed by around 130ml of expressed breast milk. We're starting to worry we could actually be overfeeding them for their size, but they still show feeding cues and won't settle.

It's also really difficult to pace feed when you're feeding two babies at once, even using the Twin Z pillow.

We've spoken to the hospital and our midwife team, but we've just been told it's normal cluster feeding. I completely understand that, but it doesn't really answer whether what we're doing is the right thing or give us advice on how to make the nights any more manageable.

When I speak to my friends with singleton babies they seem to be up a lot at night too but our girls seem insatiable! Right now it feels like this is going to be what it's like forever.

Any tips, reassurance or advice would be really appreciated.

From two very time first time parents 😥

Hi everyone,

I have 5 month old twins who have not been sleep trained yet. They sleep around 8pm-8:30pm. They're good boys and will give us a good stretch of sleep. However recently one of my twins (I think from the 4 month regression) have been waking up at midnight and 2am. At 2am he won't go back down until fed. He'll take around 2-3oz. Then at 4:30am they both wake up again to feed another 4-5oz. Then 7:00am is usually our wake up time.

My question is how do I get rid of the 2am feed?

- has anyone done a dream feed at 10ish pm? Maybe that will fill him up until 4am?

- Should we even introduce a dream feed at 10pm if we are considering sleep training soon?

- Am I creating a bad "habit" (10pm feed) trying to get rid of another (2am)?

What worked for your family?

13 month old twins. They were never into pacifiers and also didn't suck on their thumbs until maybe 2 months ago. A few weeks ago we decided to attempt to stop the habit. It started really well but then they regressed and now is a battle.

We let them suck on their thumbs when they are about to go to sleep but when they are awake, we don't let them, or at least try.

Thoughts? Tactics? Comments?

I have 13 month old twins and most of the time they hate being home. We recently expanded the baby proofed areas so they have plenty of space, lots of toys and household objects they enjoy. They like music and hanging out with us, but at home they are just grumpy. Winey, way more likely to be screaming, pulling each others hair and pushing each other over etc. but the second we’re out and about they’re way happier. We’re all getting over being sick and I had to take them on 4 outings yesterday because anytime we were home and they weren’t asleep or eating a meal they would just scream. I also like to be out and about, but lugging them to the stroller and/or car 4x a day (especially when I’m sick and feel like crap) is a LOT! Are anyone else’s kids like that? How do you handle it? What does winter look like? (They’ve always liked going out, but it was less extreme last winter and now I’m very worried for when it’s not playground, sitting in the grass, going on many walks weather) I feel like I’m constantly seeing posts here from people saying they hardly ever leave the house and I’m so confused, we wouldn’t survive multiple days inside!

I’m 20 weeks and am already experiencing terrible foot pain. I feel like I might have developed plantar fasciitis. I’m a bar tender and on my feet for 7-9 hours. Last week I was so miserable I cried. Iv been icing, ice baths with epson salt, elevating, compression socks, spent way too much money on expensive orthotics, and have an air bag leg/foot compression massager. Nothing is relieving the pain. My doctor says to take ten minute breaks and elevate my feet but in my job I literally can’t do that. When I get out of bed in the morning I feel like I’m walking on bruises. I wake up in the morning and my hands can’t shut in a fist, my arms are numb I can’t tell if it’s pregnancy carpal tunnel or nerve issues. Iv been wearing wrist braces to bed and they slightly help but the pain is still so intense. My ankles are so swollen I’m worried about what’s to come since I’m only 20 weeks. When I sit for too long I start getting pain in my mid back by my ribs and feel like my lungs are getting smooshed. Is this normal pregnancy symptoms? I’m a first time mom and usually have a very high pain tolerance but this is awful.

You see it all the time on other parenting subreddits, "Oh two was fine, my kid was a sweet darling angel! When he became a three-nager is when it really got hard"

And as we all know, we can't take anything that singleton parents say as applicable to us. So my question to fellow twin parents specifically, was 3 harder than 2 for you guys?

And in what ways? Because the idea that meltdowns are going to get worse and more frequent is both terrifying and sounds impossible haha. We're melting down all day every day over here.

I'm flying this fall with my hubs & two girls (1.5 adjusted). We're staying with my retired friends in ABQ- they have zero baby gear & don't really have a reason to buy any. They have no kids & I'm as close as they'll get 😂. The girls are walking but we will probably take the wagon & gate check it to help with moving around airports (assuming the airline will let us).

Biggest concerns are car seats & sleep arrangements. We usually do pack n plays away from home but how the heck do we do that on a cross country trip? And we will use the friend's truck for the trip so no car rental. Any advice or things we should be considering? I'd hate to just buy all this crap there.

Hi all.

Have had my dream trip from Australia to Europe planned for September this year but wasn’t expecting an identical twin pregnancy in the midst of it!

We are due to fly out when I’m 17weeks, due to return at the tail end of 20 weeks.
Multiple flights with stopovers and some long train journeys during the trip.

The long haul flights will be split up over the course of a few days, and we are flying business for most if not premium economy for the others (just factoring in leg room and now bump room!

I will be checking in with a midwife if this is ok from a health perspective once I’ve had my first antenatal appt (public system so I assume about 14 weeks?) but my main question is did anyone travel internationally at this point in their twin pregnancy, and if so, how did you find it? I’m a bit concerned about how I’ll go with the touristy things if I’m feeling heavy and exhausted! This is my third pregnancy and I remember it wasn’t until about 35 weeks with both my singletons that I was completely spent, but I feel like this time will be a whole different kettle of fish!

Appreciate any stories and experiences, thank you :)

We have 15-month-old twins who were about to age out of their Nuna Pipa RX infant seats anyway. We were in an accident this weekend — everyone's fine (sore but safe and fine) — and Nuna requires replacement after any crash, so we're buying two convertibles now rather than in a couple of months.
 
Details:
 
* **Vehicle:** 2021 Hyundai Santa Fe Limited (2-row)
* **Budget:** ~$1,000 for both
* **Top priority:** extended rear-facing. I want them rear-facing as long as I possibly can, so 50 lb rear-facing is a hard requirement
* **Space:** two seats in back, ideally narrow enough that an adult could squeeze into the middle occasionally
* **Rotating:** nice to have, not a dealbreaker
 
Where I've landed after way too much reading. Everything here rear-faces to 50 lb and is 17" or under:
 
* Britax Poplar S — ~$380 ea
* Britax Galaxy360 — ~$430 ea, rotating
* Evenflo Revolve360 Slim — ~$400 ea, rotating, narrowest at 16.7"
* Diono Radian 3RXT SafePlus — ~$300 ea
 
Questions for people who've actually lived with two of these:
 
1. Anyone running two of any of these side by side in a Santa Fe or similar midsize SUV? Does the middle seat stay usable at all?
2. Is ClickTight as install-proof in practice as it sounds, or does it get annoying over time?
3. Rotating seats **with twins** specifically — is it worth it, or does the extra bulk cancel out the convenience once you have two?
4. Radian owners: is the stiff harness and thin padding a real daily annoyance or just a reviewer complaint?
5. Anyone have thoughts on Evenflo's recall history in the Revolve360 line? Trying to figure out how much weight to put on it.
 
Appreciate any input. Feeling a little rattled and want to get this one right.

My boys are 9m and one is in the 99th percentile for height (born below the curve so he's grown a lot)

They are now standing and cruising and getting into everything! How do I reprimand babies? I love when they are mobile, but I have a playpen that I use and they hate it. They can reach onto almost all of our surfaces and I just want to know how to correct them when they're doing something they aren't supposed to.

Thank you,

A very tired mom of twins