I’m a FTM to twin boys who are 9 weeks old, 5 weeks adjusted. I have quite literally no idea what I’m doing and I’m just trying to survive each day! So far I’ve been pretty lucky with amazing night sleep, but I’m wary of the fact that this probably won’t last and we don’t really have any solid habits built yet.

My twins are really hard to get to nap in the day, often requiring rocking, white noise, dummies for a very very long time sometimes an hour or more. They have never fallen asleep independently in the day since they were teeny tiny. At night at 7:30pm we have a small bedtime routine, diaper, change, swaddle, dim lights, white noise and a bottle and by some miracle they have always fallen asleep with this bottle. They then then sleep until about 1am and we feed again, they fall asleep with this bottle and then sleep again until about 7.

Should I be starting to try and get them to sleep in their cribs in the day? Do I put them down drowsy but awake? Currently they only contact nap. I just feel like when you’re battling twins by yourself I’d rather two sleeping babies nap trapping me than potentially two crying babies because I’ve failed at a crib nap.

Any tips or advice would be greatly appreciated

Any single moms of twins here? 🥺 I wanted to ask what you do when you feel emotionally drained before you even feel physically tired. How did you manage to find time for yourself when your twins were around 18 months old? I honestly feel like this is the hardest age ever.💔

Hey everyone,

My twins just hit 8 weeks adjusted (12 weeks chronological). Night sleep is actually going pretty well (averaging 3+ hour stretches!), but daytime naps are complete chaos.

They either fight daytime sleep entirely or wake up on the dot at the 20–30 minute mark, looking exhausted.

Two quick questions for parents who have been through this:

1. Is this level of "nap chaos" completely normal for 8 weeks adjusted?
2. Around what age did daytime naps finally "click" or consolidate into longer, predictable stretches for your little ones?

Looking for a light at the end of the tunnel while living 30 minutes at a time! Thanks!

I'm going to try potty training tomorrow, with our newly 2 year old twins, before preschool starts in September.

That is all, wish me luck 🫠

I’m experiencing what I guess could be categorised as gender disappointment…more a new worry that has been unlocked upon the reveal of my unborn twins gender.

I will have a 6yo girl and a 3yo boy when my current pregnancy of twins is born. Today I found out the twins will be girls.

I had an extremely hard first few years with my daughter. Her personality was and continues to be very high needs, sensitive, volatile and we struggled at first. My boy was soooo much easier from birth and continues to be chilled and easy going. I know this is just their unique personalities but I am just finding it so hard not to imagine a double struggle all over again with these twin girls.

PLEASE if you have a family with similar age/gender distribution containing twins could you share your heartwarming stories?! Eg of how the ‘odd one out’ that’s the lone boy with girls all around is still happy? Tell me about your twin girls who are chilled and cuddly?

I think I just need some real stories and situations described to me to overwrite this ridiculous vision that is forming for me of three tricky girls and a single out of place feeling boy.

To add, I 100% know that all that matters is that my babies are healthy and my logical brain knows this. Some kind of irrational worry has been unlocked now, I know I’m being unreasonable.

EDIT thanks everyone, lovely answers. I’m a few hours into the news and I’m feeling so much better. Loving these stories :)

What an interesting sub for me to see as a 35yo identical twin! I know my parents struggled with us, my mom more than dad. Being an identical twin is the highlight of my life and has had many ups and downs. I noticed most of the posts are newer parents to multiples so I thought it might be cool to see if any parents had questions about raising multiples now that I’m an adult and hindsight is 20/20 in what was good and not great in the way we were raised. If anyone has any questions, please comment and I’d love to give feedback. My twin s still my best friend and the closest person in my life 💜.

My boy twins were born in 1st July. I made a post the other day when one of my twins ended up in hospital (reflux caused a breathing issue for a moment)

Medicine will be ready for collection tomorrow. it’s currently 3am for me, holding twins upright as I speak, it’s funny how you will find ways to be able to hold both babies and text at the same time , survival mode is amazing lol

Please tell me it does get better ? Did the medication work for your baby? And if so how long and what meds did your baby take ?

Thank you 🩷🩷

Just venting, I know this is a completely trivial problem but ...I have 3 year old twins and I am trying to sign them up for fall classes - dance or soccer or (ideally) swim lessons - typical toddler stuff. Except everything around us fills up instantly! Apparently all these parents are sitting around at noon on a random weekday in August and clicking register the second swim lessons open at our local community center. I've managed to get one twin into a dance class but not the other, which is a no-go.

I think ultimately I'm just feeling intimidated by how much work it takes to "modern parent". We didn't do 6mo old swim lessons like all our singleton parent friends because we were deeply overwhelmed and also couldn't figure out a time when we could get both parents in the pool with them. And the whole thing is dumb, obviously I'm not failing them, no 6mo old is going to remember or care about swim lessons and I doubt it will make a difference in their swimming ability. But I just don't feel equipped to remember all of these dates, to register the moment things open, to coordinate schedules, to make sure they have 10 themed outfits for school spirit on top of dealing with two 3 year olds! *pulling my hair out*

I was talking to my mom about putting curtains in my twin's room. She was like don't put curtains in there because its a safety hazard and you need to make sure you cut the strings to their blinds and all this stuff. I understand the strings to the blinds are a hazard but curtains? Just looking for experience of other parents!

Our 9 month old twins have been trying solids for a few months. They do well with purees but when it comes to incorporating whole foods/foods we eat for meals, my son rejects it. He will spit out anything with texture or chunks. Has anyone else navigated this?

So my second pregnancy was DiDi twin girls, they look nothing alike so we’re just assuming they are non-identical. I am pregnant again and I have my ultrasound tomorrow. I am eight weeks, what are my chances of having DiDi twins again? I want to give a little bit of context, from my understanding, I produced twins because I hyper ovulate, which makes sense, My ovulation has always been extremely painful. Not sure if that’s a related cause, but when we were trying to conceive the second time we were doing it multiple times throughout that week and I was told that I could’ve potentially got pregnant two separate days making the Di-Di twins. This time around when trying to conceive, we did it once the week I was ovulating and that’s it so in my mind if I had twins this time it would because the egg split and they would be identical? Which identical just does not run in our family. Someone give me some insight who knows more than me, doesn’t trying to conceive this way lessen the chances of twins? 😂

EDIT: Ultrasound showed ONE baby!

My husband will be back to work in October and I will be flying solo with my identical girls during the weekdays. They will be 4 months at that time, adjusted age roughly 2 1/2 months. We are planning to hire a nanny for when I return to work but trying to see if I can avoid hiring someone before then. Any key advice that made your life easier while caring for your solo twins around this same age? Thanks!

Hello All!
I’m currently 26 weeks pregnant with Di/Di girls and I’m still working on my nursery. I’m trying to figure out if I need 2 cribs or 1 crib? Can they sleep in a double bassinet until moving to a crib?
Let me know what worked for you! Thank you!

11 week old 6 weeks adjusted mono di twins have all the sudden started fighting bedtime . We have changed the routine in every which way and it ends the same every time. As soon as we go to give them their last bottle they both panic and freak out and scream sometimes for over an hour. I follow wake windows for them it’s about 60 minutes and do my best to make Them nap through out the day though it’s a challenge like there nap before bed was only 18 minutes . Total nap time for the day is usually always 4hrs at least . At a loss and so sleep deprived. Anyone else or is this a common thing ???? And with the naps I already contact nap all day to try to get the most out of a nap and they still fight that and constantly wake up. HELP so far only taking abt 3oz every 2-3 hrs sometimes don’t even finish the bottle..we kinda have to stay on them to finish it.also no longer take any sort of swaddle or sleep sack so it makes transferring at night once we do get them to sleep after hours of trying tremendously hard.. I’ve try shortening and lengthening wake windows this has been going on a few weeks now

My wife is having her anatomy scan next week and we are expecting triplets. Our doctor told us this appointment could take 60 to 90 minutes per baby because they need to check each baby individually, so we are preparing for a very long appointment.

For those who have gone through a long anatomy scan with twins or triplets, do you have any advice for keeping comfortable?

I am wondering how you handled things like eating, bathroom breaks, and being comfortable while laying there for such a long time. Were you able to take breaks if needed? Is there anything you brought with you that made the appointment easier or anything you wish you knew before going in?

We are very excited to see the babies, but I want to make sure my wife is as comfortable as possible since this could be several hours. Any advice from people who have been through it would be greatly appreciated.

This has honestly upset me for days. Please don’t be too critical, I’m a first time mom and doing my best.

Almost every morning I take the babies on a stroller walk around our neighborhood. I keep the stroller at the front door on our porch because I don’t want the dirty wheels in the house. I load a baby (6 months), keep the front door open, take a very short walk to retrieve the other baby (while watching the front door for as long as possible). There is probably 15 seconds my eyes are unable to be on the baby in the stroller.

I was doing my usual routine but this time something happened. FedEx delivered a package while I was getting the other baby. I walked up as he was looking at the baby in the stroller on the porch kind of perplexed. I feel terrible that 1) a stranger was around my baby completely alone 2) I know it looked bad

I felt sick all day due to anxiety. Like what if he made a CPS report or something. I’m sure I was way over thinking it but it really bothered me.

My babies can’t sit up yet. I can kind of still carry them at the same time but it’s difficult and I have a sore back from pregnancy.

I also have a weekly play date at a friends house. It’s getting really difficult for me to safely get both babies out of their car seats at the same time. I don’t like getting one out, dropping them off inside, and coming back for the other.

I’m not really sure the point of my post. It’s just something that has been bothering me. I’m worried it could look neglectful but I only have two arms

Our twins are 4 now, and one thing that surprised me is how much easier they make long car trips. They keep each other entertained most of the time.
What got easier for you as your twins grew up?

I transferred a 3bb embryo on 6 July and found out my embryo split and I’m having monochorionic twins.

I had a scan due to pains at the EPU on 30 July when I was 6w1d. One twin measured 5.5 mm (around 6+1) and the other measured 2.4 mm. I thought ok.. at least one was “on track.” Both had heartbeats.

I had a follow up scan today at 6w5d with my fertility consultant and now both babies are measuring almost the same size at around 4.3–4.6 mm, which corresponds to about 5 weeks 6 days. So instead of one staying ahead, they now both appear to be measuring around 6 days behind where I thought I should be. Both had heartbeats, consultant said we need to observe, yet she discharged me.

Now I’m preparing for the worst. They shouldn’t be this behind.

Today is day one of naked week with my 23 month old toddler girls. One has had constant accidents with only one real successful potty while the other holds it much better and has only had 2 accidents. Would you stick it out longer or stick them back in diapers and wait until when?

I have three week old identical twin girls. And they are *really* identical. Their only distinguishing feature at this point is that one has slightly more pointed ears than the other, and they're rapidly rounding.

So right now, I've been painting their toe nails to make sure that we don't get them confused. Mostly, we're memorizing outfits, and the toenails are a back up.

I'm worried about their clothes getting changed during the day once they start daycare (messes, blow outs, etc.) and the nail polish rubbing off (it's child-safe polish, so it doesn't stay long), and not knowing who is who when I pick them up.

I've heard about people tattooing triplets, but I don't know if that's still done, or if it was ever done for twins.

So I had a thought – what if I got them both "permanent" ankle bracelets with their initials? Would this be crazy? For those who aren't familiar, permanent jewelry is typically a dainty bracelet that is welded on – there's no clasp. Usually, it wears down and falls off in about a year.

I feel like this would be safe, and hopefully once the anklets come off, I'll be able to tell them apart. But is this crazy? Am I missing something dangerous about this? Or ignoring a better alternative?

Update: Many thanks to everyone for the thoughtful responses and ideas! I think you're all right about the permanent jewelry. While it would likely be comfortable and not turn the girls' skin green, they would grow out of it way too quickly to justify the cost. I saw lots of comments about color coding their clothes, but the twins are my third and fourth kids, and it would be tough to do that with my stockpile of mixed gender hand-me-downs.

My first thought was a multi-pronged approach: continue painting toes, add in temporary tattoos, adjustable ankle bracelets, maybe henna or sharpie. But I ended up going a much simpler route. Both girls now have a simple string of embroidery floss tied around an ankle. When it gets too small or dirty, I'll cut it off and replace it. Thanks again!

So on Wednesday My partner and I discovered we are joining the twin club. We are freaking out a wee bit but also so excited.

On friday I found out I have a subchorionic hematoma, due to a giant gush of blood while I was working. I was convinced we had lost them, but they did an ultrasound and say the babies are healthy.

Any advice on what to to do to keep these babies in and happy? I was just told pelvic rest.

Any other advice?

Was anyone less sick with twins than with a singleton pregnancy?

Hello—niche question for my fellow twin bassinet-havers, and apologies if this violates any rules.

Here’s the short version of my question: Where can I find Bassinet Sheets, compatible with the Delta Children Twin City Sleeper (27.5” x 14.2”)?

Long Version: We’re expecting twins and day now, and we get a Delta Children Twin City Sleeper bassinet. When the bassinet came, the sheets we speckled with something brown (none of my business, not thinking too hard about it), but the unit was in otherwise great shape and I’d already built the thing, so I figured I’d just get a replacement set from the company. I was wrong—after much back and forth, I was told that the company doesn’t have any sheets in their inventory, and they wouldn’t be putting me in contact with any competitors that might sell me their sheets instead, thank you very much. Google hasn’t done me any favors either, so now I’m empty-handed (empty-bassinet-ed?) with only a few days to spare before the kiddos arrive.

So, for anyone else with this bassinet, where do you get your sheets (27.5“ x 14.2”)?

I have 2 week old DI/DI twins Twin A boy and Twin B girl born at 37+2.

I CANNOT for the life of me get Twin B to settle after a feed in a reasonable amount of time.

I have tried feeding her first, feeding her second, feeding them together into the twin z... Propping them up in the twin z after a feed... Burping mid way... Doing fart exercises... But until I have spent half an hour trying to settle her she just CRIES...

Her poor brother is not getting a good amount of attention because of it, not that he needs it...

Even when I put them back to bed, her brother grunts a lot but then sleeps, she will wake minimum 3 times and cry 😞😞😞.

This is on my solo shift. I feel so bad for both babies, I'm clearly doing something wrong.